I am a Christian American woman (black) married to an Indian Sikh man. Our marriage is great and we respect and love each other very much. However, recently after a financial talk with my husband (who supports his parents in India 100%) the topic of who s priority within our family came up. As a Christian woman standing on biblical principals concerning marriage, the bible says that "a man leaveth his parents & cleaves to his wife that they may be one flesh", this order I see portrayed in most American families. However, my Sikh husband says that neither he, myself, our children (when we have them) or his parents comes first, we are all equal and depending on the circumstance regarding needs for that the said individual, that s who takes priority. Basically what he s saying is that it s needs based. I understand that there is a cultural and religious differences but I don t understand this. My husband and children have preference over everyone at all times. He is the one I plan to grow old with, will vacation with, will have to live and deal with, we are each others allies and support for the rest of our lives (that s the goal anyway) so how could he say anyone comes before me? Please help me understand this.

I am 21, currently in my last year of undergrad. My boyfriend of 2 years and I have been planning a trip to his country, Brazil, since the beginning of the year, so I have worked hard since then to ensure I have enough money to pay for myself; however, once bringing it up to my mom today, she flat out told us no, that she's not allowing me to go, and that I have to finish school first. We would be going for a few weeks during my winter break and I do intend on finishing school-- I work really hard during the school year to make her happy with good grades. She simply says that until I finish, I cannot travel (even with friends), can't smoke, get pregnant or drink. All I want is to be able to experience another country before I graduate-- after graduation, I am going straight into a 1,200 hour internship and then going to grad school, so I do not have any time for myself to travel. Any advice is appreciated in talking to her. My dad wants me to go, and we have tried talking to her nicely, but I don't want to be held back anymore and I want to live my life. Wondering if anyone has had this problem before and their advice on it.

I was about five when I would stay at my great grandma's house.very spiritual woman.One night I awoke in the middle of the night, I went to go get a drink from the kitchen and on my way back there was a light comming from the attic,i walked to the bottem of the stairs and glanced up the stairs up there dancing across the light was a shadow. but everyone was asleep. excpet me. I was woken up in the night again(different time) and there was a man standing in the hall with a bule light around him. Soon after they both died, the house brunt down without any reason or anything. also when my father was a little child he clams to have seen the devils face beside him one night.

My soon to be ex ( we have been separated for a few months ) went to jail for a probation violation, he failed a drug test for meth. His mom called wanting to come get my son to spend the night with her and her boyfriend who is a convicted sex offender and they haven't saw him in over a month and that was just for a short visit. Should I let her take him or just tell her I'm not comfortable with that ?

They even try to claim they fear for their lives and I never threatened them. What is going on? This happens when I turn them down for intimacy every time. EVERY TIME! I rarely even talk to men anymore. Because I am so scared that something will happen and they will set me up to look I assaulted them. I am scared they will hurt me because they bring it up in the first place. The last one has even said I would accuse him of rape, even though he is impotent. He wanted to cuddle. I am so scared of men now. I never go out or date. I try to be normal around men and do not allow any contact via email. I am about to eliminate all men from Facebook in my friends list. I will never date again. I am only 40. What gives? I am terrified that I will have a restraining order served on me. I'm not pretty but I am.vulnerable and alone. I can't hide forever. They tell everyone I am crazy. No one talks to me now.

i am an 18 year old boy who has been kindly raised in my good christian suburbs. after church every sunday, my mother orders me to pick up the dry cleaning down the street. some days i will encounter a different employee, but usually i come face to face with rick. before he hands over the dry cleaning, i begin to feel amerous. as he grips the hangers in his large, meaty claws, i feel a certain sensation. it's even come to the point where he crosses my mind during church. the thing is, last sunday, he motioned me behind the counter and asked me if i wanted to grasp his "penis". i declined his request because i am unsure to what a penis is, and im unaware as if i should grasp rick's. please help

Hello a friend of mine has been going through domestic violence with her youngest (boy) father it calmed down after a year or so. But they recently got into an argument the father hit the mother the mother grabbed a knife in defense. The father left after a couple of minutes the police were knocking at her door the father called. The police did not take the children but called cps she later found out when they knocked at her door a week later. They are saying she is mentally ill to take care of her kids when she clearly is not. She just wants to let the fathers care for their children until this is over and she completes school. She is a very good mother and wants whats best. SO can she place them with their father while cps is investigating her? Thanks in advance.

