Family: Question: I've put my mom through a lot these past years with my health issues wich isn't all my fault but I wanted to do something nice for her?

Question: I've put my mom through a lot these past years with my health issues wich isn't all my fault but I wanted to do something nice for her?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 01:53 PM PDT

I get paid tomorrow what would be a nice gift to give my mom

Question: Why does everyone think I'm crazy when I'm not?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 12:50 PM PDT

Recently my girlfriend left me basically for protecting her.m, which is f*cking stupid. My girl gets bullied so I brought a knife to school to scare them off. Mostly just pointing it at them and swiping towards their throats, imagining the blade slitting the throats with an instant gush of salty blood. Apparently I made a little scratch on one of their faces, and they ran away. When I saw my girlfriend walking home she saw me and looked terrified and ran. I texted her, she said I was a psychopath. So haha sorry for loving you, you c*nt. I bet those bullied stopped bullying her and she f*cking left me. Where's my thank you, my respect? And then my mom hates me because I like to do some drugs and cut myself. I don't see the big deal. She says that normal 16 year old boys don't do that and that I'm a freak. Haha. But there is no such thing as normal, just as there is no such thing as good or bad. In the end, we all die. Why not die when we want to? Why is my family so afraid? And why do people want to die without pain? Pain is real, and it's amazing. Better a long, suffering death for me. Because it's an experience. And it's like a rush to feel that pain, like you can't stop laughing. My dad commited suicide. Nothing wrong with that, but my mom is a blind coward and she's upset. She will die.

Question: Was his pain worth death?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 12:09 PM PDT

Everybody was being hateful towards mu best friend for a long time except me and my other 2 best friends and he ended up commiting suicide after a bunch of people jumped on him on social media and he ended up commiting suicide that night and I can not get over this. He has been my best friend for 6 years. Was it truly worth it

Question: Why do people think overprotection is a GOOD thing?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 12:05 PM PDT

I saw a recent post on here about this and people were telling the girl who posted it that she was very fortunate. Judging by her post, she sounds very depressed and lonely. Her relationship with her dad never happened because her mom protected her so much. There's a difference between a caring, protective parent and a controlling, emotionally damaging parent. Overprotection can be emotional abuse, and the consequences are NOT pretty! Children should have good relationships with their parents, make lots of new friends, and develop hobbies while enjoying their childhood. They're not meant to be completely isolated from the world, all alone forever. Humans are social creatures and we need to develop social skills to get good jobs and be stable human beings. Kids who are overprotected in a crazy way are missing those skills, and certain milestones are not being reached. If it damages a child emotionally, ruins relationships with others, and prevents them from developing normally then it may be abuse. They will have problems later on in life.

Question: My mother is in her eighties and her house is fully paid for.what should me and my sib'ings do to protect us in the event of her death?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 12:02 PM PDT

Question: CAN A DAUGHTER GIVE usaRESIDENT TO HER FATHER, SISTERS AND MOTHER AND LAW?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 12:02 PM PDT

Question: Is my mom WAY too overprotective?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 11:52 AM PDT

I'm 15 and I never had a good childhood. She's been overprotective my entire life. My twin brother can do anything because he's a guy. I can't join sports, hiking, camping, or any school clubs. I can't have social media, or even visit my old teachers. In fact, I have NO idea what happened to all the temporary friends I had. I can't keep in contact with them. Once I move schools, I'm out of everyone's life and possibly never seen again. My mom forbids me from spending quality time with my dad because she thinks men don't like girls tagging along. Most people have friends from their school years, but I don't think I will. She worries about sexual predators 24/7 and prevented me from having one of those "talking toys" for Christmas as a 1st grader. Because she thought pedophiles hack into those toys and will somehow prey on me. My brother's curfew is 12pm while mine is 8pm. I've actually never met another person with a parent like mine. Kids used to tease me because I was so clumsy in PE class or I lacked social skills. Well, that's because mom doesn't let me play with basketballs or long-term friendships so I'm inexperienced in both areas. I can't make friends with people. They're very temporary friendships. My teacher sent me to the counselor several times because she's pretty worried. Also, this damaged my relationship with my father. I'll never have a close bond like some kids do with their dads. I'm always the person being laughed at in PE class because playing sports is off-limits for me. I didn't catch on as quickly when it came to social interactions back in grade school. I'm from BC, Canada and not the US.

