As my father is no more my mom brought me up in joint family where everyone loved me n everyone choose to interfere in my everything. Over a period of time it become so dominating. I desperately wanted to go out of my home. That time I met a guy unfortunately he is not upto the mark when compared to me financially educationally or by any means but I've decided to love him because I desperately want to go out of my home n I got married without family's permission. After that my life was horrible with him but somehow I lived 4 yrs as I was afraid how I can live alone as there is no support from my family and with a kid. All of a sudden situation changed I met a married man v never thought of loving each other but it happened. He also loves me. He also did love marriage but his life was also not good. He tried many times to come out of that relationship but his wife isn't ready to leave him at the same time they don't live peacefully also. This is not because I have come into his life. It was happening already, he is so happy to have me now. I've decided to live with him so I got separated from my husband n staying alone now waiting for him to marry me. He still love me. But v both r confused about his wife now. They don't have kid. He is not ready to have sexual relationship also with her. They both live like roommates. I feel unsecure sometimes when I'm alone what I should do now?. Should I wait or should I die? I can't live without him I believe he can b a good dad also.

I'm a married woman and I noticed I've been getting hit on whenever I go to place where men abounds. I was finally told that it's because I seem friendly. With some of them I joke back because I have a good sense of humor. I guess they mistake me flirting back when I talk to them? But I tell them straight up they are leaving empty handed. I'm just not interested in any flings. So there.

I love my husband and we have a great sex life. However, I'm finding myself wanting more out of life. I don't want to divorce him because he is really a wonderful husband and a wonderful dad. However, I'm always horny and I'm surrounded by younger hot guys who seem to enjoy flirting with me. I don't understand this because I'm turning 40 but my hormones are still raging. So my question is if you are married and your wife asks you to have an open sexual relationship, how would you feel? I am asking this because I don't want to hurt my husband... And I don't want to cheat on him. What would you say if you are the husband?

To begin I d like to make it clear that this is pertaining to the state of Pennsylvania. A friend of mine she got married to a guy a year or two ago in the state of Pennsylvania. She and the guy moved to South Carolina then. Just 2-3 months after the marriage though the guy abandoned her in South Carolina and moved back to Pennsylvania. So in other words 2-3 months after they were married in Pennsylvania and moved to South Carolina they became officially separated. Since moving back to Pennsylvania the guy has had numerous serious relationships with different women. My friend she just wants to get out of the marriage, in the simplest way possible. Financially she has little to no money so any options that keep cost to an absolute minimum would be best. She doesn t want anything from the guy at all. She just wants out of the marriage. She currently has no job and resides with her mother in SC still. The guy has a full-time job and resides in the state of PA. Both parties want the marriage ended. How does she need to proceed to end the marriage legally? What is the simplest, most cost effective way to go about this? Could the marriage be annulled or something since after only 2-3 months the guy abandoned her and went to another state? Thank you for your time.

My wife refuses to hug or kiss me. Every time I try to hug, touch, or kiss her she says things like will you stop, don't, or get away. She won't tell me what the problem is she just stopped stopped stopped stopped show affection about a year ago. With the kissing she says it's because of my teeth. She also says she doesn't like being touched. The thing is she used to hug, kiss, and touch me all the time. So obviously there's another reason. I keep asking her what the problem is but she won't tell me. Also she is constantly snapping at me about money. I have a job. It's just not the job she wants me to have Anyway is this grounds for divorce ?

My parents have always had sex in front of me as a child, or they would be so loud I could hear them when I was 4 and would always walk in on them. I was a child I didn't know any better. I personally think it screwed me up as a child because I would draw pictures or talk about it at the dinner table to my grandma (from what she said) when i was ten I'd also write dirty stories about sex. I am now 21 but I have younger siblings that sleep in my parents bedroom my sister is going to be 6. It pisses me off how the do things. They have her in the same room as they go at it. I am not a parent but I would never ever want my children to see that. I do not live at home anymore but I noticed how different my childhood friends homes are when they never heard a thing. I do understand sex is apart of marriage but I don't want children to be so screwed up from this.

