Family: Question: Am I being abused? Part 3?

Question: Am I being abused? Part 3?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 01:03 PM PDT

My brother always said he hated me. He has said that since he was at least 6 years old. He would hit me, pull my hair, pinch me, bite me. He would touch me and watch me while I was bathing or undressing. But as he got older, he really took to hitting me. He's threatened me and chased me around the house with sharp knives. He's thrown objects at me as well and he would call me a slut, whore, stupid, *****, fat, and sex toy. He yells at me about as much as my dad does. He's left bruises multiple times and my parents do nothing about it. Unless it was my dad. He would hit my brother for talking back, insulting my mom or when he'd hit me. And now my baby brother is starting to adopt the same qualities as my younger brother. He's started hitting me and is talking about running away and how much he hates it here. He's left bruises sometimes and I just don't know where all this is coming from. My father was also abused as a child if that helps.... I know I am probably overreacting and I don't want to tell anyone about this because my parents will say that I ruined our family.... I just don't know what I'm supposed to do right now. I love my dad and I don't know if he is abusing me or not. And I don't have the heart to tell the authorities. Can you guys please give me some help?

Question: My partner is physically and emotionally afraid of being touched in any manner?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 12:50 PM PDT

Hello. I am a 27 year old male who is in a relationship (homosexual), with my 24 year old partner of three years and I am in need of some advice on how to deal with a matter that has been presenting itself in our relationship. My partner, due to past abuse, detests being touched in any manner because he says his skin is extremely sensitive and the thought of someones hands on him, disgusts him. I can understand where he is coming from, because the man prior to me was horrid to him, but I feel as though he does not trust me due to it. I think he thinks I will cause him physical harm and emotional damage like his last partner did. He is very closed off to me as is and I can tell you it was a struggle to get him to even agree in being in a relationship (which is still questionable from time to time). He is never happy and always holding some form of anger or depression, which usually results in him being fussy and difficult to handle. There have been times when he has had complete breakdowns of crying if I accidentally get to close or touch him without permission and he will tell me it hurts him. At night there is always a barrier of pillows between us so that no contact is made and things such as intimacy or even the basics of kissing, hugging, etc are nonexistent. He is a sweet person, with a beautiful soul. but this is really harming him and it pains me to see him react like this to my touches. I want to show him what love can be like, but I cannot o that because of his pain.

Question: Am I being abused?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 12:46 PM PDT

There's going to be three people I'm going to talk about: my dad, my younger brother who is 15, and my baby brother who is 9. My dad had noticeable anger issues from day 1. You can't always tell when he's mad. Sometimes, he'll just blow up out of nowhere. He used to spank me and my siblings when we were younger, but simetimes, he would make us strip beforehand and he would get a wet, wooden spoon and slap us with it til we were screaming and crying from the pain. He's threatened to use a belt a few times but he never actually used it that I can remember. The spanking went on until I was 13. When I'm crying, it's usually my mom who tries to help me, never my dad. When I turned 14, he went resorted to more screaming and less physical stuff. He would scream at me and my siblings over the stupidest things like what I'm wearing or if I'd ask him to go to the store or even about going to church services in the morning. And it scares me the most because sometimes, he's totally fine with it and other days, he just completely blows up and I don't know what'll set him off. One time, he got frustrated over who's going to light the family campfire and screamed at my mother, then he left, drank and came back later. I was 13. He beats my brothers too. He slaps my younger brother and he rarely hits my baby brother. Whenever I try to call him out on his behavior, he gets really mad and screams at me and tells me that there's nothing wrong with him. Click on my name to find part 2

Question: My mom is trying to control my education, what can I do?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 12:38 PM PDT

So I just had my first day of my sophomore year today. Things went pretty well, even though I don't have classes with any friends of mine (boo). When I got home my mom asked how I was and that stuff. I handed her forms she needed to sign, and she signed them. There was one online thing, though, that I needed her to check out. My school uses this site called schoology, and all our teachers use it to post papers on there, assignments, submission areas, etc. I signed into it on my moms computer (mine was dead) and I told her not to hit "save password." Of course, she did it anyway. I went to delete the save, and I did, and she got mad, complaining how I'm not in charge of these kind of things (even though it is MY password which is for ME only). She's done this before with other school-related topics, such as studying and homework, always with the same excuse of how that she's in charge of me and what I do, even though this is MY education. I've tried talking to her, that doesn't work too well because she'll still do it. What can I do?

Question: My stepson keeps bragging about his mom's new fiancee's wealth - how do I handle?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 12:37 PM PDT

My husband and I are happily middle class. His ex-wife is now engaged to an attorney and our son (my stepson - age 13) keeps bragging (to me only, not his father), about how great it will be when they move in with the mom's fiancee. He says things like "He's really rich so he can afford to just build on another part of the house for me to live in, I'm going to have my own bathroom and queen sized bed", "He's got a lot of money and really nice stuff like a huge TV", etc... I'm really trying to brush this off as kid stuff, but I can't help but be hurt that he is bragging about how much money he perceives the future stepdad to have. My husband has stated that she was 'obsessed' with money during their marriage and would want to buy things they couldn't afford to show off to people. I am not quite sure how to handle this. I feel on one hand that it's normal kid stuff and he needs to be told that bragging is wrong. On the other hand, I feel as though he is saying these things to sort of echo the feelings his mom seems to have about their new 'upgraded' situation. I can't help but feel a bit hurt that she is instilling an air of superiority in him regarding her situation vs. ours, but I don't want to assume anything has been said or implied. Thanks for any advice! To clarify, the fiancee is male. Thanks :) Thank you - we always leave emotions/personal opinions out of discussions with regard to his life at his mom's house. We have him 50% of the time and do everything together, have dinner together every night, go on outings, etc... at his mom's he is left alone most of the time while she does activities with the fiancee or friends. He has never mentioned interactions with the future stepdad and this is all I've heard about him so far, with the exception of "he's nice".

