Family: Question: Is it fair that my parents won't help pay for my college education too?

Question: Is it fair that my parents won't help pay for my college education too?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 01:57 PM PDT

My parents paid the tuition for my brother to go to a very expensive ivy league so that it would look good on his medical school application. We are 1 year apart. My parents said that they didn't have enough money to help me go to a cheaper, out of state school. Work study won't pay enough money towards my education. My parents suggested I work at a bar so that I could get good tips. My mother is forcing me to be harassed by drunk men at work while my brother gets to focus on his education. My parents say that they won't waste money on me if I don't want to be a doctor or something similar. I am going to school for food science.

Question: What do i do?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 01:43 PM PDT

so my sister is a drug addict, and an alcoholic, she goes to bars every single night with her boyfriend & is high everyday, she doesn t think she is, but my whole family knows it. She lives with him, & they only come to my parents house when they need to wash clothes or they want food, my sister is 21 & her boyfriend is 22, i think. Anyway she acts like she 5 and she is always fighting with me. I m a lesbian, & when i told her that she didn t talk to me for 3 months, & she doesn t like my gf, which i don t know why, she is the only one in my family who doesn t like her. and my sister & i are fighting, we had an argument yesterday, & my friend & i got into a fight on instagram, & as soon as my sister saw it, she called my mom. This ***** really doesn t know how to mind her business, & it really pisses me off so much, & my mom is always taking her side. The other day my sister called my gf a ****. My mom took her side, saying well why did she do that, they re had to be a reason. My sister tells me i m not her real sister anymore ever since i got a gf, because i don t talk to her as much & don t hang out with her. I always ask my sister to go on hikes, & she says ohh i don t know if he(her bf) will wanna go on one. So i do put in effort, & try but she always turns it down because her bf is a lazy ****. Btw i ve only been dating my gf for 7 months, she has been dating her bf for 3 years. I am 17 years old.

Question: My friend thinks I'm faking everything? Should I drop them?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 01:32 PM PDT

My friend thinks I'm not really sad or depressed because her life is "so much worse" (she literally plays the "my life is worse", card so much..) she thinks I'm never really sick because "I seemed fine the day before" (yet she was allowed to stay home due to cramps) and she never thinks I am actually in a bad mood and does it for attention.. I cry when I get yelled at and she calls me a baby and tells me to suck it up but her boyfriend she loves so much, when he yells at her she cries a hard... should I drop her? I'm scared to because if I drop her, she's gonna turn everyone against me.. she's even spoken bad of my mother. And yes my mother can be a bit much sometimes but she's my MOM...

Question: My father saw me naked, how to deal with this shame?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 01:20 PM PDT

Question: How can you get your sister to shut up without being a *****?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 01:04 PM PDT

Because she annoys me even more when I'm yelling at her... and when I'm nice she still doesn't stop... it's annoying...

Question: My mother is kind of ruining my life and I can't move out?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 12:45 PM PDT

I just turned 19 and my mother and I live with my mother and brother. We Are currently in a tough financial situation. I'm working a job that pays 2k a month but my moms on disability because she had surgery on her foot and is about to have knee surgery. I make more than her and every time I get paid I have to give up my entire check. I really barely have anything left. I have my own car and I am an aspiring musician who is trying to start my career and I don't have the money to. My mom wants me to work 2 jobs or a 15 hour job but I don't see how I can do that. I can't move out because everything is in my name. I can't just say I want to leave because it will all fall back on me. I don't know what to do. Living with my mother is holding me back but I can't leave what should I do?

Question: Am I wrong for not wanting much to do with my parent's?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 12:32 PM PDT

My mom is a methadone addict and smokes a pack a day. My dad is spoiled and is a know it all. My grandparents took care of me. My mom has no motivation and she does not want to quit smoking even though her daughter struggles to breathe around her.

Question: Messy grandma?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 12:22 PM PDT

My grandma has to move into my apartment for about a year, and I'm worried about her trashing the bedroom. She can be a very messy person, and I am worried about getting a bad remark for renting. She is always spilling things. She never put anything in the sink, and I'm sure the carpet in the room will be destroyed due to spills and lack of cleaning (she doesn't want anyone to "clean for her) On top of that I will she will smoke in there even if I tell her not too. And if make a big fuss about it she will take it as I'm treating her as a baby. She really won't have any place to go, and she is very bad a money management, and very fussy with good. She is over all in good health, other then being very messy

Question: Are parents wrong for doing this?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 12:16 PM PDT

Okay so basically Emma (random name) isnt religous at all. Her parents still take her to the mosque, pray five times a day, and make her go to sunday school or else she is in trouble. One day she comes back from a meeting at school on friday right when it was time for her to go to the mosque. But she wanted to go to the park with her friends. So her dad told her,"if you dont want to go to the mosque and pray give me your phone'' so she gave the phone and went to the park to hang out with her friends. She came back home and found her mom angry at her that she didn't go to the mosque. The mom already knows Emma isnt religious. She starts screaming at her and demanding why she didn't go and Emma tries to calm her down explaining she was with friends. Her mom screams at her to go pray. Emma didnt say no or yes all she did was stand there for a second to try not to lose her cool she was going to go pray anyways. Her sister Susan comes to ask her what happened she explained to her what happened. Emma's mom comes back screaming at her why isnt she getting ready to pray. Then she really lost it by dragging her hair across the room and kicking her against the side of her stomach. Emma screams and rode her bike somewhere to get away from her mom. When emma came back she told her older brother, David, what happened. David got really mad at his parents and he got in trouble and he had to go to his aunt's house. So who is right in this situtation?

