Family: Question: Am i a DICK because i don't know when my parents' anniversary is?

Question: Am i a DICK because i don't know when my parents' anniversary is?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 01:36 PM PDT

they got married before i was born so i wasn't invited to the wedding. i have no idea when their anniversary is

Question: I've been crying and depressed everyday...what should I do?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 01:34 PM PDT

I'm 24 year old female. I live with mom and dad. I don't drive. My mom said I'm not going anywhere today. But I can tomorrow. What should I do. I'm so unhappy! & this is what happened with me & my mom yesterday: https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20170813105840AAP8Hef I have been crying and depressed for a week now. Also my dad has told me crying about it won't do you any good.

Question: Why is everyone a psycho these days?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 01:22 PM PDT

Like everyone is violent these days... Too much fighting and people are protesting then there are no results

Question: Me and my brother have different dads but the same mom.My brother dad has 2 sons with another women. What are they to me.?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 01:22 PM PDT

Question: Is hating my future mother inlaw really that horrible?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 01:15 PM PDT

I've been with my fiancé for 7 years, his mother was not apart of his life for the first 3.5 years of our relationship. She moved to the state after she had run out of family to live with and was Going to be homeless. She's bounced back and forth between living with us and our kids and his sisters. (For free.) After getting kicked out of his sisters and me putting my foot down and saying she wasn't coming here (we have a 3 bedroom home, and have two kids and a baby on the way.) She was forced to get her own place. We recently got into a fight when she said I wasn't apart of the family and needed to mind my own business when she told all his family and mine that we were expecting again ruining our suprise. I never really liked his mom due to the fact that she lies to make everyone fight and plays the victim. Now she call's my phone everyday and calls my fiancé's work multiple times a day crying cause she wants pills and cause I won't talk to her. My fiancé wants me to forgive her for all the mean things she's said but I don't feel as if she's sorry and I don't wanna deal with her. Is it such a horrible thing to not want her in my life?

Question: My dad is really abusive and i need to call cps but i don't know what to do?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 01:13 PM PDT

basically i don't like my dad and so i try not to talk to him much and knows this. and because if this he always hitsme and my sister and i have another 2 year old sister and i don't want her to go through that and i want him to leave. everyone in my family knows he is abusive and my grandparents always talk to my mom about divorcing him but she never listens. why they have never filed any kind of report? i don't know but now i'm trying to do it but i'm not sure where to start. i wan't to talk to someone but i don't know who to talk to. everywhere i read about CPS they say that you should never speak to them without a lawyer present but i can't pay for oneand that is you don't they just kind of take over and take the kids away and split them up and i don't want that to happen. i just want my dad to leave. he's the problem.. what should i do? who should i talk to? what number should i call? if i decided not to call cps and there was no way to get him out,could i somehow petition for emancipation? i don't know how to go about that either but could that be an option for me?

Question: I hate most of my family.... Am I so terrible?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 12:58 PM PDT

My dad said to me today after I state I didn't want to go volleyball with this lady because of certain reasons..... "Why not? You need to go play volleyball and get some exercise. You need to right along with G(names hidden). You need to be on the same team as her." So I'm like... okay... When I try to tell my idiot father that is mean, he apparently doesn't get it or think he is wrong... I don't know why my family chooses to bully me. What did I do<=? I didn't freaking choose to be born. I know what I go through isn't as big as others; problems, but it's still pretty big to me. No one takes my side for a second. I don't talk to my brothers about ot... Why would I? Everytime I talk to my SISTER, she always acts like I'm in the wrong or am being too sensitive... Even when friends bully me (not my friends anymore) She's a stupid, light skin, skinny girl, by the way. Sorry for the insults. I'm just highly upset. I think I will starve myself and then maybe my family will stop getting on my nerves and pounding on me about stuff By the way, I'm 129.0, 5'2". This isn't everything... Last time I tried to go in full details about my sister, I exceeded the amount of letters or something. and I'll be 18 in two weeks... Am I being too sensitive? I just want to leave. I graduated already, but I'm unfortunately taking a gap year and stuff. I often contemplate suicide well, I mean, I still love them... I don't want to hate them... I sometimes hate that... often

Question: My husband passed 10 mth ago. I have a 3 year old and his side of the fam are now asking what can they do to help. Isn't that long over do?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 12:44 PM PDT

Question: Is it ok to not know what i want to do with my life?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 12:30 PM PDT

i'm 16, which i know is relatively young, yet my family keeps nagging asking me what i want to do with my life. i genuinely just don't know?.. nothing catches my interest enough for me to want a career in that area. everytime i say i don't know, they keep telling me "you're gonna be a failure" "you're going nowhere in life" it makes me feel like complete **** and at some extent suicidal. it sounds ridiculous but i keep hearing what they say in the back of my head and just think that if that's really what waits for me than what's the point of even living? i just feel like i'll never please them, i feel really lost and having all these negative comments thrown at me by my own family surely doesn't help.