Question: How far should a child go in helping a parent?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 12:27 PM PDT

I'll just be blunt. My parents gave up on life 30 years ago. One is a drifter and one is a mentally ill hoarder. None have shown interest in me in last 20 years. No real communication. Meanwhile, I have learned all my lessons the very hard way, I am gainfully employed, put myself through school, responsible, and self sufficient/responsible. I believe in karmic entanglements, and I believe I "chose" my parents. How far should I go in trying to look after them? They are resistant, stubborn, sick and stuck. They did a lousy job as parents, and I was completely abandoned by age 16... I'm tired of feeling like something is owed, when all I ever felt all my life was this sick feeling that all my parents ever wanted was to be rid of me. And still, I rose. How to I cut off that tie, and never dance the karmic dance with them again? The reason I ask is bcuz I have done a lot for my mother. I have found out she has sold things I have given her. Like a TV, a stereo and a laptop. My father is homeless, and he wants me to beg him to come and live with me and uses this wimpy voice. Hasn't worked in decades. Tired of being worried sick over them and feeling like if there was something I could say or do - I could undo and everything would be okay. But that's magic. And there is no such thing. And that hurts.

Question: What should I do about being disowned?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 12:15 PM PDT

My Mother passed away last month and she left the house that we shared to me. I have always taken care of my Mother because I love her. I never wanted anything from her. I paid the majority of the bills including the mortgage on the house for 18 years because she would not have been able to keep the house otherwise. I am a single Mom and she helped me raise my Son while I ran a business from our home for 15 years. But now my Brother has chosen to disown me because I wont sell the house or mortgage it and give him half. My Mother didn't want that and she made a will stating her wishes. She told my Brother her wishes and he was unkind to her about it. My Brother has a house, he and his wife make four times as much as me. My Mother gave him money and gifts and took his whole family on a trip where she paid for everything. She even forgave all the loans that she had given him that he never repaid. It still isn't good enough though. My eldest niece, sister in law and her sister have been attacking my character through mean texts and messages on Facebook. They want me to sell or never be apart of their family. I am already suffering from the loss of my Mom she was my best friend. Now the only family that lives in the same town as me hates me. What should I do?

Question: I moved to my husbands city after marriage 2 years back.I delivered a baby 5 months back & lost my dad 1 month back.i stayed indoors always?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 12:00 PM PDT

I told my husband that I'm feeling depressed & need to relax & requested him to take me on a drive to which he replied "take the car go with my mom" then I told him to at least take me for a walk in a nearby park & he said "go alone".his city is still new to me.I went out on a long drive with him only one day but his family called us back.why doesn't my husband take me out like other husbands though he goes out with his family

Question: Ex husband s new girlfriend is friends with my mom?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 11:50 AM PDT

My ex and I were dating for 6 years and married for 1. He lived with me and my mother for the most of our relationship. My mother also disliked him for most of our relationship. After he and I separated last year in march he broke into my apartment while I was at work and destroyed or stole about half of my belongings. I moved to another state so I no longer had to live in fear of him coming over and breaking in again or telling me disrespectful, awful things. He still lives close to my mom though. He and my mom still talk and now that he has a girlfriend, his girlfriend is constantly talking to my mother, posting on her Facebook, asking my mom to make her things. I have told my mom that this really bothers me. That I feel like she has taken my exes side in everything. Especially since she refuses to even try to accept my boyfriend even though my boyfriend and I just celebrated our one year anniversary. It is destroying me. It feels as if my mother prefers my exes girlfriend over me, her own flesh and blood. I don t know what to do anymore. Every time I try to talk to her she says how his girlfriend is always sweet and nice to her and she sees no reason to change any behavior. Is it just me? Should I be this hurt and weirded out over this situation? How do I get my mom to see my side of this? Help!

Question: Hello. I would like to know the best way to tell my older sister that i cannot take care of her children anymore!?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 11:48 AM PDT

Question: What to do with a dysfunctional and toxic family?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 11:46 AM PDT

Background: My mom passed away in 2013, leaving me and my 5 other siblings behind. My dad moved on very quickly, is very disrespectful to his children and my mom, and moved on very quickly to a woman who is just as neglectful and toxic (she even threatened me while I was 13 weeks pregnant). My older sister is also a drama starter and is constantly bringing negative energy around me. So, now I have a 7 month old daughter. My main question is, if my family is this negative and toxic, should I keep her away from my family (this would include all birthdays, family events, holidays) or do I suck it up and let her go around them? I don't want her growing up around constant negativity but I don't want to be the reason she doesn't know my side of the family either.

