Hello ladies of Yahoo Answers. Its Donovan. I have been reading a pickup artist book that encourages men to rate themselves based on the criteria given in it. It is with this rating that men can determine what kind of women to pursue. According to the book, I am a 9.5/10 and should only pursue 8s 9s and 10s. But so far I have been unable to attract any women--not even subpar 5s 6s and 7s. So maybe the book is wrong and I'm not really a 9.5/10. Can you ladies please rate me? -I am 31, 6'1", 175 lbs of lean muscle and am constantly working out trying to build more muscle -I have been told I look like a younger, better looking version of Tom Cruise with bigger pillowy lips -I have a graduate degree, a decent job, and I drive a BMW -I have been to 21 countries, am well cultured, and have a lot of things to talk about -I took Japanese in high school and can still speak it well enough to have a conversation -I am a wine connoisseur and enjoy going wine tasting -I enjoy fencing and won 2nd place in a national fencing competition when I was in high school In my opinion I have the height, the looks, the education, the success, and the hobbies of a high caliber man. I think I am no longer than an 8. What do you ladies think? And do you think I am good enough to attract a young, beautiful, classy woman who would make a great wife and mother?

I m engaged to marry the love of my life. We were both virgins when we got together years ago and have only been with each other. He asked me for a hallpass to have sexual relations with other women before we get married. I m divided. Obviously I don t want him to be with other woman. I mean, we re in the process of wedding planning. On the other hand, you only live once and should I really restrict him?

When we first got married she already had a kid with her ex,and for 3 years she didn't want to come home always with her parents. But she would say that at night her mom would drop her off at her Ex's house. I still felt like she might of had an affair. I don't know it didn't seem right, what do y'all think?

My husband and I have only been married for two months. Both young and have been together for more than a year and a half. I'm a stay at home wife and he works usually 10 hours a day at a physical labor job. So i understand he's tired..it seems he only wants to fool around on his convenience. And I'm always initiating. He's often to tired to want to do anything and he'll tell me we will do stuff tomorrow every night. But we usually don't and He loves me a lot I know that but he never initiates. I feel like if I didn't do it we'd never do anything. I just think it's weird considering we've been married for a short time..I do have the higher drive of the two of us but. He just always says he's too tired or it's too late. I just feel rejected

My ex said something bad about my wife and I didn't tell her because I knew it was stupid and my ex is stupid and I didn't want my wife to be upset. Later my wife asked me if my ex ever said something bad about her and I lied and said no because I didn't think it was worth her being upset about plus I didn't want my wife and ex to be fighting and me not get to see my kid over this. Now my wife claims that this lie is the reason she lost all trust for me and never trusted me again. so my question is Do you think this is harsh? Or is it justifiable? Thanks

He hasn't asked for my phone number. Sad face. I've seen him eavesdropping while watching my conversation with people across the room and react to what I'm saying to them. He also has just watched me when I'm doing stuff and kept watching even after I caught him and said "hi".

One night, when me and my wife were being intimate with each other right in the middle she called another man's name out. Does this mean she possibly had an affair?

My husband blocked me from his fb, and posts recent pictures, messages to and from his exwife. I asked him for his password, but he won't give it to me, and keeps the pictures of him and his exwife on his fb and he won't change it. Is he trying to tell me something?

My husband is filing for child support for his kids mother (2 kids ages 8 and 6). The children have been living with his mother for the past 3 years. My husband and I have been living together for 10 months, and we have a 4 month old. He makes good money and provides his mother with funds for his kids. Their mother doesnt provide for them financially at all. My husband and his mother have been the primary caretakers of these children for years, being the fact that CPS was involved with the mother. Will he be ordered to pay child support ? What could he expect at the initial negotiation hearing ?

