Family: Question: Am I an asshole?

Question: Am I an asshole?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 02:40 PM PDT

So my grandma is very sick now and she's in a rehab center. She has troubles breathing and is crying because she has nothing to do. My mom and my sisters are going to visit her Saturday. I don't want to go because Saturday is one of my only free time days. Also, my grandma never gave me as much respect as she gave my sisters. My sister is calling me an asshole because I don't want to go. What do you guys think?

Question: Got my phone taken away?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 02:37 PM PDT

I got my phone taken away from my parents and now do what to do. There's nothing to do. I hate reading it makes fall asleep, I have no homework or nothing to started because today was my first day of school. There's no one to talk to I'm just alone in my room depressed. My phone is the only thing that makes me happy in this house. Idk what to do. Any suggestions?

Question: My fiancés family hasn't done anything for our unborn son (more in details section) please answer!?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 02:29 PM PDT

His family has done nothing. Not even free. OUR baby OUR responsibility but they do not even ask how my appointments are. They won't even make our son anything. That's FREE. The only thing they are worried about is the next time my fiancé is coming to see them. They live an hour away. We have made the drive to see them quite a lot. At one point my fiancés mom had his car for a couple of months she would come down all the time. Now she has her own car and never comes. They ask to borrow money knowing we are preparing for a baby. They asked him to drop off his little brother a shirt on the Fourth of July (we're not right down the road people wtf). That's a lot of gas and wear and tear on our cars all while trying to buy baby stuff! Which is expensive as HELL!! My family has bought things and made things for our baby, I feel his family should step up I'm starting to have resentment against them. We do live in town with my family not his ..but can they step up more? Your thoughts?

Question: Can I get a restraining order against someone at 14? And who do I call ?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 02:26 PM PDT

Okay so my mom is getting a divorce. But that guy (my ex step dad )is still here. Sometimes I think my mom still likes him. She would kick him out but he would be back in the next week. But there always fighting and he is always calling my little brother stupid , f@ggot , fvcker and cry baby. I stand up to him and tell him to shut up and stop but then he calls me a bltch. Then my mom will tell him to shut up and he will call her names. He also does drugs , sometimes I feel like my mom wouldnt care if she loses us because she still hasn t kicked him out for good. He has 2 kids with my mom and my mom has 4 other kids but we aren t related to him. He threatens to hit us and we threaten to call the cops but he doesn t care or so he says. He has made my life terrible for the past 3 years .Im just wondering if I m old enough to get a restraining order against him ? Thank you.

Question: Am I selfish or is there something really wrong?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 02:20 PM PDT

I go to college, I will be a junior pre-medical major this year, I am an aspiring Psychiatrist. I'm an honors student, I am really involved in school, I work really hard, I am in the library a lot and don't have much time for the "college life" My family has experienced a lot of financial hardships my freshman year of college things took a turn for the worst. I began couponing for my family and bringing a lot of things in the house for free detergent, hygiene products, basically all the essentials we needed to survive. I took the time out of my busy college schedule to do this for my family. Many times I've had to send money back home because things got rough, I've sent birthday gifts, Christmas gifts, I've sent my younger brother clothes. And never really got any of this in return, I didn't expect to. I'm in college struggling to even eat sometimes. My parents get my younger brother a car..he is 2 grades behind. He uses drugs. He gets horrible grades in school. He's always out partying..he does nothing to help our family. He still asks for designer things even though he knows they cant afford it.. Am I wrong to be upset? My dad lied and said the car was for both of us when it was really for him. I go to school 4 hours away and here I am with no car, and my brother is 19 in high school and apparently he MUST drive to school this year when his school is walking distance from the house. I know what many will say Im old enough to get my own but Ive helped my family so much..

Question: My Mom refuses to buy me a smartphone?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 02:13 PM PDT

About Me: Okay so I'm in my second year of highscool, I'm also in a program where I'm taking college classes in highschool. I'm 14 years of age, my birthday is at the end of august so then I'll be 15. I asked my mom to buy me a smartphone and she said no the data plans are too expensive. I can understand this so I asked her to buy me a tablet but she said no for a stupid reason (its too stupdi to say irrelavent). But yeah at school allmy classmates have iphone 6's and they are failing classes and I have straight A's and I Aced all my regents exams and you know what I got? NOTHING! Just Ridicule as usual!!! I'm not asking for a samsung galaxy s7, even a cheap smartphone from tracfone would make me happy, its embarrasing to not have a phone because my friends keep asking me "why u no have a phone"and I say "oh i left it at home"" WHICH IS A LIEE!! Okay so please help me and trollers, begon!! I accepted no for an answer for 4 years. I asked my mom for a smartphone when i entered 6th grade and she said no. Its not like i just came here complaining cause i got nothin better to do. im just upset cause i see all the back-to-school sales online and it gets me triggered. Im not even using a decent computer right now it was made in 1999 my mom gave it to me.... Trust me I'm not your typical teenage twerp I'm definetly mature enough for a smartphone.

