Family: Question: What should I do???

Question: What should I do???

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 01:42 PM PDT

So me and my family don't get along, we argue at least 4-5 times a week and sometimes it stays verbal & sometimes it gets physical( with my mom) today she got so angry she hit me in the ******* face. I am 19 years old and I've honesty had enough of this bs. EVERDAY I feel like **** because they always start arguments with me. I currently don't speak to 5 family memembers but I still hate living with them and seeing their face each and everyday. I feel trapped because Im currently trying to move out asap but I don't have a friend to move in with or they money to get my own place. Please help. Any advice is good advice!!!!

Question: Do babies come from their fathers only?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 01:40 PM PDT

Question: I hate my mother so much I can't stand her?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 01:24 PM PDT

Since I've been living in a desi family. My parents have always been strict I don't understand what kind of problem she has if I ever wanted to study abroad she would never let me go.Although I've worked really hard for my grades she doesn't even appreciate it the fact that I got Bs I swear her attitude is something which I can never ever tolerate. She constantly taunts me over everything I do and she criticizes my decision thinking I'm delusional she doesn't even have any sort of belief in me that her child could actually succeed in life.And she tries to influence my dad who ends up taunting me over everything. I'm really upset and drowned that I never really have a supportive mother I don't even know what I could do should I repair my relationship or leave her as it is?

Question: Behavioral Advice?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 01:11 PM PDT

I am nothing but nice to my mother I always help her around the house, help buy groceries, and clean the house but all she ever does is try to pick fights with me and yell at me I am getting extremely tired of this toxic situation also i have had many conversations with her about this yet nothing ever changes i just dont know what to do

Question: Did anyone else have to stop talking to their family after moving out?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 12:52 PM PDT

I am asking this because it would be nice to know that I am not the only one, my mom and brother doesn't treat me the way I think I deserve they can be mean, but I have more control now that I am an adult they are one of the reasons why I'm depressed ever since I was a kid they can be emotional abusive but it's not as bad because I have more control since I'm older, but if they don't treat me better when I get my own place I probably won't talk to them anymore, my mom tries to offer to help me pay for stuff because she wants to feel like she owns me because of it I keep saying no, I know she will use it against me to bring it up later if I don't give what she wants.

Question: Is he considered my cousin in law or step cousin ?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 12:32 PM PDT

my mom has a female cousin around the same age as her ; lets call her A . so A got married to a guy who has a son , so now A has a step son . is her new step son considered my cousin ? or is there a different term for it

Question: Standing up to Cousin?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 11:59 AM PDT

Okay I know it sounds pathetic. But ever since I was little my cousin would finesse the **** outta me. Examples below if you need more context. But she gets very violent due to trying to seem tough to the people around us and I don't know how to stand up to her without getting beat up in front of my crush. Example 1: (age 10?) it's very silly but she would steal all my things. And I was poor and had very little things but we were living with them so I couldn't really say anything cause when I did my uncle would get angry. One day she saw my one direction folder for school (LMFAO!) and she told me she would trade me her farther Vader folder for it. Excitedly I agreed. She later told (uneducated) me that I owed her for living with her and took back the folder so I was left with none. Example 2: (10th grade most recent.) I like this one girl, whom she also likes. Whenever I sit next to this girl she pushes me out of the way and the girl I like told me I should stand up for myself. I agree that I should. And I plan on it tomorrow because today she told me "I wasn't allowed" to sit next to the girl. My ONLY fear is hat I will stand up for myself and she will embarrass the **** outta me in front of her by pushing me (I have severe fear of conflict in public places. I get sweaty and all red.) or by punching me or getting all up in my face as she often does due to the fact that she loves to be tough. HOW DO I STAND UP TO HER WITHOUT GETTING EMBARRASSED?

Question: Is my mom crazy?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 11:51 AM PDT

So we were driving home from school and my mom asked me if i brushed my teeth last night and i said "no" and she goes crazy and she is legit screaming in the car and lectures me about how i dont deserve anything and how "this is why i cant trust you" and im over here like what?? She lectures for 20 minutes and yells and calls me lazy and stupid and ijust forgot last night cause i was busy doing homework but my mom called at a stupid excuse. She also tells me about wasting money cause of what they pay for my teeth, but i just forgot to brush them last night, and i actually brushed them this morning so idk. Also she threw away the candy. Keep in mind im a teenager? I dont know do you guys think she has anger issues?

Question: Why is my brother's wife doing this to me?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 11:39 AM PDT

My brother's wife has large boobs. She likes to show a LOT of cleavage. Strangely, my brother is OK with that. At our parent's home, she will bend over in front of me and say "Don't look at my boobs". How could I not look at them when they are 6 inches away from my face? I just say "OK". That is really strange behavior. Other times she will bend over in front of me to give me something and then say "Did something come up". I always truthfully tell her no. I have NO sexual interest in my brother's wife EVER. I wonder why she is acting this way. Is she flirting with me or possibly just teasing me? Anyone have any ideas why she is doing this to me?

