Family: Question: Scared of my mom for no reason?

Question: Scared of my mom for no reason?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 02:16 PM PDT

She has this threatening demanding and loud voice and I've been too scared to go down all day. I didn't even eat anymore. She told me to put stuff in the dishwasher but she's so scary and I don't even know how to turn it on. She's abusive too and I'm normally not scared of her but today I just wouldn't dare being around her.

Question: My mom is smoking, and I CAN'T get her to stop!?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 02:11 PM PDT

Alright so, the deal is, my mom smokes EVERYDAY. I'm talking like 2 cigarettes a day. Yesterday I was bawling my eyes out because she won't stop. She has smoked since probably even before I was born. I know this isn't very much help, but when I get the chance, I smack the cigarette out of her hand, stomp on it, take the pack, smash it, then throw it away. This of course, only makes her more angry. Everytime, even when I ask politely, she says "SHUT UP!" or "LEAVE ME ALONE, I CAN ALWAYS QUIT SOMETIME ELSE!" And you know what else? She bought a Nicotine patch and Nicorette gum literally two months ago, and every week I tell her, "Mom, when will you start using the gum?" Then of course, she just even argues "I WILL, I PROMISE I'LL STOP ON MONDAY." My dad and my sister don't care. She even once grounded me for throwing away her cigarettes. Honestly, she has probably spent more money on cigarettes this year than how much my dad makes in a month. I need this to stop, because I know some day, she's going to regret doing this, and die. I love my mom, and I don't want to her to leave us without one. Any help?

Question: How do I get my narcissistic mother not to scream at me if I am not with her all day on her birthday or Mother's Day?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 02:03 PM PDT

I always call her and spend at least part of the day with her. She wasn't with me on my birthday last year and I didn't attack her. She even forgot until evening and then realized and called me. How can I get her to grow up? She is 52 for crying out loud. By scream at me I mean get mad, not literally scream

Question: Why do people put their hands on kids chests when taking pictures?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:43 PM PDT

Question: 17, pregnant and running away?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:36 PM PDT

I m 17 and pregnant, but I haven t told anyone aside from long distance friends. I m only four or five months along. I haven t been to a doctor yet. My mother passed away a couple years ago from cancer, so I only have my father, who I know for sure would beat it out of me. He s racist, sexist and believes women are weak. Abusing me gives him control. He never hits my brother (16). Due to the abuse, my brother wants me to run away from home (he has no clue about my pregnancy). I called CPS countless times, but all they ve done is make my father get counseling. I have an aunt on my mom s side who I could stay with (I consider her my second mother). I don t exactly know where her house is and I don t want her getting in trouble for harboring a runaway, so I plan on running away to a pregnant teen shelter in Milwaukee to help with prenatal care and stuff like that. Also, I plan on keeping my baby. I refuse to get an abortion or give it up for adoption. My questions are: 1.) Will I be forced home if my dad finds out that I m at a shelter? 2.) Will the shelter be required to send me home if they (the police and/or my father) find me? 3.) If I somehow manage not to be found until when/after I give birth, will I be forced home by the doctors? I also want to know if there s a way that they ll give my aunt legal custody/guardianship of me during/after my pregnancy and of my brother. UPDATE: MY DAD ISN'T THE FATHER OF MY CHILD.

Question: In 2004 I was misguided socially and sometimes imposed on people. Since I am older now and don't do it will most family forgive it?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:35 PM PDT

Question: In 1999 I missed a family reunion on my mother's side and was disappointed. Have I made up for it by going to most events since?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:34 PM PDT

It was the only one I missed in my life. We missed it due to a wedding, the reunion is bi-annual.

Question: In 1999 I missed a funeral for the wife of my great-uncle. I had only met her twice but still feel guilty, how wrong was I, how do I make up?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:33 PM PDT

I offered to go and my mother didn't reply so I didn't push it thinking just the older people were going (I was 12 and it was on a Saturday). So I stayed back but when I asked my mother if any of the cousins went all but one did so my siblings and I were the only ones not to other then one other cousin who was afraid of funerals. How do I make up, I feel so guilty even though I'd only met this relative on two occasions. I know her husband more now and went to his funeral when he died last year.

Question: Is my mom being selfish?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:32 PM PDT

Before I get called ungrateful or anything, just hear me out. For the past two years of high school, I ve been failing a lot of my classes. I m currently working on improving this year, but I still have to make up a bunch of classes. I m only able to make up one class this year so that means I have to try and complete loads of classes and also stay on top of my work senior year. I m trying to have faith but I just don t see myself graduating. I don t want to end up on the streets or have to rely on the government. I m really interested in YouTube and as silly as it may sound, I want to make that into a career. If you didn t know, you can make money off of YouTube, but it does take time. The only thing is I don t have a camera and my phone doesn t take great videos. So I was looking online and Sprint has this deal where if you switch to them you can get an iPhone 6S and your bill will either be the same or somewhat cheaper. I looked at the plan for T-Mobile customers and the bill would actually be $10 cheaper than what we re paying and this even includes the monthly fee for the phone. I have birthday money left over and even offered my mom the $100 she d need to pay for the phone and she said no. She s not against me having a YouTube channel and she knows next year is going to be hard for me, but her reason for saying no is that she likes T-Mobile and refuses to change. It seems selfish because she s more worried about staying with some company than thinking about my future.