Question: What the hell is weong with my sister?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 11:42 AM PDT

So my twin sister is crazy! Theres times, if we fight about stupid stuff, she starts to punch me and kick me till i start to cry. And when i start to cry, she still continuest. Now it has been 2 times if i havent stopped crying she comes with a vaccuum, and punch me with it, and it HURTS. Btw. I never fight her back, because she is much stronger than me and i just dont know, i cant. And it hurts A LOT when she kicks me, wow... and if she goes pass me, she always shows me her middlefinger, IT PISSES ME OFF. And if i speak, she mimics me all the time. This is so hard... we have went to this therapist kind of a thing, who says what we should do etc. but it doesnt help. One time my twin sister said, she doesnt want to go to the theraphist, because she wants this to continue. She has already threatend to kill me 2 times. Whats wrong with her?

Question: Death Notices for Dorris Dale Foster, Bartow, FL.?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 11:40 AM PDT

Question: My parents wont let me go out or hang out with certain friends?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 11:39 AM PDT

My brother is 1 year older than me. Out of nowhere my brother will just say hes "going out" and my parents say ok no questions asked. I am 16 in the 10th grade but every time i ask to go out they always ask for every detail. (where when why and with who) my parents wont let me go to any parties my friends are going to. my parents hardly ever let me sleep over anyone's house. For example : last month i asked if i could go to the beach and then sleep over my friends house. i told them that my friend was driving us there and back. my parents immediately said no. the same night my brother said he was going camping with friends and my parents said ok. they didnt ask with who, or where, they just said ok. now i would understand my brother is older, but he did the same thing when he was 16. so its not an age thing. It might not sound that bad but i just wanna go out with friends. my parents are way to over protective. what should i say to them?

Question: How to convince my parents to let me control my life?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 11:04 AM PDT

I live with abusive family members, I should point out first of all. I signed up for college, got straight As to try and get a scholarship, and was hyped up all year that I was finally moving out of a toxic environment and living on my own. And what do you know, Fafsa hates me and only gave me 1000 in loans. So I m forced to do my courses half time online. I m signing up for jobs, but if I stay at home and go to work in Florida, how will I get to California in the future and work as a concept artist in the industry? I want to sign up for the Disney College program internship in hopes of making money, moving out the house, and making connections with people. But apparently, I can t do that either because they "don t give you a degree", even though I m still going to be taking my college courses online. I m looking up concept art online classes from industry professionals themselves, in hopes of saving money and learning more. But I can t do that either because "they don t give you a degree". So basically, I m not allowed to do anything unless there s some type of degree involved. The industry doesn t care about degrees, they care about your attitude and portfolio, but my parents won t allow me to do what I want. They don t see choices. They only see a future they envisioned. So how can I reach to them and let them know the truth? Each time I try to explain, they shut me out or come up with some other excuse. Classes begin in three days and I can t even get ready. I should also mention that my dad wants me to stay at home and work at McDonalds for the rest of my life. He dropped out of college and thinks that I should do the same. My mom graduated with a degree, and she thinks that a degree is the only way to get a job.

Question: At what age would you allow pro-choice family around your first child?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 10:57 AM PDT

My wife and I have been discussing it. We've agreed that four would be the best age to introduce our coming daughter to my parents.

Question: What should i get my daughter for her sweet 16?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 10:55 AM PDT

I know she likes sephora and designer purses but what else do you guys think? She's very girly. She doesn't have a lot of friends because we just moved so a party wouldn't work. What do you guys think?

Question: Stuck with family that does you wrong?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 10:54 AM PDT

screw me on a trip thought we would have a blast anyway they stuck me with the mother n law. our rooms next to each other on way to airport they told me change their room . it was so far from ours stuck with mother n law. no help no getting to see stuff as she could not walk good and would not let me leave her. anyway i was set up cost a lot plus a real bust as mother n law was mother n law ugh. kicker is whole trip was trying. since then they got in my faces smiling and acting like we were the close like we were but not anymore. plus they told rest of family i was crazy and ruin their trip?i think that was me not them. i have not want 0 to do with them for 2yrs. now my kids mad at me as it is upsetting their friendships with their kids. now i got to be friends with them and its a killer . i decided i would meet at coffee shop and keep conversation light. but they are never welcome at my home and i never plan on stepping foot in theirs. i do not understanding why they thought after that awful trip i would ever want to set sights on them again. i mean now i am forced to as my kids on my case so i told them ok. could you do this? i must admit i say i will do this but wonder if i can. they go on never said they were sorry i still want to say why do i have to do this when in my heart i don't want to. to me its like lying and playing games . i feel stuck in the middle. as i promise my kids. they were upset i mean if it were them going thru what i did would feel different

Question: I don t get why my mom hates me?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 10:41 AM PDT

When I was little my dad cheated on. My mom he still does they have a child now and my mom is still with him me and her where close and now all she does is yell at me to do things I already did or was going to do .whenever I sad or crying she just laughs at me she never listens to how I feel or what I think she likes my brother more than me and I did nothing wrong she got a job and my brother was the one that was always there for me but eventually he grew up and started a life my mom told me I have to get used to being alone and I did and now she wants my cousins that hate me and that I hate to come live with us .i just don t see why she doesn t care about how I feel anymore I once told her I wanted to kill my self to see what she would say and she said do it

Question: My mom talks bad about me behind my back?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 10:25 AM PDT

I just heard my mom saying some pretty hurtful things behind my back (to my dad) and now I'm wondering how long this has been going on and for how often.. She's not a bad person, I love her, of course. But she plays both sides. She acts like she's on my side and then turns around and says hurtful things. I don't understand why we cannot just create a dynamic where we can reach a compromise instead of her picking fights over very minute things. She does childish things to try to "show you" and I just really don't get why.. What I do is never enough, I've had to overcome a lot of personal things and I'm thriving and moving forward in my life and still, it's not enough. Even accomplishing everyday goals.. When I'm happy with myself because I've gotten a lot done, to her, it wasn't done fast enough. I know that being satisfied with myself is the most important but still, we all want to have a healthy dynamic with our parents. Sometimes she makes it very difficult. I know my dad agrees but he'd never admit it.

