We signed the paternity acknowledgement form at the hospital, the hospital has record we both signed it - tho my ex never sent the form in and now won't sign a new one. She is getting married in September. I have no legal rights or anything yet, when they marry can her husband legally adopt my son or change his name without my consent?! :'(

a) what people think marriage means. b) how marriage benefits women and men unequally. c) the consequences of marriage for the operation of society. d) how can we help people find more pleasure in their marriages.

i met my first boyfriend at 20. We are still together. It's been a little over 4 years. We've had an amazing 4 years! We've shared hundreds of amazing moments and times together. Seriously. But my problem is that I have this inexpiable feeling deep inside that tells me he isn't "the one". I do not feel the same way about him. i feel like i want someone else for my life. someone who shares more interests with me, and who is more affectionate and selfless. i love him so much, but i don't see myself deeply happy if i stay with him the rest of my life. i will miss him tremendously if i leave him, but it's almost like i know that i need to.. what do i do? thank you for reading and answering.

This is my story, sex before marriage was great, but one week after we married he seemed like he didnt want it anymore and rejected me, then we would do it once a month, i thought that was ok cuz it made it more special...but with the time three months would pass, I avoided at all cost thinking about it I deprived myself of my desires, started masturbating a lot, i would be patient...I started doubting if my husband was gay or was with another woman...i did talk to him but he would not change, I got tired and cheated on him, I felt so bad and thought i could fix it but now I dont want sex with him, i think of another guy but him, I feel so bad I can get myself to wanna hve sex with him even if he asked me i would feel like being raped.

Of course someone who shouts might not mean to be, but sometimes hearing a female shout can really ruin the vibe in a relationship. So men, how do you deal with a wife/girlfriend who acts bitchy when she allegedly doesn't mean to be?

do you have to actually go in person to court to get a divorce? what the procedure to not going to court?

I ve been with my husband for 10 years now and he has always been a great support for me and I for him. We ve never said "you can t do it" and always found a way to make our decisions work. But lately i have been having so much trouble supporting him through never ending business ideas. I supported him changing jobs 3 times, moving away from family for work, leaving me for 6 months ao he work interstate, taking on a fly on fly out job and only coming home 1 week a month and which he started 2 days after our wedding, taking time off to study and last year he took 3 months off to work on a farm so he could earn 10s of 1000s of dollars (we barely made it through). Now he wants to go back to the farm work as a contractor so he can earn "more" and taking more time off work. He also wants to start buying building supplies so in 5 years time so he build a house without paying for materials or labour. He has 0 building experience and I had to fix our fence because he had no idea. He keeps talking about opening a business but doesn t know what and his idea changes daily. It s really hard to keep being supportive when I just want to tell him to stop thinking of crazy ideas that will never happen and be thankful you have a good job that pays the bills comfortably. We ve often been in hard positions because of his "ideas" and now we are good financially I don t want him atuffing it up. What can i do?

If he's a good husband, hard work, doesn't drink, smoke, college educated, does most of the cooking, dishes, mows lawn, majority of childcare, never goes out and not abusive..kinda caters to wife but she still refuses him? Opinions?

I feel a little unhappy in my marriage. I've had to become the breadwinner at age 26 when my husbands illness became too bad. He's 61 now and I'm 35. It's been a tough 9 years and the past three years since having triplets has strained our sex life. For me, it means I don't want it at all... But not only that, I'm no longer sexually attracted to him. He, however, wants it every night. I've literally not slept through 1 single night in 3 years because I think his meds make him hiring every morning and he wakes me up. A week ago I told him I'm so angry and tired I don't want him to touch me. He finally laid off but not completely. The thing us, I love him but I don't feel like I can have sex anymore. There's slso somine else I do love, but I've not crossed that line. I feel sexual but not with my husband. And, we can't divirce it would be awful especially in our orthodox community. Especially when I am the only one who can support him and our family. Also, I know he loves me and he's a great father. I just struggle because I want something else, something normal, and the pressure of everything is getting to me. What do I do? :( I asked the rabbi to give me a counselor or psychologist but my husband was upset and didn't see the need for me to see one. Also, we've never had oral in the entire 12 years we've known each other. I want more. I don't know....

