My real mother had no family and abandoned me. My Dad is an only child so we are close to his parents but he has no siblings and only 2 cousins and they live far away. My step-mother has a big family. They won't count me though at things like Christmas. I don't want my step-Mom to force them to count me but how can I get them to like me and count me as family? I am 18 and a boy.

Her daughter has some issues common with being adopted at age 6 from an abusive home. My aunt is not mad at her other three kids (one, a boy, also adopted). This daughter she has deep resentment towards. The daughter is not the shining angel on top of the Christmas tree, but she is not that bad either. It is not like my sister who is a spoiled and entitled brat or another cousin who is in prison. How do I get her to see this daughter, while she has some issues, is not that bad? The daughter had been sexually abused when young by her birthmother's live-in boyfriend. She also has trust issues and so pulls away from people at the first conflict. This part is what makes my aunt feel so mad (possibly hateful) towards her.

All I did today was cry. So me and my family and going to be moving soon (pretty far away) from my best friend. We live 10 minutes apart and it ll become 3 hours. I really love my best friend and she means the world to me, I feel like a piece of my heart is missing. My mother and father picked the house without consulting me and my siblings. I really liked a house before this one which was way cheaper but way bigger and in general just better for us, but they picked the more expensive, smaller and the one more far away. I honestly don t know what to do and my eyes started burning because of how much I ve been sobbing. The closest buss takes r 50 minutes to reach her house. My dad asked me what I thought of the house and I just said I don t mind it and that I think it s good. Which I hate the house so much it gives me such bad vibes but they ve already payed so much money and it s sold. Help me I m really really really depressed and idk what to do help me please

SO I have a sister in law (brothers wife) that i cannot figure out. She has always gotten a lot of attention in the past and was always the best at uni. shes a doctor now. i study medicine myself now and when i was in school she used to tell me not to study medicine. she even got her sister to study something else (pharmacy) . she grew up in the middle east and i grew up in europe. theres so many little things that i had noticed in the past but ignored. for example we were playing a board game (all of us) and her mum was sitting next to us. and the game wouldnt end and i was like just win it please i cant be bothered anymore (as a joke) and her mum was like see she doesnt mind even if you win ...kinda made me feel like she is competitive but i was like whatever its a game. Sister in law, evil or good ? please help me? Please read the comment i added for the whole question PLEASE READ COMMENT BELOW FOR FULL QUESTION

Adult family member wants me to add her to my phone plan since it would be alot cheaper for her but im not sure...i do believe she would pay but I feel like: we are not children or young adults really (in our 40 s) shouldnt we be independent with our bills and such??

what should I do about this? she is kinder to one twin, but she is kind of agressive and yells at the other. they are my sister's kids but i don't think she's aware of this

People tell children how lucky they are if their parents are overwhelmingly overprotective. It hinders their development, and some of these kids are lonely and depressed. They can end up becoming homeless or emotionally unstable as adults because those parents never taught them how the real world is. The results of too much protection is not a positive thing.

I was talking to a lady who is wayyy older than I am, she's a good friend, she said "with all you have endured and can handle, you are more of a woman than I am."

My mom"s fiancée offered him to move in with her for free.

I was talking to a lady who is wayyy older than I am, she's a good friend, she said "with all you have endured and can handle, you are more than a woman than I am."

Long story short i didnt have the door in my room and you could see through it and i was getting dressed i stayed away from the door but then my my moms bf looked in my room and watched me get dressed i caught him and he was smiling i said why are you watching me and ever since then i cant stop crying about it and my mom didnt belive me it really hurts she thinks im making it up but it really happned what do i do am i being dramatic or is it okay on how i feel ive been really sad im only 15

18 years old, ran away with potentially dangerous man who has been stalking her online. I just started college and came home due to this emergency. Should I return to college (4 hours away) or stay local? I can't imagine continuing on with my life as if nothing is happening.

