Family: Question: Moving out at 18?

Question: Moving out at 18?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 02:01 PM PDT

I'm 17, from a difficult home situation. Not gonna get too much into it but there's a history of abuse both emotional and physical. I turn 18 in a few months and I want to move out to get away from the negativity and stuff. I'm planing to move in with my boyfriends parents but I'm uncertain if its a good idea. I'm going to keep contact with my parents so if we break up or anything I will have a place to go back to. Should I move out for the benifit of my health? It would really make me happier, and I'll have one more year of school to complete by the time I move out and then I will go to college or straight to work. But I feel as if I'm being reckless for another reason I want to move out is because I want more freedom. My parents treat me like I'm ten (gotta be home by 9pm, can't drive outside the town I live in, etc) am I making a mistake or am I doing the right thing by moving out and giving myself the opportunity of idependance and freedom? BTW please don't say talk to them or anything, it doesn't work and I'm not trying again, please I really just want reassurance that I'm making the right choice

Question: Is it good to have a I'll do me attitude?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 01:26 PM PDT

Im an 18 year old guy living at home with my parents because I couldn't afford to go away to college and my father lets me do whatever I want but my mother is strict and doesn't want me going to parties or going to certain parts of the city. I live in Chicago, well I came to the conclusion that I have to do any and everything that makes me happy. I am at a point in my life where I have to be selfish, I already have a job. So I don't care how my actions affect others aorund me, I'm doing whatever I want when I want, don't care if people have an issue with it.

Question: My aunt is always mean to people but she wasn't like this before she was about 40. Could this be menopause that my Dad says makes women snap?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 01:22 PM PDT

He has always said that women snap between the ages of 40 and 50 for about 5-10 years. He has warned me because my mother would do it and indeed she did at that age go insane and is fine now at age 65. I am not familiar with menopause. Is that what is making my aunt become such a mean and narcissistic beast to everyone, especially her husband and black sheep child?

Question: My Dad and Mom are getting divorced. My whole family has shattered. How do I feel like I have a family again?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 01:15 PM PDT

Worst part is it is partly my fault because I used to complain about all the arguing and my Mom says she left my Dad to protect us and reminds me I was especially hurt by the fighting. I feel like I need to make it up to my parents that I wrecked their marriage.

Question: Future mother in law upset over last name issues?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 01:09 PM PDT

I ve always known I d keep my last name if/when I got married. My mom kept hers, my aunts kept theirs, and my step mom kept hers. I like my name and don t want to change it. I come from a non-traditional liberal family where we don t feel that a name defines a family - we are ALL family even if our last names our different. My fiancé s family is conservative and very traditional. It recently came out that I was keeping my last name and other than a dramatic eye-roll from his mother not much was said. This was a welcomed surprise because I thought they d have more of an issue with it. However, a few days later his mother goes "well the kids will have his last name" - she said this as a statement of what would do and not a question. I gave her a strange look and said "what makes you think that?". That s when it all went bad. I guess it was okay for me to keep mine but she had never considered that maybe her grandchildren wouldn t have her last name. I explained to her that we decided we were going to give our future child whatever last name (his or mine) that sounded best with his/her first name. Now my FMIL isn t speaking to me (or my fiancé) and I don t know what to do. I don t want to upset her but this is my family and we are untraditional. I m worried this is going to affect her relationship with our child if s/he has my last name but I m also unwilling to compromise because this is my child not hers. Advice?

Question: Good excuse "Not to drink"?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 12:38 PM PDT

Long story short, I am on probation, and I am not allowed to drink. My family does not know, because I had another member who got in trouble, and that is ALL people talked about for months, and I don't want to go down that rode. Anyways, I have family coming down soon, and they have been planning on going out and drinking A LOT, but I'm not looking to **** up at all. So what are some good reasons I could use to get out of it? 1. I do not have any prescription pill bottles around-- but any OTC's you can't take with alc.? 2. I KNOW I could just say no, but my family PUSHES and won't take no for an answer, so it would just be an entire night of pushing, and annoyance. 3. I am a single female, and pregnancy would be an option, but I won't pretend something like that. 4. Diet excuse won't work, because again, my family would say "We came to visit you, you really can't give up your diet for ONE night? My family often gets me to do things I don't care to do, and often convince me to drink when I really hate drinking. So I am looking for a GOOD enough reason to get them instantly off my back. I looked online, but it's just a bunch of "My liver was stolen by aliens" BS. Thank you! -- My family won't take that as an excuse. I have known they were coming for months, so that wouldn't work. --Also being the DD won't work because it's my BDAY, so they wouldnt allow that

Question: Do you have relatives that are angry that you didn't invite them to your wedding?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 12:28 PM PDT

My husband and I only invited our parents and siblings, as well as 2 of their dates and that's all. His family has been nothing but welcoming of me from the start, but there's a few of my own extended family that are angry and I have to deal with that. They are dysfunctional to begin with and so that would explain why they're so angry, but I feel like I shouldn't have to deal with this. Just want to hear from others.

