If a wife doesn't agree with her husband about what car they should buy he accuses her of being controlling. What's up with that?

I had never meet him or his wife before. My husband says she needs sympathy but I don't think it's appropriate for her to be contacting him when she never has before. He says I'm the only one who would see this as wrong. I feel like he should have told me but his rebuttal is "do I have to tell you everything"!

my sex life is awesome but I am always looking for new ideas. I'm pulssize so any good postions I can look up? Also I always wanted to strip for my husband but I'm so self conscious to do it in front of him! Do guys like that? What do you men out there like? I want to make my hubby happy!

So i've noticed many people with divorced parents go through the same situation. Myself, having divorced parents as well, i'm afraid of having the same problem, the worst thing that could ever happen to me is getting divorce. Any signs (obvs before getting married) to see if the guy is suitable for you, tips (being married) to keep the strong bond? Thnks!

I have recently read "Mating in Captivity" and the Newsweek article about the sexless marriage epidemic and these have got. I also see that there are forums on sites like a subreddit focussing on "deadbeadrooms". I also have several friends who are married and have not have had sex for years. My own marriage goes back and forth from sexless to lots of sex. This leaves me wondering if lusting after anyone can continue to happen for years on end, especially given the way our society is built? Are all marriages going to be sexless after a while? I am not asking for advice … just wondering what the community thinks of this whole situation. Or is the love lust Dilemma Psychobabble nonsense?

Wanna spice things up in the bedroom with my husband. Any ideas? I promise I am a woman...not sure why this is unbelievable.

This guy I know, who's kinda still married, Is in a situation where him and his wife went divorced yet but there's nothing between them... (So he always tells me) He said he has to stay with her for a couple months for a financial reason ( I can't get into that) and he kinda wants me to go out with him but constantly get into arguments with him about her, because I still see pics of them on FB and stuff , and when I ask him about it , he always says he swears on his life there is nothing there but it's just for the sake of pictures and to keep the family together ... But last night I had a dream that he was having sex with her... Is that a sign?

Ok. So I've married to this woman for five years. Worse, I have a child with this woman. I married this woman and had a child with her to hide the fact that I was gay. I feel extraordinarily selfish for it, but I'm tired of living a lie and being unhappy just for the satisfaction and contentment of my very conservative and homophobic family. Should I come out to her? She's a huge LGBT supporter because her brother's gay, but It'll break her heart.

Example: Like 7/10 people get married.

I was married right out of high school and had never even kissed anyone except the man who I married. I'm not religious or anything, but it makes me so mad that he got to mess around and I didn't.. There's nothing I can do about it now because neither of us are cheaters, we're not taking any "breaks", and it was in the past but it still makes me angry. I don't know how to get rid of this anger..

Does this question really need details? If your spouse is too busy for you because of their own agendas/rituals/routines and maybe even because they are coping poorly with life - how do you overcome the invisible, insignificant, sad, unimportant, and useless feeling? I have lost connection with everyone I used to talk to from high school. I have been unable to connect to people I have in my life now (except for kids). My family and my spouse only talks to me when they need me to do role-related things. I am, otherwise, just a physical object in everyone's way... All this time I wasn't really trying to fix problems with my wife. All this time I wasn't trying to figure anything out. I was really here, because I knew someone would come along and notice me. Yes, these problems I talk about are real (to some degree) but the reason I come back to ask more questions (despite the abuse) isn't because I need help. It's because I need friends... Any attention is better than no attention...

my "husband" and i have been together for 7.5 years we have two children. we have known for a long time we want to have the big day but have put it on the back burner since weve been busy building our lives and also we feel we are already husband and wife (in our eyes) because we have a clear understanding of life long commitment. which is ALL that matters. We spoke last night and confirmed that we still do want to make it legal/ have wedding SO should we do this anytime? or should we wait 2.5 year until 10th anniversary? so we can celebrate our decade together by "tying the knot"? personally i think it would be very special to wait until the 10th yr but im not sure why everyone thinks we should do it sooner? opinions please thank you!!!! :) :)

My wife returned from deployment after 8 months. When we reunited at the airport, she paid almost all of her attention to our kid and she barely showed any excitement to see me. Most of her excitement was about seeing our kid and she didn't seem overly excited to see me like she was overly excited to see our kid. Is this a bad reason for me to be upset?