It's not just teenage angst, I really despise my family. My mom is abusive and has beaten me more times than I can count. She's hit me with a metal cane until I had bruises and once beat me with a broom until it broke over my head and I had to go to the hospital for stitches and a concussion. She told them I fell while moping and hit my head on the counter. My younger brothers constantly invade my privacy. The older one hits me if I tell him to do something and screams at me. The younger one is constantly touching me. He gropes me, destroys my things and also invades my space, whether I'm naked or not. If I attempt to punish them by sending them to their room or even taking away their phone/games my mom instead punishes me. She screams at me and multiple people know hat she hits me. They all tell me I need to be a better daughter especially since I once hit her back in self defense after she beat me so hard I peed on myself. I don't see an out to my situation short of calling the cops. I would but at the same time I don't want to hurt her. I've contemplated suicide multiple times and even tried once. I don't want to die but I don't want to live like this any longer. I'm tired of my family hurting me and I'm tired of everyone else seeing my mom as the victim of her daughter who hits her. The only person I had was my older sister who went to college on a scholarship and hasn't called since. She changed her number and even lied about the college she was going to to get away. Thank you so much. I wasn't sure anybody would care what I was going through. I'm tired of being called disgusting and ugly and stupid. I'm tired of my telling me she loves me only to then tell me how much she hates me. I'm tired of being scared of everyone except her because she constantly tells me that no one else cares or will care about her except for me. I'm 16 so if I try to explain my feelings everyone tells me it's just hormones. For the longest time I've felt trapped and have bounced between extreme love and loyalty and hatred for my family and for myself. I didn't understand my feelings or what I was going through and I'm happy to have anyone tell me I'm not just crazy. There was a time in my life where I refused to do anything except sleep because sleep is the only place I feel safe. I was in 4th grade and I wouldn't eat or do homework or play. I just new that I didn't want to hurt and maybe now I can do that.

I am 14

So I'm 16, and my mom wont buy me certain clothes for school and i know why, it's because she thinks people will bully me, it's like she thinks everyone in high school is a bully which is not true, i just want to wear a pink hoodie and a gold jacket with tigers on it, and she don't buy them because she thinks I will be bullied, she doesnt know how people dress these days, I've already told her that people wear this kind of stuff and that it's cool, but she doesnt listen because she thinks I'm just saying that just so i can get what I want, but that's not It at all, I really like the clothes and I want to wear them, what should I do?

I went to take some change of quarters, dimes, etc and my mom screams at me to put it all back. Does she really need that change?

how do i deal with people who are toxic who try to control my every move i have a mil she likes to meddle in my bussiness she wants to force me to do things her way only recently have i stood up to her and told her no when she had to hear it! seems like no matter how nice i am to her she goes behind my back and talks **** about me im so sick of all this. hoa do i stop her from intimidating me when she gossips about someone she looks at me like she expects me to do the same as her. Its all driving me crazy help!!

mil gossips about everyone gossips about sister in law to me and its getting pretty damn annoying when she does that i dont really know in a situation like that. also when a mil constantly complains to my husband about me i dont know how to deal with her i understand that she wants to meddle in our lives and control us and she is never happy when me and my husband are happy she just continues to make problems for us and just my luck my husband listens to everything his mom says

My ex and I had been together for 9 years. It was rocky cause he cheated alot and often acted bipolar. He'd give me sh** sometimes just for waking him up in the morning but he swore he loved me. He helped me raise my 2 sons that aren't his but wasn't taking care of his own son. His son was in Chicago while we were in Texas. His son was 9 years old and he decided that he wanted to move to Chicago to be closer to him and I didn't want to go. He moved anyway. We tried to make it work long distance for 1st 6 months but it didn't. He was seeing other women as soon as he got there and whenever I questioned him there was an argument. My friends told me that if I really wanted to be with him that I'd follow him anywhere. That there are women he relocate to be with their men all the time but I didn't want to go. After 2 years he kept reaching out and when I went to Chicago to visit him and I went out on a few dates. We had great conversation and a great time. He said that he wants to try again with me and that he still loves me, but I'm not moving to Chicago although I've agreed to visit as much as I can which is probably every other month since my youngest son is still in school. Does it mean that we're not in love if he was willing to leave me in Texas and I won't move to Chicago? Do two people in love really relocate to be together? Should I try this long distance?

