She is 28 and I am 43. I want to ask her to marry me but I make 80K a year and she only makes about 15K. She also does not have a college degree and I have gained some in my time. She is in school now but she has been in school for a very long time. I worry some of this will affect us when we get together. Both of us do not have children.

So i will describe my situation in a nut shell hoping any of you can assess along with me. So yesterday my girlfriend(F21) of 6 months broke up with me yesterday through text ( i think). The message read "Since you wanted to get back to your studies instead of making us good, putting us last you dont have to pay no mind to me, were done here" Ever since then all my messages have gone unanswered and all the phone calls unreturned, i think she blocked me. Now this what happened, she overreacted with me changing her contact info on my phone, I Queen as her caller ID and changed it to her real name. I did think of just leaving it as it was. I only did this because a week before she had changed mines to just my last name when it was previously babe. I dont know why but that bothered me. but i didnt overreact. she was upset because we hadnt talked for a week. I tried telling her she was overreacting over the name change and that it wasn't a reason to think i didnt love her. When she saw it i was driving and she told me to take her home after coming from the beach. It was dark and late and i knew she hadnt eaten anything, so despite her telling me to take her home, i got her food from a local taco stand to feed her appetite, i knew she was hungry, i took her home after and then made me feel unwelcomed. I left and after that shes been acting different. i tried talking her about the situation yesterday but she was beginning to frustrate me so i told her i was going back to studying. Is it just me or it insane to think that what i did caused her to break up with me? is that really all it would take for her to just end it, idk but it seems like thats not love. Well my definition of it, i knew her since middle school but we never really talked, she just knew me because her friend liked me. We started talking again when i was 16 and got together at 17, now im 21. It's crazy to think thats all it took...

Am I being selfish? I don't want a child for various reasons: 1) I want a wife, not a child who will take away my wife, 2) I grew up with a disabled sibling and don't think I could handle the pain of possibly having a disabled child, 3) the world is getting worse, and I don't want to be responsible for bringing a life into this cruel world. My wife was fine with this stuff before we got married, now she's against me. It's like she's a totally different person. I feel like I've bored her and now she wants a child to replace me. I feel like I'm trapped. I feel like her love is conditional now. Either have a child or deal with her being sad/depressed.

sorry so long I believe in the bible and how a man is the head of the house. I let my husband lead, but my mother in law constantly makes indirect messages about me saying I am a disobedient wife and I need to be submissive to my husband. But when I do something he says she always telling me I need to stop helping him. she brags about how her husband (his father) has always taking good care of her and his family and when my husband does something for me she gets mad and say my husband (her son) does not care anything about her. she even got mad because he bought me a mother's day present. we have two sons together. she said I didn't need a present because I am not his mother. my mother-in-law constantly makes feel like I am not good enough for my husband. we have been together going on 9 years. she constantly complains about small things I do or things I like (if she does not do it). I think she does this because I do not act like her. How I am with my husband is different from she is with his father. she said I do not no how to praise God, because I do not shout in church. she makes smart remarks towards me telling me I can not fight (when I never even tried to fight her). how can I remain a good wife to him when I have to constantly hear her complaining about the things she do not like about me or what I do for my husband

My husband doesn't really talk to me, take me anywhere, tell me where he's going, always lying, and never spends time with my daughter. But always trying to get some (sex). What does that mean?

pues mi situacion es esa... curiosamente cuando ni tengo novia, me cuesta trabajo conseguir una, y ya cuando la tengo... hasta las Ex que me votaron, vuelven a hablarme... ¿POR QUE? ayuda pliss que me vuelven loco

I just got married a couple weeks ago and almost as soon as we were pronounced, my husband turned into the incredible jealous hulk. For example, I answered his call while I was at the dog park talking to another (male) owner. He flipped out over it. Just went off the deep end. He was nothing like this prior to the ceremony and to be honest, I was always the jealous one. Does it get better with time?