We are both completely happy with our marriages. Both love our spouse very much. However; we known each other for 16 years, and unveiled the curtain since we spoke recently, finding out that we have a massive emotional, sexually bond toward each other and talk and chat for hours on the phone. We both don t want to leave our spouse, but we have the hardest time being in the same room as each other without wanting to burn the midnight oil. Its like a raging fire burning that can t be extinguish. What should we do? Should we have an affair with each other that is already starting, or should we keep talking and leave it at that just a love conversation? The other option would be to get divorce and go that route but I don't believe that she wants that, and I know I don't. I am happy with my life and marriage, but she is like a women of desire, a women that is well means everything to me. I want her so bad, and she wants me we both want to keep our marriages after all your suppose to honor your spouse.

I have an awesome boyfriend, thats wife left him over 4 yrds ago. She moved to another state, and we have some ideas where but not positive....We were going to start divorce proceedings, so he sent her an email asking where she was so that process could begin...She stated that she actually divorced him years ago and could not find him to serve him etc...She wont give him any details unless he pays her $800 which she said was half of what divorce cost...We need to find out when and where the divorce happened so we can go on together as a couple..We are in MO and we need this info to file for marriage license...any ideas where to start?...We have found out, it didnt happen here in MO, we did check records here

ok so here is the story. I have 2 children by my ex husband. I have a current boyfriend and I am 3 months pregnant. I left my boyfriend a month in a half ago we were having problems and I was not happy . Then I found out I was pregnant so I sat down with the boyfriend and we decided to work it out we getting ready to start relationship counseling and other relationship classes. Well my ex husband is not happy and tells me he is going to get emergency custody because my current boyfriend abused me in the past. Which is not true he has always been good to me and my kids. I am scared to go to court tho I dont know who the judge is going to believe and I cant loose my children...Does any one have any advice?

A married woman with young child who sees her dad for an annual visit wants to fight for full custody. Her new husband has been providing for the child for two years and counting and now wants full right to get her on his military benifits. The biological father does not pay child support and has his own family with 3 other kids that he provides for instead. The parents of this child want full custody to move on and continue life as planned. He doesnt have to pay child support but refused to collect n that is what is agreed on attorney general documents. If he changes it and pays something will it hurt our chances for full custody.

If so, how high is it? How to prevent divorce?

Me and my husband are in a mutual agreement for a divorce. I filed the paper work and now he has to be served. If we're both in agreement, why should I have a third party involved in serving him. Can I just have him sign off on the acknowledgment of service section and just go on with the process? And of course I'm in Michigan. Please, can someone help me out with this, lol! This is so confusing.

and I m used to going to school from there and the neighborhood... Etc. But I love my mom so so so much and I want to see here as much as possible. How can I do this? Please, I know that I should just adjust to the 1/2 & 1/2 schedule but I have anxiety and it s extra difficult for me. Thank you

Did he take a long time to propose or did he do so within a year of meeting ?

Are there any support forums regarding people who have been physically and emotionally abused by their spouses/partners/boyfriends/girlfriends etc?

I just want to know if I'm wrong but me and my husband have been married for six years and and we only lasted 1 year together and then he was incarcerated for 3 , we'll ever since he was gone his family never helped me I had to pay his lawyer well my parents helped and his family never put a dime and they would visit him sometimes in jail but not all of them but they never considered me as there family they don't like me when they would see me they didn't greet me at all. They would pretend they didn't know me or turn around. My husband comes out and thinks very highly of them and always puts them first . If we go out anywhere like fun stuff they always have to go with us I mean I don't mind at least sometimes but come it was the majority of the time . I try to be nice to them but if I talk or something they would just stay quiet and look at me weird . But my husband always tells me try to talk but I really do I'm a really nice person. I'm shy and quiet maybe they don't like that I don't think I'm better than them at all. I'm even considering divorce I just can't stand it am I overreacting? Oh and we have a three year old and she's not good with stranger and they always talk about her being shy and she's un sociable but they never came to see her and it makes me angry.

