Hello, I have many questions about how a wedding is supposed to be planned and what exactly it's consisted of. I am planning to pop the question soon. I'm a little nervous because I have no idea how to plan a wedding. I do not want to hire a wedding planner. My brain is wedding dead. I've seen weddings, and gone online but no real answers. I want experienced, and married people to help me out with this one! How much should a guy spend on the ring? How many groomsmen and bridesmaids? How much time should we be engaged? (technically how much time should we need to plan the wedding)? Spit your knowledge out at me, I have every question you can think of but it might not have been listed. I am very excited, just clueless. Thanks in advance! No negative answers please.

A large part of me wants to have a wedding ceremony and reception and to celebrate with my family. But I also think I want to just take a trip to somewhere special and get eloped. My family wouldn't be too disappointed. They just want me to be happy. My ISSUE is- if I have a wedding, I am afraid that when all is said and done I will be disappointed or let down by the day. Every other big event in my life that everyone usually experiences (i.e. prom, graduation) has been been a let down. I am not really big on being the center of attention- What if I get embarrassed by something? I really do want a special day that is about me and my significant other and celebrate with our families. But I don't want to be let down again because something doesn't happen the way that convention says it should. any thoughts- different perspectives??

I am getting married on September 5th this year, so in 27 days... I have constantly caught myself thinking about cancelling the big wedding of about 150 people and opting out for a smaller, more intimate wedding, of no more than 65 people. I believe the reason that I am thinking this is because I have really bad anxiety and, at first, I thought a big wedding would be fine. But then my anxiety started getting worse and worse and now every day I constantly think of ways to convince my future husband to cancel the big one and opt for a smaller one in a garden or even in our backyard, as our yard is huge. Now, the wedding and reception at the hall we chose is a total, for the 150 people, $16,000. Not too bad considering everything is included in the cost like the cake, decorations, all the food and the ceremony. We only have to pay $4,000 left, I was just wondering if anyone has cancelled their big wedding, this close to the big day, and if they were happy that they did. Or if anyone regrets NOT cancelling it. Help me out please!! :( Thank you guys, so much. If any of you still look at this to see this update, I forgot to mention that my fiancé's father, my future father in law, just found out about a month and a half or so ago that he has esophagus cancer and it spread to the liver... So the money and, even the big day, is just extremely stressful because we want him there but we don't want him to feel sick either. But we also want to help pay his doctor's bill.(another little NOTE: we only got about 15 responses back)....

My fiancée and I are set to be married next summer. We both live in Sweden and are children of immigrants. My family is originally from Bosnia and hers from Syria. But most on her side live in Austria and Germany. The problem we have is dates. What date to set? The dates available, at the location we want, is the last two weekends in July and the last two weekends in August, of 2017. Of course we want a sunny wedding and the biggest chance of sun is in July. No question about that. Then comes the second issue. If we book a wedding after July people are coming home from their vacation and they might not afford a wedding. If we book in July some people might not come in favor of going on their vacation. Then comes the third issue. People will come from Bosnia, Austria and Germany and plane tickets are the most expensive in July. Sometimes more than twice the price. My family and I will have to help some people with the plane ticket costs and if we only consider that then August is better. But the problem is that the cost of the guests don't stop there. Most will stay with family and friends but others might stay at a hotel. Transportation, food and what not also costs while they are here. In a way maybe it's better if less people come from down there? And less people will come if we book in July. I know, I know this is a $hitty, selfish way of thinking. But I'm just laying it all out there. So what do we do?