Family: Question: Things my sister needs to learm?

Question: Things my sister needs to learm?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 01:56 PM PDT

I called the Joshua center, here in Fayetteville, Arkansas... I put $200 on an account there. And i told them me and my sister's situation. She asked me what it is that my sister needs to learn. I told her that my sister needs to learn that people do the best they can do and that's it. She needs to learn that I won't sit here and be insulted by her comparing our relationship to a landlord... That she's not my f)ucking landlord and I'm not her tenant...I'm her goddamn brother...and I'm the ONLY person that can say that. She needs to learn that she's my sister and it's her job to be there for and with me.. There is no but but but but but...*fart*... That's what she needs to learn. I don't sit here going. *raspberries*... No...I'm there for her and there is no But but but but but *fart*...STFU.. She needs to learn that. Period.

Question: Isn't this cruel what my dad has to say about my mom being fat?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 01:52 PM PDT

So, my dad says that if he would of known mom was going to be fat he would of never married her and probably would of ignored her when he was in his early 20's. My older sister is overweight as well and he'd often use the word fat as an insult. Isn't this wrong or disgusting?

Question: I m about to start high school and my dad recently got layed off as he was directer of a department that got cut. Please read?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 01:47 PM PDT

My dad is 64 and he works in a field that is plummeting down. His age and field is making the likelyhood that he will find a job lower and lower. My mom doesn t work full time so we are not getting any benefits. She keeps telling us about my dad s non logical ideas, such as he wants to change careers by getting a degree that will last a year and cost tens of thousands of dollars. We are all trying to convince him it s not a good idea. My dad is truely the hardest worker I know and i know he feels so guilty about everything that he gets nightmares in his sleep every night. I can hear my mom crying with stress and I m trying to help out. I ve done more chores, I quit my after school activities to save money, and I read over some of their emails before they send them because English is not their first language. but I can t do anything else. Please give me advice on how to help.

Question: Loans Question, Family drama.?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 01:40 PM PDT

Hello Yahoo, I'm fairly new to Yahoo answers and I'm hoping to get some answers here. My family and I are in a shitty situations against my Dad. We are now separated, my Mom is trying to divorce my Dad but he is stalling from coming to court because he doesn't want to divorce. My Dad is an egotistic, selfish, greedy, short temper, and abusive person. He's also the one that kicked us out of the house, but then wants us back. I'm with 3 other siblings, and we all are on our Mom's side, so of course we're living with her now. These are just things to give you guys the picture of what's going on with my family. So my question is, is there a way that my Mom can fight and not pay for "her" loans? Reason why I asked this question is because it's not really her loans but my Dad's. My Mom doesn't not speak English, so my Mom doesn't really know much of Society and other works. Therefore, my Dad uses that advantage, and used her personal information or identity to get loans. My Dad's credit is really shitty, so he uses my Mom's personal information to get money from loaners, so basically my Mom's credit is **** now because of him. My Mom is a hard working woman, and she'd never loan company, she does it the fobby way by asking her cousins if she ever wants to burrow money. She'll pay it back though. If you guys have any questions that needs to be asked, please ask. Thanks for reading.

Question: Free family counseling?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 01:27 PM PDT

Me and my sister need family counseling. Is there any place in Arkansas where a brother and sister can get family counseling for Free ? My sister has absolutely no understanding of mother daughter, father daughter, father son, husband and wife or sister brother, or any other relationships. NONE. Because she's crazy and she never had appropriate relationships.

Question: 14 YEAR OLD WITH VERY STRICT PARENTS!! ADVICE NEEDED!!?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 01:18 PM PDT

I am a 14 year old girl and I have very strict parents. By this I mean a lot of things: First of all, my parents do not want me to hang out with boys, even just as friends!! Before, they were okay with it they didn t care. I don t know why but now they do, especially my dad! And he used to be so cool with it before. My mom is okay with me having guy friends the reason she doesn t me to go out with them is because of my father. I find this soo frustrating.... Second, my parents do not like me to use public transport. I am an international student that lives in copenhagen which is a very very very safe city. However, my dad is not comfortable with me using trains, buses etc at night..He is okay with me going at day time but not at night. Which I find unfair since all my friends are allowed to do that, and even forced to do that at times. Thirdly, I cannot leave the house whenever I want. I can t go up to my parents and be able to say "Hey I am going to my friends" and leave, they have to know who it is, where it is, when I am going to be back (which is usually very early) etc. It s so annoying!! I just want to have that trust..It so frustrating. I just want to be normal. Fourthly (sorry haha there is many), I can t stay out late. They are ALWAYS texting me and on about me about everything. I just wanna rebuild the trust. I just want to be normal. I don't want to sound bitchy or anything, it's just very annoying since all of my friends can do whatever they want to. Public transport where I live is not expensive at all and I have a card for buses, trains etc. I just want to be independent like most of my friends and close to my family cause I really love them it's just very difficult since they are worrying so much when they do not need to.

Question: My absent father s girlfriend is nice but intruding... how to deal?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 01:16 PM PDT

I m 24 years old, growing up, my father was absent physically and emotionally. My parents had me pretty young, I now live with my great aunt and uncle. My mother is very bad on drugs, no one speaks to her anymore, and there was a time when I was pretty much homeless, living off of food stamps when I lived in California because my mom went off the deep end.. my father did not at all help me, even knowing i was struggling. Now, that I m living back in NJ, I have a great job and I ve never been happier.. Now, all of a sudden, my dad wants to be in my life, except his new girlfriend will be the only one texting me to meet with them, NEVER my father.. and at this point, I m finally living an independent, happy life, and I honestly don t want to bother with him. How do I let my fathers girlfriend know this without coming off rude? Because I know she is just clueless and trying to help, but I can t be bothered. Every other person I talk to about this, has had a loving father around, so they have no idea the resentment I actually have. Any answers would be greatly appreciated.

