I place the question in this section, because I believe I can receive more mature advice here, so I apologize ahead of time. I've been single for almost five years after ironically an unhealthy relationship of five years. I've reached a healthy emotional state in my life where I'm happy with my own company and I'm strong enough to break off anything that's not right. I recently tried online dating and I've met a guy whom I had an immediate attraction to. Our conversations started off great, but now all he talks about is sex. I'm not sure if it's the sexual tension or the distance (we live in two different cities) that's causing it, but after awhile it's starting to bother me. I feel like I would like him to show more interest in who I am as a person. Is there a way that I can test him to see if he's serious about me or he just wants sex before I decide to walk away? I promise to award 10 points to the best answer. Thank you.

I'm sick and tired of his intolerant bullshit I can't stand it any more he constantly call my son names like ****** and even told him he should have been aborted he's made him cry countless times. I don't know what to do with him. My sons extremely feminine but he's a real sweetheart all my freinds love him. I love and accept my son what should I do? Should I get rid of my current husband?

She lied and told him she was 25 and got pregnant on purpose but it still makes me feel weird that he had a kid with her and married her. The kid is now 8. Thoughts?

Been married for almost 7 years the first 2 were bad. I filed for divorce cause she was physically and verbally abusive. We got through it but she can still be verbal at times. I had retaliated by meeting a other woman once. I know 2 wrongs don't make a right. Next few years were pretty good. The last year and a half we have grown apart with her in school and my working nights. I got different schedule to be home more but she has now opted to be with her girlfriends till 1 or 2 in am. We lead seperated lives and seperated. We have talked about divorce but now she says she doesn't want to. She is frustrated that I don't try to get her back. Tough to do when someone says they don't love you at beginning of separation. What's some good advice? She won't see a counselor though..

I heard mohammad hit his wife and it hurt her. True or not?

I have met a few mature women online (in their 40's or above), some of them divorced or have never married to anyone; we've ended having cyber sex, and while doing this, they have come up with a dildo to play with it (and doing kinky things with it) ... Why? Why do mature lonely women have dildos hidden in their closets?

Do you know anyone (includes yourself obviously) that has like met the person they were going to marry in like when they were 14 and they got married at like 20 and didn't have sex till they got married? if now why? and if yes how did you/they do it?? and any similar stories???

Trends change. Circumstances change. Hell, people change! But my wife? She doesn't change. She stays put. She doesn't evolve, she doesn't take advice, she doesn't do therapy, she never has a girl's night to discuss life, she doesn't even have a journal! She is today the very same girl she was 14 years ago, only today she's more bitter, more angry, more resentful, and more rigid.... Is this normal? I've changed at least 100 times since I've met her. Some of it was because I wanted to, some of it was because I have to, and some of it was because she wanted me to. So I've evolved to keep up with times and needs. But her? She's stuck...... Why do people get stuck? Is it normal? If so, what can I do to encourage growth?

My husband have recently reconciled after he hit me. I also hit him back in self defence. We separated for 6 months and he seems to blame me for everything. He even denies hitting me Today he told me he had a meeting at 4pm. He had a shower, dressed up and went out. I put our son to sleep at 8pm and ended up falling asleep. I was surprised to wake up and 10pm and not find him home. When I called he said he was at a friend's party. Who has a party on a Monday night? If I'm even 15 mind late from work he'll argue and accuse me of cheating. What do you think is going on?

We worked together. Neither one of us works in the same workplace anymore. I haven't seen him in a month. We've had no physical contact other than hugs & touches on the shoulder, & no contact outside work. He told me he thinks I know more about him than his wife & kids. He told me he loved me on 3 different occasions--he said it first. Once he even said, "you know I love you." He asked me once, "Do we keep anything from each other?" He gave me the phone number to his mother's house. He left our workplace at one point before coming back & telling me that I was one of the few reasons he returned & that he may not have returned had it not been for me. He told me he & his wife have been separated before & implied that he's unhappy in his marriage. He posted on Facebook years ago that he's in an open relationship. I heard he said he was going through a divorce before he even met me. He told my close friend he loves me "so much" & that he started divorce paperwork. I'd like to think he told her in hopes that she'd tell me. We have the same values & we share significant, uncommon interests, among other things. Should I reach out on Facebook or approach him at a bar I know he frequents, or wait for him to contact me? I want to know if I should wait for him so we can ultimately marry. I'm wondering if he's tried to communicate to me to wait for him, as he knows I'm loyal enough to wait & that we are both too dignified to see each other too soon.

