Family: Question: Animosity towards mother?

Question: Animosity towards mother?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 02:31 PM PDT

She really makes me sick. Her lifestyle an ways. I'm grateful to have a mother in this time of day. But since they take care or me and I live under there roof they claim Responsibility's and impose restrictions. It makes no sense. I'm not even allowed to leave my house without telling her where I'm going. And have ridiculous curfews if ever. Don't have nearby relatives. I can't hang out with friends and barely have any because it makes me antisocial. I don't want to sound like a whiny teenager if it does. But even if I do rebel I can expect physical discipline and restrictions. She treats me like a baby and doesn't realize I'm almost a grown man! Not allowed to stay home by myself, always have to be monitored etc. And I would just wait it out until college but that's years to come as I have to prepare finances. I'm not even allowed to have a girlfriend. Just what can i do?

Question: My "dad" is ruining everything...please I need advice.?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 02:30 PM PDT

Uh im 14 turning 15 year old male and my dad drinks alot. He works all the week and on sunday he goes to a club and drinks beer or alcohol till he gets as drunk that he has no idea what he is doing. Once he even peed on the hall. We are ads depressed..my mom is lot too... We have to sleep on different room cuz he smells very bad. My grandma is with us here too. She stays at her sons in usa.. But visits us sometimes. She didn't anything at all till he once and now twice. When she wasn't here he used to drink alot more.. And come home drunk. This is my uncles house where we staying he lives in usa (my grandmas son).if he learns about my "dad" he will kick him out.. Im in a bad relationship with "dad" he comes from work doesnt even talk to me eats and goes to sleep that's basically what he does. Idk what else to do...sorry for the long text just had to talk to someone for advice :\ Thanks a lot ..

Question: Is this normal?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 02:20 PM PDT

My cousin has had to hear this daily since they were in 4th grade. My cousin is a teen. Whenever I go to my aunts and uncles house I hear them say this sometimes as well. They always call my cousin obese, they have a messed up mind set. They have said anything over 115 pounds is obese no matter how tall the person is. My cousin is 123 pounds and 5'7. They call my cousin morbidly obese all the time. My cousin rarely eats, and only eats twice a day. Is this normal for parents to do? My aunt and uncle also refuse to allow my cousin to talk to a counsellor, my cousin has bad image problems with having to hear that non stop for a real long time.

Question: Sick of paying expensive cable?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 02:18 PM PDT

I am a single mother, I live paycheck to paycheck. While my friends and co workers are going on yearly or monthly vacations, I m trying to figure out if one of my utilities are gonna get cut off. I pay $200 a month for cable/internet. I tried to call and get it lowered but they said it would be more expensive without a package. Anyhow of you live without cable/internet. I have two teens who will flit out if I disconnect it. One is always watching Netflix the other is a gamer. If I did I would save about $2400 a year. A vacation!

Question: Ex is upset I didn't give my daughter a bedtime.?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 02:15 PM PDT

I recently bought a house and have joint custody of my 5 year old daughter. Long story short a buddy talked me into throwing a " housewarming party" so I did and I told my daughter she could stay up late, party in her PJs, and have as much candy as she wanted. She had a lot of fun and I did eventually put her to bed about 11 and read to her, told everyone to quiet down some so she could sleep. Ex GF was not pleased. It was a one time deal, why is she mad?

Question: Why don't Chinese people hug and kiss their parents?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 02:07 PM PDT

My Chinese friend has a good relationship with his parents. One time while talking, it came up on the conversation the topic of kissing and hugging your parents. My Chinese friend says that he has never kissed or hugged jis parents, not since was a baby. If he loves his parents, and if his parents love him, why don't they ever hug?

Question: My dad is an alcoholic asshole I need help with dealing with him. Help?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 01:54 PM PDT

So I've been living with my stepdad for 8 years and let me just tell you. He treats my mother and me like complete crap. He kicks us out of the house and always complains that my mom doesn't do anything— and she's the one doing everything. He calls us names and even boasts about how great he is, and always drinks. He doesn't do anything himself. I can't take living with this alcoholic, he puts everyone down and I just want to move but I can't. My mom is going to be starting a new job, and it's the night shift. I don't know how'll I'll handle it without her. He's awake the whole night. We need to move asap, but my mom isn't making a lot of money. So moving is out of the option. If his continues I think I'll end up super stressed to he point I'll become sick. Please give me some advice. Thanks

Question: I am really insecure because of my pimples!?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 01:48 PM PDT

So im a 15 yrs old boy, i am really insecure of my pimples!. I am always depress because of it! I cant even go out with my friends because i am the only one who have acne! I have many friends when i was at the elementary(when i was 10 years old) I always cry! I cant enjoy my life :(. I cant even eat my favourite foods as chocolate, ice cream, fried foods. I am always sad but my family are so happy and they dont have acne like me. My sister is really happy because she had a lot friends and she had a smooth skin(she is 16)... But me i am always sad and cry.. I cant do whatever i want, i cant eat junk foods and dessert( that is my happiness). But now im really done. My parents wont to listen me and they always said it will go away. Nobody cant listen.. I love you guys( for who listen me) :(

Question: My father isn't acting like a real father...?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 01:47 PM PDT

