Ok so I don t go out with friends well because I don t have friends here . I stay at home pretty much and go out with just my husband to places his days off . We live on a military base . I m far away from my hometown . So in two weeks we are going to my hometown for a weekend. I haven t seen my family since April and I haven t seen my bff friend since last year summer.She asked me if I could go out with her one night have a couple drinks just me and her to have some girl time . Keep in my mind the last time I have gone to a bar was a year and a half ago . I asked my husband and he got all serious . He said why just you two why not the three of us . I told him she asked if it was fine if just me and her and he s like yea ok . He said it with a attitude and I m like whats wrong why you sound mad . He s like I m not . I m like just tell me what is it get it over it . Hes like nothing but I can tell something is bothering him. I let it it be for a little bit then I asked him again I said can you pleas tell me whats wrong and he s like you want me to say you can go anyways so yea. I said no its not that I just asked you if u would be fine with it but you answer me with a attitude. Then he mumbled yea go ahead get hit on by a bunch of guys. I m like really that s what this is about . And he didn t say nothing and I said ok fine whatever . I didn t feel like arguing. Then he went to sleep . I m here just thinking what did I do? Or what should I do ?

Our daughters are 32, 29 and 26. Our eldest, always the path of least resistance, kids with non-working dad, and always lived on welfare Our middle, kids with husband that works and takes care of the family. Our youngest, high achiever, stellar work history. Hence, our youngest obtained her bachelors-Magna *** Laude, with financial assistance from us. She obtained her Masters without a penny from us. She worked, lived like a pauper, zero college subsidy and zero college debt. She just married and her wedding costs was nearly $5000. (Her wedding looked like a $15,000 wedding because of all the hard work and thrift she put into it) She paid for half of the wedding, we paid a quarter of the cost, and the grooms parents paid a quarter. Now we have a huge eruption from our eldest daughter. She is getting married to a divorced father of three, in 7 months. They have no money, but she now constantly talks about wedding plans that would cost a lot, and her father will never pay for. We told her we would contribute $500 and we could host the wedding in the back yard, but she said she has already booked a restaurant patio, for 100 , at $19 a plate. She is furious that we "are not treating her the same". She is posting nasty comments on social media and our middle daughter said something to her and now she is also being blasted. My husband is an anti-conflict person, and so we just act like we don't see the the things she posts or hear the things she says.

My husband, his bf and I all got drunk, my husband suggested we all experiment together. I ve always been attracted to his friend, and i know he feels the same, and told my husband that long ago. His friend and I did everything but have sex with my husband s drunken permission, with him there watching. I got adored with affection, compliments, and stimulation for hours and I loved every second. The next day my husband got really sad, said it was a mistake and is constantly checking in on me to see if we ve tried contacting each other. He s worried we will mess around behind his back. I Won t cheat on my husband, but I really want to. I wouldn t be able to handle the guilt. Those things we did made me develop stronger feelings then I already had. I want them both! My husband and I have been together 6 years, have 2 kids and we ve tried many thing to spice up our sex life, but its just boring being shackled to the same guy til death do us part. I ve suggested bringing in another woman, but he s not into that either...ugh... Our sexual desires are mismatched. How do I get my husband to be in a committed sexual relationship with another couple, a committed group? That variety is the spice of life? Polyamorous haters need not apply...monogomy may be great for you, but its not for everyone.

My boyfriend and I are at shambles. He talks about marriage in the future, and I get all excited, then something happens and we have a huge argument and he treats me very bad. He's 36 and I'm 39. I'm a nurse and he's a security officer in the local mall. No kids. He moved in with me since April. When we met, I made it clear to him that I hate drugs and would not date anyone who does them. He assured me he had quit using drugs (especially pot, but others as well, such as acid and heroin), but ever since we started dating he has done drugs at least 6 times with his sister's husband at their house. Every time he did drugs and came home I figured he did because he was acting really weird and I can tell anyway cause I'm a nurse. He would then apologize and said he wouldn't do it again. Another issue we've been having is the sex. We used to have it almost every day. Now I have to beg almost, and it only happens once maybe in 2 weeks. And he can't keep an erection and quits in the middle of it. Today we had a huge argument because he said he should be able to do whatever he wants to do without feeling "caged" (meaning: drugs), and he packed up his stuff and was going to move back into his parents house and I stopped him. We ended up making up. But I feel deep in my heart this sadness, because I've invested into this relationship, and even the thought of marriage... I was married once for 11 years and my ex cheated. I've been divorced for 3 yrs and thought my bf would be the one...