Question: My controlling mother says she wants to have a key for my appartment in case I lock myself out.She also says I make her and my dad argue.?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 02:08 PM PDT

What to do?

Question: My sister is threatening me! My mom isn't helping what should I do!!!!!!!!?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 01:59 PM PDT

Question: Can someone help me out please?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 01:54 PM PDT

Hello guys So i used to liked this girl but she told me she like another guy. So i move on and stop talking to her. I talked to other girls and realize that there are a lot of fish in the sea. Then the girl i used to like keep sending me picture of the guy she like. They were hanging out and she keep taking selfie with him and sending it to me. Now i see them together and it kinda make me mad. Is it weird? Idk why it bother me but what can i do?

Question: My brother thinks he is so much better than me?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 01:53 PM PDT

Okay so my brother recently has actually been pissing me off. First off, my brother thinks he is the best person on the planet. When he was my age he was VERY anti social and now he has been reading a ton of books on success and picking up women . I find all this pathetic, and what does he find time for? Critising me. I wake up at 5:30 in the morning to go play basketball and workout to build a work ethic, and he tells me I am a failure and that I have no talents nor anything going for me with basketball. While the basketball part is true, I am building a work ethic. MY brother is quite fat and has man boobs and all he does is keep his shirt off inside the house and just sleep and watch his phone. He made a business and its completely funded by my dad and when I tell him this all he says is I mastered computer engineering at 13. What did you do failure? . Literally thats all he tells me. I am in all honors classes, and he tells me I have no talents and that I m useless. I don t understand why all of a sudden my anti social brother has become an arrogant douchebag now? He thinks he s the best person alive and tells me that he s much better at picking up girls than me, and I m 15. He is 23 almost. I don t know why he keeps picking on me. This stuff is really pissing me off. The only thing he ever tells me is that he mastered engineering at 13. and that I m a failure. How can I so called get back at him?

Question: My boyfriend wants my son to put his last name when he starts school this year?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 01:47 PM PDT

My boyfriend been there for my son that is not his since Day 1. His biological dad is deported and will never come back. My son is 4 years old now, starting school next week. He wants me to put his last name when I register ? I want to cause my son last name no one can pronounce it. MY boyfriends is much easier to pronounce. I feel like the child should have the biological dad last name. Then on the other hand. The person that raised you is your dad. I know a lot of people that have their stepdad last name? I don't know what to do? Should I just put my boyfriend last name or not? Do you think this is a good idea to change my sons last name to my boyfriends? I mean a lot of people do not even have their birth father last names. One of my co-worker she had a different first name and last name? She changed it. So, I don't think a last name should be a big deal. Would it? The last name changes means a lot to my boyfriend. He loves my son so much They both cry for each other. Its really a big deal for my boyfriend. Thank you for all your Opinions I respect all. Like some commenters said we have to get married first then I can change his last name. Then go to Social office/court and change it. That is exactly what I need to do. Forgot to mention we got engaged on Feb 2016. So, this is the next step for us.... Since the Birth Dad will not be in the picture why keep his last name?. Thank You all that was very helpful :)

Question: My dad is much different than most other parents and I need help with something he did today.?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 01:43 PM PDT

So Im 11 yrs old and i've had a problem with him since I was 5. It has been 7 months since my b-day and I haven't gotten anything. Today we went on a navy ship tour and he said that I can get the electric skateboard i wanted. We got back to our hotel but he said to name 3 ships or I don't get it. It was impossible for me to name them because he was talking over the captain who was talking about the ships. The names were on the ship and I saw a few of them but I couldn't remember them. What should I do?

Question: What should I do about my cousins who never call? Am I being too sensitive in this situation?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 01:32 PM PDT

I have a first cousin once removed with whom I wasn't so close until recently due to some circumstances. I started to like him and his wife, and I see them as my uncle and aunt. They always stressed the importance of family and accepted me quite easily. However, whenever I would call them on any of my concerts (I play in a band, and they are musicians as well), they never came, which wouldn't be so great problem if only they had ever at least sent a message and said: we can't come, good luck. 20 days ago I asked them if they would like to have a coffee with me (we haven't seen each other for two months) and they replied Yes of course we will arrange a coffee, we are busy tomorrow and the day after tomorrow but after we can see you. I replied OK great I am free now so call me whenever you want. They never called - and I know they are not busy, they are on vacation and I know they are going out with their friends. I don't know if I am overreacting due to the fact I've always lacked father figure in my life (bad relationship with my father) or I have the right to feel like this? I know they are not mean on purpose, but I feel betrayed and hurt. They never call, not even to say they can't see me. They are always so warm when they see me, but they don't seem bothered if they don't see me for months. I am sad because I miss them, and they don't miss me.

