For years I've been saying to my husband that I would like us to do more stuff together. But he doesn't like going out, or doing anything together really. We don't socialise and we don't have any hobbies that we look forward to and share together. A while ago, he decided to become a practising Jew and he started going to synagogue, and I joined him because I wanted to show him support and also show him that I was happy to do stuff with him, in the hope he'd do stuff with me. But no, he didn't want to. So, this is how bad it's got. A few days ago we were picking up our daughter from a club, and while we were waiting I noticed a big ping pong table. I work from home and had had a boring day so I asked my husband to have a game with me. He refused, and even when I said "please, I've had a boring day and I would like a little giggle, please have a quick game just for me" he still said no. So, today, his entire family is coming over from Israel. I don't particulary like them or dislike them, but I know I'm going to be stuck in the kitchen all day, and then I'll sit down for two minutes to talk about cooking and children with the women, then I'll clean up. However, a friend has invited me out, and I think I'd rather do that. If my husband was willing to sometimes do little things with me, I'd do things with him and for him. But because he doesn't, I don't want to. Is what I'm doing wrong?

I know what they say about not eating where you poop, but since people do meet their spouses at work I'm looking for tips from these people. Questions: 1. Did you schedule dates on workdays or just on weekends? (I assume it'll be tiring to see each other every day.) Did you TALK to each other every day? 2. Did the both of you stay at the same company for a long time? Would the relationship have a better chance if at least one person finds another job when things get serious? Anything else I should know?

I myself am not 13, but now 20. I met my current fiance at the age of 13 though. Of course very mature at my age, yet I was always told that I didn't know what love was. Even after we had been together for 3 years, I still "apparently" had no idea what love was. Fast forward to 7 years later, I'm still being told that I'm an idiot for having a desire to be married to him. By people who went and got married after just a single year, and others who are incapable of staying married to a single person. My entire life I was told that I would never marry any one that I met in high school. Now I'm marrying someone that I met In my Jr. High school. Do you think that they're upset because they're wrong; or am I really an idiot for wanting to marry the Man of my dreams?

We're great friends and our meets aren't sexual he just enjoys me and he says I inspire and motivate him... In return he helps me pay my bills. So I think I'm coming out on top but others say it's still cheating . I don't agree. What do you think?

I'm in my mid 20s and he's in his early 40s (he's 15 years older than me). We've been acquaintances for almost 2 years. I don't know his family but he has mentioned coming over to hang out at my place. Should I let him or is he trying to seduce me? We've flirted occasionally but he said I pique his interest/intrigue him more so than him wanting me physically. He said it's inappropriate & too risky. is he lying to me? is he using reverse psychology to get into my pants? I don't trust hm totally I'm not trying to have sex with him & I've told him this.. Once he said he'd help me with bills

This is males only Clare.

My husband and I would drink and smoke when we first started dating. after a year into out married I started drinking a lot and he said I would get flirty with other people and it bothered him to the extreme. Also, smoking with other people has always been a no no, even though he smokes with his friends all the time. Well, after a horrific hangover one summer night, I put drinking away, haven't drank since. It was my decision just because the thought of it makes me sick. he told me that he's happy about it because he thinks I can't handle... Ever since I stopped his drinking has become excessive. Like, EVERY night he drinks mad dog. He's passed out right now after drinking an entire bottle. I tell him it bothers me and he just gets angry. Out of spite I said I was going to start drinking about and he flipped out on me and said his anxiety about me drinking has gone away. I dont do anything anymore. No drinking, no smoking and no drugs. Overtime we go to a party he drinks all he wants and I drive him everywhere. I know he doesn't have to stop just because I stopped, but he gets so angry if he doesn't have enough money to buy more. What should I do? I am so sorry about all the typos I don't even know how to fix them.

