Try and get back with you once child support started eating his paychecks up?

He was ordered to pay a measly $400 a month for our two boys but doesnt even want to pay that, yet he is helping care for 3 kids that aren't his and belong to three different men! He also has two other children that he did the same thing to. Why would he rather take care of kids that arent his and make his own kids go without? He keeps requesting hearings with every decision that is granted What can I do? And why is he doing this?

So we just moved back to my old college town after being away for 12 years. We signed my son up for a great preschool and today was his first day. I came to discover his tracer is my ex boyfriends wife...who also happened to be my old roommate in college. After he and I broke up, I met my husband and he started dating Sarah, his wife now. My husband and I moved away, I was friends with Sarah, my old roommate on Facebook. About five years ago, she randomly defriended me on Facebook. So, let s just say things are a little awkward. What do I do? I would like to let the past be the past, but have s feeling that she and her husband won t. By the way, their daughter also attends the preschool and we will have to see the both of them everyday. What do I do?

I have been in a relationship with my fiance for four years and engaged for two. When I was pregnant with our first daughter he was perfect but after she was born he started running off. He did this on and off for months being gone for up to a month with no communication at all. I later found out he was addicted to oxycotin. After therapy he quit all of a sudden cold Turkey I was proud of him. Well a year later I am pregnant with our second daughter and the running off starts again this time I put him in a suboxone clinic until we could get him into rehab well he quit the clinic and has recently ran off again he is addicted to opanas and I'm pretty sure shoot up heroine. I don't know how to deal with this or what to do. He is not only breaking my heart but my oldest daughters too she misses him so much but he will not contact us at all. I've never felt with addiction before so I don't know where to turn or what steps to take or if I should just let him go. I'm not sure if it is normal for a drug addict to be gone that long with no communication of if there is cheating involved. Can someone please help?

So; He emailed me a couple of times how to treat his ex wife. Who was odd. He emailed my ex wife aminwuiring about me. He has primary custody of his son. His ex wife has three sons. Two from other fathers. She's a very good Mother. The ex husband must monitor every interaction and way I am as a boyfriend to his ex wife. He even is flying in with his son to monitor the situation. This over analysis of me is pushing me away from a woman I deeply care about. Her ex and baggage really hurts me. What to do?

I was alone in the bad part of the city and almost got attacked. I rushed home and told my husband how I prevented this and he was like "that was the right thing to do." I told him I'd never go back there without him and he said "you'll be fine by yourself. You're smart." Is this even normal for men? Where is that knight in shining armor??

My husband is in the army and in the past week, he's said many hurtful things to me for bringing up our issues such as bills and things that need to be done. He has said "I wish you were in a coma and couldn't wake up." "Sometimes I want to slit your throat." And "sometimes I wish I could kill you". What can I do????

Why is this part of compatibility? Is someone without a college degree and someone with a college degree that different?

About me. Married woman, late 20 s, no kids About him:mid 30 s, married, no kids and his wife makes more money than him. About us: We met on a website. He said on his profile he s happily married but turn our relationship into emotional instead of sexual.and I m stuck. We have great sex. His wife caught our conversation on a messenger- i thought he will leave me but he didn t. We ve been 11mos now. He admitted he have feelings for me, he said he truly love me in text and slipped "iloveu" at the bar, he made joke about going to mexico with him and build a bungalow. Recently he asked me what I want from him because i feel like his time is not enough even if we talk everyday, on the phone and meet every week. Then he made a joke asking me "do u want to get married and have kids?" And I said "shut up" and told him I want more time What does he want? I m confused. Just real and honest answers pls.

