My bf had a previous relationship before me and had two children together. He married this woman and 7yrs later, he divorced her. The judge granted him anullment since the ex wife was still married the time they got married. Their been annulled now for 5yrs. Though, his family in Jamaica didn't know their married was annulled. Yet, this woman kept posting pictures that they're still together and his family liking it. This woman sent me messages why she had to pretend they still together for everyone else to see. In her messages, she mentioned that she already have a bf and pregnant but had a miscarriage recently. However, her excuses still doesn't make sense. I can't bear seing and knowing my bf's family have been played by his ex all this time. His family thinks she's the best daughter in law. They didn't know that she's been cheating on him all the years they been together and kept multiple account on a dating and hook up websites. Should I go tell his sister about it..

I ve been married for less than a year and no children yet. My husband can actually support me, but I d rather find a job as a medical assistant, just in case he decides to leave me. Plus, the extra income is nice. On the other hand, he thinks if I don t get a job in the field, then I should let it go and do nothing. I d rather not let my dream go, and after all, I worked hard to earn that degree. I don t think I m in the wrong though. I know jobs come and go, but marriages aren t a guarantee, either. And I m thinking hard about moving if I can get a job doing medical assisting somewhere else.

My boyfriend lives with me. He does not have a place of his own. He used to stay over his mom. My mom is a very strict person so she has a problem with him staying over my place. So i told her he stays on weekends only. But i know she is aware that he lives with me because her sister lives near me. My older sister on my father's side is coming to see me for 2 days. She is coming from overseas and i do not want her to tell my mom that he stays here on a daily basis. Because my mom will be disappointed and a lot of other things may ensue from it. So i asked him to go back to his mom's house for those two days since my sister is coming with her teenage daughter and i don't know where they will be staying. My family is very old fashioned and this might get me in trouble. I told him that last week he did not say anything about it. This week i reminded him of it and he tells me i kick him out everytime a family member comes around. I only tell him to go back when my mom comes around. And since my sister is in her 40s i can't have the 4 of us all in the same apartment. It is not a good look. Now he tells me that even his family says that it does not make sense how he gets kicked out everytime. Do you think i am wrong for telling him to go. He is now telling me he will be moving at his new place earlier and stop seeing me just bexause of that

I been married with the same women for 7, years ibeen having so many problems with her and I been working my *** alot and she cheated on me the first time was. With a friend the second was because I work night a day and that she decided it was in but it was with her ex bf who she been talking gto and when she cheated I been talking to other girls and well I know not support to but I can't stop thinking king about what she did. She said she wants to work this kgs out and make this happen the right way she says she won't cheat mmmm she tells me to forget it about it like never happen it happen two years a go and I don't know what todooo I need advise from u who ever. Tells me She says to forget it and get married bye church And I dit know can I really forget this vec of this we been having soo. Many problems alot fighti g and she treats like **** too alot soo don't know what to do leave her or stay with her icant stop about it what she did Who when trough this and what u end up doing Have three kids in play

I married at 21 and after 4 years of squabbling and trying to get my wife to at least meet me 10 percent of the way, she told me she just didn't want to work it out, got herself a new boyfriend, and filed for divorce. I started dating someone else 6 months later, but shortly afterwards she pulled a Houdini and by that time, I was pretty much used to people disappearing from my life, so I said hell with love and romance, enrolled into a college, and have been actively studying ever since then. I've noticed that in the 5 years I've been single, I have had genuinely no interest whatsoever in becoming involved with anyone. Without a doubt, I've met girls in college, but if I feel that they are getting too close for comfort, or if they start inviting me on outings where it's supposed to be just for two--no deal. I tried to be a good sport and go on one date, and I recalled her asking me during the date "Do you have some place you need to be? You keep looking at your watch." I'm not sure if I'll feel this way the rest of my life (especially at age 30), it's like being married and divorced takes you through a whole book, and there is nothing left. Is it normal to not want to date or be romantic anymore after a divorce?

