Family: Question: My Mom insults people of different races but is nice to their face. So would she be considered a racist?

Question: My Mom insults people of different races but is nice to their face. So would she be considered a racist?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 01:47 PM PDT

Question: My aunt is a narcissist. What dangers are there if I get to know her more?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 01:46 PM PDT

Question: My aunt is trying to get me to take her side in the great family civil war of my Mom's family. My Mom is deceased, should I join aunts side?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 01:45 PM PDT

It is a war of aunt vs. uncle. A war of my late Mom's spirit vs. my late step-grandfather's spirit. It is a war like no other. uncles against one another. Aunts launching verbal attacks and court battles. Both declaring victory. Should I take aunties side now that my Mom died? My Mom was on her side though the others say my mother's soul is on their side. I must decide by Friday,

Question: In the stdate of oklahoma can my grandma take me to get my license or does it have to be my mom or dad. Im 16 almost 17?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 01:31 PM PDT

Question: My mom caught me masturbating, I'm so embarrassed?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 01:17 PM PDT

I'm a 19 year old male, I was masturbating right now in my room at 3pm (I've been in my room since I went to bed late). My mom came in thinking I'm awake doing something normal but I wasn't. I was watching p*rn (no volume) holding my phone with one hand, and the other hand masturbating. I quickly turned around and pulled up the front of my pants and I yelled out a random "oh!!". I quickly made up an excuse and told my mom that my belly and waistline is real itchy, I need lotion because I'm scratching. I know my mom knew what I was doing but justdidn't say anything. She came in but looked another direction while I pulled up my pants. She didn't say anything about it, she just went to pull up the blinds/curtains like she always does. I'm so embarrassed. I can't look and talk with my mom the same again :( I blame myself for waking up late and doing it. I've been fapping for almost 5 years now, (this September will be 5 years), and I have never been caught except for the first time I ever did it in 2012, when I was young and I was so proud of it that I told my mom and dad that sticky liquid came out of me. After that, I kept it a secret and I never brought up anything like that, I was hoping they'd forget. (I know my parents aren't against masturbation and p*rn. I've always joked around with a lot of sex jokes and stuff. They aren't strict, that's not the problem. The problem is that I got caught and I'm real embarrassed.) What should I do/think to not feel embarrassed anymore?

Question: Was my dad a pedophile?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 01:13 PM PDT

He met my mom when she was 13, and he was 21. They started dating not long after. Normally you'd think he was some child predator. But they managed to stay together (in secret) all these years. I was born when my mom was 19 and my dad was 27. I am now 21 years old, my mom and dad are still together (40 and 48 years old). When I tell people this story they think my dad went after her because she was a child and he was a pedophile. But if that were the case he wouldn't have stayed with her. They really do love each other.

Question: Is it normal that my mom yells at me to shut up and slams doors constantly?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 12:57 PM PDT

Question: I have resentment for my mom, should I move out or stay home?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 12:31 PM PDT

My mom has always been reliant on everyone. My mom and dad divorced when I was eight. It's always been my father or her ex-boyfriend trying to save her financially. During high school, I lived with my dad and older brother. I would also spend some time with my mom and her boyfriend. During that time, her boyfriend dumped her and she went to live with her aunt. My dad kept asking how she was over there; I said things weren't good, my mom and aunt constantly were fighting. I wasn't accepted to any college which my parents were surprised about since I graduated with honors. When I started attending community college, my mom moved in with us which has caused a LOT of stress. It made me estranged from my dad because I didn't understand why he allowed my mom to move in. My dad basically told me to still follow with my education but suddenly my mom became my financial responsibility. I couldn't transfer and move out like I wanted to because she's here. My mom always complains how I didn't move away to college but my second chance was blown. I want to move because I need my own life, but my dad is saying I need to move in with my mom if I do move out. I am currently going to school (commuting from home). I am 25 years old, but I'm not even financially stable. I 'm looking for a job but my dad pays for a lot of my things. My mom and I share a car. I am starting to really resent my mom big time. Should I move out or just try to make money while here and continue school?

Question: Why are in laws stereotyped as a source of problems?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 12:16 PM PDT

Is it normal to have troubles with in laws?