Question: This may sound odd, but.. is it normal to feel disconnected with family members(parent/siblings/etc)?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 10:46 AM PDT

I mean, I am from a big family (regarding aunts/uncles/cousins)... and I have never felt close with any of them, nor have I had any desire to be close with them. My household family consisted of only my mother, my brother's dad, my brother, and myself... this may be a bit personal, but my brother's dad was rather abusive to both my mother and myself(physically and emotionally, due to his substance habits)... and my mother always took his side, even when I would try to talk her into making him leave. It got to the point where I had to call the police at times because she would refuse to, no matter what... my brother and I have suffered severe anxiety and depression, since... Now that I am 18, I have been able to remove myself from the toxic environment... I can't even say that I miss my family... nor can I say that I want to visit them. I left almost as soon as I turned 18... but they try to insist that I am somehow a horrible person for trying to start a better life on my own and for leaving so easily and so soon. Is it wrong that a large part of myself resents them? (My brother's dad for putting us through all that he did... and my mother for not having a spine to put her kids before herself and the man who ruined our childhoods, as well as her life)

Question: Toxic Sister?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 10:35 AM PDT

My sister is 52 and headed to jail for six months. I tried, after 3 years, to be part of her life. The same thing happened, she blamed me and our siblings for her problems, got very intoxicated and verbally was cruel. I have blacked her from my phone and sent her a letter stating she needs to get herself together and maybe in a few months we can try a relationship again. HOW many more chances can I give her, she has emotionally exhausted me for decades, yet I still love her and feel bad.

Question: How do I move past this for me and my family?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 09:43 AM PDT

Ok here it goes. I met Joe three years ago and he had a 5 year old daughter named lyza. We married last year in october and ever since I have been the mother to her and she has not see her biological mother since. I legally adopted her in march. She does talk to her biological mother once in a while when i allow it. Once in a while, lyza will have a breakdown when kids ask if I m her mom. During summer camp one day, she told me that some one asked if I was her mother and made fun of her and she got really upset. She said she felt embarrassed because I have different skin and hair color then she does. (I m mixed black and white, while her and her father are white). Instead of explaining why or saying anything at all, she just got really sad and got quiet. I m really hurt by this because when kids aren t around, I am always called mom and nothing is different, but when we are out in public and around kids, she treats me differently. I have grown resentment towards her and I don t know how to handle it. I don t need negative comments. I need advice. Thank you in advance.

Question: Is it normal that my mom forces me to do this?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 09:28 AM PDT

She makes me introduce her to all my friends and boyfriends before I'm allowed to hang out with them. It seemed normal when I was like 14, but I'm 17 now, I'll soon be an adult. I feel smothered and like she can't trust me. Is this normal?

Question: Mother stalks me in real life, everywhere I go. Help?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 09:28 AM PDT

I'm 19, I go to university, I have a job as a cashier. For the last five years my mom has been delusionally claiming that I get bullied by everyone. Anywhere I go. She claims its because my uncles send goons because they don't like us. Obviously this is ridiculous, and not realistic at all. Now the problem is that now, for the last year, she constantly follows me everywhere I go. Everday I commute to University and she follows me. She follows me to classes, she follows me to wherever I go to get lunch. I have confronted her many times on this matter and begged, screamed, etc to try to get her to stop. She just will not listen, saying "I am going to protect my boy" and how she will not let me do anything alone. She does the same thing at my work, she follows me there, stays there for my shift. She doesn't go to work just so she can stalk me. I can't handle this anymore, how do I get her to stop. Do I get a physiologists help? I don't know how to get her away from me.

Question: I have a complicated situation please don't judge, read the details below but I'm dating my step sister?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 08:47 AM PDT

My mom died when I was 5 my oldest brother died when I was 7, my older brother died when I was 11. My dad got remarried when I was 8 and my stepmom brought her daughter from a previous marriage. I'm 19 and my stepsister is 18 we kind of started flirting and we are now dating. I really care about her and she and I have been dating for about 2 months. We made out drunkenly at a New Year's Eve party and things died down for a while but then in June I had a car accident and our parents were on vacation and she had to pick me up from the hospital and watch me since I had a broken elbow and ankle and concussion. We flirted and she held me since I wasn't feeling well and we agreed we had mutual feelings for eachother. Also is this a sin? My step sister isreallya firm follower of Reform Judaism.