Question: Should I let my 14 year old drive a car?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 10:10 AM PDT

My daughter is 14 and wants to drive, she just got her driver's license. Should I set limits about where she can and can't drive to? We live in a country where the minimum age for driving is 14 and I think it's too young, it should be 16 or older like in the USA. Kids are getting into more accidents related to driving incidents because of it.

Question: Who should I live with?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 09:51 AM PDT

Im leaving my mothers soon, but I dont know who to live with. My older sister has helped me so freaking much and I owe her my life and I know shed be able to provide for me. I only have 3 years to go and Id get a job. But my dad is willing to leave his gf who hates the fxck out of me to take care of me, but I only have 3 yrs left. When I leave he'll be all alone. He has a new family and a stepson and they love eachother and I cant break that but idk if I can oppose on my older sister bc she has a family too. Its really hard to decide but I cant stay with my mom or Ill kill myself b4 Im 17. I just need additional guidance. Id ask my therapist but my mom doesnt take me there anymore.

Question: Really starting to question Christianity and God's tendencies himself.?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 09:51 AM PDT

First off, no God nor Jesus loves me. My grandmother is a pastor. My sister is mentally handicapped and my mother is somewhat handicapped and dyslexic. My grandmother tells my mother how she will knock her teeth out if she disputes her (even though my mother was right). She makes fun of us on the phone and she yells at my mother and even one time started punching her in public. (My mother will be 50 next year). My grandmother tells my mother how my sister's clothes embarass her. She once told me to look and the mirror and told me to ask myself "Do you really think it's ok to go outside looking like this, with you hair all crazy" She talks about us, called me the neighborhood hoe once, acts out when her friends are over, ALWAYS humiliating me. She says how the Lord tell her certain things, like how my bestfriend was secretly gay, but he won't tell her how i tried to commit suicide at 12 and how i was raped by my half brother. She get in church on sunday, preaches, speaks in tongues, has everyone adoring her, but at home my grandmother slouches around, doesn't even cook or clean for herself (but yells at us when we mis-do it) favors my cousin over us (she even has said so herself) and threaten to seperate us and put us in foster or group homes. She gets my mom and sister's disability/food stamps, but doesn't even buy us clothes. I still has jeans from 5th grade, but she yells at me when my pants are too tight? at this point...f*ck god. I feel like he loves certain people. ok noone else answer since noone seems to understand where im coming from.... im not ranting im trying to convey myself as much as i can but noone seems to understand.....im not angry, mostly depressed

Question: Is it possible to still date both of them?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 09:47 AM PDT

I have been seeing 2 women for the last 6 months. They both know about each other but they both still have a problem with me seeing them. I was on a date last night with J and Cee Cee show up at the place that we were hanging out at. I walked away and they both followed me outside. Cee Cee kept insisting that I chose. She said since we are here right now why don't you tell us which one you want to be with. You keep lying and telling me that you aren't seeing her anymore and here you are out on a date with her. When I didn't say anything and started to walk away Cee Cee started fighting me. She started hitting me in the face and the back of the head when I turned out. J pulled out her mace and threatened to mace Cee Cee if she didn't leave and Cee Cee left. Me and J continued on with our date. When we left the place we saw that Cee Cee was still parked outside waiting for us to leave. She didn't get out the car and say anything though. I'm wondering should I call Cee Cee today or respond to her when she calls me? I want to keep seeing both of them but I don't like that Cee Cee wants to fight all the night. How should I handle this?

Question: Partners mother had an affair six years ago and takes her guilt out on me the only female to ever come into the family unit, what can I do?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 09:35 AM PDT

Question: My parents never talk to me?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 09:24 AM PDT

Honestly it's so f*cking annoying trying to have a conversation with them because they always just reply 'mmm' or 'yeah', that kind of thing. They never actually have a proper conversation with me or make any effort whatsoever. Wtf am I meant to do?

Question: My step brother mother died but my father gives me his right what to do?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 09:12 AM PDT

my brothers mother died recently, my father is out of country but gives me rights over my sibling the person that has my brother refuses for me to talk to my brothers since their mother death. refuese to give me addres,what can i do to get my brother.

Question: My grandma (who i live with) is letting her 42 year old son and his wife live with us and they don't have jobs and aren't doing anything.?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 09:06 AM PDT

They just sit in the house all day and take showers all the time and eat our food and leave messes. They are always asking for money, and my grandma has no job, so were very out of money at the moment. whenever i try to talk to her, she just ignores me, like I'm some child. Well, I'm 15. its like she's trying to ignore the problem, but its kinda hard when they're sitting on our couch 24/7. What do i do? its really pissing me off, watching her get manipulated like that, and she's not listening to me! last week when his wife got out of jail, she told him that they needed to find somewhere else to stay, but he didn't really listen and just shrugged it off. And whenever i tell her to make them go, she uses that as an excuse, but they have no ******* intention of leaving, ever. Also, when i was a kid, and we were living in our old house, she let all her 3, druggie children live with us. It was the same thing. Well now I'm older and i can see the manipulation happening and its ******* annoying and I'm about to go crazy and kill them. HELP

