My wife and I have been married for almost 10 years and we have 3 children but only one together. When we were first married my wife was unfaithful with an old boyfriend but I forgave her and tried to move on. This obviously caused major trust issues but she promised it would never happen again. I am 38 and my wife is 33, this happened when she was 23 so I chalked it up to being young and dumb. 2 years ago I caught her again with a guy from her work. She lied to me about it for a year but finally came clean when I said I was moving out if she didn't tell me the truth. I did move out anyway for about 3 months but I couldn't stand being away from my kids so I tried to forgive her again. 6 months later she had to quit her job because her boss got her drunk and tried to take advantage of her. I had a bad feeling about her boss from the start and told her I didn't want her spending any time alone with him or having drinks with him but she did anyway and had to quit her job. I feel like I will never be able to trust her and this is a pattern that will never change. I live with anxiety and fear daily about trusting her and I just want to know if it's time to give up. We have tried counseling but obviously didn't work. Please help

My husband didn t want me to cuddle our son to sleep downstairs. When I didn t take him to bed he prized my arms open, took him for me and put him to bed. I didn t resist much as I didn t want to scare my son.

My husband and i have been married for two years, but together a total of eight. We have always struggled financially but bills have piled up even worse recently after our daughter was born. We are both so stressed about money all the time that we never focus on anything else in our relationship. I'm starting to feel like I can't even remember how we fell in love in the first place. I do love him and I care about him and I thought our money struggle was just a phase we were going through at the time but years and years have passed. I don't know what to do.

I do know one of the marriages took place in Nogalaz Az sometime in 1980 or 1981 but I don t know the date of the divorce. And I was wondering if there is a website where I can find this info for free.

going on 2 weeks and he still didn't tell his wife about us. I have moving van ready for this weekend but he still is in his house with wife.

I said to a guy I know: if u want to hang out I'm free next week. So let me know. He said: absolutely. But it's been weeks since we talked and he hasn't said when he's free. I don't know if my message is clear that I want him to tell me when he's free. Should I mention going out for the 3rd time?

Been married 7 years. I go out without asking my wife if it's ok. I don't even tell her where I'm going. I leave at 7pm and return at 2am. I don't allow her to go to work events because she must stay with our 6 year old. All she does is work mon-fri and stays home with our son on weekends. She doesn't really have friends. Am I wrong for going out without asking her if it's ok? I'm 60 she's 36

I m a 20 year old girl who married at the age of 19 with a Turkish man. I m Canadian and i have fallen in love with him. I always want to make him happy but he always breaks me and puts me down. He started being violent more frequently and it went to a point where he broke my arm. I always thought he will change and I forgived him everytime. He gets angry at anything also he is so jelous and paranoid. I always think about leaving him but i have a baby. I wanna find a solution i cant raise my child alone also. Any advice? Thanx

We had a bad break up and I vowed to never speak to him again etc. Then after our fallout he started to come over to my department (we work together) to talk with other coworkers in front of me. I'm not going to lie it got me real upset and he saw that so he started coming to my area a lot more and I felt that all he was trying to do was get a reaction out of me. He even occasionally would try and talk to me about work by asking unimportant stuff to which I'd answer short and mean. Anyway, long story short, I ended up going to HIS department to file a document. I felt like maybe he was implying get over it hence him coming to my area like nothing. So I went to file the document (he sits next to filing cabinet). Shortly after he bulged in my department pissed (I could sense it when he told my boss something work related and saw his demeanor had changed from earlier). Now he totally avoids coming to my department and earlier I walked to the common area at our business and he saw me coming while he was walking out his department door and quickly walked back. I don't understand why he's being this way? It's ok for him to come to my department for the stupidest reasons but when I have to actually go around him for business purposes he gets upset? Why is he being such a brat? It was ok for him to come around me but not ok for me to go around him and his work area? Why is this?