My husband watches porn ALOT and it really gets to me bad. Im ok with porn but when its everyday i feel there is something wrong. When we do have sex sometimes he will be sure to please me but alot of the time i never get off and when he gets off hes done so i never get the chance.How should i handle this?

. My husband and i have sex about 4-5 times a week and he watches porn almost everyday. If i turn my back for more than 30 mins he decides to wack off to the tv. If i leave the house or take a shower he immediately turns to porn. Does he have an addiction to sex or porn. I think its hurting out marriage because of his excessive porn use i feel no desire to jump on him like he asks. I just want to understand.

Everytime i leave the house or take a shower my husband likes to wack off to the tv but doesn't want to put the time into wooing me. He told me he wanted me to jump on him more but i feel no desire because of his everyday porn usage when i turn my back. I have told him this too. We do have alot of sex 4-5 times a week sometimes more.

My husband and i have been married for about 3 years and we have a 2 year old daughter. We have sex 3-5times a week. He also watches porn almost everyday:/ The other day my husband asked if i ever got horny. I responded with ofcourse I do we have a lot of sex. He seems to be getting less and less affectionate. Is this because of porn. He never compliments me or does anything romantic for me. He never checks me out when im naked or changing clothes in front of him. The only time i seem to get his attention is when were laying in bed at night. He told me he wanted me to jump him more but i just dont feel the desire because he never checks me out or is romantic or anything like that. Whats going on and how can i help and not make things worse. Hes also throws alot of negative comments at me. I dont know if he doesnt realize theyre upsetting or what. Also he watches porn every time i turn my back whether its leaving the house or taking a shower. Ive told him so many times i don't mind him watching porn its just when he watches it everyday it upsets me because it makes me feel less of a woman because im obviously not pleasing him enough. I feel the only reason we have sex at night is because he watched porn. This is the main reason why i don't feel like jumping him because i feel he would rather wack off to the tv than to take the time and woo me. Ive told him this and nothing ever changes. He may stop watching it as much for a couple weeks but just goes back to what he was doing

After all the kids will be there and it's not as if all those years of love never existed.

Our DD just turned 2 in July. We always said we would try for our second after her second birthday. My husband is just very naturally type A and loves living life according to plan and cannot wrap his head around my reasons for waiting. As I'm sure many of you can agree with, being hugely pregnant in the summer heat was torture. I was hoping to start trying later this winter, so our baby would arrive the following fall or winter. Is my reasoning really that silly?

Spouse has the opportunity for employment. The information was given on the job that it would be at a complex, would need to update certifications etc. Spouse says that was all that is known about the job. A week later spouse informs partner that they are unsure about the position because their partner (me) will cause problems. Upon asking for elaboration the spouse says that everything wasn't told the week prior, that the person doing the interviewing/complex manager would be spending time with them in the apartments when the manager has nothing to do. The spouse sees nothing wrong with a married person and a single person of the opposite sex being alone in apartments. That the problem is one that the partner will have. It is especially concerning after the rumors of the current manager and the person that is leaving the position. Mind you the spouse has their own business and doesn't need rumors to be started to ruin reputation, second, it is inappropriate if the jobs do not coincide with each other to be required to be together in that nature. the question is posed as Spouse being either husband or wife and the same with partner. I feel it is less accusation towards a specific gender (it can go either way) when leaving pronouns that are not gender specific.