Question: When I get married will I have to leave my parents forever?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 12:23 PM PDT

I love my parents so much, and I don't want to have to leave them once I grow up and start a family. Will I still be able to visit them multiple times a week or is that too much?

Question: I'm tired of my annoying bratty 19 year old brother who disrespects my mom how to get rid of him?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 11:53 AM PDT

I'm 26 yrs old he always yells tells people to shut up destroy things throws punches sometimes middle of the night the retard is laughing so hard at stupid videos he's watching on his phone I can't hardly sleep. He smokes that's his problem and all he listens to is his own crappy rap music I have another brother he is far worse more mean and he caused me to miscarry when I was pregnant he's too tall to fight the only thing I could have done was spit at him he always threaten to kill me I just can't take it anymore please help and we're a black family btw I don't listen to or hangout with black people because of past issues

Question: Is it wrong to ignore my mom after I moved out who wont let me have my own life still?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 11:29 AM PDT

She keeps unpredictably asking me for favors, or to house sit, do repairs ect. I gave her enough years of my life under emotion abuse as well. She never let me do anything unless its on her terms and control. Im glad I moved out hut still she has not changed and expect me to stop whatever it is I am doing at her convenience. Makes me feel guilty or like crap too. Treated me like **** and likeca clueless child as an adult. Got violent often and screaming horrible things at me bi polar,then forgot the next day. I feel like changing my number. I feel bad because I left a bunch of messeges saying she needs to findxa husband or boyfriend or friends. I said I moved out and got my own life this is not fair. She gives me anxiety now and panic attacks. I have ptsd. She is a toxic parent.

Question: Did my wife keep me out of trouble?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 09:56 AM PDT

My wife and I were at her mother's (Linda) house. My wife was showing me the family photo album. In it was Linda's pictures as a swim suit model. Wow, was Linda great looking and had a figure to die for. I told my wife "I see where you get your good looks. Your mother is gorgeous ". Linda heard me and came over and hugged me and said "You made my day". My wife asked her mother if she could still get in the bathing suit she had on in the pictures. Linda said "Yes, they still fit". My wife ask her mother to put one on so she could get a picture of her now in the swim suit. Linda said she did not think she should do that as the swim suit was too revealing. Linda turned to me and said "You would not like to see me in a micro bikini would you"? Every guy reading this knows what the truthful answer is but I can not say that. My thought was OH CRAP. What can I say without getting my wife mad at me? My wife saved the day for me. She said "MOM, every guy likes to see a beautiful woman in a micro bikini". I think I owe my wife a diner at a nice restaurant for keeping me out of trouble. Gals, do I?

Question: Should my brother be saying this about me?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 09:51 AM PDT

I overheard my brother talking to his buddies. He said "I am the most unlucky guy in the world". "The most beautiful girl I have ever seen in my life is someone I can not date, my sister". I think "I should check our birth certificates so see if either of us is adopted". Is that a compliment or something not appropriate to say about your sister?

Question: Who is in the wrong?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 09:50 AM PDT

Today my dad bursted into my room and told me to stop playing video games. I had been playing for around 6 hours. I responded "Okay", and went to get some breakfast. He was acting very rude and mad when he bursted into my room. While I was having breakfast, he starts critizing me and making fun of me about the situation. I responded with a calm "What is your problem? In what way does it bother you?". After this it all goes ****. He always takes things like this as an insult. He responds back with a " So you are telling me that it is none of my business". " No, I'm just trying to figure out why you are acting this way." He responds with " Keep talking like that to me and I will give you your reciept. I have passed a lot of insults from you." I respond with "No, no, don't give me my reciept, tell me what I am buying." "You know what are buying, last time I checked you were not born retarted." " Dad, haven't you ever thought that if you told me what I do wrong, I would stop? Besides, I don't see anything wrong with me playing video games. Everyday I feed the dogs, cats, wash the dishes, and clean up the house. You do nothing but being on your phone all day and playing Xbox. That is all right because you work. You pay rent. I do my part, you do your part." After this he was grumpy for about 30 minutes. I forgot to mention that I am in my room with my head set, and zero noise come out of my room. I am also in summer break.

Question: My mom keeps invading my privacy and idk what to do. Advice?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 09:49 AM PDT

I m a 15year old girl. I ve never been a bad kid and done illegal things before or done anything to betray my parents trust. I go to an honor school and there they teach us the lessons of respect and trust. I m on the second floor of my house. When our house was built they designed it so my room was totally open with no door or even a door frame. My mom is constantly up in my space and always goes through my things and reorganizes without even asking me. She often will even sleep in my room at night. it worries me to confront her because she s a very overpowering person with mild anger issues. I have no where to lock myself and even while I m in the bathroom she will make me unlock the door and barge in while I m showering or whatever I m doing.