Question: Is she overreacting?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:31 PM PDT

So my older sister (she's 24 and I'm 14, yes I know, big age gap) was looking through her clothes and trying things on to see if she should give anything away and she found this old bra she had and asked me if I wanted to have it just for when I need a bra in the future (I don't wear one yet). I really hate puberty, and change, and having to shave, wear bras, periods, etc. I just hate it all! I hate change! So I sort of just froze up and didn't answer because I'm sensitive about this stuff and I don't like anyone bringing it up or anything. She took her shirt and bra off and told me how to put it (a bra) on and told me to stand up so she could see if it could fit me. I stayed frozen and just looked at her because she even knows I hate talking about this stuff! She said to stop acting like a baby for a minute and to try it on. Again, I stayed where I was but I slowly shook my head because I really didn't want to do it. She said just do it. I slowly sat up and looked at her again. She waited a few seconds and just yelled that I was wasting her time and threw the bra on the floor. She then went back to her other clothes and when she was sorting them, she threw them angrily into the piles. I left her room after that. Was she overreacting? I hate having to talk about these changes with anyone (even her) and she knows it. Also, this morning I saw her taking a pad with her to the bathroom so I think she's on her period. This is also the last day she is here (she was visiting home) and my mom wants me to spend the day with her but now it's going to be awkward if I have to and I don't want to tell my mom what happened. It's been like 5 or 10 minutes now and my sister is nice to me again like it never even happened and she said I could come in her room again.

Question: In 1999 I got way too involved in someone's divorce and acted like Bible Belter, how do I know if my apology was enough?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:29 PM PDT

I was a teenager at the time with mood disorders. I am an adult and nice now to the person I offended. I apologized come 2005 to her but haven't since. Do I need to again or was once enough? I said it once but not in a long conversation. I might a 2nd time when her 2nd husband dies (he is older) as he was mistreated by me. Both her and her 2nd husband are good people and the 2nd husband had nothing to do with the divorce as I had been given false info.

Question: In 1999 I hit my parents birdcage and their pet birds both flew away. One returned and the other flew away and died. How do I make it up?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:27 PM PDT

Same question as last year at this time and year before that, how do I make it up on this, the 17th anniversary? I was 12 at the time and having a fit about something. The guilt is like you wouldn't believe.

Question: I'm scared of socializing with my dad. and some other anxiety related stuff.?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:14 PM PDT

My dad is pretty cool and successful all around, but I have consistently gotten bad grades since I started middle school, and consistently missed homework in elementary school, now I'm in high school, still getting bad grades, the school year just started and I've been confident, and I've told a few people that and that so far I've been doing good, but then one of my friends joked about how I'll just fail, it was a joke of course but, it kind of screwed me over and now I'm stressed out, and I haven't done homework since then, I just can't get myself to sit down and do it, and I hate that because I've already made the impression on one of my teachers that I'm gonna fail because he knew my brother and my brother did the same thing. Now bringing my dad in, when I was like 7 him and my mom got a divorce (I still see her a lot, and I'm a lot more comfortable around her) and back then he was so stressed out, and whenever I talked to him I felt like I was just stressing him out more, then after middle school started he'd really started getting on me for my grades (not literally), he took away my stuff and all that and grounded me, but my grades didn't change at all, and he's done less and less of that, but I'm just so stressed out by his presence that I can't talk to him about anything, I feel like he's constantly judging me about slouching and my grades, and whenever I'm around him I just slouch more, not on purpose it just happens, even when he's congratulating me for... doing good or something, I just can't handle him it stresses me out so bad, and makes it seem even harder for me to do good in school, when he's even just at home I lock my door and I'm scared of doing homework because I feel like he'll mention it and just talking to him makes me want to cry, even if I'm making food, if he gets home I'll kind of just stop what I'm doing and just sit down and wait for him to go away.

Question: My father is an alcoholic and my mother says I can't ever see him. Is this unfair?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:14 PM PDT

I feel like she is punishing me when he is the one who is drinking. He is not violent.

Question: My older brother saw me naked?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:12 PM PDT

I'm 14 (a girl) and my half brother is 21, I live with him, our Dad is dead and my Mum is a alcoholic. The other day I was in the shower and I slipped. My arm really hurt and I screamed, my Brother knocked on the door straight away and asked if I was okay. I don't know why but I said "no" and he immediately barged in. I was shocked, I was laying in the shower naked and he just came in without asking me if he could come in. He turned off the water and helped me up and then he put a towel around me. If that was't bad enough he helped dry me and get dressed. He then drove me to the hospital and I had broken my arm. I am so embarrassed that he saw me naked. He just barged in and saw me naked, I don't think I would of been able to dry myself or dress myself without his help but he didn't even ask me if I was okay with it. My friends say that I should be grateful that he even helped me but I feel really awkward when I talk to him, I feel weird he saw me naked. He's been really kind to me since but I just can't thinking about the shower and he's acting like it did't happen. But I feel really awkward around him and just want him to go away, like it never happened.

Question: My grandmas boyfreind is threatening her to take her house away any help.?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:11 PM PDT

My grandmas bf gives my grandma $400 a month to help. Now he thinks because of that he thinks he owns 50 percent of the house. He doesn't live with her or has a PO box. We live in Colorado if that helps.