If I'm trying to tell my husband he did something to make me upset he will literally smile and laugh in my face. An example.... Last night I finished clean up after dinner and took care of the dogs, got my husbands and sons lunch and clothes ready for the next day and basically cleaned the entire house. I don't usually just do that all by myself but my husband was tired from work and I let him rest. When I finally got into bed and my husband woke up to go to the bathroom. I could tell he was extremely angry at something and I was concerned and asked him what was wrong and to please talk to me about it. He said nothing and just went back to bed facing the wall. He will always let me sleep on his chest. I figured he didn't want me there so I went to sleep in my sons room..... When I woke up in the morning my husband told me he was upset because he wanted to make love and I was avoiding it. I explained to him he was SLEEPING and I was doing chores around the house. And I pointed out that I had asked him what was wrong and he chose not to talk about it and if he wanted sex he could ask and I would have said YES. We began to argue and he just laughed and smiled in my face. He always does this and I told him it makes me upset when he does and that it makes it seem like he isn't taking my opinion seriously. Why does he do this? I can't even talk to him about it because he will just laugh at me....

My husband and I just finished renovating our spacious studio basement in preparation for renting. We both said early on in the project that we want an older female, professional with a stable income, etc. Do you agree that in these times where divorce rates are higher than ever, men are cheating on their wives with someone they both know, that it pays to consider this aspect especially if this person will be living in the same roof as ours. The tenant will have her own private entrance in the back of the house, her own parking spot in our driveway. What steps can I take to lessen my husband's interaction with this person? Sounds paranoid, huh?

Let me give an example of a change we both agreed to and you can tell me how I should have reacted (empathetic or bold): 1) My daughter loves dressing up. She's entering 4th grade and has already entered the first stages of puberty. My wife wants to make sure she doesn't get picked on, so we agreed to let her dress in clothes that are in style. My wife though has some fears about her still being teased if we interpreted the styles wrong. What should I say? 2) My son has long hair. He's entering 8th grade and has no interest in cutting it. My wife wants him to cut it and look more like the other boys. I told her to let him have it long. She feels strongly that if he doesn't cut his hair then he will be teased and bullied. I disagree. How do I help her have confidence? 3) We have lost all of our friends due to a change in our thinking (we're becoming snobs). In order to hang with other snobs we need to look the part. She is scared of being called a s|ut for wearing skirts too short but girls she want to be friends with wear them REALLY short (but look classy still). How do I boost her esteem to fix this? This is the kind of social problems I have in my life. And they aren't even real problems, they are all her "concerns/fears" that i have to deal with. My overthinking comes from solving her overthinking and trying to come up with solutions to anxiety problems.

First off please know that I love my husband very much. It's just I'm used to a differet lifestyle than he is. I am more frugal where he is more let's spend for today, and I'm over here saying no no let's save for tomorrow. Well today for instance he asked for the debit card which I guard with my life. Because of his past of being bad to spend spend spend. Well he wanted to get it so he could purchase a coke at work. Well cokes at work cost $1.50 but he never buys just one! I have bought severeal packs of coke cola and for some reason he refuses to take them to work. Although he has a cooler that he takes to work with him. He used to take the cokes that I would buy him. There is no difference except he has plenty at home that are not 1.50 per drink. I told him a simple No in a kind voice. He pouted and threw the debit card back at me. We are currently saving for a house. And I am going through College for phlebotomy. He does this to me in public as well if I say no babe we don't need that or sorry we cannot afford that. He goes on an adult like tantrum. When I get money from babysitting friends children on the side. I pay bills or buy food. He thinks that he should get what he wants when he wants. But I told him life doesn't work that way. He was getting better for awhile he finally saw tha he spent too much money on DVDs from those 5.00 boxes at Wal-Mart. He does get spending money but when it's gone it's gone. I feel very drained and frustrated with him. Any ideas as to what I could do? I really want to show him a better way than this.

I honestly don't think this is the solution to my problem with my wife, but I was wondering if there is ever a good reason to revert to the ol' days where women hid behind their husbands and the man was rewarded for his heroic duty making the tough choices since she couldn't make up her mind... Ignoring psychological convention who believes we should all be whole/complete people since she doesn't want to do therapy to get there; is the solution to having a scaredy cat wife shifting to a dom/sub relationship? Don't attack me for my question, just answer a simple "No" if you think this type of marriage should never be revived regardless of reason...