Question: My Mom is forgiving towards her family but refuses to forgive her in-laws. This hurts me alot. How do I overcome the hurt that this causes?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 09:29 AM PDT

This hurts me terribly because it makes me a 2nd rate relative on my Dad's side as my folks don't go to their events and I sometimes am allowed to go with my grandmother but not a lot since my Mom holds grudges. Yet she forgives her family. Her families offenses are worse. Her brother has domestic violence, her sister abandoned a child, and her other brother was an alcoholic though he has recovered. Yet, my Mom forgives them because they are family. She won't forgive her in-laws and I miss out 2/3rds of the time. It hurts so much especially at the family holidays like Christmas when we have to go to the domestic violence uncle's house. I even have a drug addict cousin and my Mom forgave him and was sad when he died. So how do I overcome this hurt that I have? I am 14 years old so can't go where I want and even when I am an adult I will likely get grief when I do. The offenses my Mom won't forgive is that her in-laws were not excited when my Dad married my Mom. Also, my Dad's only sister and my Mom don't get along real well since my Mom is gossipy and my Dad's sister is more private. One of my Dad's brothers my mother finds moody yet my Mom is forgiving with her own brother breaking things in his house when mad at his wife. I don't get it and it hurts me. I don't have many friends so family is important to me.

Question: My cousin lies according to her mother. Should I not believe anything the cousin says when I see her each Saturday?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 09:24 AM PDT

Question: What is the definition of sharing?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 09:06 AM PDT

My mom bought three items for my sister and I. Apparently my sister agreed to share with me. Once it arrived she gave me the item. The next day all three items are in her room from day 2 the items arrived. So I get pissed because she said she was going to share. For weeks it was in her room and she gave no access to me. So took the item and when she finds out, She Definitely wants that item more than the other two. Whenever, I want something, she needs to have it NO MATTER WHAT. Even if that means stealing five of my own personal belonging, trashing everything I have, throwing things, or going in fits.. First of all, my mom BOUGHT that. Whenever things go to her room it is usually her " POSSESSION". No matter what I argued, and continuously telling her Mom bought it for us to share, she would just keep denying it. She has a selfish nature and she would do anything to get it back. She is so persistent. So CAN ANYONE TELL ME IS THIS CALLED SHARING. We are still fighting and she is insane, I feel like she is going to kill me for just that one item.

Question: Alguien que no pueda iniciar sesión en Facebook cuando meto la contraseña me sale un control de seguridad con el número de teléfono?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 08:30 AM PDT

Que tenía cuando me registré hace 6 años ahora tengo otro y no me deja cambiar me piden el código que me mandaron al teléfono que no tengo a alguien le ha pasado que ha hecho

Question: Adults only?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 08:22 AM PDT

Question: Is it awkward that i love my little cousin very much?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 07:38 AM PDT

I'm a 16 year old guy and i have a little girl cousin who is currently 7 years old and ever since i first met her about 3 years ago i've just loved her to pieces even though we aren't the same gender. I obviously don't love her in any creepy way, she's just a very sweet and innocent little angel and to me she's almost like the little sister i never had. We don't have that tight of a bond but i still love her a lot more than she thinks i do and to be honest, i would do anything to protect her. I even get sad sometimes because she's growing up really fast and before i know it she isn't going to be little anymore so i guess i'll just have to make the most of my time with her in her youth. But anyway, is it awkward for a guy like me to love his little cousin of the opposite gender in a way like this?

Question: Is it fair?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 07:09 AM PDT

is it fair to make my oldest child do most things around the house and make the others do hardly anything and if the oldest starts refusing tell them they aren t part of the family, my partner that is not her dad, just a step dad constantly gets on at her saying she s not good enough and other things like it...

Question: Giving my adult sister a spanking?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 05:00 AM PDT

When I was 25, 6 years ago... My sister was in her early 40s... She was treating my other sister like filth.. And she threatened to steal my computer.. In front of everybody in the house... I forced her over my knees .. Pulled down her pants... And gave her spanking with my belt. Lmao

Question: What should I do with my mom?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 03:58 AM PDT

I'm 24 and I'm in Certified Family Housing. I have been depressed lately and I told her and she got all mad at me and told me I was a cry baby. She pretty much said she can say whatever she wants because she is the adult and I'm the child. So I cussed at her and she told my dad to talk to me before she goes to jail for punching me in the mouth. She is also my legal guardian I'm i have mental disabilities that are mild. She got mad at me because I would not express why I was depressed and that I did and mad at me because I was depressed too. She told me I'm a big baby. I can't move out because of the program I'm in. What should I do??? Serious answers please! I also suffer from depression! I told her that and she told me no that I'm just a big baby. Also my mom told me that my brother is not a big cry baby like me cause all I keep doing it balling.

