When I say large families, I mean anywhere from 8 to 15 kids.

MY wife and i have been married for almost 20 years now. we have two kids and are in our mid forties. We still kiss and hug but never cuddle or have sex. She works and i do too. I try to help her out because i know its tiring to do housework so i clean before she gets home and sometimes even cook dinner for the kids. I also take the family out on weekends to have family time and some weekends i take her out alone to a nice restaurant. We havent had sex for 2 years and its not like she doesnt get anything off of it because i always gave her oral and extensive foreplay. Im not gonna lie i feel like im with a roommate instead of a wife. I have already made plans to leave her after my kids go off to college, because i dont really want to live like this, might as well be alone. i tried talking to her and she doesn't budge. I dont really have thoughts about other women, and wouldnt cheat. should i feel bad about already having plans to leave her? whats the point of staying if when the kids leave all shes going to do is treat me like a friend?

My husband used meth behind my back for 5 months. He changed from this sweet shy guy into a compete asshole. He punched holes in the walls, hit me and tried to cheat on me. He supposedly quit for about a year now. But he has extreme anxiety. He still is acting crazy. He s very angry all the time. His anxiety is so bad he won t even go to the bathroom if someone is in the living room. He has been peeing in water bottles and hiding them under the bed. I can t take it anymore. He won t get help. I left him. It s been two weeks. But I can t just leave him like that someone who has used the drug and gone back to normal please give me advice.

I've been really stressed lately, and I really wanna have a nice relaxing weekend, but my wife is ruining it. She wants me to go to my daughter's Brownie's or Cake or girl scouts or chocale mousse graduation lol. Let's face it I have no clue what it's called. I've been too busy working for a living while my wife and daughter get to goof off and play all day. I have had this camping trip planned with my buds for months, but my wife wants me at the graduation. She says if I don't go she will not be happy, and I might come home to divorce papers, which I think is ridiculous. Listen, I do everything for these two. I buy them stuff, pay nthe bills, put a roof over their heads, and I work darn hard. I am stressed to the max, and I need a week of r and r with my buds. We're gonna camp, hunt, fish, go to bars and flirt with some chicks, maybe get lucky, who knows, and, no, I didn't tell my wifre about that part, wiseguys. The thing is I'm overworked and my wife won't let me have any fun. I've tried telling her this, but she don't get it. she don't listen. she don't care. Idk maybe I will be better off divorced from this woman who clearly doesn'y love me, but I have no interest in paying alimony or child support for these ungrateful little princesses, how can I get out of it? Let me know, my wife and daughter are ruining my life. @money men: Not helpful, pal. Strike 1. Try again, and don't be an idiot this time. @Kevin: Yeah, sport, ya might be right. Most women are whores and golddigers. after this marriage crap, I'm just gonna focus on flings with no attachments or responsibilities. I make a good living so I might be able to find a reall hard-nosesd lawyer that can take her to the cleaners though. I'll let ya know how it all works out, pal.

I took him to Manhattan 14 years ago and he thought it was too hot.

So i realised my wife and I might have rushed into marriage, when we started talking about kids. My wife is 38 and is afraid she will be too old if she doesn't have a kid asap. I'm 24 and think we should wait about a year or so, I'm working full time and also in graduate school. I also want to doing more trips overseas. In addition, I feel like the kid is going to be primarily my responsibility, just like cooking and cleaning, because she can't really do either. She wants to divorce, any input?

My husband of 6 years has mostly all women on his social media accounts. Beautiful young, big breasted women who I know he finds attractive. Well here the thing...he chats with these women, flirts with them, but most are too far geographically so I m sure he s not having an affair. When he does this, I feel so hurt, and disrespected because I have told him many times how I feel and he continues to chat with these women. I ve also recently found an app on his phone called what s app, I asked him to delete it because he was chatting with women, he did, but I ve found it in his search engine one night. Why is he doing this? Does he not respect me anymore or is he just in a fantasy world of wanting an affair? Thoughts?

With NONE of my Exes did people assume we would be together forever...but with my current new Bf I get comments all the time from his Sis in law and his coworkers that they think we would get married..Did this happend to you with your spouse?