He's been cheating since November. He proposed in December, yet was cheating the whole time. He works with the woman that he has been cheating with. They have been friends since high school. This would be the second marriage for both.

I'm just saying this because I'm 35 and he's 61 and I don't feel sexual with him. So I opened up and to him how I really feel. He was taken aback a little at my openness and things I'm interesting. I mean it. He thinks if someone in a marriage goes outside that it ruins the whole family and it breaks apart. My assertion is that's untrue if a husband and wife agree that it's okay. Personally I don't feel upset or angry thinking of him doing that as long as he told me. I'm perfectly happy how I am. He on the other hand said he's a jealous person and wouldn't be able to think of me having someone on the side. I can respect that. I told him someone offered me once but I turned it down. The truth is I wish he would be okay with it. I feel very committed to my family but want sex somewhere else. I don't know what you think but you know, I'm young, and there's just things he knows he is unable to do. He knows and told me. I basically opened this conversation up because I was interested in someone at work who was in an open relationship himself and after two months together having lunch, the guy told me his relationship is now closed. I thought about this all day and realized that I don't want to lie, or be dishonest with my spouse about my mindset. I even told my mother and I feel so much better. But how do I cope with half the marriage open but my half not? I'm not sure. I guess give it time.

I live in America.... My boyfriend lives in Egypt. Actually future husband..... Since he is not allowed to have girlfriend.. He is a muslim. And well i am not. But he accepts me and respect that i am a christian and his family too. But I dont know if i should marry him.. I love him very much... :( This is not about religion.... Or about his family... I just feel that with time he has changed... He doesnt message me if i dont first... He is not romantic anymore... Most of timw he always angry at me😔 i do everything i can to keep him happy.. But sometimes he make me feel is just not enough... Ive cried so many times... And honestly im tired ... He says he loves me and he cant live without me... But i dont see actions...😞 everything was perfect before.. But i feel something changed him... Ive asked him so many times he says everything is fine... But he is not the same sweet guy... We want to engage this year... But.... I dont feel Happy... Most times im crying ... I feel he dnt give me much attention anymore... And honestly i dont know what to do i love him... But is so hard 😢😟 i wish he was different like before... But i just sometimes feel he doesn't love me enough...

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So I found out my husband wasn't a virgin right after we got engaged. We are both very religious and obviously believe in keeping yourself pure before marriage. I was shocked to find out he hadn't done that. Coming from a very small town where everyone had the same beliefs, it wasn't difficult for me. So I struggled. But it was his high school girlfriend and I understood that waiting would be hard. I asked if she was the only one and he said yes. So we carried on with the engagement. Well about a month into our marriage I found out that there were others. And I did not find out through him. When confronted, he said that his parents who had gone through something similar, had advised him to tell me that he wasn't a virgin but to not tell me how many there were. I was devastated. All the trust I had built in him shattered. He said he'd give me time to come to terms but I don't know how. It's been over a month and I still struggle to get over the lie. I wish he had just told me the whole thing to begin with. He will not give me any details. Just said that it was years ago. I keep asking him for details but his Mom said that details didn't help her. I just need some advice. Any tips on getting over this? On dealing with this? On making him tell me what I want to know? I just need help. I've never felt this betrayed. It hurts so much that he couldn't tell me the truth.

My step son, Tom, is 28. Since he was 18, he has lived only briefly on own. The past 4 years, he lived with his mom. He only moved in because his mom was moving to a senior living facility. We live in a 5 bedroom home. Tom lives in basement. Its like an apartment without a real kitchen. Tom works as a automechanic. For the longest time he got paid under the table. Supposedly, he filled out a W2 and only gets paid 11 an hour. He pays dad 250 a month for rent and cell phone. My issues: privacy, he keeps walkout basement a mess (I have to step over things to get to freezer or strorage area, dirty dishes in basement), he is forgetful (leaves clothes in washer all day or food out on counter), he doesn't help out around the house (yardwork, keeping his side of garage clean so that I can pull my car into my slot), his gf sleeps here 6 to 7 days a week (she isn't allowed to move in so she slips in and out. Also, he cheats on her so they aren't serious), And the $250 a month doesn't seem fair. When I tell my husband how I feel, he says that his son can live here for as long as he chooses. Everything else I say, he starts picking on me about my adult daughters.Now I feel like we are never going to downsize into smaller, more affordable home. And I feel like eventually the son will have a wife or fiance living down there, still paying same amount for rent and never truly taking responsibility. And, the house is in husband's name. So where would I stand legally should something happen?

