I was just hoping to meet anyone who has been through this or a similar situation. I am pregnant from a guy who has been going through a very long drawn out divorce. I could've had an abortion considering the situation but I decided to keep her and my boyfriend has been nothing but supportive. My boyfriend is mid 30's has three daughters who I have not met the mom is very closed off and doesn't even want him around them. The court preceedings are taking forever and honestly he's been working and I haven't really seen him go see his kids for a while (I'm not sure if its because it stresses him out or he's waiting for another try at mediation beforehand) My question is this baby is due in four months (around Christmas) when should he tell the girls they are having a sister. Should I be on more him about it. The divorce is so nasty I try and stay out of it but I'm starting to wonder how this is all going to work. Has anyone been in the current situation or the child of someone who left and had another baby. Any advice appreciated He is still married but he lives with me the family know about me and the baby the wife knows about me and the baby its not like I'm a secret ive been with him through a lot of the divorce. We met when they were divorcing.

When I asked him if he felt any guilt with cheating on me his ex girl he said no I didn't how could he be so harsh. Does it mean he still loves his ex

I know you are...Why are you lying that you aren't? I KNOW YOU ARE!

My boyfriend is 25 years old and I am 21 years old. We have been together for 3 years and I am finishing up my last year of college as an accounting major (full time offer lined up already after 2 internships). My boyfriend completed his Masters and has a full time career set currently. He and I have discussed getting married approximately within or around a year after I graduate - and he plans on popping the question before I graduate (not sure when). We already have our finances set up, jobs/career lined up, and a set (affordable) plan for how we will fund our wedding and where we will live (etc.). We have it all planned out. So I've talked to my father about it and he was supportive of the idea, however, my mom completely got emotional telling me I'm too young, I need to enjoy life first, asking if I'm sure he's "the one", that it makes more sense to just live together and then get married in two years, etc. Then she started crying and giving silent treatment when I was trying to calmly explain to her that he and I have it planned out, that I love him, that it isn't set in stone yet, that he and I feel it is actually financially in our best interest if we do get married and live together, etc. I'm just sick of seeing her lose her mind over this. How do I approach this topic with her? There's no doubt in my mind that I want to marry him. He and I have always had our own shared personal opinion that if we were to live with anyone and we were in a relationship with that person, that we would want to get married before moving in together. I should also mention that we are both religious (Catholic), and share a strong faith together. I should have phrased the sentence better. We believe that it is financially in our favor if we live together, and we faithfully believe that if we are to move in together, that we should be married. Plus, we're both have financial degrees (I'm with accounting and he's in finance with a Masters in Financial Planning). We aren't too worried and definitely understand the ins and outs financially and what we would be signing up for in regards to that with marriage.

My fiance and I have been together for seven months now. I'm 5 months pregnant with our baby. My fiance loves and is turned on by pregnant women so thats not the problem. We used to be super spontaneous and freaky and have sex multiple times a day, and now its once a day usually, at night before bed. Super routine and super boring. It's now day 2 with no sex at all. We've been arguing alot lately, and I just wanna know if anyone had any suggestions on how to spice things up in the bedroom??

She has no job and I do. We are still married.

My wife is 5 months pregnant with twins she keeps telling me she's scared of loosing me. She said she wouldn't know what to do if something happened to me. We're in bed right now she's having a hard time going to sleep. How can I help her feel better ? What should I say to her ?

I know a lot of times she just wants to sleep. But she is still hot to me and I love checking her out. But I understand we can't always do it. I guess it's not a problem, but I don't know what to do.

I am divorced from a previous wife of 6 years (1 kid). Other then if she is being spoken of in contexts with the kid should I never speak of her again?

When I first married my husband 6 years ago, I had no real idea of what he was all about. Over time, I learned that my husband, even though raised by both of his biological parents, he was basically raised that the woman does everything and the husband is allowed to spend money however he pleases. My husband's father spent all of the time he was married to my mother in law, spending all of his paycheck on women, alcohol and gambling and spent all of my mother in laws paycheck on bills and the remainder gambling. My mother in law never had a backbone so my husband was basically raised in a chaotic situation. Any way, my husband believes that he doesn't have to do any work around the house at all. For instance, rather than washing clothes, he'll stand and yell about us not having any socks. Then when I say "Well why didn't you wash any?" He says that I'm blowing things out of proportion. We have the same stupid arguments constantly about him helping around the house. He doesn't work full time, he just completed college and works only part time. I'm physically disabled after an accident that causes me to now be in a wheel chair full time and so I'm unable to do many of the tasks required. If he brings me laundry, I can fold it but I can't do as much as he can do. I don't hate him, I just hate that he's turned into someone I don't even know any more.