I am separated from my wife. She filed for divorce but has not been actively pursuing it, mainly because she likes the current financial relationship. We live apart and I have hoped for reconciliation. She has begun sleeping with my 12 year old son s hockey coach. It is not really a secret and my son knows something is up. Any thoughts on what I should do with this? I can accelerate the divorce obviously but any thoughts on whether this is appropriate behavior on her part and whether I should make a point of this as part of the divorce?

The young adult leaders at our church accused my husband of staring at the wife leader all night long, which made them uncomfortable. Trouble is: my husband wasn't looking at this woman and isnt remotely interested in her. Why would the husband confront my husband about something like this that never happened? I actually caught the husband checking ME out at their house (we went there for a dinner party). My family thinks the wife saw him talking to me and got insecure and made this whole thing up (telling her husband my hubby was staring) He claims EVERYONE at the party mentioned it to him but when we called a female friend who was there, she said she noticed NOTHING. The accuser (husband) also claimed he never actually saw my husband lookin at his wife but "she mentioned it" and therefore it must be gospel. M My husband tends to stare off into space and day dream. He explained this to the man but he wasnt buying it. He is convinced that my husband is hot after his wife (who really isnt that pretty btw) and that he knows and everyone else knows that his wife is one of the hottest women in the church!

This question was intended to bait swbarnes to answer with FACTS that she gets claiming exist but she can't produce any so.... Best answer goes to anyone who lists something that is believable and you have a reason to believe these are FACTS.

we have been married for allmost three years, we dont have kids because i am not fertile, i am a honest man i have loved her since high school and i still love her i cant imagine my life without her, I am trying my best to show her as much love as possible and keep her happy but i cant take it anymore, her jealousey is making me crazy, i cant even go outside with my friends to make some fun because she thinks that we will flirt with women or go to stripclubs where i have never been to, and if i go out with my friends it is always for a glass of beer or bbq, i try my best to conveince her that i am not cheating and never will, but my wife is too insecure about this, and she also has called me bad names because of that, the last months she has made it worse, she goes everywhere with me to make sure that i dont flirt or look at other women, she checks my phone and laptop daily, that other day we went together to a hairdresser's where there was a female hairdresser, when the hairdresser was cutting my hair and touching my head my wife gave me a dirty look, and when we came to home she was angry at me. and the other day we went to a restaurant where there were only female workers, as the waitress came to us she smilled at me i smilled back to her because i thought this was normal this what they are suposed to do anyways when i wanted to have sex with her that day she told me that i should f*** with that whore waitress and she went to sleep, i dont know what to do i cant live like this but i also dont want to lose her can someone plzz give some advice except divorce

My husband & I have been together since high school but have been officially married since 2012 (we are in our early 20s now). We have a beautiful little girl and got married right after I had her because our families said that's what's best & we loved each other for so long. But a couple years ago hubby moved to another country for work to make a better life for us but I had to stay behind because my documents weren't in order. Since moving, he seems to be giving up on our marriage, he has been in a relationship with another girl for over a year now and it's killing me :( I love my husband very much & I want to stand and fight for our marriage! But it is difficult because we live in 2 different countries and his family that he lives with supports him having this mistress girlfriend. I wish she would understand that he is MY husband and we belong together, and I do NOT want her to be a mother to MY daughter even tho she is close with my child. My husband is confused, he will tell me one week that he'll come back & give me another chance, but then the next week he will be back with his gf & tell me to move on from him. But I just don't know if I can, I love him way too much to let him go. He isn't perfect, he's been sleeping with other women while we're together, but I know God intended us to be together. Am I right in continuing to fight for my marriage? Even when everyone tells me it's over? And my husbands mistress knows he is married! She found out a while ago but still continues to see him! I have tried to contact friends of hers to let them know how upset I am, and tell them my story but even if they pass a message along to her, she never wants to talk to me. I just want to explain to her how much my husband means to me and WE NEED to be together for our DAUGHTER, and because we promised our love in front of GOD It's easy for people to say get a divorce because he's cheating on me and hasn't come back, but why has he told me on separate occasions that he will give us another chance? And he hasn't filed for divorce yet...

