Family: Question: I hate my mom?

Question: I hate my mom?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 12:41 PM PDT

The title says it all. I'm 18 and I've never been in a worse place in my life. She and I fight constantly and usually over nothing. We began having issues 7 years ago when I found out about an emotional affair which was taking place between her and a man I'd hated from the get-go. I have 4 other siblings and of all of them I'm the only one who ever found out about the affair. But since then I feel like my knowledge of that has put a target on my back. If I mom has an issue at work or with a sibling, she immediately comes to take it out on me. She tells me it's largely because I've always been her biggest "problem child" or I'm just a "little piece of ****". And I always retaliate because I am damn sick and tired of being her personal punching bag. I started cutting when I was 12 years old and attempted suicide once through an overdose. I was 13 at the time and really had no clue what I was doing, I ended up with a splitting migraine, abdominal pain and vomited for the remainder of the night. She doesn't even know that :/ As soon as she found out about my history with self harm she's used it against me. She tells everyone that I'm emotionally unstable and do it for attention and praise. Some of the most hurtful times have been when she's made deliberate fun of me for it. She followed me around making cutting motions on her arms saying "I'm gonna kill myself, I'm gonna kill myself!" When I told my dad about it he confronted her but she denied ever saying or doing it. She is a compulsive liar and I honestly cannot take much more of it. I have been having suicidal thoughts for years and I just want to be happy. Now she's having me start meeting with a therapist and putting me on anti-depressants. I don't need any of it, I just need her to treat me like her child! I've talked to her about my feelings countless times but it never does any good. She is the type of person who is never in the wrong even when she is.

Question: Does anybody know how much you can set aside for a funeral and not interfere with long term care Medicaid? (Philadelphia, PA)?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 12:34 PM PDT

Question: I got yelled at REPEATEDLY by my step dad and what I find bizarre is that no one in my family did a damn thing to help. No one.?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 12:28 PM PDT

Weird stuff eh?

Question: Why do my brother walk on his tippy toes ?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 12:26 PM PDT

He looks like a fool and does it all the time like I don't even think it's on purpose but why do you think he does it ?

Question: How should I have handled the circumstance?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 12:03 PM PDT

I got yelled at REPEATEDLY by my step dad and then when I went over to my dad's place, all he did was send me back over there, like that's GAY.

Question: How do I get my mother to stop coming by my house?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 12:03 PM PDT

My mother and I have a strained relationship (long story). Growing up basically she was neglectful and abusive is some ways and a very selfish mother. She would disappear at weeks at a time to visit her boyfriend who lived out of state and not come home and leave my siblings and I alone at home by ourselves. She is also very two faced and caused nothing but drama as an adult by bad mouthing her kids behind their backs. She also exposed us to men she was dating who were abusive and addicts. As an adult I ave distanced myself form her by only seeing her during holidays and setting good boundaries, however she will still stop by my house unannounced and drop off "gifts" (old used clothes she has). She will not leave sometimes until I answer the door and will bang hardly on my doors and windows and refuse to move her car until I answer. I have told her to quit coming by but she does not listen. She cannot come in because she doesn't not have a key.She is alone now and not dating anyone and very needy but whenever we needed something as kids and as adults she was never there. How do I stop her from doing this? I also do not want her involved in my daughters life as she is a very toxic person and I have felt the effects of abuse that has taken its toll on me. What should I do?

Question: How can i put my self in jail for 1 year? Lebanon?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 11:54 AM PDT

i want it to be short time, 1 year maximum, is there anyway? is why i am asking because, ive been given cortisone and zyprexa at high doses and forced on me and i cant stand people looking at me im fat this way, they will think im syrian and treat me bad (no im not racist but thats what lebanese people are nowadays (they think their russians who became darker afterwards) (and im white by the way) ... the bad thing people don't realize this and these meds plays with your face way tooo much im getting the worst side effect like red face, moon face, inflated balloon belly, chicken legs. inflated balloon on each side of my belly, totally a frog person. the bad thing about this is i am not some old man and i cant just not care about this lmao, people would be looking at me because i am 21, so 1 year in jail would help me get back to who i was, a normal person that no one laughs at. so the question is: how can i put my self in jail for 1 year? PS: i am a guy Oh i forget, i also have a gyno from the meds. big one. if there is no answer to this, i will go and murder this c*nt, as if there is no point in my life anyway. I'm already dead.

Question: Should my husband talk to his sister or should I?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 11:45 AM PDT

My sister in law lives with us. If it were up to her she'd play loud music 24/7 & have guests in the house all day. I've told my husband to speak to her about so many things. I don't think she sees my husband as an authority figure. She's 21 & I'm 23 & my husband is 25. We're all close in age bt she acts like a child. I want to speak with her & I know it'll be awkward and may cause tension but she's driving me crazy. I'm tired of being nice. She ruins so many things in here by "expierimenting" she doesn't buy any of the stuff she ruins. Should I talk to her about "house rules" or push my husband to be harder on her about these things. FYI she's a student & doesn't work & they're from Europe. She's his responsibility. They have no family here.