My wife and I are both black and I have been married almost a year and a half. We are a both loving and lately about 3 weeks ago she asked if she could try dildos out and I said ok if you wanna try. She has been using bigger and bigger dildos and when I have intercourse with her she just lays there bored no emotion. I'm really troubled hellp...

Petitioned for divorce in 1997 in orange County CA but don't ever remember receiving a divorce decree? Is that what I'm supposed to receive once my divorce is finalized? Is there anywhere online I can check? Thx!

Is it me or am I choosing the wrong men! I've been engaged and I've been in a relationship for 8 years!

alright so I ve always dreamed of falling in love and marrying my soul mate and all, you know the typical love story a girl has in mind. so like I ve always had this feeling that the man I fall in love with and will marry is going to be a black guy. I feel like God is going to make me fall in love with a black guy and I honestly don t want to marry a black guy. I m not trying to be rude or anything. Like my mom told me that she always knew I was attracted to darker skin tones than mine and that my crush was black. Like I do like guys who are like on the tanner side but not black. And like I feel like I always have to interact with a black person, like God purposely puts black people in my life. And I just feel like he s gonna make me fall in love with a black person, I feel it, and I hope it doesn t happen but I don t know what to do, I don t know what to feel. Like do you think I m going to marry a black guy? Or have you ever felt this way? And yes I know love is love and I will get a ton of hate for this but please try to understand where I m coming from. I just need advice. Please, thank you

encounter....How do i get rid of this ? help what do i do :/

I was married 3wks ago and I still am horrifically upset by my wedding. My husband did not help at all. He sat there talking to his friends the entire time. Over half of his guests never came up and said a word to me. Then while I was setting up the buffet with my man of honor, my husband's friends and family just started eating. By the end of the night food was gone and I still hadn't eaten or Sat down. We didn't get to do toasts, dances or anything that I had wanted to do. I am trying to get over this because it feels petty, but in every photo I'm running around or dripping sweat because I paused to take a photo...... And of course my husband doesn't understand and even tells his friends who apologize to him about not talking to me that it's ok. How in the hell so I get over this....?????

I've been working at my new job for 6 months and my coworker and her husband helped me move out of my abusive ex boyfriends into a new apartment. The thing is I make a lot less money then her and I am on a budget so what can I get her to show my appreciation? I wanted to get them a nice bottle of rum or something but her husband is serving 7 years probation and he isn't allowed to drink. So I want to get something they both can enjoy

My husband and I have been together 5 years I have 3 boys from a previous marriage and 1 daughter together. My husband has always had a short temper and he hurt my son by accident 2 years ago. The state investigated, cleared it as an accident. Well 3 weeks ago he hirt my youngest son who is 6. He stepped on his head and left a large abrasion. When I asked my husband what happened he lied about it but you could clearly see a shoe print. I called an abuse hotline asking for advice and they traced the call. My husband got arrested then bailed himself out. Now he has a child abuse charge pending. So it's been 3 weeks he moved out and is mad at me for everything. Just cares about seeing his daughter. This has been an emotional roller-coaster. Well he also has a large settlement coming his way from a work comp case and it's not like I just want his money but seriously I have struggled financially right along with him this whole time I'm even losing my car because of it. My mom says I should file an order of protection for the kids, file for child support then file for divorce. He's acting so shady I'm starting to agree. He started recording our phone calls, and keeps telling me he wants full custody of our daughter. I want her to see her dad but she needs me, I'm her mom...is it the right move to file an order of protection? Will a lawyer be able to help me with this settlement issue? He opened a new bank account without me so I fear he wouldn't willingly give me any of it.

I'm thinking about my past and I did not know why I always feel like I have to depend on him, not financial stuff but rather than emotional. I think he was happy to see me sad because he thought if I was being sad and terrified of losing him then I must loved him. I hated seeing myself in that position. I hated the stupid horrible feeling. I cried so much. Why is that? Was I only weak girl out there that I was emotionally manipulated by my ex? He could be so wrong but the way he talked, he made it all my fault. I finally left him. What was wrong with me? What was broken inside me?