Question: 13 and don t wanna go on holiday to c family ... help?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 01:13 PM PDT

Every year since I was born we drive to Germany from the Uk to visit family . We go about 2/3 times a year. I m 13 and i love my family and I don t wanna sound like a brat or a spoilt child but I don t wanna go. We always stay at my grans flat which is tiny and I never have any privacy. I m also never able to talk to my friends or go on social media because there is no WIFI . I ve tried talking to my parents before about a year ago about this but just as I was about to.to. Say anything my mum already got upset and angry that I didn t wanna go c family? Help???

Question: How to get along with my (future) stepfather?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 12:45 PM PDT

Hi. I'm a 15 year old boy. My mom divorced my real dad when I was a baby, and she has been taking care of me and my siblings all alone throughout 15 years. Two months ago aproximately she started going out with a very good friend of hers, they've known each other for 30 years. She is SO in love with him and he is SO in love with her. Everything is going great between them and they are decided to marry next January. I am super happy because my mom's dream is finally coming true and my greatest joy is to see my mom happy. I thank God so much for this and I think it's going to be great. But the thing is, I just feel really uncomfortable around him. Don't get me wrong, he is REALLY nice and I think he's a good person but I just feel so shy around him! As I said I never really had a father with me and I'm not used to this! He talks loudly (I think it's because he's a man, men talk loud in general), and when we are eating dinner together I'm just like... I don't know what to say or do!! I am too shy to look at him in the eyes or just start a conversation with him. I really want to get along with him because he is going to be my future father but I don't know how! Help please...

Question: I am 14 and my parents are so strict.... HELP!!!!!!?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 12:43 PM PDT

I am a 14 year old girl and I have very strict parents. By this I mean a lot of things: First of all, my parents do not want me to hang out with boys, even just as friends!! Before, they were okay with it they didn t care. I don t know why but now they do, especially my dad! And he used to be so cool with it before. My mom is okay with me having guy friends the reason she doesn t me to go out with them is because of my father. I find this soo frustrating.... Second, my parents do not like me to use public transport. I am an international student that lives in copenhagen which is a very very very safe city. However, my dad is not comfortable with me using trains, buses etc at night..He is okay with me going at day time but not at night. Which I find unfair since all my friends are allowed to do that, and even forced to do that at times. Thirdly, I cannot leave the house whenever I want. I can t go up to my parents and be able to say "Hey I am going to my friends" and leave, they have to know who it is, where it is, when I am going to be back (which is usually very early) etc. It s so annoying!! I just want to have that trust..It so frustrating. I just want to be normal. Fourthly (sorry haha there is many), I can t stay out late. They are ALWAYS texting me and on about me about everything. I just wanna rebuild the trust. I just want to be normal. Happy. Please I am 14 and I just want to be normal.. I don't want to sound bitchy or anything, it's just very annoying since all of my friends can do whatever they want to. Public transport where I live is not expensive at all and I have a card for buses, trains etc. I just want to be independent like most of my friends and close to my family cause I really love them it's just very difficult since they are worrying so much when they do not need to.

Question: My grandma get cranky when she had no money?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 12:37 PM PDT

My grandma gets very cranky when she is low on money or cranky. I would try to help her out more, but most of her money goes to scrach off tickets. She spends anyhere from 25-50 a day on them if not more. She gets her check in middle of the month is just about gone. She ask people to be loan her money, and she spends at least half of that of the tickets. She says she plays to win, and if she's low on money she. Wants to play to win She won't let me manage her money at, and in a sense i don't want too because she is always misplacing things and I'm sure somehow she will think I stole money from her. It's just some things hard for me to deal with. She broke now, and just in a bad mood. I am the one who has to deal with it..

Question: Society is beating me down for my appearance?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 11:56 AM PDT

So I don't know what to do. People call me a whore.. I haven't ****** anyone. I'm in highschool and my brother keeps saying that everyone is calling me a whore bc of the way I dress and the makeup I put on. And Ik that I don't dress like a whore but once and awhile I'll pull out those short shorts and skirts, but what girl hasn't? There's nothing wrong with being confident in the way u look. And I put that foundation, contouring and highlighting stuff on and I can do what I want! But I don't like how people are treating me! It's not fair how people love to degrade girls for embracing their appearence. People always compliment me on how I look and dress! Why am I getting the bad comments now! Even my brother gossips about me! How and what do I do!

Question: Everytime my nana drinks she takes her wig off and yells at me and my friends. how do i get her to stop?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 11:53 AM PDT

Question: Why do guys forget about there mothers?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 11:34 AM PDT

It seems that when a guy falls in love with a girl, he doesn't care about his mom anymore. And I know he loves her but he doesn't call or visit that much. I know you can't do everything at once but it just looks like he cares more about a girl who has done nothing for him compared to what his mom has done. I'm not saying all guys are like this but why does is seem this way? Does he love the wife more than his mom?