Question: Why is my mom so overprotective of me?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:11 PM PDT

I'm a teenage girl who grew up in Canada but my parents are both Chinese. I'm only 14 now and my mom has always been protective of me ever since I was very young. The thing is that she's not as protective of my brothers who are 8 and 11 years old but she's protective of me! It's not because they're still children in 3rd and 6th grade, she has always just been more worried about me. She tells me that it's not appropriate to date yet but she doesn't really tell my brothers that much. She keeps repeating things like: don't go over to a boy's house, don't follow strangers when you're walking to school/home, don't take food from strangers, don't take toys or makeup from strangers no matter how much you want them because their intentions are for you to take the items in order to scam or get you inside their cars, etc. and so on. Those are just examples of what my mom has said to me for the past few years. She also talks about how she hears about kids getting in trouble or even pregnant almost every day on the news and from her friends at work. She was worried about me attending a grades 8-12 school when I was an 8th grader be because that means that boys as old as 18 will be around me every day as long as I'm at school. My mom talked about drugs and riding the public bus alone when I first started high school but she let the topics go a bit overtime since she's used to be being in high school now. I asked her once if the reason why she always warned me about dangerous things in this world is because I'm a teenager and she just said no, she would warn me about those things even if I were a 1 year old baby because I'm a girl.

Question: Should I tell my mum my dad is gay?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:06 PM PDT

my dad was an alcoholic. He s been sober for 2 years. Recently my dad logged himself out of his fb account and I offered to log him in again (he is not tech savvy) and he got defensive but I did it anyway. I noticed he d had lots of male friends and there was strange messages like thanks for last night sexy it was amazing but there was no replies and these people were from all over the world and dad said they just kept sending the messages, he d met them on groups like alternative art and Wolf groups but didn t know how to block them. Then yesterday my messenger app alerted me to messages on my dad s account even though I was on mine (I d signed in on my phone to block these men originally) and I got curious. Basically there were many messages that he has deleted now to cross dressers and men, sexting. There s not a doubt in my mind now that my dad is either gay or bi. He s 68, my mum is in her 60s and blind. She ll divorce him if she finds out and he ll move back to where we came from, where my siblings are and my mum will be left without the finance for her home and transport (which she needs) but I also know she would not like him doing this behind her back as she gave me a grilling about the weird messages I priginally saw but he lied his way out of that one. My brother recently got sent to prison and my sister is living with my parents as she and her son are mentally ill. I m currently moving and start uni in 3 weeks and I really don t know what to do.

Question: My Dad ignores my concerns and anxieties. What makes a father this uninterested in helping or caring?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 01:05 PM PDT

I am 25 and male

Question: My mom keeps touching my stuff?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:46 PM PDT

First, I don't have my own room so the living room is basically where my parents let me put my personal stuff in and I have to sleep in my parents room, where I can't put my stuff since there's not enough room. I just use a small part of the living room for a table where I can put some of my stuff. On there, my mom keeps touching my stuff. She cleans my table and puts my stuff away. Whether in another room, or in a relocates them. I always lose stuff because of this. This has been an issue for YEARS. And for years, I would confront or talk to her in a civil way to stop, she saying that it is her house and she gets to touch whatever she wants. But here's the thing, she never touches my brothers stuff, he has his own room and is like a decade older than me. I turn 18 next month but I am not financial stable to move out. Today, she cleaned my little space again and I finally snapped. We started yelling and even hitting each other. That was when she started throwing out my clothes and other personal stuff OUT THE DOOR and threatening to kick me out! I have bruises now and I got my clothes back in and great..I have never got into a fight w her like this before. I need help. I shouldn't have snapped, I know. But this has been bothering me for a long time. I am a teen and I have no privacy. I hate how they always touch my things, even my college/school stuff, just because I dont have my room. I understand they can't provide me a room, but they can at least giv me privacy

Question: How to stop being scared of my mom?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:41 PM PDT

She used to beat me up, but it was always mostly verbal abuse. She has stopped a year ago but I still looked for help. I want nothing more to get away from her but the people helping me are slow because they don't see that I'm in alot of danger and they still looking for space. They also said they'd do more if they saw I had obvious bruises or a black eye. Yes I'm serious guys, who's stupid enough to give someone a black eye or realy obvious bruises? I'm dissapointed because I expected to be taken away the day I talked about the child abuse. But it is what it is now. Why do I still see my mom as a threat though? She has long stopped but if she wants me to do something I get scared and do it out of fear. I know she abused me but that was a while ago, and I'm sure I can stand up for myself now but even that wouldn't work because I'm not myself around her. I've decided to lock myself up in my room, only come out for food and drinks, or to go outside. Ugh I know it makes sense to be scared but it doesn't feel right, and I know she hasn't changed but she's less of a threat nowadays and I need to get it out of my system that she's a controlling manipulative unpredictable monster who'll beat me up for something stupid.

Question: Why do parents make thier kids believe in Santa Clause?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:34 PM PDT

Question: I don't want my little sister doing pageants?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:31 PM PDT

How do I tell my mom? She wants her to do the same one I'm doing and I don't think it's fair.

