They both mean no longer with a spouse, right? I knew an elderly woman who died a couple of years ago and she got separated from her husband many years ago but they never divorced, that's what she told me. Does divorce mean doing something like file for divorce, but separation is not filing, just no longer together in a marriage? What exactly are the differences between divorced and separated?

Women these days prefer to have maid rather than a husband.

Im 35, and my wife recently had an affair with a man from work. I always tried my best to show her affection and attention but she never accepted it. She basically stopped having sex, but now blames me for not having sex with her when i found out about the affair. The man was my friends husband, and it killed her when i told her about it. i asked my wife if she wanted to work this out or end it (i was really close to ending it, i kept shouting that i hated her and even stormed out and didnt come back until 3 weeks later). she said she wanted to work it out, and at first i said divorce was definetley going to happen. during my 3 week escape she kept texting me, and i had the divorce papers ready but i thought about how my kids would feel. I took her back and its been 6 months now and i honestly think i dont love her anymore. The more i go to counseling the more i realize that i wasnt staying because i love her, but because im afraid to leave the marriage and be alone. I realized how dependent i became so i decided to start the divorce procedure again even though she begged me not to, i realized it wouldnt do any good staying with her even though my feelings for her arent there anymore. We have joint custody over the kids, and they are my priority right now. Whenever my kids are not with me i start to feel alone. I have friends but they are all married and have families, but sometimes i hang out with them to distract myself. any tips on adjusting to divorce life? i started working out and doing things like hiking, but at night the thoughts of being alone keep racing through my head. I would date, but im so old and theres no point. btw my wife was also my first gf, and first everything so i never really got to date, and have no experience.

I have been w my husband 6 years and married for 1. When we started seeing ea other he was married w children .he told me his wife was also cheating on him. When she found out about us she left him. But from what I hear had never stopped loving him.. His ex wife just went through a 2nd divorce and it was bad. My husband spent a lot of time helping her out because of the kids.. I found out she's been calling him all the time.. My question is could he be in love with her again and or cheating on me now.

Hi I work with my wife (we got a company) and she received flowers with an anonymous letter saying thanks for making have the best night of my life) i of course feel bad(she said "i dont know who sent them and that I haven't cheated)how would you feel man ? what can I do know?

My husband and I had our first bad fight the last couple days, we have since talked it over and made up. I find out that he told his parents about it in detail and they gave him a phone number for divorce attorney, i feel betrayed and now wants me to call his parents and explain my side but im having a hard time making the call and feel maybe a very long email might work? I dunno but we have two beautiful kiddos to think about too.

Im 37, and have been married to my wife for 11 years. we have two kids and they are fairly young. Well she cheated on me, about 4 months ago. She blamed me for not showing her enough love, and intimacy even though i tried, and she would reject it. I caught them sending nudes to each other, and the other guy turned out to be a coworker whose wife is my friend. I told her and he is now in trouble with her. when i found out, i was calm, but i really wanted to pack my **** and leave. the guy was coming over my house while i wasnt home, even my kids knew about the guy (they didnt know what he was doing though). I moved out for 3 weeks (she texted me nonstop these 3 weeks) and was set on divorce, but my kids came into my mind, and i started getting that thought at the back of my mind about working this out. so yeah thats where we are at currently, shes given be her passwords, and everything and even quit her job. Shes been trying hard to regain my trust but i hate her. yeah i said it i hater her, but a tiny bit of me wants to forgive her. A lot of times i dread going home and having to look at her, i started drinking (something i have never done before) because it helps me cope with the grief. I think im starting to lose the love for my wife that i once had, i no longer want to have sex with her, theres a girl at work whose been there for me since all this started and making me feel better. Im starting to fancy her, and feel more loved by her than i have with my wife. would it be a cowards way out to call the marriage off, and start a new life being single and divorced? build myself and find who i am? ive been pretty lost for the past few months, and dont know anything anymore.

Has anyone divorced a spouse and regret it after? Even remarry but still love your ex?? It's hard because I truely felt I was ok with it 5 years ago when we broke up.

I recently came across posts talking about husbands disciplining their wives and it looks like a lot of the posts are sexual in nature, but definitely not as many as I would have expected. I adore my husband and have never been afraid of him. He is kind hearted and loving. We have been truly happily married for eight years and have three great sons. We are Christian but not at all religious and both fairly liberal. My husband has spanked me twice in our marriage for reasons I don't care to mention. In retrospect, I think I have more respect for him and I think the spankings helped us grow closer in our marriage. I know it sounds crazy and I would NEVER talk openly about something so private and personal. He has never yelled at me or said an unkind thing to me and is not jealous or controlling... My husband and I have never really talked about the two times he has spanked me (in a nonsexual way) and I don't feel completely comfortable asking him if he has known other men that have spanked their wives. For whatever reason, I have gotten curious so I turn to yahoo answers. -which I probably can't take too seriously!