Question: I keep wasting my parents money?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 12:24 PM PDT

I'm 15 and I'm really selfish. I'm always spending money! Like I go out for expensive sports like golf, I buy a ton of video games, and I just can't stop spending it. My mom is retired (I have old parents) and I don't have a dad. So we don't make a lot of money. She gets mad at me a lot and says how we don't have money. I know what I'm doing is wrong but I can't stop spending...it's like an addiction! How can I raise money to pay off all of the things I buy? I really need help!

Question: What is the word for sexual relations between brother and sister or father & daughter?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 11:53 AM PDT

Question: My future brother in law's girlfriend said to my fiancé, don't get married this year because we wanna get married this year?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 11:45 AM PDT

What is it with her ? I do not know her much, but seems she is like this kind of little whore that judges and talks behind backs. I mean what is her problem, she told that to my fiancé, i think it's very childish. Any thoughts guys please write below :)

Question: How Can I Ask My Dad For Something I want and to Make Him Say Yes? PLEASE HELP!?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 11:35 AM PDT

So I really want this shirt from my favorite YouTuber's Merch and I want to ask my dad but Idk how to ask him and to make him say yes. I'm going to be making a deal with him telling him, I'm going to pay half of it, but he needs to pay it with a credit card so that means, I will be paying him. So please help me. I REALLY WANT THE SHIRT!

Question: How big should your wife's cage be? Is a small dog crate too big?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 09:10 AM PDT

Question: My grandparents died and my Mom and her two siblings are fighting over their stuff. I find it so disrespectful, how can I influence them?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 09:09 AM PDT

How can I influence them to grow the **** up. They are in their fifties and late 40's. They fight over materials and two of the three properties my grandparents had. My mother wants everything sold. My aunt says everything should be hers because she didn't get enough when they were living and my Mom already got everything. My uncle is just nasty to both women for not fixing everything and making it easy for him. He is and has always been a nasty and mean person who emotionally abused his wife of 22 years. Both women are blurring out insults at him about his past. How do I get them to grow up? The family my grandparents had and were very loyal to is now gone thanks to their 3 immature adult children and thus they are rolling in their grave. My aunt is even posting stuff about it on Facebook. My mother at least does not have full blown temper tantrums but she is talking like she will never speak to them again. My cousins are taking sides and I am so-so sad fearing I will never see them (the cousins) again which is why I am getting involved. I am an only child and my Dad never wanted me so this is the only family I have. I get along with my Mom well but this is hurting me so much. She and her sister are otherwise good people but materialistic asses here. The uncle has always been a dick.

Question: My Mom sighed when I told her I was going to my Dad's today. Parents are divorced. Why would she expect me to avoid my Dad because she does?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 08:58 AM PDT

She hates him but I don't. She really is jealous of my step-Mom knowing me. I usually lie to her but today she was going to find out anyway due to a Facebook post. So why am I expected to avoid him just because my Mom does as his ex-wife and what do I do about it? My Mom is good to me in all ways except putting me in the middle of this.

Question: Laws on evictions? (Adult child living with mother)?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 07:12 AM PDT

I m 24 living with my severely bi-polar/mentally ill mother. She decided to kick me out after I didn t side with her in an argument between her and my younger sister that I was not even present for. She has threatened to kick me out numerous times over the past four years for things such as not giving her money right away (she demands payment on any day of the month and I like to wait until I get paid). I m work and go to school full time, working part time during school. I pay her 200-300$ a month for rent/utilities/whatever else she decides I need to pay for depending on her mood i.e. charging more for wasting dish soap when I buy it anyway. She doesn t work nor has worked in 10 years. Her days consist of sleeping 10+ hours a day, eating, watching tv, smoking, and browsing FB. I m not on her rental lease so I m technically "just there." She pays her bills via the alimony she receives from my dad as a result of their finalized divorce this past November. I was planning on moving out anyway, I just wanted to finish my degree this December and make sure I can secure a job to support myself. I ll be moving in with my dad so I have a place to stay. My concern is the time constraint. She wants me out this week (which is reasonable), I just can t take off work to move my things within that time. Otherwise she will call the police and have me arrested and throw my stuff away. I m not sure if the "30 day notice" applies to me since I m not on her rental lease. I live in TN.

Question: My aunt is staying at my house where my mom and dad are but?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 06:35 AM PDT

when I'm at my house whole day she goes with my sister in the weekends and in the throughout week mon-friday she is staying at my house. is she avoiding me or no it's a coincidence? Edit when I'm at my house whole day she goes with my sister's house in the weekends and in the throughout week mon-friday she is staying at my house. is she avoiding me or no it's a coincidence?