Question: Why does my dad hate me ?!?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 01:31 PM PDT

Everyday he yells at me , and he treats me like im not **** . he will literally look for somethings that's wrong to yell at me ! he thinks im gay just cause i go to my bestfriends house every Saturday ! like out of all things to think seriously gay ?! he was married before he met my mom so he has other kids and im the youngest and his other kids dont talk to him at all ! only his son ! does that mean he treated them the same ?

Question: Why is it so hard to get life together?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 01:15 PM PDT

Every time I am about to something happens getting my permit is the number one thing I need but the vision test was so blurry so I failed that. It gets so depressing knowing other people has their own house and is fine. I just want to get to that point before if my mom ever is gone I don't want to be stuck. Is anyone else going through similar to this? Thought about killing myself plenty of times cause of it.

Question: MI SONO FATTO MIA SORELLA??

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 01:13 PM PDT

Noi siamo sempre stati una famiglia molto intima tra noi, l'altro giorno stavo provando un paio di mutande e mia sorella mi chiese se poteva darmi una mano, io accettai e lei mi disse che andavano bene. Io in mutande sono andato in camera e sono andato a guardarmi dei pornazzi (che c'è di male D:?) e mi è venuta una voglia matta di sesso ma mi ricordai che non avevo una ragazza e quindi non potevo ;( quando entro mia sorella in accappatoio dicendo che aveva dimenticato le robe intime (adesso non mi viene il nome :D) nel mio armadio ma io non avevo bene capito e quindi gli chiesi di ripetere e lei mi guardo come dire (ma come cazzo fai a non capire?) e mi guardo il cazzo che avevo duro in quel momento e mi disse se volevo fare un gioco. Io , capendo, accettai e quindi andammo in tetto e abbiamo fatto scintille >:D >:D >:D Mi sono dimenticato un particolare i nostri genitori... loro erano a cena fuori perche si ritengono ancora degli "adolescenti" un po cresciuti. https://youtu.be/LRw_vjkmNys?t=43s

Question: Legally, am I required to take calls/messages from my fiances ex wife about children?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 01:08 PM PDT

Since I work at home and my fiancé does not, I end up having their daughter the majority of the day when she isn t in school. For the first year I worked very hard to make sure mom got to speak to daughter at any time she wanted, I made sure mom was involved in all decisions involving daughter and she always knew where we were and what we were doing, photos, etc. at some point during that time she started turning every little thing into a massive argument with my fiancé, like which park I took her to and what color her school clothes I purchased were, anything and everything was made into a problem. She s also begun being very dismissive and rude to me, saying he s only dating me so he has a free babysitter which makes me not want to advocate for her anymore or give up my time with daughter or even use my photo data on face time with mom because it isn t appreciated and always comes back to bite me. Mom took daughter for the summer, and daughter is coming back to dads for the school year. Am I legally required to give mom information about what daughter is doing today and/or take calls from her to talk to daughter or can that be forced to happen only when dad is at home to take the calls/provide information himself? I want nothing to do with her until she can be pleasant towards me again, or at least not downright rude.

Question: Emotional abuse, neglect, homelessness, possible pregnancy.. PLEASE HELP?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 12:53 PM PDT

I'm 17 years old and my mother is extremely emotionally and verbally abusive, and is also neglectful. We've been homeless for a month now. I stayed with my fiance's family for 2 weeks, because I didnt wanna stay in a small hotel room with my mom, my sister, and her boyfriend. She was okay with this. Well, she decided she wanted to bring all of us out to her boyfriend (who shes literally only known 2 months) and he emotionally abuses her and my sister as well. I didnt know this until i got here last night. My mother is being a real ****, theres a whole lot to the story that I cant add because it would be too long. But summed up: my mom and her boyfriend me and my sister names, threatens to keep me from seeing my fiance, and to force me to get an abortion if i am preg. wont let me and my sister eat anything but ramen, and i get screamed at for crying and threatened with getting sent off. they've done too much. im living in fear with everything i do. they wont let us eat or drink any more than 2 cups of water a day, and i cant take this. there has to be some kind of loophole in the system that allows me to leave or something to stay with my fiance because im probably pregnant with his child. please help me, im scared one day they're going to get physically abusive and my mother is a spiteful, conniving POS so calling CPS isnt an option. PLEASE HELP ME i just want to run away but my mom would find me and beat the hell out of me.. this isnt over exaggerated they're scaring me...

Question: My mom is ignoring me what do I do?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 12:52 PM PDT

So my brother and I are 3 years apart and we get into fights all the time (physical and verbal) we are normally fine an hour or two later and I get it I should have just walked away I try but my lil bro comes after me, however when my mom came home I didn't expect her to know but my step sister apparently texted her and ratted us out. My mom had a fit and has been ignoring us for three days when she finally did talk to us she basically said that she doesn't want to see us for more then 3 days at a time and is now dropping us off at our dads. I don't know what to do I'm hurt i feel like she feels she can just get rid of us when ever she pleases. We don't see her that often anyway twice a month for 6 days in the summer and twice a month for 2 1/2 days during school months I feel as if she is a part time mom and that she is not really here for me but every time I try to talk to her she ignores or yells at me to tells me something else I did wrong.