Question: How to politely tell kids parents that their kids are not respectful.?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 09:06 AM PDT

My wife and I are the newest members of our neighborhood and when we moved in lets just say that there were no welcome parties with cookies etc. It took almost a year before anyone would even wave to us let alone say hello so they are not the friendliest. Most of the other houses are multi family renters and most have kids. There are about 8 or 9 kids who all play at the house right next door to ours and they frequently wind up in our yard, cutting through, running, playing tag etc. That doesn't bother me...what bothers me is when my car has scratches on it, our plants get trampled, they use our garden hose and the kids are on our porch etc. We've spoken to the kids numerous times about the rules and the parents could seem to care less since we've never heard them yell at them for being on our property. It's gotten to the point where we have to talk to the parents. What do I say to the parents without accusing their kids directly (there is so many it's hard to tell who has done what) and without making the situation more difficult to manage in the future.

Question: What would u advice me?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 09:03 AM PDT

So my sis is engaged its bn 3 years. I moved with them last year and lately ive noticed some of his actions.Im not always home but the times im there i cought him staring at me or tryin to come and sit close to me. At first i thot it was my idea,i wasnt sure till i cought him trying to look inside my tshirts while hes sitting next to me. And my sis is there but shes not looking! Sometimes he speaks to me in his language cz hes a foreigner and im telling him i hv no clue what is he saying but he keeps looking at me and talkin and thats so creepy. I started feeling so uncomfortable, everytime i go to the bathroom, im scared that hes looking from the key holes or when im in my room im scared hes somewhere watching me, i dont know how to deal with it. I get so much paranoid, i dont hv anywhere else to go and i havent told anyone. My sis always takes his side even tho he is treating her like ****.He shouting at her all the time, he commands her to do things for him and shes running to do it, he swearing a lot and makes her cry he has no respect to her. Why is he looking at me with that way, a man who says he wants kids and family with my sister and they are trying for one now. Who does that. everytime i try to talk to her shes not listening she says shes good with him and i should look my own business so now i dont have the heart to go and tell her what hes doing i feel so bad and i dont want to b the reason for making her sad or break her heart

Question: How do you deal with a relative who has screwed you over? i wish never to be where she is.?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 09:02 AM PDT

after two years my kids are now mad at me. well i never done nothing i just wish she would fall off the face of the earth. we went on expensive vacation only to find out she changed her room on the way to the airport and i ended up taking care of her mother and she hid out and had fun. i could not even see the places we went as i was stuck caring for the mother. i was still ok but on the last morning we finally caught up with each other like where have you been we had so much fun on those tours. her mother could not walk far enough to get on tour buses . i felt she threw it in my face. i wanted to cry. what a waste of money and a horrid vacation . then she told others i was crazy and ruin her trip. like she took on my part. now my kids mad as i want nothing to do with her. funny thing is right after the trip she kept bothering me getting in my face smiling and inviting me over . like she became her old self like before our trip where she used me. i say she is slime . for my kids sake i told them i would try to make nice nice. mind you she never told me she was sorry or explain herself. i am trying to figure out why she would do such a thing ?other than she is slime. lol how would you deal with this? i am caught as now i look like the bad guy but i am hurt and upset. i decided i will try but going to each others house out just meet in a coffee shop and keep it light. how would you handle it and be nice?

Question: Mom acting very stubborn and now I can t get my passport?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 08:47 AM PDT

We were supposed to go get out passports and finish things up but when I woke up I realised that my sister who I wanted to come isn t coming anymore. So I asked my mom if we could or would go another day. Then she picked up on my morning 15 y/o moap and got mad at me the got really mad at my sister telling her that I don t want to go and it s her fault. Getting her mad at me now. And so now she is refusing to take me to get my passport and won t listen to reason like a pre-teen throwing a tantrum. Help

Question: What do you about this whole situation?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 08:45 AM PDT

This told me her daughters feel on breasts and *** all the time out in public. She told someone else the same thing and said I would be next. I went over her house and she took a bath with the door open & talking to me while washing up. I don't know her that well , I never seen her before & and we have no relationship. I posted some pics and she put heart eyes on them, she started bending over in front of me a lot lately. And I posted a status and said you can do whatever you want just do it, and she replied "for sure" I asked her did she know what I was talking about and she "nope but it sounds good" and I was talking about sex actually on that post.

Question: My moms bf lets me watch them have sex?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 08:00 AM PDT

I'm glad he hurts her too, she feels good in sex time but he beats her in the house..im happy about it because she cheated on my dad many times and lied. My dad had 2 jobs while she stayed home and cheated and did drugs. I'm no disgusting, if you saw what she did to my dad then you would be on my side, my dad always believed her, once I told him what she did when he was at work and he still believed her. my dad is broken now.

Question: What would you think when someone tells you this?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 07:40 AM PDT

What would you think when your step mom tells you" your aunties are weird because they sleep with each other, and they will screw you if you let them screw you"

Question: I need some serious advice!!?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 07:37 AM PDT

Hi so I'm a teen, female, and I'm completely embarrassed. I made a post that said that I liked someone. My brother found it and he knows the person. Both my brother and my sis think this person is weird. I think my brother showed the post to the person I like and my sister. I'm REALLY embarrassed and I don't even like this person anymore. What do I do? Now this person thinks I actually like them but I don't!! I'm embarrassed and I don't even know what to tell my sister. IT'S SO AWKWARD. I didn't totally say the person's name, but their age. How do I describe it in such a way that convinces my sis that it's a different person, but just the same age??