All of my life, I've known I was different... I had boyfriends in high school but in college and law school, it was a mix. My most serious relationship prior to my husband was a woman, from junior year of college - first year of law school. I met my husband in law school and we married, now have three children, age 11, 8, and 5. I recently re-took the bar exam and have returned to working as a partner at a local firm. I met another partner there, named Tara; we started hanging out, and over time, she has become more of a friend. My relationship with Tara has made me realize that I am gay. Not bisexual, not bicurious, I'm gay. My husband is a great man and all but we have been married for twelve years and I still cannot bring myself to feel for him as he does for me. We almost never have sex, when we do it's enjoyable, I guess, but I am in love with Tara. She makes me happy, being with her is the only time I feel like that. I am not happy in my marriage and I need my husband to know it. I want to spend the rest of my life with Tara, and I want my husband to know that it isn't his fault that we're breaking up....I'm just unable to provide the love for him as I can for Tara. Any advice?

Hello! My husband and I would love to travel the world and explore all it's wonders but we would also like to have our own little home before starting a family. Should we travel now or save money for the future?

I got some therapy with this one person a few times.He is a hypnotherapist/healer. I would call him a healer. I called him the other day and told him how I am feeling. He asked me if I can do some work w/him and in return he give me free sessions. trade off. I said ok. He kept wanting me to meet him somewhere else, at another office or at the coffee shop. I asked to see him at the same place I got healing. He kept insisting on seeing where he wanted. Finally I told him I can't. Wouldn't you feel suspicious too? Is he trying to date me or something you think? How would that make you feel?

What are the chances of an affair thinking a secret fever? If a man was truly going to change would he admit his affair to his girlfriend or wife?

Hi sarah, sorry your sex life stinks :-/

I'm 44 and she is 21. She is 2 years younger than my son. Her and I have already exchanged phone numbers and I told her I was divorced and single. Lately we have been flirting and want to set up a date. She is just so gorgeous. She is beautiful inside and out. I really love everything about her. Her smile, glowy eyed, her curvaceous body, her youthful radiance. All I think about is imaging myself with her. She brings a me joy that my wife just doesn't at all whatsoever. My wife is mean and an ogre. My wife has made life hell. I'm in a sexless marriage. What should I do?

Fake question (I'm going to say things that aren't true to illustrate the question) My wife and I have a very messed up relationship. She's a pleasure seeker and I'm more of a relaxed person. The thing even more messed up about the situation is that she's a recluse, meaning she likes to seek pleasure but from the comfort of her own home. We've spent $1,000's on electronics so she can have the perfect in home experience so she never has to leave the house except to go to work (I drive her to work). So essentially, she's an adult child. She doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to except go to work (school), then she can come home and make some food for herself to eat (there's enough for us to eat too) and then she can go about her day like normal... I can't imagine that I'm the only one married to an adult child who seeks pleasure all the time and ignores all morals and codes of conduct just so they can get their way and not have to deal with disappointment. What have you done to properly manage your spouses behavior? My mother suggests taking all of her power cords so she can't use her electronics, but that would be controlling in a bad way. How do you control them in a more positive and respectful way? Clearly if they aren't controlling themselves, nor are they seeking therapy, then someone has to control them for them... Don't answer you'd marry an adult child because that's BS. Adult kids are fun to have around for entertainment purposes; they make great company. Having an adult child as a spouse is indeed dysfunctional. But this is how sometimes people develop due to mental illness, too little structure, too little discipline, a childhood of abuse, being raped as a kid, you name it. And a lot of times, these illnesses emerge well after you got married. So the question isn't about if this is normal, because I understand (based on tabloids, magazines, internet, movies, and TV) this is not normal. But normal or not doesn't mean this doesn't happen.