Question: Was I overly rude to my cousin?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 12:43 PM PDT

We had a birthday party for all the August birthdays in my family. My cousin's husband asked me how my GF and I Are getting along. I told him she's moving in when her lease ends in October (I'm 27, she's 26 FYI) he then started quoting the bible and telling me we will be living in sin. I calmly responded with "Didn't you have a kid out of wedlock?" And left it at that. Was that overly rude? He used to be cool until he got saved. Now he's a judgmental prick.

Question: How did the principal feel when?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 12:39 PM PDT

She told a student that she runs the school and he just was looking like he didn't believe her and wasn't even looking at her just turned away like ignoring her.

Question: My mom is clingy? Help?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 12:28 PM PDT

Here's the scoop. I'm 17 and I want to know how to deal with a parent who is overly clingy. So, my parents are divorced. My dad is remarried, successful and has a good career, while honestly my mom doesn't have a real job (sells stuff online) or even friends; and she stays up until 3 am and wakes up at noon. I love them both, but it's odd that at my dads house everyone is busy and productive, while my mom mostly just sits on her computer and eats. It's a problem because I have my own life now. I have school (I graduated early & am going to college now) lots of friends, a great relationship, and a new job; so I am busy and not always home. When I am, my mom wants to talk almost non stop, know every little thing I do and hovers over me like there is no tomorrow. The only way to get around this is to be in my room. DONT GET ME WRONG I love my mom, but I don't know how to deal with her suffocating me. At my dads house I have a close relationship, but I feel free to do my own thing and not constantly having my space invaded. Since my mom has so much free time, she'll also meddle into my life, create fake drama, and dump her emotions out on me. She'll look too far into things and it makes me feel weird. She made a comment the other day that I spent time in the bathroom, like why would you notice that? Any advice?

Question: It is okay to be 30 years old, still live with parents and have to ask for their permission?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 12:19 PM PDT

My older sister will turn 30 in a couple months, she still live with mom & dad.. Never had a boyfriend and No friends. She burried herself in video games/computer her whole life. She either worked(Taco Bell), or stay in her room all day. She is very skinny like less then 100lbs and is very pale because she doesn't see daylight. Im 24 and I try to hang out with her but inviting her out with my girlfriends etc, is hard cuz she says "she's not into stuff like that"...so We go out to lunch/dinner which is cool but she always have to make comments like "this is nasty, why is it so expensive etc".. She recently quit her job of 10 years because she said she was depressed... I work full time so on my only day off I try spend with my family. One time I told her lets go to SF but we have to take her automatic car because I don't like driving my stick shift car in the city....... Then she said "let me ask mom if we can take the car".. I was so mad I yelled at her I said "ITS UR CAR THAT U BAUGHT! Ur 30YEARS OLD WHY U GOTTA ASK MOM IF U CAN TAKE UR OWN CAR TO HAVE FUN" ..oh yea and mom said no.. She never lets us do anything she doesn't think "it's safe to drive 2 hrs" I just had it I told my sis she needs to grow up and live her life and stop having to have my parents approval for everything!! She's not allowed to work graveyard because my mom want her home before midnight.. My parents treat her as if she's a child/mentally ill person which she is not? this why I don't live with them!

Question: I don't love my mom the way I used to?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 11:54 AM PDT

I don't love my mom the way I used to. As I started becoming a teenager my mom has been showing excessive attention to my brother and not me. I'm not jealous or anything and I understand that he needs more attention being younger, but it's really getting overboard. Next year me and my family are moving to Switzerland and my parents instantly told my brother he would get a new IPad when we get there. When my dad said I would get a new IPhone, my mom first said yes but after a week told me I would not, even though I've had the phone longer than my brother had his IPad and mine is out of storage and barely works. I've caught my mom talking about me behind my back many times. She would also tell me I was fat, that I was useless, dirty and that I didn't take care of my surroundings. That got me into a bipolar depression for around a year and I've recently recovered. She'll often tell me that she loves me but I just don't love her back anymore and makes me really uncomfortable when I'm around her.