I am married to this gorgeous lady that I'm very attracted to. I just find her very sexy but it seems like my compliments are not enough that she keeps asking me if she looks okay every waking minute. She has a very pretty face and has a medium built. However, I may have made some dumb comments about her having big legs. She does have big legs but she looks fine. Then she started asking me if she's skinny. I, being very sarcastic finally told her yes! However, she got very offended and told me that her ex-boyfriends appreciated her huge legs and called her super sexy. Then, she threw the word divorce at me saying I'm such a jerk. I was dumbfounded by this. We made up and no divorce papers were filed. However, how do I deal with this? I love her. I dislike that she has body issues and that she asks me about her looks all the time. Thoughts?

So we were texting and I started ranting about my husband. We've been married for 14 years and this is just normal. Since I was really mad, I told my friend that I just wanted out. She was considerate and apologized for the situation I was in. She came over the next day to accompany me and my kids. However, the same day, she came over at about the time my husband comes home. She's all dressed up and nervously said Hi to him. I didn't think much of it until the next day. She came over unannounced... About the same timey husband comes home. She was bringing some food for us. I thought it was odd because she didn't text. We planned on a night out and she agreed to pick me up. She is often in sweats or wearing casual outfits when we get together. However, she is dressed up again and I felt embarassed for my outfit. I have a gut feeling she's dressing up for my husband. Because the minute I told her it was just a spur of the moment thing, she stopped coming over. She flirted with my husband before and I sense that she likes him. Is my gut feeling right?

Lady doctor ligated my wife without my permission... She destroyed our next generation... She is responsible for my wife health... My wife is depressed and feeling feats ...weight gain...belley size increasing rapidly .... Are these not facts!!! Regards SHAHID Pasrur

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I am "above" a lot of things. I may not really be ACTUALLY above it, but I feel I am. I have always been this way. I was "above" homework because I already knew the stuff they were quizzing me on. I was "above" doing group work because I wanted to work alone. I was "above" following stupid rules because I didn't believe in rules that didn't make sense to me. I am "above" Christianity because I don't believe in fairy tales. I am "above" politics since I realize that human governance is really just a belief (we are all free to do whatever we want, we just CHOOSE to conform to people please and protect each other). I am "above" television because I feel that television shows are really just pushing ideas/beliefs/agendas and I want to be in control of me and my life. I am "above" working class people because I am too smart to put my life in danger with working class jobs just so I can have a "high paying job". I am even "above" college education because I believe anything that I could learn in the classroom I could learn at home through dedicated research and time investment. I am, by definition, a snob. In many ways, my wife is a snob too. We agree on a lot, but sometimes our arguments are a snob fight of who is MORE above it... In some rare occasions though, my wife will accept that she is "at level" with something and now I will feel like I am "above" her. How might this affect my marriage. Is it worth becoming more humble and "below" my standards? Being pro social only leads to becoming mainstream. Mainstream constantly has a culling, and I don't want to be caught up in that. Neither does my wife. If antisocial behaviour is bad then we are bad people and proud of it. But how does snobbery affect the marriage itself? Are we truly living better than other people since we are choosing to be above the culture and the abuse? Or are we just lying to ourselves and selfish jerks? By the way, just because someone believes they are above the law doesn't mean they are going to break laws. They just believe they can buy out the law, celebrities do it all the time. I have too. And Christianity is now law, it's just an excuse to be selfless and tricks people into free labor. Typo on my phone --- Christianity is NOT law. It helped us get where we are today, but with 7 billion people in the world, Christianity can no longer be depended on. We need other fairy tales to help us control the masses. Laws and government can do it. But a better source of governance is just educating everyone. Only stupid people do stupid things.