Question: 31, still lives with parents, hate life?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 11:37 AM PDT

I'm 31 and I still live with my parents. I'm grateful for having a roof over my head, but it's so frustrating. I went to law school, passed the Bar, but I still can't find work (every job requires 10 years experience and/or knowing Spanish). Even though I'm 31, my parents treat me like a teenager. For example, on Saturday nights, I like to watch baseball games and have a few drinks at a bar. I usually get home at 1 AM, and they're waiting up for me. My dad has the best of intentions, but he gives me unsolicited career advice and finds fault in everything I do. To make matters worse, almost everyone I know, including people younger than me, lives on their own and enjoy life. This is so unfair. I worked hard all of my life, yet I'm so miserable.

Question: How can I get my mother and her sister to stop disliking each other so I can have cousins again?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 11:37 AM PDT

I really like my cousins on my mother's side but I haven't been able to see them because my mother won't let me go over to her sister's house anymore after my Mom and her sister had a fight last summer. Her sister won't let her kids come over to our house. My Mom made us travel at Thanksgiving last year and see our grandparents at a separate time so we wouldn't be at the family Christmas Eve. So I have only been able to see my 3 cousins once (a wedding in April). There fight was because both wanted to do different stuff with some property they own with their parents and they always have had different personalities and both critique the others parenting (my aunt more so). Also my mother likes to hold grudges. I am mad that my Mom punishes me because she is mad at her sister. I feel like getting my Mom back by being mean to my sister but my sister is Autistic so I don't want to hurt her feelings and I am too close to my brother to do that. So how can I get my mother to like her sister again so I can have cousins on my Mom's side again? We have cousins on my Dad's side but they are a lot older though we do get to see them on holidays at least. My only other cousin on my mother's side lives in Minnesota which is far away and only comes at Thanksgiving which we aren't allowed to go to anymore because my mother won't let us because of my aunt. Any thoughts or mean things I can do to get my mother to change and then I will immediately change? I am mainly nice and liked. @Pearl L----I wish I could

Question: Why does my Dad not respond when I ask him about things I am concerned about?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 11:36 AM PDT

Why is he this ignorant to my anxiety?

Question: How do I avoid having my mother embarrass me as we travel next week?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 11:36 AM PDT

I am going to be travelling up with my step-father tomorrow and seeing my mother for a week where she stays in the summer. She remains bitter at my Dad for mistreating her when they were married and so she tells people that I have no Dad and my step-Dad is the closest to a Dad I have (when in reality this is NOT true and I see my Dad every other week). So how do I respond when she embarrasses me like this next week? I am 20. I think my mother wants to believe I am treated like her when in reality my Dad treats me fine though might have mistreated my mother (they divorced in 1999 when I was three so ages ago). I am painted with my mother's brush and don't want to feel embarrassed, how do I handle this? My mother has been asked by me to stop and she won't.

Question: Punishment ideas for me after losing a bet:(?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 11:34 AM PDT

Recently, I lost a big bet to my cousin and she's looking for some ideas to punish me:( Her only restriction is, it should somehow involve my bare feet publicly being seen because when she asked my mother for some ideas she told her that I really hate being seen barefoot:( She's making me ask here so she can choose the most detailed and embarrassing answer for me from here.

Question: How should I tell my dad I m really thankful?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 11:30 AM PDT

I really suck at saying thank yous and I feel like my dad is really good to me but I just can t tell him. It s really weird

Question: My dad acts like an asshole for no reason?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 10:49 AM PDT

Hello. I am a 19 year old university student and I live with my parents. They are EXTREMELY strict; I am not allowed to go out to certain placesbor work. I do not have the same relationship that I had with my dad years ago.. He gets mad at me for NO reason at all. He will just randomly pick a fight and stop talking to me. I say hi to him, he doesn't say anything in response. This happens every week. If I ask if to address whatever he is upset about, he would say: "What are you talking about? I have no problem with anybody. Stop following your friends. No matter how much I try to talk to him, he would hold this grudge over whatever he is upset about, and continue to deny that he is mad. He's gotten really emotionally aggressive, picking fights and getting offended easily, etc. I have a good relationship with my mom.. She says that he used to act that way with her too. I just don't know what happened? I used to be a daddy's girl. My dad is very old.. (80..) and it worries me so much because I don't want is to ever end on a bad note.. I am literally cannot stay happy for long, Ive been getting daily headaches, heart palpitations, and crying almost every day for the past few months. I am aware of the privilege of being able to stay home and cared for but sometimes it gets to the point where I just feel like running away or kill myself? I won't commit suicide though, I never will. Thank you for all your help :)

Question: My mom neglects and abuses me?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 10:46 AM PDT

Hi, so I'm 17 yr old girl and live alone with my mom. My dad died when I was 2 and I have no siblings. My mom is physically and emotionally abusive, beating me with belts until I'm extremely bruised and spitting on my face in public. She puts me down in every way, telling me to go to hell, you're worthless, etc. but the thing that bothers me the most is that she really doesn't care about me. At all. I eat once a day, (that's at school) and during the summer I have to sneak to a friend's house to get something to eat. My mother recently purchases herself a MacBook Pro, new iPhone, a new tv for her room, all this and she claims she "can't afford" to feed me everyday? I'm tired of this, every school year my bff's mom buys me school supplies bc my mom refuses to... It's embarrassing but I'm thankful that she is kind enough to. Is there anyway I can stop living with her? I'm looking for a job and when I make enough I'm planning to move out hopefully. But I don't turn 18 for another 11 months

Question: How do I get my parents to listen to me?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 10:36 AM PDT

There's a boarding school that I've been looking into for a while now and I finally told my parents about it and they basically replied as if i was joking. I made it very clear that I wasn't joking and now they aren't even willing to talk about it. When I bring it up they either ignore me all together, or tell me to stop talking about it. I think the school would be a great opportunity for me and it's something that I really want to do but I don't know how to get my parents to even listen to me.