Question: My boyfriend's sister ran out of clothes in front of him.?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 06:21 AM PDT

I gave my boyfriend a ride and sister. They were late to take a flight to London. We stopped in a long-time traffic jam. I know in the middle of it all she said she wouldn't have time to change in the airport bathroom and went to the backseat to change her clothes. She took off her panties while her brother (my boyfriend) in front of her still asked her brother for help: Give Me the earring, the toothbrush, button the bra.... bla bla bla. After about 15 minutes, he finished packing. I was quiet on time, they're brothers, but I didn't like it. Right now I'm jealous. What do I do?

Question: I am helping my aunt clean out my late grandfather and step-grandmother's house. What do I do about the following problem, READ BELOW?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 05:23 AM PDT

I was close to my grandfather and step-grandmother but my Mom was not. My Mom resented her parents divorce and sided with her mother against her father and step-mother. We are cleaning out an old set of notes at the end of the month when my aunt comes to town from Chicago. Likely there will be old nasty notes my Mom wrote to her Dad that for some reason my step-grandmother saved. I am scared that I will say the wrong thing as I don't want my aunt or my cousin (her son traveling with her) to think that I backed my mother as I did not. At the same time I don't want to bash my mother. My Mom was good to me but very bitter towards others like her Dad. She had a love/hate dynamic to relationships. So how do I respond if a nasty letter from my Mom appears and I am standing there with my aunt and 15 year old cousin? I am 26 so now living with my Mom anymore. I likely will ask this again in a day or two for a new set of answers and so you might see this question more then once on here.

Question: My cousin wants me to hate her parents with her but I don't want to. How do I politely pass on it?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 05:22 AM PDT

Her parents have ridiculous expectations for her but I don't want to hate any family even if her parents are indeed bad to her. Her father is as ignorant as dirt and her mother goes from a 1 to a 100 on an anger scale in the blink of an eye. However, they are extended family. Even though I am not real close to them, I don't want to join my cousin (their daughter) in hating them. They have 4 kids and two of them are cool. One is too good so I stay away from her and one is in jail so not in the family anymore.

Question: Girl and me had an instant connection, pls read?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 04:59 AM PDT

This is overall a weird situation. Anyway I went to a barbershop with my cousin and it was our first time there. I was first to get a haircut, but while my haircut was about finished this Father came in with 3 daughters and 1 son. Once I saw his eldest daughter i felt an instant connection. I think she had the same connection because i noticed her staring at me.Once my haircut was done my cousin was next and once I sat where my cousin was, we really didn t have an angle to look at eachother. Anyway she changed her seat where she would be able to see me. I noticed she was staring at me, so i looked over and she smiled so did I for a few seconds then I turned my head away. While my cousin was getting a haircut he later told me she stared at me for about a min straight.I was scared to go and talk to her because the dad was there, and I felt like I would disrespect him by doing that. I would later walk out the barbershop with no number or anything, wish I took my chance. These past 2 days I ve been angry and disappointed , now I regret my decision and wish I see her again. Just wanted to share this because I don t know what to do anymore... I m just passed off. Thanks if u made it this far.

Question: Literally tired(exhausted) of my family?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 04:37 AM PDT

Hello everyon im a 15 yr old who is tired of the way my family judges me. They always compare me to sucessful students, even though i think i am more over-achieved than them( i won a bronze medal in an olympiad in the USA, i represented my school and country), and they seem to not give a rat's **** about it. Every single thing i do,i am not recognized, and like everything that my older brother does they brag about it all the time

Question: If you returned from vacation and found your son in bed with a girl would you?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 03:45 AM PDT

a. get furious and kick her out of the house. b. invite her down to breakfast.

Question: Verbal bullying,help?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 03:26 AM PDT

it all started in my classroom they called me a name (i dont really know how to translate it in English) i ignored them they stoped but some other little kids know about it and they say it to me all the time shouting it out loud laughing jumping and all that and my high school i meet those kids every day on my way because the middle school is in the same road and my little sister takes that road to and basically i just dont want them shouting that name in front of my sister its humiliating ! i ignored them for a year and they didn't stoped they are Little kids they are childish so they find fun in doing such thing what would u do if u were in my place

Question: What to do when my moms being a *****?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 01:46 AM PDT

Question: Am I overreacting or are my brothers evil?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 01:04 AM PDT