I've been married, divorced, married and then widowed. I think taking a husband's name is a symbol of commitment. But if I got married again, how hard would it be to take back my maiden name, or even my mother's maiden name. I'm in Maine.

Real question. My wife and I are growing apart. That's the best way to put it. I want a life with finer things, she wants a life with more enjoyable things. I'm after quality, she's after quantity. I'm after serenity, she's after stimulation. I'm after class, she's after prestige. I'm after order, she's after rebellion. I'm after deeper knowledge, she's after acceptance... 14 years ago it wasn't this way though. Neither of us cared about it. All we wanted to do was have sex, watch movies, drink Mt. Dew, play video games, and have the childhood we were too sheltered to have as kids... Until recently, I didn't know what "respect" was until sheloves taught me. My wife used the word respect but she used it wrong; she wants me to respect her authority but not her as a person. And there you have it. ALL the reasons. And yet I'm here. Daily. Trying to figure out new angles. New viewpoints. New perspectives. New unknowns (see image - johari window)... And there everyone is, lining up to get divorced, and lining up to start their life over... I don't want to be like them. I want to prevail. I want us to succeed our differences. But I need something to function here. A flower to grow out in the desert. Something. But then you all bash me on here. Saying I'm crazy. It's futile. And I'm angry at you. You want me to quit. But I won't. Am I broken? Because that's what you all make me feel like, broken and mentally ill for trying anything to save my marriage.

My husband and I have 2 kids and we've been together about 6 years. Every time we have a big argument, he tells me he wants more wives, because he wants someone to make him happy when I upset him. Idiot. It hurts when he says this to me, and I cry and cry and he seems like he doesn't get what is wrong with that. Anyways, the last time we had that get brought up, I told him next time he tells me that I was done. And I didn't want to be with him, if he had that mentality. And today! He brought it up. I'm so upset, every time he says that.. it makes me feel less of a woman, like I'm just not enough for him. I don't know what to do.. he doesn't want to leave, and I love him so much. I would never want to share him. He says he loves me and wouldn't love anyone as much as he loves me, but I don't understand why I can't have a normal husband who just wants one wife. Or none. I don't know what to do, I know that we can get over it like we always do, and I tell him no. He can't have me if he wants some one else, and he usually doesn't talk about it again. But then months from now, I know hell bring it up again in a fight, not to mention, I feel very insecure about myself. I know I'll literally be telling him if he wants me and only me for the next few days. Which hell usually say yes to. I don't know.. I don't want to go through this so much.. it hurts.

I mentioned the word divorce to her around May to test to see if she'll agree. She cried then and said that she was blind sided because she thought I was happy with how things are going. However, it seems like everytime we fight, she tells me to just divorce her. Did I open Pandora's box? I love her still but I have a feeling she's serious about the divorce. luckily, she hasn't filed. What to do?

We never resolve our fights and can't ever apologize I want to get a job but he doesn't want to burden himself of having to drop off the children in the morning for school or to pick them up. Since I make less, he always assumes there's no point for me to go to work. He also dislikes my family and talk negative about them. He even calls my mom manipulative and he tells me I am the same. He gives me a set allowance and gets mad when I open the mail. I don't know how I endured 14 years when he even hit me so hard before. Are these all good reasons to divorce him?

Talk to anyone who got married before they turn 28 and they will tell you "they were fun and exciting and enjoyable to be around, so I married them". And since they married without structure (respect, trust, love, dignity, pride, honesty, loyalty, commitment, admiration, etc) the relationship just falls to crap until someone learns it and tries to teach the other one.... But what happens when one knows it, but the other one denies it? What's that like? Do you have a hard time showing respect to your wife or husband and then getting taken advantage of because they don't know how to reciprocate? I didn't think this needed MORE details but apparently it does...... If ONE person learns structure (Christian morals, 7 Grandfathers teachings, Social norms, etc) and the other person still wants to rebel against them and "just have fun", who ends up being the dominate lifestyle and what does it take to teach the fun lover how to be orderly and have structure in their life? To make sure this question isn't a "sweeping generalization" - I want to only call the people who grew up WITHOUT church and WITHOUT strong family values to answer this question. This question has completely derailed from what I wanted answered. Honestly, it is just one big drama fest. Everyone shut up and either tell me what to do when one person is structured and the other one isn't OR leave me alone. All this drama about where structure is learned is irrelevant.