Question: Why does my crush follow me around everywhere?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 12:01 PM PDT

My crush follows me around everywhere. Along time ago I was a very sexual flirt to him I told him I wanted to do dirty things to him now all he does is run around and chase me. I don't believe that, that's the reason why he likes me because that was a long time ago..he's had girls after me..how could that be the reason? Is he inlove? What is it? I just ignore him because it happens so fast

Question: Should I stay with my dad or go live with my dad?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 11:53 AM PDT

Both of then are kind and gentle and has brought you into my life.. I love both of them very dearly.. I might never see my dad for a 1 year, or longer! I need help, I need to keep them together but I can't! My big brother has tried countless of times to get them to stay together but they're through! I'm a 14 year old kid who wants to keep my dad and mom together.. life isn't fair..

Question: Should I stay with my mom or go live with my dad? Both if then are kind and gentle.. They have brought you in my life.. I love them both :(?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 11:47 AM PDT

Question: Will my ex get pleaded guilty?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 11:44 AM PDT

Two days ago, my ex came to my balcony thinking he had permission from me and my mother. We have been dating since May and I'm 16 he's 17. My mom does know about him but she didn't know about our break up. He ended up telling me he just didnt want a relationship at the moment but everything was going great. I was so devastated the week after the breakup and he heard about it from my friend. He knew I was upset and he wanted to come over and talk things out in person since he blocked my number and all social media. He texted my friend telling her to tell me he was coming to talk and if it was fine. She texted me saying he wanted to and she told him she did and that it was fine. I was in the shower and never saw the text until it was too late. He came to my window yelling my name and I didnt answer because I didnt hear. Then he tried coming to the balcony because he knew the door was locked and he didnt know where I was or if i was able to get it so he went through my balcony and my mom saw a hand try to open it. She called the cops and he stayed around thinking would come out to look for him. He was the only suspect around so the cops asked me if I knew him and I said yes. He's charged with Breach of Peace and could get sent to juvenile detention for 8 months. He's a great guy. It was just a misunderstanding with communication and he thought my mom was aware he was coming to talk about the relationship but his phone died before my friend texted him not to come anymore.

Question: Stressed Out So Much. Plz Help.?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 11:08 AM PDT

My family stress me out so much, I'm in my second year of highschool and I like staying at my school rather than go home. My mother treats me like an adult and complains to me like I'm her best friend. My father acts like I'm his maid. My younger sister doesn't do anything around the house and never listens to me. I have to make lunch for me and my sister, clean the whole house everyday when I get home even though I have homework to do. I barely can get enough time to sleep and do what I need to do so I get to sleep around 2 am and wake up around 6 for school. I can never go to friends houses or have people over. I'm at my wits end, I literally cry in my room because I'm so tired of this.

Question: Why does my cousin and sister always try to embarrass me in front of people?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 10:45 AM PDT

I m 16, about to be 17, my cousin just turned 16 and my sister is now 15. People in our family tend to favor me more because I m not like them at all. (They re both all about boys and aren t virgins, they only care about their social lives and their boyfriends, both are doing awful In school) Me on the other hand, I care about my future a ton and dedicate myself to school and being more successful I m also a virgin too. When they decide to be nice to me (rarely) They talk about how I m such an adult and make adult decisions and how they look up to me.When we all come together it s great for the most part, but somehow or someway they always end up laughing and talking about times that I ve embarrassed myself, Or little things that I do that they just laugh at for no reason. They literally gang up on me and honestly I m sick and tired of it. For example, not too long ago. I remember one time I was winning a bowling game between the three of us. My cousin told me if I were to get another strike, she d rip my wig off in front of everyone. I thought she was kidding, but she wasn t. So my turn came up and I got another strike. Everything was fine until she literally ripped my hair off in front of everyone! So embarrassing! I don t know how to handle this anymore! Even when I m serious about things they find some way to upset me! I try to be as nice as I can but I m at the end of my rope! Please help!