My "ex husband" and I have been going through a divorce for 2 years now. It's still not finalized but we have both lived in our own places for 2 years now. Everything has been separate for 2 years including custody of our 4 year old son. He cheated, I left, he wanted me back, when i started wanting him back he all of a sudden changed and started dating other girls. I've been severely depressed for the past year and a half and it just got worse because he brought his New Mexican gf home to stay with him. He brings these girls around our son as well. Our son says he wants to stay with mommy because daddy never spends time with him. I'm assuming he's spending time with her more than his son. I'm still depressed and even more now. How do you get over your ex? We were high school sweethearts and we were together since we were 14 and we are 25 now. It's really hard on my and not so hard on him. You can tell he's happy. When will I get to be happy?! I hate this feeling. I cry all the time. I barely eat. I mean for a year and a half..I've tried everything. I just can't get over it. I have tried getting a BF. Doesn't help. I dont know how to let go of all of our memories and everything. It hurts :,(

I dated a married man for a year. I know it was wrong but we really fell for each other. Towards the end he would start ignoring me. Not texting me as much. His wife caught him cheating with me twice but they didn't divorce. He would say he loved me, and that he wanted a baby with me but later realized he had no intention of leaving his wife. Since we both work for my uncle. Towards the end I was honest with my uncle and he fired us both. I miss him terribly and I haven't heard of him since. Should I contact him? Could he hate me?

My brother and I are twins& we've always had this strong bond where there was no secrets between us. When we were younger, an incident occurred causing us to live with our aunt but when we turned 18, we rented out an apartment while we were studying at uni. We have a younger brother that was a toddler at the time & living aunt's wasn't the best so we raised him. It was difficult but we've always had each other. Fast forward couple of years,around 4 months ago my husband and I hosted a party and I found out that my brother broke off his engagement and is dating my cousin in law former gf. I was shocked since he didn't tell me anything & tried to speak to him at the party& he just rude and defensive. My husband approached us to see what's going on & my brother insulted his dead mother. My husband punched my brother, although violence isn't the answer if it was the other way, my brother would have punched him too. I didn't contact my brother for a week since I wanted stuff to cool down. When I visited him, my husband came with me because he wanted to apologise since he felt guilty and I wanted to apologise for butting in his business. My brother told me if I want to be forgive that I should divorce my husband and if not him and my little brother won't be in my life anymore. I told him that he was bring dramatic and that it won't happen since this is something childish. Its been months and he hasn't been answering my calls and visits. I don't know how to tell him that he is going to be an uncle.

Lets say I own a house and when I got married I already owned the house. If I divorce my wife, will she still get half of it?

I love him as a person. Also because he has blessed me with three beautiful children but I'm no longer I love with him. He's a great hard working man & father.. But I'm I love with somebody else but don't know what to do.. I think about my children & think that it would be best if I stayed with there father.. Idkk what to do what should I do

We just started having sex again about a year after my 2nd child was born. We usually only have sex after she comes home from a night out with her friends. It is ackward to say hey do you want to do it when the kids go to bed. I just need some help. Thanks all.

I dont want to have broken homes and parents who hate each other.;

I'm not talking about the single fathers who go around impregnating women and 4 months behind on their child support payments. I'm talking about perhaps a divorced guy or never married man who has like one child or maybe two, and he is responsible and takes care of his kids. I'm thinking they are likely more patient, selfless and caring than perhaps bachelor men their age ? Are they also more likely to want serious relationships leading to marriage ? I'll be honest, I don't really like children, BUT, the characteristics of a guy with kids might be better than single childfree men who are still looking to sleep around, do drugs, "have fun" and in general are self absorbed and entitled. What do you think ?