All I do now a days is thing about my wife having sex with another man. She s not but I think about men just coming over to the house and having their way with her. In these thoughts she is consenting to this and I am aware but is it bad to only be able to get turned on by these thoughts? Also I have not been having the drive or the want to have sex with my wife. These thoughts are the only thing that can get me in the mood

Hello, my husband and I have been married for 2 years he's 26 and I'm 24. No kids yet. We have sex once a day.. but I want more. And most of the time he doesn't. He says he's too tired from working all day (he owns a car restoration business). He comes home dirty and greasy and it turns me on so much (which doesn't make my situation easier) and yes I know that's kinda weird. We've had arguments about it. We haven't had sex more than once a day since before we were married. He told me I have a libido of a man, which sounds about right. It makes me a little insecure about my body and how maybe I'm not sexy enough for him to want me all the time? Stereotypical woman thoughts I know. I hate feeling like that. But wouldn't a man think it's awesome that their wife wants sex a lot? I hear all the time about how some wives deny their husbands sex and it gets the man frustrated. I'm over here practically begging for more sex! I bought some new sexy lingerie and stripper heels that I'm hoping will work some magic on him. Also I would never in my life EVER cheat, I'm not that type of person. I'm also not one to give up on a marriage either. I love him heart, mind, and soul. Is this sex crazed behavior in women not attractive to men? Am I too selfish? Do I have a serious problem? Perhaps our sex once a day has become too much of a a routine? And has taken the spontaneity and fun out of sex for him?

I was injured in an accident about 6 weeks ago, off work alot of the time recovering. My wife did try to help me at first, and I will admit I was in alot of physical pain, on pain medications, and very frustrated by my situation (inability to work, drive, get in and out of the shower by myself etc) I'm sure I was not appreciative of the things she did for me during this time, at least in a way that she saw as appreciative. Throughout our marrage she has not always heard what I say. I'm not good at using tone/ inflection when I say things, so she frequently hears meaning in what I say that honestly just isn't there. At some point she decided I'm just an ingrateful jerk, and decided to blow me off entirely. I'm trying to get back to work 3 days a week now, but we live 30 minutes of hard commute from my office. I've been getting rides from other coworkers when I can, but sometimes I need her to drop me off at the office. She hates it, and thinks I am unappreciative and think that she HAS to do this because we are married. I say thank you, but my gratitude falls on deaf ears. I sent flowers to her office, and she said I only did it to make myself look good to her coworkers. That's what I'm dealing with. I want so much to get back to the life we had before, but it's a long road. Everything I do is percieved as a shallow meaningless attempt to get back into her good graces. Is there anything I can do to make things between us better?