I am 17 years old, and for the longest time I was the apple of my Father's eye. Within the past couple years, things have changed. A lot. They've been getting especially bad these past few months. My father will be very disrespectful to me (he almost hit me one night and he's called me things such as a waste), he will point out any fault he finds with me, regardless of everything I've done correctly or well, anytime he is nice and we are joking around, he will twist what I said and turn it back on me at a later time when he is mad at me. If he is in a happy/joking mood and I tease him, sometimes he will turn on me immediately and begin yelling at me. I know that most people would say "you're a lazy teen" but I am not. I am an Honors/AP student in school, I have all As, I spend almost all of my free time completing chores or working, I go to the gym almost every day. I know that I am worth more than how my father is treating me, but I don't know what to do. He makes me cry almost every day, but I never let him see because he would yell at me more. When he yells at me, I try to just submit and tell him he's right and I call myself stupid and dumb which he agrees with if I do. I don't want to be around him, I don't know what to do. Please help.

Question: What happens next?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 01:45 PM PDT

For years I lived with my dad. I hated it. He never talked to me, never helped me, and I failed at school because he never did anything. When i failed he just yelled at me and when I was depressed he didnt do anything. So this year I decided to leave and stay with my mom. He says he'said coming for me in a week. I don't know what to do when he comes here. Please help. Should I stay locked in my room? Can he legally just come in here and take me? I'm 16 years old. Please help, I don't know what happens next.

Question: How to deal with moving?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 01:41 PM PDT

My mom met a guy who is pretty rich I guess and now we re moving into his house that just got finished being built. It s one hour away from where we live now. I m so happy where we are and I don t really want to move. I guess living in a big house will be nice but I love it here. So, I m still going to go to my school because I m president of NJHS and my mom doesn t want to take that from me. But, I don t want to drive all the way here and back, but I also don t want to leave my school. It s 8th grade year and it s my last year of middle school. How do I deal with moving and not going to high school with all my friends?

Question: Let's say it's hypothetical: What should I do?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 01:41 PM PDT

What if, I noticed our uncle rubbing my 14y/o brother inappropriately in places that he should never touch him. And if my brother was obviously uncomfortable but when I asked him what happened he pretended like he didnt know what I was talking about and basically told me to leave it alone. But I was 100 percent sure of what I saw. and I'm not sure if I should say anything or leave it alone like he said bc what if I say something and they both say they dont what I'm talking about as if I'm making it up when I'm not. I'm not sure what I should do. This isnt the first time I noticed him being inappropiate with him but it was the 1st time I saw him touch him like that out in the open where I could see what he was doing. . This is not a trolling question so please only give serious answers

Question: My fiancé finished with me because he saw my Instagram account.?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 01:41 PM PDT

My fiancé looked at my phone and I had a direct message on Instagram from my daughter. He won t let me have Facebook because he thinks I d chat to other men. I have Instagram so because I like to look at my 3 daughters photos. Now my fiancé has finished with me for being sly.

Question: Why am I the polar opposite to everyone in my family?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 01:38 PM PDT

Does something snap inside people as kids where they just choose to not be anything like their family in any way, we get along just fine however.

Question: Not a question, just wanted to write something for my dad because I need my feelings out?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 01:19 PM PDT

Almost a year. I miss you even more as the days go through. Your soothing hugs that brought me peace, the way we understood each other was so perfect that we didn't even have to talk to know something was going on, everytime I asked for advice you were always there. I'll never forget those afternoons when we played football and ate like if it was our last day alive. From all the things you could do and you were good at there was only one you never taught me... to dance! Wish I was a good dancer like you. You had a love so deep that everyone would get contaiged by it. Thanks to you I want to be a better person everyday and I always carry you with me, in my heart. Now my greatest pride is to be called like you. Thank you, for all the amazing moments we had and those who for reasons of life we couldn't have. I love you with my life and I miss you with my soul. I know you're there for me, watching over from heaven while you defeat God at a football game. You know it dad, with the shield in the chest next to the heart. Beause my dad isn't an ordinary person, he's an angel. He has the heavenly gift of treating everyone very well. Dad, I know you can't come back, but I will always love you, for all the happiness you brought me and you always will. I just pray to God that if there's another life after death that my dad remains the same because another one like you I'll never have.

Question: Do my parents "deserve" my respect?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 12:59 PM PDT

I'd say my childhood was pretty bad from the start. My parents have been fighting for all my life. Their fights are so intense that one time my cousin (who was 26 at the time) started crying when they were fighting in the car (i of course was used to it). They are very religious (islam), even though I am not. They force their religion upon me - and i genuinely believe they would disown me if I came out as atheist/agnostic. I'm a straight A student and top of my class but that doesn't matter to them. They don't let me outside, they don't let me spend time with my friends because they "come from a different culture" and they will influence me to "do drugs and have sex" They berate me over the littlest things, like growing my hair a little longer (too feminine) or growing a chin strap (too ugly), etc. Any form of verbal defense after being berated is considered "disrespect". They swear at me, and just this morning they yelled at me in front of guests. I've discussed this with people in the family ,because they refuse to get my professional help (because I suspect I have some deep level of depression), and no one takes my side. Their stupid religion tells them the parent is always right. For the next four years anyways I'll be financially under them because of college- so I can't run away and start a new life. Do they truly deserve my respect simply because they are my parents?