I had my 4 year old daughter in NY. We moved to Florida and lived there for a year. I recently seperated from husband and is about to file for divorce here in missouri. The law in missouri states "Under Missouri law, when a child is born to a woman while she is married or within 300 days after the termination of marriage, her spouse is presumed to be the legal father. A petition may be filed asking the court to find that the spouse is not the biological or legal parent of the child or children born during the marriage. The Presumed Father's Petition for Declaration of Non-Paternity is an approved form for this purpose. " We got married two years AFTER our son was born. Being that my son was born in NY, will this Missouri law apply to me while i file here in Missouri? would he be considered a legal father although he signed the birth certificate?

I saw him at a group that I joined in. We spoke very casually but I veered off from him because I found him quite attractive. I see him twice a week and my heart seems to jump when he is around. He just makes me feel good with his presence. I'm finding myself more infatuated with him the more I see him. He tried talking to me again but I put my tail down and said goodbye. It bugs me to crush on him bevause I have a good man at home. What would you do?

My ex sued me for full custody years back. He was awarded partial custody. We have a custody arrangement and he is being promoted at work. He never sees our child who is now at home with his new fiancee while he works. When he comes home, on my days, he is asking for extra time (extended hours of custody) and requesting to have her on my days with her. She is confused and upset. Should I just let her go over? It legally is our time and we have plans, especially this weekend. Help?

Hi all, I am in weird situation. I am 36 yrs old lady with 2 kids and married for about 14 years now. I and my husband have almost no physical relationships. almost once per year intimacy. i tried to bring it up to him many times in first 2-3 years if there is something wrong or so, but I learnt over time that he does not like intimacy altogether. So I kind of adjusted to this and years and years passed by. I love my hubby and he loves me too and I have warm family environment. So if I look out for a guy to get close/ intimate to, will it be considered cheating?

What qualities do men look for in a wife? What will a woman do or say that just makes you feel like she's the one? Married men feel free to answer as well.

and still nothing bad happen and still getting away with it.

we are in the middle of a major incident that started in May with my purchase of a handgun, given the high crime rate surrounding the base as well as other incidents of Domestic terrorism. The situation came to a head in August where we got into a fight about money and I had my handgun with me. I was away from the house at the time. My chain of command was called and I was refered to an inpatient mental heath hospital for a period of 30 days. During this time, my wife moved our of our home and is currently living with her brother. We have been in communication for the last month and a half. Despite the situation being what it is, she has made statements to me that she has started driving up here on several occasions only to turn around at one point or another during the trip. She states that she loves me, but that she can't "forgive" me. We have had discussions about ending the marriage because of the emotional difficulties it presents. I have tried to give her time and space, but it seems like she has reached the point where she is starting to cause me hardship with my military chain of command, yet she has taken no action to end the marriage and seems to flip flop on her position almost daily. Emotionally, I feel that I can tolerate little more of this At this point, is it worth trying to stick it out a little longer on the hope that things will improve, or should I simply end the marriage and file the neccessary paperwork? There is much more information dealing with our prior history that exceeded the allowable space for a question. I will provide that information on request.

but not tell the wife he's her mistress.

My wife and I have just had our 4th baby, 5 weeks ago. We are going through some tough things right now and are currently separated. Because of that I haven't been able to be as involved in my daughters life as I would like to be. Anyway, my wife/ex was diagnosed with post natal depression recently, she's not coping. I get all the info via our 11yr old daughter and she told me that her mom has stopped breastfeeding the baby. I know it's not really my place to interfere or even have an opinion but I don't approve of her decision. Being a dad to 3 older kids I've seen first hand the benefits of breastfeeding and I want our little one to get that too. Also I clearly remember the doctor saying she should stick to it because it will help with the depression (bonding with the baby). I'm really not sure if I should just let it go or if I should say something to her... I know she will just say to me it's none of my business but as the father of the baby I feel like it is? The other issue here is that because she isn't breastfeeding anymore she's thrown the feeding responsibility over to our 11yr old which I don't think is right. She should be out being a kid, not looking after a baby. Thoughts?

If you live together, you're practically a family already. Same goes for having baby before you're married. So if a man plans on living with his girlfriend before kneeling down on one knee, that makes the proposal seem kind of pointless, as well as if he plans on living with his fiancée before the wedding. It kind of makes the "I do" seem pointless and far from romantic.

For me its same sex cheating. I can improve myself in any way to compete with a man trying to destroy my relationship. But i can't be a woman. The brains reaction to drugs and sex are the same whether there's romantic feelings or just sex so once you go down that road you will go back. Your brain will forever drag you back one way or another like crack, and even if they somehow defeat the mental addiction they will always desire something i can never provide.