Question: Parents hate videogames?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 10:00 AM PDT

I have spent thousands of my hours and my money on them, It may be as easy as saying "uninstall the games now" for them but I play them for a hour a day and have invested too much into them for me to just stop one day. I do all my homework, I'm 12 and complete my own high school algebra book, play outside but no, they insist I stop playing videogames just because they want me to. They want me to stop because "I act erratically and violently" but what do you expect if you are calling me a worth less piece of crap, hitting me and ******* spying on me? I have bought my games myself and I own all the games, accounts, my gaming pc as I worked for that money.

Question: How to deal with your monarchy parents?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 09:45 AM PDT

Hello, I'm a 23 year old male from a big aristocratic family. Sometimes I wish I didn't exist! This family is full of crap! I don't have freedom to speak up for myself, only when there's some ridiculous party (I can't understand why the **** is joyful when just sit there and sipping cocktails?!), my parents allow me to introduce myself. I always feel like I'm in a endless cage like a slave. Once I ran away, but unbelievable! They found me?! So they took me back, and then I tried to kill myself, and thy locked me in. One day my mother said "Louis are okay do you want to go to boarding school?" NO! I'm not okay, and I don't want to go to ******* school. Useless! They sent to another country. Now I'm back home but I want to escape, I'm living with people I wish were gone, I hate my girlfriend and I know she doesn't love me either, it's just for some mischievous family business. Last birthday I went out with my friends because they threw me a party, so I did, then I woke in some inferior center that made me sick, I didn't have time to ask where I am, they checked me out. I'm not supposed to be like this. What can I do?

Question: How to ask when I'm gonna be drug tested?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 09:13 AM PDT

So my mom has hinted at giving me a drug test for weed, and I smoke weed, so how can I ask her or hint at asking her if she is going to test me so I know?

Question: Being 16 living in Minnesota, My biological dad pays child support to my mom. is there any way for me to tell him i dont need it?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 09:09 AM PDT

Reason why is so i could go live with my stepfather, but my mother will not allow me bc she will lose child support.

Question: My mother kind of ignored my out of town brother by leaving town when he visited after seeing him for 2 days, is this okay in adult years?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 08:54 AM PDT

He is not a kid anymore and she never would have done this if he was like at boarding school (not that any of us went to boarding school) and home for break. She had to go somewhere for the weekend due to a family event with some distant relatives she knew as a kid but was offered a return right to just go for three days. My mother has stayed all two weeks my brother has been here. My brother and her didn't get along in his teen years and my brother did drugs (making my mother very anxious). However, that is not happening now and so as a mother I thought mother's had to love unconditionally, even if my brother has been a pain. Also my brother is doing much better now. He was here for two weeks and my mother only saw him the two days of the first weekend.

Question: Should I get involved in this family divorce drama?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 08:35 AM PDT

So my mother's cousin who we know like an aunt is getting divorced. Every has an opinion. Those who agree with my mother think the cousin is having an affair with this guy she met at the beach two summers back. Her husband is busy and can't travel much. Meanwhile my mother's aunt and uncle (the cousin's parents) the guy is a gentleman and just a friend. The cousin has 4 siblings and they are split down the middle (two thing she is having an affair and two thing what she is doing is fine). So my mother was mad I saw this cousin of hers when I was at the beach with my aunt 4th of July weekend. I feel it is none of my darn business as long as they don't have sex in front of me. My mother says I enable them by being nice. We are returning to the beach next week and my mother made me pledge not to see this woman. I said I won't seek her out but I have to be nice if I run into her (my mother now hates her but adored her a year ago and for years before). She now adores the soon to be ex-husband to the point it is weird. The supposed affair was revealed back around Christmas last year. Meanwhile all I have heard about this summer is this divorce. It is all anyone is talking about. It is like watching Fox News and hearing about Clinton and Trump. The soon to be ex is like the messiah now and the blood relative is dumped on left and right and possessed by this boyfriend who is the antichrist sent by Satan. So am I wrong to be pleasant to both sides as a teenager? I do think something messy is going on but it is not my parents and therefore not my business. I think making me be mean to her is unfair. My parents aren't even all that religious (I am more so). So am I wrong to be staying out of it as a rising high school sophomore? Should I be furious and gossiping like everyone else and refusing to talk to this relative of my mothers? @linkus86---I already did and my mother said "if I did something as horrible as this yes I would" she is one to believe rumors are facts.

Question: How to deal with a controlling parent?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 08:32 AM PDT

Hi! So my dad is the most ignorant, homophobic, rude, racist, selfish, and controlling person you will ever meet. If I spend any time at all with my mom he will say I take all the attention from him. He judges people based on their skin colour or sexuality, even in public. If someone doesn't do what he wants, he's extremely rude. All he ever does is complain about everything and he won't ever leave me alone. If I want to go to the mall with friends or my mom he HAS to come with me and he will literally come in every store, including victoria's secret, and judge everything I pick out. It's the most embarrassing thing you can imagine. Not only that if he gets mad he will throw things, once he threw his iPad. I'm not even allowed to bring my phone to ******* school? Also, he thinks he knows everything and is the smartest person in the world. I tried to show him I'm passionate about veganism, showed him countless articles and videos yet he won't let me go vegan. I'm not allowed to get a job, yet they expect me to pay for a lot of my stuff. He tells me I'm going to end up in a hospital if I don't eat more but in reality, I'm naturally skinny. If I do my homework on my bed, he yells at me. My family never even let's me go hang out with friends. Also, I'm learning how to drive this year and he has to teach me behind the wheel, have I mentioned his terrible road rage? How do I deal with this asshole?!