Question: Traveling with boyfriend now parents are upset?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 10:58 AM PDT

Hi !So a little background about myself:I am a 26 year old female,I have a full-time job and attending school to get into nursing.I do live with my parents,since I have had advice given to be by my friends(who are nurses)that it's best to stay at home while you're single while attending nursing school because it can get stressful.For that reason alone,I have not moved out as of yet, but financially, I am capable.My boyfriend of almost 3 years has planned a 2 day trip out of town for us.I am Indian, and in our culture, it is considered taboo to travel with your boyfriend(let alone have one!)before marriage,especially if you are staying overnight.He also is a very responsible individual(he's a nurse, is going to school for advanced schooling- anesthesia)and my parents had a problem before because he is a different race than me(he's Filipino).We are both very serious about each other,but my parents have been raised in the traditional way,and highly disagree with me going with him.They talked about it,and even though they resent it,they have finally decided to let me do what I want,but now they are giving me guilt trips.They say that i'm one of the rotten kids.They are already limiting speaking with me.Things are not the same anymore.has anyone else gone through this?I feel like i've failed them as a daughter and i've been very stressed for the past couple of days,but I know that if I don't set my boundaries with me, they are going to haunt me even after I get married..

Question: What to do when you have arrogant siblings?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 09:54 AM PDT

I have two siblings; a brother and a sister. I'm the youngest in the family. Whenever I try to make people laugh, it turns out what I said isn't funny. They call me a try hard and sometimes my sister will hurt me (physically and verbally) and sometimes I'll get in trouble because she started it. Whenever I cry, neither of them ask if I'm okay, they'll usually just change the subject and laugh about something. When we are in public my brother always annoys me, and my sister acts like we're best friends. Something that really makes me laugh that my sister says is: "I'm depressed." She always says it, making me laugh every time. She isn't depressed. Just because her friend has depression doesn't mean that she has to fake it be accepted in her group of friends. Also, once she made me cry and my mom said "You're horrible to her" and then she's acting cool, and she says "I'm just not though." She doesn't understand what she does to me is wrong. My brother is annoying because he's always mean to me. Every time I talk to him (literally every time, unless his friend is around) he will either ignore me or just tell me to go away. Once he poked me in the face and it annoyed me, and it really annoys him when someone pokes him in the face so I told him "If you don't like it when you get poked in the face, then why did you do it to me?" After that, I started crying, he couldn't stop being such an idiot and he never apologised to me. What do I do?

Question: Should I feel bad for leaving my mom?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 09:52 AM PDT

My mom and I haven't getting along well together so last week, I decided to go stay with a friend a little while. Even though we've been fighting, my mom wasn't happy about me leaving but I just think we both need a break from each other. We're both going through our own personal issues and I think it's for the best. I was talking with her earlier and she was guilt-tripping me for leaving her by herself. I know she's just trying to make me feel bad but at the same time I do feel bad because she is by herself now and probably feels alone. But I don't feel ready to go back yet because the way she was talking, it sounds we're just going to keep bickering and not getting along if I do go back. We both just need time to chill out and stop being upset but I can't help but feel bad for leaving. I'm not sure what to do or how to feel. I forgot to mention that I am 19.

Question: Should I clean up?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 09:40 AM PDT

I'm always told to clean up even tho it start's to get dirty after 3 hours! There are many people in the house that don't clean up after themselves and my dad doesn't even care! I have a brother that stays with us bc he has no house and isnt doing anything with his life and smokes weed but he doesn't do anything but get it dirty and he has a gf and 2 kids! My sister has a bf that my dad lets stay here and he is just a pain in the neck also! 2 OF MY SIBLINGS DO NOTHING BUT SMOKE WEED (PLUS MY SISTERS BF AND MY BROTHER GF) BUT IF WE SAY ANYTHING, THEY GET MAD! AND MY DAD IS A TERRIBLE PARENT AND DOES NOTHING ABOUT IT! AND MY OTHER SISTER OR I HAVE TO CLEAN UP AFTER THEM! Should I stop cleaning? I can't say anything or my dad gets mad!

Question: My aunt dislikes me Mom. Does she have the right to tell me bad things about my Mom?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 09:30 AM PDT

Question: What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 09:28 AM PDT

Ok so I was eating bread and my mom was in the bathroom and I went where she was and it was in front of the bathroom and I didn't fully go in the bathroom. I went there to ask her a question. Then she was spitting while I was eating bread and I asked her if she's that stupid. Then she seemed like she didn't care and seemed happy that I asked if she's that stupid or that I called her stupid. I regret it now because I feel like something is going to come back to me and prove that I'm the stupid one. I'm 17 years old. What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Question: Forcing daughter to have a quinceañera?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 09:24 AM PDT

My daughter turns 15 in november. She is kind of a tomboy and doesn't like these kind of things. But I've always wanted her to have a quince wether she wants it or not. I have asked her and she said she doesn't want one at all. She's closer to her dad and she's always complaining to him that she doesn't want it, it annoys me so much cuz she's doesn't appreciate what I'm doing for her. My husband says it's better to respect her decision, and he is upset at me for doing this. But I think that's just sh!t. I've already been working on it so I'm not turning back. But is it wrong to force her to have one? How can I get her to at least be happy about it?

Question: My uncle is an alcoholic and my aunt a drunk. What is the difference?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 08:47 AM PDT

Question: My Mom tells me my Dad doesn't love me or he wouldn't have left her. Is she correct?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 08:46 AM PDT

It hurts if true but he acts like he loves me except he sees his new wife and her kids more and that hurts to. Mom says that's another reason he does not love me and that her Dad, my Grandpa, is more of a father to me. I don't know which to believe and I cry about it a lot.

