I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years and I thought I was in love with her. I met this girl a while back and something just happened. We started talking and hanging out and I'm starting to feel things for her I've never felt before. It's come to the point that she's all I think about. I didn't mean for any of this to happen but I know that this isn't something that's going to pass. I want to try to end our relationship right before anything else happens, so how can I do this?

When you find someone to love and you get engaged, then get married, you get to have various celebrations, showers, a wedding, a honeymoon, etc. Most of all, you have the security of having the other person there, the tax breaks, and the bliss of marriage. Is it possible to find bliss when you're single? Do married people see singles' happiness as being just as valid?

Last week my older sister came from overseas. So i told him to go back to his moms place for a day(This is myplace but he helps with groceries and phone and internet bills which are 100$ together. She decided to stay 3 more days so i let him know. I also asked to come say hi to her.He got upset and told me i was selfish, messing up his money for moving. He told me to remburse him 100$ for hotel or he would not come see her. I told him he could come get his money but it was not an obligation to see her. I have a 1 bedroom i cannot fit everyone in. I gave him his money and he came to see her. When she left he came back. I was letting him stay until next sunday when he moves out. I thought we were just mad at each other but he came to tell me to get off his phone plan. The bill was 50$ through his plan. I had to pay 100$ the same day for my own. He has been here and has not even bothered helping out. College started again so i rented a book on amazon. His card was attached so they charged him for it. I intended to pay him back when he comes home but i realized i would be short of money for groceries. So i told him to give me a few days to ask my mother. I already told her but i cannot rush.this morning he asks me for the money.This is 83$. Now i feel like when i repay him i want to tell him to move out now. I have been nice and I Dont even get a proper break up. I even talked to his mom so he could go back to her place but she is mad at him too.

I would like to ensure that whatever I earn and whatever I own stays with me when a relationship is ended. I do not mind spending for my partner, but when either of us feel that it is no longer wise to continue the relationship, I want to make certain that I do not lose financially. On the other hand, I would want to stay with a person I love, but it is not upto me if she will reciprocate the same till I die. The future is uncertain and she has every right to leave me if she chooses to;and when she does, it is not fair if she takes away my home and car, is it? So Which is the better option? Cohabitation or marriage?

My wife of 3 years sure thinks so these days. We went through a financial hard time for a while, and are still in one actually. She tells me that money is more important. I've known her for almost 15 years and she was always very simple and non materialistic. It seems as though times have changed and so has she. I don't know what to do. I love her obviously and I want her to be happy.

he is gone I know that, but he always comes back. People tell me that in about less than a year he is going to come knocking again, but how do I have the strength to keep that door close

Which is better? Give at least 20 reasons why. Be specific, use facts/statistics that you know of, and be creative. Don't just say "more/less freedom." Go more in-depth. Best answer will be awarded accordingly.

according to my husband men don't like to cudle and they don't like to go on dates with there wives. is that true? because I still want to cudle and go on dates but everytime I ask for that from my husband I get a whole lot of "ok but I really don't want to. I just have no interest in it.most men don't. but for you I will" wich I find to be kind of a shitty thing to say. it makes me feel like Im being a **** and pressuring him into something he doesn't want to do. wich im not. I just roll in and say at night when he cant sleep "hey sweety why don't you come cudle with me." and that's his response. every time. so men do you enjoy cuddling with your wife and going on dates with her even if the cuddling and date night doesn't lead to sex? also I should add that im not and never have denied my husband sex. however he doesn't want to have sex with me and im like "ok as long as you cudle with me I will still feel loved." but I get the whole "men don't like cuddling unless its for sex but i will do it for you sentence again. its kind of frustrating. I didn't think I would be in a marrieag with pretty much 0% physical affection. he claims its because he doesn't have the energy for sex anymore but why then cant we just go on dates to ANYWEAR to keep the romance up in our marriage? I cant be in a loveless affectionless marriage. I hate feeling lonely with my husband sitting 5 feet away from me.it sucks.this sucks.do all men feel this way?do cudles and dates eventually get the back burner? do you care that your wife wants cudles? does it bother you? do you feel its a waste of your time to take your wife out on dates? we have been married six years and my body has pretty much stayed the same. i feel like anytime i ask he gets pissy and i get the whole "this again" vibe off of him.is this normal or is my husband falling out of love with me? i love him and i dont want to leave him but i dont want to be lonely either. i have tried to talk about it but he just repeats the same stupid **** over and over again "you girls always want to cudle. guys just dont cudle as much." so if i wait a week or two before asking he says the same ******* thing so even if i dont want to cudle all the time he still acts like its a bother and an anoyance. i try to catch him during times when he isnt doing anything and i always get the same response. why do i have to ask for sex and cudles? why wont he just love me like he used to when we were first married? if he is falling out of love with me i dont want him to feel trapped. but i also dont want to be forced to setle for lonelyness if this is how men always act in all marriages it really sucks. I don't really know what to do.is this just going to keep getting lonelier and lonelier till I leave or die of old age? why doesn't he want to cuddle with me anymore or have sex or take me out on dates?do husbands fall out of love? how do I get things back to the way they were?anytime I try to actively get him into sex I pretty much get denied.im not an ugly woman so I don't really understand. I don't think he is seeing another woman since he takes his son to work with him and comes home at nite I only want to go on dates once a month what is wrong with that?