Question: Is this normal, or is it abuse?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 11:49 AM PDT

I think my parents might be abusing me, but I don't know if I'm overthinking it or not. Ok, so I'm 12 years old. My younger sister is 10. She is obviously my moms favorite. My mom yells at me for the same things that my sister does, but she does not get in trouble. Whenever me and my sister fight, she always finds a way to blame it all on me. And she always defends my sister when we're fighting. Also, she yells at me because I don't do anything and sit in my room all day, but whenever I ask her to take me somewhere, like the lake, she says no and gets really mad at me. She yells at me a lot. Sometimes for good reasons, which I understand. But mostly it's stupid reasons, like the thing I said above and asking for her to iron my shirt (it's stupid because, once she said no and that I could do it myself, and then I tried to iron my shirt, but then she got mad at me and told me to stop). It's like I can't do anything right! Another example, I asked for dinner (we get Blue Apron, so they're kind of complicated recipes) and then I tried to make it. But then she said I couldn't do that because I would make a mess! She does this yelling thing, and then she's nice again, so I let my guard down and she starts yelling like twenty minutes later! I can't trust her with my secrets. She always humiliates me in front of my friends. She yells at me a lot more when they're over and she ridicules me and blames me for almost everything. So is this normal, or is it abuse?

Question: Help me write a letter?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 11:30 AM PDT

I want to write a letter to my grandfather in America (im in Australia). I've never met him before and he is the only grandparent i have. I just want to say i love him and really hope to meet him one day, but im not sure how to say it? Or even how to start the letter off, i mean do i write dear Grandad, John or Mr.Doe? And how do i end it? With my name and in brackets "your granddaughter" ? What topics should i talk/ask about? Should i send a photo of the family over here? Thanks for any help guys, i clearly suck at this haha

Question: Why do adults have parents?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 11:13 AM PDT

They can do everything themselves so why do they have parents? Thanks

Question: How would you tell your fiancé to kick his sister out of your all's house and tell his sister you've had it without her being mad at you?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 11:03 AM PDT

She has lost yet another job because she got herself fired yet again. How convenient since she was supposed to be out of his house by 7/31 and she said that her boyfriend would have the money for the apartment they wanted to move into in a week or two but yet they are still both staying with us and haven't even started packing. There's always something. He's afraid she'll get back into a bad lifestyle and I feel deep down that's why he doesn't follow through when he threatens to kick her out. I want to tell her, hey you are not his future wife, I am. And you are not my 30 year old child to take care of. I can't think of a nice way to. She's in our wedding in less than two months as one of my brides maids. Our house is too crowded and her and her boyfriend are mooching hard core.

Question: If I am in 8th grade this year what year will I graduate high school?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:56 AM PDT

Question: Do I Have A Respect Issue, Or A Personal Intrusion Issue?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:54 AM PDT

Hi! I am a 15 year-old guy, and I've been getting really annoyed a lot recently. My family is friends with this one bad family. This family is a family of three. There's a 21 or 22 year-old pregnant lady, a mid-late 20's man, and they have a year-old son. The man in that family is a really nice guy, and I can handle him. But his wife is kind of a *****, especially to me. She think I need to respect here, because she my "elder". But she always bosses me around, and acts extremely trashy towards anything she doesn't like. If I don't do what she says, than she tells my parents, and lies to them so I get in trouble. I've been grounded countless times, because she lies to them. One time she came by my house (I was home alone) unannounced and tried to make me babysit her kid. I told her no, and she threw a tantrum. I luckily ended up not babysitting the kid, but she put up a hell of a fight. Another thing she does that really bothers me is that she'll come by and invite a bunch of her friends. Most times s she does that, she doesn't even ask my parents. When she does, she says I need to be a good host and literally be their slave. My parents might be doormats, but I'm not as dumb as they are. The thing she does that bothers me the most, is try and take ownership of our stuff. She thinks that what we own, she should be in control of. She's tried stealing some of my stuff, and tell me I didn't deserve it. Of course I didn't let her, but she is persistent. What do you think?

Question: Mom won't let me do anything?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:52 AM PDT

I'm almost 17. My mom won't let me do anything and makes me feel bad when I want something. I usually take care of my little brother he's almost 2.When I want her to bring me somewhere she makes me feel so bad like who is gonna watch him? I have 2 more sisters they watch him sometimes. But it's like I have to be home just to be sure that he's gonna be alright. I'm at home all the time. When I want to do something like get my nails done she looks with that look like for what do I need that and it takes so long for her to bring me there. I can't drive yet and there is no other way for me to get around. When I was little she was letting me do what I wanted and now it's like I have to watch my brother and that's it. When she's going somewhere and I ask if I can come just to go somewhere she thinks about it and I end up staying at home and watchin my brother. Can't even dye my hair. My family makes me feel so unwanted and that I'm just to take care of everyone. I'm not me around them I can't.

Question: How did my mom know I had been doing this?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:49 AM PDT

I was upstairs in my bedroom watching TV when my step mother yelled "Lets go so we will not be late". Trying to stall for time, I said "I'm coming". She said "Don't get it on the sheets. That makes them sticky. Oh My God, she thought I was j - -king off. I did not know she knew I did that. She has a wonderful sense of humor so I hope she was joking. I love and adore her. She is the best mom any guy can have. Does that mean she is OK with it and I don't have to hide from her when I do it in the future? Do I have a cool mom or what? I did not know women knew guys did this. Do all women know about it?