When I send him the pictures, He always says Thank you. When I ask him about them, He likes to change subjects. I would hope he gets horny, or save them to his email. We've been married since last year, no kids. He will be back in 2 months. Anyways, Can someone help me with this ? Thanks 😇

I've been married about a year. My husband has a daughter with an ex that lives cross country. Per my husband, and various family members a lot of horrible things happened. She *literally* left one day cross county with their child and never came back. My MIL & SIL still talk to her after 6 years. I got really tired of seeing their " I love you kiss kiss " junk on Facebook/instagram. Between this, I tried to ask my SIL about the situation and she went on to badmouth her brother (my husband) he's a deadbeat... this, that, and the other. Then said she sends screen shots to the ex. I was incredibly hurt by all of this. I sat on it a few months to see what else transpired and decided I had enough. I'm not going to tell anyone who they can talk to but I do not want to talk to my SIL who wants to bad mouth my husband nor do I want to see the love fest everyday between my SIL, MIL, and the ex. So I simply removed them from my social media. We don't regular see or talk to them. Today they called my husband(which I told him when I removed them that I was doing it & why) how they are so hurt and confused like I'm some sort of horrible person. I never said I didn't want to talk to them. I simply removed them so they can carry on their lovefest out of my sight. I told my husband them going to him (and not even trying to reach me) only solidified my position in that they wanted to create drama. He wants me to apologize to them. Can I get another opinion?

Complicated college friendship/relationship. Need advice? Long but worth reading I am a college senior in my final year and there is the lady of interest. We have known each other for 2 years, meeting initially through a campus club/organization which I am now the leader of. (Spoiler alert: As a leader, I am not allowed to date any members for certain reasons) My feelings for her began during the semester of spring 2015, from infatuation to full blown feelings today. Our friendship blossomed from that point, especially during spring 2016. We could talk about anything and everything, jokes, happiness, and laughter. A great male/female friendship! We were friends but I got the sense that the feelings were mutual through her behaviors. She told me very personal things about herself(very deep) and I also could open up to her about my issues. She trusted me and I trusted her. I kept my feelings for her hidden up until about a month ago, end of June when I confessed my feelings for her (I couldn t hide it any longer). I also told her how I can t date her because of my leadership position and she being a member. She seemed to understand my confession and opened up to me about her previous relationship turmoil and personal problems, just wanting to remain single for a while. Everything seemed fine and we went to a local event together right after as regular friends. No awkwardness On the 4th of July, we went to watch the fireworks (first time with a girl, Idk if things like this are romantic or not). No awkwardness. At this point, I thought the feelings were pretty mutual. Everything seemed fine till mid-July when we both became really busy.(college seniors, jobs). If I'm available, she isn't. If she is, I'm not. This went on until last week. It seemed like we were drifting apart or that she started to dislike me for some reason. This week, we finally met (though briefly) each other and things(communication) felt different and distant between us. I couldn't read her. I worried that I've ruined our friendship with my confession. I just want our friendship back at this point. The song halfcrazy by musiq soulchild perfectly describes my situation if you need a reference. I'm trying to remain hopeful so any advice would be very helpful and thank you so much.

I heard it was because it showed that the woman was the man's property. I personally don't feel comfortable changing my last name in the first place, but I'd like to know more about the history behind it so I don't seem ignorant when I explain the reasons why I don't want to change my last name. I live in the U.S.

I mean why couldn't two guys legally marry move in together and have girlfriends (whom they don't marry)? Why wouldn't that be better for the men? And/or the women

I believe in sex after marriage. I really want to have sex. I also want to have children. I have a boyfriend. I love him very much. I would like him in my life for a very long time. I want him in my life. But I don't want to get married. I'm actually terrified about marriage. Obviously not the good parts. But all the seemingly bad parts. For example, cheating, divorce, sex problems, financial problems etc. I know humans aren't perfect. 24F.

I'm 20, m and thinking about getting married from a girl I met. We already have had sex several times but I use condoms and I don't want to use these things when I'm married. I heard married couples don't use them anyways but I don't want a child ever. I haven't talked to her about her getting on birth control. What do most couples do if they don't want kids? Do some pull out? I haven't tried that yet.

What should I be doing differently to better help her get along with me? We are planning to get married of June 17th of next year and I don't want for it to only be a matter of time before she gives up on even criticizing me and divorces me. You see, this will be her second marriage, so I don't want her to feel like she was wasting her time with me, before too long. Please, advise. I should add that have just moved in with her and her children from her previous marriage. The kid like me and look forward to my adopting them and taking my last name., albeit I don't know if that alone will be enough to help appease her.