My husband recent attend with Co worker boat ride which served drinks and music for couple hours. He came back home very late 7:30 am. I ask him why is he late he told me the boat ride was over at 4 am and he car pool to his friend house , who lived close to his parent house. When his friend drop him off at his parent house he sleep for little bit and then came home. I called his parent at the time he was suppose to be there and they told me he was not there. He explain to me they were sleeping. Later that day I was getting ready the laundry to wash clothes when I notice the black pants he was wear on the boat ride inside the crotch area was seamen stains. When I approached him he told me lady was dancing with him and that he had pre sperm come on his pants because he was exicited. He told me he is embrassed. We have 5 year old daughter and one year old son. We have active sex life. My husband and I are high school sweetheart , he is my best friend he never goes out he usually work and come straight home. We usually spend all our time together. He did break a rule we promise never to dance with other people. He told me he did want look stupid in front of his coworkes. We been together for 13 years and married for four year. I don't believe he telling the truth so I told him to leave the house. Is it possible to get to exicited from dancing with someone or did he just as I believe have sexual encounter that night? Please help

I'm 32 years old. My wife will be 31 years old in the end of this October. She stays in Japan with our son. On the other hand, I stay in the United State for my job. Unfortunately, I can't go back to Japan for her birthday. I really appreciate her because she always does her best for her job and taking care of our son and me. Now, I'm thinking how I can express my gratefulness at her birthday. If you have had an experience that you gave something or surprised your wife or girlfriend (husband or boyfriend), who lived in long-distance, please share me!!! Thanks in advance for great idea!

I am 40, she is 55. We have been together 5 years now. I have been seeing others on and off since I started seeing her. I even fell in love with another woman but she did not want me, I went back to her. She is super nice, understanding and sex is awesome, but the age issue is there. What would you do?

I'm thinking about getting my wife either a sensual massage or a male stripper for her birthday. Women, what would you like more? Experinces? Men, have you ever done this for your wife? What were your experiences? Thanks

My wife moved out over 90 days ago.We had not started the divorce process yet.The guy she left me for was a old ex of 14 years.He sent her $2500.00 to find a place for them he lived in PA.We live in IN.She signed a lease on a house for them.She filed a restraining order on me for a argument My daughter and I had.She is kicking me out of the house I have been having all my kids living with me because they didn't like it there.Ali and I was having some issues ever since her mom moved in for the weekend to try to work things out.So I texted her to have a talk with Ali.I said I was at my wits end with her I need you to talk to her I don't want to be mean or get hateful towards her.So her Idea to help me was to let her read the texts I meant for her eyes only.When I walked in She did not say a word until she said you hate me.Then it was just a bunch of yelling and screaming.My question is can she really get me kicked out of the house I have had my children living with me full time for 2 weeks?

I still have feelings for my ex wife but I'v kept those feelings hidden for the last 5years up until a few months ago.. There's 2 reasons I haven't got back with her first and mostly I didn't treat her the way she deserved and in the end we both hurt each (long story). second but the big reason now is because I'm now married to the woman I had an afraid with. I know my ex has tried to move on but I also know she still loves me, the last few months we have been talking more (we have kids together). When ever I start to show my feelings I shut down on her because I feel like now I'm just gonna hurt my new wife and I still know my ex deserves better than me. The more I start to repush my ex away the more she fights with me and guilts me. I keep telling myself my ex is nagging me and being annoying so stop thinking about her and if any other person was hounding me I would run the other way so why can't I just let my thoughts about her go???? I start to feel like I hate her for trying to be around me so much but I still feel I want for her.