Hi im a legal studies student and I was instructed to conduct an interview on an issue in Family Law (I have chosen divorce) however I don't have any family who can be interviewed. I realise this can be a personal issue however I am not asking the why's it is more about the legal processes. All answers are appreciated but please do not feel pressured! INTERVIEW QUESTIONS: 1. What year were you divorced in? 2. How long were you separated before getting officially divorced? 3. Were their children involved? If so how were custody issues decided upon? 4. Were lawyers involved? 5. How was it decided who gets what property and possessions? 6. Were lawyers used? 7. What official legal processes were used? (Eg. Negotiation, Mediation, conciliation or arbitration) 8. Did you have to go to court? Why? 9. what were the legal documents involved in the divorce process? 10. What were the conflicts at the time? (Eg. were you and your former partner fair and civil?) 11. Do you think the outcome was fair, successful and appropriate? 12. Anything that might be helpful to add? (I know little to nothing of the process therefore anything is helpful!) Thank you for any answers :)

Ok so basically I am a 28 year old man and I have a GF and we been together for 3 years and we plan to get married some time this year. Before I met met my current GF I was married to another woman and I knew this woman since we were 19 and we got married at 22. She died of cancer and then a few years later I met my current girlfriend. The problem is I am still in love with my ex wife and to some extent I kinda love her more then my current GF. I'm not saying I don't love my current GF but my 1st wife will always be special and she was taken away from me in a sense and I don't think I can ever just stop loving her. I feel wrong about this though, almost like I'm mentally cheating on my GF with my dead wife. Any Advice Again I'm not saying I don't love my GF, I love her very much, all I am saying is that I just don't think the love I have for my current GF compared to my deseised wife *deceased wife By the way she knows how I feel and even though she feels bad she says she understands, but sometimes I still personally feel bad

My husband and i have been battling his drug addiction for almost 7 years now. We've been married almost 10. He didn't have a problem until his mum died. Anyway, last week was the breaking point of us. We got into a huge argument and he struck me. It was because I threw out his drugs and he got caught being high and chatting up women. The next day he said he realized he said he realized how much pain he caused me and that he never wants to do what he's done again. He then got on a plane and went to CA for rehab. We live in Fl. It's weird because that day I also had divorce papers and was ready to leave because I couldn't take it and then he goes to rehab. I told him if he goes to rehab I would be willing to work on us and put in the effort to make us happy again as long as he does. But I am really scared because it's been nothing but lies, deceit and drugs the last few years. He's gone to detox probably 8 times and rehab in FL never making it more then 15 days. But now he will be gone for 6 months. I'm scared and relived. I just don't know how to start trusting him again at his word? Or how to not be this angry cold person I had become because of the addiction? I think I'm really afraid of getting my hopes up and him letting me down. The rehab called me yesterday to let me know he was all checked in. I don't know how to feel! I also signed us up for marriage counseling when he returned and I am currently seeing a counselor to maybe help me get through all the feelings but right now, I am really scared. More so because I want to trust this man that I love but he has done so many things to make me not trust him. But he will be sober when he gets out and i haven't seen sober him in 7 years. I don't even remember what sober him is like. I remember loving sober him though. I agree with Charles because I gave him an ultimatum and he went to rehab. If he fails this time, I'm gone but if it makes it through the whole six months I'll do my part.

As a child of divorced parents, how do you think this has affected your relationships. If you have dated someone with divorced parents, What tendencies have you noticed in a person with divorced parents.