So several months ago, I found out one of my husbands co-workers had communicated with him via his personal email in attempts of trying to help him pass an exam and get higher certification. I was upset that I wasn't aware of this prior, had never heard of this woman and felt betrayed. Long story short, I had a conversation with her and she cleared the whole thing up, with proof...and so forth. I was somewhat embarrassed, but she understood and was very professional. One thing about the situation was that my husband lied and said that she DID NOT work onsite, was only a contract worker and he didnt see her often. She actually works IN THE BUILDING and told me she sees him several times a week, since he is one of the security guards there and she is an employee. She suggested that the lie probably was to keep me from worrying and thinking more of the situation. My husband says that the little lies are unimportant in this situation and the main thing is that NOT FUNNY WAS GOING ON and why can't I get past it. I actually don't think anything was going on, but for some reason that lie just wont go away. If I lied to him (in any way) I'd have a hard time sleeping. Literally, i'd have to come clean! I know I overreact, and am overly emotional, but lying is LYING. What reasoning do I use to process this and let it go? I dont think he's done anything regarding this women, but I need to hear in words why he would lie if nothing was going on.

If so, how do you cope?

My wife is always mad at me for something! Either I didn't bring her flowers ( I never did because I don't really like flowers) or she always assume that i am cheating on her. I have 3 jobs I work 13 hours a day except Saturday and Friday where i work only 6-8 hours, I love my wife. But since I got those 3 jobs I have been so tired coming home at the end of the day and on top my wife complains about how I don't talk to her! or how I am not romantic with her, and such, but she doesn't understand that I work really hard and i get tired to have a conversation when I come home at 11 PM! and whenever I take a nap during the day like 2 hours nap she jumps into the bed and starts talking to me while i am trying to sleep! like I wanna sleep i get so tired but she doesn't understand that! I asked her if she does it on purpose and she denied it! she said no she WANTS ME TO SLEEP!!!! Like i am so tired, Sometimes I take the blame for stuff that I didn't do and I say like i am sorry or sometimes i just keep quit but we end up having a fight every freaking day If I have a great day there is always something there to mess the whole day up and my wife either yells at me or won't speak to me. There is almost no intimacy either. She uses sex as if it is a privilege given by her. And she says all I want is sex. What should I do? I can't be with someone else but her I love her so much and I will never see my self with a person without her but she doesn't understand this!

My husband's friend is on a visit here for vacation. He is from other city. He is unmarried. He is living with us. He is very sexy and very muscular. He flirts with me a lot and i enjoy his talks. My husband comes late. He is very funny and makes me laugh. So a week ago. He told me i have a hot body and he finds me very attractive. I said whats so hot in my body ? He told me without any hesitation, my bo*bs. I was amazed and he kissed my lips. I didnt object and kissed him in return. My husband doesnt have sex with me since 4 months so i was horny. He undressed me and we made passionate love till evening and i had many orgasms. He is big and made me enjoy every moment. We are having sex since 1 week daily. Should i continue having sex with him ? He has a lot bigger pen*s and is very energetic. I love being with this guy.

My husband of 5 years and I were separated last year. During that time he started coaching his niece's travel softball team. It became an issue while we were trying to get back together because of how much time and energy it requires. When it ended for the season he agreed that we would talk about if he would coach when the next season began. A couple months passed and our marriage was going great! When travel ball came back around,however, I had no say so about him coaching. Since then it has been up and down. I've attended many of the weekend long tournaments. Tried to be supportive, but I don't think I can do it anymore. I've asked him to cut back a bit, such as only one practice a week instead of two. And maybe a tournament every other weekend instead of every weekend. He doesn't though. I hardly ever see him and when I do he is soooo exhaused. He comes home, gets on the couch and falls asleep. We have a 5 year old daughter, I forgot to mention. He spends more time with those teenage girls than with his own daughter (who started playing t-ball). I'm jealous, angry, and see no end in sight. He says that I'm thinking about this wrong. He says that he is helping mentor these girls....and acts like I'm over reacting. Am I over reacting? What do you think about this situation?