I read an article recently (by a woman) that said that women initiate between 66 percent to 90 percent of all divorces. Some of the divorces are understandable, like if the husband cheats or if he beats his wife. But, some women get a divorce because their husband doesn't help with the baby or because he works too much. Here's my theory on why. Most people expect their partner to read their minds. But, they fail to realize that it's also their faults. Your other have has his own life with his own problems, and he can't always be catering to your every need. Especially if you don't tell him. What do you think? Please, don't argue about the statistic. It's well reported.

my husband & I are both 20 And we have a beautiful 9 month old daughter. He has a job that pays fairly good. $15/hr 6 days a week. But we're always broke. We're in debt actually. our daughter is our priority so she always has diapers and clothes and toys. Ive told him Ill work but he says no bc he wants me to stay with the baby Until she's little older. He's so immature and reckless, when we finally have some breathing room financially, he does stupid things like going to his sister's house during his work hours and gets a ticket. That's another payment that could've been avoided had he just been doing his job. His stupid sister also did some shopping with a credit card for their parents on his behalf. He never told me she payed with a credit card though. Who the fck goes on a shopping spree with a credit card? That's for emergencies. So when she had to pay it off she was blowing up his phone. It's things like that that stress me out so much and I feel helpless. It seems that instead of wanting us to do better he finds ways to bring us back down. I know id be better off if I was single, working, taking care of my daughter without his constant screw ups. We cant even afford to pay our phone bills, the reason I have one is bc my mom pays it. Its embarrassing. Ive talked to him about it and he doesnt understand, we always just end up arguing and being mad. and no I'm not selfish, just fed up bc I hate putting my daughter through unnecessary struggles that can easily be avoided.

Life is a game. We can argue about it all we want but it is a game. Money is a game of who has the most (does work without asking for work) is considered a celebrity. Careers are a game of who has the most knowledge (listened to lectures the most) is considered the most valuable person (regardless of actual worth). Even dating is a game of who has conformed the best to societal/biblical/cultural standards the most and meets all measures for "attractiveness" (spends all their money on self improvement). And my relationship started like one too. Here's how: My wife was actually only supposed to be a one night stand. I wasn't looking for a LTR at the time, even though we hit it off pretty well I wasn't willing to be convinced. When she called for a 2nd date I told her I was sick and played it off like I couldn't spend time with her. I then used the excuse she lived 2 hours away and I didn't want to drive that far. Eventually she convinced me through a lot of hard work and I drove up to see her on the very next day. This was 14 years ago, but clearly my wife ENJOYS the drama of a difficult challenge. Even today, my wife plays strategic games on her phone that takes an intense amount of resources and skills to beat her opponent. She believes in building up to godly levels and just plowing her competition. Army of 50? Take my 1,000,000 army mwah-ha-ha!!! So I think I want to make myself hard to get (without being an a**hole). But I need to know how to do this. Any ideas? Mind you, this isn't a definite plan. The point is, my wife is going to be drawn to me no matter what I do as long as I am a "bad boy" to her. There's some science to this. They say that detached parenting and attached parenting equally create independent children BUT a parenting style that did both will create chaos and dependence. Enter: my wife. And once someone chooses to identify with chaos that's how they live until therapy. So she's dependent, and the independence will drive her nuts!

If the sex life in marriage is non existent and the husband turns to porn and masturbation, why do some women get insecured, upset, jealous by this? Hurricain's answer actually makes sense; its better to listen to men for this question.