Question: Got a call saying that the father of my son has gone missing 3 times, drug use, depressed. should I let him see my son?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:20 PM PDT

he's been in and out of his life since the day he was born & no help from him.

Question: My mother is mad I am going to a cousin's for 2 hours on her birthday next week, what do I do? I will be with her rest of the day?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:14 PM PDT

Edit I can be with my mother most of the day next Sunday (Sept 4th) for her birthday but she is mad I am going to my Dad's nephews for two hours for a party. She is divorced from my Dad so she gets jealous when I see him or his family. I want to go because I missed the last event this person had due to a funeral I had to be at in my mother's family in June. My mother is agitated and my grandmother is also agitated. My grandmother has a farm and she is having something for my mother's birthday that I will be arriving at late. As a result both are mad at me and making me feel anxious. I'm an adult so I can do what I want but I feel guilty now, how can I explain this to my mother and grandmother? I get tired of my Mom doing this to me just because of her divorce from my Dad 20 years ago. My Dad won't even be there and I told her that but she is still jealous and I still will be with my mother for several hours Sunday. So what do I do? I am tired of my Mom punishing me because she is still mad at my Dad for not being the husband she wanted back in the 1980's. I asked earlier but all I got was someone with a troll answer. @ Rosalie-----But he didn't leave her, she left him. @ Rosalie----Not that I am still mad at her for it or anything

Question: My Dad is an alcoholic and I am crushed to learn he won't be seeing me this week. How do I get over the disappointment and hurt over this?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:14 PM PDT

Last year he came and I was so happy but this year he isn't. Many years he does not but I was so excited this year thinking he might since he did last year. He often disappoints because of the drinking. How do I get over the hurt and disappointment?

Question: My dad always cursed at me and calls me names e-e?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:13 PM PDT

Whenever my dad gets mad, he always starts cursing and yelling at me. even if it isnt my fault why he's mad. Today, he was driving fast and made the eggs that he bought crack and blamed me for it and kept telling me to shut up. Im not mad or anything because im used to it but its so annoying. My mom doesnt live with anymore and she used to hit me anyways when she did. So this is my only way i can tell whats happening

Question: How do I find out if my Mom's cousin is my Dad like I suspect?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:12 PM PDT

I know they were in a relationship in high school and my mother says she doesn't know who my Dad is. He looks and acts a lot like me. He also has an unusual interest in me but I am afraid to approach him especially since he is married with two kids (one of who acts exactly like me it isn't even funny). How would I like secretly get his DNA and find out or since he is already related would his DNA match since he is a first cousin once removed and thus not determine if he is also my father or not? I am from Tennessee so I don't know what the laws are here. My mother and he were in West Virginia when they had their relations.

Question: My cousin is pregnant and my mother won't let me go to the baby shower because my cousin isn't married. How do I get her to let me go?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:08 PM PDT

It is not like i am going to get pregnant there and I where the virginity ring my mother made me put on at my 13th birthday so I won't get pregnant until I get married and switch it for my marriage ring. So this wedding shower won't change anything. I just want to go and see my friends and cousins. She claims my cousin let the devil into her heart and she says I can go when the baby is baptized but not to the shower. What do I do? I am 16 and it is unfair. My cousin and I have the same friends (cousin is 17). I didn't do anything wrong to get pregnant. I am all for the virginity thing but I don't think I should be punished for my cousin having a baby. It is not like she murdered the baby by having an abortion or left the baby by the dumpster (she is going to put the baby up for adoption with an older cousin adopting).

Question: Former alcoholic dad: What should I do?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:08 PM PDT

My dad constantly makes me feel unwanted and unappreciated. I love my parents but the majority of my life has been spent disagreeing and fighting with him. He is a former alcoholic however he is a current dry drunk. I can't talk to him one on one and have conversations with him that every father and daughter should have. He never makes me feel happy about myself, rather he just tears me down. Any of my successes are never recognized by him. I have come to the conclusion that I will never be good enough for him and I just don't make him proud but I still feel the need to be around him and try my hardest to love him. When I try to do things with him he just compares me to other girls and says I could be like them if I really tried. My question is, should I continue to try to do one more thing with him or should I throw in the towel and wait two more years before I am off to college? I have guilt either way because even if I do give him another chance I will be compared yet again or if I don't then soon enough I'll be out of the house not having done much of anything with him.

Question: How does I son talk to their dad about getting a masturbator?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:06 PM PDT

I'm a 17 year old guy and I've been looking up ways to buy a pocket pussy without anyone knowing. On one of the answers, it said to just talk to your dad about it and that he would understand. How would someone go about talking about that to your dad. Plus what son would want to talk to their dad about that. My parents got divorced when I was two weeks old so as you can imagine I'm not that close to my dad. So maybe there's some bond between a father and son that makes them feel comfortable (or at least more comfortable than talking to your mom) to talk to him that I don't understand. So how would someone go about talking to your dad about that, or about masturbation in general

Question: How to get over something?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:06 PM PDT

I'm 15 and recently started doing pageants around the area I live in. It's just something extra I do for fun since I'm not really a sporty type of girl and the school clubs I'm in don't start up for a couple weeks. My older sister has a title (meaning she won a pageant) a couple months ago. Me and my younger sister don't get along to great. My mom wants her to do the same pageant as me. I don't want her too. Simply because we don't get along and I don't want to put myself in a situation where if we both won, I'd be very unhappy. Me and my sisters problems go way back. should I just back out and not compete or tell my mom? I'm not sure what to do.