This morning she woke up me with her voice. She said ,"you never take me out somewhere nice. I want to go out on a nice dinner" with an ugly tone while dressing up to go to work, " You just spend time with your homies". I was confused. I didn t know why she all of sudden was talking ugly to me or thinking in such manner. I was asleep. I did not do anything? I thought maybe I was a horrible husband. But I recall taking her out after past Friday to a nice bar/ restaurant and we had dinner together. Also a week ago we went on a 3 day vacation and went to the mall, had dinner, took her to a water theme park. It feels that she constantly nagging and complaining despite what I do to shut her up. I don t like to hear her nagging. She gets really ugly. She will start humiliating me. I just lost my job, I have few hundreds to help us until the end of the month and then I m getting my final salary for that month. It should be enough for a month and half. I expect to find any job during this time until I find a decent job again. Rather being understanding, she keeps wanting to argue. My close two friends found out about me losing my job and came to check on me yesterday. I was trying to cheer up the situation and asked my friend about how things are with his new gf. after they left, my wife began talking **** about my friend and his new gf because she is "white" and young. I told her it is non of her business who he dates. The girl is 20 and my friend is 24. She began mocking my part 2. She began mocking my friend. Then she switched to talk **** about my own brother. He is 37, and his fiance is 24. There is a big age gap, but they love each other. My brother is a good hearted man. He works at the oil field for two weeks and gets off for a week. during that time he likes to take trips to different cities or states with his fiance. He posts about it on facebook. My wife goes on facebook every night before bed, then she starts talking **** about them. She says, part3. She asked me if this is what my brother will be doing for the rest of his life? take trips with his fiance. I told her that I don't know and I don't care. It feels like she is comparing me to my brother and other people. Prior marriage, she barely had food in the fridge or was able keep up with her loans and payments. I helped her so much financially. We have food, internet, television, a car, and a decent home. We are not doing great financially, saving wise, but we're stable. part4. But I feel I'll never be able to save. She found out that I began saving. I have $500 saved, and I noticed this month she did not contribute at all toward the house, beside just paying not even half the rent. Then she goes behind my back and takes $300 loan to blow out. She knows we're going through unstable period due to me losing my job, and she decides to sign our step child for basket ball and some art class. Two weeks ago, my oil field brother came to visit my town with his fiance. part 4. Last time I saw my brother was like 6 months ago. My wife never met his fiance, but I met her once like a year ago. He stayed only for Friday and Saturday. My wife and I hanged out with my bro and his fiance on friday. On saturday, my brother's friends had a get together to say bye to him, it was at 10 PM. they usually cook, and drink beer. Just what graduate PhD students do. non of them have children. my wife was mad that day on saturday because she felt that one of the girls told her part 5. told her not to bring our step daughter, and find a sitter. My wife took it in the wrong way. I explained to her that it is a grown ups thing. You don't want to bring a child in an environment where people are drinking, maybe smoking pot, and discussing adult topics. That's what grad students talk about, Politics, Religion, and etc. I told her that we should find a baby sitter for our step child. She took it in a negative way and began telling me That she will spend time with her own daughter. she don't give an F about those people. They don't try to include her into anything. nobody ever tries to include her into their life. I was like woah. what do you mean include you into their life? You can't force to be a part of people life. We worry about our own life, not others. We can hang out and socialize with other people, but does not mean we have to be up their butt. like wtf. I thought she was over reacting. I feel she has split personality or is narcissistic. She said, "well my friend does it, every one drinks and have good time while kids play". I told her it is not my fault they don't have children. They're college students. I just graduated from college and majority of my friends don't have children. Beside every time I try to introduce her to a friend, she will always have something negative and hateful to say about them. Also i told her family are wrong for drinking and smoking weed in front of children. You cannot supervise a child while you're drunk or high. She began attacking me for saying that. She said that I always do "my own thing" and to go have fun with the girls there. I told her I'm going there to see my brother, and not to go mess around with other females. It is not my fault that there are females going to be there. There is nothing wrong to have fun as in socialize and meet new people.

my hubby 10 years ago had a one night stand with a hooker. he told me and out of pity i took him to hospital and stayed. then he became sick for 3 years...i helped him a lot...tthe he became mental patient..he moved out to next room and kept to himself...i was tolerant but he was abusive..he called me names..sexually tortured me and hit me,,,still i stayed...then i started talking to a man who was so nice to me...then i ended it coz i didnot want to ruin my marriage...then after 2 years after that a lady tried to kill me..found out my hubby was having affair with her...still i did not leave him...the psycho lady left...recently my hubby found out about my breif affair with the man...now he is very angry and is cursing me...what to do? pls advice without divorce...