Question: Do you think that my mom tries to embarrass me sometimes?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 08:32 AM PDT

Well she does some of the same things what her mom did to her that would embarrass her when she was a kid, like one day we got food at a restaurant her order was wrong she was complaining I told her just ask them nicely to fix the order she said her mom used to complain and it would embarrass her, but my mom knows it takes a lot to embarrass me I know that things happen so that's why another girl even told her to ask them to change her order lol I just think it's funny because if she is trying she is wasting her time I never even thought about being embarrassed tell she mentioned it.

Question: How black am I?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 08:24 AM PDT

My mother found out shes one third Black my father is Mexican what percentage black would that make me?

Question: My mother has a cousin whose son is in jail. Should I ask how he is when I see the cousin (the parent) this weekend at wedding?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 08:20 AM PDT

Or am I better just not bringing his name up?

Question: My mother is mad I didn't travel with her, but Dad is better and I am going with him. Why is she mad and should I do something nice for her?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 08:15 AM PDT

Question: My childs dad won t come pick him up but wants to see him it s a three hr drive i don t like who he s sending can i refuse?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 08:11 AM PDT

We don t have court ordered visitation or anything that says i have to let them see each other. I like to try but he s moving away and wants someone who isn t family or S.O and isn t always reliable to take my son on this trip. He also won t give me a time i will have my child back and i work i can t drive 3 hours away because he forgot to get my son a ride back. The very rare instances where I ve had to tell my childs dad I m working and can t drop him off hes threatened me. Tl dr: I d rather not have anything happen to my son because his father is immature.

Question: Should I move with my dad?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 08:11 AM PDT

Okay so I hate the high school I go to. I always feel like an outsider and I know that's not going to change. So I asked my mom if I can do independent studies instead and she said "just go with your dad" "leave right now" and I really thought about it and it doesn't seem like a bad idea. The only thing I like about living with my mom is that my boyfriend lives out here and if I move with my dad I would miss him so much. But I want to live with my dad, and my dad wants me to also. I don't know if it would be awkward though, because I haven't lived with him since I was like 7 and now I'm 15. And schools about to start in 5 days here. Do you think it's to risky? Should I move with my dad or stay with my mom

Question: Is it normal to shower with your sibling at age 14?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 08:03 AM PDT

We had to leave for an event while coming back from sports and there was only time for one of us to shower so we did it together. I m a 14 yo girl and my brother is 16. He wore his bathing suit but I didn t think to. Nothing sexual happened and it was only awkward at first. Have you ever done this with your sibling?

Question: Family issues & School issues?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 07:56 AM PDT

Hi, my name is Andrei, an 14 year old guy and i have a problem. I hate my dad because he is an ******* hypocrite without a heart. He is an alcoholic and always is screaming at me, sometimes is abusing me, at school everyone hates me, everyone is saying i am an stupid, ugly, etc.. Right now i am a loner, without friends, a loser.. I cant stand it anymore, they telling me only ugly nicknames like ********. So please help me, because i dont think i will survive there.

Question: Why is my son such a dick all of a sudden?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 07:50 AM PDT

Just a year ago, everything was fine. He was always happy, saying he loves me, living everyday with a smile on his face. Then when he turned 16, he suddenly changed. "I hate you, give me my own house you old f*ck. I'm gay because of this stupid country I was born in because of you". I don't know what to do?

Question: How to deal with a demotivating, stubborn, and overwhelming mom?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 07:19 AM PDT

Hi! I am going to try to keep this somewhat short. Please keep in mind while reading that I have tried to explain this all to my mother rationally and calmly but she fails to even attempt understanding. All summer I have been studying for the SAT. I've been doing pretty well with a max score of 1460 (above the 98th percentile), which I was doing of my own free will. But, I have become really exhausted from studying so much and my scores have dropped to 1390 (96th percentile). As you can see, my scores are going down. My mom insists I keep going but I feel like I get no breaks and I soon will break! my mom is so stubborn and won't budge. How can I get her to see that I need a break and to see that not only will if be better for me, but also my scores? I'm extremely frusterated and any help at all would be appreciated. Also please don't say to explain this to her because I have frickin a hundred times.

Question: How to tell parents addicted to drugs?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 07:05 AM PDT

Hey I'm 15 years old and want help to stop snorting cocaine but don't know how to tell my dad

Question: Can my parents blackmailing me?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 06:55 AM PDT

I'm 16 and i'm probably the worst son you could imagine. I've been caught smoking weed, drinking, sexting, and using my parent's credit card and on top of that my grades aren't so hot either. But now my parents are making my life a living hell even though i quit doing all that. My mom and I have just been non stop arguing for the past couple of weeks and now they're blackmailing me about how if i don't stop arguing with her they're gonna call the cops on me for all the times i've drank, smoked weed etc. I don't know how to say this without sounding like a spoiled brat which i'm not, but every morning my mom always starts up something that has no point, and i've been dealing with that all my life but now i just can't take it anymore and start yelling at her back. What i'm trying to ask is how do i deal with my parents blackmailing me. I've tried to be nice to her i swear but i just can't. I'm not sure if it's illegal or if i tell the cops that my parents are blackmailing me, i'll get in trouble for doing all of those things. I'm kind of in a lose lose situation and not sure what to do. pleas help.