I am married to my husband and we have a 4 year old daughter. My husband and I have been together for 12 years. He just stopped drinking alcohol. But since we have been together I have lost my interest in him after being with him for 12 years. I felt his love for alcohol has cause nothing but resentment, him picking fights, blaming me for everything, lack of compassion and empathey, putting himself before other, just very toxic. Now because of this fall out my interest in women have gotten stronger over time. My husband does know I like women but I have never acted on it. Now even though he has been sober for a few months I have been checked out on fighting for us and more focused on my own happiness. Anyway I have recently met this woman about a year and a half ago. And I really really like her but I don't know if she feels the same. Even though this is wrong, with her everything just feels natural and right. She lifts me up and doesn't allow me to give up, very very supportive. She notices the things my husband constantly misses. She complements me. She listens and trys to learn more about me. I am a taurus and she's a libra. A lot of times I imagine being alone with her and ripping her clothes off and doing many great things to please her. I don't know if she is attracted to me, but This feeling is really crushing me because I soooo want to act on this. I know it's wrong but it just feel so right. Please help me if you have experienced this.

I'm in denial and heartbroken...met a beautiful woman, married here and now divorced. It was so believable! She was in major debt, recently divorced and married me to get back on her feet again. Long story short I found out a bunch of stuff...she used me, lied, cheated etc... Any advice? I can't seem to move on...I'm re living memories that I thought were real. I am a fool!

I love my Husband and I feel love and attraction towards him. (Not sexuall attraction but I used to ) but he wants sex All the time. Literally everyday. I love him so I even give in and let him use my body sometimes.... But I dont want it everyday... I don't want it ever...He says he respects me but he doesn't. How do I get him to respect my feelings ? I hate sex so much. It's sounds horrible but I honestly wish his penis would get cut off. I hate sex that much. I don't know why but I feel a strong revulsion towards sex.... Am I Asexual??? (I am a woman.) and I know I am not attracted to women, I only have attraction to men but I dont want sex anymore...ever. Whats wrong with me? Does anyone else feel this way? I love my husband and want to stay married but I dont know how to fix this issue ???

I was using my laptop today to email an essay to one of my professors when my computer started to freeze up on on me so I used my husbands iPad to send it and noticed that he had two tabs up which were google searches the first Google search he did was "I hate having sex with my wife" and the second was "I love my wife but I want to cheat" he's been home for about an hour now and I've been distant with him but I'm wondering should I just confront him about what I read, I'm not sure how to handle it because I thought our relationship was solid, we have sex 4 times a week so if he hates it so much why's he initiating it almost every day

I found out a couple of weeks ago that my wife of three months that I moved here from the Philippines is taking a vacation for 3 weeks what's her step-sister. Then after she told me I found out that her sister let the guy that she tried to hook my wife up with a long time ago move in with her. I can't believe a newlywed wife would take that long of a vacation by yourself right after they just got married. So I'd really like to know if anybody else would be upset too.

I have two boys a 5y/o and a soon to be 7y/o. Their biological father passed away about 3 1/2 years ago. I have been with my now fiancé for two years, and for like the third time he has now asked me again, "Now, that we are getting married, are you going to change the kids last name to mine?" I told him I wasn t sure, that if it was me the one who had died I would not have liked the fact of someone changing my kids name. I also went on asking him, what if that had been him who had passed, would he like it if his ex changed his daughter s last name? But he did not answer my question but yet asked another one stating that it s not like he was going to find out. I told him I m honestly not sure about doing that, and plus I would love to have a child of our own. What should I do? I really love him and want to give him a child of our own, but would hate for this to be a subject to argue about because he believes in his mind that I don t do it because I don t love him enough! Please give me your thought, thanks.

Got married and my friends wrote me off to family life. They're all not married yet but before I got married we spent a lot of time together(4 of us). After I got married I told them to remember to tell me about their plans and whenever they plan something to include me but they completely forgot about me. A year past, not even once that they would remember me. I feel rejected but don't want to "intrude"? Sorry, couldn't find a word. How do I deal with it at least mentally? I feel forgotten and left out...it hurts since before we spent A LOT of time together.