Question: Should I forgive my mother? (LONG BUT IMPORTANT)?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:44 AM PDT

My mother has been abusive to me (f) both verbally and physically up until about 2 years ago, when i moved across the country to get away from her. The first incident was when i was 7. She left our family on christmas for a guy and spent the holidays over there. Our family didnt celebrate that year. My father forgave her. We had a very nice house in a very nice area with 2 cars, anything we wanted. She insisted my father join the military and he did so he wouldnt lose her. I moved away from all of my friends. Over the next 4 years, she hoarded despite my constant begging to stop. She constantly started fights with other neighbors. I raised my sister from ages to 1-3, I was 11. I made sure the family had food. Because of this she called me things such as "homewrecker" or "*****" and saying that im stealing my father from her. One time, she got up, dumped a bottle of pills on the floor and told me to pick it up. My father never believed me about these things because she told him i was a "manipulative ****". I asked for money for groceries, and she threw a handful of change at me. My dad finally believed me and left her, but he facetimed me one day, which was unusual, and she picks up and holds out the camera then starts kissing him and tells me that we will be moving back to live with them.My mother now calls and texts us as if nothing happened. I refuse to talk to her, and she cries on the other end and insists she did nothing wrong. No apologies.Am i being too harsh? Forgot to mention, my sisters birthday is 2 weeks away from mine so she sent our gifts together. My sister got new clothes, sunglasses, craft kits, speciality candy, and giftcards for stores she liked. My mother sent me a second hand shop book with pages missing.

Question: My mum wants to see me every week is this wrong ?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:38 AM PDT

She always asks me to sleep over at hers or sleep at mine because she says she likes girly chats and reminds her of when I lived with her... She wants to see me every week and sometimes I like space but don't wanna upset her

Question: Why does my mom bring praise my grandfather when she lectures me?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:34 AM PDT

She expects me to be perfect since I'm her only son .. Whenever I do something wrong and she gets mad at me she lectures me about my paternal grandfather (who naturally isn't related to her) and she tells me stories about how he fed his entire family at age of 14 . And how he didn't have a father but only a mother and sisters .. I have a father but he is disabled and thus unable to work or do any activities. I just wonder why she always brings up my paternal grandfather when she can just use so many other people as examples .. My cousins , uncle , her brothers

Question: How can I move on from my ex husband?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:30 AM PDT

My ex husband John was good friends with my parents when we were married and remained good friends with them after our divorce. They are always asking him for help and he always helps them and will never takes any money for his help. A pipe broke in Mom and Dad's laundry room and was flooding it. They called John and he came over and fixed the pipe. Another time mom was having her church group over for dinner when the power went off in all of the house. John came over and got the power back on so mom could have her dinner. Mom had appointments on 5 days for some medical tests and she asked John to take her and he did. I was grateful for what he did as it would have been very hard for me to take 5 days off work. However I would like to get over him and get him out of my life but it is hard when mom and dad keep telling me what he does for them. Am I just going to have to accept that John is going to be a part of my life for a long time? I don't think I can ask Mom and Dad not to see him again. Why I am so conflicted is that a couple of times when I had big problems and I could not get anyone to help me I called John and he immediately came over and took care of my problems. Any advice on what I should do would be greatly appreciated? I am really torn on how I should view John and Mom and Dad's relationship.

Question: My sister told my dad that I think he loves her more,my dad says he loves all of us the same,when he doesn't act like it.What should I do?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:25 AM PDT

Basically Im the first child my sister is younger than me I also have a brother who is also younger than me .I'm getting really stressed out about this.

Question: Are my brothers being too protective?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:24 AM PDT

I am a high school girl and just starting to date. My older brothers pleaded with me to not have sex until I am 18 and I can then decide for myself. They are getting me a cell phone and they want me to call them ANYTIME some guy puts pressure on me to have sex. They will come and get me no matter what the hour no questions asked. They also want me to call them if I am someplace where alcohol is being given to teenagers and they will come get me. They also gave me a condom and showed me how it is used just in case I did not listen to them. Are they being too protective of their little sister. I am afraid they will ruin my social life.

Question: What would you do if your fiancé s sister and mother lived with you and they wouldn t help out around the house or pay rent?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:23 AM PDT

I had no idea how much they were walking all over him when I moved in or I would have asked him to ditch his lease and move in with me rather than moving in with him. I am so sick of no one cleaning house, buying grocieries or paying bills it makes me sick. And he buys all excuses and every time he cracks the whip on the issue, he never follows through. Something always happens, like a loss of a job, or a sinus infection or something that limits his sister in particular in following through with doing anything she ever says she will. It never fails. And he just gets tired and brushes it off and never kicks her out. I avoid confrontation because I am marrying him and love him and I don t want drama with the family. I don t know what to do. I can t afford to move out with him now. I help pay for everything and we are in the middle of paying for our wedding and honeymoon and a new car. It s bullshit that they don t care. What can I do to get him to stand up to his family? They are grown adults and taking advantage of us. FYI his family members were having a hard time when they moved in. That's why he's such a softy with them. But it's been years. It's time.