Question: Feel like my family doesn't really care about me?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 06:38 AM PDT

I have an older brother who's 18, and a younger brother with Down Syndrome who's 5. I'm a 14 year old girl. My older brother gets a lot of attention from my parents because he's the oldest, and he's getting ready for college, etc. and my little brother gets attention because he's the baby and he has special needs, and I feel like I'm stuck with no attention. I barely see my older brother anymore, and my parents make me babysit my little brother a LOT (around 6+ hours a day). Which is fine, I know that my sisterly duty or whatever to take care of him, but I wish that I could have more time for myself. Also my parents never talk to me anymore except to ask me to do stuff like babysit or clean or cook (I cook dinner about three or four nights a week). Whenever I try to talk or make friendly conversation, I literally get ignored and talked over. When I forget to turn over the laundry because I'm watching my brother, or if I don't have time to put clothes away or something, they'll yell at me and it'll become a huge fight, but if my older brother is doing the same thing or just being straight up lazy, it's fine. My little brother will be a HUGE brat and hit me and call me names, and then my parents will yell at ME for it. I don't know how to discipline him- timeouts don't seem to work. I don't know, I'm just feeling overwhelmed by a lot of this and a bit neglected because it feels like my family doesn't love me anymore. What should I do? Also, since I was around three I stopped being the typical happy child and for some reason I just became kind of "blank..." I don't feel stuff super strongly and I don't smile or talk a lot, and on occasion my parents will scream at me and beat me and hit me and ask why I can't be a normal kid and they tell me to stop being like that. I can't control that, that's just who I am. How can I get them to understand?

Question: How can I get my mother and her sister to stop disliking each other so I can have cousins again?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 06:35 AM PDT

I really like my cousins on my mother's side but I haven't been able to see them because my mother won't let me go over to her sister's house anymore after my Mom and her sister had a fight last summer. Her sister won't let her kids come over to our house. My Mom made us travel at Thanksgiving last year and see our grandparents at a separate time so we wouldn't be at the family Christmas Eve. So I have only been able to see my 3 cousins once (a wedding in April). There fight was because both wanted to do different stuff with some property they own with their parents and they always have had different personalities and both critique the others parenting (my aunt more so). Also my mother likes to hold grudges. I am mad that my Mom punishes me because she is mad at her sister. I feel like getting my Mom back by being mean to my sister but my sister is Autistic so I don't want to hurt her feelings and I am too close to my brother to do that. So how can I get my mother to like her sister again so I can have cousins on my Mom's side again? We have cousins on my Dad's side but they are a lot older though we do get to see them on holidays at least. My only other cousin on my mother's side lives in Minnesota which is far away and only comes at Thanksgiving which we aren't allowed to go to anymore because my mother won't let us because of my aunt. Any thoughts or mean things I can do to get my mother to change and then I will immediately change? I am mainly nice and liked.

Question: Do I need to be worried the boyfriend of my mother's cousin will humiliate me over something I said in 2003?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 06:34 AM PDT

I asked a question earlier in the week but I think I misused some phrases and made it sound like a legal thing. I am Bipolar and stable now but in High School (13 years ago) during a manic spell I had a fight with someone and disclosed stuff I never should have about an older brother I am really close to. It is stuff he is not going to want people to know. I was fighting with the boyfriend of my mother's cousin who the cousin was leaving her husband for (an affair was going on). I was 15 and didn't know any better but should have stayed the heck out of the situation and was wrong to get involved. I also shared some stuff about myself and one other family member that I wouldn't want disclosed. So about 8 years ago I apologized to this guy. He and my mother's cousin are still friends but never married (mother's cousin left her husband for him) and I have met this guy about 5 times over the years. I am going to be seeing him at something in a few weeks. My fear is that this man will bring up the subjects I discussed so many years ago. My father says "let it go" and has said in the past no one remembers that. At the time though the guy threatened to tell my family and then backed down (the cousin told him I usually don't act like that). Any thoughts? Should I be worried? LAST TIME I WILL ASK My shame is that I shared secrets about another person (MY OLDER BROTHER) especially since this guy I told knows me very little.

Question: How can I convince my parents to let me stay at home with another relative? Please help?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 06:34 AM PDT

My family is going to Milwaukee next Friday, but I don't feel good enough to go and can't go. I am still coughing still, and I don't want to give the people in Milwaukee germs. I have told them that, but all my parents said that I am going, but I don't want to give the people in Milwaukee germs. I have convinced my parents that I have summer homework to do, but all they said is that I am going, but I don't want to give the people in Milwaukee germs. I have convinced my parents that on Friends, they get to stay at home while their family goes on vacation, but all they said is that they don't live at their parents' house anymore on Friends because they got jobs and moved out on it. Two of my friends get to stay at home next Friday because they are going away. The only reasons why I don't want to go are that I am not feeling good and can't go because I am coughing still, I don't want to give the people in Milwaukee my germs, I have summer homework to do, and I want to watch my grandma's TV. The only ways I can convince my parents to let me stay at home with another relative are to have stomach surgery (which is what I don't want to do because I feel worried that they wouldn't put me in the adult section), have gallbladder surgery (which is what I don't want to do either) get a job at Hollister or Panera and move out like they did on Friends (which is what I don't want to do either. How can I convince my parents to let me stay home with another relative? Can you help?