Question: MY MOM NEVER CLEANS, OUR HOUSE IS FILTHY?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 12:14 PM PDT

our house is never clean, it's so embarrassing because, i can never have friends over because my parents never clean up. now, I'm not talking about me and my sister's stuff, i mean my mom never ever cleans up her stuff, she just leaves things everywhere and whenever i try and clean her stuff up, she tells me to put it BACK because i'll just lose things. this is soo frustrating because, whenever i do clean (like really clean) the house is filthy the next day. she doesn't have a job, so she just sits there watching the tv all day and if she does clean, she vacuums the floor and acts like a big hero when i have to do that and more everyday! please help, i don't know what to do because i want to have friends over but i can't because the house is so bad. also, the house gives me really bad anxiety to the point where i hate being in the house. my dad and sister are the same way my dad always complains that our house is filthy and that we are all slobs but he STILL won't clean

Question: I want to run away from home.?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 12:06 PM PDT

Honestly, my family isn't working out. My mom and dad are constantly fighting, but I know they love each other. They're always working and my little brother and I never get to see them. My ***** of a grandmother lives with us and is always insulting my dad behind his back to me. I told my mom a few days ago of what my grandma says about my dad and my mom said that if I ever tell my dad, they're going to divorce. She threatened me that if I tell him she'll disown me. I'm different from my whole family, my aunt, cousins, literally everyone. They're really religious, and I'm the only one who doesn't follow "god" as heavily as they do. I never even feel welcome in my own home. I'm 16 years old and I want to go live somewhere else. I wish I could go to another country, like Norway where everyone is so kind. I really want to become a doctor. I wonder if I leave the US now and go to another country, would it work out for me and would I become successful? I just want a new life and a fresh start.

Question: My sister is living with our Mom and bosses her around and sasses her. My sister is 23. Is my mother just enabling her or not b doing this?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 12:06 PM PDT

Question: My crazy mother will not speak to some of her family. They are all good people though. What ways might I be able to convince her of this?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 12:04 PM PDT

How might I convince her that her family is good?

Question: I hate my grandma. Please help.?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 11:53 AM PDT

My grandma is so mean to my dad, but never to his face. She always makes me sit down and she says so many mean things about my dad and his family. She says things like "if he never married your mom, he would be a failure like all his siblings". It hurts my feelings so much, and it made me cry last night thinking about that. My dad is one of the most hardworking men out there. He is so smart, went to college, got all his degrees and he is an engineer. She just says these hurtful things about him. I told my mom but she only yelled at me and told me it is true. How would she feel if I said that about her dad? I don't know what's wrong with these people. I love my dad so much but everyone is always mean to him and belittling him. I'm torn because my dad doesn't know what my grandma says about him and he respects her so much. He brought her food and looked after her in her rehab center even after work on days he had to get up so early in the morning. Now my grandma's back and I hate her. I don't want to ruin the family, though. What do I do? Is my grandma right for saying these things or should I tell it to her face not to say stuff like that about my dad?

Question: How to deal with this BS from my parents?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 11:38 AM PDT

So basically, Im a 17 year old senior in high school, and my dad is self employed and he has kind of a shitty job which I hate so much. And he always takes on way more than he can do by himself,  so I have to help some which would be fine, but I absolutely hate the job (it's all farm work), and I feel like I get taken advantage of. My mom doesn't even have a job, so she literally does nothing with the exception of cleaning the house. Like she doesn't even mow the yard. All she does is complain about me not working enough to help my dad. I help him more than enough and on top of that, I mostly buy my own stuff. I spent $700 of my savings on a phone, a pair of shoes, a couple pairs of jeans, a backpack, and a watch, all in the past month. Of course I just wanted the watch, but I needed all the other ****. It just pisses me off because I go to school 5 days a week, play baseball, and then this weekend, I had to cancel all of my plans to do a bunch of work that I don't even want to be a part of! Yes, I get paid, but it's almost not even worth it! I mean what the hell is my dad gonna do when i go to college next year? I am not coming home on weekends just to work for shitty pay. What should I do?

