While we were dating he never asked for anal nor talked about it and we had sex a lot. Now 6 years later here recently he has talked about anal sex more and more and keeps wanting me to let him do it even though I keep refusing. (I ve tried it once in the past with him and it hurt too bad and it s not at all pleasurable for me) Ive also noticed recently that he looks at other women out in public and will talk about women on tvs boobs and butts. When I question him about why he s looking at other women he says its just a guy thing. He also stays on his phone constantly as soon as he comes in from work watching YouTube videos or browsing through Facebook or he ll just lay around. We hardly talk, I try to talk to him but he doesn t really listen he s always been like that though. I don t really think that he s cheating as he always comes in for work at the correct time he s supposed to and I don t see any strange numbers on his phone records or on his social media so can anymore give me some insight on what s going on with him? I d like him to just tell me the truth but obviously that s never going to happen. Thanks so much for taking the time to read this.

A neighbor of ours found out about the affair. He will tell her husband and humiliate us if we do not do as he says.

This woman's husband told me I better stop contacting his wife or he is reporting me to the police and he said I kept harassing her when I wasn't. She actually texted me and talked to me first. What do I do in this case?

Me and wife are getting ready to go to bed it's almost midnight she's starting to cry. She's 13 weeks pregnant with our first baby. How can I help her feel better ?

Please settle this argument for me. I have been happily lifting for 4 years and it gives me enjoyment and a feeling of relaxation when I do it. I put my tunes on and go. The husband is under the impression that l will eventually look like a man, and he refuses to believe me when I tell him I don t have the testosterone to look like a man. In fact, he thinks I do and should get my bloodwork done. I am not about to waste a trip and money to go get my doc to order labwork. So far, I happy with my results from lifting, and even better than that, my mental state feels so much better. He has always saidI overdo it but it is just 50-65 minutes 3 times a week, different muscle groups being worked on each of the days. I also do a small amount of running, but I don t go very far because it is not that enjoyable for me. I do it for pace, and then I participate in an occasional 5K. Please help me educate my spouse on the whole lifting process, because I have been accused of being a man too many times by him! Thank you!

Is 3 times a lot?

For auto insurance can i file married if im living with my BOYFRIEND and/or PARTNER and they dont give me an option for DOMESTIC PARTNER?????????

I'm divorced and decided to keep my married last name as my professional certifications have it on them and it kept me matching my daughter's last name. I am expecting a baby with a different man. Can I give the baby my married last name? The father does not want to be a part of the baby's life aside from paying child support. It seems awkward to use my maiden name.

I've been seeing him for a long time and I turned 18 a couple days ago. We went out for dinner and he told me he's willing to leave his wife for me. They've been together for 10 years. He told me he loved me and we could get a house together or we could live together at his current home. I'm not really concerned about his wife but I'm worried about his son. He's 8 years old and I think he should have his father in his life. I want me and him to raise him but I don't know what his wife would think about that.

My wife gave birth to our 2nd child a week ago. Since she will be on maternity leave we will be short on money. We already struggled enough while we both worked, one income less will be even harder.my wife is taking 3 or 4 months off and I'm ok with that because she shouldn't rush to go back to work. she needs to rest and my son needs alot of attention. So I know I need to get a supplemental job. I've found a couple that will suit just fine but she has been against both of them. She doesn't like that I'll be out of the house almost the whole day 5 days a week. She argues she needs help with the baby and she needs rest. Her mom lives next door I argue she can just ask her mom to watch the kids a couple hours while she rests. I know that in a perfect world, I should be there helping her with everything and money shouldn't be a problem, but that's not the case. I wish I could be with her and my kids all day but I needs to make ends meet.

I love live in Jacksonville Florida. My wife and I are getting divorced. I m moving into one of our spare bedrooms for the time being. Can she legally kick me out of the house or does she have to evict Me?

What was the main reason why you called it quits besides infidelity, physical abuse and drug abuse.