Question: My mother is cruel to her daughter-in-law behind her back (nice to her face). Is this how the majority of mothers in law are?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 03:47 AM PDT

My Mom used to say what a good mother in law she'd be but she is awful behind her daughter-in-law's back though nice to her son-in-law. She even insults my brother now that he is married to this woman.

Question: I hate my family with a passion?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 02:41 AM PDT

I'm 23 and will be moving out once I graduate but now I HAVE NO OPTION for where to live and sometimes my mom is nice. I will probably have psychological issues living here. I drink twice a week and my mom calls me an alcoholic. I wasn't allowed to carry a house key for the longest time after I lost a house key once. I started to hate my stepdad because he just doesn't do anything and I have been miserable with her treatment of me. I also

Question: Should parents push their political views on their kids even after they have left the nest?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 02:33 AM PDT

I have constant political arguments with my mom, and I really wish I knew how to stop it. The problem has been brewing for a bit, but after my sister and I voted for Trump it has become unbearable. I didn't tell her how I voted for the longest time to begin with. But one day she was on a real tear about him, and I finally just couldn't take it. I told her how I voted, and I outed my sister too. I know I shouldn't have, but I just had it pent up. I don't want to get into why we both think the way we do, lets just say I respect how she raised us with what she believed, and a lot of it is very right. It isn't so much that we disagree on what is right, Its more that we disagree on what is actually happening in the world. I see the balance as being too far left, and she sees it as not being nearly enough. Now that she knows how we voted, she just won't stop. I thought about avoiding her for a while and let her cool off, but that would hurt her feelings, and probably make things worse. My sister is doing a little of that too, and I don't want mom to feel like we abandoned her. I have tried saying everything I know how. Arguing. Refusing to argue. Changing the subject. Explaining how I feel. About the only thing that would shut her down is if I said i agreed with her, but I don't. Its not like I have turned into a different person all of a sudden. @ Raja, that made me smile. You are right. It is very undemocratic. Sadly, parents are often very totalitarian when it comes to their kids! @ Dragoon, you say that because you are a little kid, that doesn't know, because you have never seen how politics can change things. No, although I think elections are slightly rigged, they are NOT FAKE. I have personally worked on campaigns before, and know how much money is spent on them, and it wouldn't happen if the outcome was decided. . Politics can't change everything, but that doesn't mean they can't change anything.

Question: My brother wants to take a job abroad. Is it wrong of me to ask him to stay?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 02:31 AM PDT

My big brother and I never were really close. He was always this extroverted party guy that everyone just loved. He could walk in anywhere, anytime and talk to anybody and they would instantly love. I'm the opposite. I've always been misunderstood. Even my parents never understood me. They never said it but I know they wondered why I never was like my brother. I have been diagnosed with depression and I've never really talked to anyone about it. 2 years ago, my brother came back from traveling 18 months in South America. I took my chances and I opened up to him. Doing that is honestly one of the best decision I have made. For the first time in life I have had a friend. He has helped me so much and been so understanding. I remember for my birthday a few months ago he bought an old Nintendo and some beers and we build a fort and played video games all night. I never had that before. But all good things come to an end. He told me the other day that he got a job offer abroad and since I seemed to getting along better he was thinking about taking it. But if he leaves I'll be alone again. But if I ask him to stay that would be selfish. I don't want to be alone again. I don't want to lose my brother. What do I do?

Question: Am I being abused by my parents?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 01:58 AM PDT

My parents will occasionally beat me when I anger them; sometimes by hand and sometimes with an object such as a baseball bat. However, they yell at me more than they beat me. They tell me that they wish I'd never been born, that they're ashamed to call me their child. I'm constantly being compared to my perfect sister, using words like "failure", "disappointment", or "a curse". They can yell for hours on ends, occasionally ending in beatings. They criticize everything I do. When my relay team won with me as the anchor, all my dad said was "you could've ran faster if you weren't so fat". My parents constantly pick on my appearance and (lack of ) talents, and when I approach them and tell them that it makes me uncomfortable and unhappy all they do is shut me up with a lecture on how I'm just a useless ***** and that I should respect them because they're the authority. I have cried countless times because of them, and the times I cried in front of them they just give me the cold shoulder or call me weak. However, I'm still unsure if this qualifies as abuse. I know many kids are beaten to a pulp each day, and are driven to self harm from their parents. I've only gotten a few bruises and marks from my parents, and my suicidal thoughts haven't driven me to self harm yet. Another reason why I'm conflicted is because they CAN be nice. My family goes on vacations like normal families and they treat us to some fun sometimes. So I need to know, is this abuse or just rough parenting?

Question: Why doesn't my father let me do what I want?