Question: I can't stand my sister anymore?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 10:05 AM PDT

My sister is 2 and a half years older than me and she drives my family completely insane! Mostly my Mom and me, my Dad loves to spoil her and my brother (older than me) has silent opinions. She scratched my arm up to the point where it bled, stuck a popsicle in my face and ears, dumps milk on my head, steals my things and ruins my life! I've talked to my parents before and they insist that they've seen everything and are doing something about it. She got her nose pierced, gets terrible grades, and fights with teachers. However, she's my Dads pride and joy, she once completely disrespected my Mom bc she wouldn't buy her things she DIDNT NEED for hockey and when my brother tried to get involved she screamed "it's none of your goddamn business" later that night, my Dad took her out to ***** and pretty much bought her anything she wanted. But when my brother and I actually do NEED something for track or gymnastics, it takes us months to finally convince him and we have to pay half. I've tried to ignore her but my parents always yell at me for "not being polite" they don't see everything they think they are bc if they were she would most definitely be in military school by now. People will say I'm terrible for hating my sister and I'll regret it or get over it or she's just going through a phase but phases don't last ten years. Someone please help, I can't take ''tis anymore and I've resorted to staying in my room as much as possible just so I never have to see her

Question: Is this normal for a 52 year old man??

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 09:44 AM PDT

Today at about 2 pm i was at the gym for about 2 hours maximum.After that i was so tired that i slept but then i woke up 30 minutes later because of my father who came in the apartment as he opened the door he slammed it,while being in the kitchen he started slamming the fridge instead of slowly opening it (our fridge is busted the lightbulb doesn't work) and doing other stuff which included objects crushing.In the bathroom he didn't give a flying rat's *** if anyone was home or not he slammed the door as he entered and vice versa,and we have glass doors..he slams them too like WHAT THE HELL..everything in our apartment became busted because of him and when i yelled at him he was like sry i didn't know you were sleeping in my mind i was like:so it's not important for you that you were doing all of these stupid things??? if you do this while i'm sleeping it's bad but if not it's passable??? WHAT..I mean how do you NOT TREAT YOUR HOME WELL YOU BOUGHT IT WITH YOUR MONEY...YOU'VE BEEN LIVING IN IT FOR 10+ YEARS YOU'RE 52 MAN Oh and i wasn't alone there,there was my exhausted mother who was up all day and my two older brothers who were awake

Question: Is it weird that I'm feeling resentful of my absentee father's meticulous planning of his annual family reunion?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 09:34 AM PDT

My father does not have the time of day for me (I'm 16) but he always puts a huge effort into his annual family reunion (about 2 dozen, all from of his side of the family). I'm finding myself being increasingly resentful at the fact that this is the only family event he can be bothered to even attend, much less put any energy into. Whenever I ask him to do stuff with me he either blows me off or has a really bad attitude (like everything I do is wrong) the whole time. What would make someone act like this? Why am I so much less cool to him than his extended family? And I know people are going to say "Well it's a once-off event" but you do not understand that he literally puts more energy into ONE of these events than he has into our relationship in the past decade. Oh yeah fwiw I'm expected to attend, help serve/clean up, and just generally act like we're the Brady Bunch as long as any relatives are around. And by "act like we're the Brady Bunch" I mean basically act as a smiley caterer while he schmoozes everyone else

Question: My sister used my credit card?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 09:12 AM PDT

My sister and I are very close. Ive always trusted her. A couple months ago, I gave her my credit card info to pay for a flight for herself and her husband. She said she would have the money in a couple weeks and would pay me back. And she did pay me back as promised. The problem is, a week before her baby was due, several online baby store charges showed up on my card. I reported the fraud and I got a new card. I guess I can't say for sure that she made the purchases, but it's kind of breaking my heart. I can't bring myself to ask her about it, but it seems like to much of a coincidence. Do I just move on and hope it was coincidental fraud? I can't help but wonder now if our relationship is as good as I think. I would never do that to her. And I would have never thought she'd steal from me.

Question: My sister wants to kick me in the balls?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 09:06 AM PDT

Hi. My sister is 13 and I'm her brother, and I'm 15. Today she came to me and said she saw on YouTube a video of a girl hitting a boy in the balls, and she said she'd seen it at school a few times but she'd never done it and didn't really understand. She asked if she could kick my balls and I said I'd think about it. Do you think I should let her or not?!

Question: My uncle never worked very hard though he still got his father's inheritance when his father died and is a millioinare. Is this unfair?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 08:58 AM PDT

His father left all his business investments to his one surviving son (another son had died). My mother and her two sisters got all the properties of his but not money. My grandfather died in 2004 and my uncle retired in 2009 at age 55. He has millions of dollars and multiple properties. His home is like a castle. So my Mom and two aunts think this is unfair as does the widow of my uncle who died in 1998. They argue since my uncle was lazy he didn't deserve all these properties. Do they have a fair argument? I do remember how often the uncle was off work when I was a kid as he worked for his father and uncle and they let him take off whenever he wanted. His two cousins did all the hard work.