Question: How do i runaway to california?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 12:56 PM PDT

Im 14 and i dont have any money but my boyfriend lives in california and i wanna go there for him and also because im being treated badly my brother choked and almost snaped my neck and he beat me and hes 21 and my mother didnt do anything about it threw a small little plastic bottle at him because he was messing with me and so he started choking me and my mother said he should have snapped my neck and she yells at me all the time my other brother treats me badly and my sister treats me badly threatens to beat me and my mother does nothing about it my neck still hurts and i have a bruise please help me!!!! :'( i cant live here anymore im already packed and leaving tonight! I live in mississippi by the way please help me dont tell me crazy stuff like your 14 and im spoiled i dont get anything from her )`: or no one buys me anything i have to wear clothes from other people that gave me clothes and shoes )': please help me!!! )`:

Question: My boyfriends sister makes him watch her son every week? I'm annoyed.?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 12:55 PM PDT

My bf is 23, she's 29. She won't get day care or any sort of child care and expects others to watch her son who is turning 3 in feb. He watches him every Monday. She gets out of work at 3 but won't call him u till later around 6 to drop her son off!! For the past few months she's been asking him to take him on Sunday's as well! At noon time. And if he says no she throws a fit, or if he doesn't want to she makes him feel bad. She asks so she can go to parties and be with her friends. Now me and my bf have busy schedules and barely spend time together, I took Sunday's and Monday's off so I could spend his days off with him. And I never get to enjoy them because he ALWAYS has his nephew! This is putting a tremendous strain on our relationship, especially when we have events planned and we have to cancel because he gives in to babysitting! Every week, Sunday and Monday for almost a year, for free! Am I wrong for being upset about this? I think his sister should realize she's a mom and needs to sacrifice not going to a party or PAY for child care.

Question: Hit my mom back and she's been threatening to have me arrested?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 12:52 PM PDT

So my mom was in my room talking to me about chores I have to do by next Sunday while I was doing my homework so I wasn't really paying attention. But then she began referring to my girlfriend of 4 years a "slut" and "hobag" and that caught my attention. I told her to shut up and she kept going. Then she began saying that she's probably cheated on me and that's why she's a slut. So I pointed out that she was being a hypocrite as she was the one who cheated on my dad with six different men, even citing my sister as not even being his because she isn't. So she slapped me and I shoved her and she fell over the couch in my room and I didnt help her up. She then began saying she was gonna kick me out and I told her I want to live with my dad because anything would be better than to live with a hypocrite. She's been threatening to call the police to have me arrested for assault for the past hour. What should I do?

Question: How do I get out of camp tomorrow?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 12:11 PM PDT

My mom signed me up for this camp and I really don't want to go. I honestly have a panic attack just when I think about it. I don't know anyone there and they will all be older than me and My social anxiety is so bad and I will do anything to not go. How do I get out of this?

Question: Why do we sympathise nd trust wrong people always !?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 12:10 PM PDT

My cousin came from village nd she was a guest to us , as a host I was very nice to her , even allowed her to use my phone nd tablet nd she all the way was using my tablet nd thought it's her own. She deleted my all pics , my all memories sayin arrogantly thatg the memory was full so I have to .. She also stole my cosmetics , my favourite m my favourite eye liner , blush on nd my money too.. I'm really angry , I thought she's a guest nd I was being extra guest and she...... What should I do now ?

Question: My mom doesnt talk to me unless its to yell or tell me what to do, she makes me feel unwanted and shes extremely negative.?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 11:58 AM PDT

its been like this for years. im 16 and for years ive been waiting for the day i become 18 so i can leave. its gotten to the point where i dont invite her to any award ceremonies or anything because she just always drags me down and no matter what i do she never encourages me. if she does say congratulations its half *** and sounds sarcastic and has an attitude.she dictates everything and she is always so quick to punish me and never believes anything i say. she wonders why i give her attitudes. she gives me no respect, she throws the rent line in my face whenever i say anything, you know " well do you pay rent " she also says very nasty things to me once she said i didnt deserve any birthday acknowledgement. she doesnt even say happy birthday some years. im pretty sure she resents having me. i also think shes only concerned and cares about my father. also whenever we get into a fight she always makes whatever i say sound worse than what i really said so she can tell my father and get me in trouble. also she talks about my achievements and awards to her friends and acts like she was there and she was supporting me in any way but financially. last thing that really really bothers me she goes and cries to my father saying I hurt her feelings and all this bs so that he can come to me saying i hurt her feelings and all this stuff but NO ONE cares about my feelings ever. ps- sorry this was so long. also i just want to add that its not like this all the times just 75% of the time and i love that 25 when its normal also besides everything i said me and my dad have a decent to good relationship. ( my dad also sees that me and my mom dont get along because sometimes he hints at it but never really addresses it)

Question: My mother and father fighting.?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 11:58 AM PDT

Ok My mother and father fight a lot.Then we get dragged up in the fight.i want my family to stop these arguments.any thoughs?i would really aprecite it.(sorry for bad english and we means my 2 brother

Question: How can I break away?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 11:57 AM PDT

I'm 24 and I have a sister who is special needs sister. My dad lets her do whatever she wants to. She's met men online and ended up getting pregnant. Now she has a baby that my father has custody of at 60. She still continues to try to meet guys and go to clubs, but when she goes places, my father expects me to chase her around and make sure she doesn't get lost. She's almost 30 and is as lazy as they come. She even has a bald spot from where she lies in bed all day. I'm always expected to make sure she doesn't get into anything. It even gets to the point where it interferes with my social life. I don't want to say anything because I love her and I don't want to be mean. It just stresses me out at times. How can u break away from it all?