Question: I cant get away from negativity??

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 11:51 AM PDT

I am sick and tired of being picked on everywhere i go. When I go home my siblings pick on me. I am the youngest and all of them target me and pick on my looks. I don't have anywhere i can go. I dont have my own room and Its making me depressed. Also, no one wants to be friends with me or be around. Even if they are around me all they do is bring me down and look for my flaws.

Question: If my parents got divorced?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 11:17 AM PDT

I'm 15, I've been told I'm really mature for my age. If my parents got divorced, would I be able to choose to live with my girlfriend and her family instead of being stuck going back and forth between my mother and father or choosing who I live with until I'm old enough to move out?

Question: How can I convince my mom to let my grow dreads?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 11:06 AM PDT

So im 16 btw, and I've had dreads all week and I just brushed them out today because my mom doesnt like them, she said she doesnt like them and that they look messy, which they didn't look messy at all, she also said she wants them done by a professional/loctician but she doesnt get off work until we go school clothes shopping and school is about to start and I need my dreads before school, how can I convince her to let me do my dreads now?

Question: Is this abuse?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 10:59 AM PDT

- I'm a 15 y/o girl - My mom blames/takes out her problems/stress on me; I do my best to be an easy child, and honestly I think I am. I'm respectful and make good grades and keep my room clean and don't cause trouble, but she'll get angry at me and won't explain why. - When she's angry at me, she will literally scream at me. She also hits me/throws things at me/grabs me and throws me to the floor. This happens every few days to every few weeks. It scares the living sht out of me. - She'll explode on me and hit/scream at me without warning, then almost immediately she'll go back to being nice and after a while I'll start wondering if it actually happened or if it was my fault or if I just blew it out of proportion and remember it wrong. - She's invasive of my personal space; I HATE being touched, but my mom always tries to hug me even when I ask her to please stop or tell her that I'm uncomfortable, to which she responds by calling me selfish or ignoring my requests and trying to force a hug on me. She'll also try to tickle me, which I hate, and I'll scream at her to stop and she won't, even though I'm clearly panicking. - She calls me lazy and selfish and yells if I sleep in on a weekend, or don't make my bed, or make small mistakes like that - I attempted suicide this last summer, and she constantly talks about it flippantly - The night of the attempt,my family told me that I didn't deserve to live

Question: Grandmother wants what the grandkids have, how to deal with it?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 10:44 AM PDT

So my 60 year old physically disabled mother-in-law moved in with us. I have a 2 and 4 year old. She constantly eyes and wants everything. My boiling point came when I got crazy straws for the kids, just to play with. The next day she pitched a fit because She didnt get a crazy straw. I refused to get one because she is an Adult. Now, a month later, she still hasn t let it go. I only feel more angry about it and don t want to cave in to her every demand. My kids haven t played with the straws since that day just because of her. Any thoughts?

Question: Is it illegal to beat my sister with a belt?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 10:42 AM PDT

Question: My cousin told me her step-mother was molested as a kid by an older sibling. Is this the kind of thing I should not repeat?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 10:21 AM PDT

Apparently the step-mother's family swept it under the rug.

Question: My aunt got in a screaming fight with her daughter and both say how bad the other is. How do I respond when they try to suck me into it?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 10:20 AM PDT

The mother has a resentment about her daughter whereas she is good to her other kids. Whereas the daughter likes to gossip just as much against the mother. Both are bitter.

Question: A friend of mine who lives in another state is coming to see me for a couple of days?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 09:58 AM PDT

I still live at home with my parents and I don't want them to find out I am meeting up with someone. My parents are overprotective and will want to know where I'm going and who I'm with. I like to travel yet they tell me I'm stupid for wanting to travel alone so this is why I lie to them. Because if I tell them the truth they will want to know every single detail. I'm planning to meet up with my friend at a hotel. (I have met up with this person several times before so I know it's safe) The problem is my parents will want to know where I am. Sometimes I have to stay at school for long hours. From 8:00am until 10:00pm because I only go a couple of days a week. So I was thinking that I would go meet up with them from 8:00 am until 8:00pm and then leave to go home and just tell my friend I work midnight's. Yes I know it's wrong to lie but I don't want my parents to know that I am meeting up with someone.

Question: Mom's side of the family hasn't spoken to us in three years?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 09:47 AM PDT

My mom's side of the family just stopped talking to my parents three years ago. I had a few cousins my age and I haven't heard from them since. I really miss them. I'm only 14 but I miss my family. I don't even understand what happened. What can I do?