I m 16 and sophomore in high school. In 5 7 and 165. Pretty laid back normal person. IApparently this guy who I have spoken once or twice in my life wants to kick my ***. He proclaimed that I talking **** about him while walking in the hallway and purposely made eye contact and then said something vulgar under my breath. This is not true but I m not going back down from doing something I did not initiate. Aat this point the fight is inevitable. This guy is 6"4 and 250. He s a big dude and he has a LOT of experience fighting. So once I found out about this on Thursday I know it s not right, but I wnt ahead and bought a handheld taser from Ebay for $10. I also keep a pocket knife. All these are my self defence. I m not going around slashin people but just protecting myself. Heres my plan. The fight will happen 3-4th period since we have the same elective. I will be looking around like to hawk to make sure I don t get sucker punch. he comes lodging towards me,I rapidly get the small taser just shock him for few seconds so he s down. On the ground.. I jump on this chest and punch the living crap out of him. Either way I will be suspended. I would rather kick that dudes *** and be suspended or get suspended and beat up. Is this ok? I know many will say he used weapon or he couldn t do 1 on 1. He s a pussy etc. I m saying in a 1 on 1 fight he most likely would win and I would not go down with a fight but I would lose.. Can I be thrown in jail. I m still a minor.

That are complete controlling bi/tches. I'm very nice and down to earth and submissive and it seems like men don't want that nowadays. It's not fair that other mean women are married but the decent ones aren't. I'm 26 now and my mom got married younger than that and feel like there's something wrong with me. Why I'm not settled down yet. I have a desire to settle down and start a family. Mom says beauty can be a curse sometimes because men think I'm already taken but I'm not. People shouldn't assume things. Should I just not rush love? Wait til it finds me? But I'm closer to 30 now and my time is running out. Any advice?

i know what i did was horrible so no rude answers or lectures, please help. A few months ago i feel like i became a really mean person i wont go into why but lets just say i absolutely hate my life and myself. Not that its an excuse though. ive been trying to be nicer. But ive been dating someone (Nathan) for 2 years who im glad to be with. and this summer there was this guy "Joe" trying to date me. He is 4 years older than me and not even close to my type, i had someone else anyway. He would constantly text me atleast 10 times a day and wouldnt leave me alone. i told him i wasnt interested and i barely even knew him. - Heres where i went wrong, i was going through alot at the time (family issues) and didnt handle the situation with Joe well at all. He just wouldnt back off and was forcing me into stuff. It got to the point where i didnt know what to do so me and my boyfriend made fun of him and i started a rumor about him. a few weeks later Joe found out and he stopped talking to me completely, he said he wanted me dead. -i think what i did was absolutely awful and i only did it so he would stop trying to date me. im 15 and he's 19. i have someone my own age. But i know i didnt handle it well and i feel really bad. All Joe's friends who i dont even know keep threatening to beat me up and im really scared. its just making me feel worse and really anxious. WHAT SHOULD I DO? Should i apologize to Joe and his friends?? if so how?

i know something happned my mam when she was younger and never told anyone my dad just has anger and doesn't realy ask doe me its only been a couple of weeks but i feel like they are gettinng on with life i had my first session with a counsller last week and the police said he is fairly confident he will nab him they will bring in a specialist to finish my statement and will invite him to the police station and interview him under caution