So, I've been with my husband for 1year. I am a 21yr old girl, used to have fun with friends, dress up, go out, the whole nine yards. I don't really miss that part because I love my husband but what I do miss is feeling young! These days I no longer feel young, beautiful, or loved and it's making me so unhappy I don't know what to do anymore. I'm considering getting a divorce because my husband and I haven't been able to spend time together this whole year really due to working so much. We haven't went to a restaurant or anything in a year, despite me asking numerous times. We rarely eat dinner together, have sex or even speak because his brother lives with us and we don't get any privacy to begin with. I feel like it's so early in the marriage to be feeling this way, and I feel so neglected I just want to divorce. I talked to him about it and he says once the brother leaves and we get financially stable in like 4-5 months, since he got a new job, we will spend more time together and promised to take a trip overseas together privately. The problem is, I don't trust that, since he's been saying that for 2years,the brother still isn't gone and yea we might be financially stable then but I don't see him holding to his word. And I also don't want it anymore, I just want to be free. Maybe just the love is gone. I don't even feel the same about him anymore. I don't want to be selfish to him, but I'm also tired of suffering. Should I go through with the divorce?

I've been married for about 8 months now. I have 3 kids from other people before him and now I can't have children. For the most part he plays with them and cooks etc. There are times though that he will get mad and stop ******* all these guys and we could've had kids together or when they talk about their dad he'll say well your dad doesn't pay for your roof or food. When he gets really drunk that's when he really goes off about it and calls me a whore and stupid for doing that etc. It hurts my feelings a lot and idk what I'm supposed to say to him.

A few days ago, both of my daughters were sick with a cold/virus. I took them to the doctor while my husband was at work. They are 7 and 1. I was so tired after waiting for 4 hours to be seen and I came home thinking my husband could go and get their prescriptions. He is a postal carrier and was already home for at least an hour before I got home. I called him when i arrived, as he was not there. He answered sounding annoyed and said he was not coming home and that he was drunk . I totally lost it and told him how he could think of going out when both our daughters were sick and I needed help. I did not want to take them anywhere since they needed to rest. He told me he would be home in an hour. Well the hours passed and I had to go get the prescriptions since the pharmacy was going to close. I had to take my poor girls down at Walmart and I felt so disgusted with my husband for being selfish. And he never helps me with them. Ever. I understand he has a job but he gets 2 days off and is usually home everyday before 3. Am I overreacting or was his behavior wrong? I am a stay at home Mom but I also do some computer work which I get paid for.

Hi im a stay at home mom, my husband is a truck driver. I do not have family who can help me pick up or watch my child. I need a divorce, tried marriage counseling didnt work. I know that I need to get a job obviously! But finding one to hire me during school hours is going to be tricky. I also cant afford a divorce or a lawyer. We just bought another car because we were tboned and so we owe abt 3,000 left on it and i want the car since the car we lost was in my name and he has a car. We rent so obviously no problem there the only thing i care abt is custody of our son and i want the car anyway what do i need to do?

My husband has been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder. He has been on and off of his meds about 4 times since I have known him, 12 years. This last time he was off his meds for about 5 months. I would assume and I have been told that when some people go off their meds it is because they have leveled out and no longer believe that they need the meds to maintain some kind of stability. But me husband says that he doesn't want to take them because he thinks that they will kill him faster. Her also likes who he is when he is not on the meds. He does not go through the typical depression as we know it. He is a hoarder. He collects and stores things at home. Like left over construction material or things that he finds on the street. He also has a stimulation dependency on the games that he downloads on his IPAD like soda and candy crush. He will lay in bed for hours and play until he falls asleep from exhaustion. Last week his Bipolar mania escalated to the point of violence. He snatched food out of our daughters hands and threw it across the room. He yells at our kids and calls them retarded with mental issues. He calls them nasty pigs. He tells them that I pick on him because I'm a miserable *****. He told our 10 year old that "Mom has issues because she was raped by her step dad". He swung a broom stick and shattered the glass oven door. He thinks that I under mind his authority when I get involved when he starts in on the kids. Last week he punched me. Closed fist. After he broke the oven door I called the police to have him removed from the home. He fled before they got there. He was gone for a couple hours but when he returned to the home he had not calmed down. The kids had gone to bed so the only person he had to pick on was me. After he hit me I called 911 again. He fled the house again. The next morning I was downtown applying for ex parte and injunction. But the only way He will ever be healthy is if he is taking his meds.