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 09:14 AM PDT

I hate my life, it is horrible. I was bullied a lot in school and no one, not even the teachers( they bullied me too) , helped me out. But the worst part is my family, especially my parents: They treat me horribly, because I am ugly. They make fun of my looks ALL THE TIME and they never stop. One day my mother told me that no guy is ever gonna marry me, unless he is blind. They call me beautiful jokingly, and if that is not enough they call me ugly in every conversation they have. It is like all conversations are around how ugly, fat, stupid and lazy I am. They say "ew, gross" whenever they see me and say I look like death. They tell my siblings that they are blessed to not look like me and whenever I try to stop them they just criticize my looks;" Wear makeup , your face is soo..", " Lose some weight fatty!". They force me to wear makeup all the time and scream when I am not wearing makeup. That is not even the bad part, they shout at me nonstop at everything I do and my siblings are not better. My younger brother calls me ugly 24/7 and my younger sister just calls me ugliness or fat whale. My older brother calls me stupid and retarded. My mother makes fun of my looks with her mother, friends etc. Look I know I am ugly and there is no point of trying because I will always be ugly, but I can't live like that anymore. It's hell. I am thinking of suicide right now since my therapist is an idiot( I really hate him) and thinks they do it out of love. So what should I do?

Question: What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 08:42 AM PDT

Ok so I went to the same room my mom was at which was her bedroom and she started spraying around perfume because she said I stink. Then I asked her if she's stupid or crazy and I feel like something is going to come back and prove that I'm the crazy or stupid one. I'm 17 years old. What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Question: Is it weird to be jealous of your parent(s)?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 08:30 AM PDT

Just in general, whether it's jealous over something they have that you don't or jealous of their looks or whatever. Is it weird to feel jealousy toward your own parents?

Question: A friend of mine who lives in another state is coming to see me for a couple of days.?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 08:27 AM PDT

I still live at home with my parents and I don't want them to find out about it. So I'm planning to meet up with them at a hotel. The problem is my parents will want to know where I am. Sometimes I have to stay at school for long hours. From 8:00am until 10:00pm because I only go a couple of days a week. So I was thinking that I would go meet up with them from 8:00 am until 8:00pm and then leave to go home and just tell my friend I work midnight's.

Question: My mom thinks I m being selfish by not taking money out of my savings to pay for my sister s books for college.?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 07:42 AM PDT

I m 16 years old and three months ago I finally got a job at my district. I get paid pretty well especially since I was allowed to work extra hours and the people are nice there too. Since school is back in session, I have to cut my hours, which will cut my paycheck of course. I m in dual enrollment which means I get to take college classes at my local state college and my school district pays for me, including my books. My sister goes to university and she stays at home. She doesn t have enough money to pay. I told my sister since I get paid on this upcoming Friday, aka two days from now (at midnight, so a little less than that), I will pay for her books and I especially can do that since this be my last full pay check. She said okay. My mom goes to me and complains and is basically alluding how selfish I am because I won t pull money from my bank account. I don t like pulling money from my savings. Because a huge emergency could happen or, once I graduate I plan on potentially living out of state or living in a dorm or place that s a little farther from home. Am I wrong? It s not like I was complaining about paying the books. She started on Monday and I know people who financial aid hasn t even started or been handed out yet. Plus she s going to order the books online so it s not like it s going to come right away. Two days shouldn t kill. If she needed it like tomorrow then yes I would take money out of my savings. But that s not the case.

Question: Should I really pay for my brother's college fee ?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 07:38 AM PDT

Please read the whole question before answering. My brother has just graduated from High school and wants to attend National Defense University so he can become an army officer but the thing is our father has just retired and I got married last year so I have my own family (my wife and me). Yesterday my wife told me that we should pay for his fee so he can fulfill his dream even though it will put a huge dent on my income but my wife says that we will survive on low income but my first responsibility as an older brother should be to make sure my brother gets to fulfiill his dream. I know that my brother will work hard because we've known since he was a kid. He's a good boy and I am sure that he will become an excellent soldier but I am also not sure about scholarships in my country. My mom says that he should just give but my dad says that he will get another job but he is too old to anything. I don't want to squash his dream to become a soldier but I am not sure whether I should pay his fee or not. We don't want him to take a job because it might put a dent on his hardworking capabilities.