When I was 14 (4 years ago) I met Jon through my aunt.Two years ago he started teaching me a lot about photography and we really hit it off. After that we would see each other more frequently as he would help my aunt out with things around the house and such. I moved into my aunt's apartment a month ago and he lives right around the block coincidentally. We text every now and again. He has invited me over a few times and I see him about every other day. His wife and I really hit it off and I have met her a few times before. The last couple of times we have hung out our conversations have changed. It's scary how much of a connection I feel to him. We talk about religion, philosophy, politics, relationships and just about everything. I feel like I just have so much to learn from him about the world. He is always eager to teach me about these things. I do think he is attractive but I would never try to make a move on him because I really value what we have now. I stayed over until 3 in the morning last night just talking and drinking with him. I kept telling myself I should go but I can't explain how I feel so calm and understood just spending time with him. I changed my hair and he touched it and told me not to change it because he likes it. He has major issues with his wife and he started telling me how she drinks too much and comes home in the morning after a night out. He also complains about her in front of me when she is there as well. I seriously don't know what to do.

I realize that divorce is frowned upon, but what if... the wife wishes to divorce a man who is giving her black and blue marks daily, degrades her by actually making her engage in intimate things in front of others, and emotionally abuses her? Would she be SO evil if she decides not to be a victim of abuse anymore and divorce him, of would SHE, somehow, be sinning for divorcing such a person?

What steps do I need to take? Do I need a petition for name change or just go to the SSA office with my marriage certificate? I received one after my courthouse ceremony, but it does not have my new married last name on it, just my maiden name. Is this the official copy? Kinda embarrassed to be asking all this because I feel like I should know, but I don't, so please no rudeness if the answer is simple. TIA

I found out yesterday I have stage 3 bone cancer. This afternoon she handed me divorce papers. I was baffled at this. After talking, she explained how people with cancer require a lot of effort to care for and she doesn't have the time for that and doesn't want to live with somebody who can't pull their own weight either. Also how it would be hard on our two daughters to go through them being around me with cancer and she doesn't want to put them through that. Please help how can I get her to change her mind on this situation?

My Husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. We both have issues communicating with eachother. I for one, have issues explaining my feelings when something arrives, i can text him how i feel but wont talk to him face to face. I hide my feelings, i always look at the negative. He, wont communicate feelings and gets angry fairly quickly. I said i want to try marriage counseling but he said we dont have the money for something like that since we just had our son a month ago and got custody of my younger brother a couple months ago. I have seen on amazon some workbooks and other books. What are some good resources or workbooks to help us learn and guide us back together again. Thank you for your time!

say if you had an emotional affair with an older man... You don't know his wife or family but he wants to continue being friends minus all the flirting... Do you think it could work? I've heard of people doing this and they fail right back into the same patterns if not further....

I still love her and I want to be with her. But I am uncomfortable when we try making love and it becomes a trial rather than a triumph. I'm not going astray and I'm not trying to end things. I am just trying to be honest.

I'm in a unhappy marriage, so I left my husband with no warning, and now I'm having regrets. I'm in emotional in pain and riddled with guilt. We've been married 4 years. Of the 4 years, we split 3 times. Each time we get back together things are fine for a while, but then the fighting resumes ( never physical). I left because he is very controlling and jealous. In the 4 years we've been together I lost all my friends, barely communicate with my immediate family members anymore and I pretty much gave up on the person whom I used to be, in order to be who he wants me to be. Because of this, I've become depressed and barely even want to leave the house anymore. I feel like I've given up on life because I'm not happy. I've even become dependent on sleeping pills just to ease my anxieties and so I don't have to be awake to think of how drastically my life has changed since being with him. You may wonder why I've stayed this long, and it's because he is a great provider, very charming, romantic, intelligent, handy.... I can go on and on about his great qualities. I'm afraid because I'm doing things on my own now and I have no support or even friends to talk to. I haven't called my family because I'm ashamed of my distance over the last couple years. I'm tempted to just call him and go back to him because at least it would stop the confusion and pain I'm in right now. I honestly just don't know.....

Trial was on the 24 of August. The lawyers had two weeks to submit closing arguments. So, about the 8th of September they were submitted. How long does it usually take to get the decree once final arguementa are submitted? This did cover custody and real estate as well. I read some say a few weeks others say up to six months.