My wife and her old male classmate have been chatting on face book for a month. Lately she has been working out. I don't know if she is doing it for him, but I do wonder. She is all cheerful now. Before they started chatting, she was angry, depressed, and lazy. She would go to the fridge every few hours. Now she is lifting weights and excercising like crazy. She even turned down desserts. Is my wife trying to impress her male friend? :( Heck, there were a few times in the past when I told her to lose weight, but she ignored me. NOW she is doing it :P

I have been very agreeable with my ex letting him see our son when he asks but he is unstable and constantly lying to me we haven't been to court yet because he's avoiding accepting the divorce papers I have told him I want him to have a relationship with our child because I want what's best for our son but I don't have proof of residence and this week he showed up in a new car with temporary plates at the previous visits he agreed without hesitation to give me his keys at this visit he angrily refused I then explained to him that if he didn't give me the keys I would end the visit i only ask for them because again I can't trust him and we don't have a custody agreement in place and I'm trying to protect my child and myself but what I want to know is will a judge view this as unreasonable? Will this hurt my case or make it seem like I'm alienating him from our child? Thanks for any help...

My husband of 10 years has started keeping secrets from me like where he goes and whom he meets or why he meets them when he goes out after work or during weekends on a day trip to another city. We were always sharing these info together for the sake of safety. Even I geard from my daughter that he meets a woman from his students (at college) to teach our grade 1 daughter. Even when the woman called our home for scheduling a meeting for teaching our daughter, I passed the phone to him which I had answered on speaker and he switched to reciever and talked with her in secretive way, making sure replying with yes/no. Am I paranoid or something is going on with him? Also we do not have sex for a long time, and recently when he approaches me, i tell him that he can not just share the bed with me and not his life. He expects me to have sex with him no matter how he acts. Soory for the long story:( Thanks for reading and your answers!

My ex-boyfriend pays me $950 a month for our 4 children. One more than one occasion, my ex has stated that I should account for every penny that I spend of "his" money. Technically it's my children's money, and I spend it all on them. My ex thinks that I spend it all on myself, and that my I shouldn't receive anymore money, until I give him a detailed accounting of what money goes where. The child support money goes to food, before/after school care, medicine (two of my kids needs medication), medical co-pays, clothes, shoes, and whatever they need. I just wish that he would realize that I'm a not one of those selfish moms who would spend every dime on myself. He just resents having to pay child support.

I mean how much of a "friend" can you really be?

Okay so I began dating my now husband in 2007. We married june 2015. He was addicted to pain pills back in 2000. He almost overdosed and It scared him so much that he stopped and was done. Since the wedding he began taking oxycodones and klodapins. He pops and snorts them. I found residue everywhere. Initially he lied and then came "clean" abouttaking them. He sells them in order to make a profit to buy his own supply. His personality has changed drastically and he snappy and mean. I ve tried to be supportive but just asked for honesty. Everyday he lies. He promises and swears on the bible. Our marriage, his parents grave and everything but I pull out the pills as proof of him lying. He tries to say he didn t know he ever had them when they weren t there in the morning but now magically are there that evening. I don t know what to do. We ve seen a counselor and he "fronted" infront of them. And made me the bad guy but the counselor took me aside and said I ve been being a great loving and supportive wife. My question is ... When do you call it quits on a person. When do you divorce? I am a Christian and don t wish that to happen but he s driving us apart and all his relationships. He won t even listen to me. He has become in a relationship with the pills and not me. I m just so lost

I am in my early 30s. I work as a 2ic manager for a retail chain. I have experience teaching overseas and possess a science degree. I am studying towards a nursing degree and actively seeking alternative employment (as an assistamt nurse etc)... But my wife works in real estate. She earns a lot of money and ploughs it into property. Her family back in China think she is so good. None of the three apartments are built yet. My low wages go towards a bit of food (mostly my own), car insurance, expensive Audi loan (so she can impress her clients), rent for the bedroom sharing with her friend, health insurance, gym etc. I work 50 hours a week minimum earning 47k per year. I used to work a second part time job but gave that up to study full time. I just postponed my study because the hours of work were too much. This weekend, we both ran out of money. We had additional expenses. Rather than share the load, she got angry at me and demanded I pay the rent money back to her, threatened to throw my new phone out the window of the car, said I do nothing for the family, that I should have been hired as a nurse by now etc. The fight continued at home and she kept saying f...you and even spat at my face... Wnen I went back to the room to get upset, she just laughed at me. So now I feel like a low class joke and that everyone must be laughing at this low paid pathetic excuse of a man!! I just work a low paid job. I tried to shame her by contacting her aunty but this time she never responded and they chatted half the night about how good my wife is going in the real estate. I honestly feel like I wouldn't be surprised if some other bloke is out there wooing her. I feel that negatively about her now. That she just sees me as a joke and therefore she can do as she pleases, keep all her properties and not care one bit if I leave her!! Yet just three days ago she was all loving, wanted to spend a day with me and was acting so good. Even talked about children next year... Now she is back to sayinf f...you and spitting at me. I feel like I am trapped in domestic violence and like my low status/pay makes me look like a fool and deserving to be laughed at! Am I just being used? I feel like less than a man because I cannot support the family enough to even guarantee food and enough cash to have kids!! Am I really that bad at 32? Two days ago I would have told you that she loves me a lot and supports me. She even went fpur days without working at all and was staying up all night to watch movies and sleeping all day! My questions are simple. What to do about her? Is spitting considered physical assault? How long after the incident could she be charged? And am I really that bad for my age? Are people really laughing at me or is that all in my own head?