Question: How do I enjoy vacation with my mother when a relative of hers who works as a stripper is going to be visiting at the same time?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 06:32 AM PDT

I am a guy but not comfortable with a stripper over. I am 21. It is my mother's 2nd cousin but they became close friends as kids. My mother is not the stripper, her 2nd cousin is. She practices at the house and I am uncomfortable seeing it but I had to watch last time to give reviews I know this is every guys dream, but I was uncomfortable. NOT MAKING IT UP

Question: Im scared my parents will hear me record videos...?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 06:07 AM PDT

I'm pretty funny, I know how to edit good and I think I have a chance being succesful on youtube. But the problem is, I live with my parents and we have thin walls. I just feel embarased talking to myself infront of a computer, they would think I'm a weirdo. My mom doesn't go to work so she's at home all the time, so I cant do the videos. My brother is at home usually too. Plus I cant move to the garage or anything as ALL of our walls are thin... Is it normal to feel like that? What should I do about it?

Question: Am I being unfair?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 06:05 AM PDT

We used to rent out the downstairs since our house is designed to be a two family home. The problem was that it's an old house and it's not insulated. You could be tip toeing on the second floor and be heard loud and clear on the first floor. After awhile it got on our old tenants' nerves (married couple, no kids). I have 3 sisters who are going into 1st grade, 5th grade, and 8th grade. They're loud, like little kids loud. It's not much of an exaggeration to say it got ugly between us and the old tenants after awhile. When the wife emailed a list of complaints which was after months of radio silence and no voiced problems with the arrangement, my mom was instructed to ignore it by both her fiance and the real estate agent. My mom got guilty and tried to patch things up, but the wife started yelling at her. I don't know the specifics exactly of what the wife said, but my mom changed our locks afterwards. It sort of went downhill from there. They could have left at any time since they weren't boxed in by a lease but... they had a lot of pets and they couldn't find anywhere else that would take them. They're now taking us to court to try and sue us. I told my mom that after nearly two years of listening to us stomp around that anyone might have a bit of a break down. She was pretty hurt, saying that I was taking their side (now she's really angry at me). I don't excuse their actions, but getting stressed out by the constant noise isn't that surprising. But their reaction was.

Question: Who is at fault?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 05:54 AM PDT

Long story short. Someone in my family keeps stealing our mom's money. I tell one of my brothers, he blows up. Calls me a stupid *** *****, a slut, an ugly *** *****. I get home later that day, goes to the kitchen, takes a knife with me to my room for protection, he comes out of his room and comes into mine and sees the knife and yells to our mom and say I'm trying to kill him, all the while having a smug on his face. Our mom comes up to us, I throw the knife away so no one gets hurt since I wasn't going to hurt anyone anyway. Our mom slaps me, takes me my surprise, brother sees his chance and chokes me and then punches my face. Our mom defends him. Family defends him. My boyfriend goes to talk to him the next day. He threatens to hit me again in front of my boyfriend, starts a fight. Threatens us with a gun he has no license for. We leave. He calls the cops and says we broke in to the house (I have the key to the house) and beat him up. Who is wrong here?

Question: How to say a genuine thank you?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 05:54 AM PDT

My godfather just bought me something over $1000 and I'm absolutely blown away- speechless in fact. I want to say thanks to him, but just can't find the right words to say- a simple 'thanks' doesn't seem sufficient!

Question: Is my mom a good mother?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 05:51 AM PDT

From the ages 0-7, I was a happy child but not for long. My parents got caught up in bad stuff so my dad took the fall and in return got 3 years in prison. My mom raised me and my 3 younger brothers along with the help of my aunt and grandma (dad's side). Eventually my aunt moved back to her home state and my grandma didn't care for us. So my mom got my nana (her mom) to come live us. Before my nana showed up,my 7th bday came around. That same week I caught my mom cheating on my dad which totally changed my image of her. I never told my father to this day that I knew. Eventually we move back to Texas where my nana and mom are from. I forgot to mention my nana abused pills. Well 2 weeks after my 9th bday on Halloween my nana was found dead. It turned out she was suffocated by my step grandpa. It torn me apart but it damaged my mother worse. My mom picked up the same pill habits of her mother leaving me with 3 scared younger brothers (2,4, and 6 of age at the time) who looked up to me to take care of them while mommy was doing her thing. Eventually my dad got out of prison before the summer I turned 10 and followed along side my mother doing pills. Sadly they put us in danger plenty of time but i protected my brothers. They didn't stop till I was 15 years old, now I'm 17. I'm use to playing the mother figure and my brothers are too. Does that make my mom a terrible mom for making me grow up to fast? To this day I still can't forgive her for everything she's put us through.

Question: How can I convince my parents to move back to our old house?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 05:31 AM PDT

Hi, I was born in France and lived there until I was 7 then my family moved to Perth(Australia). I loved Perth, I had a awesome house, a awesome neighbourhood and a awesome school. Most Fridays my family and all the neighbours would have a party. I played games with my friends and it was always sunny. After we lived there for 6 years we built a pool. My relatives all live in France and my parents wanted to see them. A few days after getting our pool, my family moved to France before the terrorist attacks. We left our cat , all my friends and my pool before we could swim in it. Now it s been 6 months since I live in France and I hate it there. Kids about 11 smoke and swear all the time. We live in a house 2 time smaller than our old one and it stinks of cigarettes. I m really deppresed and I know my mom wants to move back but she doesn t say anything. I have made no real friends. What can I do or say to make them move back?:( Help!