We were married in August of 2015 after dating for a year. The physical and mental abuse began a month after we were married. I was in college for medical coding and billing and was working part-time as a waitress in a bad part of town, barely making minimum wage. In November, I had to go to the hospital for a broken wrist and bruised ribs. I kept the records and pictures from that hospital visit. In December, he began taking my paychecks from me and in February, against my express wishes, he filed our taxes together and tried to claim my grandmother's house as his. I decided I couldn't live like this anymore and asked friends for help. One friend offered to help me with anything I needed and even began rearranging her life and home to make room for me in it. We decided to inform him at the end of April and begin the divorce process. However, another "friend" went to my husband and told him what I was planning and he flipped the tables on me in mid-April. He went to Fleet and Family with a split lip and told them that I was physically abusing him. He got a protective order against me, had the cops come and escort me out of our apartment with nothing but a change of clothes and my work uniform. If it wasn't for my friend, I would have been on the streets. Now, it's August and his petition for a Permanent Protective Order was literally laughed out of court. I filed a petition for spousal support with the civilian courts, but he's missed 2 court dates and got today's extended. My friend is great but she can't essentially support 2 people on her paycheck and mine is a joke. I barely make $200 a week and I can't support myself on that. He completely ruined my credit history by checking another woman into a hospital under my social without me knowing and giving his phone number and letting the bills pile up until it went to a collection agency half a year ago. I can't get a loan or a credit card and I have no family nearby or who are capable of helping. What do I do? Also, he's refusing to divorce me because he's an E-3 and without being married to me, he loses his $1500 of BAH completely. If you want to answer to tell me to "stop playing the victim" or a variation of this, don't bother, your comment will be ignored. Go get your life ruined and see how fun it is. If you want to tell me "get a better job", explain where to find this PT job on my current qualifications (GED, waitress for 2 years) in today's economy while finishing my college. A majority of the comments have been judgmental and uninformed on naval instruction. I don't need you judging me when I came here for advice.

checking out hotter women (not infront of her) and letting my mind wander and wishing she would dress sexier and wear those in style sexy shoes and those skinny jeans and wear her make up in a differnt way blah blah blah I love her with all my heart but always start having these thoughts when we are having problems. what can i do to quit being such a creepy dumbass

My wife suggested that nursing has good pay and would suit my skills. I listened to her and found that I really enjoy the study. Now a new problem has emerged. I told her I need to complete the degree over 5 years as part time while I work full time to provide for the family. Her job is in real estate. She meets with wealthy Chinese clients that tell her sales and working for others is a waste of time. Now she wants to be something bigger and become a developer. She wants me to be a doctor but I can't quite my job and study full time to become a doctor. I didn't see anything wrong with being an RN. I'm not interested in management or being someone like a CEO. My dream is to be noteworthy for opening clinics overseas to help the poor or even help the disadvantaged here in Australia. I don't want to feel like my hard work and the ups and downs of nursing school are a waste of time. I also don't want to hear her tell me that my life needs to be more than just aiming to be a nurse. I thought being a good provider for the family is already enough? I found I really enjoyed the nursing for both the technical aspects and the caring. I like to help people and care for them. I took on the role of WHS officer for my office for similar reasons. I drew inspiration from medical professionals who talk about opening clinics overseas. I see how I could potentially be instrumental in driving healthcare policies to look after the disadvantaged. But first I need to obtain the degree. I'll be 36 when I graduate. After I returned from China, I spent 3 years trying to figure out what I liked. I enjoyed nursing after doing the prac. My first degree was in science. I enjoy it but I haven't been overly impressed with the roles available such as sales. Research roles are limited and require a lot more study. The extra study isn't worth it for the limited job opportunities and relatively low pay. I'm encouraged by the supportive answers :) And actually nursing was one of the top results in many career tests that I took. Along with vet science. My.parents had suggested nursing before my wife did and I scoffed at the idea. Until I seriously investigated it and found there are a lot of males entering the industry.

Im over the love and romance non sense like most mature adults. It kinda sucks to be alone but at the same time most women are clingy, annoying, childish, attention seekers, selfish etc Like they say: dating as an adult is like going thru ppls rubbish looking for gold. Divorcees and single moms with kids are just crazy, too worn-out and off my radar for good. Its like paying for brand new goods at a garage sale. Pay for 3 and get 1. SE asian women are cheap in comparison but they've smartened up to their western colleagues and have become shrewed gold diggers. African american ladies tend to be loud, full of drama and sometimes violent. Plus they use the F word like a comma. But they r sexually energic. Last option; becoming a sugar daddy to a young fresh white girl is like being a sponsor in SE asia to a banged up mama sang ( pimp'res ). So what choices do i have left ? I've a nice house, cars etc and looked attractive back in the day and always got loads of women for free.