Do most women go over what type of hairstyle they will get with their husband? or if they plan to dye it a certain color? Just curious. For some reason I always want to know what my husband thinks. Even though he's not well versed in women's hair styles.. if I mention I might get bangs he basically imagines Jim Carrey dumb and dumber.. or if I say red he makes a yuck face yet I'm pretty sure he likes the color of the girl's hair from paramore. So it still confuses me a bit. I will ultimately do something that flatters me but I want my husband's approval, basically

I've decided to put my husband in chastity after reading about them online cause I'm tired of him looking at porn and masturbating behind my back and read about countless women who've had success with this. We're both in our 20's and I'm a very fit, attractive, and sexy woman, so he should be paying more attention to me instead of his porn and Victoria's Secret catalogs. For anyone currently doing this with their man or has experience with this, what's the most secure device, one that he can't pull out of without unlocking it, that he can comfortably wear 24/7? I want the real deal, not some toy that he can break off when tempted. Oh and before you start judging me and talking trash, I already talked him into doing this and plan on giving him an orgasm every week, so it's not like I'm torturing the guy. "your in your 20's and he is only going to get laid once a week....no damn wonder he has to take care of it himself" We have sex multiple times a week jerkoff, but now that he's going in chastity, that's all he's getting and I'm going to get his tongue every night. That's what they recommend so that he stays at his peak sexual desire for me.

My ex and I are friends and talk from time to time but don't hang out cause I got married about a year ago. But he asks a lot of questions about what my husband does for a living etc and says that I replaced him by getting married. I don't get it. Why is he being like this No he won't do that. He respects my marriage

We are getting married soon and I can afford to pay the rent and other bills. However I had to get a second job to do it. She doesn't make alot at all and told me straight out I'll be paying all the bills. I feel as though she should pay at least half the rent and she should get a second job to pick up the slack like I did if her income isn't enough. I'll be working the weekends doing 8 to 9 hour shifts while she talks to her friends on fb all day. That really rubbed me the wrong way and the way my sister put it I should say something.

and track her whereabouts, like watch for her and see when she's online etc. Is this pretty normal?

At the root of my codependency with my wife is this single issue - my wife's entire existence is grounded on how other people think of her. No matter my effort to help her, she refuses to take an identity of her own and stand up for herself. Instead she covers up all trails of her crazy and all flaws that she has just so no one can call her out on them. In psychology this is called a "false self" or a "persona". If you were Facebook friends with her, the only posts she makes are ones that show off what she's good at and how good she's doing (bragging/gloating); this may result in one post a month, but everything is positive and nothing really says anything about her other than she's better than you. She gets her ego boosts when people "like" her posts and comment on how good of a job she did with a craft, or how pretty she looks, or on how she's a good mom and how happy our kids look. She handles rejection, opposition, disagreements, criticism, and reality as personal attacks since her persona isn't capable of such things. These attacks are then reacted with hyper-vigilance to brutally slaughter her perceived abuser. This counterattack doesn't take into account your feelings or your loyalty and legacy with her; 14 years of greatness is thrown out the window (because.... passion). She is only happy when she receives praise and a lot of it. Albeit, I like praise too, but I don't need it to be happy. How do you deal with someone with a false identity and a false self? With her unwilling to create her own identity and not constantly looking for praise and admirance from her peers, this puts me and her at odds with each other. I have my own identity and I don't care about social acceptance (I'd like it, but it isn't something I *need*). And since REAL friendships and a REAL marriage take REAL social interactions, my wife can't cope. Everything is a staged act with her. You know your role and do it well, or else you will be reminded what your role is. In the past she had confessed to be a chameleon - or rather a person who can "hang out with any ground and get along with them just fine". I didn't think anything of it when we were 19/20 because to me that meant she was a pretty chill person with an open mind; but that's far from the truth. My wife is VERY opinionated. But to survive, she's learned how to behave like those she's around. She just keeps her opinions to herself. No one knows the REAL her though; not even herself at this point. Every 2 to 3 weeks she changes. Nothing is ever consistent with her. One time she wants to watch Anime, the next time she wants to binge on TV shows, next focus on being a family, next impress her friends online, next pick up a new game on her phone...... It honestly goes on and on and on. She either gets bored easily OR her entire identity is based on her emotions or what she can do to get attention... Most people choose one thing and stick to it (sports, exercise, social groups, etc.)