Question: Should I do something about a crying baby?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 11:56 AM PDT

First off, this is not my child. Let me make it simple. I have been living in my apartment for a few weeks now and this is my first time living like this. I have noticed that the residents below me are grandparents. The parents bring their child and visit the apartment sometimes. I m not trying to sound like a bad person, but the circumstances of the crying child are bizarre. Just this morning, I was casually sleeping, then all of a sudden the child starts going at it. And I swear, for 15 minutes straight the baby did not stop crying and I kept hearing a male voice say "Stop it. Your mother is not gonna like that." That s all he said. He didn t even attempt to care to the child. It s really odd. While the crying is not frequent (thank god), I really try to ignore it but it has become a problem for sleep and concentration. Wearing my headset while sleeping doesn t even help. My main point is that they don t even attempt to stop it. It only gets louder. Sometimes they don t even acknowledge the crying and I hear nothing else for like 30 minutes. Now I know I m not a parent. I don t understand raising children or anything yet, but from what I m hearing, it s a problem that s not going away. I can hear them below me relatively well from their patio, so the problem isn t going to go away. Should I even do anything about it? I m not gonna bang on their door and yell at them. I understand, it s a child, they cry. But it this something even worth making a complaint about?

Question: Moving to my dads?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 11:45 AM PDT

I'm 14 and I'm thinking about moving to my dads because my mom let's my brother do whatever he wants. He moved out when he was 16 to go to my dads because she didn't let him to what he wanted, nows he's 19 moving back in. He already basically lives there because my mom just let him take over my bedroom so him and his gf can sleep there, now I'm stuck in the basement. Now he's moving into the basement taking over a part of it, I'm just tired of my mom letting him do whatever he wants, would I be able to move to my dads? He said it's fine

Question: Am I spoiled or do I have middle child syndrome?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 11:36 AM PDT

I'm 14 years old, I have a older sister (she's 16 years old) and a little brother (almost 7 years old) And 4 years ago I began feeling lonely and I just felt really bad, and just a while ago I discovered this 'middle child syndrome', while I was reading the article I began crying, I felt sad but happy too bcuz I finally knew what was wrong with me.. I don't have a good relationship with my parent, they are divorced since I was 1 When my mom has stress she takes it out on me, so she yells all the stuff I do wrong at me while she stays calm and sweet to my siblings, she says I'm really spoiled and I don't help her with like the household and stuff I don't get a lot of attention at home so I realised I search attention at 'bad places', like the internet, I recently had a internet relation with someone and we broke up a few days ago, it totally breaks me apart and I recently started cutting myself because I feel like everything what goes wrong is my fault.. And I feel like I can't handle this anymore.. I have a low self esteem, partly caused by my parents It's like.. I don't hate my parents, but I'm losing my respect for them They know I feel really sad at home but they think I have a learning disability and don't even think about me being depressed.. I do laugh a lot when I'm with friends, and I have lots of friends but when I'm at home my mood changes and I feel irritated with everything Sorry for my bad english, please help me out..

Question: What should I say to my moms best friend?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 11:31 AM PDT

I don't really like her that much and the thing is we're moving and it's just me my mom and my brother and a 2 bedroom small apartment and I don't want her to come with us because me and my brother already have to share a room and it's not like she has no place to go she does . Another thing is I'm 13 and she talks about me really inappropriately and that I wear like skimpy clothing which I don't and I feel like it's not her place to say that. Another thing is that she takes my stuff I Have a lot of blankets on my bed but now I only have a 1 pillow and 1 blanket now and she steals my shoes and they don't even fit her and they were really expensive. What should I do I know this looks really confusing

Question: Should I major in psychology or business in the future?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 11:23 AM PDT

Hi guys. I just started my junior year of high school and lately, psychology and business have caught my attention. Btw, feel free to tell me if these are dumb majors to choose and I won't find a job, I won't mind. It seems like only a Ph.D. Is worthy of a psych degree. I'm really interested in it though and also I'm really interested in business. I heard there is such thing as business psychology? Also what does minoring in a degree mean while in college. Do you work on that degree, but not as much as your major degree? Thanks for your help guys

Question: If my first cousin has a child, what is the relation to me?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 11:13 AM PDT

Also, what is my relation to the brother or sister of a grandparent?