Question: My cousin drinks and drives?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:05 PM PDT

I found out that my cousin and her husband drink and drive. They will go out to the bar or to his step dad's house and drink a lot than drive back home and crash in the truck. My aunt lives with them and told them it is not safe and to stop. They won't listen and just blow her off. Is there anything i could do? I'm afraid they won't listen to me either. I also live far away so I would not know when they are out drinking than driving home

Question: How can I get my mom's food stamps back?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 12:03 PM PDT

So this law passed a while ago that any able-bodied adult without dependants that live in your home or anyone from 18-49, you will lose your food stamp benefits. My mom works but she doesn't make a lot and she's 53 so she's technically a "senior" which is supposed to still make her eligible. But because Im 20 and I live with her, they only gave us 3 months of stamps and now their cut off. We need then because right now she's the only income we have. I'm not in school due to my low gpa I had last year so i have to pay back my loans in order for me to return and pay out of pocket for my first semester to get my gpa up. I was taking a break to find a job but that hasn't been easy. My mom is stressed out from how little money she makes from her job and she lost all of her low income benefits because of her no longer having any dependants. It frustrates her and causes her to lash out at me. I have a bit of anxiety so working is pretty scary for me. I've never had a job before. I'm not diagnosed by a doctor or anything but I have self diagnosed my anxiety for a while now. I know I'm holding her back from life by not doing anything. I dont know what to do. My mom says if I wasn't living with her she would still have them. Or if I was in school or at least working or volunteering. But she also says that if I start work and try and apply, I wouldnt be able to get them because I'm on her lease. I don't get that?

Question: Why is my mother acting like this?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 11:59 AM PDT

Ok so I'm 15 and I am seriously getting tired of my mother's b*tching about everything. She always acts when we don't do **** right. Last night I was suppose to be home by 10pm. I got home at 10:30 and tried to sneak in without getting caught. Then my parents was sitting in my room wating for me. My mom scolded at me I'm late and I should have been home a half hour ago. She was like, "Where have you been! You were suppose to be home 30 minutes ago and you didn't even bother to call me or your dad! We were worried sick and YOU COULD HAVE BEEN KILLED!!!!" I told mom, "Mom! Relax I'm sorry. I lost track of time. It's no big deal." My dad said it is SO a big deal because I'm 15 and my curfew is at 10 and I should have called. He got mad that I didn't answer my phone. Then just 15 minutes ago, I accidentally put too much washing detergent in the washing machine and my mom flipped out and started yelling at me! She yelled that she told me several times to not put too much damn washing detergent and now there's soap and water on the floor. I was like, "Jeez mom! It was an accident I'm sorry. I'll clean it up. Why are you giving me an attitude?!" My mom looked at me angrily and smacked me in face and said, "Well tough! I don't HAVE to respect you and this is MY HOUSE! I can act however I want! So don't you dare mouth off at me young lady!" I yelled, "Why is that when I get an attitude, I get punhsed? You guys always do this to me and you never let me say!" Punished I mean. My mom was like, "Because this is MY house and your father and I pay the bills around here so we do and act how we want! You're not equal to us and you's NEVER will be because we lived longer than you! Clean up this mess and go to your room! Move!" and she bumped into me without saying excuse me. RUDE! Why should I respect my parents when they don't respect me. I got rude and they punished me! Why don't they get punished for being rude to me?! Plus my parents don't like my new friends but I don't care. Their MY friend and they can't tell me what to do. My mom said, "In MY house, privacy is a privilege, not a rude so we have the right to take it from you." I called my mom a b*tch and she whooped my ***.

Question: Judgement family?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 11:42 AM PDT

So my relatives (mom's side) are all staying at my home for the month and its getting really annoying. Every single day, they all always have to tell me something they don't like about me. They've said things like- Your hair is so ugly why don't you get short hair, everyone in the family has short hair but you. You know everyone in the family has naturally curly hair, straight hair is so ugly, it's weird how you're the only one with naturally straight hair. Your toes look weird. You need to wear makeup. Your hair is way too thick. Why do you comb your hair so hard? Your nails look so weird have you ever been to a nail salon? You were an ugly little duckling the last time we came, you look a BIT prettier now. (mom told everyone the doctor told me I was 3 pounds underweight.) now I they call me anorexic. I'm a straight A honor student in high school and when my relatives found out, they told me that I was a no life and a loner since I was studying/reading in the summer when I should go out and party. (I'm definitely not a loner) They make these little remarks every single day and even my mom joins in. This ONLY happens with my mom's side of the family. My dad's side never makes remarks like this. How do I get them to stop tearing my already extremely low self esteem down? When I tell my mom that it's kinda hurtful, she just says they're just trying to help you. They always find a way to praise their own kid and tear me down. How do I get them to leave me alone? *Judgemental family

Question: Why can I find my sisters smile between her cheeks?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 11:40 AM PDT

Question: What's a good excuse to tell my mom where I'm getting money ?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 11:38 AM PDT

I got arrested a few times & my mom had to pay fees for what I did and she's going broke because my dad won't give us anymore money and a lot of people have been helping me out by giving me money and I can't tell her that she'll be pissed that I even know these people so what can I tell her where I got the money from ?