My wife and I both try to control each other. It's just what we do. We both had very controlling parents and I guess we just brought this into our marriage. And when one of us acts on our own free-will we nag, harass, and control the other person until they go back to the way WE want them to be. This honestly is how 14 years living together has worked out; we keep each other in check to make sure that they don't change. This obviously has negative implications - we essentially are stuck in the same status quo because of the fear that if we change then we are going to piss off the other person and get nagged back to what the other person was comfortable with... So when you have two people trying SO HARD to keep the other person "in line", you have a strong marriage but you have very week individualism. And I think that if we didn't have this tight grasp on EACH OTHER (it's not just me) then we might fall apart because we aren't that similar at all (we bond at a moral and intellectual level; not a sexual or emotional level). But that's what this question is about, testing this theory. Any suggestions? Sadly, being so meshed together has it's implications. If one person is unhappy, it affects the other person's happiness since you move as a single unit and not two people with separate lives. And when both people are unhappy, you can't have one person cheer the other up like a relationship where both people are individuals.... How to detangle this? My marriage goes like this: Wife has a bad day at work. She brings it home with us on our ride home. Her mood helps gauge my mood because if I'm excited she doesn't get excited so I have to take her depressed mood. With us both depressed we will compulse to fix the problem by being a couch potato or binge eating but then we get sad about our bad choices. In the end, the only thing that fixes this is sleep. So she ruins my mood because her depression dictates our day... Help!

My husband had Aspergers, is a bit narcissistic and misogynistic. How the hell do I live with him? He refuses to believe that anything is wrong with him, thus refuses to try any treatment for the Aspergers, or therapy or whatever because I know Aspergers doesn't go away, but can be helped. Everything is my fault apparently.. We have 3 kids whom he's still neglected bonding with, they are 5,7, and 9. He works most of the day, then plaid video games all night until kids go to bed.. Then he goes to bed.

We are both separated. We used to see each other 18 years ago and recently reunited. We slept together and I promised to be there for her only to disappear on her. She sent me numerous texts on why I was ignoring her and I never responded. She even wished me a happy Father s day and I didn t respond. She has since stopped texting and even moved back to her country without saying anything to me. What should I do? Was I wrong to tell her I loved her then ignore her for 3 months? How do I get her back now that she s moved abroad?

Hi Iam Priya, with a fair complexion & studied at Mumbai currently residing at chennai. after marriage & iam from a background where i used to go out for parties with my husband who is always busy with his work once i was introduced with gigolo named Honey (honeywell619@gmail.com) during March 2015, i was introduced to Honey by my best friend Sharmila who used to have fun & sex with him, fair & well educated spoken guys , she gave me his email id & contacted him. He told me that he was in Banaglore & told me that he would come down to chennai - besant nagar beach on a weekend & will introduce first & can proceed only if i like him. So first i had no guts to go ahead & while my friend gave me a confidence that Bobby would be confidential and average lookiing guy. i have decided to proceed further. I was waiting at besant Nagar & he came down in a auto & After we got introduced, so we had take our car from Besant Nagar & we parked in it at a lonely place & we had real sex . later on i was really addicted to him we have decided to meet up often at Chennai & when my husband was away.But iam sure that my husband who is not interested in me has a secret lover & he used to hang out with her colleagues during his foreign trip .My husband who is always busy on his mobile, doesnt even bothered to look at me & sometimes i find women sending him weird messages just like the teenage does. If a man has his right why cant a female has her own freedom to go behind a secret one??

My separated wife of 10 months ago she left me. I bought my house 12 years ago and it's in my name only. She moved to an apartment. I've done nothing but try to reconcile with her and change my ways but she's very indecisive. We see each other but aside from kisses and hugs that's all I can get from her. She never calls me unless she needs something so I called her last night and she said she met a guy at her work she is going out. I have always been the type where I could care less when we were together as my girlfriend or wife she can go out with guys and I trust her. But now it feels different as she's not living with me. I expressed my displeasure and said I am not comfortable. She said it's not really a date just having dinner and that's it and going home. I told her whatever but if I hear it gets serious on any level I would take legal action against her. I should be able to sue her as she does not have my permission then I would have to get a divorce.