Hi, I got married 3 weeks ago. My husband and I was kinda in a relationship from before but we never did it. After marriage when we tried for the first time, I was feeling terrible pain so we stopped. later we tried again but could not do it properly because of pain. I don't feel very interested in sex but I really want to do it. I want to be interested for sex cause I want to have a healthy normal married life. I think I m very scared about it. That place is always dry. When my husband is trying to do it, it doesn't get wet at all. My husband loves and understands me a lot. We love each other. He is ready to wait till I get comfortable with it. But I don't want to keep him waiting. So I really wanted to get excited and aroused for sex. What can I do for that? And how can that place get wet? forgot to mention, we're not living together. we've had our aqd. that is, we are married but for now we'll be living in our own houses till we perform the wedding ceremony. my husband comes to my house once a week and we went for our honeymoon.

He is leaving tomorrow early in the am. We're ready, our relationship can do this. But of course I can't help but be sad and want to make this night really special. I have a feeling he'll be a little too antsy to just have sex all night... but I can't imagine either of us is going to sleep well. If you and your partner had a last night together before 7 months apart, how would you honestly spend it? Singles & dating consists of 15 year olds, please keep this out of there thanks

My hubby has been having an affair for the past half year. I caught him, yet I know he is still with her. She's a coworker. Could it last very long? Is he in love with her? And no I'm not the other woman thank you very much.

Is 17 too young to be engaged? I will be 18 in 4 months anyway and my partner is 21. my partner and I have been together for nearly 5 years and he ended up dropping the hint of proposing to me on our 5 year anniversary as we are celebrating in kangaroo Island so he thought its the right time to propose. We both have our own house together and we both have full time jobs, we both love each other very much and we are very mature for our age. my parents are happy with our relationship and so are his but his parents don t agree on our engagement but mine do. So is 17 almost 18 to young?

I was watching the movie "Get Hard" this past weekend. The wife in the movie surprised the husband when he walked in and she was wearing full on lingerie. She had on a teddy, stockings, garter, heels, you name it. She was super sexy. I was just curious if any woman actually did this or if it was just in the movies?

A few months ago I don't know how the conversation strikes up but it's about strip clubs he tells me he's not intersted in them because it's just like watching porn whats the point when I have you as in he meant what is the point of it when he has me WELL Last night I he made me go into a strip club with him and his friend when we litterally fought in the parking lot for 30 minutes until he made me go in. It was gross and was horrible!! And he told me while he was their that he had always wanted to go to one and if he was single he would come back and he kept complementing the girl that was dancing in front of us giving his friend a show. I'm hurt and disgusted I feel bettrayed and lied to.. I hate him. Then when we get home he tells me how attractive she was that just made me feel like he wasn't attracted to me at all because we also had 2 different body types and to make things worse the way he looks at me in the bedroom he could do that to a total stranger!! When we have been together for 3 years and are married now.....

I have played rugby since my university days and still play in a competitive men's league (I'm 29). I'm a pretty big guy and really get into it. A couple months ago I took a very hard hit from some mammoth guy that knocked me out and left me with a pretty bad concussion. But I recovered fine and was cleared for contact by my doctor and a trainer I know very well. My wife is pissed and wants me to hang it up. She never ever had a problem with me playing before, she's always knows what a big part of my life it is, but the other day she went on a tangent about how seeing that happen to me made her consider what if it had been worse like a spinal injury and what if I could never walk again, so on. She was appalled at my "insensitive analogy" when I answered people die all the time in car accidents but that doesn't stop them from driving. I don't know, I've only been married for a little over a year and any outsider input from people with more years under their belt would be appreciated. I don't have kids yet but we're talking about it... I'm thinking could that be the reason she wants me to stop? Thanks for the input I know this was an essay More important to me, what does that mean? Why should I have to choose one or the other?

I'm about 9 months pregnant now and we have an 18 month old daughter. My husband has a habit of being extremely messy and he gets undressed in the living room every night and I'm extremely tired of it!! Everytime I clean up he just comes in and throws his damn clothes all over the living room floor like it's my job to keep picking it up after him. I've already begged him to start taking his clothes in our bedroom but he never does it. And if I don't pick up the clothes neither will he his trifling *** will just let it all pile up! What should I do???