Question: I just found out that my mother has a penis. Should I disown my family?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 11:08 AM PDT

Question: How should I feel about what my dad did?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 11:07 AM PDT

My daughter is going to start college in 2 weeks. The college is 100 miles away. She will be sharing an apartment with 3 other girls. She ask me how I thought she should get around and go the grocery store and other places as there is no public transportation where she is staying. I ask her if any of the other girls at the apartment had a car and she checked and none did. They told her they will use a bike to get around. She wanted me to buy her a bike. I told her with the high cost of tuition, books, and her apartment, it might be a used bike. She visited my dad and mom last weekend and she talked to them about the problem she would have getting around at college and that I planned to buy her a bike. My dad told her that he used to be an ambulance drive and he had picked up MANY people that had be hit on their bike by a car. He said the bike driver ALWAYS got the worst injuries in a car bike accident. He was going to get her something safer than a bike to use a college. He then took her to a car dealer and bought her a new Kia Soul so she would be safe. She thinks she has the greatest grandpa in the world now. I am not sure how I feel about this. Dad did not buy me a new car when I went to college. Is dad trying to make me look bad to my daughter because I could not afford to buy her any car let alone a new one or his he concerned about her safety on a bike. How should I feel about what my dad did?

Question: F*** my life.?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 11:02 AM PDT

Well not to sure how to start this but ever since i was 11 or so i realized how much my life was going downhill when i was 11 i was quite stupid and my grandparents never disciplined me so i didn't have an idea from right or wrong they let me do whatever i wanted and not only that but my mom who at the time was addicted to several different drugs was let back in the house (she left for another drug addict when i was 7) (my father abandoned me when i was a baby) and she asked me if i wanted drugs when i was 12 and knowing my stupid past self i said yes after that i didn't want to go to school and then dropped out of seventh grade not long after that i got addicted to it and my mom was allowing me to have it then of course after she was done lying to my grandparents she abandoned me (again) when i was 13 and a half now i'm 14 and i wanna kill myself all of my friends are going into high school and i am sitting at my house all day i want to better myself and go into 9th grade but i am anti-social and at the same time i want to better myself i am to lazy to i just want to end it all. Should i?

Question: Do I have to tell my sister about this?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 10:14 AM PDT

I was laid off from my job and my unemployment benefits were about to run out. Jobs are VERY hard to find in our area. I was desperate to find a job ANY JOB and I only know one person in the business community that might give me some advice on finding a job and that was Joe, my sister's ex husband. I was SCARED TO DEATH but I finally got up the courage to call him and ask if he could give me some advice on how to find a job. He told me to meet him at his office that afternoon. I was afraid he would be mad at me because of his divorce from my sister. Instead he gave me a big hug when he greeted me and said "You are as beautiful as I remember you." That took all my fears away. I told him I needed advice on finding a job. He ask me if I could start to work for him tomorrow. I have been working for him for 5 months now. He is the greatest boss EVER. I and all the other employees just adore him. He never mentions my sister or says anything about her and neither do I. I am afraid to tell my sister about my new job. I hope she has moved on with her life and I don't want to cause her any problems. I don't know many details about her divorce but it WAS NOT BITTER. Advice please on if or how I should tell my sister what I did.

Question: I heard my mom curse for the first time?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 10:12 AM PDT

I'm 21 years old and never once heard my mom curse in my whole life. The other day we were driving back from somewhere and I was driving. I'm a good driver but my mom always panics whenever I drive which gets really annoying. She clenches at the armrest the whole time and freaks out over every small event that happens on the road. We hit a pothole by accident and my mom goes "F*CK! WE GOT A FLAT TIRE!" We didn't get a flat tire, it was just a small pothole in the road. Anyway, I feel kinda weird about this. I know it may sound stupid, but I find it hard to look at my mom the same way. My mom was the only person I knew who never swore when things got tough. She set a good example for me in this way. And after 21 years of being so accustomed to her never swearing, it was just odd to me hearing her shout an F bomb like that over something that wasn't even a big deal. I don't mind swearing, I do swear once in a while myself as I'm sure most people do...but it was just really weird hearing my mom swear. I'm honestly kind of fed up with my mom right now and need a break from talking to her. Is this normal

Question: What should I expect from my sister's sleepover?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 10:07 AM PDT

My sister is going to have a sleep over for senior high school girls. She ask them what kind of games they wanted to play at the sleep over and they all said they wanted to play "5 minutes in paradise". I had never heard of that game but my sister explained it this way. They play games and the winner of each game get to spend 5 minutes with her brother, me, in my bedroom and I have to do whatever they want me to do. It sounds like fun so I agreed to do it. Girls can you give me some clues as to what wild high school seniors girls might want to do?

Question: Should I feel guilty for being single and unemployed? What must I do? I feel so sad and lonely?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 10:01 AM PDT

I m 28, never married, and was in love with a man with whom I was recently engaged and we were supposed to get married in June but we broke up because he cheated on me. I have been having a very torturing period in my life. I just graduated from the university and I lost almost all of my savings because of my ex, as he was unemployed and I had to do everything for him. i had a very steady income as a part time teacher for 7 years, and I had a whole lot of loans to pay which i took for him and now i have nothing much. My parents were very supportive throughout my life, especially my mom, but my dad who is usually a very insensitive, rude and rough person, never understands me anymore. He keeps scolding me for simple things and i feel its all because I m still not married and is still with them. According to our culture girls don t move out unless they are married. He forgets that I have been working very hard as a teacher, and considers me unemployed whereas they are not even bothered which amount I earn. I even volunteer so I hardly have about 2 days a week, to rest which is not sufficient for another job.But whenever he talks to another he says I m not employed and i feel so helpless and people keep mocking saying that it was foolish of me to go to uni without getting married at the right age. I m just after a very serious breakup and for a girl who was just a few days away from the wedding day, it feels more than losing my own life. My ex made me completely depressed and I m slowly trying to lift my self up when my very own father says that. Sometimes I wonder if i should really run away from home. i was a very obedient child, and had been doing everything possible to make my parents happy and I thought they were. I have a weak eye sight and was born as a disabled person which was later cured, (I m completely normal except for my weak eye sight now) and despite all the physical problems i had, i excelled in studies as well. What must i do? Should i feel guilty for not being married and unemployed according to my dad?