So recently I found out that my husband ( 42 years old) had been with 18 year old college prostitutes that need the money badly to pay for college, he would go online and scope out young teen girls for sex and hire them. Eventually he stopped when he got an std ( condom broke) and then he met me. He NEVER told me about this, kept that to himself, I would think it a bit pervy he would be eyeing up teens in public and trying to hear their conversations, etc. But he was good to me as a partner so I let it slide. We got married last month, all has been fairly good until, I found out he would take advantage of some young girl barely out of high school who is looking for money to pay for college. Clearly these young girls don't want to do stuff like that, so I find it disgusting that he paid for this. I feel dirty that I had sex with him now. I feel I wasted my time with him. How can I cope with this ? I didn't know he had gotten an std from one of the prostitutes, he just now told me when I confronted him, to which he thinks he did nothing wrong by keeping this to himself because he says he did this a while back and it's history. I found out when he left his emails open on our office shared computer. @ Meow... but my issue is that I feel sleazy for having had sex with a guy that would do that. Seems perverted and wrong.

I have no idea why he likes too. He says its his way of having fun and kidding around with me but he know that I don't like it. It doesn't make any sense to me. He'll say and do things that he knows I don't like and keeps going till I get really mad and start crying. Then he apologizes and feels bad. But this happens all the time yall. I'm so tired of it and I'm starting to resent him. It literally makes no sense to me why he does that bc I would never make him mad on purpose. ugh!

When I married my husband he was 5'7" 175 lb body builder now he is about 300. He's never like wearing clothes and wear the absolute minimum. He often goes out into public shirtless. Since he got so big I told him he must at least wear a shirt because no one wants to see his business so now at best he wears a shirt unbuttoned. He talks to the neighbor kids either shirtless or bear chested, even to the girls. He says he is legal and its what people see at the beach but his big moobs jiggle when he walks and one neighbor even told me he doesn't like this. I told him I will pass it on but he should confront him not me I'm not doing it. Extra question do you think a 50 year old man should be talking to young kids especially girls wearing nothing but boxers? I'm glad you feel the same way as me. But my question is how to get it through to him. I have talked to him about it and people have confrronted me on this instead of him for some reason. And Thanks but this isn't about becoming co--dependant.

Whats something you have tried that spiced things up? Role playing? Dressing sexy? Dirty talk?

I love her like no other. Her point is she wishes i would ve done this on my own to show her my compassion for her loss in so that as she took her loss, i would also have chosen to bring a loss for myself showing ultimate oneness/unity that I ve always preached. Honestly i understand that logic bc that s is how much love i have for her. But i didn t think of that on my own. My perspective is i didnt want kids with anyone else bc i don t expect it and if i were to be seperated from her I d get a vasectomy bc i really don t want kids. But for her to tell me to have a procedure i really didn t want in the first place and threaten divorce, i just don t get it. I get her point but it didn t think like that after her hysterectomy. That doesn t make me less of a loving husband. Is she right with her belief and ultimatum?

Last night, I rode him so good, I was on top and opened my eyes and he was smiling ear to ear, just really enjoying it. He said I was giving him chills. He got off. Two hours later, he got out of bed, went to his computer, looked at porn, and jacked off. He gets himself off in less than a minute and takes a while with me. Sometimes he takes so long that we just end up stopping because we're both dying. But why would he go look at porn and jack off after our amazing sex, instead of having sex with me again? Sometimes if I go to sleep earlier than him, he'll jack off and not have sex with me that day. But he knows I am literally ALWAYS horny. He says I'm the horniest person he's ever met. He knows he can come wake me up, and that I'm hornier when he wakes me for sex! Lol. Last night, after we had sex, I was talking about how I couldn't wait till "Round 2," but then he jacked off...