Question: My step dad is verbally abusive to me?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 11:37 AM PDT

Okay so Whenever I tell him not to do something he does it anyway and then I ask him not to again and he gets mad then I get a little annoyed and So he gets more mad. He then goes off and calls me and *** and says that I m a brat. Meanwhile my mom never seems to hear what he says to me but more hears what I say. I always get in trouble for sticking up for myself. after we have a little agruement I go to my room and cry because it hurts what he and my mom say because my mom agrees with him and starts calling me the same things.

Question: Do you sometimes wish smartphones never existed?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 11:36 AM PDT

i mean since they became available, everyone lost connection to the real world.. it's really saddening. i cannot talk to a person for 2 minutes straight without them checking their phone for something.. (no idea what the hell they're constantly checking on it). i do not use a smartphone, I use an old flip phone. I usually just use my laptop for stuff like this. i love human contact a lot and i value it. nowadays everyone just buries their faces in that screen and .. it's just irritating. I miss the old days where there were no smartphones. Now you have spoiled 7 year olds with a 600 dollar smartphone, it's sad. I also read that kids now a days will go blind by the time they are 20-30 years old because they have used this nasty technology their whole lives. Who agrees with me? Also, there is now a higher percentage of people with social anxiety because they are so used to messaging people on the phone and not talking for real. Now you have kids inside of their house on their phones. It's also dangerous because we don't know who they are talking to or what they are doing online. Kids used to play outside with their friends and have fun, now it's depressing. Now you have stupid social media. And for Christmas or birthdays children now make their parents buy them an expensive iPhone. Kids have become more ungrateful and ever since smartphones came, the percentage of car crashes has gone dramatically higher. It's so sad!!! and cyber bullying is a big thing now!!!

Question: HELP. My mom has checked out!?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 11:04 AM PDT

My entire family is diagnosed as mentally ill. My dad is an addict, my mom is literally in the KKK, and my sister has aspergers. The other night I was sitting on the couch watching the news with my Mom and my sister. We had a political discussion. Race became an issue and she was complaining that we live in a racially diverse neighborhood. I told her that if she wanted to move then she should get a job instead of being jobless for two years without welfare. She's totally able-bodied and has a great resume in Business actually. She has no excuse. Things got heated and I mentioned her KKK cult with my sister present, and she got up from the couch and physically attacked me. She slapped me so I obviously fought back to get her the hell off of me. I started kicking her to get her away and she threw herself on top of me and it was REALLY bad. My dinner went EVERYWHERE all over the walls. Anyways, I got her off of me and my sister and I went upstairs, thinking wtf just happened. She then stormed upstairs and told me to "get out" and was all in my face. My sister and I left immediately. My phone was very low battery so we turned it off to take a walk. We didnt come back until 2 hours later, we only walked around the neighborhood. Well, she apparently told 5 people I "ran away" and now my friends/family think Im emotionally unstable. Now my mom just offered to give my dad the $600 check she gets for my sister, leave the apartment to me, and "leave". What do I do??

Question: Why is my brother so rude to me, and how to make him stop?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 11:03 AM PDT

Ever since I can remember, my brother has been extremely rude to me. I'm 12, he's 15. Just a few minutes ago, we were with my puppy. My puppy started being rough with our other dogs. He put the puppy in the cage. I told him to stop putting the dog in the cage, and that he puts him in way to much. He then went to insult me and tell me that I just need to discipline him more, which I do plenty of. He argued with me for a bit, and then I told him to stop. I also told him he acts like a 3 year old. He walked away, and right before he left the room he told me to not parent like one. We have these pointless arguments a lot, and I usually ignore them as much as I can, but I'm really sick of him bossing me around. (He's done much worse than that story) What do I do to make him stop and grow up already?

Question: A mi hermano le pico ja pollito cerca del ojo ayuda?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 10:56 AM PDT

Question: Why is it that as soon as someone gets a drop of African blood in them, they're suddenly "African American"?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 10:50 AM PDT

I am a quarter black. I feel no allegiance with "black people" cause I am mostly white.

Question: Do you think this is a silly reason to hold a grudge?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 10:44 AM PDT

My mum has a flashy mercedes car and my dad is attending a bbq. She's currently away and she doesn't like anyone driving her car without her permission especially since it's on a lease. My dad was going to take it just to really show off at the bbq and I thought that was a bad idea because if something happened to the car she'd be really angry. He also has a history of near miss accidents and has also broken the wing mirror of a car. So I told her that he was going to take her car to show off and I didn't expect that she would say I said now he's angry that I told her. The thing is he's the type who only wants to show off and people around my area don't take too kindly to that so I'm afraid someone could key or damage the car out of jealousy. Was I wrong to tell my mum? Well, I just saw him drive off with it lol. Anon you were the only good answer. As to all the rest of you, my mum has worked where she is for 20 long years and she finally has the opportunity to own a nice car and you call that showing off? What about the others with a Lambo? My mum doesn't just have her car to show off, my dad on the other had he has a particular thing and he likes to show he has nice things which is the only reason I said to her what I said. Even then, it was a joke, my mum and I joke back and forth about him showing off so this time I didn't think she would take it seriously. Btw I'm 19. Also, no one else is insured on her car, another reason I didn't think it would be good if he drove it... duh (merlin and coffee)

Question: My dad had heart issues and died in January and his wife is still having a difficult time. She's telling us it's our fault that he died.?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 10:29 AM PDT

She doesn't clean her house and she doesn't have food (she's not able to go grocery shopping, she doesn't understand how to shop for groceries ) we have tried to help her but she's getting worse. She's driving everyone crazy, so now we are staying away from her. She's not taking care of the dog,she doesn't remember to give the dog water and she forgets to buy dog food I do take her dog food but she forgets to feed the dog .