So I have been in a relationship with this guy for about three months ..everything was good as far as I know. He called and texted me every day, we went out on dates , he bought me flowers a few times , he told me he really liked me we became exclusive about a month and a half ago but there are some red flags . For instance he is very much into "gay lifestyle " he attends gay bars , he is a big advocate for gay rights , he talks a lot about gay topics , and sometimes he will break out and start talking "in a gay tone of voice out of nowhere it's just weird but I have asked him if he's gay or has gay feelings and he s very adamant that he is very straight . The second red flag i cd observed is his drinking habit , for the most part when we are together he drinks bottles of jack Daniels or whiskey and he drinks pretty much everyday yesterday for instance I bought over a bottle of wine and he had already drank an entire large bottle of jack Daniels and my entire bottle of wine smh , and this happens every time I'm with him or talk to him over the phone so yesterday he admitted to me that he is an alcoholic and he went on and said that he's not good for me , and he's a sociopath and broke and he hates kids and doesn't want kids , and he's just not good at relationships and so after hearing what this rant I just packed my stuff and left . The third red flag is when he gets mad he yells at the top of his lungs and screams he's actually went off on me a few times for minor stuff

It's so often, females let friends disrespect their husbands. If a man is insulted by his mother-in-law, most of the time the wife won't even stand up for him. Sometimes the wife and her friend will band together and disrespect the husband.

I hooked up with this women yesterday and she was going down on me and she stuck her finger in my "area" at first I did not like it and told her to stop but eventually it felt good. Now I have pain down there. I've never done this type of thing before (and I don't plan on doing it again) does anybody know when the pain will go away ? Or what I can do to help it ?

Tengo una novia y ella y yo llevamos un mes siendo pareja. Sin embargo, nos conocemos desde hace años y siempre habiamos tenido atracción pero la relacion no se habia dado hasta ahora, es por esi que a pesar del corto tiempo que llevamos juntos yo la amo y ella a mi...... Este miercoles cumplimos un mes y viajare para verla. ayer discutimos porque ella hablo con su ex, por el que todavía siente algo, al principio ella le iba a dejar de hablar porque sabía que eso me ponía mal, pero luego iban a seguir hablando porque él la aconsejo sobre unos problemas y necesitaba lo mismo de ella. El esta en otro país así que no importa mucho, aún así me enoje y hable con mi novia y se dejaron de hablar, luego me contó que sí que lo amaba, pero que quería pasar el resto de su vida conmigo, que me ve como su futuro esposo, que me ama y no me va a dejar y que a ese tipo lo ama como a un hermano porque ha pasado por situaciones parecidas a ella y la puedo ayudar.... ahorita mi novia y yo estamos bien, pero quiero saber que puedo hacer en nuestro aniversario para que esté mejor y se de cuenta que no quise lastimarla, que la amo y confío en ella y que puede confiar en mi para decirme ese tipo de cosas

Whats a mom to do I have a 15 yr old son who saids he wants to kill him self because his 14 yr old girlfriend break up after 7 mths of dating buy cutting his wrist.,I have check him there is nothing there no cuts or blood. My son and I are like vinager and water so he will not tell me nothing, the old girldfrield is the one who called me and told me to check him. I have spook to him is saids he is depressed, I told him I would take him to the hospital to take to someone, he said NO and he will run away. I have also found out this is not the first time he has said this to her and other girls. (His father is a hot head so forget him) Thanks

Before the whole incident, we were into a slight argument and I had been crying a lot. I had a really really bad anxiety/panic attack and I kept telling him to back off/ get away from me, because when I'm having attacks like that, I need space. He wasn't listening to me at all, he kept getting closer and me being the mental state I was in, and I remind you, I kept warning him to back off, I kicked him away because I couldn't take it anymore. He then pinned my arms down, and me still panicking, was struggling to get out. He told me not to struggle, i'd only make it worse for myself, and then he grabbed me by the neck saying "Don't kick me, because I WILL hurt you" and he wouldn't let go off my neck gripping tightly, so I just said "go ahead then, hurt me" because..well, he's going to get in trouble if he does. I know it wasn't right of me to kick him, but I was in such a bad mental state, and he wasn't listening to me at all.. that's the first time hes ever talked to me like that or done that to me before. How should I feel? What should I do? By the way I've been with him for 2 years.

I hate when I see white hipsters walking thru my neighborhood . It really bothers I don't know why I feel like telling them to get the **** out my city.. What are your feelings on gentrification

Like you walk into the room and this guys eyes fall on yours. Their mouth slightly opens like they're about to say something. You're walking towards them and they're still staring at you with their mouth slightly open, but just as you open your mouth slightly to utters something and they move aside. What would this imply? They are scared of you?