Posted: 13 Aug 2017 12:29 AM PDT

I was born with a heart defect, I've had surgery and am pretty good and healthy now. I've fractured my skull 3 times and am now deaf in 1 ear completely, I play sports and am very good, but my father won't allow me to play football, I've been sneaking out and walking 2 hours to get to practice because I'm scared he'll find out, how can I convince him that I'll be okay

Question: How do I physically defend my girlfriend against her abusive step-father?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 10:59 PM PDT

Me and my girlfriend are 15 years old. Her step-father is physically abusive to her, and her mother is emotionally abusive. I want to defend her somehow. If I call the police, she'll be taken away and I'll never see her again. I want to hurt her mother and step-father in a way that not only hurts them physically, but humiliates them so they'll never hurt her again. I also need to humiliate them so they won't tell the police or my parents. What should I do? Edit: I understand I can't just hurt them physically and end it. I need to use some level of psychological torture as well so that they'll feel too ashamed and pathetic to ever hurt her again. She refuses to go to a foster home. There's no way I can convince her.

Question: Was my dad tricked into having a baby?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 10:55 PM PDT

First of all, the general backround of my dads girlfiend is of her being 36 when having the baby, she still lived with her parents until she moved in with my dad. 3 months prior to her moving in, she would always pack suitcases and stay over 1-2 nights but not until after she announced her pregnancy to me and my brother she moved in perminantly. This makes me really suspicious that she tricked my dad into having a kid, I know for sure my dad didn t decide to have a kid and her bland personality would make it seem like my dad would have dumpedal her if he had the chance but then became trapped with a baby. maybe she thought this would be the only way to get a man in her life and having something worthy to be proud of and show off, a baby. She also hinted she wished she was married and had her own house. And by the way, I know babies take up lots of time but I can t evendors go golfing with my dad anymore because she acts up when she has to spend an afternoon tending to the baby by herself. If she had a life my dad would let her go out with friends

Question: Is this message appropriate to send to my 14 year old cousin?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 10:45 PM PDT

So basically She's going through puberty, changing and trying to discover who she is, and she did a few things I didn't like which is okay because as she grows older she will learn from her mistakes, but basically I just want to patch this missing piece up, because it's the one thing that's been bothering me for a while and if I let it out I will feel relieved and stress free, here is the message down below. Hi Saphron, I feel like We haven't been on speaking terms since 2015 and I just want you too know that if I've done anything to upset you I'm sorry, and just know that I am not against you, It's always hurt me how much you adore Everyone else in our family but me, but That's fine, I hope you're enjoying your first year of High School so far, and I hope you're happy In your life.

Question: Can I call the police on my brother for destroying my property? We are both adults living in the same home.?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 10:37 PM PDT

My younger brother is 21 and just moved back home from college. I live with my parents and help take care of them and my younger siblings. Just now, my brother started throwing my property out of the art/laundry room and breaking it all and saying he was moving into that room. My dad told him to stop, but he threatened to "throw all my sht out" and destroy my artwork and other property. Can I legally do anything about this if he touches my belongings in a violent way again?

Question: Am I a bad mother?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 10:34 PM PDT

So my son is 4 years old I have full custody of him since he was born and my parents told me I was a bad mom because I like having some time alone for myself and ask my parents to watch him for a night so am I a bad mom for just wanting 1 night alone to relax and sleep a little more than I would usually do?

Question: My mom is always comparing me and my sister?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 10:33 PM PDT

Why she always say your sister is not as fat as you she got married and you're still single she have a father for her baby but you're alone why is she doing this it make me so sad when she does this Edit just so you know my son's father die so be careful to what you say

Question: How to overcome a rough childhood?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 10:21 PM PDT

im gonna make this as brief as possible bc if i wrote every detail itd take a whole book to write... but here gos . thangs werent going well while i lived with my mother. so i left her house around age 14. from there i went to live with an abusive dad. ive been punched bitten eye gouged called names and just flat out physical abuse from him. i tryd going back to my moms and she said no .. so i lived with my grand parents. im happy i had them but it was very difficult living with them . theyre very old fashioned strict judgmental ect. so age 22 i moved out . im now 28 and still feel angery depressed and alone. whats hard is my parents still live around me so when i go around family i see them or hear about them. my family being my parents family as well still talks with them and they act like nothing ever happened .. for this reason i try and avoid my entire family as much as possible . its hard seeing my parents who in there eyes did nothing wrong and owe no opology . i basically am all alone ... i have friends but thats about it . ive no idea where to go and how to heal . what do i do? what can i do ?