Question: How do you find someone trustworthy to live with your teenage daughter all the way across the world?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 10:20 AM PDT

My daughter really wants to go to New York to meet with a modeling Agency and I don't know if I should let her. She is very responsible with her grades/school work and she is does listen to all of the things I say when I ask here to clean up around the house. I just don't know what to do because she is a really good kid and she really wants this. I am a single parent of 5 children so money is pretty tight around here so I can't just go to New York or anywhere for that matter when she wants me too. So I am thinking about some that I trust to take her there but I don't know where to start. So I need y'all advice on what I should do here because this is a one time opportunity and if this slips away from her then I don't know what I would do then.

Question: How do I tell my overprotective brother I have been cutting myself?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 10:10 AM PDT

I am a guy and the youngest in my family and me and my 2nd older brother are really close to each other. My older brother doesn't live at home with us but we do spend time together because we both go to the same college and he takes me to his church on Sunday's. Anyway I have a younger brother who is two years younger than me who has high functioning Autism and recently he has been getting a lot worse. Like for example he got jealous that my older sister took me on vacation with her because she felt bad that I didn't get in the military and I was sad about not going in and she told my brother why she is taking me but he still got jealous and then he started to be verbally abusive to me and he threatened to hit me even though I am not afraid to put him down if he did. Now that has been getting me depressed and yesterday I cut my arm and I already have been in depression once and that is what made my older brother protective of me and I know my older brother won't judge me but I am afraid he will not let me independent at all because of my cutting.

Question: Why do my parents assume that all of my band shirts are satanic? i just went to hot topic with my grandpa and when I came back they were mad?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 10:06 AM PDT

Question: My little sister is crying what should I do ?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 09:50 AM PDT

My little sister is upset because she read a story about a girl who was killed by her own mother and boyfriend on her birthday. She's glad our parents are dead so she doesn't have to worry about it but she doesn't want a birthday this year she's too scared. Her birthday is in November mine is October usually we celebrate ours together she doesn't want to this year. She said that the girls mother stabbed her while holding her hand over her mouth so she couldn't scream. Before that the mothers boyfriend drugged her to calm her down to have sex with her. She said she's gonna have nightmares tonight she wants me to sleep with her in a way she doesn't she's afraid I'll rape her. She's doing a play with her friend tonight she's too upset she doesn't want to go but she has to. I wasn't planning on going till tomorrow for the last show but she wants me to go tonight. She's still crying. How can I calm her down ?

Question: I can't seem to forgive my dad.My dad, 62, works a very intense job that causes a lot of stress on him.?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 09:43 AM PDT

The main reason why I am having difficulty forgiving him was what he did a week ago. My cousin was having a reception for his wedding in nyc. We live about 2 hrs away so my dad drove there and my mom said she would be the one to drive back because my dad was planning on drinking. Anyway fast forward to the end of the party me and my dad were walking outside while my mom and sister were in the bathroom. I saw him walking towards the drivers side door and said "Dad you can't drive home you're drunk." And he got pissed. He said don't be stupid get in the car but I refused . My dad drank more than a bottle of wine but claimed to be sober enough to drive. He went on a tirade cursing and taking both keys and when my mom asked why he was so insistent on driving he said he had to make a point. Eventually after 45 minutes my mom gave in and let him drive. After that I couldn't even look at him. Him making a point was worth more than our lives and that is something that angers me to no end. But I really would have been fine if he just apologized to us but instead he claims he was justified because he was disrespected because I said he was drunk even though there is no way you can drink 1+ bottles of wine and then be sober in an hour. I haven't spoken to him since because in my life he has never apologized to me or my sisters for any of the hurtful things he has done. Nothing is ever his fault, he's always the wronged party. At this point I am just done with him ..

Question: Will I ever get my associates?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 09:36 AM PDT

My son and I currently live with my parents in Arizona. My husband is stationed in Washington and just came back from a seven month long deployment. We both want want our son and I to move back starting January, problem is, I just started going back to college and although my family are rude and mean towards me and non supportive towards mine and my husband s choice to be a stay at home mother they have allowed me to live in their home for free for as long as I need too. My mother in law takes care of my son while I attended college. If I move back to Washington we won t get any help, we don t have many friends there and my husband said he can help me as much as he can but he will have duty every four days with that being said it will leave me searching for a babysitter who I do not know or placing him into a daycare which scars me half to death. He also wants to start college in early next year and he will have the ability to miss class here and there because of his duty days and obviously the absences will be excusable. If it were up to me I d stay in Arizona and finish my associates and finish my bachelors as well but it would be taking my son away from his father and that is simply wrong. Any advice?!?!