When I asked him if he felt any guilt with cheating on me his ex girl he said no I didn't how could he be so harsh. Does it mean he still loves his ex

My husband is an alcoholic and he cheated on me last October. He cut ties with her, but recently started talking to her again. I gave him one last chance to stop talking to her, and he blew it. Now I have told him that I want a divorce, and he is trying his best to convince me he'll change and will be the man I need him to be. I have zero faith in him at this point and just want the divorce so I can move forward with my life. But, he's really tugging at my heart strings and I'm trying my best to resist. How can I stay strong and not give in? Obviously, I still care about him. And we are currently still living in the same house. I keep reminding myself of everything that he has done. And of the fact that he will not get help for his alcoholism. And of all of the chances I have already given him. I have no doubt that he doesn't really intend on changing. But.....it's still really hard to stand my ground. Sheri, it is my mother's house (she lives in a different state) and I have a daughter. I don't want to leave my home. He said he will go to a motel when he gets paid on Friday. We'll see how that goes.

My wife cheated on me with my best friend. I found out this morning when my friend admitted to sleeping with her, and showed me the pictures he took of her naked. When I confronted my wife she said its because I'm terrible in bed. I was repeatedly sexually abused when I was 8 years old, and I find sex too hard deal with. The whole thing is too emotional for me, and she knows this. I love her so should I forgive her? 0 following 19 answers

I recently posted a question about by wife's decision to purchase another car to replace the one she had that was paid for. The car she bought, against my wishes and advise, was in worst condition than what she had. Well, in the 2 weeks since she's had it she's only driven it to work maybe 3 days. Why? Because it's been back at the car lot for them to fix this or that on it. this week alone it's been with them trying to figure out why it hesitates to start. Yes, she bought it even though it had trouble cranking. So, I've been having to take her to work. I like to get to work early to begin my day but this week I've been dropping her off then racing to my job arriving much later than I like. My wife works 16 miles north of our house and I work 15 miles south of our house. So, I have a 32 mile round trip just to get me back to my starting point so I can now get to work. That on top of having to drive an additional 15 miles to my job. My wife has been getting rides home from work from an ex-co-worker from her old job who is stopping by her new job and picking her up and bringing her home. Her car now needs a new fuel pump and the car lot said that instead of letting the dealership do the work they'd do it and save some money. I told my wife that (A) she shouldn't have bought that POS and (B) I'm tired of using more gas to get her to work everyday. She thinks that since she made the decision to buy the car that me, as her husband, should just support her decision and get her to work everyday until her car is fixed. Again, she's only driven it to work maybe 3 days since she got it cause it's been back at the car lot for them to fix this or that. She's not paying for these repairs, yet, but I would have had them fix all this stuff before she signed the paperwork. She wouldn't listen. She was in such a rush to get out of her old car until she dropped the insurance on it several days before she even signed the final papers for the new car. The new car is actually a year older than the car she had. Yes, she went backwards, again, against my advice. How long do you do for your spouse before you tell them enough is enough? I hate doing all this extra driving and getting to work later than I'd like plus she's now taxing someone else to get her home everyday. I possibly wouldn't be making so much out of this if her job was in the same direction as mine or just a few miles out of the way. It's not. 16 miles in the opposite direction is a bit out of the way for me considering I told her not to buy that car.

I have a guy friend I've known for a few years. Haven't talked to him in FOREVER because I was in a bad relationshiip with my ex and that is a story all on it's own so I am now single and am regaining my life and my guy friend and I have started talking again and have been flirting and yes we had sex as well but he wants to be friends because after what I went through he wants me to have the time I need to myself which I honestly respect and don't want to push the matter but I'm afraid of seeing him with someone else because I really really like him and we have several of the same interests etc. so we've been texting and just being friends and I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice on how I can make this work? I want to just be myself and invite him over and hang out with him but will that be enough? I'm 24 years old and I spent the last 6 years with a douche bag and I'm pretty dang rusty at this whole thing.

My bride to be moved in my house I bought years ago. I went from broke to doing ok and she had to move out of her parents house so instead of getting an apartment I asked her to move in. Then almost a year ago we got engaged and wedding is in October. I asked if she could pay me biweekly for bills and the mortgage and while I get paid a lot more then her I gave her a beyond fair deal. I'm paying well over half of the bills when I add it up. Then she got a raise and as bills have got bigger and we got cable tv I asked if she could pay a little more...like $30 more biweekly and she agreed. Now she asked last night if we can just get rid of our separate checking accounts and just have a joint. I said hellll no! I like to keep some of my money and I didn't say I don't trust you but she has a history of bad credit and spends on stupid things like a pair of shoes and boots all the time. How many damn pairs of shoes you need? I take her out and good to her and spend much on her. I don't like the idea of her in my money as she will know everything I spend unless I just withdraw a bunch of cash every paycheck and hell with that.