Question: My dad called me a dissapointment. He called me it because I play football and I just don t enjoy it anymore. What do I do please help me.?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 07:13 AM PDT

Question: I'm 30 years old still living at home, need some advice?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 06:49 AM PDT

I am the only child and my parents have always been overprotective. I'm 30 years old and I still live at home yes I know most people would have moved out by now. My parents don't like that I enjoy traveling alone and they tell me I shouldn't for safety reasons. Whenever I go somewhere they always have to know every single detail about where I am going and who I am with. But I've lied to them several times about where I was going and they found out. I have a friend who lives in another state that I've been sneaking off to see. My parents are upset because they haven't met the guy. He's 43 but we are not in a relationship he's just a friend who I enjoy meeting up with. I've only met up with him three times since 2015 because of my parents being so controlling. The last time I saw him was in July he said he would come see me. But that will be a problem because then I will have to tell my parents where I am going when he comes to see me. I do have my license but I don't have a car. My parents are planning to give me their old car in December. I don't know what to do about this situation but I'm just really tired of it. I'm going back to school next month or in October I was thinking about going for Massage Therapy or Patient Care Technician. I really like Massage Therapy but that program is 9 to 12 months long. The Patient Care Tech program is 5 months but I could get my Nursing Assistant License in a month.

Question: Hello my fiancé and I and his mother ? Needing some thoughts and advice on what I can do..?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 05:03 AM PDT

She says "I want you to be a better women" you need go work on your confidence and stop being up Mikes a*** (her son) she's only saying this to make me a better women but I just know that it's constructive criticism & I just thought a relationship is only for 2 people no 3... I appreciate her helping me a lot.. my fiancé and her talk almost everyday and some days she tells him what she sees in me and he tells me what she says so I can change my ways

Question: My dads friend helps my dad with some work projects?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 04:59 AM PDT

I always here him and dad complain about their wives, it hurts when dad talks bad about mom--they don't know I can hear them, but my dads friend says his wife isn't that good in bed, she wont do oral, lol on him..so then I began to think how he looks at me and smiles. I bet he wants me for sex am I right?

Question: I'm suffering...?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 04:43 AM PDT

I've been really depressed. All I do is go to work and go home. I don't want to talk to anyone. I sleep like 11 hours a day. I'm 41 years old, I can't have any kids and for some reason I can't seem to date a decent man. The last guy I liked disrespected me by flirting with other women in front of me. He never called, never texted and blew me off every time I asked to him see. I don't understand why he doesn't like me. I was an alcoholic and I'd given the alcohol up for 8 days straight. That was until I saw pictures of him and his ex out on dates together on fb. I can't afford a therapist although I know I need one. I cry all the time. I don't know how to talk to anyone about it. I'm struggling to love myself and I don't feel like anyone else likes or loves me either. Has anyone else ever felt like this and can suggest somethings to make me feel better?

Question: I reconnected with my ex?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 04:39 AM PDT

A few months ago, my ex starting liking my pics on facebook. Then be coincidence he ran into my mother at a party. Once she talked to me I sent him a message through fb asking how he was doing and we starting back talking. We had a rocky and dramatic relationship for 9 years. He decided to move back to chicago and I didn't want to go back. So I stayed in Texas. He wanted to be there for his son. We tried long distance for 6 months and it didn't work. So I told him I didn't want it anymore. We hadn't spoken in almost 2 years. I told him I was coming to visit family and he said he really wanted to see me that I was the love his life and he missed me so much. I made sure that I took my 11 year old son with me each time that we went out so that things didn't move too fast. He offered for us to stay at his house but I chose to stay with family. I did have a great time and we had great conversation. Now that I'm back home he calls and text everyday and I plan to go back to visit in two months. He cheated me alot and lied alot when were together and I really do miss him. Can we make this work again although, he's in Chicago and I don't plan on moving back there?

Question: A friend of mine who lives in another state is coming to see me.?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 04:31 AM PDT

I'm 30 years old and still live at home with my parents. Yes I know I should have moved out by now. They like to know every detail about where I am going and who I'm with. Anyway a friend of mine is coming to see me from out of town for three days. And I want to go meet up with them at a hotel. But I don't want my parents to find out.