I don't know why but ever since last year I've been really thinking about my past. I just started 8th grade and now I'm really getting stressed out about how fast everything went. It feels like yesterday I started 6th grade. I listen to old songs I used to listen to and I get so sad. I look at the pictures I've taken and I get so sad. Even when I look at the 7th grade pictures I took of myself... I get so sad. I just can't believe I'm in 8th grade already. It's like my brain can't process the fact that I'm in 8th grade. I miss yesterday, I miss the summer, I miss 5 months ago, I miss 7th grade, I miss a year ago, ect. My life has become very boring since last year. When I look at photos or videos of me I took like 4 months ago, a year ago, ect. I get so sad that I even cry about it sometimes. I also have been paying more attention to time. I think of weeks as days and it's weird, and I look at the clock so many times. I get so sad about it. I've used the internet since I was 6 and I don't have a lot of friends at school, I only have 3 close internet friends. I also have a low self-esteem if that helps any? What's wrong with me? I think about my past a lot and I get sad when I do.

My boyfriend has never had anger issues and has never yelled at me or anything. But there has been an issue lately of my ex trying to talk to me. My boyfriend was pretty angry when my ex started messaging me on facebook. He messaged him back saying a bunch of things basically just telling him to "f*ck off" and then told me to block the guy. I did block him but I didn't know he had two accounts. So he ends up sending me not only a message but an inappropriate picture as well. My boyfriend has access to all my stuff and checks on me every so often. I tried to delete it and block the other account before he saw but he got home really angry. He blamed me saying I purposely didn't block the other account. I was arguing back and I could tell he was getting pissed off but I kept arguing because I didn't want him to think he was right about that. I saw where he lifted his hand like he was gonna slap me or something. I gasped and just closed my eyes flinching away. Instead of hitting me he just walked away and sat down saying sorry. I don't know if he was just trying to scare me or if he was really going to hit me but felt bad when I reacted to it. I know it is a red flag so to speak but I also know he was really upset and he doesn't get like that often. He didn't actually hit me or even touch me at all. My best friend told me I should leave him but I don't know if that's too extreme in this case. Should I just give him another chance or should we talk it out? Help me out? I doubt the one person who answered will see this but I couldn't reply directly to you without it giving my name. No, I wouldn't have reacted badly. He has several exs some of which I will admit I am not fond of but one of his exes is still a good friend of his and I don't get jealous about it. Would I be happy about one of his exes sending him nudes? Hell no but I'd blame her not him especially if I saw that he gave her no response the way I did. I don't know if I made it seem like I wanted to talk to my ex but I didnt. He messaged me out of nowhere the first time and I never responded however my boyfriend saw it told him off and I blocked him. The second time I didn't even know there was a second account so there was no way I could have prevented it. I respect my bf if he doesn't want me to talk to someone I won't do it. I was never going to respond to my ex and I was deleting anything he sent.

me gusta una niña que vive por mi casa, ella tiene 16 y yo 18, pero no se como ser atractivo para ella, ¿como gustarle? algún concejo

is this a parental belief or abuse i dont see why this is proper disapline like your child wakes you while your sleeping by knocking on the window outside or for pushing you

I have had a rough child hood with seeing violence, seeing my parent do drugs and abuse alcohol and my other parent jumping from boyfriend to boyfriend.

when I try to speak with him he just kinda runs away..... can anyone tell me why.