My parents want to set an arranged marriage for me.but I don't like arranged marriages.So I told them That " I'll never get any responsibility about my marriage or that Girl im going to marry" Because It's their choice but not mine.. So my parents gone very angry with me and argue with me then ultimately cancelled the arranged marriage agreement. I feel i'm victorious here but feeling little guilty about my parents.So Is there anything wrong what I did.. ? Because this is my life my choices and my rules as I believe

This is an actual scenerio that happened. My husband's best friend's sister messaged him on Facebook not too long ago. They chitchatted for a few minutes, then she says, "Too bad you're married, cuz you're missing out on these black lace panties." WTF? My husband was like, wtf, too. He showed me the convo and where he told her he wasn't missing out on anything because his wife has some nice black lace panties. lol It seems to happen a lot, though. Women, who know he's married, seem to be coming out of the woodwork and hitting on him. Why do some women think it's acceptable to flirt with and temp married men? (And yes I know it can go the other way....men flirting with married women) There was a typo in the last question I posted, so I had to repost. OCD sucks. lol

Me and my wife are 25 and 24 respectively: we've been married 2 years already and we really want to start a family. After mentioning the prospect of children to my parents, they told me that maybe we should wait a while and enjoy married life because you don't want to do everything too early. Have they got a point? We do want to have children and we're excited about the prospect of parenthood but my parents do have quite a valid point. What should i do? Is it too early to start thinking about having kids or should we go for it?

Husband works full time and is a devoted family man in all ways- but no- he is not perfect. He happens to have a hobby as a musician and a runner. His wife is not against him doing these things but refuses to go to any of his shows- and won't come to any running events= such as races to cheer him on. He is also honored for his work in the community- and she won't attend the award ceremonies. What is the story with this in your opinion- How would you feel if you were the husband.

Hey all Im just seeking some guidance because I'm not sure whats normal, and what is unacceptable. When my husband and I fight, he often storms out and drives away, not coming back all night. I don't have a car so I am left feeling junky and crying at home. He leaves and 'goes to his parents house' about 20 min away where he stays the night. This happens pretty often, 2 or 3 times a month. When he packs up and heads out I usually chase after him and plead with him not to leave, I usually hastily try to make amends even if they're not mine to make just so he doesn't leave.. *sigh* I have told him this is unacceptable and I won't stand for it.. He has promised to stop but I see he hasn't taken that seriously. In the very beginning of our relationship, I caught him deleting texts and cheating. Since we have been married (not even a year!) I surprised him early from work and caught him touching himself to some bikini girls on his phone... I forgave him and trust him when he says I am the most gorgeous woman to him, and he'll never do these things again.. Yet we don't have enough trust at this time to pull these overnighters. It drives me crazy! Tomorrow is his birthday and family dinner but I don't feel like showing up! Yuck! I see a lot of the answers are about his masterbating to other women. I understand men do this and this is the least of my worries.. just something he said he never did which made me feel lied to when i found out. If you're not married, please do not answer this post. I see marriage as a commitment to work things out rather than run away to our parents house. I am 27 and he is 35 and Im tired of being the only one keeping promises, lowering my ego and fighting to work it out in an argument.

Let me please start out by saying rude answers are NOT welcome and will be reported. My wife wanted to save herself for, marriage and I respected that. So, we did not have sex before marriage. However, we are 3 months into our marriage and still have not had sex because she was raped and molested when she was younger. Now, she has a fear when it comes to sex (she didn't know this problem would arise because she never came close to having sex before marriage) It's difficult to see her so afraid when I'm just trying to express my love to her. I know sex is not the only way to show love. I do a lot for her to show her I care that are non-physical. However, if she is ok with it, I rub her feet, massage, her, or hold her. How can we move past this? Some of our friends recommended therapy. How do they address a fear of sexual relations therapeutically? What else can I do to help...this is not just a question about counseling?