Question: My uncle is buying a farm house. How do I avoid having to go their for Christmas each year?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 08:46 AM PDT

My Dad died when I was young from alcoholism. My Mom blamed his family and wouldn't let me see them. It hurt a lot. As a teen I got close. Now as an adult Christmas is a big deal to me. At Christmas each year I take a gift around to my Dad's siblings and see their families (their kids are much younger so still at home). It means a lot to me to be an active part of my late father's family. My mother though is not supportive of it and remains critical. So now my Mom's brother, who she is really close to despite him having a very dysfunctional family including an alcoholic son, has bought a farm. I know my Mom is going to want to have holidays there at his invitation with my grandmother. As a result I can stay home by myself and do my drop by's at my Dad's families or go with my mother and be different from my Dad's family. I feel awful when I have to be different from them because it is what happened when I was a kid and it takes me back to being an outsider as a kid. So I know I am creating a "what if" scenario and it is only August but come Christmas or other holidays how do I avoid having to go through this? I am an adult but if I simply don't go my Dad's family might find it weird I am not where my mother and grandmother are or think I am needy and looking for an invitation. I am an only child so there are no siblings involved. The uncle on my Mom's side is perfectly nice but my Mom is a hypocrite to like him and be mad at my Dad's family as my Dad's family did nothing wrong at all and he simply had the disease of alcoholism. My uncle has two family members with the same thing (his son and his sister-in-law who comes to all holidays). Plus my uncle left his 1st wife. Marking anonymous to discuss family stuff PS----The farm would be two and a half hours away and has room for many guests.

Question: 34 weeks pregnant, two kids already but still he wont propose?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 08:22 AM PDT

My SO and I have been together two years in April. At the end of May, we will have been living together for two years. I found out that I was pregnant this past August. This was not a planned pregnancy, but we both decided that we wanted to keep the baby and move forward in our relationship. So, a bit of back story. He is 38 (39 in two weeks), military, and close to retirement. He owns the home we live in. He has been married and divorced twice. Our two years together is the longest relationship he has ever had. Now, I am 28. Over new year's we went to a beautiful vacation alone, and he had a week to propose then, and never did. He could have over Valentine's day, and nothing. He keeps telling me that he wants to marry me and spend the rest of his life with me... and nothing. I told him that I wanted a minimum of a year for an engagement so the wedding could be planned, and he keeps saying that he doesn't want to wait a year after the proposal, that he wants to get married much sooner. I still haven't received a proposal tho! We talked about it again and I told him I wanted a timeline. He said 6 months which would have been by August and I told him I would not wait that long. He was stunned a bit and an actual time line was never set. So, I have a personal deadline for June that he doesn't know about, and I'm afraid it won't happen and I'll be a single parent to two children. Any advice? ?

Question: So my dads mom and my moms dad are in love with each other..?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 08:14 AM PDT

Which means if they got married my parents would be siblings. What the hell do I do? Is this even legal?

Question: When my cousin (an adult) tells me things and says for me not to tell her mother am I obliged to tell the mother?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 05:15 AM PDT

My aunt thinks everyone should tell her whatever they find out about adult daughter. She is in a long going conflict with the daughter and she favors the other daughter. So my cousin (26) revealed the other day that she was pregnant at one time at age 21 and miscarried twins. She said she has not told her mother though her grandmother on the other side of the family knows (her Dad's mother). Am I obliged to tell her mother (my aunt) or am I best as I plan to do to just keep it a secret? She also revealed she is getting help because she was becoming an alcoholic (early stage) which her father was. My aunt's daughters have two different fathers. She loves the younger daughter because her father is my aunt's husband. She resents the older daughter we think because her father was the alcoholic husband my aunt had when young who later died at 31 from Severe Cirrhosis. My aunt has resented his whole family ever since and her daughter's relationship with them (she remains close). My Mom, my aunt's sister, says it is a classic case of narcissism by my aunt. However, I do think my cousin is troubled but trying to get help. So am I best as I plan to keep the miscarriage a secret or am I betraying my aunt who flipped out on the family when no one told her that her daughter was going to AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) and drinking a little too much? Mother and daughter are largely estranged though not completely. We are a lot closer to the cousin then to the aunt. The aunt we just see twice a year and the cousin weekly. The cousin comes to our family celebrations where as our aunt is closer to her in-laws and objects to the family events due to her conflict with her daughter and a conflict with her brother who she is totally estranged from.

Question: My Uncle is leaving his wife of 22 years because he says she is why he became an alcoholic. Is this really an excuse and is it immoral?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 05:06 AM PDT

He made a vow to her 22 years ago and they have had ups and downs. It is not my parents so I don't care but I am curious others opinions. My cousins are beyond devastated, their father is leaving their mother and breaking the family unit. He has two sons and one daughter. I don't think his daughter will ever speak to him again. So last winter his wife, kids, and my grandmother staged a family intervention as his drinking was getting worse and worse. He agreed to get help. He came back home in April and relapsed one month later when he had a fight with his wife. Now he has filed for divorce saying she is what led him to alcoholism. His father, my maternal grandfather, was also an alcoholic and died from it. So is "you caused my alcoholism" really an excuse for a divorce? Does his daughter have the right to hate him forever like I think she will for destroying their family? Can a wife really drive her husband to alcoholism? As noted his three kids are beyond devastated especially the son who has Asperger's and is sensitive to certain things more then most. The daughter just hates his guts right now for leaving his wife. The alcoholism they were all forgiving about especially knowing he grew up with it as well.