so im 16 and I live with my overprotective mom who doesn't let me do anything. i've been invited to some parties but usually I just have to straight up say I can't come because I already know my mom won't let me go. or if she does she texts the person and their parents and comes and picks me up FROM THE PERSON'S DOOR (it's so embarrassing) at like 9pm (the parties go on until like 12pm or 1 am). She always says she trusts me and all but doesn't let me do anything. my social life is TERRIBLE because of this and soon no ones gonna even ask me to their party because i can never go. i feel so isolated and depressed but I can't do anything about it because I can't go out. What can I do? Please helppp!!! hi thanks for the answers! i just wanted to add that i do appreciate that my mom is looking out for me but im a straight-a student and i have a part time job but all i do is stay at home on my computer because i can't go anywhere. i mean i'm only this young once and im missing out on all the normal high-school things my classmates and the few friends i have are doing. im always alone at school too because i never see anyone outside of school and therefore it's really hard to make friends :(

My dad thinks every black guy is a thug and my dad never cleans his house. I moved out and my dad blames everything on me. My dad doesn't pay his own bills and my grandpa pays his bills because he refuses to get a job. My boyfriend and i are in our early 20s and are more responsible than my dad who is 57.

Our mother was bad at parenting and so my sister got whatever she wanted. She is unpleasant, spoiled, and narcissistic. I want her to see because right now no one wants to be near the nasty thing.

She had feuds with the family and plays victim as a result she says things like "they used to be my family" and "we aren't a part of that family anymore".

She is not a bad person but she did use me as a weapon in her feuds with her family when I was growing up. I missed out on lots of time with family as a kid. My Mom was one to hold grudges and mislead us with quotes like "they don't want a relationship with us" which I later learned was not true when I was a teen and got close to them. How do I get over my resentment of my Mom?

He's my mum's big brother and he had a really lucky escape from death last year, and he has an psycal illness that could suddenly kill him if he doesn't stick to the rules or if his heart rate increases too much. He lives my grandparents to look after them as he doesn't have a wife or kids. He had a few rich women want to marry him but he didn't because he just wasn't inlove with them and he wanted them to have someone who can truly love them. Recently my grandma died and my grandad's mental state has gotten worse, and he's all alone and I feel sorry for him because he's such a good person and deserves much better. He used to take care of me and my brother a lot when we were younger. What could I do to make him smile? Thank you x

Around a week ago, my sister found out she's 3 months pregnant. She's quite young and my family is not financially stable enough to support her and her baby, so she agreed to an abortion. She broke up with her ex-boyfriend a while ago, so I told her to at least contact him and get him to take responsibility and pay for half of the abortion because it's quite expensive, including the medicine and aftercare fees. I told her this around two weeks ago and she still hasn't contacted him because of this weird pride of hers. I told her to give me his number so that I can call him in her stead, but she doesn't want me to no matter what. I tried even getting angry at her, but she's being really stubborn. I know I should give her personal space and let her deal with it by herself if she doesn't want help, but she's seriously not doing anything. She even told me she doesn't want the baby, which I'm sure delaying the abortion won't help. What should I do? Should I just leave her alone?

I recently went to fill up my car at a petrol station and the girl working there said "nice car." I said thanks but wasn't really interested in talking with her. Over the next few visits she didn't speak back after I wasn't responsive with her first time. So when I went there the next time I said to her I liked her hair and she said "aww thanks," and started chatting again. The next time I went there was a customer in front of me who she didn't speak with, and doesn't with others from what I have seen. Anyway, she asked my opinion about whether I thought what she said to a customer was rude. I thought that was a strange topic to talk to someone about, as I wasn't there. Anyway, during she explanation she dropped in how old she was, without me asking. As I am walking away with my side to her she continues talking to me. I then went in last week and she asked what my registration plate stood for, and started a conversation again. I then asked her what she was up to the weekend and she said "just chilling." I then said have a lovely day and I will see you later and she replied "thanks, you too babe." I then came back Wednesday and gave her my number. She never refused it or said she had a boyfriend etc. and took it. As I drove off she waved me off. So why hasn't she contacted me.