1. My husband refused to go to counseling until our marriage got so bad that when he finally did go to counseling we made it through one session until the next week he decided he was done. 2. We both are pretty unhealthy people emotionally but we knew that going into our marriage and he promised me that he would never leave me even when I laid out all of my issues out on the table for him. 3. For about three weeks I have been begging him to work on the marriage and to not divorce me but he keeps saying that nothing will change his mind and he is tired of making me unhappy he is tired of being a source of pain and he just wants to forget it and move on. 4. I really believe this man is the love of my life and I have a problem with pushing away good people especially romantically. he still takes care of me and he still says I can live with him even after the divorce for a while so I can financially get back on my feet. I've been trying to be friends with him as he requested but it's just so painful. He continues to go about everything as if everything was fine and treats me like a buddy now instead of his wife. 5. He still treats me with respect he still does nice things for me he says we can't be romantically involved anymore because it just hurts both of us and that he wishes the best for me. Can a marriage recover from this? should I give up on him or try to get myself anger counseling and show him we can be healthy together?

I don't care about what other people might think or say about me if i marry a younger girl ( 20 years gap ). What i care about is how things will be at home together. Im also planning on having a kid or two with her asap. She has the maturity of most 20 year old girl and she studies at university.

My wife and I have been married 4 years. Whenever I tell her I'm going to hang out with my friends on a particular day, she just tells me to have fun. Well while I'm out, I get no text or call from her, nothing. When I asked her last night why she doesn't seem to care she just said, "am I supposed to keep tabs on my husband 24/7? You told me that you'd be in late and that's all I need to know." I'm wondering if she's cheating. Should I start going through her phone?

My pregnant wife (6 months) believes that I'm putting work before family. I've had to work the last two Saturdays, and was asked to work again this Saturday. It's not my regular boss. All 3 of these jobs have been side jobs, completely separate from my regular, FT job. Wifey believes that I'm just agreeing to go to get away from her and the kids. We've had a rough year, since I've only been getting half of my usual paycheck. She has been studying for her management license (she works in property management). There's a great opportunity coming available that she would like to apply for. The manager for a building just two buildings away from where she works is looking to hire a replacement for when she retires. The timing isn't ideal, but this is the first opportunity she's heard of in that area that she feels would be a great starting point as a property manager. We got into an argument where she told me, "You don't HAVE to go work, you WANT to. There's a difference." She told me that she needs to be able to go to the library on Saturdays to study. We have twins (3 years old) who make it impossible for her to get any quiet time at home to finish the course. I already gave the guy who set up the job my word, but wifey's super bitching about that too. She said that I have no problem with helping everyone else, but when it comes to her, it's like I tell her to F off or something. This is only temporary, and I feel that I should work extra jobs when they're available. She demanded that I find a sitter since I'm so eager to work again for a least a few hours to give her some time to study, but in my opinion that's just defeating the purpose of going to work. She's says I'm on the one who pushed into going for her license NOW. Even though she said she's in no rush; that she wanted to wait to see if her boss will retire in 2 years, which he's thinking of doing...she can apply for his position, since she already knows the building and residents. What difference does it make if she's able to study this weekend or waits until next weekend? A week isn't going to make that much difference. And besides, while it is a great opportunity, that doesn't mean they will work around her having a baby. But she feels that if she can apply, then she has a good chance since she knows the city and their rules. But she knows they won't even consider her application unless she's finished the course. vivienne: I'm sorry, but your response is full of sh*t. Not everyone can stay up til 1 AM studying after working a FT job, then dealing twin 3 year olds. Of course, everything is on the internet, these days. But that wouldn't solve the problem of the kids interrupting every 2 seconds. And what does YOUR exercise schedule have to do with ANY of this? She only suggested the library since she thought I would be able to be home with the kids. She feels that a 4 commute (roundtrip) doesn't justify the income from the side job. It's a different job site this time, but still a bit of a commute (less than half of the last two weeks). This has always been a problem for her. First it was because I didn't communicate with her when I had to work, now it's that I choose to work when she has things she needs to do.

I have recently become aware that my wife has been emailing a priest friend of hers asking for advice regarding some of our issues. I wouldn t have had a problem with it if she let had me know beforehand that she wanted to seek advice, but since the information shared is about very personal things/events (and I accidentally found out, not because she told me) I feel like she s gone behind my back. Am I right in thinking there s been a break of trust? She doesn t feel she s done anything wrong as he is a priest and someone she considers a trusted advisor.