About a year ago my husband had an affair for 2 weeks. He ended up getting me pregnant and we got married. I found out he had gotten Chlamydia from her and gave it to me while I was pregnant. I went into preterm labor and almost lost my son. My husband is in the Navy and is gone for long periods of time. Im afraid he will cheat again. We still currently have Chlamydia and he is refusing to see a doctor because he doesnt believe he has it cause of having "no symptoms" but I have proof and have had it treated twice already. (This is the 3rd time hes given it to me not believing he has it) He desires other women and watches porn when we have sex not even looking at me when we do it. I feel I will never trust him again and I dont know what to do. We have a 3 month old baby

Would you nag him to go back to 100 percent availability to meeting your needs and fixing your problems? Or would you realize how you contributed to this change and respect his choice to be less available all while making changes in your life since he's not going to be there to burden with your problems any more? I'm hoping for the latter and not the former...

My husband lost his job/ quit on purpose long story. This happened two days ago so ive been trying so hard to put in applications for us both and he just keeps treating me like crap constantly making me cry telling me to leave he even punched me in the breast the other day bc i accidently hurt him. Hes being really verbally abusive idk wat to do it isnt like i have family to run to we have a kid too who has to go to school monday. I dont know what to do he just keeps being mean to me

I'm not going to sugar coat anything so spare me the negative backlash because you have to know the whole situation to place judgement on me. I have been married for 9 years. My marriage has been rocky for a while now. About two years ago, I noticed my husbands decline in sexual interest so I got on his phone and found massive amounts of pornography. Mostly of a girl that looked identical to his ex. It hurt me to the point that I felt betrayed, disgusted and blaming myself for something I knew I wasnt really my fault. I wasnt her. So that absent of love and affection led me to search for it in other places. I started talking to a guy that I went to high school with who showed me all the things I was missing. Love, affection, attention that I wanted from my husband. I fell out of love with my husband because I felt like he could never really love me for who I am. I stayed because even though he isnt the best husband, he is a great father and our kids love him, I just dont know if I can hold on any longer. My only concern is making them happy, even if I am not. I'm not sure what to do. I spend most the time depressed, anxious and dying just to start a new life where I can be happy. I was recently diagnosed with a brain cyst and its taken a lot out of me. My husband doesnt care, has never comforted me, the other guy has poured his heart and soul out to me. I'm stuck at a crossroad honestly and not sure which way to go.

I know most of you are in situations where your husband already does this and you want him to stop. But what if the opposite was true? What if the husband was always a sensitive, compassionate, and people pleasing pushover and he started not doing that? How might that change my relationship? My wife comes from a family where her dad was a narc that pushed his weight around all the time. So I made it a point to not be like him. But now I'm starting to think that me being a pushover is worse. If I started telling her what I want assertively (not aggressively) and not taking "no" for an answer; how might this affect my wife who gets easily bored when things are too easy? The irony of my situation is: 2010 I was an independent man who did what I wanted and I also respected her wishes. I backed down from this when she threatened divorce several times when she didn't like my behavior. I was stupid for not calling her bluff, but she knows my fears of divorce and used it against me. So I became a pushover and dominated. It's been a long adventure, but I'm finally at a point where I can resume where I left off.

He said he was going to put my head through a @#*! Wall if I said our son might have to quit football one more time. He has punched a hole through our bedroom door before.