My wife constantly compares our marriage to others. It's almost as if she doesn't enjoy the moment with me because she's too busy complaining about how we stack up to other couples. I know you can't change a person but this jealousy and comparing thing have definitely gotten worse as time's gone on

I'm 28 years old and have been married to my husband for 10 years. At first everything was nice and sweet of him until we moved in with his family and that of course brought problems. I put the family issue aside a few times and compromised alot. It wasn't until a few years back he began calling me bad names, I ignored him many times. His father passed away 2 years ago and since then he's become so much worse at all the name calling. Rude comments and humiliation in front of our 8 &2 yr old! Just last night he called me a very hurtful name and refered myself to an animal after he didn't want me to sit on our bed to go over some bills! He said to sit on the floor to which I did to prevent arguing because our daughters were in our room at the time. It was then when I heard him very clear that said "****** animal"!!!! Don't get me wrong he's a great dad and he can be a good person but his verbal abusive ways have me with one foot out the door. It's not love it's more like a habit not to be alone. But I'm at my whits end. I want to leave him but don't want to cause my family discomfort and we have 2 kids. I just got a call from a job I have been applying for over a year and I'm taking it, saving enough to leave. Has anyone gone through this before? Any advice? No rude comments please.

First off I want to confess that I am extremely frustrated. In 2010 when I lost my job, my wife told me that I had to change. She didn't tell me how, she just said that I needed to be more grown up and "manly". She was very critical of me and hid behind "boundaries" so I couldn't figure out why. I interpreted this as coldness and began a journey to become this "man" that she wanted me to be. I conformed, I rebelled, I learned, I unlearned, I did therapy, I did everything I could; but nothing I tried seemed to work, she was still critical of me, and I never became the "man" she envisioned... I turned to Yahoo! to try to figure this out. I, at first, thought it was me (because that's what I was being told), but after trying more and more things I realized it wasn't me, it was her somehow. But I didn't know what it was. I studied her, analyzed her every move, but I couldn't see it. Whatever it was, was hidden behind those walls/boundaries. But today I figured it out. My wife has a pessimistic form of OCD! ...so, school starts in 3 weeks for my 13 year old son. Last week, my wife told me she wants to give the kids everything they can to "not be picked on this year". On my way in to work today, we were talking about work related things and she goes silent. I ask her what's on her mind and some how she was obsessing about our son's long "girly" hair. I asked her the connection to our conversation and she couldn't explain it (there wasn't one). So... How do I fight my wife's OCD? This is a legitimate question. While the people in Psychology would probably help me best, no one is ever there to answer my questions. I know I'm not the only one who has to deal with a person who "emotionally overthinks", so I was hoping some of you veterans who has a wife who does this or have gone through this herself would be able to help me. I know I ask a lot of questions on here, but I think I've finally found my culprit; please help me with this like it was my first ever question. Other signs of OCD: Hand wringing when she's nervous (her mom does it too), picking her skin for long hours, she pulled out all her eyelashes when she was a kid (her lashes are very thin now and barely take mascara), compulsions like needing her phone/distractions in public or randomly throughout the day, an activity level that "looks" type A but a personality that "speaks" type B. Honestly, the signs are all there. She's not coping with life very well and is constantly afraid of people/adults. **** I FINALLY POST A REAL QUESTION BEGGING FOR A REAL ANSWER AND NO ONE ANSWERS??? WOW. JUST WOW ****

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What's you gender? What's your age? How many sexual partners have you had in your life? How many sexual partners have you had in your married life? How many years have you been married?

I came across this story recently: http://goo.gl/bA20lX It baffled me, but I wanted to know what women would do. First off, is the story even true? Secondly, why did she act the way she did? What would you do? Also, how often does this happen? I see a lot of stories like this on the internet. Is it really that common? Would you do this to your husband?