Question: I am taking care of my mother, it is becoming hard, depressing, and lonely, and I feel cheated by the new laws here, help?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 08:22 AM PDT

I live in Ohio, but I know this nationwide/worldwide.Anyways, my mom is very sick, and I stuck being her nurse, but I wish I had a job and my own life. They passed all these stupid, stereotyping, allowing crimes, harassment galore by secret societies, frats, and sororities to others over their passed or for being a Christian or Jew or Israelite or American(USA Citizen) and succeeding in life. They are just so stupid. It didn't stop hurting till the past couple of days when people around me in public, wanted nothing to do with me over stupid, petty, lies, greed, and gossip. It made me feel inadequate, used, and worthless. Now, on TV, they said students at OSU were taking more anxiety medicine and blood pressure medicine because the teachers are too hard. I know for a fact they are too hard, too controlling, and too many of them are witches/Freemasons/Eastern Stars and don't respect others rights or rights they should have due to circumstances beyond their control. I won't do any of their illegal, though approved contracts, even by THE UN, etc.

Question: My brother is too bossy!?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 08:09 AM PDT

My brother is always trying to tell me what to do and trying to control me. Like, if I'm at home just watching TV or texting my friends, he'll tell me to stop, and do my homework instead. And he's always trying to control when I come home. I drive myself to and from school, so I don't always come home right after school, and he'll constantly text me, asking where I am, saying that I should be home by now, and when I do get home, he tries to lecture me on the "rules," that I'm supposed to come home right after school, which is stupid! I usually just ignore him, but it causes so many fights. He claims that he's allowed to tell me what to do, since I'm 16 and he's 25, and he's technically my legal guardian since our parents died, but I know that my parents wouldn't have wanted him to be this bossy or controlling. When they were alive, they'd always tell him to back off when he started telling me what to do, and they weren't very strict with me at all. My brother is so different and I can't stand him! What should I do?

Question: If your child is not in the top ten percent of their high school class is it wrong to punish them?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 08:00 AM PDT

Only kids in the top ten percent of their high school class ever amount to anything and anyone below them is probably worthless. Grades equal intelligence and do not let these liberals tell you otherwise. I was thinking about taking all of my kids snacks away and forcing them to read and do extra work on the weekends. I would rather my child break their toe than to be a failure at anything. People who fail in school end up working at a fast food job and that is very bad.

Question: I failed spanish 1 last year. Would you be embarrassed to have me as a child?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 07:50 AM PDT

There are kids in my class who never do their work and have a 3.6 GPA and then there is me a C average student. I want to become something in life. I do not want to be 22 and working at a fast food job. I am 15 now.

Question: How to stop being jealous of my baby?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 06:51 AM PDT

When my boyfriend and I first got together we were maidly inlove. Being with him was like a fantasy. We would make love everyday, he brought me things and gave all his full attention, he treated me like a princess. My life felt so perfect. But one night we ant use a condom and I soon became a mom now I dont know my boyfriend anymore. He dont treat me the same. All he cares about is that baby whenever I try to touch him he rejects me. He treats me like his sister..I'm crying because I'm still inlove with him but he don't seem like it even thou he say he love me when I asked..I'm jealous of my baby because before It was just me who was important and got all the love and attention,.I really regret having her because i could never go back...I wanna get rid of the 6 month old but my boyfriend wouldn't let me since its his too..I thought we would be one happy family but it's not like that..where only 25 and I wish it was us still..how to stop being jealous of our child? Before we had this child we were happy together for 3 months

Question: Skipped school today and I'm hiding in my closet. please help?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 06:48 AM PDT

Ok so this morning I missed the bus so wen I came home I didnt tell my parents because they wouldve killed me because I miss the bus every other day..so I asked my brother and he said he would...so I waited and kept asking him and he kept saying ok..the next thing I knew, he left without me..,so I was sitting on my bed and my dad came in my room to see if it was clean so before he opened the door I ran to my closet and hid at the very end of it...Now my mom, whose a stay at home mom, keeps coming in and out of my room, sometimes putting laundry away IN my closet where I'm hiding....I really don't know what to do anymor. I've been crouched in my closet since 9:00 and I'm scared shitless that she'll find me...,what should I do at 3:00 when I'm supposed to come home from school?? What should I do if she finds me?? I'm so damn hungry how should I get food from downstairs?? I'm writing this on my iPod touch lol

Question: Should I go through with becoming Emancipated?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 06:26 AM PDT

Im 17 and I live in VA with my eldest sister. I'll be turning 18 next year in June. As of lately, we've haven't been getting along. A lot of drama happened with her and my other sister & since then it's as if we can't be in the same room w/o an argument.. She's never at home anyways. She's either working or gone somewhere. She rarely buys food or cooks. I buy myself something to eat. I drive 2 school, I do things around the house. I'm there alone majority of the time. I feel as if I'm better off alone. I want to take care of my finances. She trips about me overspending when I spend it on food, school and volleyball. I don't get my nails done anymore. I don't spend it on any enjoyment. I may buy little snacks & go to the movies once out of the month, but that's it. She has a limit of 300 on my card. Things are not cheap. Then sometimes she refuses to add money when she knows I have games & I need to eat.She claims she's adding structure to my life, & I understand that, but at the end of the day she's my sister reguardless of what a piece of paper says. You can look out for me, make sure I'm straight, & still be my sister that I can talk to and be myself around. She completely flipped into this whole different person and I can't get with it. I was perfectly fine before. I was still alone & such, but the arguing was at a minimal. After knowing all this; is emancipation the best option right now when I have less than a year till 18. The process is about 4-6 months.