So recently my wife noticed a friendship I have with a classmate at uni. I'm 32 and my wife is 29. No kids but together for seven years. In these seven years we have been through a lot. Anyway, last night my classmate called with her problems. Called me about 11:30pm. A bit late. My wife came storming out to the kitchen and swore down the phone. I went to the bedroom to find out what was going on and she grabbed my phone and started swearing at me. Smashed the phone and said that I'm obviously having sex with this other woman and asking me why she came to our house to pick me up and go for coffee. Admittedly the picking me up was a big mistake. But we were friends until last night when my wife told her to f off...so embarrassing. Thankfully she isn't going to take anything up with the Dean. I once again reiterated to her that she has really hurt me deeply because I have always been 100% true to her. She often laughs that off which is even more upsetting. My heart is always good and I just want the best. I work hard for the family and always do the right thing. Once again I noticed that my wife has found another young guy to try and sell property to. But her chat involves her meeting these guys wherever and taking them out. Tomorrow she is taking a young guy from a hotel to the beach and city. I'm wondering at what point does she begin to realise that even her 'professional' attitude is stepping over boundaries?So recently my wife noticed a friendship I have with a classmate at uni. I'm 32 and my wife is 29. No kids but together for seven years. In these seven years we have been through a lot. Anyway, last night my classmate called with her problems. Called me about 11:30pm. A bit late. My wife came storming out to the kitchen and swore down the phone. I went to the bedroom to find out what was going on and she grabbed my phone and started swearing at me. Smashed the phone and said that I'm obviously having sex with this other woman and asking me why she came to our house to pick me up and go for coffee. Admittedly the picking me up was a big mistake. But we were friends until last night when my wife told her to f off...so embarrassing. Thankfully she isn't going to take anything up with the Dean. I once again reiterated to her that she has really hurt me deeply because I have always been 100% true to her. She often laughs that off which is even more upsetting. My heart is always good and I just want the best. I work hard for the family and always do the right thing. Once again I noticed that my wife has found another young guy to try and sell property to. But her chat involves her meeting these guys wherever and taking them out. Tomorrow she is taking a young guy from a hotel to the beach and city. I'm wondering at what point does she begin to realise that even her 'professional' attitude is stepping over boundaries? I was even called an idiot and talked down to earlier. So my question is why should there be double standards? Why is it ok for her to ask out young guys as part of her job but it's not ok for me to socialise with women as part of my degree (I study nursing). I noticed that her eyes were lighting up at what seemed to be meeting these guys. We always lead separate lives so I'm not surprised by the mistrust. We never do anything together and I'm convinced that she doesn't enjoy my company. She loves her work as a real estate agent meeting lots of people. But she can't see how much that really hurt me. I was weak and was crying at one point last night as she threatened to leave and said I'm just a guy that likes to play around :( Yet I've been so dedicated to her and the marriage and worked so bloody hard at it. Many jobs and even trying to balance full time work and uni to pay all the bills. I had to drop subjects because it was too hard. Then last night she upset me so much that I couldn't sleep and spent the night having weird dreams and feeling traumatised. Just shaking and crying on and off to the point of exhaustion. So I had to drop 2 subjects and pull out of this semester completely :( Every time she doubts me or starts to call me names, I just feel like I'm rubbish to her and it hits me hard. I have looked at the medicine drawer a few times and thought about taking the pain meds to drift off. Fall asleep and my heart stops. But that's the easy way out. I just feel hurt that I'm being questioned and my good intentions are being ignored! I sometimes feel manipulated and controlled. I was just friends with this woman and a couple of others and suddenly it is the end of the world. I used to believe there were certain unspoken rules in relationships but I have found that as time goes on, I feel like she should be trusting me more and understanding my heart is more and more focused on good things like helping others. That is also the essence of nursing. But she sees other women as a threat and like I'm intentionally trying to play.

I am divorced and remarried. My new husband seems to be very insecure. When I ask him to do some task, after he has done it, he asked how he compared doing it to my ex husband Bill doing it. Not wanting to hurt his feelings or his ego, I always tell him he did it better than Bill. Most of the time this is not true. Bill was very good at a lot of things. My current husband has not met Bill and probably will not but they have mutual friends so he might find out sometime that what I have been telling him about his abilities as compared to Bill's is not true. Should I just start telling him the truth or just say I do not want to discuss my ex husband? I don't like to compare him to my ex husband. He has a lot of good qualities that Bill did not have and he should not be wanting me to compare him with my ex. I would like to forget about my ex husband and not think about him again. I NEVER mention my ex to my current husband. It is him that brings it up. Do you think he will ever get over this insecurity?