Question: Is 6.7 miles too far to drive?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 07:29 AM PDT

My dad says it is. To come visit me. Now he says it is 9 miles cuz he looked it up.

Question: Why do some people live to destroy others?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 07:18 AM PDT

I personally met a few people that seem to be the DEVIL! They don't love anyone, or wish anyone well, they live to envy and thrive o the misfortune and the suffering of others. They don't LITERALLY wish anyone success. They are like vampires, sucking out the humanity, happiness of anyone they could get there hands on.

Question: Caught my sister having sex, help?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 07:14 AM PDT

I am a 15 year old girl, and I caught my sister (16) having sex for the second time. I was just at home doing some schoolwork downstairs. My father at work, my brother at school, and my mother died a few years ago. I had to grab some more books from out of my room which is upstairs. When walking up the stairs I heard some weird sounds (which I didn t recognise at first). When walking up the stairs you first get to my sisters room. So I got there, and the door was slightly opened. I looked inside to discover my sister and her bf having sex while both loudly moaning. Shocked as I was, I stood there for a moment. But as I stood there my mind filled with all sorts of different thoughts, I was angry, scared and disturbed by the image I had just witnessed. They didn't seem to notice me standing in the doorway. I slowly and quietly backed away into my own room. When I got into my room I started crying, I jumped into my bed and put my pillow around my ears, because I could still hear them loudly moaning in the squeaky bed. It took an hour before I dared to go out of my room again. I just can't get the images out off my head. I already hated her bf but now it just got ten times worse. I don't know what to do, I even had nightmares about it. I didn't mind the thought she might not be a virgin or that her and her bf could have had sex. But now I've witnessed them do it I'm just terrified and super angry. I don't really know why but I feel like I've lost her forever. Plz help

Question: IF A CASE IS IN FDP(FINAL DECREE POSITON) AND THEIR ARE ONLY A FEW DAYS FOR FINAL HEARING CAN THE CASE BE REOPENED ONCE AGAIN?IF YES ,HOW?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 07:13 AM PDT

Question: I'm tired of living my life?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 07:13 AM PDT

I'm not suicidal, I know people have it a lot worse than me, but I just hate the life I have. I'm only 18 years old and my dad is in prison and all my sisters are either moved out or in foster care or adopted, only one who 2 years old lives with us and i live at home with my mom who barely does anything and is stresses me out a lot, and I have to either watch my sister, do chores, go to work at my near full time job, or do something else involving work. Every. Damn. Day. And I'm tired of it and almost to the point where I want to take my life. And I have nobody to go to since I only have a few friends and I do online school just so I can watch after sister every day all day. I can't take this anymore, and I'm 18 and want to move in with my sister but my mom says "you can't do that."

Question: I don't want to mail my incarcerated dad, help?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 07:11 AM PDT

My dad is in prison for child molestation. I've completely Xed him out of my life. He recently started mailing me, I've only mailed him one letter back. I hate him. I hate him so much. I want him to stay away from me. We were only close when i was about 6 years old, but he never showed up for my volleyball games or choir concerts. He was always "On a date". Or "working late" even though his deadbeat *** didnt even have a ******* job. My mom wants me to talk to him, but I dont want to talk to a convicted pedophile. She keeps pressuring me, so does my older sister. "He's your father" isnt a good enough excuse. He's also a creep who touches 15 year old girls. (The girl he touched was 15) and im 13. When he gets out I'll be 19. I don't want him around my family, I don't want him around me. But I cant get away from him if my family keeps pressuring me to write him.

Question: I need to make sure I never have to live with my parents again. Help.?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 07:00 AM PDT

I'll keep it short. My parents were emotionally abusive growing up. A good scholarship allowed me to escape to college. It covers most of my expensive while I work full-time making almost nothing. But when it expires, I might have to move back in with my parents. I have six months until I graduate, and success hinges on whether or not I get a good job. Otherwise, what I make now will not cover living expenses. I have 6 months to make this happen. Advice?

Question: Was my sister allowed to get on the computer?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 06:46 AM PDT

On Wednesday July 6th my sister destiny got on the computer and my mom told my sister destiny that she needs to get off of the computer. Was my sister allowed to get on the computer?

Question: My sister hits me?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 06:46 AM PDT

My sister is 32 I am 28 I live with my sister my sister has physically attacked me on numerous occasions I don't know what to do I know she has a drinking problem and needs my help but how can I put up with this today I feel no hope I finished work and I bumped in to her she had a gash on the back of her head she said she ok went to hospital though it did not look that way I said I wish you had come home with me last night anyway we r walking towards the bus stop and she's angry shouting at me and she has giving me money to buy a bus pass as my cash card got sucked in a cash machine in the morning, I don't want to be verbally abused at home I give her her money back I say I go my way you go your s this makes her very angry she shouts head butts me as I'm trying to get passed her and away from her at this point I'm thinking she has money so I know she will be fine I start to walk home she follows pushing me she grabbed my little finger twist it hard I'm gonna cry but I calm down I walk on she yanks my hair out of my head I continue to walk she's following I stop as I know I can't go anywhere I sit she sits I say nothing I few minutes later a police walks by by this time everything is calm but he goes on to say there's been an allegation of assault from public I lie for her said it was just an argument, what can I do I feel helpless I never felt so worried or depressed be4 I do believe I'm the cause if I were calming if I hadn't giving her her money back, pls help me