Question: I can't stand my family treating my room like a storage.?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 08:14 AM PDT

I moved to another city to study, but now i work there,so i live there permanently almost. My family demands that i go visit them at every vacation and stay at home where i grew up. This summer, i went on 20/07 and stayed for 13 days. I arrived and my room looked like a junkyard (while i had left it spotless).I cleaned it from the start, and again left it tidy and neat. I left to the city i work for 10 days, and came back to my hometown yesterday. Again found my room full of dust, everyone's spare things left here on the bed, floor and chairs, and could not find my stuff anywhere due to the mess. I have a nose infection now, so i can't be in the dust. I told them, and they were like " It is your room, clean it up.". I have to stay 10 more days here. But i can't stand it. If i can't find a solution, i will stop visiting. I don't know what to do.

Question: How can I get my brothers to understand that they're being selfish and unfair?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 07:26 AM PDT

So our dad has a farm but now that he is retired and works for an NGO he can't afford to pay all the expenses for its upkeep so my siblings and I have to chip in, which is totally understandable. What feels unfair to me as that they want to split the payments equally which does not make sense because we don't all earn the same salary. Since I took in my sister who is living with a disability (I took her in to relieve my parents) I have been taking care of her and even paid a lot of money for the courses she has been doing. No one offered to compensate me for this or sent us a dime as a way to offer support but I never complained once. I took her on as my responsibility and I'm fine with that. My brothers both have free housing because of their work so they don't pay rent or mortgages. In the meantime I had to move to a bigger apartment recently so that my sister can have her own space and I can barely keep up with the rent. My older brother is married to a Vet and they're making a pretty dollar. They can afford things that my sister and I can only dream of, they are way better off and yet they still feel that the bills for the farm should be split equally Furthermore, since my dad is old school he plainly told us that my brothers will inherit most of the farm according to his will because they are men so in all honestly it's really more their responsibility than mine I barely make ends meet because of my sister's needs and yet my brothers have no compassion towards me I don't want to complain because I love my parents and I'd do anything for them and I want to help where my brothers are not willing to help so they can keep going. I also support my grandmother financially with a monthly allowance but my brothers don't really care for her, they don't give her anything because she's not their problem They can afford retreats with their wives but I can't afford to take our sister anywhere Anyway how do I bring this up in the kindest way possible so as not to bring strife? I don't want to fight with them at all, I just want them to see how hard it's going to be for me while they live comfortably

Question: I hate sharing a room with my sister(s)?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 06:44 AM PDT

I'm 13 and I have a twin sister with whom I share a big room. I like to sleep early while she doesn't. She's messy, loud, uses my things without asking, and just annoying sometimes. I sleep in the top bunk bed and I hate it, it's suffocating. Things got worse when my other sister, who is 14, moved into our room because she was "bored". Now she sleeps in our room almost every night and she has a separate bed while still having her own room! She's bossing us around in our own room and I hate it! She and my twin talk and laugh out loud into the middle of the night. I love my sisters so much but I want some quality sleep. I've told my parents I want a separate room and they always say okay but it just never happens!

Question: I hate my mom's boyfriend, help?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 05:44 AM PDT

I'm 14, and I live alone with my mom. She recently got a new boyfriend who has 2 kids, both younger than me. He comes around almost every day and ALWAYS ends up staying the night and having extremely loud sex with my mom in the room beside me. While he's around, I don't come out of my room since I hate being around him, which usually ends up with me not eating or drinking all day. My mom always needs everything to be perfect when he's over and she blows up over the tiniest things (she's bipolar), screaming and slapping me for anything, like spilling some water on the floor even though I cleaned it and then always saying the same thing- "What will my boyfriend think of us when he sees this??" She then apologises and cut 10 minutes to her ranting about me on the phone to him. His kids and him is all she talks about and if I don't smile and agree that he's a wonderful amazing perfect man, all hell breaks loose. Everything has to revolve around him these days: dinner, her work, me going out with friends, hell, even the colour of our curtains. He brought his kids around once and I had no interest in playing "big sister" with them, so of course I ended up being slapped around for that later too. I'm sick and tired, and I'm happy that my mom's happy, but I wish she'd see that I'm not happy anymore. He's already cheated once and I personally think he's using her, but any attempts at trying to talk to her end up with me being screamed at and hit. Any advice??

Question: I walked in on my aunt/uncle having sex while we were vacationing with them. Should I tell them and apologize (my Mom and I are home now)?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 04:38 AM PDT

They had just had a fight earlier in the day but they are always fighting then having kids to fix it.

Question: My aunt suffers from narcissism and favors one kid over another (of her kids). Is this normal narcissistic mother behavior?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 04:37 AM PDT

She spoils silly the favored kid and dumps on the outcast kid while treating the other two kids normal.

Question: Is it bad that i ignore my crush because I'm ashamed of my life?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 03:46 AM PDT

My life is not where I want it to be at all I'm going through a lot of stress. The more stressed I am the more I avoid him and don't feel good enough for a boyfriend.I been on so many interviews this summer and still haven't found a job it just made me lost my confidence and feel not good enough or ugly..I can't talk to him until I get a car and job until than I just wanna be left alone and be miserable is this bad? When my crush comes around I ignore him I look down,,he has a car and a job and I kind of feel embarrassed for not having those things yet maybe even a little jealous lol so I just avoid him is this bad?

Question: I'm scared that my family will fall apart because my step dad cheated on my mom. Any advice?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 03:18 AM PDT

So, my step dad has been cheating on my mom off and on for years. He stops then he starts again. This time, my mom is done. She seems calm, says it's over, but that he can sleep in the guest room of our house. We don't have the money to throw him out or move and we have animals to think about. I'm nervous and stressed out. Any advice?