Question: My mother is stuck with her sister on an island. Do I save them or help find my Dad and uncle new wives?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 04:47 AM PDT

This is hypothetical, it is not happening now.

Question: Give a kid who gets bullied hope?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 03:09 AM PDT

Question: Should I be pissed at my mother?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 02:53 AM PDT

Recently, my mother asked my father for a divorce. He practically begged her to stay with him, but she insisted on divorce. Less than 2 months later, after she left, she started dating a new man. According to her, they're taking it slow (nothing sexual) and that he's more of a friend, but that they've been on a few dates. Meanwhile my dad is back home, paying for 3 different homes. He is the ideal family man, and yet now he can only see his kids half the week because his wife no longer loves him? What if I decided to become my mother's ex-son? Or if she became my ex-mother? It's disgusting just to think of it. Why should it be different for my dad? Marriage is too major a commitment to even have the option for divorce unless there is cheating or abuse (which my dad would never do). So as my dad sits at home, single and working, my mother is off in her own apartment dating, while the divorce papers haven't even been filed yet. You CANNOT run off when the love is gone. You stick to it and work it out until you get somewhere. I'm leaving for college soon, so compared to my 2 younger siblings, I hardly have to deal with this crap. That being said though, I still care about my dad. He's never done a thing to warrant a divorce. Should I be pissed at my mom for how she left my dad and broke up a family? Or should I forgive her? I've been kind to her regardless, given that I still love her, but that doesn't mean I'm not livid with her everytime I see my dad cry.

Question: I want to move back to the UK, but my Mum won't listen.?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 02:04 AM PDT

I currently live in Australia, although I was born in England. Unfortunately, I'm a minor, so I don't have much say or choice. When I was smaller, my parents split, my Mum almost moved us back but my Dad wouldn't let her. A couple of years ago my Mum got a boyfriend, I can't help but feel he isn't right for her, It feels like he's changed her views on completely everything. He is honestly so attention seeking and it's like he won't even let my Mum spend a minute with me! I feel so selfish right now but I'm lost and I just want to go home. I see other people around me being able to visit their Grandparents and Cousins and it's not the nicest thing to experience. I feel extremely out of place at school as well. My family isn't the richest and that's why we haven't been back yet. That's not the end of it, my Mum never listens to me! Believe me, I've tried talking to her about this, she doesn't listen, It's like she's blinded. She thinks Australia is some great place and don't get me wrong, it is, but she won't listen to what I have to say. I feel so selfish for asking her to do this but I'm unhappy. I really just need advice, I don't know what else I can do, I apologize sincerely for bothering any of you with my troubles.

Question: Can't stand being around my dad?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 01:23 AM PDT

I feel like because he grew up with a shitty abusive father and ended up with poor self-esteem and a lousy outlook on life, he feels better for taking all out on me to watch me grow up the same way. It almost seems like he holds resentment over me. For the past few years in particular he won't even speak to me or have a conversation with me. Instead, he finds little ways to try and undermine me and get under my skin. I've always been a good son to my parents. I always got good grades in school and never did anything bad, I got into a really good college. I feel like my dad catches a whiff of me starting a life that he wish he could have lived so he tries to undermine me to make me believe like I am worthless and inferior, and that I don't deserve anything good coming to me. He's never shown gratitude or pride in anything I've ever done, and if I want to tell him about something good that I did, he finds a way to shoot it down. I never share anything personal with him because it somehow turns into an argument about how I'm not "man" enough. He carries around a really negative attitude about him all the time, he behaves like he's some kind of victim and that everybody owes him something. What do I do about this? Should I try bringing it up?

Question: How to respond to negative family?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 12:42 AM PDT

The other day my uncle asked me what I planned to study for the future and I told him. ( btw I didn t finish high school ) He then responded with "you couldn t even finish high school how are you going to finish anything else" everyone started laughing. This is about the 4 th time someone has said a joke likd this. How should I respond ? I usually just laugh along cause it hurts

Question: Am I ungrateful?

Posted: 12 Aug 2017 12:36 AM PDT

I have lived with my mom and stepdad longer then 10 years.im 19 now almost 20. My biological dad,he's been giving me money from afar in a different state, he's been providing by giving me money for clothes,shoes,and food. I am grateful for my dad cause I wouldn't be where I am if he wasn't giving me those things. Maybe my stepdad he works and he says he works for bills and he has provided mostly for my youngest brother who is his son . I'm an adult and to be honest my dad he's been there with money and advice and has been there mostly for me and brother ever since . My stepdad he complains about a lot he usually likes to be rewarded or likes to be told that he's doing a good job for being there for my mom and her kids. I'm grateful for the things that I have but I don't like people who brag or say things to you when they do something for you. My stepdad is one of those people. He likes to say things to your face about how much he gives us or he works his *** off for providing for the family. But to be honest in these times that I understand better my dad has been buying us most things. I just need to know what I seem like.