No intentions of flirting or disrespect to her or her husband but the grocery store cashier always fixes her hair/makeup really nice and proudly wears her wedding ring. Do women experience less compliments while wearing their ring? Please advise, 10 pts!

I'm throwing a surprise party next week to celebrate my husband being clean for a year and I wrote a speech to read at the party. How does this sound? "Today, we're here to celebrate an amazing accomplishment. That accomplishment is Joe making it a whole year completely drug free. For some people, that may not seem like a big deal, but for someone battling addiction, it's everything. I cannot begin to express how proud I am of you and how happy I am to see you here today. Last year, I almost lost you. Addiction is a disease that will never go away. It's a constant enemy, always attacking, always right around the corner, waiting for a moment of weakness so it can take you over.... .... Every day of your life is a battle in this never-ending war and you won that battle 365 times without wavering. Addiction found it's time to attack one time last year. But you fought back and here you are today, still fighting. Today we celebrate a year clean, but you made it so much more than 365 days... ... Yes, addiction won on that day, but for 334 days before that, you won every day. So we can't forget all the days you won. Every day you said no, every day you fought the urge to go back and do it again, you won. I know it's hard and life is hard and there are so many triggers that could send you back to the life you had before... But you are so strong and believe in you and I always have and I believe that we'll be celebrating 2 years and 3 years and 4 and 5 and 10 and 20, all through the rest of your life. It is an unbelievable accomplishment and everyone here is so proud of you and we all believe in you and we all love you... I'm so glad that every day you choose to wake up and fight. You are a strong warrior. I am proud beyond words. I can't say enough how proud I am. You've come so far and made such a good life for yourself. You have a wife, an apartment, a new car, a full-time job, a life, everything that drugs tried to take from you... Keep fighting every day because your life is worth fighting for and we will be here for support when you need it. You don't have to fight alone. Congratulations on 365 days clean. I love you."

I've been divorced from my ex-husband for 4 years. The reasons why we're divorced are because of infidelity, and him giving me an STD and HPV. Anyway, my ex-husband just got a substantial raise, and I feel that our kids deserve some of that money. My ex says that I'm being greedy, and I should be happy with the amount of money that he's already giving me. $1200 a month for 5 kids is NOT enough money in my opinion. I'm taking him back to court for an increase in the child support. He's furious with me, but I don't care. Our kids need more than, and I feel that it's their father's place to provide those things instead of me.

She has been going to bars and picking up young men and having sex. Then she wants me to have sex with her when she gets back home from having her affairs.

Its been two months already since my husband and I separated he has his own apartment but comes to the house to spend the night with me we ve been together for 6 years but married for four months throughout our relationship he has an infidelity problem wish he says he can t change that part of him I ve always known that and despite the fact i still love him and I still want to make it work he says that the respect and trust that we ve had for each other we can t get back once was lost it I still love him I still respect him I may not trust but I know that maybe we can work this out he doesn t want to because he doesn t believe in counseling and he simply say that right now he just wants to be single and meet new people and he s at the point where he already met girls during separation and it has not worked out for him because these girls are using him for money in the good he says he still loves me but there s no way of working this out so he says he will try to go ahead and see if I if he could find someone and that I should do the same but he confuses me because he still wants to be friends and when he talks to me about the problems that he has with these girls it hurts me currently he is seeing this one woman they re just friends right now but he s getting more involved with her and her children we haven t had any children because he says he s not ready to be a father he says he wants to find someone new and i should to. That he will b there for me