Question: In my Mom's family whichever member is struggling the most is gossiped about and insulted. Why might this be?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 04:10 AM PDT

Right now it is a cousin of mine struggling with mental illness. As a result the family calls her a liar (she plays hooky from work when depressed and got fired). When my uncle got divorced 6 years ago everyone was sympathetic for a year and then name called him. When my brother died in 2003 everyone was sympathetic with my Mom for a year or two and then name called her and said she was using his suicide as an excuse. Why might this be? The family is otherwise close. There are many other examples.

Question: My aunt (my Mom's sister) cuts my Mom down regularly to me. I agree with my aunt's points. How do I avoid being disliked for who my Mom is?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 04:08 AM PDT

My Mom unfortunately can be bitter to people. I don't want to put her down to my aunt as my Mom wouldn't do that to me. At the same time I don't want to say "hey knock it off that is my Mom" as I agree with my aunts points and don't want to seem like I am siding with my Mom at all. So how do I respond so I show my aunt I understand her points and am sorry my Mom does what she does without bashing my Mom and or name calling her? Please reply, this is a concern I have.

Question: The black fate?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 03:28 AM PDT

My niece asked me just now.... What do I think would happen she's around blacks... I said that depends on Who and where. In the city...the same thing that happens to them everyday there. No matter who the blacks are that you are with. And you're not black, they don't like you, and you're not welcome... But u don't care... I'm not going to waste my energy on you, 1200 miles away... If you need to learn the hard way that's on you. She asked me how I deterred a bunch of black thugs here... I told her that she knows how.. I stood my ground, made it physically and emotionally clear that I'm not scared of them.. I flexed my 240 pound muscle mass... And I bent a steel oil drum... And twisted a street sign with showboat punches. Then turn towards them.

Question: I swear this story is true. What do you think?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 03:17 AM PDT

Early in my cousin s high school years, she went on a long-distance hike on the East Coast, where she lives. Most of her family lives on the other side of the country, including me. She met this young man on the trip and became good friends with him. Normally this wouldn t be that big of a deal, but... He was the only guy on the trip..it was all girls except for him. And he just happened to be from her family s hometown (where I live). You can t make this stuff up. I m ashamed to say it, but I think they should be a couple. It just feels meant to be. They have never formally dated, and she denies feelings for him, although he says they would be adorable together but the distance is a problem. What do you guys think of all this?

Question: I have a step son and Idk if he will grow to hate my child becuz his mom talks ill of me even tho my step son knows my heart it scares me?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 01:56 AM PDT

Because I want to start a family with his father ! What do I do ?? I would always love him same but I do want a child of my own

Question: Am I wrong to hate a parent who physically abused me?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 01:53 AM PDT

My mother started yelling and screaming at me and beating on me like a psycho case when I was 12 and it lasted all through my teens. When I was 16 I walked into my parent's bedroom when they were asleep with a kitchen knife, but thought it would cause such a ruckus with the both of them that I just left. I ran away from home at 16 and was returned to my parents at 17. Along with all this, my mother would tell me how much better everyone I went to school with was than me, how "darling, attractive, cute" everyone else was. I thought when I was very young that my mother loved me and it felt like such a betrayal to me.

Question: My roommates never leaves the dorm?!?

Posted: 23 Aug 2017 12:35 AM PDT

Never leaves her bed** I should say... She only leaves to go to class and to go pee/shower. She doesn't even eat in the dining hall so instead warms up food in the microwave and eats that as her meals. She also brushes her teeth in the room, like she spits into a cup and then throws the spit out our window. She studies in her bed or on the floor and then gets mad when I want to use the ladder to get to my bed (since the area she sits on the floor is next to the ladder). She gets mad when my friends come over; I also have this program where I get online tutoring via webcam. She always yells at me for having these tutoring sessions be in the room, but I really have nowhere else to do them (our campus has really bad wifi, our room as the strongest connection). She grunts every time I come and and say hi, and always asks why I don't go home on the weekends. I know it's her room just as much it is mine, but it's just annoying because I always have a pair of eyes on me. I know privacy really isn't a factor when you're living in the dorms, but there should still be those times you have the room to yourself (even if it's for 5 minutes). I never have that, and it's really aggravating. anyways, I know this really wasn't a question but more of a vent. What are your thoughts? What bad roommate stories do you have?