I walked into this public place earlier today, and a woman started laughing. She was looking straight at me and was luaghing like I was a joke. There were other people staring at me too, but they weren't necessarily laughing but they were still staring at me for long enough that it made me uncomfortable. It was embarassing too, since I doubted that the woman was luaghing at something else, as she was looking right at me even as I walked away. It really dropped my confidence. :(

I met a guy on a social network site a year ago, and we always get jinx (typed the same thing at the same time). He told me a bit about himself but I wasn't trusting enough as I had met him from an untrustable social website. I told him about this and he sent me pics of himself to clarify my doubts which I thought was real. So, we stopped talking and I lose contact with this mysterious guy. Days gone by and the thought of him were drown by new experience in life. I almost forgotten him when one day a sudden thought of this guy who always thought the same and says the same thing as me without trying came into my mind. So I searched for his name onFacebook and to my surprise heaccepted my request. I was confused again, really. I met the same persona on another social site and found out that it was actually him [to no surprise as I met him thrice online]. We talked and the creepiest thing ever happened, we not just said the same thing but this time the connection was lost and I sorta asked a question. When the connection came back, I realized that he typed the same thing while the connection was lost. I freaked out. He asked me if I was 'Jane' which I told him on the previous site. My heart was racing fast which already did ever since he said the same thing. He realized I was and I confessed to him that I've added him on Facebook which he didn't know (my name wasn't Jane on Facebook). One day I saw his status and he seemed unhappy so I asked him why on Facebook. He told me that his phone was confiscated by his parents which seemed hilarious as my phone was taken away too by my parents few days ago. I told hi about this and he was like "wow" and he said he saw me at one of the shopping mall sometimes. I was like "what?!! how could that be? You don't even know how I look like" he was like "I saw your past pictures" =.- Anyway, I didn't know that's not the end. He just told me he changed his phone number after his phone was taken away and he gave me. I was flabbergasted when I saw that his new phone number resembles mine a lot. I wonder if he did it on purpose. Anyway, I can't stop thinking about this guy and kept having weird dreams about him. Anyone pls help me thankies.

I saw on my fiance's phone hes on adultfriendfinder.....and hotflings.....he also has text messages from women dating back to when my daughter was born. I confronted him and he came home early from work....denying everything. What should I do?

My niece came to visit me from another country and stayed over about few months while she attended summer school. She has never asked me a question about what I do for work, who my friends are, what I do for fun or any other questions. I often made conversations to talk about anything which I bored her to death, I can tell, I I often heard she talks to her friends in her country, she laughs, but not with me. Well I am 25 years older than she is (she is 21) but still she could have been little more talkative and friendly. She has gone and I am not sure if I'd invite her again since it was not a nice experience for me having her that long in my home. When she left, she said she will come again. How can I tell her "no" in a diplomatic way?

My fiance is mad at me. I bought a new car on my own....and he is pissed off that I didnt tell him. He thinks I got ripped off. But I really didnt. I mentioned it earlier this week to him I wanted to get a new car. He now said he will start doing things without telling me. I dont have debt....he wont help me anyways with expenses. Any suggestion?

When a child has had corporal punishment or endured abuse it saddens me. I'm a teenage sophomore girl. I'm asexual don't tell me I'm not but I love being gentle to others and receiving gentleness back. I would never strike a child my hands are for loving someone tenderly not for hurting. As creepy as it sounds I like to rub and tend to the damaged/abused parts of their bodies. A long time ago I had a boyfriend who was abused and corporally punished and I held him and rubbed where he was hurt. And he knelt into my hands and I couldn't help but kiss and comfort him.

I want to know if someone's parents abuse them is it wrong to abuse them back like if someone's dad beats them for years and the mom can't do anything about it is it wrong for the child to beat the dad up for abuse and the mom for being a coward.

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I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half. And his family and friends always have had a sense of humor I'm not used to. They'll say things like " I'm Greg ( my bf) , and I will do whatever my girlfriend tells me too" or " When are you going to get your dirt bike done? Or do you have to build your house and have your children first (remarking to me) ." They always make remarks like that. Even though they know we want to start a future eventually. I probably shouldn't get butt hurt about it.

We have a too year old daughter. She works during the day n I work overnight,she's been pretty distant with me lately, and when she gets mad she talks about getting a divorce she says just this morning to me my daughter needs a father that will love her Like I don't love my daughter, and she also said I am a father not a babysitter don't know what she means by that I think she might be seeying someone else. Im really hurt by these comments n also we are about to move to a deferent state if she feel like I'm not a good father or I'm a babysitter not a father I'm won't be moving with them I'll stay behing I don't know what to do