Okay. So I don't believe in temperaments. I don't. I am the proud caretaker of a Vizsla dog and she's supposed to be super energetic and a velcro dog but I just don't see it in her. Yes she's hyper at times, but all dogs are. And yes she likes to be around humans, but don't all animals? So, yeah, I'm indifferent and skeptical about the "absolutes" of this thing called "temperament"... But let's pretend it's real. Let's also pretend that men and women are different temperaments, as well as the region they came from... If women have a natural temperament to be scatterbrained, and a German region has a natural anger issue, and some other breed mixed into her is naturally a "busy worker who always needs to be doing something" then maybe I'm just not treating her the way that her temperament needs to be treated... All this time I've been trying to create serenity, calmness, and contentedness; but all this time she's been creating work, activity, and drama. Is this an example of temperament incompatibility? Anyways, so I was thinking- if her temperament is to be active and busy so her brain doesn't rapid think, maybe I'm not giving her enough to do. I mean, society keeps women busy with the makeup, outfits, shoes, and socializing; but my wife doesn't do any of that. She likes to "not waste time" on that. But she isn't spending her time on anything else! So if she needs to always be busy, and she isn't, then how do I create more work for her so she isn't always in her head? For the newbies -- She won't do therapy or counseling. Suggesting it is a waste of time and breath. Just work with our means and suggest something that might work. Any further questions will be about me and me only. I will ask how my behavior MIGHT affect my marriage; but this will be the last one that is about my wife directly. I say this because I know that after I figure out a way to keep her mind busy, my wife will be fully functional. The only reason I have problems now is because she's bored and she refuses to admit it (denial).

We are both separated. We used to see each other 18 years ago and recently reunited. We slept together and I promised to be there for her only to disappear on her. She sent me numerous texts on why I was ignoring her and I never responded. She even wished me a happy Father s day and I didn t respond. She has since stopped texting and even moved back to her country without saying goodbye. She had moved back here because her husband was beating her. I promised to be there for her, but ignored her after sleeping with her a couple of times. I even told her I loved her I avoided her because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and now she's gone. She never even told me off. SHE JUST LEFT. Was I wrong?

Ladies... What would you do if he says SEXlST things during interrcourse like: - women belong in the kitchen -women are good for only making babies/sex -the maIe sex is superior than femaIe BUT says romantic things during foreplay and after sex. Strangely doesn't kill mood during sex.... But of course causes anger! But he knows how to make forget after saying/ doing Sweet/ romantic things after sex? Is he showing his true colors?

So some guy i use to be friends with back in highschool in wisconsin. I live in michigan now. Messaged me on fb a night i was out with my bestfriend while i was in wisconsin visiting saying, "wth why didnt you tell me you were in town" i didnt see the message but my husband did and he screenshotted it and sent it to me while i was out. My husband got really insecure and everything. I dont talk to this guy anymore at all anywho me and my husband had an amazing night lastnight and this same guy messaged me again and called me siestie because i deleted him aftwr he messaged me the first time, however i didnt tell my husband he messaged me. My thought process was because i didnt want to ruin the night by telling him this guy keeps hitting me up. However my husband seen my phone before me and saw he messagesd me. I feel like a complete asshole for not telling him this guy messaged me because it really hurt my husband. What should i do? How can i make it up to my husband. We havent been on the best of terms and we just started to get back on the right track and i ****** it all up. Please.

I ve been married to my husband for 5 years. Before getting married he wanted to have sex a lot and showed lots of affection. Now I can t remember the last time he wanted to have sex. He never kisses or holds me anymore. The last time we had sex was the day after our anniversary because he was "too tired" on our actual anniversary and I had to initiate it a couple of times even then. I ve gone to bed completely naked and he won t make a move. When I mention this to him he tells me I m trying to change him so I obviously don t love him for him. What do I do?

Just trying to get some ideas since my wife and I are starting to be more affectionate after a long break since the kids have most of our attention.

I mean, what can we women really do, throw a tantrum and cause a scene?