Question: Help please !!!?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 11:27 PM PDT

So i have been dating my bf for 3 yrs now. Started when I was 15 and now i am 18. For the first 2 yrs of my relationship my mom controlled how much i hungout with my bf i was only aloud once a week and then when i was 17 i was aloud one sleepover a week. So obviously when I turned 18 i started hanging out with him whenever i want. Now i stay at his place for 4 days in a row and even have a key. However , my mom has a BIG problem with how much time i spend with him. She cries because she says me nd my sis are never home. (my.sis is always with her bf too) she said she is done begging us to be home nd us being home 2 times.a.week.isnt enough and it is either we.come.home more.often or move out...is she over reacting ? Is it right for her to say stuff like this ? I am just 18 nd want to have a life and see my bf....i have no school. She says i sm yoo young to.hangout with him a lot. And she doesn't appreciate the times i do.come home. I am so confused idk if she is right or too sensitive. Ps. I have a job nd work only 4 or t days a week. Is she valid ?

Question: What can I do when my sister and her boyfriend block off the driveway to purposefully prevent me from parking in my space?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 11:23 PM PDT

My mother owns some property that was my childhood home from the very start. There is a house on this property, but there is also a caboose on this property that has been equipped with electricity and water. As soon as I graduated High School, my mother moved away (she disliked the culture of the location) but still owns the property because it is part of a trust left by my grandparents who wished it to stay in the family. Long story short, my sister is bipolar, always suspicious of ordinary greetings, and has essentially divorced every one of her 5 siblings and parents. But more relevent, she can't keep her legs together and has had 4 kids from 3 different "fathers". She is about to have her 5th from a 4th "father". My mother has allowed her to make this house her residence for the sake of these children which we uncles, aunts, and grandparents adore, because she believes this helps us stay in association with my sister, and provides a stable home for these kids. All the while, I have been using this caboose as a residence for a summer job which has gotten me through college, and which is now still providing me with income so I can jump start my career. However, this most recent guy has been causing all sorts of problems. He is confrontational, petty, and debases my nephews, yelling at them, shaming them, and has driven them out (one is in shelter care, and the other has been forced out now living with my mother). He blocks the driveway entry, leaving spaces empty... My mother has notarized a document which specifically grants me this space to park. However, when I tell her what is happening, she tells me to let it go. She says "just be the bigger guy" and "for the sake of peace" and "she's pregnant". But this driveway leads to a carport for the house which is empty when he pulls far up to the entry, and he has a giant camper parked in my spot which I have already let go because I just park in front of it. He also parks things in my spot just to be an ***.

Question: My father disapproves of my relationship with my black girlfriend even though she is a good person?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 11:04 PM PDT

My father says he doesn't like that I'm dating a black woman just because of the fact that she is black. She is a good person, beautiful inside and outside, is religious, has good values, and has a college degree. We have been together for 2 years and only now that our relationship is getting more serious does my father say he doesn't approve of us. He used to have no problem with me dating her, but now he says something all of a sudden. I'm white if you couldn't tell

Question: Is it child abuse to allow kids to become famous?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 10:48 PM PDT

I'm talking about children who WANT to be famous, not the ones whose parents are forcing them to do so. I was talking about a pre-teen celebrity, and this young lady said, "that's too young to be famous". I told her that some kids want to be famous, assuming she's talking about exploitation. She just said, "well, their parents should just say they don't know how to make their kid famous". She told us that in her country (Germany), they have very little celebrity kids. When she noticed that the US and Canadians have tons of child celebs, she said "you guys are CRAZY!" sharply. Sometimes it has nothing to do with parents, a child can simply become famous by themselves doing something that's inspiring or attracts attention. Some people may be against fame and I respect everyone, but is it really child abuse to say "yes" if your kid wants to be famous?

Question: Is there anything I can do about an abusive family member?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 09:21 PM PDT

I've thought of reporting it to the police because i have a few family members who are abusive towards me and each other and they have gotten very violent several times and injured each other. They're not working on their issues or getting any help. Should I file a police report since they have gotten violent on me a few times? My family is dysfunctional and emotionally abusive. My mom is extremely emotionally abusive, its negatively impacting my health. Also my sister is a danger to others. She threatened to kill us several times. I think she should be locked up. Ralph, thank you i agree and i WANT to report this but its like what you said, they might get mad and reporting them might make it worse. i wish i can just have it reported just for it to be on record or file but not press charges or take legal action, yet, just have it reported. I have bruises and scratches. I think my sister should go to jail given how violent and dangerous she repeatedly has been.