Question: What to do with my dad?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 03:04 AM PDT

So, my dad doesn't live with me and my family. My parents aren't divorced or anything, he just works in a different country. The man isn't physically abusive, he's only tried to hit me once when I was younger but I hardly think that counts. His personality is.. emotionally draining at best. Traumatizing at worst. Seriously, he is the reason why I'm afraid of rollercoasters, waterparks and why I can't eat Vietnamese spring rolls (he forced me to eat it, and when I puked it out, he forced me to eat that too). Honestly, I hate him. My mum once told me to try and open up with him, so a while back I had a huge fight with her and I called my dad crying about it. And he was super nice about it! And I thought, maybe he wasn't so bad after all. The next time we went to see him, he made fun of me for crying in front of a bunch of strangers. Its been a year and still, sometimes he would pretend to baby cry and ask me if I'm going to burst into tears since I'm such a selfish little princess. He's also very rich and likes using money to express love or whatever and I do get that, I'm appreciative of my comfort, I am. But I just found out that he's taken out half the money that had been saved up for me despite the fact he easily makes more money than that in a month for no apparent reason. I heard my mum cry over the phone cuz we have to cut back stuff since she's trying to make up what my dad took for me. And what sort of love is that?

Question: I saw my son kiss another boy what do I do?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 02:24 AM PDT

Up until a few days ago I always had just assumed my 15 year old son was straight but now I'm almost certain he's not and I'm not sure what to do. So what happened was i had dropped him and what I assumed was just his friend off at a coffee shop, I had some errands to run so I left and after about an hour I came back to see if they were ready to go. I looked into the window of the coffee shop as I walked to the entrance and I saw my son with him arm around his "friend" and then they kissed. It was a quick peck on the lips but it shocked me none the less. I have no problem with gay people I just never expected this. Should I bring it up with him or wait for him to come to me?

Question: Why my mother call the wife of my father ? Why then she don't accept it and she accuse me ?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 02:20 AM PDT

Question: Please help me figure this out?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 01:47 AM PDT

Okay well I met this guy at the park I usually chill at with this girl n her bf and their good friends with this guy we'll call him Ben. So Ben told the bf that he wanted to **** me but after he tried I wasn't into it n he was very nice about it n still wanted to kiss n cuddle hang etc. so after I left this was Thursday he texted me that night n I took a few hours to reply then told him phone was dead n let's chill ANOTHER night it's wensday now haven't heard from him after that. What happened lol? Not as much fb activity since then either but he's been on. And today I dropped my girl n her bf off at the park for 3 hours when I picked them up I was like was dan n tevin there? Their like no but Ben was there n I was like who cares n his gfs like what's wrong with Ben? N I'm like "a lot of things" n they didn't laugh or say nothing. Why did they randomly mention he was there? Was it nothing or cuz they think or kno he likes me? Asking me what's wrong with him usually they don't care if I talk bad about somebody or ask why. So I guess my ? Is if he likes me ? n y he hasn't texted me then and if they possibly know or think he likes me? They are his friends. U think his friends know anything?

Question: Should i tell my mom i was molested. help please?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 01:16 AM PDT

when i was 7 or 8 my uncle touched me .We used to stay up late and watch cops one night i was falling asleep and he did it. it s pretty faded but part of me thinks more happened. he s married with 2 boys and my family loves him . i m 18 now and im close with my mother should i tell her

Question: Should i make a video for my dad using Martina Mcbride's song im gonna love you Through it to show my dad that im gonna support him??

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 12:32 AM PDT

So just recently the doctor told my dad that he might or might not have testicular cancer or he could have a thyroid problem and might need DIRE surgery to correct his thyroid and he would have to take medication for the rest of his life but my question is should i make the video for him as to say Dad dont need to worry im gonna get you through it im gonna remain strong for you and pull you through this or no??? what do i do have contemplated this idea for quit awhile now. just dont know if i should do it or not i have been looking on youtube to see how others are doing it and i feel like this is something good i could do for my dad to help make him feel better about this as he is understandably upset about all this fine its not dire surgery but its surgery so what do i do

Question: My mom is a ****. It's not fair!!!!?

Posted: 18 Aug 2017 12:14 AM PDT

My my mom is so unfair!!!! She is been ridiculous. So I'm a 14 year old man and recently I made fun of my little sister by calling her a big fore headed slut and making fun of how she looked n her new dress since she never wears one and then lifted up her dress n front her a boy she liked at a party. It was really funny. I thought it was funny but my sister is such a tattle tell so she snitched to my my mom. My mom then told me that I have to go to the store with her and pick out a dress to wear this weekend as punishmen since she says I have no respect for women and cuss her out all the time which isn't even that big of a deal. Lots of kids cuss out there moms. I had to wear the friggin dress all around the house and the sales lady laughed at me when my mother told her. I got so mad in the store But she said the punishment fit the crime so I called her **** and stupid since that's what it was. She wasn't happy and said my punishment would be more severe. She says she is going to make me get a make over with getting my long hair styled like a girl. Eyebrows plucked into a thin arch, make up, Heels, girls underwear and bra and friggin bows in my hair for the next week. She says she is gonna take me out grocery shopping and do errands like this for the week. My name is Sam but she keeps calling me Samantha. She says if I don't act ladylike she's gonna make me stay dressed longer.This is not fair at all!! I hate her and my sister. Is this even fair do you think?? What do I do?

Question: What should I do? Friends or Family?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 11:10 PM PDT

Okay so I just moved in to college and my parents miss me pretty bad and it makes me feel bad, but I ve honestly never been happier here and honestly hate going home.. My dad asked me to go visit my brothers the entire weekend and I know I ll be miserable the entire time.. Should I stay and have a good time with my friends or go with my parents for a boring trip? I feel like I d only go on the trip because I feel bad for my parents. Thanks.