I'm a girl, and I'm a triplet. The other two triplets are both boys. We're 17. My brothers teamed up and played an evil prank on me the other night. Here's what they did: My parents went out of town and left me alone with my brothers. One of my brothers (I'll call him J) said he was going to spend the night with a friend, and the other one (I'll call him G) stayed home with me. It was like midnight, and I was just watching TV in the living room with G. All of a sudden, a tall figure walked into the living room where we were. It had long black hair and was wearing a white dress and the creepiest mask I've ever seen. Naturally, I freaked the hell out. I'd never been that scared in my whole entire life, and I'll probably never be that scared again for as long as I live. I seriously can't even describe the feeling. I almost dropped dead right then and there. I was under the impression that G and I were alone in the house, and I obviously knew that it couldn't be G under the mask because G was right next to me. I thought J was at his friend's house. So, for all I knew, the masked figure was an intruder or a demon or something. G ran as fast as he could to his bedroom, locked himself in there, and refused to let me in. He left me alone with the masked figure. The masked figure stood still at first to let G get away but then chased me all around the house and made weird noises. Even when I screamed bloody murder and sobbed, he just kept following me. (Continued in updates.) The figure didn't have a weapon or anything, and he never even laid a finger on me, but he was scaring me to death. I literally thought I was going to have a heart attack. Finally, after about 4 full minutes of that (which felt like wayyy longer) G came out of his room and said, "okay, enough, enough". It turns out J was the one under the mask. He had never gone to his friend's house. He and G planned their prank and G was in on it the whole time. They traumatized me. I called my parents to tell them what had happened, and my dad shrugged it off and said, "that's just what brothers do". My parents are usually strict, but they didn't even punish my brothers at all for the prank they played...but I think it was pure evil. They really crossed a line. Am I overreacting?

Question: Is it ok for my mother to pull my hair and hit me because I talked back?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 12:48 AM PDT

She as been hitting me since I was young (around 5) she would get mad and hit me with a belt, a broom etc. because I wont eat and because of accidentally using too much shampoo, just because of little mistakes. the worst one was when I didn't eat and she pulled me outside and threw a shoe at me and says "don't come back" but my relative let me in afterwards. its getting better now but I still don't like it. now that I'm 15yrs old she would pull my hair, hit me, threaten to kill me sometimes and throw stuff at me when I talk back and she gets mad. recently we got into a fight and I talked back saying "if you do that again I will slap you" out of anger because i was concentrating on something and she disturbed me. I didn't have any intentions to hit her. she slapped me and I ran away but she came and pulled my hair and it hurt my neck a lot. afterwards she cried because "she was hurt of what I said" i think it wasn't right that i talked back but i don't think she should have hit me? She's a single mother and i really love her but i don't like getting hurt anymore.

Question: Is my 8 year old stepbrother a psychopath?

Posted: 06 Aug 2017 12:41 AM PDT

- His mother has always jumped from house to house and lived in her friends basements. His father is very loud and angry all the time. Yelling over the little things. Very mentally intimidating. Well, ever since my step brother was 4 he has not listened. It started with him disregarding everybody and doing what he wanted. When he got punished, he still wouldn't listen. Then it escalated to him hitting people. Whenever he didn't get what he wanted, he would hit whoever was nearby. Then, this escalated to him being mean to our animals. He would poke our dogs in the eyes or pull their hair or chase them down the house and aggravate them until they whined. He has no remorse when he hurts these animals! He is constantly scared of everything and several times throughout the night, he will wake up and scream at the top of his lungs for his dad (he shares a room with his brother so he's not alone) and then he'll go back to bed. He peed the bed until he was 6 years old. He tried to smother his little sister (an infant) with a pillow. His father got a call in the middle of the night from his mother about it. He's always screaming. Constantly. Even when you met right beside him and he's just speaking casual conversation. It got so bad that we took him to the hospital to see if he has hearing loss. He didn't. His father refuses to say anything is wrong with him and chalks it up as being a typical kid, but I think this is a much bigger problem then that. What do you think?

Question: Do you ever leave the house to walk around the neighbourhood to escape your parents?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 11:44 PM PDT

Sometimes I feel suffocated by them so I do this for a couple hours. In fact that's what I'm doing right now and I'm bored so I'm writing this.

Question: I don't know what to do about my job situation...?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 10:33 PM PDT

I'm a 17 year old girl living in Texas and don't know what to do. I have a disability where my fingers a quite deformed... Nobody wants me working for them an I don't have enough money to get into college... My family revolves around my siblings since I'll be gone sooner. I just am to my point...

Question: Is it safe to go to conventions alone?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 09:52 PM PDT

My friend and I were talking about going to Playlist Live for 4-5 years now, and since we both have recent jobs we decided that we would go to this year's Orlando one. I told her that I was getting my ticket on Thursday because I just got paid, and told her that I would buy hers if she paid me back for them whenever she had the money. She said that she would be getting paid on Friday (so two days ago) and I should just go ahead and get them because she could "definitely go." I told her on Friday that "I bought my ticket yesterday (Thursday), and they seem to be selling out pretty quick." I sent her a few more texts regarding the tickets, and again offering to pay, but I never got a response until around 12 today. She goes, "I don't think I can go because I have to save money for college. My mom said I can't spend any more." I re-explained how I already got the tickets and I don't want to return them because I've been wanting to go to this for 4-5 years now. She said that I could just go alone, but I'm here thinking "I'm 20, but I look 16...is it safe to go to these places alone?" I tell her that I don't know if I'd feel safe going alone, and she's like, "My mom said I can't spend any more money." She's around the same age as me, so should her mom be dictating what she can spend her money on? Like we're turning 21 (me) and 20 (her) around the same time. So is it safe to go alone, or should I sell my ticket+merch pack to someone else?