Question: How to deal with my mom?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 06:29 AM PDT

I love my mom but I feel she's stubborn and very controlling, she doesn't like to hear my opinions when she feels she's right, she's quick to assume and feels her assumptions are right now that I'm an adult 23 years old I feel we clash more because I have my own views on things and I try to stay positive. She always brings up the past about things in the family, my deadbeat father or things in her life that and it's depressing. She never stays on subject. We never could talk about anything in general like a movie or something we're both interested in. She gossips about the church she goes to, it's a small church and the church lost a lot of members but I feel she's brainwashed into staying there when I feel she should leave Ive never told her that because it'll turn into an argument then she judged me at one point about the church my boyfriend and I go to because our church has a lot more members and more opportunities and activities for the community she also feels that our church is liberal. She talks about me, my brother and sister behind our backs which has caused confusion between all of us to where my brother and I aren't close with our older sister because of her lifestyle and it's also because of huge age difference and then she throws God in there to cover up herself and make people think I'm the bad one and I don't listen to her when I do my best to. I'm going to college, I'm come home on time, I clean, I wonder why I get looks when I go around my mom's church.

Question: Why is it so hard for me to talk to my dad and grandpa?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 06:22 AM PDT

I am a people person I like to socialize with others and some people I could talk to for hours and hours. When ever it comes to my dad and his dad my (grandpa) who is also like a father figure to me I just find it so hard to talk to them about anything. This is more my father than my grandpap but it is hard for me even to mention or bring anything up to either of them. I get tense and nervous for some reason they both make me nervous. Has anyone ever struggled with something like this before.

Question: Should I keep seeing them both?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 05:54 AM PDT

I have been seeing 2 women for the last 6 months. They both know about each other but they both still have a problem with me seeing them. I was on a date last night with J and Cee Cee show up at the place that we were hanging out at. I walked away and they both followed me outside. Cee Cee kept insisting that I chose. She said since we are here right now why don't you tell us which one you want to be with. You keep lying and telling me that you aren't seeing her anymore and here you are out on a date with her. When I didn't say anything and started to walk away Cee Cee started fighting me. She started hitting me in the face and the back of the head when I turned out. J pulled out her mace and threatened to mace Cee Cee if she didn't leave and Cee Cee left. Me and J continued on with our date. When we left the place we saw that Cee Cee was still parked outside waiting for us to leave. She didn't get out the car and say anything though. I'm wondering should I call Cee Cee today or respond to her when she calls me? I want to keep seeing both of them but I don't like that Cee Cee wants to fight all the night. How should I handle this?

Question: Is being quiet a good alternative to talking about your problems, if you know you can't do that?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 05:53 AM PDT

The worst part is when my parents ask me how I'm doing, and I can't bring myself to say that they're two of my problems, because of things like taking anything and everything away from me. And I can't talk to anyone in school about it because I can't get along with anyone there.

Question: What is wrong with my sister and her new racial identity and extreme conservatism?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 05:46 AM PDT

My sister and I are both half black/half white. She adores Donald Trump - which is fine w/me. But lately, she's actually said to me that "she's white" and casually disregards the non-white community. She's made enemies online with various ignorant comments and has set off white, religious family members with her over the top conservative comments...She lost a (Mexican) best friend over her extremely conservative viewpoints about Mexicans. She recently said that women do not work as hard when I rhetorically asked why females are not CEOs and if she honestly thought they were not wishing to pursue the title. She sounds completely brainwashed. A few years ago, it was extreme Christianity. She refused to watch anything that was rated beyond PG or said "Oh my god". She told me she somewhat agreed with the westboro baptist church. When I talked with my mom about finding someone (I don't want her to be alone), my sister stepped in and demanded that she was NOT going to get married again. I replied that it wasn't her decision and she looked at my mom and ordered her not to because of the bible. Her religion has dialed down a bit. I was just sharing a story I was affected by that happened in the 90s - a teenage black girl was killed by a cashier because of an argument; the cashier got away with only community service hours. My sister casually shrugged it off and said "Hm. Well at least today it's not like that and we are given equal opportunity." I'm 25; she's soon to be 23.

Question: How to stop arguing with my mom who doesn't have good communication skills?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 05:28 AM PDT

I love my mom, I try to respect her but it's hard when we get into arguments esp. over petty situations that could've been avoided. My brother seems to cause most of our arguments between me and my mom since we were kids now we're older young adults. My brother has a hard time waking up in the mornings for school when I come back from dropping my boyfriend off to work it's 6:30am and my brother is still in bed so I wake him up and get him to school on the other hand my mom has slow mobility in the mornings and can't get up in time to get him to school so I don't have a problem taking him we were all conversating for some reason she says I butted in when she was talking to both of us, I just stated my opinion on why it's hard for him to wake up early which he sleeps hard and doesn't have control waking up early naturally, she's being ignorant as always yelling and not trying to understand the situation and just wants me to shut up without saying anything when it's around me and I'm trying to calm the yelling down and trying to get her to see my point, then after when I got back home from taking him to school she tells I should've kept my mouth shut when they're both talking but how when you start talking to me about the situation and I just stated my opinion and then i said im not going to if im invloved which I already was then she has a habit of threatening me when she feels shes losing the argument and tells me if you don't listen to me you'll find my fist down your throat.