My hubby has been having an affair for the past half year. I caught him, yet I know he is still with her. She's a coworker. Could it last very long? Is he in love with her?

I have communicated with him and have told him it's very important to me. Especially considering my parents divorced, both parents 're married , then divorced , my mom was engaged a few more times etc. He never just does things out of the blue , he's not romantic . I accept this but I cannot except missing the anniversary. He knows this. He claims he can't remember dates but he seemed to remember his friends wedding last weekend. He just got promoted at work, we had to move etc because of his career. Here I am feeling like a fool. I gave up my job etc. Which I wouldn't mind if I had a little respect or if he just showed he appreciates me. Am I over reacting?

If I make $52k a year while my husband makes $72k a year and we are both 28 years olds living in Texas, will we be able to have enough money to have three kids? It would really help me if you answer with a bit of info about yourself and how much you and your spouse make and how many kids you have. Thanks!

If you don't want to answer this then don't, there's no need to say "it's none of your business". I'm just curious because I need to know if the money I'm making along with my spouse will be enough for a family of five.

I place the question in this section, because I believe I can receive more mature advice here, so I apologize ahead of time. I've been single for almost five years after ironically an unhealthy relationship of five years. I've reached a healthy emotional state in my life where I'm happy with my own company and I'm strong enough to break off anything that's not right. I recently tried online dating and I've met a guy whom I had an immediate attraction to. Our conversations started off great, but now all he talks about is sex. I'm not sure if it's the sexual tension or the distance (we live in two different cities) that's causing it, but after awhile it's starting to bother me. I feel like I would like him to show more interest in who I am as a person. Is there a way that I can test him to see if he's serious about me or he just wants sex before I decide to walk away? I promise to award 10 points to the best answer. Thank you.

Trying to be somewhat romantic while the kids are sleeping.

I haven't seen him for a month or two but I can't stop thinking about him in the sexiest way. It all started with innocent conversations and hugs. But the last time he hugged me, it seemed I was attracted to him sexually. I wanted him to kiss me and take me to a secluded place where we both can make intense love. I'm married. I love my husband but these sexual urges are quite strong that I have to stop myself from going to his work. I realized he likes me too because of his compliments and how he looks at me. How do I get him out of my mind? I'm fantasizing about him and I haven't seen him in 2 months?

I cant tell for sure if she would but I seen her checking him out at the pool more than once

Would you sacrifice quantity over quality or quality over quantity? Ever since my wife and I became dual income we did what any person who came from a poor background would do - we went to town and bought everything we couldn't afford. We never really had the option to buy quality things, so we never really gave it much thought. But now that we have "things" we are realizing how cheaply made they are. This makes me reconsider our current position and where else in our relationship have we sacrificed quality for quantity... Vacations, friendships, our own appearance, and even our pass times are all just quantity over quality. We would rather fit 10 or 12 mini vacations in a calendar year than 2 or 3 quality vacations. We would rather have a bunch of people like us than a few really high quality and high caliber friends. We would rather have a bunch of clothing outfits that hang off our body than have a few quality outfits that flatters our body shape. We would rather have a billion things to do than do a few things that are just very high quality... But I think this isn't this way because of who we want to be; we are just this way because that's how the cards fell. We just "went with the flow" and didn't really think about it. And, if you haven't caught on to me so far, I don't trust the flow; so knowing the flow brought us here, I immediately want to evaluate its value to us and see if this is what we want in our life... What's your opinion?