So I ve been married 8 years with my husband 11 we have 3 kids ones 6, 3, 6 months my husband works outta town... We had a very good marriage until I left him 4 years ago for a few months. n we got back together.... things have been fine until our last kid now it s no making him happy seems like when he is at home! I miss him and I love him but I can t seems to do anything to make him happy anymore any ideas

If there are men that are willing to be your slave, why wouldn't a woman choose that?

I'm so lonely and bored in my Marriage. My husband is a Workaholic and never home. Also, his brother and nephew now live with us which has damaged our sex life. The walls are thin. My husband can barely ever take me on a date due to his crazy work schedule. Also, our sex life used to be Hot like some S & MM, but now that's gone. Is Cheating ever the answer?

A friend of mine has marriage issues with her husband. They have been married for about 28 yrs., and each day gets worse. Their marriage was ok for the first 10 years, but as soon as she had their first child, he acted strange and started drinking too much. They had another child two or three years after the first one was born, and she is an older woman with two teens now. (She and her husband didn't have children until their late 30's/early 40's). This woman cleans, cooks, makes her husband's lunch to take to work, takes care of the children herself (he has nothing to do with them), does laundry, and all the other household duties both inside the outside their home. He works strange hours and sleeps during the day while she is at work. She told me that the main thing he complains about is the lack of sex. I don't know exactly how often they have sex, but she said that when they do, it takes hours, and he touches her roughly to where she complains, and then he gets mad and is no longer interested. My advice to her is that she leave him, but she depends on his higher income to pay their bills and doesn't want to lose "all she worked for all these years". Since they are both getting up in age, and her job won't support her and her children, she thinks he will magically change or she should suffer through this until the children are out of college. She refuses to give in sexually because she says that he is so mean to her that she can't stand being close to him What should this woman do about her marriage issues? Again, please read what I wrote, folks. I shared all the stuff she does, in addition to having a job. I did not say that he should help her with the duties. He is an alcoholic drunk every single day. He is a mean drunk who yells at her and her children regularly. He is filled with hate and finds any excuse to argue or belittle his wife. I worry that this may turn into a murder/suicide if she continues to stay. The alcoholism has lasted for 18 years, and he gets worse with each day. ...and, yes, I already told her that she should have as much sex as he wants, but she refuses. She goes on and on about how she hates being close to him physically. That is the only reason why I think she needs to leave him, in my opinion. None of my business? Say that if it ever turns into a suicide/murder in this case. Why didn't anybody help?

My husband and I only been married for little over 2 years and I feel like our Sex life is already starting to downhill. We have his brother and nephew now living with us and the walls are so thin. Also, my husband keeps saying he is tired. Never any alone time. We had slow boring sex the other night where he kept covered my mouth paranoid is brother would hear. I m getting so sexually bored and frustrated that I m starting to think instead of a SIDE CHICK, I need a SIDE D$CK. Lol. Any healthy or not healthy solutions?