Question: What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 06:24 AM PDT

I want to live large but I'm scared because my aunt and uncle bought a big house together with a lot of space and they are only 2 people and my mom said that that's too much space for 2 people with no kids and I feel like my mom would say the same about me if I bought a big house in the future and decided to live large because and my mom said that black people like big things. She even said that my aunt and uncles neighbors think that my aunt and uncle are crazy black people. And I feel like my mom will think that I'm part of the black people who like to live large. I want to live large but I'm scared and because of this I always act like I want to live small and think of living small and not living large because my mom will think and say that I'm part of the black people who like big stuff and like to live large like in big houses and mansions. I'm 17 years old. What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Question: What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 06:17 AM PDT

Ok so my aunt and uncle bought a house in the suburbs with a bunch of space and they are only two people and my mom said that they don't need it because they are only two people and they don't have any kids and she said that they could have bought a small condo and she even compared my aunt and uncle to one of her friends who have a bunch of kids and they live in a small space. My mom lives in an apartment in the city with small space. My mom said that black people like big stuff and their white neighbors are thinking those crazy black people( my aunt and uncle) and the white people might shoot anytime. We even told her that my aunt and uncles neighbors stand in their house and next to their house to look at my aunt and uncles house. What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Question: When can I go on my own path?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 06:17 AM PDT

I'm 23, about to be 24 in a few months. I feel like I want to follow my own path and leave my family's home. I know I legally can. But if I leave, who will help my mom or my youngest sister? My mom is not good at reading. As English is not her first landuags. My youngest sister is naive, but she is smart with technology. At this point I don't know if I love my family or if I see them as a burden. I don't like living here at all. Because I have to live by the house rule. I can't make my own rules. I want to be free. What should I do and what can I do?

Question: Overbearing mother in law - am I overreacting?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 06:01 AM PDT

I ve been with my partner for two years and August 16th I gave birth to our beautiful little girl. My partner is a bit of a man child, he s 23 and still lives at home, his mum does his washing, cooking and cleans up after him. He does nothing for himself unless his parents are on holiday and he is house sitting. Anyway I bought my daughter up to his mums house and instantly she took her from me and insisted upon her doing all the feeds and changes she was due whilst we were there. She wouldn t even let me prep a bottle. My partner is not hands on with baby at all, he seems disinterested most of the time and will only display attention to our daughter in front of the midwife or health visitors. He has had her alone once and took her straight to his mums and let her do everything. My daughter is two weeks now and this is showing no signs of giving up. Am I overreacting or? I feel like I m being muscled out and partner calls me ungrateful for not appreciating the break that I get when she has her. I wouldn t know how to broach the subject with either of them and address it properly. Any advice would be fab. Thanks

Question: My cousin is 23 and kidded me about being slightly high the other day. Should I tell her aunt who was her guardian growing up?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 04:54 AM PDT

She is an adult so I don't know if I'd just be being a tattle tale. She is troubled as her own mother was abusive emotionally and neglectful thus losing custody. The aunt raised her from age 12 onward. At age 23 do I need to tattle or is it simply none of my business? I did tattle when this cousin mentioned suicide last March and did so to the aunt who is her mother since age 12. The real mother (another aunt of mine) she very seldom sees and when she does just calls her an aunt. The real mother is abusive verbally and the real father an apparent addict (I haven't seen him since the parents divorced 20 years ago).

Question: My uncle called his sister a "Pill Popper" as she was in a hospital with an emotional breakdown. Should someone tell him how mean this was?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 04:51 AM PDT

He might not have meant it but he is extremely ignorant of mental illness. He is my aunt's husband (my aunt is also very ignorant of it) and so this uncle's sister is not related to me and I've only met her a few times. However, what he said was so awful that I am wondering if someone in his generation should be politely telling him how his sister has a disorder just like if she was diabetic rather then something for him to mock. Unfortunately his wife is equally as ignorant which is why their son is so messed up though their two daughters turned out fine. They are both against things like psychologists. Should someone on his generation level be correcting him for his horrible comment? He apparently said it the first time with her and her husband in the room and one of their kids. The 2nd time it was in front of us and that was when I heard it with her no where around.

Question: There are two things I really want to do this weekend (one on each side of the family). How do I not be disappointed at the one I am missing?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 04:48 AM PDT

I had to pick so I picked the event on my Dad's side since I saw all my Mom's family two weeks ago at a funeral. How do I avoid being disappointed about the one I am missing? Both were equally as good events. They are 3 hours away from each other so I can't do both.