Question: I want to meet up with my friend, but my parents are overprotective.?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 10:09 PM PDT

I'm 30 years old and I still live with my parents. Yes I know I should have moved out by now. I've been meeting up with a 43 year old who lives out of state. We are not in a relationship we've met up 3 times since 2015. So now I asked him to come see me. But I don't want my parents to find out that I'm going to a hotel to meet up with him. Even if I say I'm staying at a friends house they will check

Question: I hate being poor?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 09:52 PM PDT

Im at the library to be clear We dont have a car, and our mom wont let me and my sister beg. I only have 1 pair of shoes, 2 outfits, and a jacket. Our house is real ugly... i love spending the night at my friends house i usually do that when my parents let me wich is once a week for 2 days ... how do i tell her, and my dad is gone

Question: Is it time to leave the nest?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 09:50 PM PDT

I'm 21 years old and I live with my parents and older brother. Im currently a full-time College student , I'll be graduating next year with an AS degree in Business & Technology. I noticed that lately I've been getting more and more irritated but I only get this feeling when I'm at home. Just some past background info, I've been through sexual abuse, sexually assault and bullying, and it all happened in the house that I was supposed to be safe and secure in. My parents weren't the ones doing these things but family members and even my own brother has bullied and sexually abused me. Could I be irritated for no reason due to past bad experiences in the house I grew up in? Not to mention my mom makes me do most of the housework and asks me to do everything.

Question: Why would an estranged sister need to get in touch with her sister after several years?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 09:40 PM PDT

Question: I feel like my mom can't accept the reality that I moved out and want some space for my own life and freedom?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 09:04 PM PDT

She was a very controlling, abusive parent with others involved. I feel shes clingy now abd its tajen a long time to realize she lost me as a son ages ago. Chance after chance. I read toxic parents. It made sense to me suffering feom ptsd.

Question: My dad is very violent and scary! Help?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 08:56 PM PDT

Usually my dad is very nice easygoing and funny but lately he has been very scary. Whenever anything has to do with my brothers or dogs he goes crazy. Yesterday he brought a saw to pick me up at the bus stop because he said "Maybe if I slice some dogs up people will know to put them away". He also tried to chase my brothers friends TWICE once with a saw and another time with a bat and he claims its because he does want "hoodrats" near his house. My other brother and him got in a fight and he said if he ever comes here agin he will kick his a**(he moved out 3 years ago cuz he is 22 I think)it may be because somebody broke into our house when we were on vacation but they stole absolutely nothing and left immediately. But that was a month ago.the worst thing about this is th at whenver he gets through threatening somebody, he walks away and gives me a murderous look before he leaves. By the way he is 62 years old.RECAP:he threatens to hurt my brothers, other people dogs , and my mom. He carried a saw to a bus stop, and he tried to chase a kid with a baseball bat and he is always trying to start a fight With everybody.Info: my dad has torrents and he has seizures. He usually takes his medication but organizes them wrong so there are up to 10 pills in 1 box. He grew up in a big city so the dogs there are vicious.Please help me in only 12 almost 13 and I m tired of being scared of my dad

Question: Is my brother too sensitive?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 08:51 PM PDT

He's my twin brother. I just think he cries more than he should. Even when he's super scared he starts to tear up. Last week, I pulled a prank on him and tricked him into thinking my car breaks weren't working and we were about to run into a tree and until I stopped. I was laughing but his eyes were super red and watery and he got out of the car and walked ( 3-mile walk btw) back home, and wouldn't talk to me for the rest of the day. Then today he came home crying because he thought he lost his wallet, but really I just took it and forgot to give it back to him. I gave it back to him and asked "Davey why are you crying?!" and he said " Because everything is in here! I didn't know what to do!" then my dad went to confront him and told me "Hey buddy, just asked next time, ok?". My dad is always enabling his behavior, ever since I could remember. He always says "Nothing wrong with crying." or "We all handle stress differently" or some other excuse. Is my brother too sensitive?

Question: My life is so messed up. How do I get through this because I feel like giving up.?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 08:25 PM PDT

I'm 13 and I'm in 8th grade. My life is really terrible like it's not just that I'm a teenager and everyone goes through this, it's more than that. The first thing is my dad, he's emotionally abusive like when I was little like 5-7 I would shrug my shoulders like a normal kid and he would yell "Stop shrugging your f*cking shoulders" and I was a little kid so I don't understand why you would talk to a child like that and then another time I was following my mother around watching her clean because idk I was bored I guess and he came up behind me and yelled "stop following your f*cking mother around" like I just hate him so much he makes my life terrible. The next thing is my school situation, I get stressed out easily and I have really bad anxiety and so I saw that this school that I'm going to has online school so I asked my mom and she didn't even ask questions or look it up she just said no and so did my stupid dad and I come home crying everyday and they just get mad. That's another thing, my father was screaming at me and my sister about a month ago and we started crying and I they just laughed and acted like we were crying for no reason and my mother doesn't do anything, she just agrees with him. He controls everything in the house like we're not allowed to change the room temperature or else he'll get mad and he has my moms email password but she doesn't have his. I don't have anywhere to go and I don't have friends so don't say that, idk what to do please help me.