Question: My parents took away my car keys?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 10:45 PM PDT

So I was at my gf's house and i came home late(3am) without telling my parents and they got really mad that i didn't say anything and proceeded to take away my car keys as a punishment. The thing is I bought the car all by myself so i don't find it very fair, shouldn't I be able to go where I want when i want? I'm 19 in college if that matters.

Question: My father won't let me do anything?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 10:31 PM PDT

I am 14 years old, some might say I'm too young but my father has been sheltering me since I was young. I lived one block away from my elementary school and he wouldn't let me walk alone even when I was in fifth grade. I lived one block away! It took me two minutes to get home! My father hasn't let me go out in the summer unless he or my mom is with me. He doesn't let me walk my dog unless I text him. He can track my phone number. I don't often ask my dad to hang out with my friends much. I only asked twice this year and he won't let me go. I can't go anywhere within a five block radius from my house. He checks my phone every month, my messages and social media. He doesn't even let me go to parties with my mom when they invite her. I get good grades on my report cards and test. I got a 100.98 on my last report card as my average. He never gets any phone calls from my schools only to inform if I'm sick or school is cancelled. I always tell the truth but since my dad shelters me too much I started telling lies. It isn't the best but I'm too tired of being stuck. I hate this I want to have some freedom. I understand he might be protecting me but isn't it too much. I went to my guidance counselor many times telling her I'm feeling sad and he doesn't send me to a therapist because "You never know if they could hurt you." He's ruining me.

Question: Should I tell my parents that my 12 year old sister wears revealing clothes?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 10:23 PM PDT

She knows shes not supposed to wear anything that my parents don't think is suitable for her age.I figured out that she bought a few crop tops and a corset. She gave her money to a trusted friend who bought those for her because she isnt allowed to go to malls alone. She wears parent-approved clothes to school, but changes them in the bathroom. The clothes aren't even kept at home they're in her locker.

Question: How would you feel if you had an aunt like mine?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 10:17 PM PDT

My aunt who has been living with my family for 4 months now and does nothing to help around the house, no job, sleeps past noon, and leaves cigarette butts on our front porch(my mom makes me pick the butts off the ground). She's in her 30s. It irritates me being a full time college student having to come home and deal with all the chores of the house while she sits at home. Not sure if i'm just being immature, but that's why i'm asking

Question: How do I tell my family that I don't want them to celebrate my birthday.?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 09:53 PM PDT

My family is very dysfunctional, and loves to argue/yell at one another for stupid things. Holidays and birthdays are days where my family is at it's worse. I hate having to hear everyone yell. Since my birthday is coming up, my family will be angry that they have to put forth the effort celebrate it. they will yell and behave like a bunch of gorillas. I'd be fine if nobody even addressed me at all the entire day, and just left me alone. I would also be perfectly fine without gifts... if it just meant silence and being alone. How do I tell my family that I don't want them to celebrate my birthday.

Question: Is my mom being unfair?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 09:48 PM PDT

Ok so basically my parents got me a car last year that i've been driving to school(college) and i loved that car to pieces!! Fast forward to mid 2017, someone crashes into my car which is parked on the sidewalk and totals it. After my mom collected the insurance money, she went and got herself an suv and pretty much told me that i'm going to be using my grandpas car from now on. Now we've had my grandpas car with us forever, it's just sat there because nobody uses it, it's only there because it's sentimental to them(no he's not dead). I don't really care that i have to drive his car but the car has some issues like it won't pass smog, AC doesn't work, radio doesn't work. etc. It's an old car. Now i don't want to sound like a spoiled brat, i appreciate that my parents supply me with a car to use. Just try to understand where i'm coming from. I don't know if my mom is being unfair or I'm just being a whiny ungrateful teenager haha.

Question: I dislike my dad and I don t know why?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 09:37 PM PDT

We used to be on amicable terms, but about a month ago he had to stay at the hospital for a week and was diagnosed with MS. Ever since he got back home, I just can t stand him. He annoys me so much when he talks to me, and I hate being around him. I used to really hate him, a few years ago. He had a huge drinking problem and him and my mom faught a lot, but I m over it, or at least I thought I was. Since my dad can barely walk or see, he can t work, but my mom still provides for the family very well. I m not mistreated, and he constantly tells me he wants to fix things and asks me whats wront, but I just really don t know. I feel like almost every conversation we have is him telling me he might die and that I ll regret having treated him this way. And sometimes, I do feel guilty for being short with him, but I just really can t stand him. Lately it has just gotten worse. I ve been dealing with depression and I m swamped with work, but he doesn t care. I forgot to do the laundry because I had to do two essays and he took my computer from me and, since I work as an artist, I had to refund a bunch of people their money as a consequence which has made me extremely angry. We just keep making each other upset and I don t know what to do. I don t know why I started feeling like he was so annoying, and its all just snowballing. My depression is at its worst right now, and I hate it when I feel like ending my life is the only way out. I don t know why I m so sad and angry.

Question: I love my family so much I don t know what to do with this situation because I will be 13 right now and it just hurts because I love my dad?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 08:27 PM PDT

My birthday is in two days and I mom just told me I won t be going to see my dad and my family this summer because my stepdad didn t want to pay our old apartment to rent so my mom had to use my flight money to pay the rent

Question: Why does she do this?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 08:06 PM PDT

I'm a 20 year old guy. My mom is 58 years old. I still live with her, because in my country I'm legally an adult, but I'm still a child in people's eyes and I can't find a job with a high school diploma here (I know it's ridiculous, but that's not the point, right now). A few times when I went to take a shower in the bathroom, I saw my mom watching me from the key hole. So, I decided to put the key in the key hole, so she wouldn't be able to watch me anymore, but she yelled at me and she told me that she's worried about me when I go to the bathroom and I lock the door and she wants to have the bathroom's key when I'm taking a shower. I have epilepsy and I've had seizures in different situations, but I don't think it's right for her to watch me naked. It's shameful!