Would you be thinking since you was raised as a rich kid, due to your parents finances and now you've become rich yourself due to you working hard to achieve the job you have. Would you only marry a man who is just as rich as you or would it not matter how much money he makes, as long as he's independent? The way I see it, that would be a shallow way to look at it, that's like a woman telling a man, she doesn't want to be seen with him in public, cause she believes that will hurt her reputation like her friends and family will laugh at her. Any man that doesn't believe in being lazy, is really the richest man in the world, regardless of how much he makes.

I am in a dilemma. My husband who is very talented with barbecue but not good in business has his own business. I currently help him run it while working my own job (50+ hrs week) I see that his lack of motivation and drive is what is keeping him from being successful. (he is lazy and often makes excuses and poor decisions and looks for someone to help him on things he can probably do on his own) He thinks if I quit my job to join him full time that that will make the business more successful. The problem is my job is what pays our bills (I am the breadwinner by default not by choice) I also know that if I do work with him I will most likely be handling all the work (physical labor, inventory, marketing, branding, managing of staff etc) while he sits there and says how he is tired or doesn't feel well etc or complains of lack of funds. I already know that his plan of me leaving will not be a good idea regardless of how tempting it is (being closer to home instead of driving 100+ miles a day, having the option to stay home, etc) but I cannot depend on his business to support our lifestyle like my job does. (paying bills on time, health insurance, life insurance, groceries, vacations etc) I am having trouble communicating this to him in a way that he can understand that I need him to SHOW me that he can step up rather than give up everything completely to let him "take over" only to find lights out, insurance cancelled, behind on bills etc.

Living here was meant to be temporary. I always had the plan to leave as soon as I could stand on my own two feet (so to speak). I moved here 7 years ago and always hated it. I met my husband here and now have a son, but from the beginning my husband said he wanted to move too and not stay in his job forever. Now things have changed, he wants to stay for his job. I feel depressed because I absolutely hate this area. It's full of panhandlers, the city is always grey (really bad weather), and I never feel safe here. There are always stabbings on the news. I just can't stand it here. Where I want to move is 5 hours away and where I grew up. My friends are there too and it's beautiful there. I love it there. I miss it everyday. I even dream about it and never wanted to leave, but I was forced to leave when my mom moved us when I was 14. I am now 30 and visit there frequently and every time I go I feel so happy. I smile, I laugh, I enjoy waking up, I absolutely love the people there and the nature areas. When I come back to the grey city I live in now I never smile, I don't even laugh..it hurts to smile because my facial muscles are so used to being neutral. :( I can't even explain it. I feel trapped here. Sometimes I even feel like just leaving with my son but I love my husband so much. What should I do? I never meant to live in this slummy place for the rest of my life. I don't like waking up to face the day. The people here are rude. :( Also I tried convincing my husband for us to move and he growls at me, and doesn't want to talk about it. He says I should be happy and thankful. I am...but I just can't stand looking out my window anymore at all the grey condos everywhere and urban sprawl, the smog, the loud traffic and people yelling everywhere. :( I feel like I was lead on in a way, he never wanted to leave in the first place. My mom moved to a small suburb, I moved here later on when I left highschool. I lived in my preferred area until 14, my mom then moved away to a small suburb and we stayed until I was 18-ish. I then lived at some random places and then I moved into the city I live in now for 7 years. Which I regret. Sheloves why are you being SO rude? :( Why do I have to put every single detail of my life on here for you to judge. My question was simply that I want to move and my husband doesn't and it's making me depressed because I never saw myself living here forever. Starfish why are you being rude too? I'm asking for help not to be yelled at and put down for feeling this way. I am not complaining about the weather, I miss my friends who I get to see there and the nice areas. Also this place has a bad feeling for me because my mom was raped here and so was my aunt by the same person. My uncle as well and nothing good ever came from this city. My brother got into drugs here. I don't want to stay. I just don't really like it here and don't feel safe. I do enjoy my family, I just don't like where I live. You are being very rude and judgemental. So far you avoided my question completely and have been cold-hearted. Go answer someone else's question. Yeah but I can't just Stop feeling this way. Whenever I go visit my hometown all my friends are there and I'm always just so happy there. I have 5 people rooting for me to move back, and my husband changed his mind on it, which basically ruined my dream of ever going back. I wanted advice on how to talk to him about this. Don't we all have dreams in life? I only wanted to stay hear to finish up uni. Now I'm done, and now it's all backfiring. He doesn't care what I want to do in life. Also I want my son to grow up in a nice area with my family and friends. I have nobody here, and it's been like that since I moved here. No family or help, no social life other then maybe the home nurse. I am a stay at home mom, and I wanted to do the best for my son and feel like this isn't the best I could have given him. It's a VERY depressing area, everyone here always yells at each other in the streets. I'm not even kidding.