So i have been married for over a year, But we have been dating for 8 years. the 7month in to the marriage we soon like not getting along well I mean we get in small arguments my stress from work and trying to pay the bill make me not so happy at home and she stared going to bars on the weekends with her Girlfriends me annoy me. so the argument we had was stupid but she said these little things adds up and now she wants a divorce and she left to er moms house. I have not seen or heard from my wife for over a week now and she has not took all of her clothes yet and didn't leave her ring either. so my question is what do i do at this point. I called her a day after she left and told her lets work it out and i love her but she said no its over and so i was assuming she was gonna bring me divorce papers but nothing yet. so what do i do? I love her and want her back but I am done playing these stupid games of NO contact game. mind you she did this **** to me 4 months ago and them after a week she text me that she didn't want a divorce.

I'm married 7 years, together for 15. Perfect life, kids , house etc. My wife is a wonderful woman, kind, smart, gorgeous, good career & an amazing Mum. I've had affairs and flings multiple times. She's no idea. I feel sick but worst of all I don't think I'll stop. My last affair ended by mutual consent but the woman told her husband. As expected he wasn't very happy. He chose not to tell my wife as he didn't want to upset her. He also chose to forgive his wife & he never did anything against me. He explained to me that he thinks I'm mental for cheating on such a lovely woman and he's right. I decided to change my ways but I failed & am back to my old tricks. My wife is happy but completely ignorant to the facts. If she knew she'd be disgusted & devastated. She is amazing & may have a chance at happiness with someone who cared for her. I'm an awful husband but a good father & I would give her everything financially etc. I don't know what to do. Do I tell her & hope she does ok without me, do I say nothing continually try to improve but fail because Im desperately unhappy and so disgusted with myself now that I've lost all moral decency. You can name call all you like, you'd be right but beyond that what is the right thing to do for my wife & childs happiness assuming that I'm not going to improve my scumbag ways?

So in March this year my husband of 8 and 2 children together emotionally cheated on me with a female co worker. They alao shared a kiss I found this out when I had him followed by a private investigator. We have had a very turbulent 13 months together and became lost and distant. He suffered a major berevament and was unable to say goodbye and I feel this has affected him greatly. Another thing my husband does is lie about a lot of things....in all different situations be it social when he wants to appear more interesting to others to not wanting to hurt others etc he knows this is a problem and has started seeing a counsellor. At this moment in time I feel I have gone through that much heartache, pain and loss that I now have become numb to any emotion towards my husband. He was in pieces Wednesday and have never seen him this way and was saying he loves me so much and would like us to start again if we could I didn't even cuddle him to reassure him! So last night we had an hour conversation where neither of us wanted to end the call with him saying he feels he needs to let me go as he's put me through enough pain and suffering and that I need to find true happiness. He also said I deserve so much more and he doesn't deserve to have a family or to even be in this world. How will I know if it's the right decision to agree when I feel so numb at the minute! How do you know that it's time to let go??

Ok so i know its for sex, but why do you have to why not have to separate beds then push them in together when you want ot have sex. Me personally even when im married i want my own bed/ even my own room lol

After about 7 months(3 months living together)I started noticing the sex wasn't the same. I have never felt as strongly love and sexually for anyone as him. I asked him about it, he said he was just busy at work and tired. He works m-f on the road. Found out later that during that time he was watching porn A LOT. 2-3x a day at least 3x a week. after awhile the sex became different. He wasn't initiating anymore i was doing all the work. Sometimes he beat around the bush and tell me that he's not in the mood. started hurting my feelings he said that he felt like he wasn't pleasing me. (he seems a bit inexperienced, but I still love it anyway) I asked about porn he said that he was watching Bc he likes role playing I felt he was bored i tried diff Positions, toys, phone sex while he was away, Bought outfits we lived out the role playing it was amazing I really liked it. a yr later I find out that he has watched porn even when I'm home and sleeping why not just wake me up? never turned him down.I feel like something wrong with me Our relationship is PERFECT except for this He thinks our sex life is great! Has he lost interest in me sexually? I don't think he's cheating. He lies to me and tells me that he doesn't watch porn when he's home Bc that's disrespectful to me but I know for a fact he has. Then the fact that he lied to my face makes me feel even worse about the situation. he's said "all u wanna do is f***" he's also said that sometimes he feels like I just want him for sex

I have a bad gallbladder and they won't take it out and also on an antibiotic and I fart all night. Sometimes my boyfriend will cuddle against me only for me to fart. He also gets mad when he tries to sleep and his head is under the blanket and I fart loudly. It's really embarrassing and he gets angry thinking that I do it on purpose which I don't. How can I stop?