Question: Family question of right and wrong!?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 09:12 PM PDT

I have a crush on a girl. However, there may be a problem. My Moms, Brother has a wife, and she has a brother, and sadly, her brother is married to my crushes sister. Is this to close in relation for me to pursue her? Thanks for any help

Question: Family question!?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 09:10 PM PDT

Ok so, I like this girl. However, my mom s, brothers wife, has a brother who is married to this girl I like, sister. Is it wrong for me to like her? Or even pursue her?

Question: How can I trust all of the guys I'm related to and feel comfortable around them?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 08:50 PM PDT

I have a step dad that has been in my life for about 8 years but I still don't feel comfortable around him. I also don't trust him 100% . I trust him about 70% and my mom 110% .He hasn't done anything to betray my trust . However ,I have not been around guys much . I had a brother but he moved to a different state 15 years ago(I was about 7 ) , we weren't close and he disowned the family So, I don't have one anymore. I have never had any guys for friends and all of my siblings are women. . I tried to get some guys for friends but have been unsuccessful. My sisters and mother have told me nothing but horrible things about guys and to not trust them all of my life. My mom has also only married and dated men that have abused her until my stepdad came along and she married him 8 years ago. I have also been home schooled most of my life. I'm a little more comfortable around men I am related to than men I'm not related to. I however would like to treat the men in my family like my sisters. I would also like to feel more comfortable around men in general.

Question: Are children from religious private schools generally from wealthier families?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 08:42 PM PDT

I don't think the private school children are very different from public school children. There may be some slight differences, but they're not major enough for me to tell. What I notice is that private school kids get to know other kids from there schools better because there's less people. They tend to be more exposed to different age groups as well if the school is K-12 or 6-12. People do say that these children are wealthier. Religious schools can be pretty cheap. If it's an expensive private school, I'd guess that the students are wealthier. What about religious private schools, though?

Question: My daughters girlfriend is stinking up my house?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 08:38 PM PDT

My daughters girlfriend is 18 and lost her job because of her depression her parents were so mad they kick her out and because she is only 18 l let her move in with me and my daughter but it has been a month and for reason she has not showered once! She stinks the furniture stinks the air stinks and when I have my friends over I'm so embarrassed but when I talk to my daughter about it she said she thinks has smells fine and is as sexy as Ever and then ran off because she was late to work.

Question: In the state of Michigan, is it illegal to smack your child in the face?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 08:15 PM PDT

My mom smacked my face a few days ago because of something I did. She smacked me only her hand. But it was really hard. And my cheek was still hurting afterwards for a couple hours. But she also insults me and stuff. Comments about my weight. She calls me a b*tch, she also calls me selfish, and a brat, even though I'm neither of those. She also blames a lot of things on me and yells at me a lot when she's drunk.

Question: My aunt (my Mom's sister) cuts my Mom down regularly to me. I agree with my aunt's points. How do I avoid being disliked for who my Mom is?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 07:30 PM PDT

My Mom unfortunately can be bitter to people. I don't want to put her down to my aunt as my Mom wouldn't do that to me. At the same time I don't want to say "hey knock it off that is my Mom" as I agree with my aunts points and don't want to seem like I am siding with my Mom at all. So how do I respond so I show my aunt I understand her points and am sorry my Mom does what she does without bashing my Mom and or name calling her? Please reply, this is a concern I have.

Question: My aunt had a miscarriage and my Mom is mad I sent her a condolence note since my Mom doesn't like her. How do I explain this to my Mom?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 07:27 PM PDT

Question: MOVING BACK?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 07:15 PM PDT

My background is turkish and I'm a 13 year old girl, I was born and raised here in Toronto and I got a great life here! My parents moved here before I was born because my dad got this really good job and now he got a better job in Istanbul, where they are originally from! My background is Turkish but I don't wanna move back like I got a life here! I got friends here and I love it here! I don't even wanna move from the area I'm living in let alone all the way to Turkey! How are Turkish people? Are they friendly? I've never been there! I don't even speak Turkish! Will they understand me when I speak English? I DON'T WANNA MOVE! My best friends are here and I don't want to move all the way to Turkey!