Me and my husband have been married for 20 years, now he doesn't show much love, doesn't interact with the kids so I filed for divorce. We have been in this divorce for 6 months already, all we have done is child custody. I have FULL custody, I have kids for 26 days and he had only 4 days. The court ordered him to pay child support, he hasn't payed in 2 months. Two weeks ago I moved and barley took anything. I took my stuff and children, a tv, 2 paintings, and a table. Today I went to court because he accused me of taking everything from the house, the judge told us to leave because my husband wouldn't stop yellong. My attroney has been working for 14 yesrs and she told me this is the worst divorce ever. I have already paid $7,000 to her, I need to raise my children not paying court. He wanted my children's bed, my tv, and the table. I took from the house about $3,000, I left 2 couches, 3 beds, 3 washers which cost about $7,000. He asked me to return everything back to him and I could keep clothes. What can I do, my attroney told me this case is not worth it because we don't have much. I have custody and he wants tax returns for both children, I feel so terrible, I am so sick of this divorce. I don't know what to do! I have 2 kids that need me to provide for them. When they are with their father he won't let me talk to them. Please help.

So I am engaged to a young lady in vietnam and we are getting married very soon in a couple of months. I currently don't have a job or a car and the reason why I don't have a job is because I am waiting to get one after my wedding. If I start working I don't think an employer would be happy with me taking two months off to go to vietnam to get married. I failed the driver's permit test like 5 times and that is the reason why I haven't gotten a driver's license yet. It has been about 9 months since I last took the permit test. I don't feel motivated to go and take the test again and I think the only way I will feel motivated is that if I got married. I will probably go and take the test again in like january or february 2016 after my wedding in december of this year. My friends told me that they don't support me in this because I don't have a job or no drivers license. They said that it is a bad idea and that my marriage will fail. I don't get what is the big deal in waiting to get a job. I couldn't find anyone in america so I have to marry this girl and my family set me up with her since I couldn't find anyone in america. People say that I am unworthy to be a husband. Why do they think that based on my current status ?

My ex-wife keeps in touch with a lot of my relatives, goes out to dinner with them and visits them in the hospital when they are sick. Why does she do that ? She says she doesn't want to come back to me. To Jay: No, I am intelligent with a high IQ. These are my relatives she is keeping in contact with, even reaching out to relatives she has never been in contact with before.

I have to write an essay on what structural changes effect divorce rates to go up. Idk what to write and i cant focus on divorce based on individual action, essay must focus on the dramatic changes in divorce rates of the last century. can someone give me some ideas? Can society be a structural change? Like how over time society changes and now accepts divorce?

My husband has facebook and IG. But when I opened one for myself all he did was talk crap. So I deleted them and his. Now he opened them again. Should I be concerned?

About 6 months ago I caught my husband texting another woman. After 3 months I came back home to try and work things out. But for some reason it feels like I am trying to prove myself to him. He dont come home from work at the time he use too. He goes to the store for 20min at a time and when I bring these things up to him he reverses everything on me. He won't answer any questions and just blocks me out. He was never so cold it feels like he was hoping I didn't come back or now hoping I leave. It's to the point I want to leave.

I have started seeing this guy and he's a really nice guy. We are becoming good friends and we're sort of seeing each other. My friend is a christian and lives her entire life like this which is fine but sometimes she interfere's in my lively affairs with her christian two sense, Saying how I shouldn't be seeing this guy because I'm still married to my ex-husband. I am working on getting a divorce from him, but legally we are separated. Every time I bring Dan around (thats this new guy) she treats him like he is the worst thing that ever walked the earth. She makes comments like this don't look right. And how can you committ this sin. Dan has treated me much better than my ex-husband did. So far I like him, my ex-husband is currently out of state and that marriage is no more. She always tells me that I shouldn't be sleeping with him, and that I don't know what love is. I am 34, and been in a few relationships, and none of those men loved me the way that this man does. I mean he and I are not rushing it but we want something more when the time is right. Why do I have to answer to anyone about my involvement with this guy. Is it okay to just be friends with him?

Just of curiosity, what would married men do if their wife was watching porn behind their back? I am quite surprised men won't divorce their women. And this simply proves we are mature enough to handle stupidity. There are some women who file for divorce simply because their husbands watch porn. I find this to be the most idiotic reason to divorce someone. Why are women answering this question? The question clearly says, "Married men."