Question: Since my Mexican father can't speak English is he as worthless as a "Bum?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 11:24 AM PDT

Question: My 16yr old son won't come home after fighting with his dad. He's been gone for 3 days now. Should I call and tell him to come home?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 11:18 AM PDT

Worry! My 16 yrs old son got into an urguement with his gf and wanted to take the car and go for a drive. His dad and I wouldn't let him because he had recently gotten into a car accident and we didn't want him driving when he is angry. He would insists that he's taking the car no matter what so his dad said give me the key your're not driving right now and the two ended up wrestling on the floor and my son got up and said f this family and f you. We never raised him to be such disrespectful child but today he did because him n dad was fighting and he left home for 3 day now. We told him if he is ready to talk it over and come home he just need to call me. On his second day he msg and asked for the car so he can sleep in it. I told him home is where you sleep and if somewhere else is better than home than don't come home. I know where he is at at all time but yet am still worry. Don't know if I should call and tell him to come home or just wait for when he's ready he come home?

Question: Quinceañera questions?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 11:10 AM PDT

My mom is forcing me 2 have one and is already working on it, I'm still 14 but anyways. -Will I no longer be a child after it? I kinda don't want to be considered a "woman" after it. -Do I have to be social at the party? Like could I just sit with my friends? My mom wants me to have one cuz she wants to brag to ppl that SHE made it for me. She didn't care bout my dads opinion. Thanks

Question: My mom doesn't me home alone?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 10:11 AM PDT

Okay, I am 15 years with high functioning autism. I am a good kid and know how to be safe by myself. I live in a very low crime area. My mom says that she s not that willing to leave me home abone more than an hour or so and is willing to cancel things if there not exactly important, and she can t bring me! She wants to go to a one time multi hour class soon, and wants someone to look after me! It is just us two living at home now. What can tell her to make things better?

Question: What do you do if you feel you have no place at home?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 10:05 AM PDT

It seems obvious to move away but there are things keeping me here, my grandparents I visit most days, my family and my friends. I get this overwhelming feeling that I don't belong anywhere and it's getting worse, I can't sleep, I'm sad, I feel trapped and weird. I'm at home most of the time alone, I watch videos or TV series and I walk my dog and workout, I visit my grandparents also. I can't meet with my friends as they are all working, I work 40 hours a week in an office and no matter how hard I try and apply it seems to be the only job I can get and I hate it, then every Saturday I go out with my mates and drink a lot and wake up after for work, I work 10 hours straight every second day. I'm 20 and I already feel this is it, I tried counselling but it was a waste of money, and at home my dad's abusive we only relate when it comes to football but he's always abusive and negative , my mom and sisters are like their own family, they never talk to dad, I try talking to them but they never make eye contact and often times talk to each other midway through my sentences, I've brought it up before but nothing changes, today I was talking and they changed topic, I snapped and they started laughing at me, I said fk all of ye and listed why I'm sick of them, I'm the only one making an effort, so I've packed my stuff and I'm moving away but I have a good relationship with my grandparents and I know this will hurt my mom who hasn't had it easy, what should I do?

Question: Is my mom being selfish or am I over reacting?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 09:53 AM PDT

My mom lives 2 hours away. I RARELY see her. Maybe a few times a year. Tomorrow is my step dad's birthday and I'm taking the 2 hour drive with my toddler son to go eat with them and other family members. I don't want to drive far just to eat then leave so I asked my mom if she had anything planned after they eat.. she says nope they aren't doing anything.. she lives in San Diego and there's a lot to do especially on a Sunday. So I asked her if she wants to do something afterwards so she can spend time with me and her grandson and she replies no because she doesn't want to leave my step dad home alone since it's his birthday... I got so upset.. she rarely sees me or her grandson and she basically rejected making plans with me. I understand it's his birthday but he can come along too, it's his grandson too. You'd think he would happy to spend time with us together on his bday... my mom always put men before her children even when I was a child.. she sees him everyday and they are alone everyday so I think it's a little messed up that they don't want to spend time with me and my son.. I'm not sure if I'm still going now.... I haven't said anything to her, but is she being selfish?