Question: Is something bad going to happen to my mom?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 09:52 AM PDT

My moms bf of 9 years is horrible companion. To make a long story short before she had two kids by him my older brother and I were verbally mistreated by him. He turned our mom against us at a young age. She wasn't the friendliest back then. Then she has two kids by him which I had to watch every day all day. He got fired from 15 jobs, not kidding. He doesn't help take care of his kids. My mom pays for everything. He only pays a portion of the rent. He gave my mom 2 stds. Last year and 1 this year. She still stayed. My big brother moved to Texas to get away from my mom and her bf. My grandfather who used to live with us won't speak to my mom anymore because of her bf. She tells me that she doesn't want him anymore but she still has sex with him. I keep telling her bad things are going to continue to happen. When they are ok in their relationship they treat me like crap. I'm 17 and I'm not financially stable to leave yet but I'm praying that I can hurry up and be on my own. I have my own business so that's a start. I don't want to see my mom hurt but she still hasn't learned her lesson. I'm afraid God is going to punish her in a way that she's going to be very hurt.

Question: Why does my brother keep doing this?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 09:52 AM PDT

My brother is supposed to help me with my homework when I need help. When I go in his room to get help, he is sometimes watching porn and spanking the monkey. I told him the last thing I wanted to see was him spanking the monkey. He told me all guys do it and it is perfectly normal thing to do. I would just have to wait until he is finished before he will help me with my homework. He said "have a seat on the bed until I am finished". No way am I going to do that. I just get up and leave his room and I tell him to let me know when he was available for help. Can someone tell me why guys keep doing that? Is that something he should not be doing in front of his sister?

Question: Is it bad that I like my friends more than my family?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 09:37 AM PDT

My family is very judgmental and I feel like I can't talk to them about anything. In fact, they all make me feel like utter ****. They always criticize me and I just want to move out as soon as possible because they yell at me and blame everything on me every time. My best friends (I have two), however, understand me. I might not have known them for as long but they're always there for me and I feel like I can always count on them.

Question: How to tell my mother I failed my exams? I'm scared...?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 09:29 AM PDT

I got my results back and it says I have failed 5 and passed 3. I'm really scared and I'm ashamed of myself. I'm freaking out because I don't know what to tell her. please help me...

Question: My younger cousin stole my money?!?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 09:26 AM PDT

Basically me and my younger cousin lets call him..Ray, have been having fights because he always lies to save himself no matter who it hurts in the process. He is 9 by the way. So he decided to stay around ( which i wasn't looking forward to ) i tried to stay away from him but he was just so needy. Anyway the next day he earned £5 for basically stepping on my ( i don't exactly know how he's related to us but lets just say uncle ) back for 2 mins. Then my uncle paid him and he owed me £5 so i asked him for it but he denied giving it to me so i just ignored it and went to go watch videos upstairs but before i got there my cousin kindly gave me it because he said that he had no use for it. I said no because he's 9 but he continuously pushed so i gratefully took it and thanked him with a massive bar of his favorite chocolate. I then went upstairs and fell asleep, but was woken up to my mum closing the door and calling my name, she explained how he was going through my handbag when everyone was sleeping and she was cooking and she heard my purse zip opening ( that the only thing in my bag with a zip ) and she saw him put something in his pocket that looked like money and sounded like money. She aksed him where he got the money and he lied and said he got it from wrestling yesterday? I checked my purse and £20 was missing. I did get it back because my mum asked his brother if he does wrestling and he said no.. so she took it from his bag and gave it back to me..why did he do it?

Question: PLEASE READ MY STORY AND TELL ME YOUR OPINION. Thank you?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 09:01 AM PDT

Let me start off by saying that my dad is a really kind hearted man but he loses his temper REALLY quickly. Anyways today I drove with my family (my mom and dad) to a store so I can shop for what I need for a school project. The place also sold ice cream so we bought ice cream and took it in the car (after shopping was done) and we ate it in the car. Later we realized somebody parked their car like behind our car so there was no way out. Then we realized a woman coming to us and asking if she could leave her car there for "a minute" so she can go and shop and come back because idk her car got crashed or something so she didn't "have the time" to park it properly (there was an open parking space right next to ours but she decided to park it behind. Anyways my mom said sure. My dad wasn't happy with my mom saying sure. Anyways more than a minute passed and that lady didn't come. So after like 5 minutes she came out and then my dad was so mad he started cussing at her about how stupid she was to park it behind our car (because there was no way out for us). And she said that "I said it would take 5 minutes" which is a LIE. She said one minute. Anyways my dad just started cussing at her and then she left. Was that a bad thing for my dad to do? Please be honest. I think it was kind of her fault.. But idk.