Originally, my son went to stay with his dad for 6 months. We had a power of attorney. After the 6 months was up, his dad (my ex husband) was raving about how great he was doing there as he had many behavioral issues in the past. Thinking in the best interest of my son, i let him stay there longer. Now, my ex husband refuses to let me fly there to go get him and come home. I just recently learned that he has been moving my son around from place to place, jumping from woman to woman, and leaving him with whoever he feels like so he can go out and do whatever he wants. I was told by his now ex girlfriend, that he has been abusing her, and he mentally abuses my son on a daily basis. He has even asked his dad to let him come home, and he convinces him that he doesnt want to and teases him for being a baby because he wants his "mommy". My son has already been through enough, with him witnessing me being abused myself from him. I believed that he was a changed man, but I was completely wrong. Our parenting plan is extremely vague and does not state exact dates and times that myself or his father would have him. He has been moving him around, and switching schools and not letting me know what school he is in and where he is living. Also, he apparently has not been working because I have not received child support in months. I was told unless I can "prove" that hes been neglectful and that the living situation is not stable, then I cannot do anything.

I have been extremely curious about this. Especially since I have been reading about it via books; and I kind of had a hard time believing that. Thus I would like some sort of verification on this I heard that back in the middle ages, girls got married as early as eighteen years old to girls as young 14 years old. Sometimes even out of love.. I really wish to know if this is true or not! Cause if it is, then did age not really matter back then when it came to marriage? May it have been out of love or not? It wouldn't surprise me if it's true, but still.

I wouldn't wear a lot but what little I did wear I would not let anyone see me without. There was even a situation where I broke my leg and insisted on doing my eyeliner before going to the hospital...well thankfully I got over that when I met my fiance. He was the first guy to show interest in me when I wasnt wearing make up. Even though he told me I was beautiful without make up I continued to wear eyeliner and mascara perhaps the occasional lipstick because I personally like it. However after we got engaged (we have been for a while now) he told me there was no point since he didn't like me wearing it. I told him politely that while I appreciated his opinion I don't wear it for him I wear it for me. He then told me that I am only wearing it because I love when men give me attention and that I was probably hoping someone better than him would come along. He says if I have any respect for him at all I'd stop wearing it. I was going to consider it when I got home from class to find he had thrown my make up bag out! I don't have a lot of make up but what I do buy is expensive. He then told me that it was my fault for not listening to him right off the bat and that now that we are going to be married I don't need to worry about the way I look in anyway like dying my hair, putting makeup, or watching what I eat. What the h*ll? Don't men usually pray that their wives don't "let themselves go" why is he the exact opposite? Does he want other people to find me unattractive?

During spring break of 2009 I left my boyfriend cause he was too childish in my opinion.I liked him,but I didn't consider him a man enough to be serious about anything in life. It surprised me when he enlisted in the marines but we were not in touch at the time and I didn't wanna hear from him. I remember the last time I saw him alive I told him I didn't wanna see him ever again. Less than a year later,he was KIA in Afghanistan,he was just 19.It makes me so sad to think he could've so much life ahead,he was so young,so funny.He was so funny it was weird seeing him so serious in his official marine dress blues picture.Anyway once in a while my friends throw parties in his memory or talk about him. My husband gets so angry everytime there's a party in his memory. This morning I told my husband during breakfast there's gonna be a party in my ex's memory at the end of the week. We live in a small town and my ex was well known in town so the entire town is gonna be out,he told me "YOU CAN'T GO AND HE'S NOT A HERO". I don't talk about my ex 24/7 but I do miss him so much,he made me laugh and died before his time so I'm willing to go,whether my husband likes it or not..Just wanna know an unbiased opinion

last night I woke up and I went downstairs and I saw my daughter holding my gn in her mouth with the safety off and after about 5 minutes she put it down and broke down crying and then we decided to lock her in the closet until the cops could come and take her to a hospital where they can look after her. also she has been cutting for a while now and she might be doing it because she has been saying to me and my wife that she is a man trapped in a girls body and me and my wife just find the prospect of that ridiculous.