The traditional gift is RUBY and the cash is a little tight. Beside after 40 years she already has enough jewelry. Are there better alternative? After all we are celebrating 18 years of happy marriage. for the confused.....married 40 years, 18 years happily not all in one string either.......

My husband's best friend refuses to leave their house without his wife, and since my husband and I have kids and they have kids, someone has to stay home so the two guys can get together. I always give in because if I don't my husband won't get to hang out with his friend. There have only been a handful of times where my husband has had his friends over to our home, and the only time I get to accompany him to their house is if I find a sitter. They have never found a sitter to come over here. Two weeks ago we made plans to go somewhere all together, both couples. I planned a sitter a month in advance. The day before our date, his wife cancels our plans. She said she didnt feel like it because she had lots of homework to do. They proceed to invite everyone over the night before. My husband goes, and of course can't go, no sitter. This made me very upset, I felt excluded again. To make matters worse, his wife text my husband the next night while we had company over, asking him to come over for an hour. This made me even more upset. She said she drunk dialed him. My husband, his friend, and his wife are making me feel like I'm blowing things out of proportion. Am I? Also, short history on their relationship, they've cheated on each other in the past, included one of his friends in a threesome... So makes me think she may have additional motive.

I told him I missed him too & he said he was sorry he couldn't handle things better but if money wasn't an issue than maybe there wouldn't have been that stress. He asked if I was going to stay in OR or move back to CA I asked him why he wanted to know & he didn't reply. After that I decided to no longer talk to him but he continued to text me and call me- I didn't answer & he continued texting me for almost a month He would text me that he hopes I'm in a better place than I was when I was with him & thanks me for everything I did & tried to do. He would say he sees happiness in my future and that God loves me. He would not say I want you back or I made a mistake Im sorry. Its almost been a month since he last text me and I recently found out by the priest who became a friend of mine (since the day that he gave us marriage counseling) if he had seen me or knew where I was. The priest told me he said no. I am confused as to why he wants to know where I am? What is the point of his past text messages? Does he love me or miss me? Could he even love me if he would verbally abuse me when we were living together? He is 48 years old & this is his first marriage

I am in my 30s (31) I was still having trouble getting over a past lover or so? Live with my parents still I don't make enough to support a family (and a kid or two)... Please help. Edit: Also, I don't put sex on a pedestal (for now!) since well, you know.. Also, I am a minority and have been known to like white men in the past..

If you were married and committed to that one person, would you be able to tolerate him/her for the rest of your life?

Me and hubby split the holidays by going to one family on thanksgiving and then the other on Christmas, and the next year we switch. This thanksgiving is supposed to be hubby's family and I told him and them we would be coming. But my sister recently had a baby and she wanted everyone to be at her house for baby's first thanksgiving. I see the baby every week. The baby will be almost 11 months at thanksgiving. I don't think she'll be offended if I don't show. I'll see her that week anyway, just not at the actual thanksgiving dinner. My sister and my mom are acting so dramatic about it - and I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong. Is it a sin to miss my 11 mo old niece's first thanksgiving? I already told hubby's mom that I was coming and she can be dramatic about thanksgiving as well so to back out on 'her' year - well in advance - might cause problems with her as well. I'm just a planned person and like to keep to my set schedule. This is hubby's family's year for thanksgiving and next year I will be with my sister and her then 2 yr old. I think I should go to hubby's family's for thanksgiving. Do you?

My wife find me cheating with my assistant. We had a big fight and she said marriage is over and left the house. Now when I check Facebook she updated the relationship status from "Married" to "widowed". What should I do?

I have no job,and since my wife's sister owns a hair braiding salon ,my African-American wife pushes me to start working there,as a hair braider. But I feel very embarrassed,I'm caucasian,and no desire to learn African hair braiding. Still she says I must do it,as I will be grateful ,as I will make good money.????