We have been married 5yrs, together 7yrs. In the first year of our relationship he did cheat on me twice, but I know he hasn't physically since. He did kind of have a thing for someone that started last October and we finally got it resolved this summer. He was just attracted to her and saw her occasionally for work and hung out with her as friends a few times. We are past that, but last May I found out he was signing up for sleazy "f*** a stranger tonight" sites. We had it out about it and he said it was just something he did because he was bored. Was watching porn and clicked on the link. I was like "okay, then why did you go ahead and create the account?" He said that he didn't pay and that if you don't pay you can't do anything on those sites and he was just curious. He promised no more. Well, a couple weeks ago I found it again...(i had access to his email for business purposes because we own a business together) Again he said it was just for entertainment and he was bored.watching porn because you are bored I could see, but actually putting your info into those sites seems like something else to me. said he was sorry and knew that it hurt me, but i have nothing to worry about, he only wants me. Again yesterday I find he signed up for AshleyMadison...WTF? He got mad at me at first and said he already explained himself to me and wouldn't do it again, but later came home all sweet and promised me no more, he isn't looking for any1 else. What do you think? He also told me that if he wanted to cheat on me he wouldnt use one of those sites and that is true...but why do this then?? He has been honest with me all along that sometimes he struggles with being faithful, but that he wont cheat and doesn't want to...just misses it sometimes because he used to be kind of a male slut...he is incredibly good looking and always has women trying to get his attention, which never bothered because i knew they wouldnt get his attention

First off... I hope this doesn't come off like some kind of dick post.. or repeated post as I've read a little similar post here just recently. It's not intended to be at all. we've been married for just over 8 years now, together for 14. we have a pretty great relationship. Either way..let's talk about my matter at hand. I wish my wife would wear sexy lingerie a little more often. Maybe once in 3 months she will surprise me and she'll put on a tedy or so that I've picked up for her over the years but those times that she surprised mostly comes with an occasion. If she ever wear Lingerie with no occasion that is because I begged. we are at our early 30's, with 2 kids, we are not perfect physically but we're fit,not overweight.So there's no body issues. She knows I love lingerie, I'm a sucker for thongs/strings, stockings & heels! I like to slowly remove the clothing, I like to have sex with semi naked, a little shirt on or undies on the knees or half of the bra off, skirt up, string pulled etc..Of course I've mentioned my affinity for lingerie before and I've bought her countless items. In recognition she's bought some by herself in which she rarely did before. The times she wears Lingerie, when we are about to have sex, say we go on a date, she will wear something nice but will just wear regular undies, not the granny type but not thongs, then when we go back to our room she'll undress and wear the thongs/lingerie. I mean why not wear it along with the nice sexy dress? I've told her that if one night we went out she wore a dress or skirt and gave me a surprise peek of stockings and a garter belt underneath, I'd probably lose it right on the spot. Still nothing. Another time we were at the mall and I whispered to her to go pick out some shoes that she thought might be appropriate for the bedroom - We had fun picking them out but she's worn them maybe two or three times in a year. We have talked about this multiple times, even pointed out to her, her co-workers, my wearing thong (in a candid way) her reply is that she's aware of it and that scrub suite really matches well with thongs but she does not want her patients attention on her in which I totally agree. so it is not like she does not want to wear thongs coz she does. she wears thongs (not all the time) not that frequent and also she make sure that if she wears thongs it is not visible to someone like jeans strings Believe me, this isn't a make it or break it type of issue. It would just be the sprinkles on top of an already ginormous, delicious, hot fudge sundae. I'm sure I missed a few points, but I think you all get the general idea. Any ideas, or am I just SOL? Just to add up: I'm always indulge her and I'm the one cooking everyday as I'm the better cook compared to her. As what I've said earlier our relationship is amazing, we seldom fight, we're financially stable and despite our crazy busy busy schedules, we always got time for our kids and we got time for ourselves out on a date very frequently, like breakfast date before going to work, or late night movie dates once a week.

My wife and I of 15 years go through times where she threatens divorce but it never happens. We usually make up and get back to living. Most of the trouble has to do with finances and what she says is not doing enough around the house. What are some reasons why you actually followed through with your divorce?

I'm 20 years old and married with 2 kids. I love my wife and children more then anything in the world, however i still find myself craving attention from other women. I even sometimes find myself desiring to flirt with other women as well. There are many times where i actually do flirt. I by no means have any interest cheating on my wife however. My question is, why do i do this? Since i was young i had an addiction to pornography, and still do. Could this be the cause? Could it be confidence issues? What are ways that i can stop myself from trying to attract attention from other women and not care about what others think, and instead focus more on my wife and family?

Is this proper and acceptable in a marriage?