I got into stocks when I was 13. By the end of college, I made my first million. My career's been great since then. But, one thing that was always messed up was my personal life. My dad had an affair, and it scared me away from commitment. I decided I was going to go from girl to girl because I was sure I was going to be cheated on. I studied psychology and seduction. I found hidden desires and longings in people, and I showed them that they could be complete with me. I'm not amazing looking, but I adore women, and I love making them happy. It worked great. I've been with 40 women, and I kept my relationships under 3 months. I hurt a lot of girls. I met this angel 6 years ago. I realized I was in love. I had a conversation with her about my fear of cheating, and told her that making her happy was my first priority. But, I can't always know how. So, if anything's wrong, she should tell me. The only thing I wanted back from her was loyalty. I actually said, "If you want to murder me in my sleep, okay, as long as you're loyal." She promised she would be. We got married 4 years ago, and now have a 7 month old daughter. We're closer than ever. I always put my wife before me. I stay on top of any insecurities she gets and make her feel okay. I'm 34, and I still have my abs, and neither of us drink, so we look years younger. I keep a tab on my testosterone, so I know I'll have a high sex drive for decades. I wake up with her whenever she needs to nurse the baby. I send her love letters, make sure she's very satisfied in bed, I flirt with her (she calls it giving her a "loving to"), we dance, and we laugh a lot. Fights are important, but we have a rule that our fights never go into the next day and have to end with a make out session. She says she's the "happiest, luckiest girl in the world". I'm still very scared. When we first met, I had PI's do a check on her and her friends. I hire one to follow her around for a week every few months. There's never been any indication that she's cheated. I keep imagining her 10 years from now. A perfect Brazilian guy who's just as much a ladies' man as me is going to go after her. It keeps me up at night. We put the baby to bed a couple nights ago, and we were cuddling on the couch afterwards, and she told me, "You know, you don't have to work so hard all the time. I'm very happy and I love you. Just relax. You're being so hard on yourself." And I kissed her and said okay. But I can't relax. If I relax, I won't be a 100% anymore. And she'll search for the extra few percent with the Brazilian guy. What do I do? Are my fears even natural? I need help just enjoying my life and not stressing. I don't need to worry about my finances. I have a beautiful family. I have so much to be grateful for. But I always feel like I'm holding all on my shoulders. Is this a common fear among men? Should I be worried? I need to explain my fear. When I was a teen, I used to read up on married women cheating. And it seemed so common. If even a single thing was off, they'd cheat. And some of them cheated even if their husband was great. I hear about all these women on sites like ashleymadison. It completely terrifies me. It terrified me, and I went from girl to girl as a result. Now that I am married, I need to be absolutely perfect to make sure my wife doesn't cheat. I don't want to be one of those guys.

How do you get through the day?

I've been having a gut feeling that my husband has been intimate with an ex coworker as I did find texts back and forth that some of them had nothing to do with work of course when I've asked them if he is ever been with her or cares about her he is assured me that he is not so I did take it upon myself to reach out to a psychic and after talking with her she asked for three numbers I gave her the numbers of my three children and afterwards she actually in fact told me that my husband has been intimate with somebody else she did not verify that it was this woman possibly some other female do I believe anything she says about my husband being intimate with another woman

I care about my husband I just am not In love anymore. I've been married for 8 years but we have been together for 12. I am not in love with him.anymore.. no matter how hard I try I cannot be intimate with him.. I can't even be affectionate .. He loves me so much and Ive felt like this for years but have been forcing myself to keep going but I fear I can't.. it's just I miss passion and affection and I just can't find it in him .is this a phase? Should I tell him it's over? We have 4 kids but I'm so lonely... I'm tired of acting.. I don't even wanna go out with him anymore We got married while I was pregnant and are currently living with my parents AGAIN because of financial issues.. I'm a stay at home mom and he works so I have to ask for everything! I just want out but I'm scared to hurt him and I'm afraid of being alone and never finding what I want.. I wanna be happy too.