I have two younger sisters one aged 12 and the other 15. The 15 y/o still acts like she's a kid, and the 12 y/o is immature and is too dependent.They share their room and are always talking to each other, and when I ask to come in they always say no. This isn't new, it has been going on for 3-4 years. I don't know why but they say they don't like me. But I havent done anything bad to them. They just don't like me? They don't want me to exist, or be their sister. They just want to be them two. But i told them I raised them because our parents don't give a crap about us. What am I supposed to do, just be separate like this forever? This impacts family, but they obviously don't give a **** since they're playing mine craft all day or something stupid. I'm 18 and I care about my life more than them and I don't want it to fall apart because of this, but god do I hate them so much for making me waste my time.

Lets just say Im very mature and Im woke and notice the little and big things around me for my age. Im a 13 year old female. But I don't know what to do. I've been knowing my moms cheating but my parents dont know me and my big sister know. This house has been so depressing because all my mom does now is pretend to be okay around me and smokes. She always fake smiles and it just makes me sad. The reason why shes been so depressed and stressed and smoking is because my dad knows she cheats too, and hes so controlling of her and thats very unlikely of him. Hes always spying on her around the house thinking shes with someone and he took away HER phone and changed her password! Thats just out of line because theyre not even married and in my opinion if it comes to that they should just separate although I'd hate it. But if they did, my dad would be depressed and suicidal. Its really affecting me and my big sis. We always talk about how we want to kill ourselves and just smoke (we smoke weed by the way, but don't worry about that. Im not gonna care about what you have to say about it so theres no point in scolding me about it.) and run away. But other than that we avoid the fighting a lot. We just hear them fight and we just sit in our room and pretend we dont hear, but we both know we do. The only good thing that came out of it was that it brought me and my sister so much closer. But all i really want is someone to tell me things. Dont sugar coat anything.

Her and my father divorced back in march. We both mutually keep in touch and she still invites me to lunch and everything witg her daughter when she can, so everythings good in that area. Last week, she was fussing at me over text because of my messy room, so she had me send pictures of it clean. So she texted " I'm your step mom, I get to be mean :) ", and I replied saying " well I'm glad to have you as a step mom " So when I texted a picture of my room clean, she texted " great now good night, love you " That was the first time she said that to me, even during her and my fathers marriage, she's never said love you before. So I responded with " love you to, good night ". Few days afterwards, I had an exam that I almost passed, she wanted me to text her and tell how I did. She responded saying " Don't be discouraged because of this fail use this as motivation to study harder. So I replied " Thanks I will ". A few minutes later, I texted " Thanks again for supporting me with through this love you. " She texted " I'll always be here for you ". ( That's something she always told me ) She didn't really say it back, so I'm wondering if she meant it in a more friendly casual way and not a family way? She's pretty affectionate person so I don't think she has trouble expressing emotion. If she isn't comfortable with that, or if she doesn't feel that way, I can respect that, but I think she shouldve just refrained from saying that in the first place. Nothings awkward with us though.

First of all I live outside the United States, so don't recommend me to call the 1800 hotlines. I live in Thailand and there is not much helps for abusive parents as people tend to see that people should "love their parents even though how bad they are" I'm a university student and I'm not a minor, so anything seems like it can be legally done. But no, in my country, you can't sue your parents in any course unless they severely hurt you. I call her "teacher" as she doesn't deserve to be my mom and I don't want her to say to anyone I'm her son. Here are what she did to me -Insulting me and my institution (NOT the university) -Comparing me to the poor people and saying that I have better life than them -Claiming that I have some kind of autism or asperger's -Controls the time I go to bed, wake up, come back home -Controls my finance. I remember getting money for singing in my friend's project. She forced me to return him my money. -Viewing phone from time-to-time and if there's anything "inappropriate" she will take away my phone. -Force me to study engineering even I don't like it (I like social science) -Throwing stuff if I made her angry -Claiming that I catalyze the fights in the family -Claiming that she does all of these for "love" Any way to run away from home? I'm sure she would be mad if I run away from home, thinking that I was kidnapped.

I feel so dumb but I can't shake this feeling no matter how many times I try. My bf's sister is perfection- extremely pretty, smart, plays videogames, amazing at sports, incredibly kind, and just lives a nice lifestyle. She's in highschool. My highschool years were me being insecure and too shy to participate in any activities. I did nothing in high school except art. Everytimes she's mentioned or I see her in tagged picturesor snapchat stories I just get this feeling in my chest that doesnt feel too good but i know theres nothing I can do but better my own self. But even then it still hurts. Is there any advice you can give?