Do you think that not having a TV in your bedroom would improve intimacy between you and your spouse?

I just got married a couple weeks ago and almost as soon as we were pronounced, my husband turned into the incredible jealous hulk. For example, I answered his call while I was at the dog park talking to another (male) owner. He flipped out over it. Just went off the deep end. He was nothing like this prior to the ceremony and to be honest, I was always the jealous one. Does it get better with time?

A man with small kids, on a website called 'Badoo' It's a hookup site basically.

My husband is always complaining about a woman that he works with, saying he can't stand her and she is a *****. The problem with this is that he secretly set up a facebook account and she is on his friends list. Is this something I should worry about? Also he lied about having a facebook to when I asked about it and then came across a 2nd one.

she has been his client for years. He is a gruff and ornery man but when around her he is kind and happy. She got married 2 years ago and he acted like he was her father at the wedding, which was embarrassing because her entire family was staring at him like he had two heads. Two weeks ago he refused to pick me up to go to our son's marching band in the parade because he had to pick her up and when he tried to join me on the street I laughed and walked away. She found out a week ago that her husband spent all their money on his cocaine habit and now she is at my husband's law office constantly all upset and wants a bankruptcy. He spent the better part of last sunday alone at his office helping her to feel better and giving her support legally. How do I deal with this? Should I call her and let her have a piece of her mind? I have no problems telling my husband anything....including that I don't want to be married to someone who ditches their wife on a family day to be with someone else's wife.

My husband of 11yrs is asking me to leave my stable job, his a jealous person and thinks that I'm always flirting ever since we started dating. We have 3 kids. Should I leave my job to make him happy?

It would be basically a shared custody situation, the woman wants a baby, the couple wants a baby the female of the couple cannot have children. And neither party has several thousand dollars to get IVF. To be clear adoption is not an option I am the female in the relationship, the male is my husband, the thought crossed my mind, I honestly don't think he would go for it.. It costs $20,000 and up for the medical procedures for IVF, it's not covered under insurance I'm sorry but not everyone has $20,000 in their back pocket. And also IVF isn't always effective the first time around, it could cost $20,000 and then not work. If I had that kind of money I would just go the surrogacy rout. And also IVF isn't always effective the first time around, it could cost $20,000 and then not work. If I had that kind of money I would just go the surrogacy rout. I am the one that wants the child, We have 1 nephew who lives very far away and only get to see him once a year if that. He wants a child too but has accepted that I cannot have children. This is totally hypothetical and just wanted to bounce it off of someone that wasn't me. I have known that I can't have children since the age of 16 so it's always been a hard thing for me to accept.

She took in a 19 year girl cuz she had nowhere to go. I ve grown to be resentful of this due to the fact that I feel my wife has dismissed some valid concerns I have of this 19 year old girl. It started when all she did was lay around and watch tv. My wife told her to go out and look for a job...and supposedly did. She let her borrow her bike to go out and look. I didn t think she went out and so I rigged the bike in 2 different ways to see if did. Sure enough one night I asked her if she went out to find a job and she said did and she took the bike. I went out there and it was still rigged the way I left it. She lied to me. Now yesterday the 19 year old comes home and and takes her shoes off and I noticed she was wearing my wifes socks that I had washed and put in our dresser drawer. I asked her if those were my wife s and she, "no, I don t think so cuz I got these out of my tub." I told my wife about it. Now we are in this big struggle because I feel like this girl is snooping through our stuff and my wife doesn t care. All she says is that I need to stop tattling and try to nurture and guide this girl. My wife says she took those socks out and put them on the dresser. It s not about the possession, it s the principal behind it. I just feel like she thinks this girl can t do no wrong cuz she had a rough life. In your opinion who s wrong here? Am I being too hard on this girl?