I got into stocks when I was 13. By the end of college, I made my first million. My career's been great since then. But, one thing that was always messed up was my personal life. My dad had an affair, and it scared me away from commitment. I decided I was going to go from girl to girl because I was sure I was going to be cheated on. I studied psychology and seduction. I found hidden desires and longings in people, and I showed them that they could be complete with me. I'm not amazing looking, but I adore women, and I love making them happy. It worked great. I've been with 40 women, and I kept my relationships under 3 months. I hurt a lot of girls. I met this angel 6 years ago. I realized I was in love. I had a conversation with her about my fear of cheating, and told her that making her happy was my first priority. But, I can't always know how. So, if anything's wrong, she should tell me. The only thing I wanted back from her was loyalty. I actually said, "If you want to murder me in my sleep, okay, as long as you're loyal." She promised she would be. We got married 4 years ago, and now have a 7 month old daughter. We're closer than ever. I always put my wife before me. I stay on top of any insecurities she gets and make her feel okay. I'm 34, and I still have my abs, and neither of us drink, so we look years younger. I keep a tab on my testosterone, so I know I'll have a high sex drive for decades. I wake up with her whenever she needs to nurse the baby. I send her love letters, make sure she's very satisfied in bed, I flirt with her (she calls it giving her a "loving to"), we dance, and we laugh a lot. Fights are important, but we have a rule that our fights never go into the next day and have to end with a make out session. She says she's the "happiest, luckiest girl in the world". I'm still very scared. When we first met, I had PI's do a check on her and her friends. I hire one to follow her around for a week every few months. There's never been any indication that she's cheated. I keep imagining her 10 years from now. A perfect Brazilian guy who's just as much a ladies' man as me is going to go after her. It keeps me up at night. We put the baby to bed a couple nights ago, and we were cuddling on the couch afterwards, and she told me, "You know, you don't have to work so hard all the time. I'm very happy and I love you. Just relax. You're being so hard on yourself." And I kissed her and said okay. But I can't relax. If I relax, I won't be a 100% anymore. And she'll search for the extra few percent with the Brazilian guy. What do I do? Are my fears even natural? I need help just enjoying my life and not stressing. I don't need to worry about my finances. I have a beautiful family. I have so much to be grateful for. But I always feel like I'm holding all on my shoulders. Is this a common fear among men? Should I be worried? I need to explain my fear. When I was a teen, I used to read up on married women cheating. And it seemed so common. If even a single thing was off, they'd cheat. And some of them cheated even if their husband was great. I hear about all these women on sites like ashleymadison. It completely terrifies me. It terrified me, and I went from girl to girl as a result. Now that I am married, I need to be absolutely perfect to make sure my wife doesn't cheat. I don't want to be one of those guys.

We have been married for 5 years, we have a kid together (a 2 year old son). just recently these thoughts have been tearing me apart. before i worried about this stuff but not as much. I always try to make her happy because i dont want her to cheat on me. I help her with chores, i buy her flowers, give her massages, take care of our son, do yard work, so that shes satisfied. I also give her suprise oral sex, and dont ask for anything in return, i just want to make sure shes happy, but i feel like i do more than i should. she also works so i always fear that shes gonna meet some handsome coworker and end up sleeping with him. I feel like im not good enough anymore. am i supposed to be this insecure in my marriage?

My wife is smart, I love her and we do alot of fun things together on the weekends. But during the week when I come home from work and she's watching tv or when I sit down with her for dinner...she always has some awful reality show on involving other women arguing, having plastic surgery, spending crazy money on stupid things, drinking, back stabbing etc. If it's not the Kardashians it's the Real Housewives of (fill in the blank) or the Shahs of Sunset or that aweful show Vanderpump Rules or whatever. I almost always ask her to change the channel and if she says "its almost over" I just leave the room and go get on my pc to watch a movie or read the news / learn something because I cannot stand those shows. They don't offer anything positive to the world (I swear Andy Cohen is the Devil)...it's all negative and I can't stand watching people argue when I'm trying to relax.

My wife and I have been together for 8 years, and married for 6 of them. we have 2 kids. Recently she admitted to sleeping with another guy (only once) and said that it was mistake and that she will never do it again. She broke off all contact with the guy and has been calling me and texting me more than ever. When she first told me i didnt talk to her for 2 weeks and moved out temporarily. I came back and decided that i wanted to work on the marriage because every time i thought about leaving i would remember the good times. I told her it was going to take a while for me to forgive her and she said it was worth the wait. we have been attending counseling since ( we both are going to individual counseling as well). the first month i would only talk to her if i needed to, and didnt wear my marriage ring. Just recently i decided to quit being a child and start treating her like my wife again. its been 3 months since she told me, and we are slowly but surely fixing things. the thing is i dont really find myself attracted to her anymore and everytime she compliments me i dont really believe her. I havent really smiled or laughed with her since, im pretty numb to everything she says or does. am i doing something wrong?

A couple with 4 kids; He has a stable career, pension, financial inheritance and a 2nd home shared with his brother. She has $30 total, no career and limited job skills. Would need 2 jobs just to make ends meet. No home and a car still requiring payments. No public transit in area. Who would the judge award primary custody to?