Question: My brother is almost 18 but he's like a spoiled child what do I do?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 04:57 AM PDT

he's never happy no matter what he has he wants to sell his car and get his truck back even though the car is 10 times better than the truck he doesn't have a job because he claims "No one will hire him" He steals money out of our mothers bank account he raids the fridge on a daily basis never had a girlfriend, my parents for some reason are more worried about me and not him though. What do I do to deal with him.

Question: Do you feel ashamed of yourself?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 04:55 AM PDT

I'm a thirteen year old student, am skinny, but I do get along well in class, but at home I try to be quiet all the time - almost little to none interaction with my family (except my father, he's really nice to me, wish I could say the same for my mother, but that's not the way it is so...). We've been struggling financially lately, although my family doesn't tell me, it seems obvious since my brother (who is aged 22) and my mother talks things about money every once and a while. My mother is the type of person you'd like NOT to mess with, she's very strict regarding my grades, she always seems to be the type of person who's (nearly) always mad. Lately in school, there's this girl who I really like and she likes me back. I know it's quite early for relationships, but I always think negatively - that this would end in a total disaster. She's 2"-3" taller than me, has a fair weight, she's nothing compared to me. I just think she's too good for me. Anyway, for me, I don't really feel ashamed, just.. sad inside thinking what I would have turned into if I did the right decisions, but then again I ended up like this so there's nothing to change now.

Question: My dad is a "housewife" that doesn't approve of my boyfriend?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 04:55 AM PDT

I'm 24 and finishing up my last year in university. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years and my dad hates him because of the country he comes from. The rest of my family (mom side) looks at my dad as a lazy moocher because my mom is the bread winner career woman and her father has tons of money so my dad was smart for marrying my mom. He doesn't do anything. He works a part job driving a school bus and he is home most of the time like a "house wife". But my question is why does he feel that he is "better" than my boyfriend? He's only 25 and already has a career and a good head on his shoulders. My moms family loves him and notices his ambition and kindness. My dad hates him for no reason and I don't understand why? My dad always convinces me to break up with him and find someone that's not of that race.

Question: Why blood connection is everything not other connection?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 04:48 AM PDT

Question: What if my parents don't remember me when I get to their house on Christmas?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 03:52 AM PDT

Question: How to tell my sister...?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 03:26 AM PDT

How do I tell my sister she smells like an open can of starkist tuna?

Question: How do I fix the negative relationship my boyfriend and I have?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 02:30 AM PDT

Hello, I am a 23 year old male from the UK and I am in a homosexual relationship with my 25 year old boyfriend. We have been together for about two years now and I guess you could say our relationship has been anything but great. I think it's mainly because we are so entirely different to each other and because I kind of let him do things that he really shouldn't, but I don't know what to do to fix our relationship. I guess you could say he is a really harsh man when it comes to relationships and he isn;t really one for sentimental values in a relationship. He hates cuddling, kissing, holding hands, etc, whereas I adore it a lot and during sex he is extremely forceful, very vulgar, and a few times has even pushed me when I didn't want to. He likes dominance and he's spanked, slapped, hit me before because of it. He can also get pretty violent when he is angry or upset. Like there have been a large number of times that I have had to tell lies to friends and family so that they wouldn't think something was going on and there has been a few times where he has threatened to harm me beyond what could be fixed. He has to know where I am at all times and if he doesn't he won't let me leave from the house other than for work and to the store. I know it isn't a normal relationship, but I love him too much to leave and I really need this relationship to work out, because my last ones have been far from perfect. I need advice on what I can do to strengthen our relationship. Thank you!.

Question: Is my daughter worth losing everything for?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 02:27 AM PDT

I have given up everything to keep my daughter safe, my friends, family, home, great location, benefit money, hd ready television and new xbox, beaches, footpaths, shops, all to flee from social services, all to keep her safe and together with her biological birth parents. As for money, I'd be on the streets by now if it wasn't for some more well off family members paying to keep us going. Me and my girlfriend are both entitled to mental health money, or would be had we not fled the UK, but have to be in this tin pot country for two years before we're entitled to any benefits. We're now living in some dumb farmers village with basically nothing in it, and a bus which only comes every four hours, and are just using a pay as you go internet box (which is expensive) because they won't let me open a bank for various dumbass reasons. I always wanted to be a dad, but never realized how much I'd have to give up to become one. I have been diagnosed with aspergers, and she with depression, they don't want people like me or my partner having children, and I feel I'd do anything including living under a tent to stop them from taking her. They are looking for us in the UK and have non stop harassed family, they have also apparently got some sort of "protection order" out on her. I just feel it in my heart, and did do before we left that they want to take her from us. I'm going to try and stop that from happening of course, but is she really worth it, I've lost everything else...

Question: My parents a forcing me to have a haircut. What can I do?

Posted: 29 Aug 2016 02:09 AM PDT

My hair isn't even that long. It's a bit bushy like Logan Paul's hair. My parents pretty much bully me but I don't care anymore. I'm a depressed **** and I've lost all my friends. I just want a hairstyle that I want. Can I still have that? How do I stand up to them? My dad is a tyrant bully and my mum is very deceptive and sneaky. They'll make me do stuff I don't want to do. They'll make me go out the house because 'We're going out as a family' when all they do is either ignore me or say how bad my hair is. I want to kill myself but I know I'll just go to hell for sure then. Someone help please and thanks.