Basically, I would love to go to uni and study nursing. The degree would last 3 years. We have just had a baby so I would be going back next year. We can live on my husbands wages alone but money would be quite tight. He seems to not want me to go and thinks I should just go back to work because 'we need money now', but I would be making quite a bit more afterwards as a fully qualified nurse rather than a healthcare assistant. I feel as though he's just not very supportive and if it were the other way around I would 100% support him. Before anyone asks, the pregnancy was a complete surprise which is why I didn't do this beforehand! Am I right to expect him to support me while I go back, or is it unfair on him?

My wife of two years and I are going through a rough spell. We have been married for three years and in the last few months there have been angry outbursts on her part, as in marching around the house and screaming at the top of her lungs and throwing things. Typically this is due to her ex (and father of my 12 year old stepson. she and I have a two year old boy together) making some rude remark and/or something else that he knows will anger her. She was the victim of emotional/verbal abuse when they were together which I think is the root cause of this anger, coupled with the usual family stresses, a preteen who is showing ample amounts of preteen attitude (not overly bad, but still frustrating), and a less than great job that she does not like (actively looking for another). It seems plain to me that she needs help, in some way shape and form. I deeply love her, am committed to spending the rest of my life with her but at the same time I need to balance that desire with the need to insulate my kids from this behavior. Penny for your thoughts. Anything thoughtful and informative would be very helpful.

My husband of 7 years and father of my children has a kik app account where he send masterbation videos and pictures to people. He also was answering craigslist personals. One of the people he was kik chatting was his older brother. His brother sent my husband pictures of his wife naked and a video of them having sex. My husband said to his brother he enjoyed them and wanted to have sex with his sister inlaw sometime and wanted some of her panties. Hes never cheated that i no of. He admitted he cheated in the way that he did something he would never want me to do to him.. he says hes sorry, he blames his brother, my husband says that he meant nothing he said to his brother, that the craigslist messages were never received and that he wont do it again. He says he loves me and will die without me, that we dont need counseling and can get through this. Advice?

First of all, we're separated, but still live together. I still love her, she knows this, but I'm no longer expecting us to make it. Today is our anniversary and I'd really like to convey my appreciation and affection for her. I'm trying to come up with a way to do this without looking desperate or seeming like a doormat. I'm not going into the whole background story, but I'll say that the split was relatively amicable, even if she was cheating on me. In her defense (God I need help) we haven't been loving towards one another in a few years. She was just the first to look for love outside the marriage. No gifts. Given our situation I don't think that's appropriate. I just need a few kind words.

This morning my husband and I had a brief argument. The issue is that the past 3 years he always wakes me at 3-4am by rubbing himself on me. So for 3 years I haven't fully slept through an entire night. About 3 weeks ago I flat out told him I don't want sex, and asked he give me space and told him what I said above. He doesn't listen, so I sleep on the couch a couple nights a week. He doesn't like it. But when I go back to bed he keeps waking me up. This morning, after he keps crowding me and started humping me, I pushed him away and he got mad. So I blew up and he piped up too. I'm the same one who has the older husband with Parkinson's. So I think some of his behavior must be medication? Impulse control? But it's just making me upset. I don't know. I just don't want to be touched and he thinks I'm being mean.

My wife came home tonight at 4 in the morning. Well I called her at 3 30 she said I m almost home. She came in the bedroom and said babe come in the living room I said why? she said I was raped tonight. She always goes out and comes home at 2 or 3 am 3 to 4 days a week. I don't like that she goes out all the time and we have argued about it numerous times. She actually performs most of the time at clubs singing and rapping. I Asked her who did it She wont tell me.. I said let s call the police. She doesn't respond.. What would u do In this situation. I yelled and blamed her because I told her to quit going out by yourself and being out late in the middle of the night. If you were raped wouldn't you call the police, or call me immediately? I don't see any physical bruises and she has not taken a shower. She is sleep rt now in our bed. We have 2 kids.. Am I wrong I can t even look at her the same rt now... I feel discus-ted, I have no one I feel comfortable talking to about this, should I call her mom or some of her family members, or should I leave her and get a divorce? I just don't know. What if she is lying about the rape. She has told me about being raped when she was younger before we met. and also how she almost got raped before we got married. All I do is go to work and come home and take good care of my family I shouldn't have to go thru things like this.I feel like i deserve better IMO i am very confused and lost on what to do right now maybe counselling is on order.