Question: Is it fair to not feed your kid breakfast if they do not get up in time.?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 09:34 AM PDT

My mom's rule is if u don't get up for breakfast I don't get to eat and if your not here for dinner u don't get to eat. I play football and we have late games sometimes. Like yesterday we had to stay at school till 7 and then drive to the game that starts at 9 and we didn't get back till 1 and I didn't get home till 3am. So I missed diner and this morning I sleep past 7 so I missed breakfast. My mom says all parents will agree with her is this true

Question: My mother is mad I am going to a cousin's for 2 hours on her birthday next week, what do I do? I will be with her rest of the day?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 09:22 AM PDT

I can be with my mother most of the day next Sunday (Sept 4th) for her birthday but she is mad I am going to my Dad's nephews for two hours for a party. She is divorced from my Dad so she gets jealous when I see him or his family. I want to go because I missed the last event this person had due to a funeral I had to be at in my mother's family in June. My mother is agitated and my grandmother is also agitated. My grandmother has a farm and she is having something for my mother's birthday that I will be arriving at late. As a result both are mad at me and making me feel anxious. I'm an adult so I can do what I want but I feel guilty now, how can I explain this to my mother and grandmother? I get tired of my Mom doing this to me just because of her divorce from my Dad 20 years ago. My Dad won't even be there and I told her that but she is still jealous and I still will be with my mother for several hours Sunday. So what do I do? I am tired of my Mom punishing me because she is still mad at my Dad for not being the husband she wanted back in the 1980's.

Question: How do I get my alcoholic father to put the bottle down for a few hours while I am visiting?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 09:22 AM PDT

Question: I worry I am a 2nd tier relative because my mother doesn't talk to her brothers. How do I become 1st tier?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 09:21 AM PDT

By 2nd tier I mean only thought of in extreme cases like wedding, funeral, or emergency. Not thought of as a close and fun relative but just "that son of hers". I am 14.

Question: My Dads are mad because I found my mother on the Internet. Should I feel guilty?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 09:20 AM PDT

Question: What do you think?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 09:17 AM PDT

I am 49. I never felt like a father towards my son and daughter. They're both 18. I kicked them out when they were 17. I have always been embarrassed of them, it started at 10 years old when they were both very overweight 5 foot 2 and 90 pounds. I never spent time or bought them gifts for them on their birthday, I spent time on my birthday and for wife's birthday though. Was I a good father? I would hit them often as well with objects on their back whenever they annoyed me. Haven't heard from son and daughter for a year since I kicked them out.

Question: Mia mamma si comporta in modo estremamente pesante?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 09:11 AM PDT

Ciao a tutti! Scrivo per chiedervi un consiglio su come cercare di convivere con mia madre in maniera civile! Non pensate male, lei è una bravissima donna... ma ultimamente negli ultimi anni è cambiata moltissimo. Per esempio, lei va a lavorare due giorni la settimana: ebbene, i restanti cinque giorni altro non fa se non lamentarsi di quei due giorni, ma in maniera quasi offensiva verso gli altri (nel senso che in confronto a lei gli altri non fanno praticamente nulla). Passa le giornate a pulire e pregare, pregare e pulire e lamentarsi di quanto debba pulire e di come odi i due giorni la settimana in cui lavora. Un altro esempio: oggi ha tentato la sua personalissima versione della parmigiana...fette di melanzane crude (ossia non fritte come la ricetta originale), mischiate con la salsa di pomodoro e ficcate nel forno con una sottiletta sopra: UNO SCHIFO! Ho cercato di farle capire che non erano molto buone cercando di non offenderla, ma lei come risposta mi ha urlato dietro stupidaggini da bambina delle elementari offesa tipo "ah si?? I tuoi biscotti mi fanno cagare!"...pace, non mangiarli! Un'altra volta ha lanciato il mio piatto di pasta dalla finestra perché mi ero dimenticata di mettere le posate in tavola, figurarsi! Mio padre in tutto ciò è un santo: mia madre lo tratta di m**** da mattina a sera, urlandogli dietro anche mentre sono in giro, ma lui anzi ride e cerca di non prendersela (facendola incavolare il doppio). Non la sopporto più...come faccio?

Question: How can I get my dad to pitch in around the house?

Posted: 27 Aug 2016 09:06 AM PDT

My parents are divorced, and I literally dread going to my dads house. The house is so messy, and my dad only washes the dishes (which still turn out dirty anyways) and cleaning the litter box. It has happened so many times I lost count, where he never washed the clothes even we're away, so they're always stiff and moldy when I come back and they're still in the washer. He yells about how much the house isn't clean, but I noticed that I'm the only one really doing the cleaning. I see that the cats aren't being fed for, the house is always a mess, and I always have to pick up after him. He has these fumes once and awhile, and although he isn't hurting me or my sister in any way, they can still be a little destructive (hole in a wall from slamming door open, broke a cabinet door, etc) and they just make the house even more dirty. My sister isn't the neatest either, and I always have to pick up after them because they won't. He also keeps "borrowing my money", and he literally used $100 so far. I know that it's my money to begin with, but he doesn't really buy as much as me as he does for my sister. I'm 14, so I can't really have a say on where I go. But is there a way that I can continue to prepare when I'm over his house? Or at least cope with it until I'm old enough to move out? Cause I'm honestly getting sick of this.