Question: My mom making me do ALL the chores?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 04:30 AM PDT

My mom comes from work and then yells at me and my sister for not making lunch, washing the dishes. Like she tells us we're lazy and irresponsible. Then other day "Why didn't you vacuum the house and swipe of the dust of everything?" She expects us to wake up and clean up everything and if we don't she yells at us for 10 minutes about how are we lazy. I'm not your maid for god's sake woman!! I have a life and want to be on my phone and chat with my friends and not clean something every second. And her excuse is "Both parents work for 12 hours and you can't unload the dishwasher or such?" And if i do unload it she makes me doing something else! I don't wanna be a slave. Why can't i just clean my room and my two bunnie's cage and be done?? Why do i and my sister have to clean the whole apartment?! And then clean the terrace... And so on..

Question: My mother is giving me the 'silent treatment'?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 04:10 AM PDT

My mum called me twice earlier today during class!! She was yelling at me because she said she was making me quit singing lessons, which I am very passionate about doing. The reason she is making me is because she says I don't like it and always complain which isn't true at all!! The first time I said 'I'm going, bye' and hung up on her and the second time I just hung up. The second time she said my dad was yelling at her saying I'm selfish and worthless because I'm so ungrateful. Since I've gotten home, mum has given me the silent treatment. I just want an apology and an understanding. What do I do?

Question: Every time I hit the [Page Down] key on my keyboard, my brother comes in and spits in my face. Why is that?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 04:05 AM PDT

Question: Like i took the train yesterday and i met my biological mother and she said to me "Hey son" and i was like **** that shite momma?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 03:08 AM PDT

Question: I am scared of displeasing my Mom. When I am with her I go from age 41 to age 14. How do I break this?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 01:44 AM PDT

My Mom is very opinionated. Her whole side of the family is.

Question: My cousin is disliked by everyone but my sister is not. My sister is a mean person and my cousin perfectly nice just slow. Why might this be?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 01:43 AM PDT

My sister is a mean person who is bully like and likes to insult everyone. Yet only one or two people dislike her. Yet my cousin is mistreated by everyone in the family and she is fine with her only weakness being that due to neglect from her parents she is slow in maturity, Why might this be? Does birth order have an effect or who ones parents are in their popularity? The cousin's parents are NOT at all popular whereas my parents are.

Question: Do you think this is fair?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 01:40 AM PDT

So my little brother was being mean to my kitten. I take his hands away from him, and because I was about time to feed him .He cries my dad comes in saying "why did you hit him".I repeated many times that I didn't hit my brother, but he didn't believe me,then he said that I'm not allowed to touch him. its not like he is a piece of art or something. Is it dumb,should I just forget about it.

Question: My school punished me for something I did outside of school?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 12:38 AM PDT

Me and my friends and my family and their families were hanging out at my house we were in the back garden and we had one beer we're not 18 but In the UK you're allowed one glass of alcohol at 14 IF you're with a parent. No one got shitfaced Then my school we went back on Monday Punished me appenty a teacher peeped over the fence what should I do? I'm 15

Question: Could you exsplain this behavior?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 12:30 AM PDT

1. My step mom is mad at me. Simply cause she asked ' could I see that paper? ' (it has my new school sceducal on it) I said no since I knew it would probably say something to upset her on it. Idk little things make her angry. So apparently since I said no she kept saying it was ' disrespectful ' or whatever. But I simply said no. No biggie! I wasn't being rude to her. I tried to exsplain that since it was a yes or no question I was allowed to answer yes or no. When she got mad about that I told her since she was being rude and was in a bad mood I wouldn't give it to her. Cause she'd just FREAK out about something. If she wouldve said something along the lines of ' could you please grab that paper for me? I'd like to see it. ' then it wouldn't of been such a big deal. But she makes just about everything into one insane argument. She acts like that to my dad too. Like an hour after that went down she goes into my room without permission and says ' don't expect me to do anything for you ' or something along those lines. I'm tired so I can't fully remember sorry. She gets mad when things don't go the way she wants. Like she yelled and called me insane for having a panic attack when I was crying and trying to talk to her about it. Normally when I have a panic attack I cry and act emotional. I don't get why she makes me feel guilty about things. Sometimes she does things that make me upset, like telling people I'm her real daughter, when I'm not.i don't get upset at her for it.

Question: Why do people think that single parenting causes behavioral issues?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 12:19 AM PDT

Whenever I hear of children who are bullies (especially if they bullied someone to death) or just children who are unruly/dangerous, some people blame it on single parenting. I read a documentary about a young girl who was so unruly that she had multiple charges and criminal records at 13. Someone just said, "that's what happens to kids who grow up with only mom but no dad". I think the main problem is that some parents are neglectful and let them do whatever they want. No child is that bad unless they were severely neglected or abused. I see MANY kids who are pretty wild and lack discipline, but I don't assume that they are from single parent homes. I think that the main issue is just parents letting kids have free access to the media.