My wife came home tonight at 4 in the am. Well I called her at 3 30 she said I m almost home. She come in and says babe come her was rapped. She always goes out and comes home at 2 or 3 am.. I don t like it She says she s performing at the club because she raps a little bit. I Asked her who did it She won t tell me.. I said let s call the police. What would u do In this situation. I yelled and blamed her because I told her to quit going out by yourself and being out late... We have 2 kids.. Am I wrong I can t even look at her the same rht now... She is lying here sleep in our bed she didn t even take a shower. She has been rapped before and I don t know whether she is lying or telling the truth My wife said she was raped. Is she telling the truth?

My wife and I had a argument about me liking other women pictures on Facebook and Instagram. She told me it was disrespectful. I explained to her that it wasn't that serious. But she kept on bringing it up so I deactivated both of my accounts. On the flip side my wife still goes over her ex boyfriend house to buy weed. When I ask her not to do it she goes on a rant about how she doesn't want him and how there just friends. Why the double standard?

Ok so my husbands bestfriends wife acts like she doesn't like me. Her husband is great though he hangs out with my husband or both of us quite often. However when we are all together or she's over she acts like I don't matter. I'm always nice to her and try my best to not show how mad I am when she ignores me. The only time we really have a full on conversation and she acts like she's enjoying my company is when she's drunk. My husband use to talk to her about our relationship and him about hers. There have been many times I will join in on a conversation and she will automatically ignore what I say and start talking to my husband like I didn't say anything. A lot of time I will say something and she will roll her eyes and shake her head, then look at my husband through the corner of her eye to see if he is doing the same. There have been times he will side with her and acts like he wants he approval over something no Matter what I say. I've told him about this a couple times, the only reason I'm still being nice is because her husband is mines bestfriend and I like him. It's not that I don't like her I do, I just don't understand her actions or why she acts this way. I just need some advice and thoughts on this matter.

I can't understand why someone would think that way.

The guy I'm with said he wanted a self sufficient wife. Is this different to being independent?

Is it cause it's actually more difficult to get married and have children, or is it because that generation's male are douchebags more than the previous generation males? Seems kind of bizarre considering there's no f*cking way that life is more difficult now than it was 30~50 years ago. 15~30 years ago*

I have been married to the love of my life for 2.5 years now. He hasnt always been the most affectionate but he has always been there for me and loved me. He would randomly go through moods where he would be down, but would snap out in a day. About 2 months ago, he revieled to me that he suffers from depression. It came as a shock to me but i told him i would always be here for him. Although it has been very hard to deal with and ends in crying every night. For a month now, he has been sleeping on the couch despite my pleading him to come to bed (he says that he wants to sleep alone), everytime i say i tell him that i love u, his tone when he responds cuts deep...when he says it...it feels empty. I just feel so alone. Last time i nicely told him how i felt...it pushed him further away. He says that he wants medicine for it, but that we dont have the money despite me telling him that im willing to sacrifice my wants in order to get him what he needs and he responds by saying naw, im ok. Please, if u are going through this, let me know what helps u stay sane and how i can help my husband. Thanks

So I am a vietnamese guy living in america and I like to dress up as a girl. I feel extremely happy and confident when I dress up as a girl. I am engaged to my fiancee in vietnam and my fiancee has no idea that I am a crossdresser and I am afraid to tell her. I want to have a wife and children and a family of my own and so I don't want to tell her because I want her to marry me. People say that I am sexually confused when I am pretty sure that I am straight. They said that people in vietnam will know that I am a crossdresser by just looking at me. They said that I show feminine signs. I don't get how I can show feminine signs when I normally dress in mens clothing when I go out. Why do people say that I can't marry a girl in vietnam if I am a crossdresser ? How can people tell that I am a crossdresser by just looking at me ?

He was frustrated from work and when he got home, he knew I was horny and wanted it, but he left me in the bedroom (yes, I was awake) and went to his computer and jacked off. And he jacked off to shemale porn... (I spyed on him and masturbated to him watching cause I was horny.) We always try new things, and I have a strap-on to use on him. He knows I'm always horny and especially yesterday because it was all I talked about. Lol. I'm 20 and he's 23. Why would he not just have sex with me, especially if I wanted it and he KNEW I wanted it? Also, he got himself off REALLY fast. Like, honestly, in less than a minute. But he always lasts a long time with me. And he told me going to the other room to jack off. He said, "if you need me, I'll be in here watching porn and beating my d***."