My wife came home from work and she turns on the tv onto some show called girlfriend experience on showtime, and all it showed was pornography throughout the show... I asked her not to watch it and theres something ebtter to do with her time. she complains that i complain about everything she does.

We love each other deeply but we have no emotional connection because no sex for 2 years 8 months . Even after having some intimacy , I still really want a sex life . I waited for my husband to have sex with me but waiting is killing me so I broke off the relationship . I just want to have happy marriage but didn't work out .

I am 25 year old female, I finish my studies. Since I finish my studies, my parents want to arrange me a marriage. However I don't accept my parents as my parents. My dad had molested me three times, and know only two facts about me my name, and my gender. My mom never kiss me,hug me, and she make fun of my disabilty (I can't walk correctly) and say I'll be a "nobody in life." Both my parents abuse me, and beats me with a rope, and knife. I don't want them making a choice of who I spend with for the rest of my life since they treated me bad for 25 years. What can I do? Any Quran verses? I live in US. And don't tell me be patient and pray I did that for 25 years and my parents still treated me wrong.

My wife and I have been married going on 6 years, together a total of about 15 years. She has always had this idea that I don't make her feel needed or wanted. We tend to split everything. When we first met I had my own place and she had hers so I was self sufficient without her. I cooked, cleaned, and raised my daughter which I had full custody of since the age of 2 yrs old. It's not like when we got together she took over all the cooking or all the cleaning and I completely forgot how. We still alternate cooking nights and I do just as much cleaning as she. For the past few weeks I've been on a kick to lose some weight. Every night for weeks I'll get out and walk a few miles. Unless I personally ask her if she wants to go walking with me then she takes it that I don't need or want her. I have to say, "honey, I'm about to go for my nightly walk, would you like to go with me?" No, it can't be that she knows I go walking EVERY NIGHT and she says, "hey, wait on me, I wanna go with you." No, she has to sit down and watch TV or think about what she's wearing to work the next day. Then when I decide to walk, roughly at 9 PM, she thinks that's too late and she decides not to go. We're usually woke until 11 PM anyway but since 9 PM is prime time TV watching she'd rather stay home on the bed. The funny thing is that when I get dressed in my workout clothes she'll look at me and say, "oh, you're going walking now? I guess you don't want me to go since you didn't" ask me to go with you." Does your spouse make you feel needed? I do care about her but at the age of 47 (me) and 45 (her) I do not feel that I have to ask her to do something with me every time I do it. You know I walk every night, just get up, throw on some shorts and a t-shirt and walk with me. Stop saying you don't have anything to wear or using every excuse to not go walk. TV, clothes for work the next day, it's too late, etc.

It's not like I don't believe that women should have equal rights or anything, I just want to marry a woman like Francine from American Dad you know stays at home cooks cleans martini at the door. Is this bad I mean I'm only 15. Thanks for answering and reading. PS do any other guys want this and do any girls want this also?

Almost a year ago, my husband and I were married in a courthouse. At the time, thats all I wanted due to financial issues and medical insurance. My husband and I have a house, a one year old son, and the whole nine yards. Recently, my husband and I attended a wedding. It was everything I had ever dreamt in a wedding for myself. I am beginning to rethink if I made the right decision of not having a wedding. In a way I want a day that is special and is a day that resembles our love but then again, it is one day. Is it worth the stress and the money to have a wedding? Plus we have already been married this long, would that be weird and would it even mean the same now since I didn t have a wedding initially. I could honestly go either way. I need pros and cons and help!!

She's not sure why, or what happened, but we have drifted off base the last year, and she's been rejecting most forms of affection including sex. We just had a baby but the issues were there before the baby and we are approaching 2 years marriage. Divorce isn't an option we are both in this to find a solution. She feels disconnected, doesn't want me to be affectionate because she will reject me and doesn't want to hurt my feelings. Again, she doesn't know why or what I should do or what she should do. We will be talking with a therapist next week, but what gives? We don't fight or argue. She doesn't work, I'm the bread winner and money is fine. I do chores and take her on dates. I spoil her. I always have. She says she loves me but isn't in love with me, but doesn't know what in love is, just knows she doesn't feel thay spark she once felt. But she loves me, but isn't affectionate at all and wants me to keep affection to a minimum til we reconnect emotionally. I'm so confused on what the solution or problem could be. thanks in advance.