Question: How to deal with a death of a parent?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 08:43 AM PDT

I'm a teenager who's father had passed away now I'm part of planning is funeral since I'm of age, I blame myself for not really visiting my dad and not really talking to him on the phone. I miss him, why is losing a parent so hard? At least I was able to talk to him a few days before his death, he was young as well he was 52.

Question: I feel antsy being at home?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 08:18 AM PDT

Lately, I've been so busy that I haven't been home much. My relationship with my parents isn't where I want it to be, so now that I have a day off. I just want to get out of the house and feel sick to my stomach. Why do I feel this way?

Question: Recently reconnected?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 07:46 AM PDT

My ex and I had been together for 9 nine years. We met in Chicago and shortly after he moved to Texas. After doing long distance for 2 years I packed up me and my 2 sons, that aren't his, and moved to be closer to him. We fought a lot and he cheated quite a bit. I even broke my ankle trying to kick his door in because he wouldn't let me in. I thought he had a girl there. After 4 years he decided to move back to Chicago and I didn't want to go back. We tried long distance again for 6 months but it didn't work. He was cold, distant and often unavailable. Whenever I asked why, he'd be mean. So I left him. Now 2 years later he started reaching out. After a month of talking again I went to Chicago to visit him. I took my son on our dates and we had a blast. I just got a letter & a book in the mail saying I shouldn't get back with him from an anonymous sender. They claim he has a f2f there and I deserve better than a cheater. The book is called Mr. Unavailable and the fallback girl. Y would someone send this to my job? Is reconnecting with him a bad idea or should I keep trying?

Question: Military Spouse with Baby: Live Apart for school (BSN)?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 07:08 AM PDT

My husband joined the military to support his family (me and our new baby) and told me that he would support me finishing school. He is currently at A school, and I have been accepted into Nursing school (BSN) here for January and he will be stationed somewhere (we don't know where yet) in March. I have been researching, and childcare services on base typically have year long waiting lists. I currently get childcare for free where I am now. My tuition here is mostly paid for as well. If he gets stationed in California I have read that it is nearly impossible to get into Nursing school. I don't have any volunteer experience, and my GPA is a 3.2. That doesn't make me a very competitive applicant. My husband is heartbroken that I am considering staying behind even though that was the plan originally. I know it has been rough on him to be away from his baby. Even though I promised to visit as often as possible, I think he is finding it impossible to imagine being away from the baby for 2 years. I have always wanted to be a nurse, and I would never forgive myself if I didn't finish school. I know I will be bitter and unhappy if I do not stay true to my dreams. I would even be willing to let my son live with my husband for the last year while I stay to finish up if that is an option, is it?? Would my husband be able to live apart from wife with baby while active duty? Are there any military spouses that have had to make tough choices like this before??

Question: What do I do when my brother cheated on his wife and now a divorce and losing his kids is inevitably bound to happen?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 06:53 AM PDT

My brother has been married to his wife for 2.5 years. During that time, they had two children. My mother and best friend passed away unexpectedly this past fall, my dad (whom I never had much of a relationship with) moved out of my childhood home into a place with his new girlfriend, so the only thing able to bring me happiness was being able to visit with my brother, his wife, and my two nieces. We had been though a lot together. My mom and I were babysitting my niece the night she passed away and my brother and I were both together when she deceased tragically... I just found out my brother cheated on my sister-in-law with a cousin (first removed, but what does that matter) and now they are headed for divorce and my brother will not be able to see the kids. I feel like I have no one left in my family. I'm so disgusted in my brother's actions that our relationship will never be the same and now I'm worried him not getting custody of kids will mean I will no longer get to spend time with my nieces and see them grow up. It's all so heartbreaking to me that I'm losing any bit of family I had left. Is there still a way for me to be active in my nieces' lives after divorce and them no longer having communication with their father?