My husband and I have been married for 10 years together for 17. He grew up a lot different than me and not in a good way. He had a very traumatic abusive child hood. I was cared for by a loving single mother with a dad that was somewhat in the picture. There has been a lot of things brought up and conflict in his family. Normally he and I can talk about anything. Lately he talks about how he has so much going on in his head that he can't handle any conflict that arises in our household. I told him that he should talk to me about what's going on. He says he'll figure it out........Why won't he talk to me about this....He's talked to me about EVERYTHING else! Any advice would be appreciated! Thank You!!

That's the case here: I haven't decided yet, actually if anything I'm against getting married. She told me her major concerns is that my finances are not in check (according to her). Her demands are: She wants to fly once a year somewhere far "New York" or somewhere, but only business class. We live 17 hours away by flight. I've searched up the cost of these flights, and it costs approx $10K for the flights. On top of that, I have to pay for the hotel accommodation. I earn currently $4K a month, but with marriage I'd be left with $1500 per month. So saving up all that money is a hassle. I don't think she is willing to compromise either and those are her demands. She comes from a well off family and her dad has spoiled her to the point where she has never used any of her money to pay for anything. Is it time to break-up and move on respectfully? I have told her and been honest about my financial situation. I told her that I need a week to think about this "request" of yours. She believes that her salary is her salary, and in marriage it should be left untouched, and she should never have to dip in anything. I said OK, well anyway the rent is on me, but I wasn't cool with the business class flights, which are financially draining to me. IS it even fair that I have to save up money like a little kid putting his money in a piggy bank?

Nowadays many young couples will live together before they are getting married. They hold the ideas of having a trial marriage, or sharing rent, or just enjoying sex. If they think that they are not suitable for each other then they can leave without any worries like splitting their property or something like that. They will not try to bear each other and learn to forgive each others shortcomings. Even though those who get married are now more prone to get divorced for trivialities they cannot stand.

So i was working in a factory & ended up sleeping with a co worker in my car after work one night in the parking lot. Long story short, i went home & my wife was driving my truck & found a used condom under the seat. She badgered me about it for hrs & i confessed reluctantly because i didn't wanna deal with her temper. Fast forward three weeks later, a sheriff shows up and puts me out because my wife went to court & had a judge order me out. I'm forced to live with the coworker cuz my family doesn't want anything to do with this situation. I'm finding out things about this woman i would've never guessed. She's a terrible alcohokic & bad housekeeper. She never cooks for her kids, never cleans. Won't pay rent on time. Has roaches. The apartment stinks like ****. She has trash in every room & the first thing she does after work is drink directly from the bottle. Her hygiene is horrible. Her kids are always crying. She is always fighting her family, neighbors, everybody. She took a bat to a neighbor's car cuz they were in her space. And her apartment is nasty and it stinks so bad. She has raggedy crappy furniture and all she do is smoke weed. She crashed my car and we got into a fight at work about it. I just want my wife and kids back mim sad and deoressed. Help pls

Then why do I see alot of couples married with children and they are still together? I work as a cashier for a local pharmacy retailer and I always see happy couples and families and most definately happy individuals as well, but I also see happy families.

don't blame God this is all your fault I just mumbled something and went into another room till I calmed down

My husband and I have been married for 10 years together for 17. He grew up a lot different than me and not in a good way. He had a very traumatic abusive child hood. I was cared for by a loving single mother with a dad that was somewhat in the picture. There has been a lot of things brought up and conflict in his family. Normally he and I can talk about anything. Lately he talks about how he has so much going on in his head that he can't handle any conflict that arises in our household. I told him that he should talk to me about what's going on. He says he'll figure it out........Why won't he talk to me about this....He's talked to me about EVERYTHING else! Any advice would be appreciated! Thank You!!

I am in a happier place now with my husband. But yesterday, it was the birthday of my ex special friend. I found myself grieving for the loss of our friendship. I know I shouldn't think about him but there was something about yesterday that reminded me of the pain. I saw one of my old friends and he casually mentioned that my special friend still comes around. I was happy to hear about him but also became sad. I don't want to see him again because relieving our memories together just hurt. Like I said, I love my husband; but after so many years, why is it that my special friend affect me the way he does. How can I truly get over him? Help! It's been 3 years :-( .