They were best friends and got married and didn t last a year before she left him and turned into a slut. Took 2 years to get to where they could be on friendly terms. It s been 4 years and she hasn t signed the divorce papers. I think she wants to mooch off his tricare. She ruined his credit and won t make her own phone or car payment. He doesn t try to contact her but will respond if she contacts him. His excuse is that they went through so much together as friends and know each other so well. I feel she s trying too hard to stay in his life. She texts him about dumb things, like work drama because she trusts him, or about places she wants to visit with him because she wanted visit him (while he s with me). She recently showed up to an event we were at and hugged him while I wasn t looking. She told a drunk stranger about our situation and that person came to me to say how nervous she was that I was there and how she just wants us to get along. I think it s inappropriate for her to try so hard to still be in his life, as is their friendship after what she did to him, and that there s a difference between that and just being on friendly terms. He doesn t see why they shouldn t be friends even though I ve told him it makes me uncomfortable because I don t trust her motives. He said that I m the only person he s been with since they separated almost 4 years ago and I m the only person he plans on being with. I want a future with him, but not one that involves his ex.

Why is there a lot less sex after marriage?

would you allow ur husband to have female co workers and female friends on his facebook friends list? explain why or why not.

I am 25 yrs old and have been with this person for almost 8 yrs. We have a 3 year old. A few months ago he had to go to work furlough for 3 months bc he got into trouble. Work furlough is where you live, you can only come out to work. So I found out he started seeing/dating a girl in there approx. 2 weeks after he went in. I also found out he had sex in my house while I was out of town. When he would visit us at home he would leave early & later admitted he would stop by to visit her for a few minutes before having to rtn to work furlough. This was 4 months ago & we are separated. He still sees our baby everyday and is still being a father. He states he wants to be with me & try to "fix" this huge mess, something I am not willing to work out. However he is in the middle of adjusting his legal status through me. I refuse to do anything else for him as I have been the bread winner ever since our baby was born & do not want to do anything for him. But I feel as if I am hurting my son bc he is so attached to his father, I feel as if I am taking something away from him and will cause him so much pain by being away from his father when he gets deported when I can avoid it. I u/s what he did is not my fault, I understand I am worth so much more but I want to make sure I put my pain aside and make sure that I do what is best for our baby. Should I still help him adjust his status through me? or lay him lay on his bed & get deported.

Got married at the beginning of this month to my wonderful husband. I'm 20; he's 23. Neither of us believe in divorce (except for really good reasons, like abuse, etc., not just because we give up on our problems). So I just wanted to see what advice all of you had for us to make it work for all the years to come. :)

I got into stocks when I was 13. By the end of college, I made my first million. My career's been great since then. But, one thing that was always messed up was my personal life. My dad had an affair, and it scared me away from commitment. I decided I was going to go from girl to girl because I was sure I was going to be cheated on. I studied psychology and seduction. I found hidden desires and longings in people, and I showed them that they could be complete with me. I'm not amazing looking, but I adore women, and I love making them happy. It worked great. I've been with 40 women, and I kept my relationships under 3 months. I hurt a lot of girls. I met this angel 6 years ago. I realized I was in love. I had a conversation with her about my fear of cheating, and told her that making her happy was my first priority. But, I can't always know how. So, if anything's wrong, she should tell me. The only thing I wanted back from her was loyalty. I actually said, "If you want to murder me in my sleep, okay, as long as you're loyal." She promised she would be. We got married 4 years ago, and now have a 7 month old daughter. We're closer than ever. I always put my wife before me. I stay on top of any insecurities she gets and make her feel okay. I'm 34, and I still have my abs, and neither of us drink, so we look years younger. I keep a tab on my testosterone, so I know I'll have a high sex drive for decades. I wake up with her whenever she needs to nurse the baby. I send her love letters, make sure she's very satisfied in bed, I flirt with her (she calls it giving her a "loving to"), we dance, and we laugh a lot. Fights are important, but we have a rule that our fights never go into the next day and have to end with a make out session. She says she's the "happiest, luckiest girl in the world". I'm still very scared. When we first met, I had PI's do a check on her and her friends. I hire one to follow her around for a week every few months. There's never been any indication that she's cheated. I keep imagining her 10 years from now. A perfect Brazilian guy who's just as much a ladies' man as me is going to go after her. It keeps me up at night. We put the baby to bed a couple nights ago, and we were cuddling on the couch afterwards, and she told me, "You know, you don't have to work so hard all the time. I'm very happy and I love you. Just relax. You're being so hard on yourself." And I kissed her and said okay. But I can't relax. If I relax, I won't be a 100% anymore. And she'll search for the extra few percent with the Brazilian guy. What do I do? Are my fears even natural? I need help just enjoying my life and not stressing. I don't need to worry about my finances. I have a beautiful family. I have so much to be grateful for. But I always feel like I'm holding all on my shoulders. Is this a common fear among men? Should I be worried? I need to explain my fear. When I was a teen, I used to read up on married women cheating. And it seemed so common. If even a single thing was off, they'd cheat. And some of them cheated even if their husband was great. It terrified me, and I went from girl to girl as a result. Now that I am married, I need to be absolutely perfect to make sure my wife doesn't cheat. I don't want to be one of those guys.