Question: Is it normal to cry after my parents hit me?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 06:32 AM PDT

Question: I want to stay with my mom?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 06:30 AM PDT

My parents got divorced when I was 5, and I am 14 now. Recently, my father has gotten remarried and has begun showing more violent tenancies. He and my older brother(15 with autism) fight all or most days; usually ending with my brother missing meals or getting punished. Out of fear, I ve been trying to keep my grades up and stay on his good side. However, he has hit me before when he was drunk, called me names like freak, nutjob, psycho, lunatic, etc... I do not feel safe any longer at his house and wish for either more custody going to my mother or no custody for my father. Can I do this, even though I am not 18 yet? Are there special cases?

Question: Should I forgive my father?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 05:40 AM PDT

My father treated me differently than my siblings and humiliated me in front of others to a point where I'm traumatized.

Question: Last night I heard my dad moaning from my parents bedroom. The doors were locked. My dad is 60 and my mom is 50, could they have sex?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 05:28 AM PDT

Question: Why does my adult daughter always cry when she gets yelled at?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 04:36 AM PDT

Question: I'm in high school and my girlfriend of almost 2 years were forced apart for 6 months with absolutely no communication?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 03:56 AM PDT

We were in school and we got into an argument and she cries so easy and her mom didn't really want us talking at all but it's really hard to leave each other after a year. So long story short she got a restraining order on me because I wouldn't stop talking to her daughter and since it was my word against the moms i had no choice but to take the lose on the order now I am devastated I cry 3 times a day and I dream about her every night and wake up in the middle of the night and cry about her and I can't get my mind off of her it's only been 4 days and it's eating me up inside and I also didn't really talk to anyone because she was basically all I wanted so this is really hard

Question: My Dad likes to insult me in front of others. How do I respond?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 03:48 AM PDT

Question: My aunt is sending me hateful messages about my other aunt. The two are at war. How do I state that I am staying out it in a polite way?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 03:46 AM PDT

The aunt sending the stuff is the one at fault and her behavior is disgusting. However, if I just don't respond to her then I will never hear the end of it. She is one to play victim and is like a narcissist.

Question: My mother's love for my daughter makes me uncomfortable...pls help?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 03:16 AM PDT

My mother shows too much love on my 2 year old and always tells her that she is her mother...she tries to do stuff to make my Little girl more dependent on her for love. First I felt happy for them having a good bonding...but later my mother keeps stressing that she will be her mother in various times (not in a funny or casual way) but do seriously that makes me annoyed. Right from the day my child was born she is behaving like this...one incident was she did not allow my husband to hold the baby when she was born and my husband felt so bad he went back home from hospital without bonding with the newborn. She is not realizing what she is doing...i couldn't tell her...i'm worried i might hurt her saying this. My daughter is so much depends on her now...she doesn't leave her and go anywhere..pls help...i am not a bad mother to leave my daughter to her granny all time...i am a stay at home mom who take care of her all time.

Question: My mom found out that I told my dad I knew she cheated on him what to do?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 02:46 AM PDT

I told my dad the truth to cover up for my mom.I started to feel guilty especially when your father is constantly reminding you of the situation of being cheated on.My mom told me from the beginning not to say anything but I didnt.One day I went to my dad's house and told him everything.30 minutes ago my mom told me not to tell my dad I knew the guy of he asked but she didnt know I told.Then I started to cry cause I didn't know what to do and I was overwhelm by the situation.My mom notices and I tell her I told my dad about the guy she was seeing.At first she was calm but then she started to act cold and she was speaking in a sarcastic way.Im going to my dad's house today and tomorrow I'm going away on a trip with my best friend for three days.She started to question me like "Did you tell where he worked"or"Did you tell him you've been to his house".When I answered her question she would shake her head and tell me "it's okay" sarcastically.Then told me yesterday my dad asked if I knew the guy and she said no.She then said she felt stupid and I should've told her.Yet she's only seeing it from her point of view and I look like a trader from her point of view.I seen what Ive done wrong but im doing it cause im told to.She just called me and said she was trying to work things out with my dad but he was seeing if she tell the truth.Then she called me again and called me a hypocrite and said "its not like the first youve betrayed me its like fourth going on to fifth".Idk what to do

Question: My mom is going crazy taking care of my great grandma?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 01:58 AM PDT