I sometimes try to control my husband. Mostly want his attention, we are married for 5 months, he is working full time and we live in abroad since we got married. I have no friends and I am looking for a job. These are not excuses, I was this way before also, but maybe not this much. So, as soon as my husband comes home, I want his attention, sometimes I want to chat via whatsapp while he is at work, and he doesn't want to talk that much, he says he doesn't want me to interrupt. Also sometimes he wants his space to watch his things, to relax when he comes home, which is normal. But when it comes to real life, I want to talk, hug, kiss, have dinner, want him to be romantic, go out together - meaning have his attention most of the time. also when we fight, I can't stop talking until we make it up - and he doesn't calm down in a second, he doesn't while I am talking, he wants me to stop talking and give us time. And I can't accept us not talking, especially if its a petty fight, argument. Am I needy? Are these bad for my marriage you think? How can I change my attitude?

I love my husband but my eyes seem to wander quite a bit. I go to the gym and I find these dark Hispanic men to be insanely delicious. Help! I'm 40 years old and I'm having illicit thoughts about guys who are in their 20's.. Most of them are younger than me and some even flirt. Am I normal to have these urges?

Is there any point in getting married at age 36 when the prime of your life has passed and you were able to move on and overcome the pain of not having anyone love for more than 10 years?

We're a Christian couple, now in our early 50's, married for 25 years and our bedroom life was always great, until a few years ago. Now… virtually gone. :( Dancing and making love were a major part of our happiness, but I was hurt at work 2 years ago and put on workers' comp, because of a major back injury. Even though I'm limited with certain body movements and makes it very difficult to dance, it's been proven that I can still perform in the bedroom. I fully understand that some men and women's desires change as we get older and stress makes things worse, but since I got hurt, things have been going down hill way too fast. I've tried talking to her, showing that I still love her by holding, caressing and such. I've even asked about us going to marriage counseling. She actually had the nerve to straight out tell me "If you can't dance, you can't have sex." I'm simply running out of ideas on how to get our love life back and her rejections are tearing my heart out. Any words of wisdom or ideas would be GREATLY appreciated!!!

He came to my house with a big trash bag filled with pot demanded that I give him his guns back because he needs them. He scares me, he has threatened to " bury me " if I do not do as I am told. I do not know what to do or how to deal with this kind of situation.

My baby is almost 14 months old and my hubby still won't have sex with me. We've done it since the baby but rarely. Also we don't kiss anymore. Have only kissed twice the past 13 months. We have sex about once a month, sometimes less. I've tried to talk to him and also tried initiating but to no avail. All he ever says is that he's tired. But I'm the one taking care of the baby and I'm tired too... Wtf? I know it's not my appearance because I look the same still and I have a good body. I was back to a size zero within a month of giving birth. Idk what else to do. Please help me. I can't live like this forever. I get scared he's cheating but idk where he would find time to because he always comes right home after work. What can I do? Why does this happen?

I am married, for 5 months. I am wondering if the marriage will be like now after couple years. I don't mean passion, but the relationship between wife and husband. Is it different after kids? Is it worse or better in years?

He says it's none of my business and I told he could at least text me when he's leaving work to tell me he'll be home an hr late if he can't call. He said it's rude to text in front of ppl and he can't call me while he's walking to his car. I have dinner ready 30 min before he comes home so he won't throw a b**** fit cuz he can't eat after a certain time even though he gets home late after taking her home and doesn't have a problem with eating late. I rushed home this evening from the mall with my mom buying a dress for my grandma's cousin's funeral 2hrs away tomorrow to have his dinner ready. He won't tell me anything about her because he thinks I'll try to contact her on fb and possibly get him fired. We've been married a year this coming sunday and last year after we married I had to put a stop to his ex girlfriend calling and texting him whenever and he had the nerve not to tell her he was married so I Facebook her and told het and she got upset and kept texting him asking why he didn't tell her he was married,so he thinks I'll try to do the same to this girl. If he can't tell me when he'll be home late then I won't be cooking for him anymore.