Question: Ok so I caught a grown man peaking in my mom's room?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 05:30 AM PDT

IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO!??? Today when my mom got off work, my mom walked in my room and said that when she drove up, she saw a man walk into the back of our apartmen which is filled with cars and stuff. But when she park her car she said that he had disappeared and the only place he could've been was the side of the house where my mom's window is. Really fast, I opened my bathroom window and saw this guy looking in her window. She usually gets undressed when she gets off. I yelled " what are you doing"! Turns out it was my neighbor. 40 ur man lives with his mom

Question: How to make my father feel happy during his birthday!?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 03:05 AM PDT

I just met my father last year.I am not very close with him.He is currently married with two children 11,16.I was hoping to do something special for his birthday.This is the first time that Ill be celebrating it with him.but I dont want to imposed because I DONT WANY ANY JEALOUSY BETWEEN MY TWO YOUNGER SIBLINGS.What should I PREPARE THAT IS SIMPLE ,YET MY FATHER WILL APPRECIATE? CAKE WITH HBD PAPA IN IT? hope someone can give some good ideas and suggestions!! thanks

Question: My parents blocked my car in so I can't leave, what do I do? I am 32 and they are banning me from leaving for a day like I am a teen?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 02:59 AM PDT

THIS IS A SERIOUS QUESTION We are on vacation and they are mad I am leaving a day early to go see a relative on the way home my mother is on bad terms with. I don't get why they would do this. SO now my car is blocked in like I am a teenager and they have my Mom's mother participating. I can ball my parents out but I don't want to ball my poor old granny out. What do I do? Do I get the police involved? My Dad wouldn't be doing this on his own, it is all my mother and her weird grudge against her sister. I tried lying and saying I won't go to the aunts (even though I was still going to go) but they didn't believe me as they know I've done that before.

Question: Why is my mom so bitter to me?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 02:53 AM PDT

whenever i say anything she reacts negatively i could tell her about something im excited about and shes like "nice" or "good for you" or if i say something complaining or just talking about it in general shell say "well what do you want me to do about it!?" if i seem upset or quiet she just yells "what the hell is your problem lately?! i dont like your attitude i dont whats going on with you but its gotta stop im done!" literally she never just nicely asks if im ok or whats wrong she just attacks me when im usually just sad upset or probably just feeling hopeless i barely ever give her an attitude and when i do its because she never stops screaming at me how am i supposed to be nice when all i ever get is screamed at and when i try to be nice i still get screamed at and when i dont talk because i dont want to get screamed at i still get screamed at and im honestly really trying there seems to be nothing i can do except avoid her but i cant?

Question: Should i go or is my girlfriend right?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 02:45 AM PDT

I am with my girlfriend for 3 years, we also live together. I promised that I will not go without her anywhere for more than a day. Now an opportunity came to go on a business trip for 3 days to another country and first I told her I will not go but then I changed my mind and would like to go. Now she is mad at me, telling me how she cannot trust me anymore, that I am not reliable and that I change my mind all the time, she also wants to come with me. I think that people do change their mind sometimes and that it is normal going somewhere without a partner from time to time, but she said it is not normal to her. I also think it is stupid if she comes with me since it is a business trip. What should I do?

Question: My sister is very violent. What do I do?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 01:58 AM PDT

My sister is a chronic overeater and eats us (me, her and mom) out of house and home and mom lets her. She also has extreme anger issues and just about anything can trigger her flare ups. She has thrown things at me, broken them usually , she yells, curses, and has even hit and kicked me. Yesterday, I was vacumming up the dog and cat hair and her crumbs while she was eating. She asked me to stop and I did. I went to the kitchen and vacuumed in their and she yells at me to stop so she can hear her trashy show (which is all she watches). How was I to know? She could've paused the show until I got finished. All I said was pause the show, I need to get all the stuff up. She said no. I wanna watch this now. It only got worse because she got so mad she threw the coffee table down and almost killed one of our cats. I call mom and while I'm talking to her my sister grabs my phone and throws it on the floor. A few days ago she threw a coffee cup on the kitchen floor at my bare feet and legs, all because I said I didn't want to watch her shows and that I was getting tired of them. We always watch whatever she wants and she hogs my Netflix account. She scares our dogs and cats and when I tell her that she says she doesn't care. She has several friends, but I know that she acts completely different around them, like a lady. But she acts like a psychotic freak around me and the pets. I have to clean her messes and do the chores and mom lets it be that way. What do I do?