He said Im stress, not that I nag or anything of the sort. If anything I work to bring him ease. He has a lot on his plate and feels that bad and stresses him out that he cant make me happy the way I deserve. I brushed it off yet it sits in the back of my head. I didn't want to address it since "I cause him stress". He often says things then says he didn't mean it like that or doesn't remember saying certain things. Has your spouse or lover said that to you? Thanks Tara, I dont try hard to please Im a giving person and he likes that. When I do things he says no ones has done that for him before. His ex wife of 18yrs was the total opposite(they married young), I just think she didnt know any better. He is a conflicted person. Tara I will let it go Starfish, I though that too. Yet I asked if he wants to end things and he said no. Then he says judge him by his action and not his words. Im confused. The past week he has been more attentive and affectionate.

Men get married for vagina and women get married for money and stability?

I love my husband. We have had our ups and downs When we met, we were both broke. Then his mom died and he inherited millions. He changed and likes the finer things in life. I am still a really simple person. I would be okay with making 24,000 a year and living in that shitty apartment we has 9 years ago. But my husband always gets upset when I talk about things I want to do like travel, get in shape and today he said to me "don't you want to make money, and actually pay some bills?". I don't make enough to even cover one fourth our mortgage. He chose to move us into a house, get really nice cars and things that he knew I couldn't afford. But Now i just feel like complete ****. I feel like maybe he would be better off with a woman who is on his financial level because I can't do the things he likes and I don't have the same money motivation he does. He's made a lot of money off his investments from the money he inherited. And when we fight, he always throws the money in my face. I just feel really bad, like maybe if I got a second job it would make him feel better but then I make maybe 40000 in a year? I don't know how to talk to him about this? Because it hurts my feelings and I just feel like ****, because I don't make anywhere near what he does. I make enough to survive and live in a small appartment not the home we live in. Any help on how to talk to him about this? I want him to be happy with me and the money I make. I don't think I'll ever make millions and he said my lack of motivation to want to be wealthy is what bothers him. My lack of motivation to make money. Money doesn't make me happy, being in nature makes me happy. Going tot he gym makes me really happy. Reading a book makes me really happy. I'm just a simple person and he use to be to. We were both broke working hard to live together and survive but then it changed. I have a job lol BTW. I am a makeup artist and have been for 11 years. I love what I do. I also work a retail job doing makeup and have been doing that for 2 years and prior to that I did telemarketing for 5 years. So I have never not worked a day in my life. I've even worked 3 jobs when I first met my husband. I then made enough to cut it down to two jobs.

Currently married but separated not legally my husband stays with his gf or let's say she's his gf because he has no where else to go. For whatever reason he's been trying to come back to me and our kids but we moved to another state. The last time we talked we were actually planning for him to come back and he claimed he wanted to do right so I told him he could come the end of the month just because I really didn't take him seriously and if me and his kids are really worth it he would wait right? Well no. Weeks went by I haven't heard from him and I try to call and his phone disconnected so I write him on fb and he says he's waiting. So weeks go by haven't heard from him and he's not posting anything like he does so I start to get worried long story short I find out he gets arrested beginning of the month and never thinks to call me and let me know but I hear he's calling the gf. I'm thinking if he was really serious about moving back he would call or even to check on his kids but whatever. Now I'm debating if I should write him and go off on him for trying to sell me dreams or if I should not say anything at all and finish the divorce and move on for good??

When a wife complains about how her husband doesn't want to have sex, people will tell her things such as "he must be cheating" "he must be gay" "he must be addicted to porn" etc.. now, when a husband complains about how his wife doesn't want to have sex with him, people will tell him things such as: "you aren't making her happy in bed , so it's your fault" "you aren't doing chores around the house, so it's your fault" why it's always the man's fault?

My ex and I bought a car together when we ere together... He left me 6 months ago... in that time he has only made 1 payment right after we bought the car... I only just found out in July... i have since been catching up and making payments... is it possible i can put a repossession on the vehicle? we are going to court... i have a replevin against him for it... my name is on the loan, title and registeration... this is in maryland

He has been saying this during every disagreement or fight but then says he is still willing to try. This has been going on for close to a year. I feel so insecure because I keep worrying he will leave and I'm getting to the point where I'm ready to just say "ok" to his divorce idea. But we have kids and I hate to put them through a divorce or through more fighting. He says he is done with therapy but maybe willing to still work on it on our own. I don't know what to think anymore.

Can I just use white out and write my new address? He already notarized the papers from his state and signed. I'd like to turn them in and not have to bug him about signing all over again.