Obviously if they get married they each have 50/50 rights to everything they each own. Bit if my mother wants most of 'her' money to gonto me. What is the easiest and best way of doing this before they actually get married...

I just had a baby one month old. I took my car keys from husband because the other night he slept out and did not call and last week stayed out late with friends and brought car home smoky with beer cans all around it. He s done this before. I feel he is being irresponsible. What if baby has an emergency? Now he has to hike to work and I feel bad.

Why do we some times have a stronger bond with our ex spouse then our recent spouse? why does it take sometimes years to realize our ex holds such a grip on our heart? I chose to marry my new wife so why after 6 years together and apart from my ex do I feel such a strong attraction toward my ex again? I do love my wife so I don't want to feel this way.

Husband thinks I am stupid

I hate sweeping things under the rug and pretending like they never happened. My husband and I seperated 4 months ago and we have yet to talk about what actually happened with the relationship. Everytime I try to bring it up, he shuts down and starts getting angry. Any ideas or advice?

My husband and I have been separated almost a year. He asked for a separation a few months before I left for military training. He said he wasn't in love with me anymore and I don't motivate him. During the 5-6 months I was gone for training he took care of our 2 daughters. During my graduation he brought the kids to see me and we ended up sleeping together. When I went to go pick him and my kids up to bring them back to my house we slept together numerous times and I notice that he was way more affectionate than he normally was. Also he was very talktive to me. He didnt want me to go to sleep because he wanted me to be up with him. We seriously acted like we was married. We would wake up play with the kids together like a happy family. He says he hasn't slept with nobody since we been separated but he has been talking to someone. I told him maybe we should stop doing what we doing but he said it's not serious yet. My whole thing is we technically still married and I rather not go outside my marriage for sex. Oh and the reason he is coming to stay with me is because I have to go to field for a few weeks and need him to watch kids. So after field training he will be going to stay with a friend of his. He will pretty much be homeless. I still love him and I told him he is welcomed here anytime but I don't know what's really going to happen. He says he ready to move on with is life. But yet he has so much to say about who I'm dating and who not to date and stuff.

Kids are ages 3 and 6, oldest has special needs, kids are off track from school, and husband says he just needed a vacation

I think I have memory loss and I think someone has been playing mind games with me for over a year now. My husband is friends with a girl named nichole at work. He jokes she is his work wife. I feel like she has him wrapped around his pinky. The thing is I have always disliked this girl. She talks over me and is bossy and very pushy. She has said some things this past year that have made me angry. I told my husband before I don t want to hang out with her or her husband or kid. I don t want to go to her house or her to come to our house. Anyways I am sure that she has said some things that were hurtful and then the next time I see her she acts all nice like. I am not stupid just cuz i might have memory loss. Oh, well. I asked my husband to stop talking to her and that I don t want us to be friends with them anymore. He says I am just jealous of nichole and is pissed. How to find out if she really is playing mind games with me? even though I have memory loss issues?

What can I say. I am horny as heck. Married 20 years. Husband and I very fit with nice bodies. I just want the sex. I'm afraid if he is not receptive to the idea I might go out on my own for my needs

Is a sitting judge in New York State Supreme court allowed to access my wife's psychiatric records during a divorce proceeding in New York?

So there was a guy I know who's not successful but really likes this one lady, and her vice versa with him. The lady isn't successful, either. So he asked me for advice cuz they've dated for a while and might eventually marry, and so here's what I told him: I said that he should go and work on being successful first, then MAYBE he and she can think about marrying. He asked why and so I said if you get married you don't wanna have to worry about money since that's one of the biggest reasons for divorce and lots of times low-down suckers like he and me are barely avoiding loserhood. and of course no good-quality lady worth her salt wants to be with dudes who are losers or barely not losers. I also told him about how we need to save up money since in this economy money is crucial to getting by and lower-downs like us must be careful or else if everything goes sour we're really screwed. So yeah I tried to really discourage him but for nice reasons but then he seemed like he thought I was being a jerk. Was I being a jerk and giving bad advice? I thought I was fully right. But then again maybe I was wrong? I'm a dude by the way.