Question: I'm 35 and my parents avoid me unless they're drunk or want to give me advice, is this normal and what am I doing wrong?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 08:24 PM PDT

We live on the same block but basically don't talk. I ask them every month if they want to do something together (I've tried both vague and specific, always things I know they enjoy)... Always "busy" (even when they're very obviously not). In the past 15+ years they have never asked me to do something with them. I've tried showing up at their house... Only works if they're already drunk, or if I show up with booze to get them drunk, or if they want to give me advice. Is this normal? If not, what am I doing wrong? I know we're never going to be the Brady Bunch but geez:( Oh yeah to clarify - I've tried asking them individually and also both together. Still no luck Individually like to do individual one-on-one activities or to go out restaurant just the two of us. Or as a family.

Question: Is this selfish? Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 08:18 PM PDT

My mom passed away when I was 11, and I had to move in with my dad....I'm 16 now, but sometimes I look on her facebook, and I cry. Sometimes I wish I could bring her back to life, even if that meant letting go of my dad. Because not only did my mom treat me better, I felt better about myself, my whole persona changed living with my dad (they divorced when i was 7 and I barely saw him)...am I selfish?

Question: What would you do when you return home to a "family" after going on a business trip for a week?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 07:44 PM PDT

I'm writing a story and I hit a bump. An 19 year old male returns home after going for business trips for a week [to hire some construction workers to make a huge house and some other people to assist with the project]. He returns home and I wrote something but it doesn't click in well. I need some ideas from your own perspectives. Best support gets best answer reward. If you want to help the story, here's a short part of it where help is needed. Caution: its MLP (my little pony). Don't ask, i'm doing it for a friend for fun despite my lack of knowledge in the show.

Question: How to convince my parents to let me put a tv in my room?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 07:20 PM PDT

Ive offered to pay for it all and even some of the electric bill if they want me to. I just need reasons for them to let me put it in my room. Thanks.

Question: Dealing with a rude interrupting father?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 07:11 PM PDT

My dad seems to have no respect for me when I speak. I could be talking and he will just start talking over the top of me about something completely random and not even care that I was speaking. Also I could be talking to my mother about something he's not even involved in and he will just barge into the conversation asking what's going on and what I'm talking about. I can't talk to him about it because he sees nothing wrong with what he does. I've tried telling him to stop barging into my conversations and he gets mad and says he will do what he wants. I should be able to have a conversation with my mother without him interrupting or busting in.

Question: How can I manage living with a friend across the country instead of with my family?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 07:05 PM PDT

I m constantly moving and I have trouble settling down because of it. My mom, 5 yr old llittle brother and I are living with my uncle at the moment. My mom is battling over custody of my little brother from a different father. Lots of details lead to the conclusion that she cannot leave the state until the child is 18. He is hyperactive and "only listens to yelling". My mom and my uncle get into fights about her moving out because she is a "slob", which includes lots of yelling. My uncle let us stay but now believes that we are overstaying our welcome and wants us to leave. He is threatening to take this to court to get us out sooner. I m sick of all the hostility and the moving. All I want is to be happily settled down in one area without worrying about constantly moving. Some therapy sessions have occured to try to help me adjust better but they are working less and less. The last place where I really felt happy was in a small town up North. I asked if she would allow me to leave and live there for the last 2 years of school I have left (I m 16 by the way). She avoided the question a lot and when she did answer, it was usually with guilt trips trying to get me to not leave. She is aware of how unhappy I am but all she has to offer is more pointless therapy sessions. I can find a friend to let me in, but I m not bothering to look until my mom actually allows me to leave. How can I get her to let me leave? What are my options if she doesn t let me?

Question: Am I wrong for being mad that I caught my wife & daughter twerking? Why would my wife allow my 14yo daughter to twerk?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 07:02 PM PDT

This isn't the first time. I caught my friend recording my daughter twerking 3 weeks ago. I broke his phone.

Question: What can I do about my brother..he brings my Dad down?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 06:46 PM PDT

My brother is grown but it's like he bullies my Dad he's 29. He talks to my Dad any kind of way. He's extremely unclean to stay with, he changes his clothes all over the house and leave his dirty underwear a over, food in plates all over, doesn't take out the trash, does clean. He's also a horder he has the whole house filled with everything. He doesn't pay bills. He talks to my Dad any kind of way. My Dad culture makes him believe he can't put out his son or evict him that they have to leave on his own. I'm sick of it. I clean up everyday and he won't clean behind himself but it's nothing I can do because it's not my house. This has been going on for years and he's always saying he's moving but want. I think he likes the fact where he can keep his money and have free rent. Any advice because it's wearing my Dad down.