Question: My second cousin?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 09:44 PM PDT

So. My aunt by marriage has a nice on her side of the family and she's my cousins cousin. Is she my second cousin or just my first cousin by marriage?

Question: My little sister bullies me?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 09:36 PM PDT

So, I need help, more like I actually just need to get this off my chest. Im about to turn 13 in a few months and going into 8th grade this year, she is about to turn 10 and going into 5th grade. We share the same room. And our room is SMALL. Its literally a maze for her to get to her bed. We sharethe same closet too, and no bunk beds. She tortures me... she wakes me up in different type of ways every morning and its a terrible way to start off every day. For instance, one time she had our home phone buzzing in my ear and shaking me and saying wake up sunshine in a mean voice and then she flicked on the lights and left. AND IM OLDER THAN HER! She makes fun of my friends right infront of them so they dont like to come over any more like she called one of my friends fat, another she said has an annoying voice, and another a nerd. So like tonight, I want to sleep with my mom since i was left home alone today, and i havent in MONTHS but my sister does almost every night my dad isnt home and she said if i sleep with her, she will lay on the ground in her room and keep saying my name over and over and over, or just get right in with us. Please help. Thanks

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 09:33 PM PDT

I have my graduation day by the end of this month and I am allowed to take only two people with me. So that would be my mom and dad. But I also want my elder sister to come. She invited me for her graduation day. Would it hurt her feelings if I told her I can't take her? But I want her there because she has done so many things to help me in my academics. What do I do?

Question: Am I right for feeling this way about my dad?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 08:52 PM PDT

So, I'm a teenager and my parents are divorced. I live with my mom, and I haven't visited my dad for like 6 months. He still texts me and wants me to visit him, but I feel very uncomfortable doing so, because my dad is really weird. Even though he and my mom are divorced, he apparently still loves her, and he keeps trying to stalk her, basically. He texts her weird things all of the time, like, "Honey, what floors do you prefer? I'm getting them redone." and weird stuff like that. And he has come to our house multiple times although my mom begged him to stay away. He bought her another wedding ring and proposed to her on our driveway. He bought her a guitar (she doesn't play instruments) as a wedding gift. He told his side of the family that they were getting married again. There's just too much weird stuff he's done... I always try to explain to him through text how I feel and why I feel uncomfortable seeing him: because of the way he acts towards my mom. But he doesn't care. He says it's God's plan or something. Because I haven't seen him in so long, he just threatened to drop our phone lines and make our phones useless, because I won't talk to him. He said that since he keeps getting **** on, he's gonna "do the shitting." not even joking. So my dad literally gives me panic attacks and stresses me the **** out and i don't know what to do. Am I right for not visiting him? Am I right for feeling so uncomfortable? Am I justified? He certainly doesn't think so. Avoiding my dad because he stalks my mom, who he's divorced to, and won't leave her alone... What should I do? Ignore last update lmao DIVORCED FOR 4 YEARS

Question: Reverse molestation?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 08:51 PM PDT

My 6 year old cousin tried to touch my privates. I'm 14. Is this still molestation?

Question: Should i just move out?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 08:25 PM PDT

Me m my dad cant get along, he always says things like get out of my house , you're no good , failure , disappointment. I dont smoke cig, weed , alcohol, i dont party or do nothing, reason why he says things like this is because he borrowed 3000 $ n still owes me a 1000. I need the 1000 to fix my car but he just says i paid it back to you or he will say you're living for free i can rent out youre room for 800 a month. I cut the grass n take out the garbage when i bring this up to him n he says you dont do anything around the house. Feel like he doesnt care about me n im 20 years old should i just move out n not come back?

Question: How to stop being such a snoop?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 08:21 PM PDT

I m a total snoop. To the point where it s probably creepy. I eavesdrop whenever possible. I look through my roommates stuff and my families stuff when they are home. I looks through my boyfriends stuff. I look through peoples phones if they leave them accessible. I look people up online. I m not even looking for anything in particular, I m just snooping. It s not the worst habit in the world, but I m not proud of it and I know I shouldn t do it; how do I stop?