Question: Does it make sense to go back to school after becoming debt free?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 09:01 AM PDT

From what I see, most people go to school only to try to make more money to "ultimately" one day become debt free so they can do whatever they want but seeing as though I don't have any debt, I don't really see the need unless I'm really just passionate about something. How do you guys feel about it? Does it make sense to go back?

Question: I let 2 guys inside my house but I didn't know that they put camera in my mom & sis room & show me them naked I being blackmail what to do?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 08:59 AM PDT

Question: Advice on dealing with a needy mother in law?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 08:42 AM PDT

I'm a new dad so getting used to family and this new way of life has it'd challenges. One of them is my mother in law. At first everything was ok. Been every since the baby has been home my mother in law seems she can but into our life's a lot more. She has younger children in elementary age so at least 3 times a week she asks for us to baby sit while she goes to the doctor or store or somewhere which is fine. But where I drew the line was when my in laws came home late from a funeral drunk and arguing, not to mention drunk driving! My in laws have no common sense let alone common courtesy to let us be our own. Everyday it's a new favor being asked but when it's something we ask for its not granted the same way. This woman seems selfish to me. My wife tolerates this and does nothing and has even told me if I couldn't deal with it, then "there's the door." I don't want it to be this way. It constantly has to go her way or none at all. In turn this woman has done nothing positive for my wife. She made her drop out of school to raise her siblings, didn't help with the basic skills of life but needs our help when it's convenient for her. I'm very lost in my frustration and it is not helping with my peace of mind. Any help would be greatly appreciated

Question: How to stop being selfish?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 08:40 AM PDT

im 14 yo girl and i think im selfish. i have depression & very low self esteem. i've been bullied at school & home. all i care about are my flaws and mistakes. today my mom fought with his brother crying over me. i should've felt bad and sorry but i was thinking rationally. i told her that she shouldn't have done that (she was yelling). and i thought she was crying because she's angry which is childish. then my sister told me why im not crying seeing my mom cry. i wonder that too. i think im really selfish and ungrateful. how to stop? please help

Question: Why do most people avoid sex offenders before knowing what their crime waa, not all involved sex or molesting, irrational fear?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 08:21 AM PDT

Some sex offenders are low life disgusting people, but not all some just made a mistake of dating their now wife when she was 16 and he was 20 or they urinated outdoors someplace ans som sex offenders are kids, some states put 13 year olds on the registry. Its supposed to protect kids not put kids on it, broken system.

Question: I wished death on my little Brother. Am a I mental?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 08:08 AM PDT

I'm 14 and I easily get frustrated and angry, my brother who is only 7 (I know, I'm pathetic) He has always get away with annoying me, and not listening to me, he mocks me a lot, which makes me feel degraded, and I called him evil a lot when he got me angry time he did what he usually do and I was already irritated at the time because I have stingy cyst on my chin, so I wish death on him, I didn't mean it and my Dad found and guilt me which he is right for, but he said it doesn't matter what my brother does to me, since he is 7, I shouldn't have said that and it probably shows that I'm psychotic, please help me?

Question: Am I jealous or is there something more going on between them?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 07:52 AM PDT

Hello. I am a 23 year old female from the US and I am in a relationship with my 25 year old boyfriend for the past six years. I need advice on this issue and I want to know if it is jealousy I am feeling or if something else is going on. Basically, my boyfriend's childhood friend came to visit us for two weeks while he is here in the US (originally from the UK) and while I have nothing against it, I do know for a fact that he is homosexual. I usually don't mind when my boyfriend has friends over and I really enjoy to meet them, but this friend in specific is a little too flamboyant for my liking. Like, he does a lot of things that I swear is flirting with my boyfriend, right in front of me and it's really annoying. It's like he doesn't understand boundaries; He will always be touching my boyfriend on his shoulder, or leaning up against him, or even petting his hand, and he is always just too close to his personal space. And when he first came to our house, he gave a kiss on my boyfriends cheek which I thought was weird. He is always smiling at my boyfriend, or laughing at things that I don't really find funny, and the other night they stayed on the porch until two in the morning and the night before they left the house until one. I know I sound like a jealous girlfriend, but my boyfriend responds to it all as if they are in a relationship or something and it really bothers me. I just hate how he acts. Am I jealous or is there something going on between them?

Question: Why is my aunt looking away in silence?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 07:12 AM PDT

Background Info: Before my aunt would praise her son for attending a good university and his plan to become a dentist. Although she was impatient about him finishing college. We both went to different schools at the same time. Now, her son's plan isn't going as she hoped. She got him an internship that didn't help him get accepted to dentistry school. I graduated with a legal degree, worked at a few internships which one is a lawfirm, and am ready to find a job in the legal field. Question: My aunt listens when I answer her legal questions, but looks down in silence when I start talking about my work experience that relates to her legal question. I don't know why she looks away in silence.

Question: What's it mean if whenever you see a picture of your parents you get annoyed?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 06:56 AM PDT

Question: How do I ask my mom about instagram?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 06:50 AM PDT

6 months ago I posted a pic on insta and my mom found out and I was talking to strangers a and all. She told me to delete everything or she'll take my phone for months. I promised her and now I downloaded insta again but it's a small account so I can connect with my friends. I am not doing the things I used to but it was horrible to be around my friends and always feel excluded when they were talking about instagram or other social media. Should I ask her if I may use it again but this time the right way, and how should I ask her bc she always fights with me when she remembers about before.