Question: URGENT: What should i do??

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:13 AM PDT

OK, so here s the story, I live 1.9 miles away from my school (middle school). Bus transportation requires me to live 2 miles away. My parents are at work before i wake up and cannot take me. They tell me its not their problem and wont pay for my transportation. IF i do walk, it would be along a main, 4 lane road, in ~90 degree heat (not to mention humidity). City bus would make me 10 minutes late everyday, and Im not sure about services like uber or lyft. Oh yeah, school starts in 4 days. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

Question: Is my dad selfish or is this normal??

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 10:11 AM PDT

I'm 21 now but when I was 12 I used to see him every weekend until he got a girlfriend. He's married now and he only sees me every month.. And he said when he retires he will only see me once every three months because he's getting old and can't travel. But I said to him I'll come down and see you and he said "No it's ok you don't need to see your parents as much when you get older you have your own life"

Question: My sister needs help. What should I do?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 09:54 AM PDT

My sister and I live in the same small town, but not together. I'm 23 and she's 22. She is notorious for being one of the town whores. It has gotten to the point where guys I do not know will come up and ask me about my sister, and the guys I do know get a good laugh when remembering "the good times" they had with my sister. It's very embarrassing when they do this, especially when they talk about her like that at my place of work. Recently she had gone to a wedding reception and told a man she was the best c---sucker in our county. This man was at least 45. Because of her choices, she has had people (male and female) threaten to do harmful things to her. Because we live in the same town, I have received threats as well. It is very unsettling because I have a young son. I'm worried she's going to have her child (my niece) taken away because of her choices. I know she is an adult and can make her own choices, but that does not stop me from worrying about her. She has been like this since she turned 15. I've thought about staging an intervention to try to get through to her, but no one in our family seems to want to help. I don't normally ask strangers for help, but what can I do to help my sister before she gets hurt or winds up dead? Thank you for the advice. I am planning on moving as soon as I can find a job elsewhere. My sister does not do drugs (that I am aware of). As for parental control ... Our mother was more of a friend to my sister than an actual mother. That may be a reason why she is doing these things. My sister has made promises in the past to change, to move away and start anew, but they all fell through because she can't leave her friends, who are only using her for their own gain.

Question: My four-year-old brother attacks me and my other family members?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 09:43 AM PDT

I have a younger brother who is one year old his name is Sam my four-year-old brother is named Jack Jack is always trying to beat up Sam and when my mom finally step in to save her youngest son Jackson will start attacking me or my dog (BTW I'm 14) my mom is doing all she can to help. Anything we can do to make him stop attacking me

Question: How do I get my parents to give me some privacy?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 09:36 AM PDT

I'm 18 years old about to go to college in less than 3 weeks, but until then, I have no privacy. My parents don't let me read or touch any of the mail that comes in addressed to me before they open it and read it, they always ask who I'm texting or who I'm on the phone with, they read everything I print/write and last night when I accidentally left my computer on they went through all my messages, read everything I said to everyone and yelled at me in the morning for things I said that were none of their business. How do I get them to give me some privacy?

Question: Why is my mom mad at me all the time?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 09:32 AM PDT

For example, today we went 2 do her coupons bc she kept saying come with me as she has many times before we get there and we start looking at school supplies and printer paper. Then she gives me a coupon to read and I can't read it so I'm squinting really hard to see what it says and then she just snatches the coupon away she said dont come if your gonna be like that I said what did I do she cuts me of and says be quiet shut up don't talk I will hit u but I didn't do anything wrong whats wrong with her

Question: My younger brother attacks me and my other sibling?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 09:28 AM PDT

My brother is 4 years old I'm 14 and I have a brother that is 1 the four year old keeps attacking me and my one year old brother. I know it doesn't sound that bad but it is I can't even be in the same room as him and my parents do nothing about it then he always tries attacking up my youngest brother by either pushing him down or hitting him then if I do anything to him he starts crying and says I hit him is there anything I can do to pacify my brother

Question: How to prove myself to my parents?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 09:21 AM PDT

my parents want me to study a year where they work in a third country world and I don't have friends here and I hate everyone here and there is no entertainment and college life and the way I only live is social media because life is ****. I got low marks so they want me to live with them. I'm 18 and I want to study back in my country in USA but they are scared I won't focus on my studies and get low marks,and want me to stay close to them. here I'll never change and I'll forever be depressed. I don't know how to change their overprotective parents mind

Question: Needing advice on what to do?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 09:14 AM PDT