I am a big fan of our local sports team. I go to every game I can but I can afford only the cheapest seats. One day at a game, I heard someone say "Hello Ann". I turned around and it was John, my sister's ex husband. We talked briefly and he invited him to join him in his luxury box and I gladly accepted. I had never been a luxury box but they are GREAT. I really enjoyed the game a lot more from his box. He told me that any time I was at a game to come by his box and join him in watching the game. I did and each time I had a great time at the game. He had refreshments brought to his luxury box and we just talked. I had a wonderful time. He was the nicest person ever, very polite and never hit on me. We never talked about my sister, his ex. Sometimes his friends would join us in his box. They were all very nice to me and this just made it more fun. I have never told my sister about this so as not to cause her and me any problems. I don't know many details about their divorce. She never says anything bad about him at family gatherings. Should I tell her or is it none of her business as they are no longer married? Please tell me what I should do. Thanks. Attention level 7 that keeps changing the category. WHY?

Why would a 16-year-old girl want to marry a 37-year-old man that she has had very good relationship with since she was a newborn baby? This was the man who raised her, and he is a very good friend of her mother. He is not legally or biological related to her.

I loved my husband when we married. We dated for 6yrs, went through the loss of his dad and other ups & downs. We had all the talks before marriage - kids, finances, future.... Then he changed. After we married he went out with his friends all the time. He was now married to me so he felt like we didn't need to go out anymore. His family took precedence over us and our growing family. Now 2 sets of twins later he doesn't spend time with us, still his family & their needs are more important than ours. I went through $20k of my own savings to raise our kids, 2 were very sickly as infants and I couldn't work. He refuses joint accounts and any money he has is HIS money and he sinks it into toys for himself. He just bought a boat that I won't go in because I'm petrified of water. So much for family time. He goes on trips with his friends..... I can't afford to divorce him and now that he has an inheritance I'm afraid I'd lose custody of my kids because my money is all gone. He's refusing to make arrangements with the inheritance that if something were to happen to him where the money should go (it should go to the kids). I've gained a ton of weight through depression and I just don't know how to make myself happy again. I've just come to terms that I live in a house with a stranger. I have my kids so that's all that matters.

I'm 34 and semi-happily married. When I married my wife two years ago, she had 2 kids. We now have a one year old together. I do for my step kids as if they're mine. If anything, I do more for them than I do at times for my ow. Toddler. What bothers me is that I feel my wife is extremely unappreciative & downright mean sometimes. She rarely says thank you and never apologizes! What's been hurting me a lot lately is that she didn't even get me anything for Father's Day!! I work overtime, sell my personal items on eBay and other stuff just to make sure her kids have the necessary tools and things they like in life! I just killed myself working to get her son and my mom also, bought her son a lot of stuff for school! I got my stepson to call my mom to thank her, but I also felt my wife could've been courteous too! Their dad and his family does NOTHING for them! They've met their dads family maybe like once or twice! My family does everything and include them in everything! If I bring this up to my wife, she'll go crazy on me and then I end up apologizing for being right! But nothing on Father's Day was just the straw that broke the camels back. She's also unaffectionate and everything is when she wants it or else. What should I do? I'm getting extremely tired and growing resentment towards her..

My husband just does NOT like to use condoms. He tells that he does not get pleasure then. He HATES protected /safe sex. We already have 4 kids. How do I persuade him to have safe sex with me by using condoms?