I share children with my ex wife who has since remarried. If I'm scheduled to take my kids to dinner that evening I will call her in the afternoon and ask her what the kids decided on for dinner and what why want to eat and how things are going etc. she told me I was being invasive and not to call unless it was emergency or change of plans or unless I wanted to talk to the kids. I didn't think it was a big deal. Why is she over reacting?

My wife complains that I make all the decisions for the household. It isn't true I let her have a vote on everything. Although incase of a tie i have the final say

My mom and dad have been separated for about 20 years maybe more. They never officially divorced. He sort of disappeared. The house remained in both their names this whole time. My mom and me do not talk to my dad at all. We know he lived close by or hear about him from time to time. Anyways - my mom just informed me that he has moved back in, without asking or letting her know. My mom rents out a room to a tenant and he informed her that a man has moved in boxes in the garage and that is where he has been sleeping. My mother had no idea! She doesn't use the garage and it has no windows. Supposedly he has been there for a couple of days now. Can she kick him out? I mean they are both on the mortgage but my mom has been paying that alone since he left 20 years ago. This is just so bizarre. I know when she confronts him he is going to say that its his house and he can live there if he wants. For years she has tried to contact him when she wanted to refinance to get him off the loan but he would never agree to anything or sign anything.

I read it in a book that woman should not initiate sex most of the times but occasionally should do that .... but just being attentive when he needs affection is good? What should be the frequency at which female initiates intimacy?

I found the perfect guy and we have two beautiful children together.. he also has children with other women and a controlling family who wants my children 24/7. I know that our relationship would be perfect if I just listen and do everything he tells me to do but something's I just can't and don't agree with and that's when everything goes bad. Someone told me that if I want him to be my husband I have to accept these things (including infidelity) keep it between us and move forward.. is this true if I want to marry this man because if it is I don't think I have the strength to marry him, I need advice please!

I have been married for 6 years, during that time I have been really unhappy in my marriage. My husband spent years being lazy and selfish. He wouldn't help me clean, cook, anything really. Then, about 2 years ago he met someone at work and had an affair, which he stopped and continued with twice. I forgave him, because I really wanted my marriage to work. I still had loved for him. However, a year after trying, he told me he had a drug addiction. I was there for him but then he tells me he misses the girl he had an affair with. I was so heartbroken I left, convinced, I would never come back. Yet, I had a lot of fear he would die and told his family about the addiction and he went to treatment. During his time there I felt happy, relieved to be alone. He came out and I felt different, I just wanted my freedom again. So much fear of the future with him. He now tells me he has changed, and I do see some changes. I can't lie. It does seem like he cares. However, I have met someone else and though the grass is not always greener on the other side. I feel a drive to want to be in that relationship, because he treats me with respect and is caring and protective over me. I am really at a crossroads. I don't want to hurt anyone and I don't know which way is right. Do I take a chance to save my marriage again ( which requires my full commitment) or do I take a chance to build something new ( which also requires my full commitment). I am really ashamed of my situation

We usually want what we don't have! I want to be married and have children and not be single anymore if your married and you have children and wish you had a single life....tell me why you want to be single so I can possibly feel good about being single I could tell you thousands of reasons why being in your position is better

My wife started a new job recently. One where she has to make a lot of objective decisons (based on absolutes she learned in college) but also a lot of relative & subjective ones too (not my wife's strength). Lately she's been bringing her work stress home with her; unable to do any work at home. Her only major responsibility is making dinners, which went from highly nutritious ones to frozen and fast food. She refuses to meditate, exercise, or have sex like a healthy individual who destresses after work. Meanwhile, I work too and keep up with my 1/2 of responsibilities the best I can during the week and do the rest on the weekend. I've tried to pick up her 1/2 but she gets mad at me if I don't watch tv shows or movies with her when she escapes her stress. Once or twice a week of this would be fine, but it's daily now. Basically what I'm getting at is: nothing of hers is getting completed. Her mind numbing activities arent helping her "relax", and nothing I say will motivate her to cope differently with her stress since I'm not a doctor. So she's "checked out" and I'm the only healthy parent and spouse in the household at the moment. And yet, I'm sleep deprived, so I too am becoming unhealthy (hence coming here for advice). This scenario of her trying to avoid her household share happens a lot between us. And like the ones in the past, she's going to make me fix this alone. She'll continue to act like a wounded animal until I man up and fix it. How would you handle this?