My friend in Japan has been married for 15 years and sexless with her husband for 10+ years. Her husband is having "fun" outside with online dates and some professional ladies etc, but she doesn't seem to mind and they look happy. My Chinese friends are married for 20 years and sexless for ages but also happily married. In Asian marriage, people says, if you have kids you can't divorce just because you are no longer "lovers". But I see many European couples split once they lose interest in their spouse romantically & sexually, regardless they have kids or not. I think the marriage values are different from country to country, but would you divorce your spouse if you have to live in a sexless life? Please tell me why and your nationality too (if you don't mind).

I controlled my wife to the point where I would question her about school which she quit because I was stressing her out. I would get upset and accuse her of cheating whenever she was even a second late. One night I made a mistake and hit her. She hit me back and run away and stayed away for months. During that time she had an affair with her ex I'm so angry she did that. We're back together. But I'm so angry. How could she do this to me? God forbids adultery, so she'll go to he'll for that. I will just keep going out as I please and coming home late because of this. What should I do?

For her whole life I've told her that she will be happiest with someone who is white, but she's gone and found a ***** boyfriend who is a nice young fellow but im worried one day he will abandon her with children (a natural trait of the african american race) and also i dont want her to get strange looks from people, and i want my granddaughters to be the perfect little angels they deserve to be, not mixed trash. I've told her I disapprove but she doesn't seem to care, only thinking about herself. I'm not sure how to convince her this is a bad decision for her life..what would you say to her?

If someone cheats on their spouse then leaves them for that person what does that say about them and will their relationships that started in cheating work out?

My marriage has its ups and downs but lately more downs 30 % of me wants to leave my husband for good the other half doesnt and honestly idk if its bc i feel safe or bc i love him My husband is 25 he has had over 26 jobs his entire life and has quit them all so here is the biggest factor in our marriage i dont work bc i raise my son and we only have one car to use and every application ive put in i dont hear back from my husband wont communicate he literally will ignore me wen talking to him or he shuts himself in the bedroom he claims im a crapy parent he tells me to just leave alot marriage counseling is to expensive espically when theres no money coming in i dont want to leave him bc i feel safe as in i wouldnt have to go live with my family and rely on them until work calls my name and also ao they dont judge me i also want to work this out so we can b happy together i dont want to b with another man i just wanna work this out and if i leave and decide to work it out my family will block me from tht i dont want to have to share custody with our child i want to do it together but i find myself saying how much i hate my husband alot hes also tried leaving me for another woman in our past i just feel like im stuck idk wat i should do if things are good for him its bad for us all he even got mad at our son today for eating a pbj sandwich at lunch instead of "actual food" sometimes i want to end my life bc of his drama but then i remember our son and just couldnt b tht selfish

I'm currently going through a divorce, and I want to prove to the judge I'm a fit parent. How can I go about that without having my son here with me? What can I do to prove it?,

My husband served in Afghanistan there he made a best friend in which unfortunately was killed in action. Every year on these day he sad, angry, quiet, to himself. Thankfully i dont know what it is to loose a loved one, but then i always feel useless. I wish i can say or do something for him. Is there anything i can do? A way to help him cope or distract him?

Let say nothing abusive happened, just some actions made one partner not fully respect the other one. How does one regain that respect back. how does one allow to respect to be gained back. No really story just was thinking with so many issues how would one gain respect back. no cheating or abuse nothing that serous just basic info. thanks guys! again this is a basic question nothing has happen in my life to cause this question minus reading how sad other peoples lives are so i'm just looking for basic examples. if you have lost respect tell me your story on how you regained it. my marriage is pretty good so i can't complain i respect my husband fully and he respects me fully. so nothing personal here just open dialog of respect for spouses.

He has gained weight which doesn't bother me to much but he is always nitpicking me and that is making me resent him

My husband and I have been together 6 years and married one. Our sex life has always been hot and heavy. This past year my husband has put on weight and that doesn't bother me to much he is working out but he eats like a pig so working out isn't really doing him any good. The thing is when we have sex he just lays there in the bed and expects me to do all the work. I spice it up by dressing up and role playing but there he is just laying there like a fat blob. Wanting me to want him and all I can think is let me get this over with so I can get on with my day. I have no desire for him and have sex with him solely because I feel obligated and it very much feels like a chore that I have to hurry up and do. I feel like I would be okay if I never had sex again. I have addressed his lack of effort with him in the bedroom and he will change for a time or two but then there he is laying down again. I am not turned on by him at all even when he touches me I am getting repulsed what do I do?