Question: My dad thinks I have an attitude?!?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 01:48 AM PDT

So my dad wanted to see my movie I've made for school(it's like 14 things I've learned at 14) and he goes:"you can do better" when I worked day and night doing it, I filmed since and did voice over! I didn't get out of my room for like 3 days! "I worked hard on it! I like it!" When he was walking out of the room he goes; "What am i going to do about your attitude?" he walks out. How does he want me to react to that? Like today I was putting away clothes (in my room). Then I walk out to give my mom back her hoodie that I took. when my dad walks into my room. "Why are the lights on!? Gawd, you're not even in here and you have all the lights on!" . "I am in here. I was just returning something to mom." I turn my lights back on since he's turned them off. " I was putting up clothes." I was angry, but i kept my voice calm. He walks out and I here him talking to my mom "What am i going to do with (my name)? She has this attitude " My mom stays absolutely silent. Why doesn't she say anything? So i was wondering do i have an attitude? I'm a 14 year old girl

Question: I think my sister was kidnapped I'm not so sure?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 01:32 AM PDT

Hi, it's really early in the morning it's 4:30 and my sister wa supposed to get off of work at 12:30 but she still isn't home and at about 1:30 I heard a car pass by and stop and then I heard a girl screaming so loud I just hope it wasn't her. I am so scared. And then I heard the car go fast. I went outside at about 3 AM and her car is here. Which is weird because she is not inside of the house. I am afraid to wake my parents because what if something didn't really happend to her? Should I wake them up and tell them? I'm afraid!!!

Question: My mom won't meet my medical needs, what do i do?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 01:15 AM PDT

So as the question states, my mom won't meet my needs. Here are the few. 1. I need glasses, I can see up close in front of me but for example when I sit on the couch to watch tv which is about 5-6 feet from the couch, I can't see anything. There's another couch on the side of the tv about 3 or 4ft away and I can still barely see anything, it's all blurry, and it's a pretty big tv. Basically I can't see anything that's more than a few feet away. She just says I need to eat carrots & that getting glasses will only make my eyes worse. But I don't need to wear them constantly just when I really need to see something specifically, like a street sign or whatever. 2. I have trouble breathing at night. I've told her this before, and she's said nothing, but sometimes when I'm trying to fall asleep I just can't breathe. It's annoying cuz I have to stay up late until I feel I can breathe again. 3. I get bad headaches, a lot. I've been getting migraines since I was about 8 or 9. Obviously no 8 year old is supposed to be getting splitting migraines. She took me to the doctors and he said to see a neurologist, well I'm almost 15, I still get them all the time and I still haven't seen a neurologist. It's not a financial thing because when she needed glasses she got them, if she needs to go to the doctor she goes. She just refuses to take me.

Question: My 6yo son has a 3yo half sister. Should they meet each other? (tricky situation)?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 01:08 AM PDT

My 6 year old son has a 3 year old half sister. They have never met. They both share the same biological father. Me and my son have not been in contact with the 'dad' for the past 4 years and definitely don't plan to be in contact. It was the 'Dads' choice to abandon my son. After being messed about so much I decided if he ever got in contact I would tell him not to contact us again. He never made contact for me to even tell him that. I later on found out some disturbing information about him which isn't relevant, just the point is I don't ever want him in our lives. I was tempted to tell the mother because I'd definitely want to know if I was her. She hated me at the time and I didn't want to seem like I was just trying to ruin their relationship, so I left it. The mother is no longer with the Dad. They have broken up. I never considered getting in contact with her when they were together because I wanted nothing to do with him. Now that they aren't together, I am considering contact for the kids sake. I'm sure my son and his half sister would be curious to meet each other when they grow up. Would it just be better if they had childhood memories together? Anyone been in this situation that can give me advice on what to do? I just don't want any contact with the so called 'dad'. I don't think you've understood my question. Totally not thinking about what I want. The so called 'dad' is a dangerous man I don't want to risk him getting in contact with us. I also think the mother dislikes me due to the past, so I am not sure how to go about it. I'm not sure if I'm even making the right decision. Bit more complicated than just simply asking "should they meet?"

Question: Grandpa gone crazy Advice?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 12:35 AM PDT

My sister and I are taking care of our grandpa because he is terminally ill right now.He takes this heavy medicine like Vicodin and oxycodone that makes him sleep and delusional. I asked him to go to sleep but he refused to and is walking around the house when he should be laying down.Right now it's 3 in the morning and we are trying to sleep he is already stubborn and keeps us up all night as it is.He is walking around our house yelling at us talking to himself because we refuse to give him his car keys he woke up us pouring hot water on us stole my purse because he thinks that his keys are in there (they are not).I told him to keep it and went back to bed I wake up 10 minutes later to him dumping out my purse going through my wallet burning my credit cards demanding I give him his keys.I told him to go to bed and he is sitting there yelling "You all are just trying to get rid of me and I won't allow it."Now he is hiding in my room with my purse under his pillow yelling at us and I am afraid to go to sleep because I do not want him to hurt himself or try to hurt me. I am not calling the cops that is not an option because I love him too much and he is not going to a nurse home.I just don't know what to do I am so tired and I am trying to go to sleep but I am not going to leave him up alone and I am not going to give him his keys Advice?

Question: Is it ok to be blood sisters if your not related?

Posted: 12 Aug 2016 12:08 AM PDT

Question: I dearly love my older sister but I feel like I can't do anything unless she's done it first?

Posted: 11 Aug 2016 11:58 PM PDT

I got a job before her and she was heartbroken. She constantly questions what she's doing with her life and always thinks she's a loser. It's not as easy as you think to just tell her to grow up and find one yourself cause she's very sensitive and I'd never want to do anything to hurt her. She does everything for me. Ever since I was little she's been my biggest role model, she cares for me and has honestly been the biggest help to me throughout my whole life. I'm social and I'm afraid that if I ever date someone I'll just put her into a funk and make her feel bad that she isn't social. I love her so much but she's so sensitive that I'm afraid if I do something she hasn't done she'll feel horrible like when I got a job. What do I do, she means the world to me