Question: Do i play games too much?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 07:03 PM PDT

I'm curious about time spent gaming. I'm almost 16, have good grades, and it's still summer for two more weeks. I spend roughly 3 hours playing games a day and 2 hours watching tv. My dad found me gaming at 4:30 one night (not typical of me). My parents are now mad at me about my time spent playing games. I am a 3.7 GPA student with several friends, I have my driving permit, and I usually find time to exercise. My parents want to take my computer away now and I'm not sure what to say. Anyways what are your opinions on this?

Question: How can I get implanon (birth control) without my parents finding out?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 06:59 PM PDT

My family is very judgemental when it comes to the topic of sex and we don't talk about it much. I had to learn everything from school, the internet, and experience. So telling my parents that I want to be on birth control will bring judgement, shame, questions, arguments, and drama that I would rather skip, plus I think my sex life should be private even from my parents. I want to get implanon, I am 18, going on 19 soon, but still on my parents insurance. The insurence fully covers it, but I'm afraid my parents will find out. Will the clinic send a letter to my house? Will my parents be notified in anyway? Please give me your advice, comments, anything. Thank you! :)

Question: Why do my parents think that I'm incompetent and rude all the time?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 06:58 PM PDT

My parents never seem to understand when I say something with sarcasm, or anger, or sadness, or anything; they only ever hear sass. For example, earlier today, my I asked my dad something about my bank account (he's the main holder of the account, but I control my money). It was which account number to use when setting up an Amazon Seller account. He asked me which number I thought I should use, using the tensest voice he could ever have. I knew that I had three different accounts (2 saving, 1 checking) in the whole main account, so I said, "The number for the main account." He responded with a bunch of sass, etc. I stayed calm until a certain point before I started to lash back a little. Towards the end, he asked ME why I had started out so tense and rude. I told him that he was the one that had made me tense, and he started to blame me for pinning-the-blame on HIM. At that point, I left the room and sat down elsewhere, and I could hear him complaining to my mom about how rude I was. Note that my dad has literally all control over my mom and she doesn't say anything in a conversation like this, so it's just me and my dad. She just sits there and agrees with everything my dad says. Advice??

Question: Is this a form of abuse?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 06:35 PM PDT

My mom has been married to my stepfather for almost three years now. My biological father is an alcoholic and was mentally abusive in the sense that he had issues with his anger and called both me and my mom terrible names when he was drunk. I felt extremely isolated and anxious with him around, which was for most of my life. Anyway, my stepfather flies off the handle all the time. He frequently calls my mom stupid and other names that I d rather not repeat. Now, I understand that people in relationships argue, but this seems like something more than typical arguing. It just doesn t seem like a healthy relationship to me. I was wondering if this is a sign of mental or emotional abuse or if it s normal and I m overthinking it. If so, I have no idea how to stop it.

Question: I'm under alot of pressure I'm a 24/7 nanny for my mom I can't deal with any more or ill break down. Pls need answers, does she seem it?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 06:28 PM PDT

This is a few notes that I wrote, posted on tumblr of what happened with me & my mom two nights in a row https://notestoryonline.tumblr.com/post/161915204828 https://notestoryonline.tumblr.com/post/162583064698 Now my mom keeps being up how she feels like she age 10 years with all the problems with my sick grandfather thats been having problems since May, she says there to much on her dish with everything and then she has another dish taking care of my grandfather. But yet show goes on how nice that our neighbor that has 3 grown boys is like her (the neighbors) army. That the lady has all these boys to pick up stuff but also my mom is so stuck on how this lady goes out like she turn back into a teenager she goes out just her and her husband, she's in shape. My mom workouts and isn't fat but she gets sad. She has anxiety and can't drive my mom agrees how hard it used to be to go out with my two sisters that at the time was a baby and young toddler, my would sweat like crazy and would feel like passing out she gave up she felt it was to much but also got anxiety from that and everything else. My mom says she doesn't take care of herself the last time I said to her ( a few months ago) please no more kids and she said "what are you crazy". Yet now i feel now it's different and she sounds like she wants another kid but then I remember how she can't take it in the household and how hard it is for us to even go out and how my mom gets no sleep because the kids stay up all night

Question: Am I allowed to say the N word?

Posted: 22 Aug 2017 06:21 PM PDT

So im from Tennessee, my dad is from TN and my dads family is white. But my mom is from Brazil and so is my moms family. I see my brazilian and hispanic friends say the N word bc they re not from the U.S. but since I have Brazil running through my veins, I wonder if I can say the N word or not. Am I allowed to or nah?