Is this considered "enabling" my spouse who think he's doing his part working 35 hours a week at a mediocre pay. He doesn't do "extra" around the house to make up for all the overtime I work either. he thinks his "full time" job should be enough. I work 55 hours and he works 35.. so I'm working 20 extra every week and have been doing this for 5 years now. We have a family of 6. (blended family.. he had three kids from a previous marriage and I had one) I want to keep us ahead of the game, have some money in savings. So I always work hard and advance. i want him to do the same. Am I enabling him since I keep working harder and harder? Basically I don't know what the alternative would be to stop enabling him. If I keep advancing so I don't have to work so much overtime, didn't I once again enable him? thanks for everyone's input. The reason this is a problem is becaue I'm feeling depressed and at my wit's end working so much and taking care of the kids and household. I wanted to add that he works third shift and is basically not "available" to help with any of the kids needs. he doesn't get up until 7-8 pm when all of the kids needs, dinner, errands, etc have already passed by. It's true he doesn't have room for extra hours at his job. Over the years the cost of living has just changed between changes in custody amounts, (we also used to receive health insurance thorugh the state at the beginning of the relationship and a small amunt of food stamps) I worked hard to get off state assistance.. but the cost of health insurance and food every month paying out of pocket has not exceeded our yearly raises/promotions. ( we were better off on state assistance is what i'm saying)

I am married but I noticed my wife's friends and her in the last liked guys who had arms. Kind of made me jealous because I but my butt getting abs and other muscles while they focus on only upper body. Just a rant. Lol

He had a Microsoft one drive tab open on his phone. The pic may or may not have been professional and was shared from a common name like Laura Parker. What could he have done to get this sent to him and do sex sites do this? I showed him the pic and said "well she s cute" he said "I don t know her". I haven t asked him more about it yet. Would he have to be signed up on a site to get this.. And what kind of sites? A sex buddy one? Any info is appreciated

ok so here goes. I ll try to be detailed so if anyone has been in the situation man or woman that can help I would really appreciate it. My wife and I have been married for only a year, however we ve been together for 9 years. I m 26 and she s 23. We have both had sexual partners before the relationship but we were young. Moving on. A couple months ago my wife started acting different. Not all the time but noticeable. I m assuming I was noticing this because we have been together so long and I can easily pick up on when something is off. Well fast forward to a few days ago. We were sitting together on the couch and she was scrolling facebook and saw that one of my friends girlfriends posted that she was now in an -open relationship-. We both laughed and then she looked at me and said "why don t we have an open relationship" I immediately saw the truth in her eyes even though she swore she was joking afterwards. So after I got pissed off and went to bed she came in and we talked. Come to find out she has been having -urges- and has realized now that there may be other things out there. (meaning men) The next day I started digging. Found her talking to her friend on facebook more than a couple months ago about being confused and having -good days- with someone but that also just makes her more confused. I pulled our phone records and she has been talking to this guy on average three times a day almost every day of the month on the phone. She even works with him. So I brought it to her attention by acting like Verizon sent us a big packet with all the records and then after basically asking her to tell me the truth 20 times she said that she had a crush on this guy. But they have stopped talking because he is married with three kids and he suggested that they stop getting so close. (which bothers me that HE said this and not HER) So where we are at right now is that she doesn t know what she wants. She says she loves me, that she doesn t call this guy anymore, and I told her that I would give her some time to figure out if she wants to stay with me or if she wants out. I feel like I messed up in telling her that however. Now i m being tortured by wondering what she is thinking all the time. She still wants hugs, a kiss, but no sex. She s quiet, just like I am. It s awkward and sad. Marriage problems. need advice. Wife has a crush on another man

I sext my husband things like, "I want your d*** up my a**hole." Or "tonight I want you to lay back and relax and just close yours eyes while u feel your dick getting sucked on." Seems like he would be ready to blow. But a lot of times he will send something back short n sweet like "ummm baby can't wait" or "u can baby" then later that night he may not even initiate things. Anyway, just wondering could it be. I have talked to him and he sweArs he loves me and my dirty talk