Question: Girls mature question?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 12:14 AM PDT

She was once 18 and I was 22. We broke up because she wasn't trying to be serious/no sex since she said she wanted to wait-virgin. It's been 3 years, We both talked it out and it seem like she wants tro try us again. She said "it's ok we both had a lot of growing to do". Does this mean she's slept around etc???

Question: My family doesn't approve of going back to my ex-fiance. Please help!!?

Posted: 30 Aug 2017 12:09 AM PDT

I moved out of state with my boyfriend/father of my baby, but we had some financial struggles and relationship problems. My family ended up coming to get me in the state, and they took me back across the country to the state they live in. I am due very soon with our baby and we both want to get back together and fix the relationship.It has been so hard to be apart and it has made us realize the fights were stupid. We still own the home that he is living in in the other state. The problem is that although I am an adult, my family will probably never talk to me again if I go back to him.He is not nearly as bad of a person as they make him out to be. Times were rough, and I chose to give up because I have been such an emotional wreck ever since I have been pregnant. I really regret leaving and I made the huge mistake of confiding too much into my family now that we have made up. We are waiting until the baby is born probably for me to go back to the state with him because it is such a huge move to make again, and we have to save up to get me across country. In the mean time I need to prepare for how to break it to my family.. I feel they will disown me. They hate when I make a decision they don't approve of.. and they did do a lot to help me. I fear I can't have both my family and him. My heart is broken because I love him so much and want to be with him, but I fear they will never approve or try to understand. Please help

Question: What's an appropriate punishment for a 15 year old who slapped his mother?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 11:54 PM PDT

Question: Why does everyone say that i shouldn't talk back to my elders even if they say something completely vicious?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 11:05 PM PDT

My father's parents are the most evil kind there is. They gang up on my mother, they make her cry, insult her parents whom I'm very close to and fill my father's ears about her. You can't even imagine the pain she goes through and they always shout SO loudly and hit my little sister who's 4. We visited them this summer and throughout the whole time we were there the grandma didn't even speak to me properly so I didn't bother attempting because why should I talk with someone who hurts my mother so much? But the problem with that is my father doesn't talk to me if I don't talk politely with his parents. I've tried telling him that your parents are depressing my mother but he just says: "You're a loser who's standing up for that stupid mother of yours." So if he feels so hurt when I just ignore his mother, how must I feel when they all ignore mine?

Question: I think my dad has psychological problems?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 11:03 PM PDT

My dad is kind of an alcoholic. He's always screaming even though no one is arguing with him or yelling at him. He's always trying to pick a fight with my mother. He's very possessive. He tellsy family that the house we live in is his and not ours so things have to go his way or we all get kicked out. He thinks it's funny to tie nooses out of ropes and hang them in the backyard. I know he needs help and we've taken him to a psychologist but he doesn't believe in therapy / doesn't want it. What do we d now

Question: How can I stop binge eating?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 10:57 PM PDT

So, I m trying to figure out the root to this problem and I think it s me not wanting to let go of that connection with my dad. You see growing up I always wanted to be around my Dad and hang out with him and he was always so busy. He s a alcoholic, binge eater, bi- polar, and a heavy pot smoker. When I was younger I remember going to food the instant my dad would leave for work, etc. Whenever we d bond, it d either be through food or wanting to start to change to healthy life style. I got to an age where I wanted to change my diet and feel better about myself. Well my dad fell into bad depression, I thought that was my chance to help me and him change. By motivating him (He never supported me; like take me to the gym, and he would bring home unhealthy foods bribing with them when I was trying to better my eating)

Question: Idk how to deal with my dad anymore?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 10:52 PM PDT

My dad has been an alcoholic for some time now. he tends to drink a lot at night when everyone gets ready to sleep. He used to mention he took mess for something but we don t know what. My guess is that it s Xanax. I feel like he mixes alcohol with drugs because he starts to act funny, cooks and burns everything, does absurd things at like 12am while everyone is asleep and causes a ruckous. I ve talked to him about it before but he just doesn t listen. My family has talked to him. We ve gone to therapy. Nothing works. I ve even gotten to the point where I just go downstairs while he s midnight cooking and burning stuff to turn off the stove and throw whatever he is making in the trash. He gets pissed off but then he forgets the next morning. Help on what to do with him or about him.