Question: Where is my dad? Where is my step daddy?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 11:49 PM PDT

Well i never met my real dad my mom says he was a crack head abusing sonofabitch and i dont know where my step daddy is now. When i was smaller around 10 years old my step dad told me on my birthday that i would come home from school one day and ask where is step daddy where is step daddy and im gone be gone. Momma is sleep all day

Question: What's it like to have a younger sister?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 11:37 PM PDT

Question: I'm sick of living wth my parents, but I can't afford to move out and get my own place?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 09:54 PM PDT

What do I do?

Question: How can I convince my parents to let me go out and how can I be more outgoing?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 09:47 PM PDT

This summer my twin sister was able to go out and see her friends. My parents always told me to go, but I told them that I didn't have any friends to go with. I finally found someone to do something with, and my parents would not let me go out to see them. My twin, however, has been going out the entire summer and is allowed to go out when I was supposed to go. I cannot go out and see my friends. As a twin, my twin sister has always been a star in our family. I feel weak compared to her and worthless. Since I mainly stay home, I have lost my outgoing and fun personality. I really want to regain that as well as the respect of my parents. I want them to see us as equals since we are both very mature. It is very lonely to watch her go out and have a fun time while I am at home. Also, now that she has new friends she doesn't want to talk to me anymore. She had been my only best friend for my entire life, but now we are so distant.

Question: I'm cutting myself. What should I do?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 09:44 PM PDT

So I'm cutting myself right now because there is no one to help me with my problems. My parents are always arguing and my dad beats up my mom badly every night and I stop them each time. My mom tries to hurt my dad as well, but she's too weak and vulnerable and he still overpowers her and beats her up and make sure she's left bleeding. My brothers are abusing me as well and I have to clean the house and start cooking for my family. I'm 15, by the way. I don't want to be separated from my family and I don't want to see any professional help. I was just want my family back to how it was before. I can't deal with this. I'm a little overweight (158 pounds) and all my siblings call me fat and my father makes accusations at me and calls me fat as well. I get mentally and physically abused. I don't want this to happen to me anymore. I just want to end my life. I don't want to call Suicide Hotline, I don't want child services to take me away from the family I love and cherish even though they all abuse me. I just don't know what to do.

Question: My parents are dragging me into their divorce?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 09:40 PM PDT

HI I'm 13 and my parents keep dragging me into their divorce. it's mostly my dad who keeps talking to me about it. He asks me to send him messages that he can use in court for child custody. He asks me to "help" him win the case. I'm completely on his side but it makes me anxious when he does this. I want to move in with my dad as well. My mom says its wrong he does this and that this is only grown up talk. Even if my mom says that, my dad eventually convinces me to do this. It's starting to get annoying. I don't know what to do anymore.

Question: Should my boyfriend help out with chores occasionally?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 09:15 PM PDT

My boyfriend stays @ my house 3-4 days a week. He ll cook for me (I do all dishes) but refuses to help clean at all, anything. He lives w/his parents so we never go there. We only spend time at my house. I don t expect him to clean all the time, but when I get behind on chores I don t think it s too much to ask him to help out. He refuses to help clean and instead makes snide remarks that it s my fault I m behind on household chores, if I kept up on it I wouldn t be behind, and says he s not going to help at all. I work full time, I pay all my own bills. He doesn t take me out anywhere, but he does buy the food for our dinners wgen he cooks. He s made the comment he has to buy the food and cook bc if he didn t he would starve. (He eats a lot and I don t so I don t keep much here except fruit, protein shakes etc., I m okay with a bowl of soup for dinner) is it too much to ask him to help out with chores occasionally? Maybe clean the toilets or scrub the shower every great once in awhile? He does take showers when he s here. Or if I m in a bind and have gotten behind on chores to ask him to help out? I d do chores with him together, I d just like help sometimes when I get behind.

Question: Longass grief questions. Lost my dad when i was 9 and now i'm 16.?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 08:38 PM PDT

(im a girl btw). At the funeral i couldn't stop sobbing so I was made to sit in the car w my cousins. That's all I remember. To this day I haven't been back to the cemetery. every time a fam member would ask me to go w them I would refuse & now they have stopped asking me. my reason was I was always afraid of having a breakdown like i did at the funeral infront of my mom or fam memeber. to this day I haven't done anything like that infront of them.. Who doesn't visit their fathers grave. He probably hates me. I cant bear the thought of being comforted by my mom or talking about this with her. I just finished watching home movies of when i was a toddler & was reduced to a hyperventilating mess over hearing his voice & seeing him playing w me. I think i get so worked up bc i practically don't remember anything from my childhood & i don't talk about this with anyone (even growing up i didn't talk about it) .& today my mom told me he was an alcoholic and addicted to smoking. in her words he could handle his alcohol so i guess that means he wasn't a stumbling slurring mess?. the man i thought i knew was NOTHING like that i don't remember anything like that and it tears me apart to think he might of notbeen as great as i thought he was. And i knew about the smoking part but really saw it when my mom said my dad was probably outside smoking in a film of me and my sister opening xmas presents. who misses that kind of family moment for a smoke. can anyone tell me what's wrong w me?