So I'm a married woman, I'm straight and I love my husband romantically. but I haven't been sexually attracted to him since I realized I was in love with him. since i have realized that, I have been trying to get him to agree to polyamory but we always fight about it and had problems whenever I mentioned it. I have brought it up every year for 3 years. EXECPT last year. (i have never cheated) Yesterday I learned that you can be romantically interested in one person but not sexually interested in them and at the same time sexually interested with others but not romantically interested in them. Is there a name for that? how can i mention it to my husband without him getting offended or hurt? It really has nothing to do with the way he looks, he is very attractive and kind and pretty perfect but i just want other people sometimes. is there any way that i can make him understand that i do love him even if i don't want to always have sex with just him? or am i going crazy and I'm not ready for marriage.

My spouse and I have not exactly had a wonderful marriage. It's been ripe with problems. And now, they want to have more children. I do not, and they know very well I do not, but they keep on pushing it as if their wants matter more than mine, or that I am being unreasonable because I don't want to make another child because I know I don't want the increased stress and responsibility. I know I can't handle it, and therefore I don't want to make anymore. What should I do? How should I handle this marriage at this point?

Ok well I have been married for 4 years now. I know that my husband has talked to other woman online well I made a fake profile to see how far he would go. Well he wants to meet and I really wanna know if he would actually cheat! I want to know if anyway I could hire someone to see for sure if he would? Or should I just leave him or stay? I am so confused :(

My spouse and I have not exactly had a wonderful marriage. It's been ripe with problems. And now, my spouse wants to have more children, and I do not. They know very well that I do not, but they keep on pushing, as if what I want doesn't matter as much. What can I do?

people get married? Obviously people can be married and not have kids. So what is really wrong with marrying someone you are related to? What if they are the same sex? Why is it "wrong"?

Our first anniversary is in December and I'm looking for some ideas for something we could do. We haven't set anything in stone for that yet, because we don't have a guarantee (yet) that we're both off of work that day. Any suggestions? I'd love to do something that would really surprise him

My wife doesn t trust me, as I work two jobs because she refuses to work one. She consistently asks me if I was with someone who I worked with and goes through my phone while I sleep. This has gone on for the entirety of the 6 years. But I stayed because of my daughter and always thought if I leave it would be a bad father. So I have been sticking it out. But I have reached my breaking point. I am no longer happy and and ashamed of who I have become. I can use answers, or ideas. I wanna still be friends enough to make sharing custody an easy task.

Now I m 17 weeks pregnant for him. Something happened between us. He decided to work away from me. What can I do. Please help me. This stress is killing me.

as compared to the ones who married Men of Generation Y (Particularly 1981)

I ve been married to an asshole for 3 years and it s been hell. We also have a 2 year old daughter. My daughter and I moved out about 6 months ago. Now he filed for divorce a few days ago which I m very happy about. It was our agreement that he would file and I will look over the paperwork with my lawyer before I sign, hoping we can agree on everything. But the problem is we never agree on anything. Everything is always just whatever he says and that s the end of it. Everything always has be his way. He s never valued how I feel or anything I have to say. He has never communicated with me about anything. Throughout our marriage, anytime I d try to talk to him to fix any issues, it was like talking to a wall. Completely stonewalled me daily. It was that plus a lot of other narcissistic issues I had to deal with, before finally deciding to move out. I know that I m ready for divorce but this whole process is just really hard. But my point in writing this is to ask for any advice from people that may have some experience with divorcing an asshole and/or becoming a single Parent. And how to cope with everything. I was always such a happy carefree laid back person and now that s not me at all. My anxiety and depression are terrible. I feel like I have panic attacks on a daily basis. I just want to get my old self back but sometimes I lose hope that will ever happen.

I was raised to be strong and was taught to be independent. That's ok if you are not married to a great person who finishes your sentences and knows what you are thinking. I love him very much, but find it very hard to take down these walls my life has caused me to build. He came from a decent family, while my upbringing was totally opposite. He is kind, loves uncondionally, a great dad, and always knows just what to say. I can't seem to let myself believe he will always be here for me. I am afraind to be vulnerable. I worry he will leave. I know this is called low self-esteem, but I can't seem to tear down the walls that I have built. I don't know where to begin or even how to begin. We have been married 16 years and dated 3 years prior to marriage. He has always known me to have a tough exterior. I just don't want to be that person anymore. It is hurting me, him, and our kids. I want to be emotionally close to him, our kids, and grandkids.

My wife basically had a bad night of drinking and came home and we started a huge fight, it ended in her being violent and punching me. the cops were called and she was brought to the station. she went to court and got a slap on the wrist. question is, when can we see each other again? can we appeal it so it doesn't take so long?