Question: Homesickness?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 10:33 PM PDT

We recently moved to a new state after living in the same place for 30 years (me) & my kids their whole life (11&9) . We've been here for about 10 weeks & had to move due to my new fiancé s job. The kids & I are so homesick I can barely stand it anymore. I literally feel their homesickness on top of mine & am nauseated & sick to my stomach everyday , from the time I get up until I go to sleep. They keep begging to go home but my fiancé can't go home until July 2018. I have thought about heading back home with my kids & him coming later but that makes me feel guilty too if I was to leave him here alone. But I just don't know how much more I can take of this. It doesn't seem to be getting any better, I feel like I made a huge mistake for moving my kids here. Depressed, lost & confused

Question: My dad is getting really frustrated, inpatient, expecting the worst in us, not that talkative anymore. Has anyone been through that?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 10:26 PM PDT

My dad has always been a great dad, loving caring patient and he s been really mad for whatever reason. Small things. I drive now and my sister and he s always telling you are going to crash even though we are going at the speed limit. He screams at us for backing up a lot when we park we are practicing. He wakes up mad saying only I am working you never help. I ve always helped in his job he s a landscaper. I always help with clients. He gets mad with my mom too she has notices too and she says dont say anything. We dont but it hurts a lot he s breaking off that friendship those daughter and father times. I m really hurt. Can someone just help please or if you have gone through yhat. If you read this thank you for taking your time.

Question: Is it acceptable for my dad to smack my head every time he thinks I'm being rude?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 10:20 PM PDT

Yesterday he yelled at me for no reason in front of everyone and he just HAS to blackmail my mother by saying you haven't raised your daughter with any values when I'm actually pretty decent. Getting straight A's, not spending too much and studying a lot seems alright to me? Today I was playing with my baby sister and I was talking in our own language, and he suddenly yelled at me again saying "Teach her to speak English, why can't you speak English are you illiterate?" After all this build up I finally lost it and said :Why do you keep shouting at me? It's not nice to keep yelling when I haven't done anything and what's wrong with you? Every consecutive day you're angry for some reason?" That's what I said and he just came over and smacked me on my head. God, I'm fed up.

Question: Is this courtship really necessary?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 10:06 PM PDT

My brother likes a girl named Allison at church. My brother is 17 and Allison is 16. Allison has very few social skills, or applicable life skills that will serve her well that she needs to know. She has been home-schooled her entire life, babied by her parents, (she is adopted from the Phillipines), works less than 10 hours a week, and she has few friends. She has never dated anyone before. And her Dad made my brother sign a contract stating that he is in a "courtship" and that he cannot touch Allison in any way for 2 years, even giving her a hug. Is that really necessary? I mean really? These parents have already set their daughter up for failure. She's going to be like a prius competing with a Nascar race car when she gets thrown to the wolves because she's never had to compete with anyone for a job or for really anything. She has no handle or grip on reality and how hard it is to make it in this world. I mean what her parents have done and will continue to do for 2 more years is already bad enough. Now they need to make my brother enter a courtship where he can't even hug her? We are not Amish! We do not live in the 1800's. She doesn't come from a family of royalty. Her parents aren't even her real parents. The father made my brother literally sign a document stating he wouldn't do those things including hug her or be physical in any way. And my brother is absolutely fine with it. I swear if the Dad told my brother to lay on the ground so he could kick him, my brother wouldn't question it. He is not rebellious in any way. He is inexperienced with women and this girl is 16 and has already exhibited traits of girls I have had run-ins with that didn't turn out to be worth a damn. She's played the cat and mouse game with him for 6 months before and he is in love with her or he thinks he is. Another thing to consider is who is to say the Dad will let her go when she is 18 to make her own decisions? I mean you are telling me it is just gonna be that easy? I don't think so! I think I am sick and tired of adults setting their kids back and doing this kind of crap just because they can. They think they are so smart and they are so ignorant to how the world has changed since they were kids

Question: Unhappy in relationship should i leave?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 10:00 PM PDT

I have been in a relationship for 12 years i am very unhappy i blame him because i'm out of work on social security. i am constantly cleaning up after him he does things that annoy me like coming to bed smelling funny even if he takes a bath the odor is still there. he just got a job working in a body shop (mechanic shop) he works until 3-4 in the morning. he expects me to cook and clean and when i do it just gets messed up again. i feel like my life is going into direction with him that i am tied down and life is just passing me by. i had so many goals in life and i'm stuck in a dead end town with no jobs tonight i told him i feel tied down and i don't love him anymore i blame him for my misery that i feel like up and leaving and just disappearing. i want to go out west and start a new life and adventure before i am too old. should i end my relationship? Also i was on social security before i worked since i was 18 i'm in my early 30's now. i have taken my unhappiness out on him and our relationship by withholding sex over the years too.