Okay so the story goes like this. My wife and I have one child together which he is 4 month old now and I don't want to send him to daycare so I work and my wife is a stay at home wife taking care of our child and doing the chores in the house. All I expect my wife to do while she is at home and obviously watch our child and have dinner ready for me when I get home as financially it is hard with only one income but I think it will be best for our child to be raised by the mother than at daycare. I got into an argument with my wife yesterday as she mentioned she has no time to make dinner as she has to watch the baby. Am I being unfair and selfish in expecting a dinner when I work 6 days a week to financially support our family. Thank you for the responses ahead of time.

I've been very happily married for over 14 years, we have 6 amazing kids. My husband is a spender and I am a saver. When my husband and I first met, he had some debts, and I had quite a bit of money saved. By following my advice my husband had his debts paid off in less then a year, and he learned how to save. Since we got married 14 years ago, I've been the one who has handled our finances and spending. We sit down and discuss our monthly budget, wants, needs and other things. I always come up with a reasonable budget, and I stick with that budget. We've also invested our money, and we've had some very nice dividends. Because of my frugal and practical ways, I've managed to save quite a bit over the years. I've kept us out of debt as well. The only "real" debt that we have is our mortgage. We own everything else free and clear. Do you or your wife handle the finances and spending for your household? Edit: Sorry for a few details. I would also like to add that my husband and I are both retired military & disabled vets. We are employed full-time with the federal government (I'm not playing on net at work). My husband is a CPA, and I'm a Registered Dietitian. We each have our own TSP, Roth IRA's and 401K. We also have long term joint investments. term life insurance (that has been paid for), as the VGLI.

They would much rather go from woman to woman, spreading all kinds of stis (if they have anything) instead of being monogamous and faitful to one person? This can apply to women too but it's more the men... Marriage gives you stability... Do people think that marriage is a hassle or something?! It's just weird in my opinion. My parents have been married almost 40 years and have kept their vows. Why can't people do the same?! I mean I know there are some that do, but the majority either don't think it's worth it (which ultimately or unfortunately is fine nowadays), but then why do people still seem like they are avoiding marriage like the plague and they have a lot of casual sex and relationships that don't progress or go anywhere? Or they break up and try again for another?

I will provide some backstory: My parents have been separated for a while now, because their relationship has never worked out. My dad has an affair with another woman (even if my parents are still married), and before he wanted me to meet his girlfriend. I DID NOT (and I never) want to meet her. I later approached him in tears saying that I don't want to meet her, and he seemed to understand. He also promised me that he will not drag me into his marital problems anymore. But recently he's been breaking that promise. For example, he keeps on talking bad about my mom. This has been happening for a LONG time, but again, I asked him to not do it, but he keeps on doing it. Even when I'm crying and telling him to stop he keeps on trash talking her. The only time he stops is when I show force (like throwing a wadded paper towel at him). He often does this in public places, such as restaurants, so it's really hard to be firm with him. It's not helping that his senile mother is spreading bad rumors about my mom and I to him, which is further dragging me into this mess. His girlfriend is also trying to subtly announce her presence to my mom and I, such as leaving a love note on my dad's desk. I am just so sick and tired of this crap!!! If my mom chews him out, it's going to end up in a HUGE fight. I just want him to leave me alone! What can I do? How can I stand up to him without being scared? (PS to those who are wondering why they aren't divorced, it's for my sake. I am 16).

My husband is in the navy and he usually comes home at 3. When we got a car he started to come home around 6. Now he claims that they told him he has to stay until 10. It's now 3 am and he is still not home. Do they make them stay this late at work??? BTW he's not on duty.

my 20 year old son lives at home pays no rent I got him a truck he has no bills we pay for all his food. he has a full time job working with my husband (of 21 yrs) problem: my husband does nothing at all when my son disrepects me or puts his hands on me (like literally pushing me down slapping my face) my husband tells him everything about our relationship. what do I do. I have moved out but moved back in... grrrr.. I am fed up..