Question: Should I just end it all?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 06:45 AM PDT

I have nowhere to go. I did poorly in school, I have no friends no life and my family does not want to pay for my college. I have no ambition no faith and no hope for myself. I see nothing but failure and disappointment with every choice that I make. To me it'd be easier just to let go of everything than have to deal with the reality of my poor academic choices.

Question: I forgot my cousins name, she hates me now?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 06:14 AM PDT

Ok so I didn't technically forget, its just her and her sister have similar names that I usually get mixed up in my head, so I called her, her sisters name and she got mad and said don't speak to her anymore. LOL I thought it was funny but my other family members didn't so I apologized and went on with my day, she still doesn't like me, why? I get I've known her my whole life but damn it was a mistake.

Question: Does it make me ungrateful?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 06:12 AM PDT

I've lived in an impoverished neighborhood by entire life, and I started college in a different city about 2 years ago. Growing up in basically "the hood," I always hated school and I just liked being about with my friends at the park. Now I've met so many people of all different backgrounds and I see people living in such nice places and how their neighborhoods don't scare me like mine does whenever I come home. The issue here is that now nothing is ever good enough, I feel like I'm being ungrateful to my mother who works two minimum wage jobs just to make ends meet and no matter what we have no chance of moving out of here. I wake up everyday and wish I didn't live here, I try my best to be at school as much as possible just because it's so nice there and at works as well and feel horrible at the fact of coming home. I just am not happy at all, does that make me ungrateful? I feel bad about the fact that my mom works so hard but I know she can't provide what I want. I still have a few years left in school and I won't be able to move away from this place and I don't know what to do about all this.

Question: Teenager Lied and we ended vacation early!?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 06:12 AM PDT

I took my 2 children and 18 yr old step son on vacation to Florida. Two days before we were suppose to leave, he tells me that his mom called and demanded he return home the next day. The reason was to meet an admissions counceler at college for some enrollment issue; and this was the only day to get an appointment. I had to eat the $200 nonrefundable return ticket I got for him and pay $400 one way airfare home the next day. To make a long story short it was all a lie. He wanted to return home to hang out with some girl he likes who wanted to see him that particular day and they went out on a date. In fact, he is not going to college at all! So Im out $600 airfare, a day of my vacation traveling to the airport, and I was lied to; all so this kid could hang out with a girl he has a crush on. Im furious. To me this was an act of complete selfishness on the part of my step son and I feel totally duped. Looking to see how other parents would feel and what punishment should be. Would you feel totally conned too? I am completely disgusted at this point.

Question: How to punish my sons?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 05:59 AM PDT

My two sons (ages 13, 16) were bylling a girl, they were CALLING she names, fat and go kill herself. When i learnt it ( from girls dad) i got really angry, how to punish them, how long? Ps: i Am their dad

Question: Everyone is blaming me for my brother's birthday being ruined?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 05:42 AM PDT

Yesterday, my family and relatives, friends and neighbours came to our house yesterday to celebrate my brother's 5th birthday. There was about 60-70 people there. At one point, I was gonna go and use the toilet upstairs. While I was upstairs, I heard something from my older brother's room. I went to check it out and I saw him having a sex with a girl - a girl that isn't his girlfriend! I waited in the bathroom until he finished and when he did, I had a go at him. Well I whispered because I didn't want anyone to hear, but I guess someone heard me because we heard his girlfriend shout outside, "WHAT?!! HE CHEATED ON ME???!" We came out a minute or 2 later. His girlfriend came up to us and punched him in the face. She said, "How could you do this to me? I trusted you and you betrayed me." They then argued for 10 minutes until broke up with him. As she left, she threw a pie at him but she missed and hit my aunt. My aunt then threw a cake at her and hit her in the face. Then everyone started throwing food at each other apart from me and my little brother. He stormed upstairs crying his eyes out. After it ended, my brother's ex-girlfriend's best friend said that she heard me say that he slept with someone. I came out and then everyone turned on me, including my mum. They all said to me that what happened is all my fault and that it's my fault my brother's birthday party was ruined. No one, not even my parents, are talking to me now. Is it really my fault this happened?

Question: Do you think i have a victim complex?

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 05:31 AM PDT

After doing some research my boyfriend believes i have a victim complex because of the way i handle life. I don't actively seek misery to be a victim but if i do find myself in a tough situation i will play dumb and innocent to stay out of trouble and not be blamed. I generally act pretty ditzy and sweet so that people see me as innocent and harmless. My boyfriends family are really tough and rough people who arnt afraid to chew you're head off. Especially his mom. She has bullied and verbally attacked me for no reason and all i fo is cry and "act like a victim." I know deep down i do this so that other family members see me as more of the victim than part of the problem. I'm afraid that because she is family and I'm just her sons girlfriend they will be more likely to side with her over me even if she truly is the one with the problem. I feel like no one can get angry at me for just sitting there crying over it and that it makes it obvious she's a bully. I started doing this act after a stressful time. My parents split up and would use me and my siblings against the other and use us to get information about the other to use in court. So i was constantly in a position where no matter what i did i would be in trouble with SOMEONE! So i guess i started playing dumb and innocent so they would stop expecting information out of me. How can i stop doing this?