I am 25 years old. I was raised not to have sex before marriage. I prefer not to say which religion so you do not pass judgment on me. I am to be married in September and have some question I do not know where I could get answers to besides a forum like this. 1. Must you always be dressed up- hair and makeup done- before having sex? I fear morning sex because of this. I do not want my husband to judge me when I wake up in the morning and do not look my absolute best. But I am told many people do enjoy sex in the morning on a weekend when they are in no hurry to work. 2. How can you say no to sex without hurting your husband? I want to enjoy it with him but in case I am ever ill or tired how can you say no? Or do you agree to every time to be a good wife? 3. Does a good wife tell her husband she loves him when she wants to? Or does she only say it in response to him? Thank you for your time We began our relationship in January, bye the way.

My husband and I have been together for almost 4 years now, this will be our first year married but I have just felt so lonely. He works hard and I am so proud of him but he never wants to spend time with me or put in the effort on making me feel special. His parents constantly point out what is wrong with me, for instance, his dad once said that there were prettier out there that I would just have to accept it. I have no idea where that even came from, I never once told my husband I was the prettiest woman in the world. I am told constantly that what my husband makes is his ( I stay at home with our son). The money is not mine, he makes it and he earns it. Now, I have always been the one who worked when we were dating, he never had a job but I constantly worked and earned my own money, so this is new to me just as it is to him. I love my son and love being able to spend time with him but I would love to work, just right now, I can't. My husband will not say anything to his parents about the way they talk to me, he just constantly tells me, it is okay. It is not okay and it has started to take its toll on me, I have started thinking about divorce, having dreams about having sex with other people ( i mean dreams dreams, like asleep and dreaming), I do not know if that is normal, I love my husband, I am just tired of feeling like a slave to a man that doesn't make me feel wanted.

My sister brought shame to our family by marrying a man 24 years older. They've been married for 6 years and have a gorgeous and smart 5 year old. She's only 35 and I think she should have married a man her own age. She's bring her husband to meet the rest of our huge family and I'm afraid they'll laugh at her be because she was desperate to marry an old man I'm not married, but given the chance I wouldn't marry an old man. My sister is the only one who's. married. She's 35 and her husband is 59. How do I prepare her for the teasing that will come her way?

My wife has cheated on me Emotionally(and possibly sexually) twice the first time caught wind of it i was able to nip it in the butt before it got too far but this past time things happened way to quickly in the span of about two weeks so much has happened. first this guy(one of her co workers) started out giving her advice about being married since he was until his wife cheated on him. then one day we have a fight and she tells me she is going to stay with a girl from work for a night or two she even went as far to show me the text. turns out she changed his name in her phone to this girls name so i would not suspect anything( she said it was because people at work sometime look through her phone which does not make since to me next. i find out she was actually over his house the entire time. but she convinces me she just was their for advice and slept on the couch with his sisters. i believed her until two days later said co worker sends her a love letter via text i see it before she does and she plays the fool saying i don't know what brought that up. and she refuses to tell him to stop at this point we are sleeping in different rooms( her choice) my guess is so i don't stumble upon anymore messages. then one night while she is sleeping i grab her phone and find a message saying "goodnight my love" from him and no message back from her that ive seen. at this point we decide to separate with rules her decision again i go along with it she says she needs to work on

My husband actually requires cuddling to be able to sleep better and get fully rested. I, however, apparently am not the same way. Which I don t understand because I love cuddling when I m awake!! Right when we crawl into bed, first thing I do is cuddle and I do that until I fall asleep apparently..my husband always wakes up when I turn away and he says I even get grumpy in my sleep if he tries to cuddle with me. Please help me learn to cuddle while I sleep! I dont want to be a selfish sleeper, I want to cuddle and help him sleep well by cuddling all night! What do I do??

Because I grew up in such a religious family, a huge value was placed on a girls virginity. I told people I wanted to wait until marriage because it was a special gift I could give my husband that was no one else's, but the truth is that I was just so scared of not being valued anymore. I'd turn into a worthless whore- in the eyes of my family, culture, and any man worthy of being a husband to me. But my views have since changed. Here's why; for lack of a better analogy- why would you buy a car without test driving it first or at least having the proper knowledge on the car to make sure it's the right long-term commitment you want to make? Let's say you abstain from sex- female or male- and then comes time to consummate your marriage & you find that you and your new spouse are not sexually compatible? It's your first time and it'll be awkward enough, but of all nights- on your wedding night when it's supposed to be amazing! I know how I feel about it for myself, but my 20 year old cousin asked for my advice. My question is, is it really that foul to advise someone that sexual activity before marriage is okay as long as you & your partner are of age, it's concentual, you're clean, responsible, and protected? My cousin told me she doesn't want to wait for marriage (she and her boyfriend have been together since they were 17), but as I mentioned, our religious upbringing weighs a heavy toll on her conscience.