Question: Does this qualify as body shaming?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 08:11 PM PDT

So, my family and I were in the pool and my mom threw me on top of my sister, Alexis, while she was underwater. Alexis ended up crying and my mom started holding her and my mom said "yeah she's pretty heavy, isn't she." So I freaked out, and I got mad at her for basically calling me fat. She took my phone away AGAIN (2 time since yesterday) for being "disrespectful" for getting mad about what she said. Was this the wrong thing to do on her part? I'm a 13 year old female who weights 150 pounds and is 5'7.

Question: Overheard a conversation my mom saying im like a young girl stuck in a old woman's body I'm destroyed?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 07:50 PM PDT

Saying basically I'm a stick in the mud because to me it means I'm boring and like I'm young but have an old lady mentality. I'm destroyed. I didn't want my mom to think so low of me. I heard her on the phone with a friend. This was the way she expressed me as her daughter. I'm just really sad because at 26 I got pregnant and since she didn't want to help me I got an abortion. The father didn't want to help. She didn't neither. So when she said that I bursted out that that's not true, I was pregnant and you didn't wanna help me remember? So how can I be so boring this and that stuck in an old lady body. And she didn't reply.

Question: My mothers dying words and what do they mean?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 07:47 PM PDT

My mom is slowing dieing from cancer. Today while I said next to her holding her hand she turned to me looked me straight in my and said "you are bad" why would she say those words to me. she told my daughter she loved her. she something nice about my brother. and my words of wisdom are "you are bad"

Question: My Mom's cousin is having an affair and the whole family is gossiping about it. Does gossiping help correct the situation?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 07:36 PM PDT

All we have done since April is gossip. The cousin of my Mom's is a woman so it is not even a man having an affair which happens more often. They guy she is having the affair with is as bad as they come though I have only met him once so don't know him well. Her husband was pretty good, just not romantic.

Question: My Mom likes to lie when she is mad at people. Might it be that she is so mad she distorts reality and doesn't know she is lying?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 07:34 PM PDT

Might she not know how bad she actually is? By she I mean my mother.

Question: My aunt has this bizarre hatred for her daughter. No one can figure it out. What types of stuff might make a mother hate her daughter?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 07:32 PM PDT

My aunt likes her other kids. My aunt is even good to her husband's nephew who was a drug addict. She was good to him before he got help. She just hates her 2nd of 5 children, the 2nd daughter. She has two daughters and three sons. Her other daughter is her favorite and she loves her more then normal. The 3 sons are neither hated nor given special attention, they are just ordinary.

Question: Help!!! My niece who is 16 keeps running away and getting into trouble because she knows the police won't do anything to her...?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 07:29 PM PDT

My niece who is 16 and go out and come home whenever she please because she knows the police won't do anything to her. She is out of control and she listens to no one. Today she stole from a store and my sister was called and had to go pick her up and now owes $300 and her mom has to pay it. She knows she is a minor and won't get into trouble or go to jail because the police won't do anything about it. My sister is at her wits end and really don't know what to do. What is with the system? Can't they do anything to the 16 year old like make her do volenteer work to make up for what she did or have her go work to pay back the $300? My sister is stressing out really bad because her daughter won't listen and keep leaving the house and come back when ever she wants. Sometime she's gone for a whole week and come back whenever my sister is at work during the day. She come home shkwer eat and leave again like its a hotel. Please any advice would be helpful to her. Thank you!

Question: I am confused right now in life?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 07:16 PM PDT

So I have been attending community college and I have been realizing that it might not be for me. I always wanted to get out of class fast because it was hurting my creativity. In the outside world, I feel better and I feel more free. I make music when I am not in school and its so much fun. I feel better when I make something and when I get the good feedback, it makes me more motivated and I want more and more. But in college, I feel like I am in a prison. People in high school always say college is the only way but I am starting to think that it is nonsense and that it is not worth it. I can name some influential people that didn't went to college and then became successful like Bill Gates and Steve Jobs. They became successful. and they love what they do. I love music so much and I want to keep doing it until I die on the bed. That's how much I love it.

Question: Am I a terrible person?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 07:10 PM PDT

I am working tonight and called my mom on my break. She informed me that she was on her way to my job to get my garage opener out of my car and then going to my house to write herself a $200 check. I don't mind lending her the money but I don't want her going in my house with me not there. My boyfriend stayed over last night and there were "things" I didn't want her seeing, otherwise I wouldn't have cared. She could have came tomorrow, I don't understand why she has to have it tonight. The banks won't be open until Monday anyway. She says our relationship is severed and now I feel guilty. If I am wrong I will apologize but I would like some other opinions first.