First of all , we never had sex as hubby and wife yet :( it's been over a year since we last had it . I'm 24 . He's 26. Hubby talks about having sex and stuff but he doesn't do it :( I been waiting for hubby to be ready for it again but still no sex . Every time he tells me well have sex tomnriw night or something he gets me all excited but he doesn't have it with be :( . Now I feel like never talking about sex with him again because I'll just get tricked again but I want it so bad . Tips?

I'm having conflicting emotions it kind of feel like if I go back to my maiden name that I'm kind of losing my identity, because I've been this name for over 17 years. So what do you think?

So my husband and i have been separated for 6 months we were married 8 yrs within these 6 months we have kept communication and we are able to get along better than before we go out for dinner and we keep seeing each other. The reason for our brake up was because i caught him cheating not in person but through txt messages he left the house at the beginning of our separation he didn't want anything to do with me anymore he wouldn't call me or look for me within these past month's we have been able to communicate better and every time we spend time together we are able to joke around i still love him but he never tells me he loves me i have tried not to ask him what will happen with us being that i want to take things at a time but that day i was tempted to ask him and his response was why do you want to rush things why can't you let things happen if it happens it happens, my point is we are no longer kids we are actually married i need to know were i stand and i feel like i am in the limbo waiting around for something that might never happen which sucks because we both have admit that when we together we have an amazing time he feels like too much time has past already for us to go back together so i have asked him why continue to give me mixed signals or why still want to keep me in your life? at times he confuses me with the things he says at times he get's jealous but also at times he wants me not to stop my life for him

You have no car and love to take walks during your lunch hour. It began to rain before hand but thirty minutes before your lunch, your stay at home wife brought you an umbrella. My best friend's husband reaction was not very kind and unappreciative.

My relationship is constantly tolling on my life and just keeps going down hill. Im in a marriage where I've been married since january of this year and its constant fighting over and over! Im so tired and depressed. She constantly complains and tells me that I'm a horribble i am. Like today i woke up and everything was okay and we went to work. Then when i arrive to work she tried to argue with me because when we went on vacation this summer with her family she tried arguing and fighting me on VACATION so i decided to leave with her family to the river and leave her there at the cabin with her mom because she kept trying to argue with me. SO when she arrived there i was trying to climb the tree for the rope swing and there happened to be a lady swimming next to me. I wasn't speaking to her. I don't even know her or anything but my wife showed up and then started arguing with again. She constantly argues about anything. She brought it up today and wants me to say sorry for it because i put myself next to her and i did it on purpose. Or she argues why i ignore and constantly cusses me out because i ignore her when she argues with me. i don't know what to do. She completely flipped from the person i know before marriage. What should i do? it a constant argument literally everyday.

I'm not going to lie, yes, I have cheated on my wife. It was more than a year ago and we've gone to counseling and "I thought" we had worked through those issues. Well, we went away with my family this past weekend for a long weekend getaway and I took several pair of underwear with me. (4 pair of boxer briefs which my wife likes to see me in but I really don't like but I took them for her) I'm a tighty whitey kind of guy. When we came home she did laundry and washed everything except the pair I was wearing. The other night I was getting ready for bed and still had on a pair of the boxer briefs. Yesterday I changed clothes and put on a fresh pair of underwear. I had to go to church last night and my wife didn't go because her sister came over. Before church I showered and changed underwear again. When I go home my wife raised the question that she found an extra pair of underwear in the hamper and she was beginning to worry that I may be up to something again. I looked at her like WTF are you talking about. She has correlated cheating with an extra pair of underwear in the hamper. I asked her what's next? If she comes home and a pillow on the sofa is moved or if there's an extra glass in the sink is she going to link that to cheating? I understand that it takes time to rebuild trust but I had one indiscretion more than a year ago and we've gone to counseling and I thought we were in a better place. Is an extra pair of underwear a possible sign of cheating?

My husband and I have been married for four years. Throughout the marriage my husband screams at me for ****. I'm a sweet person.I'm getting tired of being treated like that. He acts distant from me. I'm considering moving in with my mom or my best friend and getting on my feet and filing for divorce.