hi i really need advice badly my wife for 11 years cheated on me in 2013 she had sex with the guy and secretely meeting for moths and i caught her..sge promised that she will stop. 2 years after aug of 2015 i found out again that she is cheating with the same guy...we have 3 kids 9 7 6...i dont know what to do i love her too she is saying that she will truly change hope anyone can help me

I'm 19, and plenty of my friend are getting married and/or have child(ren). What's the hurry?

So i love my husband but yet i hate him and wont leave him. He wont have sexual relations with me he always call me a B he quits all hes jobs leaving us broke and he hates that our 5 yr old son is in school now and i get blamed for it bc i wont home school him. Right now were in an argument abt shoes for our son. I want our son to have a decent pair of shoes like new balances and my son wants them green. This basically puts it down to he needs laces well bc he came home one day with his shoe untied my husband is flat down saying he needs velcro thats all he will allow. Well im not putting my son in some walmart shoe or something character. He has converses now but bc my husband didnt like them on himself he wont let our son use them. Im getting so frustrated with him every morning i have to wake up and hear him gripe that he is hungry and whays for breakfast lunch dinner ect its starting to get to me bad. I love him and i dont want to leave him nd i dont think i no how to anyway and at the same time i feel secure here bc i dont want to go live with family and have to seperate homes for our son. I feel like screaming i hate my life all except my son of course. I feel stuck and sufficated. My husband even complain how i wash my hands, drives, parents anything he can to nit pick

How to hide it from my husband. My neighbour is quite hot and rough in bed. I want to keep meeting him. But how to hide this from my husband ?

After reading some articles about the hack of Ashley Madison it seems to me that A LOT of people are cheating now a days. Is cheating becoming acceptable? Is the idea of a 'one lover' possible? These questions are leading others to accuse their lovers simply because "everyone else is doing it" I was cheated on before which makes me never want to cheat. I am NOT a cheater. If you think " expectation of staying faithful for the rest of your life is unrealistic." Then why are these people getting married? Why do they stay married? The reason i ask this question is because I'm seeing people stick up for the cheaters. Saying its "unrealistic to stay with one person." If "she/he was bored its your fault"

Someone told me that the way people in Michigan do marriage is ignorant and goes against what America stands for. She said that she has a "southern marriage" and her life is just fine. She implied that women who don't do as their husband says would be spanked and children better do as they are told or they too would be spanked or sent to bed without food. This sounds horrible! Like abuse. Is there really a difference in how the North and the "Confederate flag totting, hillbilly proud, under God, gun shooting, mind your own business" South do things? It really just sounds like ignorance to me...

I'm an empathetic person. Have a problem? I'm your man. Need a solution? Call me. Looking to vent? Eh, no, don't talk to me, oh wait, I said don't, don't, DON'T!!!! I have a big heart. I see a problem, I am the kind of person who "cares" when no one else does and I try to fix it. Machiavellians love people like me because people like me are stupid enough to give up our resources, time, money, and even life to help others. We big hearters root for the underdog and offer a helping hand whenever we can... When it works, it feels AMAZING and I am proud of who I am; when it doesn't work, I feel taken advantage of and I feel terrible about myself. Sometimes I get so involved that I end up creating resentment where people tell me to back off "or else". In all honesty, I put my marriage on hold just as much as my wife these days. She will do it so she can have a break and get back to her electronic addictions; but I will do it because I need to feel like a "hero" and rescue someone from a life far worse than mine... What needs to happen is my wife and I need to improve our loyalty to each other and not be addicted to devices or to drama... But that is hard, we do these things because they help us get through life (her's helps with stress mine helps with loneliness and low self esteem). So what do you do when you realize you create your own problems because of unmet needs? P.S. - Therapy didn't work - I went for 6 months and I didn't learn anything I didn't already know.

This scenario may exist anytime, anywhere.

This is not the first time he has done this I'm not sure how to feel him and I have been married for 4 months

I always have & now we could really use the money..But my husband isn't comfortable with it. How should I talk to him about it ? Please no rude comments! !

I married an Australian man and we lived together 3 months aprox until he left me, I came back to my country in South America and got over the disastrous relationship and in that time I met a guy from the U.S. we are going for something serious and want to know if being married to the australian man can affect me for getting married again in United States if Im still not divorced because my ex refuses to talk to me and wont discuss about our divorce which I already asked him to start.