Question: Should I file for custody?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 06:40 PM PDT

My husband and I have 3 kids. He works full time and I am on disability. He has no problem giving me money to do anything that needs to be done and has done so since I got sick and could no longer work. The problem is that I have a niece who lives with her father and he doesn't do anything except leave her here with us. When I was working, I would spend plenty of money to make sure she had what she needed, but now my husband has taken that over. Her father refused to buy her bras and the ones she was wearing last week were too tight. Again, my husband gave me $90 and told me to get her as many as she needed. Her father won't even take her to get her hair done. She's natural, so her hair needs extra care. I tried to do her hair before and it was so matted and filled with split ends, I stopped and almost started crying. My husband invited her to go with him and her cousins to a water park. He came back home and pointed out to me that the poor child has serious vision problems. I pulled the side and found out that not only can she not see, but her cycle is extremely irregular. She felt more comfortable with me taking her to the doctor, so I called her dad to get insurance information so I could take her to my OBGYN. He got snippy with me and said he would take her before hanging up. Now, he's accusing me of stealing pocket change he sends my niece with when her uncle and I send her home with boatloads of stuff. I'm sick of it. Should I file for custody?

Question: Is it better to be a parent instead of an aunt and uncle?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 06:34 PM PDT

Why I'm asking is my nieces and nephews NEVER, EVER call, send a card,or come to visit us . holidays? Forget it ! So we spend it with my husband''s family Parents get more respect than aunts or uncles who never had children. QUESTION: What ever happened to the second answer ?

Question: How to deal with and make immature sibling grow up?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 06:19 PM PDT

He s a preteen and acts like he s five. Whenever something doesn t go his way, he starts screaming and stomping around until it s given to him. He doesn t know how to negotiate and calm down when he throws his tantrums and just cries until my parents just get sick of trying to deal with it and just let him do whatever. He refused to admit that he s ever done anything wrong,saying that it s always someone else s fault he got into trouble. Heck, he ll blame the teacher if he fails a test! He says the reason I don t get into as much trouble as him is because of favoritism and how everyone sees me as perfect , because of course there s no such thing as hard work in his world. He never ever admits he might have done wrong unless we drag it out. He curses and lies and doesn t ever put in any effort for his school work. All he cares about is his computer. And his video games. Even when he s grounded from playing them as punishment he ll secretly snatch his consoles to play. He doesn t listen to the word no and literally taunts me to punch him. If I do ever make physical contact, he ll deny that he ever goaded me and go crying to my parents. I hid his gaming laptop three hours ago because he was being extremely annoying and I ve been hearing him slamming doors, screaming, crying, and yelling at me to give it back for three hours. My parents agreed that he actually was being annoying, but the entire time he s not once tried to negotiate or apologize. What am I supposed to do?

Question: My dad looks just like the dad from peppa pig?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 06:14 PM PDT

the British chidrens show managed to create a perfect likeness to my father, i told my dad this and he got angry, do you think looking like daddy pig from peppa pig is a good reason to get mad?

Question: 10 POINTS my mom is being weird?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 06:10 PM PDT

I'm 12. My mom has always told us NEVER to get on the internet unless going to a page like Facebook, game sites, or Walmart or something like that and NEVER to search for ANYTHING. But my Sis has always been the one to ask to look up something ever since she was 12. So how come she can search whatever but we can't. We're always begging her to look up this and that. So I started sneaking on the internet in the b-room and such. She caught me once on a quiz site talking about first periods cause I wanted some info. I've been secretly listening to one direction and I would like to go to niall horan concert eventually but I can't ask or she'll wander how I know who he is. He will be coming near us in the future. She once searched my phone cause I was playing A game that you have to listen to the music so I was wearing ear buds. She got on iTunes podcasts etc etc SEARCHING to see if I was listening to music. I saw what she got on in the recent apps when she gave me my phone back. She says she dont trust me AT ALL with my phone. I picked at a bunch of scabs on my thighs and she grabbed my arm searching for anymore. She thought I was doing drugs! I can't imagine what she would do if she knew I was on this site writing this. I was in the shower and I turned the water off like I always do to wash my hair. She knocked on the door asked if I was on my phone! This is soo annoying. She says you can search something like"what's the capital of New York"and something HORRIBLE could pop up!

Question: I am right that I'm the only one born in the 20th century along with my parents?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 06:07 PM PDT

I'm from 1999. I have three little brothers and my father is from 1979 while my mother is 1980. My little brothers were born in 2000, 2001, and 2005.

Question: Is there any way a 15 year old can get a job?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 06:01 PM PDT

I'm about 22 days away from being 16, which is the legal age in my area to apply for a job. My family is in a really tight spot right now, with only my father working this summer since my mom works during school hours. We're on the verge of having our electricity cut off, and money continues to be taken out of my parent's account due to late fees from not having the money to pay things on time. I was wondering if under circumstances like these, if a minor under 16 was able to work? I really need the money to support my family just for a little bit until my mom starts working again and when we're semi-stable. The situation we're in hurts me since I'm unable to help and I'm basically stuck watching my parents stress over things like this. Being the oldest out of my 2 siblings I don't want it to get so bad to where they find out about how much my parents are struggling, since they're kind of oblivious to it at the moment. Being so close to 16 but still not being able to work is so frustrating. I'm just curious as to if there's exceptions to letting me work even a few weeks earlier than I'm supposed to, if that makes any sense? Like any government programs? I live in Arizona.