Question: My uncle just relapsed on alcohol. What do we do?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 08:30 PM PDT

My Mom was visiting him and he and his wife had a fight. She went in the other room with his kids and he got drunk after the fight. He's an alcoholic who went to rehab in January after a big seen last Christmas. Now he is alcoholic again, he has relapsed. People will blame his wife but she isn't at fault. He had apparently wanted something and she said no (she is controlling but means well). He is alcoholic again, what do they do? My Mom is stuck at his house until tomorrow morning and then she is going to offer to go somewhere with his two younger kids. My sister is with her. Thankfully I did not go.

Question: My Mom likes to gossip and lie. How do I not let myself be hurt by her behavior?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 08:28 PM PDT

Question: What do I do about my mom treating me like I'm a child?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 08:25 PM PDT

I'm 18 years old and my curfew is 9pm. She beats me if I come home too late. I asked tonight to sleep over my good friend Bridget's house because it was too dark and I didn't want to bus home alone, and she made me spend my money that I work for to take a cab home because "I don't make the rules" (I also didn't want to spend my hard earned money on the cab). I want to drop out of college and become a full time waitress and get a studio apartment and move out of my moms house. I cannot stand how she treats me like a kid, steals my money, and then has the nerve to abuse me. She isn't even paying for my college fund, just me staying in the house. She said if I don't like her rules then get far away from her. So that's what I'm considering doing

Question: Is it okay to ask family for food instead of being offered? Little things like snacks/drinks not whole meals...?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 08:15 PM PDT

I'm a 32 years old male. My brother is 35. He keeps getting on my case about me asking family (aunts, uncles, cousins) for food. He said it's only okay to accept if offered. We're all family though, have known each other our whole lives, and we all love each other. I'm sitting at a beach on a lake on our yearly family get-together at a cabin resort -- a 50+ year family tradition - 3 generations now! He comes up to me and asks me if I was offered a muffin or asked for it when I am eating one - homemade and courtesy of my female cousin. I said I was offered. He opened his mouth to me (saying give me some, bro). I gave him a bite. Then, after I had finished that muffin one of my other cousins (cousin-in-law) said to me, "Do you want an ice cream sandwich?" and she was offering to others as well. He said, "Don't let them offer it to you too much." As if to say, "don't be a pig and take take take." Yes, I have my limits. We are all family though, right??? Then, another night, he said to one of my male cousins, "get me a dark and stormy" at a cabin we have our nightly "happy hours". Our cousin's cabin was across the street and our cousin was walking over there. Huh? "Don't ask, bro," I almost said to him. I understand where he is coming from, but he asks all the time. I am hardly ever offered stuff. Happy Hour, where we all get together as a family and bring our own snacks and drinks to a sit down or stand up social event, is meant for us all to be together at the same cabin.

Question: How would a norman woman react if a man tried to ruin her life and she had no proof to send him to jail?I mean he says he will hire?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 07:48 PM PDT

a hitman to kill her and her family

Question: How to cope with moving away from your childhood town?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 07:36 PM PDT

I'm 19, and I go to college out of state, which i did because I wanted to "see other things". But I ALWAYS looked forward to coming back home to see my friends and just be surrounded by familiarity. I love my hometown. I now live over 1.5 hours south of my hometown. I officially moved on Tuesday, but I've been going back and forth with my mom to move more stuff. I try to take advantage of those times to hangout with friends. However, it's been way harder for me to see them lately, and it's made me emotional. I go back to college in 7 days. I also lived in my childhood home all my life. Every time I re-enter, I think about all the memories and milestones that happened there and I cry (I make sure my mom/brother doesn't see). My dad also died recently, and he loved our house. So leaving makes me feel like my dad would be sad. Seeing my home empty and bare is such an awful feeling. My mom is super happy about the move, because our house was just too big for a widow with 3 kids living in college. She loves our new home/town, as do I. I'm just very emotional, and am having trouble adjusting. I haven't told my friends I moved yet. I was going to tell them in October, which is when we'd officially not own the house anymore.

Question: I got caught jilling off by my mom a while ago. I'm embarrassed to leave my room but can't stay here forever. What to do?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 07:28 PM PDT

I also dont want her to know how I got my vibe.

Question: My daughter thinks I'm unfair. Opinions?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 07:02 PM PDT

My daughter is 15, and she has a boyfriend (15) that she's known since she was 8 years old. He's a decent boy, but I don't want my daughter to date until 16. He came over today, and when he said goodbye to my daughter, my daughter gave him a quick kiss. That's not okay. She knows the rule of no kissing until 16. I asked her why she did it after I told her not to, and she made the excuse "I love him and he makes me happy." She broke the agreement. I've grounded her for a month, and she's not allowed to go anywhere without me. She thinks I'm being an unfair overprotective mother, which is silly. Opinions?