Question: I asked my parents if I could spend my money on an american girl doll they said no you can't have one your 16 year old boy what should i do?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 09:52 PM PDT

Question: My mom is addicted to cigarettes?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 09:38 PM PDT

for the past 7 years my mom and dad have been smoking weed constantly, i tell them to stop but they wont, my mo smokes cigarettes as well, i'm only 12 and sometimes my mom overdoses on weed. When i came home once she was talking like she was drunk or something,she says she hasen't drank in 16 years and my dad hase'nt since 2012, she goes far as crying over cigarettes when she has 2 packs left, thats how addicted she is to ciarettes and one time i said "you can die from smoking" and she said maybe she wants to

Question: Is my mom manipulating me.?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 08:58 PM PDT

So I live with my mom and she has custody of me. My dad pays her $200 in child support and she doesn't let me use it. I'm 16 by the way. She would spend the money on bills and rent when we had a house. Now we're homeless and she's now using it to pay for our storage. We sleep in her aunts shed for now. I told her I wanted to use my money to buy some clothes and necessities for myself because I have the same clothes I wore from middle school. She got angry and started saying "You need to get a job to get your own money" And she blames me and my dad for losing our home because $200 isn't enough. She takes child support from my half older sister too. She hasn't worked in years and she's going to UEI to study medical Billing. She always says she can't work because she is "sick" all the time. Is this wrong for her to do? I honestly don't know what to do. She said she wants me to go to college ( I graduated early from high school ) so that she can take my financial aid. Should giving her my money be my responsibility? Is there any way to get out of this situation? I can't live with my dad because he's getting help for his drinking and drug addiction so he is unstable.

Question: Is there a way to report an 11 year old girl for cyberbullying?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 08:48 PM PDT

The child's parents are not willing to put a stop to her behavior and discipline her. She has a personal laptop and iPad where she is tormenting someone from a virtual kids' game. The girl is posting nasty, sexual, and threatening messages to that specific player. I am worried that she may have gone too far because she already has, judging by what she wrote. We live in Canada with cyberbullying laws and I told her about them. I feel that she thinks she's "invincible" because nobody at school knows and she doesn't know that person in real life. Her account got banned before, but she keeps on making more accounts. Meanwhile, her parents only speak their native language and they cannot fully understand what I tell them - but they don't think it's a deal what their daughter is doing. They don't even bother to see what the child is doing online, and think that taxes, buying property, paying for tutoring, and "adult stuff" are more important. I agree that adults do have responsibilities that the government requires, but it's ALSO a responsibility to teach your kids properly and make sure they don't get charged for bullying someone. I doubt her school can do anything! This is more of a parenting or behavioral issue... and nobody from her school is involved in this. She is bullying a complete stranger. Her behaviors in real life are fine for a preteen. I am guessing that she acts good in real life, but is behaving badly online.

Question: I said something to my sister that I can't take back?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 08:30 PM PDT

Me and my sister had a lot of arguments today and in front of my whole family, including her husband, I said something so mean and something I wish I can go back in time and wish I ever said it. Everyone in my family was mad at me and she was about to cry and so was I. She said she never wanted to speak with me again and I just cried and cried after she left. Is there anything I can do?

Question: My dad keeps trying to come in my room when I tell him I'm getting dressed. Is this really bad?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 08:27 PM PDT

I'm 13 and my dad keeps trying to come in my room when I'm getting dressed. I actually have to hold the door shut sometimes because he wants to get in so bad. He just keeps saying let me in but I keep telling him I'm getting dressed but he doesn't care. Is this something I should tell someone about?? Is this a form of abuse?

Question: My birthday has been horrible today?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 08:14 PM PDT

It s my 18 birthday today. All day I have dealt with my dad cussing and swearing because he doesn t know how to handle his stress. My mom is an alcoholic and this is my 3rd B-day of her not showing up, even though she promised she would. But instead, she decided to get drunk. I m just sad and depressed.

Question: Can someone please explain to me why my parents always side with my sister even when she abuses everyone at home? Help?

Posted: 29 Aug 2017 07:52 PM PDT

My sister ALWAYS starts fights with me, she is an abuser and bully. She would walk past me and cuss me out and do it again and again. I have already not spoken to her, ignored her and i never even did or said anything but she would for no reason just provoke a fight with me on purpose. Then my parents would get involved and side with her, i would tell my parents what happened & my sister would lie about it and then my parents side with her. Then my parents join in and i get ganged up on! This is extremely stressful. Sometimes my parents even see her start the fight and they bully me and they side with my sister. My sister of course will not admit to starting a fight even though she knows she is w I'm thinking of reporting this situation. My sister is also a dangerous and violent person, she has gotten violent towards my parents and me. It's disgusting how they're siding with her. She would literally start fights out of the blue for no reason, no one said or did anything to her, i already do not speak to or engage with her. i want nothing to do with her and i hope she dies. She's a danger to others at home. She has already injured people at home multiple times. Why are my parents so ignorant and blind? i feel like this is an abusive situation, my parents are being abusive by neglecting me and giving me emotional abuse and they're harboring a criminal at home and watching her assault people and they won't do anything about it, they just kiss her *** all day and my sister treats them like servants literally, she uses them for money and for them to do her chores for her. My sister is DESTROYING our family and home. Anonymous, thanks for your answer. What I can't understand is HOW they CAN'T see how badly my sister is affecting the whole family. My mom won't report my sister to the police when she broke her hand but my mom threatens to report me to the police if i talk back!