Long story short but I have a cousin(we're both 21) and she has passively aggressively bullied me and other ppl for years.She lives at my dad's house (that's why I moved out) and whenever there's parties, I'll go and say hi to everyone there except her. Recently I said hi to a family member and she said hi to that same family member right after I did when in fact they hang out everyday. Her sister also stands next to me but doesn't say anything and she'll just look at me.

I have this professor who I absolutely love & I had him last semester & I have him again this semester. He's very open with us & talks about real life situations & obstacles he's faced, such as his divorce & he always tells us that if we ever need someone to talk to he's there for us, whether that's after class or 5 years down the road, he will make time. He's very inspiring & a really positive person that wants the best for everyone & I really look up to him as a father figure, since I'm kind of lacking in that area at home. It's complicated because my parents are still married, but my dad and I just don't get along & he's not the kind of role model I want as my dad. He's gotten very lazy & makes my mom do everything, which makes me really mad. He's also not taking care of himself & now he's pre-diabetic. I keep telling him that he needs to eat better& actually try to take care of himself so that he can live a long life & be there for my mom & see me get married & one day see his grandkids, but it doesn't seem like he cares enough to do anything, which hurts my feelings because it seems like he would try if he really loved me. He's super negative & he makes me depressed. My mom isn't really happy, but she also still loves him & I'm stuck in the middle. I just don't know what to do or if I should even discuss this with my professor. He teaches nutrition & he's been through a divorce, so he may be able to kind of relate but idk if I should even say anything. What do you think?

Hey yahoo. I guess I just came here to rant. I'm depressed, my life is a mess, I'm socially awkward, I have two depressed parents, I'm gaining weight, my mom won't bother cleaning the house, and more. My dad can't pay the bills and I feel guilty every day for using my phone. I hate my mom (not even joking). She's terrible to me everyday and can't even try to have a conversation with me. I feel like life is not even worth living. I have a whole list of bad things going on in my life. My parents are divorced. My mom is living in a house that my dad pays for. Sometimes I feel like I should end my life but I couldn't possibly do that to my dad who only lives for his children. I wanted to do so many things when I was older like go to college and I'm not even sure if my dad can afford that. My dad refuses to let me get a job so I can focus on school. What now yahoo? It's weird that I came to a website with total strangers for help. It's great to hear all of your stories. Thanks for taking the time out of your day to write out an answer. :)

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I'm 22 years old and I'm in school working on getting my Bachelors. Some of my family members are so annoying they say gosh you're not done yet, or why are u still staying home you're gonna be here until you're 40. Is it rare for a 22 year old female to still stay with her mom while she's trying to get through school?? I'm my mom only child and she has no problem with me being home. It's cheaper and it's really helping me get by faster.

my sister is below 10 or something and she's on my dad's phone like the whole day. i'm concerned about how she keeps using phones at night with the lights off. and how she holds the phone close to her eyes. is it safe for her to keep doing this? if not, what may potentially be the effects if this continues to persist. ps : she's really stubborn and annoying and she doesnt listen to any of us.

It got suspended for 6 months and this is a big problem for her as well as my brothers an I. I'm 13 and my school is 2 min by car but 10 min by walk. If I EVER miss my bus, my mom has to drive me to school which is now a big problem. My friends can't drive me and my dad lives 20 min away. It's way too dangerous to walk to my school since there is no sidewalk to walk there. What do I do in these situations if I do ever miss my bus? I'm not allowed to walk to school :/ Just asking just in case I miss the bus. Thanks for the help I guess?

The lady works for my dad and she comes over very often but I always thought she was over our house to discuss work business or whatever so I never really thought anything of it. I saw my dad and her in my parents bed having sex and I didn't know what to do so I went to my room and cried. My mom is pregnant and she's gonna be having her baby in 2 months and if I tell her i'm scared she'll divorce my dad. I told my siblings about it and we all agreed not to say anything until we figure out what to do. I don't want my baby brother coming into the world and not have both of his parents in his life.