My mom has been taking care of my great grandma who s now 98 yrs old for about 8 years. Grandma is deteriorating, but all the vital organs are still very healthy, meaning she ll still live for a while unless something else comes up. The problem is, my mom formed an unhealthy symbiotic relationship with grandma as she takes up all the responsibility of caring for the her while getting angry at grandma when she doesn t listen. However, grandma has horrible memory and can barely remember things, let alone the directions my mom give her. Unfortunately, my mom does not seem to understand the concept of how a person that old can t remember things no matter how many times me and family tell my mom that she doesn t need to get all worked up to try and teach my grandma to form "habits". My mom gets the most nuts when we suggest the possibility of sending grandma to a senior center nearby, my mom would feel like we re asking her to abandon grandma... I fear for my mom s mental status to go even more unstable if this problem is not solved. She s already showing many signs of depression. I really want to see my mom happy. TL;DR My mom is going crazy with grandma, mom isn t willing to let grandma go live at senior center but still gets mad when she provided inadequate care to grandma at home. Any suggestion?

Question: If my mom said this, that means she doesn't want any boys?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 12:55 AM PDT

My mom was telling my dad as he was ticking her slapping her butt to stop she has enough with my sisters keep hitting her and she said thank god they aren't boys. She said she's satisfied 3 girls she said to me when I had a dream once I was holding a boy "you'll be the one with the boy, I have my girls you have your boy". I'm only 18, but I know my dad said a few months ago he's good and he looks to sell the baby stuff we have but for some reason one day when were at stop&shop and some guy on line ask if my dad had any boys and my dads like no or nope.....3 girls actually 4 plus my wife joking. I don't know what the guy said but when I asked him my dads like he just asked if I had any boys, I believe he was kinda looking at the floor smiling, then the other day my dads like billy joel has a show with his boys "smiling" and I think he said that's nice My mom cares for my sick grandfather, 3 dogs, my little sisters and everything else. My sisters that are 8/6 stay up all the my mom doesn't get any sleep she said she feels she aged 10 years since my grandfather fell from the bed and got sick memorial day weekend she says her plate is full

Question: How can i convince my parents to buy me a new phone?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 12:37 AM PDT

Right now i have an iPhone 6 and it is getting really old and i hate it. I want to pre-order the new Samsung Galaxy Note 8 but they won't let me. They have the money, they are just being stupid and cheap. I really want a new phone. I have had the iPhone 6 since 2014 when it first came out. How can i convince them to let me buy it? I hate them for this, they never buy me anything.

Question: When to LAUGH and when not to ?

Posted: 26 Aug 2017 12:27 AM PDT

My cousin doesn't laugh. And his father always scolds him and always says '"Always laugh in life "'. One day his father slipped into a gutter and injured badly. Then my cousin started laughing at him too much. Then his father slapped him; I really didn't understand this. Please explain ?

Question: Was my brother bullying?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 11:25 PM PDT

I have an older brother, he would just take my stuff from my room, I usually never saw it again. I would go into his room and try to look for it, when he would catch me in his room he'd get mad and start yelling at me to get out. He would say things to me then I would say the exact back to him and he would get mad come over to me and get in face telling me to say it to his face and see what would happen. I was scared so I didn't say anything, he would say exactly that's what I thought then go away. I would go to my room and cry sometimes. I was on the computer listening to his music and he came in and started yelling what are you doing go get your own music. He was never nice to me. When he was I always felt intimidated by him. I don't say anything to him I just wish he wasn't there.

Question: I need help please give name advice on what to do?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 10:29 PM PDT

So long story short I failed an algebra class last year and I'm behind one class so when I pass it I will be caught up well I didn't tell my mom or my dad about it till now two weeks before this year starts and my mom yelled but she said next time tell me and we will get you help but my dad is so mad he won't speak to me I'm going to his house tomorrow and what should I do he said new rules are gonna happen and my phones the reason I failed Ivr been crying all night can't sleep please someone help long will this lsdt what do I say to make it better

Question: What does that mean? Why does she say that?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 10:25 PM PDT

I'm a girl and I'm 17, she's 50, (yes we are very good friends) she's usually very blunt and rough, just not an affectionate person. but sometimes she'll call me "like her own kid" and say what a "valuable" friend I am.. why? What does that mean. She even calls me sunshine and sweetie which is unlike her because she can mostly be rough and tough.. I'm just wondering why

