Is it possible to have a Man of honour at my wedding instead of a maid of honour?? I couldn't choose between my three best girlfriends so they are going to be bridesmaids and my male best friend that grew up with me and whose known me the longest gets the honour title and i want him to stand on my side. thoughts?

My fiance wants his brother to be in our wedding. His brother is married (they have been together since hs, only married 3 years) and has kids, I hardly ever talk to her because she always seems mad and has attitude towards everyone (including her husband). Is is okay to have him paired with one of my friends? I didn't really want her to be my bridesmaid because I'm not close to her at all. My fiance's family doesn't really like her because of the things she has done to her husband. Is it wrong to pair him with my maid of honor, and have her just sitting like everyone else? I forgot to mention she is an extremely jealous person.

When I was little I would daydream of my dream wedding. Now, though, my interests have changed. Now I just want to sign the papers and call it good. I don't want a wedding. I feel like most woman obsess with the wedding more than the actual marriage, I guess maybe I'm just the odd ball. I just don't like a lot of the traditions that are found at weddings, plus weddings are majorly expensive. I'd rather spend the money on my first home, or a new car, or something that will actually last more than a day. Am I the only woman who doesn't want a wedding?