Question: I have an older sister who is great at everything and everyone expects me to be just like her. What can I do?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 06:48 PM PDT

Question: She's drivin me nuts?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 06:38 PM PDT

My mom acts like a child when she gets upset. She slams doors, screams, calls names, stomps around, slams cabinets and drawers shut,throws things, etc. I can't deal with it anymore. She literally gives me anxiety every time she's around. How do other people deal with moms who act like this?

Question: Am I a bad selfish person?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 06:32 PM PDT

My mother called when I was out with me dad to get her and my sister something to eat. I asked my dad but he kinda just blew it off. When I came back home my mother said to my sister she'll get herself something but no one else. Even thogh I told her I did ask. I can't control my dad's decisions. They're both in her room shunning me..I feel bad.

Question: My daughter's father has a child by someone else.?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 06:30 PM PDT

Our daughter is the oldest and she is 15 and the other little girl is 3. The three year old's mother found out that they have been spending a great deal of time at my house. He wanted her to get to know "her other family". I have grown to love her in the few months that I have! We, the other mother and I, do not know each other at all but we have met and I have NEVER had an issue with our daughter being in her presence! I feel as though she has taken her away from me. I was getting to know her at the request of my daughter's father! What else can I do because I just don't get this esp. when my daughter has been with them! And the mother doesn't want the daughter around me anymore. I have been crying for the last 12 hours! I have never hurt her! She doesn't belong in this misery the father created!

Question: How to avoid family after moving out?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 06:12 PM PDT

So I'm a 17 soon 18 year old planning on moving out as soon as possible due to bad conditions at home. And when I say move out I mean leaving 5 mins after telling my parents I'm leaving. I live in a medium sized town about 70 000 people. I want to know how I can avoid confrontation from my family as they know my school and where I work. My brother is also a gangster and he would seriously harm me or maybe even shoot me if he saw me. Really need help with this as I'm leaving soon.

Question: I got my phone taken away and wanted to see if the reason why is stupid. I got it taken away because I didn t record my moms show, i forgot.?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 05:32 PM PDT

Question: My mom isn't answering any of my calls or texts or e-mails!?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 04:58 PM PDT

My mom hasn't been in my life for long. She left when I was two, but now I'm sixteen and she recently contacted me, asking me if I wanted to visit her. I went, and it wasn't the best trip...she didn't even pick me up from the airport and made me take a taxi to her apartment, and when I got there, she wasn't even there, and I had to wait well over an hour for her. Then, when I was there, most of the time she would just go to work and leave me in her apartment on my own. On the few times that we did do stuff together, she would have her friend there, and they would just talk, leaving me out of it. I don't want to tell my dad about any of it, because he didn't want me to go in the first place, and I know he's just going to say "I told you so" if I complain at all. But now, my mom isn't answering any of my calls or my texts or my e-mails, and I don't know what to do! Should I keep contacting her or let it go? I went so long without talking to her at all, but now it's going to be weird not to talk to her anymore now that I've visited her and kept in contact. I almost wish she never contacted me at all, if she doesn't want to answer me. I know that she's fine, because I've seen her and her friend post stuff on Facebook...she's just not answering me at all. What should I do?

Question: My parents started arguing because of me?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 03:30 PM PDT

So my parents starting arguing because of me because of me not sleeping early so it is summer vacation where I live and my parents don't let me go out with any friends so I just stay up late till 2 or 3 am and my parents started arguing to me and amongst themselves my dad does not like me staying up and my mum says it is fine. i told them that it is the summer and when I go back to school I will have to sleep early. Should I just go to bed early everyday now

Question: Am I an awful person?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 03:20 PM PDT

I had gotten into a fight with my mother. I would say I am the type of person who has a smart mouth. I feel like such an awful person. How could I be arguing and fighting and saying all these sorts of things to the woman who gave birth to me? My mother has raised me on her own and she's the only person I have left to guide me. I'm a senior in high school and I continue to pick fights with her, well we both pick fights but I mostly think it's because of the things I say and the things I do. I have younger siblings and I feel awful that they have to see everything. I don't want to be a bad role life for them and I don't want them to treat my mother the way I've been doing. I'm always thinking about how bad a person I am. I wish I could just become that perfect daughter for her. I don't want to act awful anymore I don't want to show my siblings that it's okay to treat her in a bad manor. Sometimes I feel like nobody else acts the way I do. They have a perfect life and they have a great attitude towards their parents. I am not proud of the person I am truly. I understand the things my mom tells me is for my own good and I see her points on certain things. Yet I continue to just be a ******* prick to her that's why I can't stand the person I am. I act like I'm such a nice sweet person and school but when I get home I act like someone else. And that disgusts me. Why should I even do? Am I an awful human being? Does everyone do this?

Question: Who are the main family?

Posted: 11 Aug 2017 03:13 PM PDT

Many people say it would be parents, siblings, spouse and children, others might include aunts uncle cousins and grandparents in it. but i feel those ones are just extended family and not main like the big 4. what do you think is the main family group?