My Mom is advising the uncle behind her sister's back. She sides with her sister's husband. My Mom is single (divorced). Her sister has gotten crazy in recent years. The husband is ignorant of that but I don't think he cheated. This has all broke in the last 6 months. Scandal of the Year.

My Mom over-reacts. If her brother's wife is in a bad mood or her sister is then she will get in a fight with them. I am embarrassed because then my Mom will say "come on Alex we are leaving". I am 29 so free to stay as long as I want as I will have my own car and live on my own but I fear my aunt will judge me or her kids will for my Mom's bad behavior. My mother likes to look for excuses to fight with the family. It hurts me because I fear they will reject me due to her behavior. Her family has a long history of rejecting the children of their enemies (my mother does this to an extreme). So what do I do Sunday to show my loyalty to the extended family if my Mom has a temper tantrum and storms out? My mother has the right to her feelings but I don't want to be hurt. She can have a fit but I don't want to get wounded by it or lose her family cause of her actions. Family is important to me.

He left my mother when I was 9 years old. I only saw him twice after that. Once was the following Christmas and then at age 14 when my grandmother died and I went to the funeral as she'd stayed in touch with us and my Mom. When I saw him at age 14 he said hi and asked what grade I was in and if I had a girlfriend. That was it. He then spent the rest of the day visiting with others. I was waiting for him to visit more or hug me, he did not. Our Dad's 2nd cousin Bill was more social with us then our own Dad. He acted like we were distant relatives he saw once every three years, NOT HIS KIDS. So all these years later he has died. I got notified and yet I am not even in his will. He has a new wife and NEW family. In fact all his step-kids and his wife get everything, nothing to us. He was a bad man. However, I am wondering if I should go to the funeral next Monday. I am off work and it is a 3 hour drive but I worry I might regret it if I don't go even if our Dad was a horrible man who is now in hell forever. Should I go? I am still very bitter that our Dad abused us emotionally like this. However, I wonder if it will give me closure to confirm to myself he is dead and in hell where he belongs now and I can move on. I don't mind meeting the new wife and I won't reveal he is in hell, obviously I will be respectful though I plan to say "it hurt not having him in our lives" but nothing else negative. Any thoughts?

So I started thinking about this when my brother when he called me a furry as an insult. I awkwardly laughed. (He does not like furies) He does not know I am one. No one does but one of my friends, and he does not care. (I have to live with my parents as of right now, but they do not know). Knowing my parents would contact my teachers and tell them, and be like is there a way to use this for helping learning... They did it before with another hobby I have, Programming! So my teachers would know and make school awkward... they would do what i said or they would freak and try to get me mental help... which is 100% STUPID!

sometimes when i get really stressed (i'm an AP student) i say things like "ughhh im gonna die" and my dad asks if i want to be buried next to Wall. E (who was my dog who died a year ago???) and it really hurts me and I just tell him to stop staying rude things. i seriously can't comprehend how he can be such a jerk.

Ok once I save up for a car my mom said she wants to pay for half of it, but I really don't want her to because I want to be able to say that I paid for all of it and be a independent woman. I also know she helped my brother the same way, but I seen her later on bringing that up when he didn't do what she wanted once, like saying I helped him so much and helped him paid for the car blah blah blah, I really don't need that if she does that to me. I also know some people would be happy if their mothers helped, I'm thinking of secretly paying off the car by myself if she adds the money in my bank account I'll just keep it tell she brings that up then give it to her and be like you didn't help at all. It's sad I feel this way I shouldn't but it's just true.

The 45 yr old man never went to college, is NOT DISABLED, and refuses to work. His sister who is a decade younger is a mother of 2 and a high school science teacher.

I'm a girl and I'm 17, she's 60, (yes we are very good friends) she's usually very blunt and rough, just not an affectionate person. why does she call me that?

My parents are split, but not divorced, (yet) so I assume custody is split as well. My mom wants to go out of town to see her family, but I don t want to, I can t stand her, and the way she makes me feel, let alone being on the road for hours with her treating me like trash. I asked my dad if it s okay for me to stay with him that weekend, and he said that I was always welcome. Legally, do I have a choice? Can I stay home? They re still married, so, if they disagree, it should be up to me, right? Or does one of them have the final say?

Couples who have sons are the most fortunate, luckiest people in the entire world.