Question: Why do people praise Lenore skenazy?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 09:45 PM PDT

I hate Lenore Skenazy she is a bad example for all parents. I hate her because free range parenting it really hits home for me, I don't understand how people can be praising a woman who let her nine year old alone in new york with money and a subway pass. shes not mildly lenient, i can understand some linency but she takes is way too far and is too aggressive with her approach. when i was a kid my mom was a free range parent, my dad wasnt there, my mom let me ride a bike around near the road and i got hit by a car and broke my leg. I was never able to do sports after that, m leg never healed i got hit at the knee cap. that ruined the rest of my life, so of course i have resentment for these kind of people. how can any one support this psycho?

Question: Why Should I Be Responsible For My Parents Mistakes? Parents Making Me Depressed.?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 09:06 PM PDT

I'd rather die than be held responsible for my parent's mistakes, no exaggeration. I didnt make you have children when you were poor, me and my siblings, so I dont owe you sht. I didnt make you irresponsibly spend your money so why should I have to give you my money just because you are too stupid to know how to spend your money properly. I have a deep hatred for my parents for using us as a scapegoat because they fcked up their lives by being irresponsible idiots. They blame us for every little problem they have and I can careless if they'd die tomorrow. I would not have an inch of sympathy. Mom is mad because she had us and had to spend her money raising us instead of getting a house, car, or whatever materialistic junk. So she constantly brings it up and blames us for it. I didn't tell you to lay up in the bed nor did I ask to be born. And not only this, instead of trying to escape poverty, she still spends her excess money on junk first and then complains about never having money. And then takes her anger out on anyone over anything and uses it to justify how we "ruined" her life. Like, maybe ill leave the toilet seat up and she'll literally nag for 2 hours about how she regrets having us. She is seriously driving me insane to the point where Id rather blow my brains out than live here but I have no where else to go. And then when one of us lashes out, shes like "see they're the problem". Thts bc u push us to the point where we cant take it anymore FK YOU!

Question: I resent my Mom because she banned me from seeing family she was feuding with when I was a kid. How do I get over my resentment of her?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 09:02 PM PDT

She is not a bad person but she did use me as a weapon in her feuds with her family when I was growing up. I missed out on lots of time with family as a kid. My Mom was one to hold grudges and mislead us with quotes like "they don't want a relationship with us" which I later learned was not true when I was a teen and got close to them. How do I get over my resentment of my Mom?

Question: My aunt insulted my other aunt on my Facebook page. Was I okay to delete the negative comment and how do I explain it to the aunt?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 09:02 PM PDT

The one who wrote the insult is the one at fault in the dispute. I am nice to both aunts.

Question: No one is coming to my Birthday what should I do?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 08:44 PM PDT

My birthday party is tomorrow and no one can come not even family other than my parents and siblings we are going to a trampoline place and I feel like it's going to be no fun alone :( I was so excited for this but now I just feel horrible knowing no one will be there for it idk what to do

Question: I regret having my baby but adoption isn't an option because of his dad?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 08:43 PM PDT

My daughter is 2 and my son is 3 months and I love them both more than anything but I regret having my son. I never get time with my daughter I'm never alone I never have a free second to even think I eat 1 meal a day I just started back at work and I start school soon I never sleep and my boyfriend says I wish I never became a dad I can't deal with both these kids I'll just work 2 jobs so you can deal with them I don't care if I never have a day off because right now Id rather just die and maybe we should just give him up for adoption but then after he leaves or goes to work he takes it back and says I didn't mean it I'm just stressed. I'm so burnt out mentally and physically and I haven't even started school yet I told my boyfriend I should just drop out my life's just going to suck and I'm just going to be miserable and I'm ready for that I'll just try to make the best of things for the kids and try to make sure they turn out good and once they're grown and have families and don't need me I'll make my exit and he told me don't talk like that you're going to go to school and do great. I have no friends I have no money because family borrowed a lot of money and never paid me back I just paid for school I never get time with my daughter I cuddled with her for 5 minutes and my son woke up and I had to feed him she clung to my shirt and cried mama she has a speech delay and might be hearing impaired I found out we're going in for a hearing test soon. I hate my life

Question: Neglecting grandparents?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 08:39 PM PDT

my sister and her boyfriend passed away some time ago and their kids went to their father's parents. the grandmother will not let the kids see their maternal grandparent or the biological mother's family. Also the grandma gets mad when the young girl cries because the young girl misses her maternal grandmother. what should i do? im the aunt by the way.