We argue sometimes and ill be mad or upset with him and not want to talk to him. He grabs my boobs how is that appropriate? He does it at night. And I don't deny him conjugal rights even when arguing so I know its not just that he wants sex.

I just need to know because sex with my husband has been getting dull, and I've come close to this many times. Do you think it might be the bit of spice I need to keep my marriage together?

It was aquired in the past, n wife's past things are none of his(husband) business as she knowingly did'nt aquired it n its more often bound to happen if a person slwpt with multiple partners, so if sleeping with multiple partners is not a big deal then how is STD a big deal which the wife got unknowingly from some of her past partners n also its not ethical to neglect a person for his/her diseases. So why is Disclosing STD big deal even though it has impact on present partner but its not her fault she got some STD's coz she did'nt got it knowingly.

I am 19 (girl) married to a 36 years old man. He is very much aggressive and doesnt feel guilty or say sorry if he misbehaves , i forgive all the time. Not even say a word in return. I love him so so much but he is so rude and hurting , he doesnt care if he yells at me or get angry because he says he does it because of the work stress and if i just say one word in a tone usually higher or may b a lil more rude than my daily life,he doesnt tall to me for days . Yesterday he said something extremely rude to me in front of his parents and everyone , i was kinda upset so i tried to keep a distance but he kept on poking me and asked me to tell him whats bothering me. After denying so many times i finally opened up and told him what i didnt like. Instead of feeling guilty he tried to defend himself and got very angry like i would **** my job etc in a tone so high,then i finally told him that its enough from him. Its been a year and more and it was my first time yelling back. I told him i can be a ***** too. And then i started crying because i felt guilty of my tone and behavior i fell on his feet and asked for forgiveness that entire night but no pity from his side; he rather got angrier and told me to stay away. He was rude this morning too. He used harsh words etc to show his anger and it has now turned into disrespect. 2 days no talk despite i begging for forgiveness . What do i do?? Please tell me. Plus plus he is divorced already

Whenever someone gets married they have to record everything and show that off to the world on social media. So why don't people show the same enthusiasm with divorce. I think those same people on Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat deserve to get the details of what happened. Personally I think the story is juicier when it comes to a divorce, but nobody likes to show that off.

So my husband made a confession yesterday saying he wants to game and thinks about game all the time he can't live without it... He asked to see if I'm okay with him becoming a gamer/streamer and have that as an career. Well In the past he wanted to become one I supported him. Gave him plentiful of time to game and steam. I gave him to much time that he's hardly spending time with me or my baby and he also used those time to chat with other girls. I found out he was cheating always messaging other girls while he claim to say he's gaming. So this time around when he ask me I was so upset, I don't want the old life where he would lied to me saying he's gaming but at the same time he's cheating...what should I do should I still support him and see how this time goes or just don't support him at all? I don't want him to feel like I'm his wife but I don't support him...and I love him so much that I also don't want my relationship to fall apart. But it also kills me knowing what he did in the past I just can't really trust it now that it'll work. What should I say or do to help him?

It have been a few months that me and my husband haven't have a good sexual intercousre, it's always me asking for him to give me some. But he always refused and say he's tired all the time or get mad at me for wanting him... don't know what to do, I would expect him not to neglected me but he does. When we were dating I don't ever need to ask him. Now that we been married for 4 years now and our sexual life is just doing down the drain...its as if he don't ever want me in bed. When we sleep he don't hold me anymore. We don't even spend much time together now...when he gets off from work he'll only spend a good 10-20 min with me and the kids then it'll go be on his phone playing game...i feel like I'm not even important to him now...what should I do?