I have been with my current BF for 2 1/2 years, it will be 3 years in Feb. Anyway, I love my BF and know I want to be be with him and I know he wants to be with me too but..here is the problem. I want to get married soonish. He said he is going to propose soon but IDK how soon or when. All he says is soon. The problem is that he wants to wait until one of us gets into our careers to get married which I think is BS. I mean people get married with way less money. And, to me marriage is about love and your commitment to one another not if your financially stable or not, that will come in time. if everything works out I will done with school next Fall but the job part is going to be the most difficult. Where I live jobs are competitive and I do have a low on the totem pole job in my career now, its just not a lot of money but it's enough for now anyway. A part of me gets that he wants to be financially stable to pay for his own wedding, but I already told him that I don't mind a really small intimate wedding with just family/friends for now and then have a nicer one later, I just want to be with him. But, he still wouldn't go for it. I asked if I was going to have to wait another 1-2 years after one of us finds a job and he said "probably not that long." He said we hadn't even been together for 3 years yet so it wasn't a big deal. But, I'm going on 25 and I want kids too and he will be 24 soon. I'm not trying to rush it, but..if we are planning a future... It's not that I mind waiting so much, it's just something is telling me that he isn't exactly sure of the whole marriage idea yet, because we moved in together after a year and he was all for it but the marriage thing he wants to do it all one way when I just want to have a solid commitment, we were already planning our future and i am worried about planning it with or around someone who isn't entirely sure if that is what he wants. What do I do?

My husband and I have had problems off and on in our relationship and they started when he cheated in 2013. He started calling me names at first than he started shoving me and locking doors. The name calling was little things at first like baby or lazy but they got bigger he calls me a b i t c h every time he's mad now even though he knows it hurts me very much to be called that. He still calls me all other kinds of names. And every time he gets mad he will threaten to kill himself he says things like "You make me want to kill myself." or "my suicide will be your fault" or "I'll slit my throat and send you a video" he says i wont care if he dies but I would. I love him very much even though he doesn't deserve it. He treats me like I'm nothing and I stayed with him after cheating on me to give him a chance to become a better person. He said he had anger issues that needed to be worked on i've done all I can to help him. I try not to argue with him. I usually just give in and say sorry. I try to avoid anything I know already does make him angry. I walk on egg shells for this man I do everything I can to make him happy. This morning I wrote him a note because he works a double shift and he didn't seem to mind it much the whole fight started because he said I don't act like his wife i don't help him with his anger He said I don't know how to handle him and I don't care because I can't control his anger for him. I told him there is only so much I can do for him but he has to try to help himself too but he said "Than fine you handle you and I'll handle me. You don't come to me with any of your problems and I won't come to you for nothing" and the only reason he is angry today was because he stayed up late playing his video game and had to get up early so I have to deal with him being angry. Anything I say to him is going to get me in trouble today and I'm scared he will hurt himself I don't know what to do about it anymore. I want to leave but I don't know if I should because we do have kids together and I do love him. BUt i just can't do this anymore I love him but I don't know if he will ever love me back

Well I've got this coworker and we are definitely attracted to each other. I did something a little gutsy. I told her I felt. But FYI she's so cool and I did get her the job. We get along so well and laugh at each other jokes. She did mention that I am a little bit of a flirt. Lol! But here's where it gets ugly. We're both married. Plus she's been having issues with her husband and I just got married but I know its wrong. Now that I confessed how I felt she leans on me plus she's more friendly. But she's always telling me how much she respects her Husband and my wife. Confused!!!!! Help!!!!!

Even his concubine doesn't know that he's married.

I am not sure about being married.? My husband and I got married in April. But it's nothing that I expected. He's so mean to me. We never talk..he doesn't come home until late. And we are both just rude to each other. Things are so different. I thought they'd get better not worse. I'm now double thinking my choice. I don't know what do do...advice? I'm 21, hes 24 have my whole life ahead of me..I don't want to be miserable for the rest of it...he down grades my family and parents all the time. He never attends any of my family functions. And if he doesn't he just tells me afterwards how much he hates my family. I can't take it anymore. He's just not nice .he doesn't even try to communicate with me. What do I do?!