Question: Why won't my parents leave me alone for at least 5 seconds? I just want to be alone.?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 08:27 PM PDT

Not an update but lol. It's under singles and dating XD.

Question: IS A UR DRUG SCREENING JIST PEE??

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 08:18 PM PDT

Please help

Question: Why do poor children generally have less manners than middle class and wealthy children?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 08:09 PM PDT

I've worked with all three income levels - poor communities, expensive fancy private schools, and suburban public schools. I notice that lots of wealthy children and middle class children have better social skills. They show less inappropriate behaviors (e.g disrespecting others, doing harmful acts, violent doings). I can't speak for everyone, but these behaviors do seem more obvious in poor families.

Question: Nephew damaged parked car?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 07:36 PM PDT

I was out with my sister and her son who were in room out of town. After shopping my nephew said MOM hurry, drive. After we were rolling he said I just broke the side mirror ( turned out to be a turn indicator glass) on the car parked next to us. It took some time to figure out what he was talking about. I suggested stooping and asked didn t she have insurance. She said no, it was a rental car and our mother had rented it and it was all under her name. My suggestions to take responsibility were not seized upon. I know dings happen in parking lots and people usually don t bother to leave a note but this damage seemed serious to me. I don t want to tell my husband because he already thinks my sister and her family are odd. It s not my job to parent and I wasn t driving but I don t feel good about this at all. I don t live here either and rarely see my sister and her family but I did find it disturbing. I could tell my mother but I don t see how that would do anything of value. Hopefully I can get over the disappointment soon.

Question: How to deal with racist family?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 06:53 PM PDT

My family is really racist and also homophobic. They always complain when they see any black people living near us. I can't even have any friends who aren't white over without my family getting mad. I'm 14 so there is not much I can do or say to change their mind. It really bothers me having to listen to their offensive comments about people and knowing there's nothing I can do.

Question: Older sister teased me mercilessly growing up. Wants me to be a part of her Wedding?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 06:46 PM PDT

Hi my name is Hayden 17, and growing up I had an older sister, and brother. I was the youngest brother and came as a surprise and was an "accident" so my sister who was the oldest Veronica, and my brother Shawn teased me all the time about it. The teasing and tormenting want on for my whole childhood in fact at one point of course they told me I was adopted while being born an accident, also that I was born with a tail three feet long, and the doctor had to cut it off. XD Now that we all older looking back I think it was funny for them, they never got in trouble because our parents wanted me to stand up against the teasing. They torture me I hated it since it was something beyond my control. Now my sister just announced she getting married, and wants me to be a part of the wedding, but i'm sure if am ready to forgive her. We sat around the camp fire, told stories, and her boyfriend said "Thank god I was only child" before everyone laughed. I don't hate my siblings. I love them to death and they love me. The family is getting together this weekend, should I talk with my sister, and tell her how all the teasing she, and my brother give me when I was younger still hurts? :(

Question: Husband in Navy active duty, can child move with him and I stay?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 06:33 PM PDT

I am in Nursing school where we currently live, and he is getting stationed somewhere else soon. I want to stay and finish, but he doesn't want to be apart from son. Help!?

Question: Why are they targeting me?

Posted: 25 Aug 2017 06:24 PM PDT

Long story short but I have a cousin(we're both 21) and she has passively aggressively bullied me and other ppl for years.She lives at my dad's house (that's why I moved out) and whenever there's parties, I'll go and say hi to everyone there except her. Recently I said hi to a family member and she said hi to that same family member right after I did when in fact they hang out everyday. Her sister also stands next to me but doesn't say anything and she'll just look at me.