Question: I'm a Black man and I want to date a White woman. I live in NC. Should I move to a liberal state?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 06:41 PM PDT

I cannot get a blonde girlfriend here. I am suffering from racism Do blonde girls in Pennsylvania are more inclined to date Black men?

Question: My uncle has a mansion and is buying another one. His ex-wife lives in a townhouse. Is this unfair?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 06:35 PM PDT

He was a dick to his ex-wife. He made millions and never had to work much. He also is bitter but a multi-millionaire with his new wife. Some say his new wife married him for his money. I have no opinion on that. I know his ex-wife is screwed and she struggles financially. He and his ex had all sons so the three sons spend all their time with Dad at his mansion. She is alone. Sometimes the middle son visits her.

Question: I feel really uncomfortable around my dad?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 05:41 PM PDT

Pretty sure nothing inappropriate has ever happened, im 24 and as far back as i can remember ive never liked or felt comfortable around my dad, i dont like talking to him or being in the same room as him. Im ok with everyone else in my family, just not him and i cant really figure out why. Ive never had a relationship with him and to be honest never wanted one, at one point i didnt know who he was exactly, even though we lived in the same house. I remember when i was a kid, i was sitting on the couch and i didnt really recognize him, he goes to sit next to me and i jump up freaked out that this stranger is trying to sit next to me, i run behind my mom and she yells at me "stop being rude and go sit next to YOUR dad." Up until that point, i just thought his name was dad, everyone called him that, even my sisters who were grown and not his kids. It was just confusing i guess.. Im not close to alot of ppl in my family, i feel like they're more a neighbor type than a relitive, but my dads the only one that makes me feel awkward or uncomfortable..

Question: 10 year old brother?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 05:30 PM PDT

My 10 year old brother hasn't been himself, his mom lives with us but he just doesn't seem as happy, he loves me a lot, he says it all the time. He hugs me all the time too, I'll come out of the kitchen he gets up and hugs me and will stay there until I ask him to move, then he will cuddle me on the couch and sit on my lap, it gets my 5 year old brother jealous because he wants to cuddle with me too. But before my 10 year old brother didn't do that as much as he is now. He's also seemed a little bit depressed, I bought him an iPad mini to cheer him up, it hasn't worked, he asks me to play with him a lot. He's homeschooled because he has bad anxiety, he has separation anxiety pretty bad as well. Him and my mom lived in a horrible apartment because my mom can't pay much. Once I found out, I told them to move in and I didn't mind, so my mom gave me custody, I remember seeing his face when he found out, his eyes lit up and he hugged me and started to cry tears of happiness. I've always been there for him since he was born. I'm also 25 and a girl. Oh and when I come home from work he usually is on my bed asking me to cuddle with him so he can sleep. When I don't sleep with him he can't sleep, it's something when he cuddles into me that helps him sleep. He just wants to be with me, he's the same way with my mom when I'm not home, we're both very confused of what triggered this behavior. He cries a lot as well, poor baby :( he's my best friend and I hate seeing him like this

Question: I am Just fed up with life...what do I do!?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 05:28 PM PDT

So when he was a kid, my dad was TORMENTED by his older sister, and my late aunt. She would lock him in suitcases, break his things, and blame things on him ALL THE TIME. And now with my little sister, no matter what I always get blamed. She kicks me I get blamed, she breaks one of my things, I get blamed, the locks the dog in my room, when I am gone, causing the dog to have to take a ****, on my bedroom floor I GET BLAMED It just sucks all the time! And whenever I ask my dad, why he is blaming me why I am the one getting in trouble he always says "My sister was so awful to me growing up, that I know you MUST have had something to do with it." and then he goes on and on about how awful ALL older siblings are. And my mom, and him are divorced, so it only happens at his house, but I don't want to stop coming over here. Basically I am getting grounded over and over again, just because I am the oldest child. And after he gives that explanation of course I get angry, cause I mean who wouldn't! And then he goes on vacations to like cali and hawaii takes my little sister, but says "No u can't come also, you get angry to easily who knows what might happen out of town" BUT THAT IS BECAUSE OH HIS BIAS! Now I admit sometimes when my sister and I go head to head, I may instigate a lil bit, but she always starts it, and I ALWAYS GET IN TROUBLE! WHat do I do! How DO I get it through to my dad that just because his big sister was the devil dont mean all big sisters are? btw im 14 she 7

Question: My mom is moving back home to her country away from my family. What can I do to make her stay?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 05:23 PM PDT

My mom has wanted to move back to her country since I was born. I'm 15 and I have 2 sisters who are 16 and 18. She wants to move back to be with her family and her and my dad have been fighting for the past few years. I don't know why she would leave now at such an important time in my life. I can't imagine living with out her and I just don't know what to do.