Question: Should I talk to these parents that they are babying their children too much?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 08:03 PM PDT

I know two girls who are 13 and 15. They are babied incredibly bad. Their parents talk to them and get away with certain things as if they're toddlers. Their maturity levels are typical for someone who is 10 or younger. The older teen finds it amusing to talk about body/bathroom humor, and might even do things to shock people on purpose. The younger girl at 13 is VERY naive as well. She will bother others with obvious questions she already knows the answers to. Very few kids want to hang out with them, and the only individuals close to friends are acquaintances who don't know how they typically act. They're sugarcoated from how the real world is and it affects them drastically. They have little to no knowledge about certain things that they should know at their ages.

Question: Is 18 too young to travel alone?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 07:44 PM PDT

I'm turning 18 in May and I want to go visit one of my cousins (she's also turning 18 around the same time) who lives in Los Angeles. She kinda lives in a bad neighborhood, but I plan on staying at a hotel in a better neighborhood anyway, so that doesn't matter to me. I told my mother my plans and and she told me how dangerous it was and how she'd stop me from going, etc. so i told her how i would legally be an adult and she couldn't stop me, to which she responded "sure, you can go, but you won't be allowed to come back and live with me if you go." I don't really understand her reasoning. I'm a good kid, I'm already in college and have a job, I've never so much as gotten sent to the office or suspended in my whole life. Why would she kick me out just because I want to visit my cousin for a few days?

Question: Is it bad that I hate strangers who bother you?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 07:42 PM PDT

I love people but there are a lot of people who I can't stand. I could see through people like a glass door. And I hate the people who stare at you and feel that they know you based on how you make look. I hate when strangers talk to me and ask me personal questions. Since I'm so little some older woman who are in there 40s try to mess with me and tell me how skinny I am they see my smile and feel as if they can just walk all over me and say whatever they want But I just walk away and ignore it.. There are probably jealous since they see a young looking girl and pay close attention to the flaw and like to point it out since I may appear too confidant..but just because I'm confidant does not mean they know me..being skinny is no different than being fat I know how i look and maybe I dont like it..I hate some strangers so much I just wish they would mind they business and stop staring at me..is this bad?

Question: My girlfriend is fat and old. Should I dump her?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 07:04 PM PDT

She buys me stuff and we have fun together but she broadcasts our relationship a lot. I am more private. Shes always making me feel insecure by constantly overanalzing everything I do. Then baby's me a lot. Im sick of my facial expressions being made fun of too.shes high strung. Shoukd I break up or take a break? I love her very much tgiugh. But shes not that attractive to me anymore. Shes not losing weight.

Question: Is it normal to dislike my father?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 06:53 PM PDT

I guess I should be grateful of my father since many do not have one. He does normal things like drive me places and takes me places occasionally… But I don't really like him. Ever since I wa a little I've had a terrible and awkward relationship with him. I would never go to him to talk about stuff, only my mom. I can never joke with him because when I tried to in the past, he wouldn't joke back and it just would become really awkward. His tone is always sharp, like he's irritated about something, especially when he talks to my mom. I don't want to get into it, but I hate the way he talks to my mom also. He whines so much. All he does is play his video games. He's just not great to be around and when I see other people interact with their fathers, I wonder why he's not like that with me or my brothers. He jokes and laughs with his mom and grandparents and cousins and stuff like that, but when it comes to his kids and his wife sometimes, that connection isn't there. I don't even like having conversations with him because, again, it's so awkward. I don't hate my father, I just… don't really like him. I would honestly pick my mother over my father for anything. Is this dislike normal?

Question: Is it normal to dislike my father?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 06:52 PM PDT

I guess I should be grateful of my father since many do not have one. He does normal things like drive me places and takes me places occasionally… But I don t really like him. Ever since I wa a little I ve had a terrible and awkward relationship with him. I would never go to him to talk about stuff, only my mom. I can never joke with him because when I tried to in the past, he wouldn t joke back and it just would become really awkward. His tone is always sharp, like he s irritated about something, especially when he talks to my mom. I don t want to get into it, but I hate the way he talks to my mom also. He whines so much. All he does is play his video games. He s just not great to be around and when I see other people interact with their fathers, I wonder why he s not like that with me or my brothers. He jokes and laughs with his mom and grandparents and cousins and stuff like that, but when it comes to his kids and his wife sometimes, that connection isn t there. I don t even like having conversations with him because, again, it s so awkward. I don t hate my father, I just… don t really like him. I would honestly pick my mother over my father for anything. Is this dislike normal?

Question: Should I stay living with my girlfriend, or go visit my toxic parent to house sit who is offering me stuff too?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 06:50 PM PDT

I hate living w my mom. Shes abusive to me but offers money or stuff I meed if I do chores, house sit, or projects. My gf and I live together but I feel unhapoy here..almost regret moving in sometines.shes fat. Older, and broadcasts our relationship, over analyzes me. Ruins our weekend a lot saying messed up random **** to kill the moment. Or talks my ear off loudly, acts immature, insecure, and is high strung. She just does tgis attitude thing everytime other time its our weekend together.