Only married 6 months but we've been together 4 years. He's turned sour towords me . He's always arguing with me fighting over stupid stuff but gets so angry he shouts at me..tells me to go away or fu*k off etc. We were watching tv last night and i tryed to you no ... vet him going . He went mad ' leave me alone I'm not in the mood! !!!' He is always in the mood. I felt rejected. .also I kinda dressed up ..stockings. . Heels. .I felt embarrassed. Even trying to give him kisses he pulled away and said ' stop being in my face!!!'didn't kiss me goodnight or say goodnight. .He always dose. He's literally stuck to his phone. .never let's me see it. Brings it everywhere with him. He's always texting on ' whatsapp ' and I seen a picture of a girl last night and i said who is that ? Very camly now .. and he went crazy!!!!! Shouting screaming. .telling me to grow up im childish. .He said its a group chat with his coworkers and one girl put a picture of herself as the groups wallpaper? I find that kinda...stupid. he's very off today ..not speaking much..I asked him if he liked to go out ...he keeps saying ' dunno if u want ' or has some excuse . I'm very upset :( what's going on ????

and isnt the first time : ( Been about a month now ....ever been in that situation It was a financial issue he had a debt with discover that was going to take him to court and was served papers and not only did he not tell me about the papers being served he asks his mom for help to pay it and doesnt tell me about that. He says he was tring to protect me and jsut wanted it to go away. He lied straight to my face and his mom too. I just knew in my gut something was wrong so he finally told me and have talked ab out it with him but still on the fence about how I feel. Will it get better as time passes as long as he doesnt do it again? Can a person earn trust back ? I dont like feeling this way at all

I've been very confused about my sexuality and my emotions lately. I realized, the only people I fall in love with are other men, I also get Turned on by men sometimes, but I am sort of attracted to women, I have jerked off to women before, and sexuality is what really matters, not our emotions, so even though I don't have an emotional attraction to women, can I have girlfriends and eventually a wife simply based on sex? It sounds like something I can do since marriage is for procreation. I also don't really want to live life as a gay man because I'm a devout Protestant Christian, and anal sex sounds really painful, so I'd rather be straight and have a wife with children, can I do that without being in love with my wife?

Short re-cap: AM is a website that encourages married coupled to have an affair, promising anonymity and discretion. I was disgusted by that website from the very first time I heard about it. It's hard to believe that some people value making a buck in exchange for intentionally ruining sacred vows of commitment and marriage. Then I heard about the hackers who exposed them and I could not be happier, because those hackers did America a public service. They sent a message to everyone who thought it was okay to fck their vows. Personally, I'm not married. But I can certainly appreciate the notion of marriage, the notion of the commitment you voluntarily make. Ashley madison chose to make money off of abusing that notion, and now, they're getting their just desserts. I truly hope they're left bankrupt after all of the class action lawsuits are settled.

I am not great with words. I have social issues and am not sure how to bring up complex or what could be seen as a fault to someone. My husband seems to not get excited for me. he seems to be completely excited for his crush. but not me. He is in pretty good health and doesn't have ED in his early 30's. He has gone soft 2 times he knows as we mentioned it and he blamed the pets or loud noises out side. I know talking about the penis can be very sensitive subject. I do think it boils down to the crush. so my question do i bring this up to him? if i should bring this up how do i bring it up what words when do i bring this up. i was thinking of saying so i know your crushing on so in so (we talk) and I know she gets you excited. me not so much lately what's up? I did ask this before but maybe i worded it wrong for the one track minded people. I love the answers I did get and would like a few more.

I was at a small house gathering type of thing with a friend of mine. The guys stepped outside to talk. In the blink of an eye, her man left his phone on the coffee table. She asked me to stand by the door and watch as she looked through his phone. She found sexual texts from other women, lots of female contacts that she didn't know, all of their pictures saved etc BUT SHE DIDN'T LEAVE HIM. I wonder what was the point of having me stand by the door like that. SMH