Question: I'm 17 can I make he decision to leave my ridiculous joke of a mom and live with my grandma who actually loves me? What must be done?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 05:47 PM PDT

Question: How can I protect my daughter?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 05:30 PM PDT

My family and I live in a suburb not too far from Chicago and we have a daughter whose in high school she's smart not an A student but gets solid B's. But there's a lot of outside influences and I'm more worried about her compared to our younger ones. There's a lot of Mexicans around here a few blacks but mostly Mexicans not that I'm racist because her best friend is Asian she comes from a Vietnamese family really smart but my daughters been listening to rap music and this isn't the Kardashians. She also uses a lot of slang and I caught her texting a boy whose Mexican but he's more pale so you'd think he was one of us I know his mom works for the church but she works for the Mexican mass. I don't like her school there's a lot of fights and most of the kids honestly don't have futures

Question: Is it weird that after she got her breasts reconstructed, she asked me (her brother) to feel her breasts and tell her if they feel real?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 05:15 PM PDT

My sister recently had breast cancer and had to have a double mastectomy. She stayed with me and I cared for her during her treatment. She's all clear now and she got them reconstructed. But after she got her bandages off she asked me to feel them and tell her if they feel real. Do you think that's strange?

Question: I need some help my parents are making me sad and depressed?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 05:06 PM PDT

My parents are controlling me and what I do, and while I understand they're my parents, they are forcing me to take classes that I don't need to take and that would take away my time. They're forcing me to take swim, which I did last year and hated. I said 3 days ago I would walk my dog for 2 hours each day, and go to the gym with my mother for an hour each day as well. I forgot to check if the gym was gonna be open and now I can't go to the gym. My mom went back on our deal, saying that if I quit swim behind her back she would make me move schools to my fathers school. I'm 15 and not exactly emotionally mature. Everything they do either pisses me off or makes me sad. Is there any way at all to make them let me live my own life? They won't see reason. I'm hiding in my room balling my eyes out and typing this because I really need advice. Please help me.

Question: My mom is a complete pushover when it comes to my little sister.?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 05:02 PM PDT

My dad passed away when I was 15. Me and my sister are a year and a half apart I m 19 now and she is 17. The problem is I m really worried about my sister and how she behaves I guess. My mom doesn t seem to care at all. My sister left our house at 1am to go to a party a few days ago. She smoked pot, got drunk, was driving around. My mom caught her trying to slip back in the house around 5am and took her car keys and phone away telling her she was not allowed to drive for a week. The next morning around 9am she already gave her her car keys back. She already gave her her cell phone back. Shes already letting her hang out with the same friends she got in trouble with. Shes been pulled over by the police, given numerous tickets, her grades in school are 70s and 80s because she never does her homework, my mom hands her money all the time, and she is the least responsible person I know. I just dont know what to do anymore I ve had so many talks with my mom saying she needs to be more strict and she needs to stick with her punishments but time and time again she just lets my sister be. Any advice?

Question: Not quite fully understanding what I did wrong?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 04:53 PM PDT

My step dad got after me about eating waffles with some chicken nuggets because his argument was that I shouldn't eat breakfast foods for dinner but he went did the exact same thing and I called him out on it and he changed his argument by reiterating that it was because I eat too much food or something like that. Which is fine, it's his food but I frustrated by saying that wasn't his original argument and then he started yelling at me for like 15 minutes straight at the top of his lungs about it. Earlier I tried getting away from the abuse by heading over to my dads place about but he was so apathetic he just sent me back over there in like 5 minutes.

Question: I just got caught smoking. What should I do?

Posted: 05 Aug 2017 04:53 PM PDT

I'm 16. Before you say anything, I know smoking is bad for you and everything. I'm not even a smoker anyway. I just figured, if so many people do it even knowing how bad it is for them then there must be something that's worth it. There must be a reason why they do it. I just thought I'd try it once and see for myself if it's that good or not. I didn't even like it and I don't think once is enough to form an addiction, so I won't be doing it again. I just wanted to decide for myself. Problem is, my older sister and her boyfriend noticed the smell after I was done and knew right away what had happened. They said they won't tell anyone about it and asked me how long I've been doing it for. I hope they're being honest and don't tell anyone so I don't get in trouble, but I just feel like it's really awkward now. Now they think I'm a smoker and all when I was only doing it for the first (and only) time. Should I talk to them (or at least my sister) and explain what's going on or just ignore it and let it be?