Question: My fiance constantly sticks her foot in her mouth and says dumb stuff. Shes getting fat also too but buys me things. I feel like cheating?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 06:48 PM PDT

Please dont judge me! I dont cheat. Im saying how I feel. I think she might not he for me anymore. Shes lettong herself go and she acts like I am her enemy sometimes....a lot actually. Her family hates me because Im young and an outsider. They think Im a freeloader but thats not true. She says she cant live without me and I love her a lot and put in my fare share aroumd here, but she gets in tgese messed uo moods every other weekend. Is high strung too.im getting sick of being cross examined too. Or told what I want to hear for plans. Its not very motivating living w her either. I miss her but she acts weird sometimes like Im her enemy or her ex? We talk it out a lot hut sometimes I dont hace to do or say anything and sge will begin acting up. We wete suppose to have dinner and a movie night. She started acting like a teenager at dinner or really immature. Then started talking trash non stop. It killed the evening.i feel like diatancing myself but we waited all week to spend time together. She said Im goimg to meet some one else and leave. I get sick of her insecurity also. What should I do? Im stressed out living here as it is. I feel so out of place. I have an option to go see my mom just to get away for a while. I dont get along w my mom though because she is a toxic parent. Shes offering me stuff I need though

Question: Why do my parents get so mad?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 06:41 PM PDT

Okay, so yesterday my mom was talking a neighbor about how I wanted to major in psychiatry and stuff like that and that was why I was moving schools. I'm very secretive, there's a lot of stuff I don't tell my parents, especially career-wise. So, of course, I was slightly irked. Today I approached her, and went, "So, you told Carrie I wanted to major is psych." She went, "Yeah." So I said: "Please don't talk about my career stuff." She went on a rampage. She got super mad, but it's the calm kind-of mad. She was like "Well fine, I just won't ever talk about you." Then I went, "Mom, it's not about that. I just really don't want you talking about that kind of stuff. I prefer to keep it private." And I kid you not, she literally said: "If you keep up this sh*tty as* attitude, I'm not going to drive you out to school!" (The school out in the city I switched over to.) OK, I have literally no idea what I did wrong. I respectfully ask her to not talk about something, and she gets super mad? I feel like some days, she secretly hates me. Like, some days, you'll just hate somebody for no reason. It happens to me. But I think that sometimes, it happens to her—but it's random hatred for her daughter. What did I do wrong? Please tell me!

Question: My girlfriend keeps pushing me away, over analyzing me, being insecure, immatue, and Its making me not as attracted anymore?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 06:36 PM PDT

We live together for 1 year and talk of marriage but I cant enjoy a quiet dinner, shexstarts over analyzing my facial expressions making fun of me like a kid, compares me to her ex, now shes saying Im gonna leave her. She gets jealous of otger women yet complaims I am unhappy here. Then if I am happy she males me feel insecure staringvwith this smile over analyzing my facial expressions or gestures. Im from the city and shes from the country. Older too. I find myself nowcwondering if I need some one less high strung.love her but she ruins the moment all the time by talking ****. Even though she does a ton of stuff for me. I feel more like a clown sometimes. Or child. Lastly she said shes going to lose weight for me but I dont see that happening . i used to be very active and now I feel encouraged to be lazy. What should I do? I regret moving in together sometimes. Now she thinks I did just to move out of my house. Thats not true. So if I play her game of childish criss examinations she gets offended. Im honestly just not into pressure either to get married. My mom wants me to house sit for a month. I just cant stand my mom. Im also finding myself rediculously attracted to other women and girls.especially ones that are fit, younger and notcfat. Or just not fat and younger. My gf is older than me and cant have kids. A lot of bad things have been happening sinse I moved in too. I dont like this area or city.

Question: What should I do? Any help would be appreciated.?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 06:30 PM PDT

I've already exhausted other sources and now I'm turning to the internet. I'm in a situation where both choices are bad. On one hand I could stay under the controlling wrath of my aunt through this year of college and be miserable but have her help, or I could live away on campus with my friends but not have a fire under my ***. I should state that my friends, boyfriend, and my very own shrink have agreed that living with her isn't the best decision. Although, I should mention that I was very depressed last year and bombed some of my classes in the last semester. While I was in high school, my grades were much better, but I was always stressed out and often had panic attacks. I want to move because I'll be closer to my job, my boyfriend, and my friends. I also wont have to commute to school, saving gas money. I'm not sure what to do in this situation because I don't know if I will fail again. I'm afraid that they're right and I'm just a failure without them. They say that this is my own decision, yet said that they could take away my car and phone if they wanted to. I don't know if I should leave them behind. Please give me some advice. thanks for reading.

Question: What should I do? Any help would be appreciated.?

Posted: 17 Aug 2017 06:30 PM PDT

I've already exhausted other sources and now I'm turning to the internet. I'm in a situation where both choices are bad. On one hand I could stay under the controlling wrath of my aunt through this year of college and be miserable but have her help, or I could live away on campus with my friends but not have a fire under my ***. I should state that my friends, boyfriend, and my very own shrink have agreed that living with her isn't the best decision. Although, I should mention that I was very depressed last year and bombed some of my classes in the last semester. While I was in high school, my grades were much better, but I was always stressed out and often had panic attacks. I want to move because I'll be closer to my job, my boyfriend, and my friends. I also wont have to commute to school, saving gas money. I'm not sure what to do in this situation because I don't know if I will fail again. I'm afraid that they're right and I'm just a failure without them. They say that this is my own decision, yet said that they could take away my car and phone if they wanted to. I don't know if I should leave them behind. Please give me some advice. thanks for reading.