I want to post about my sweet friend whose always been there for me & for what help she's been in my difficult time. Recently she had passed away causing deep pain in me, I wanted to post something in honor of her for her family to see. Should I post it now or wait till her birthday next week? ( & I wanted to post both days but I'm afraid people will get annoyed with my posts)

Question: Do you think my mother is a toxic emotionally abusive parent or do you think I'm over exaggerating?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 09:05 AM PDT

I've come to a breaking point after having to deal with the way my mother beats me with objects, curses me out, and belittle me like she's miss perfect. My mother is a religious hypocrite who of course came from a background of poverty. She can never afford to buy us our wants like a game console because Im a girl and i like games but she can afford herself expensive hills off of the internet and support her expensive habit of cigarettes. She is a religious hypocrite because she has threaten me and my siblings she'd take us out of this world with her hand gun then she'll say at least I know yall would be in heaven. Ive always forgaven her because I just thought it was because she wasn't educated cause she didnt have to chance but im tired of her being the victim and blaming everyone for her past because she had the choice and bow she's just a bitter b*tch shes always saying things like she's went through worst when I try to inform her of the bullying, self harm and complications her in her family put me through its always about who had it worse to shut me up its always about she didnt have to raise me in my siblings its a choice she doesnt have to be a parent she can be like everyone else she tells me that she was raped with me and she passed over to the guy she was with cousin sorry but how do you get passed over see how she paints herself as a vitcim? There's definitely 2 sides I'm not hearing. Im 17 and i dont trust her nor respect her i need help and advise.

Question: Parents yelling too much?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 08:40 AM PDT

So, last night my mom (well she doesn't even want me to call her that anymore) just started giving me a lecture about how I wasn't combing my cat everyday. I had told her I was because I knew I was. We had an issue with this before, but I told her I'd fix it, and I did. I've been combing her every single day, but yet she says I haven't because she doesn't SEE me. The funny thing is, she's gone for most of the day, so she never thought about the possibility that I could have combed her while she was not home. Things escalated because she thought I was lying (my dad knew the truth, but yet he didn't tell her that I was telling the truth). She barged into my room and said, "HOW ABOUT YOUR CLOSET, HUH? I BET THAT'S A MESS TOO!" Guess what? It was clean! Then she checks my laundry, now here II admitted I was wrong. I was planning to do my laundry the next day, or two days later, but she made a huge deal how I was irresponsible. I feel as if she's just looking to blame things on me because she went around the room until she found something wrong. My dad got in it and started yelling for no reason. Like loud yelling and he was over dramatic about it because all it was, was laundry. He started yelling so much that the neighbors called the police. My mom just talked to them to ensure them there was no abuse. Then my dad comes into my room WHILE my mom is talking to the police and says, "You see what you did? It's all your fault. All you. God, I'm gonna send you somewhere far away!"

Question: How do I ask my parents if I can volunteer at a hospital?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 08:15 AM PDT

So I'm 14 years old and I want to volunteer at a hospital (there's one nearby that I would be volunteering at) and I have no idea how to ask my parents if I can. I think they would be fine with it but I just don't know how to ask. I want to volunteer there because I think it will give me a good experience for when I'm a doctor (I want to be an orthopedic surgeon) but I've never told my parents that I want to be one because they think I'm not very smart even though I really am but Im just not as smart as some of my siblings I mean geez sorry I'm not a genius like they are so I feel like they're gonna laugh at me or something.

Question: Should I feel bad for kicking my Stepson out?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 07:13 AM PDT

When he was 15 his mom gave him to us she didnt want him. We took him in. Then, a month later he tried to hit on me. I told his dad he moved out. Couple months later his cousin that he was living with kicked him out was stealings cars. We took him in again. So, I lefted the past in the past. I took it as hes a little kid immature ok. Whatever. So, me trying to be a good step mom. I found him a job at KFC. He needed a ID to start. So, I had to pay $14.00 to get his social and, $16.00 for his ID. Then, he tried to sell a speaker that he stoled to an under cover cop. HE was sent to jail. Now, is on Probation. He skip his 1st meeting cause he didnt want to go??? 2nd i locked the door I went out for my sister bday Dinner. I came home my door was broken? I see my stepson sitting on the couch ? I said how did you get in here? He said I knock the door down? WTH? 3rd is last night my car was parked backwards in a different spot at my apt. He always parks backwads when he barrows the car. This time he took the car whilel I was asleep without permission. So, I told his dad to kick him out. Am I wrong? I don't want him to hate me nor his dad. I feel like he doesn't care about me nor anything. Should I punish him and let him stay.?? I shouldn't be going through this this is not even my SON! I feel bad for him. His mom doesn't want him.He didn't finish school. So, all he knows is basic things. I have talked to him numerous times. Don't steal, you are going to go to jail if they catch you. That's not he path you want to go through. Nobody will hire you if you have a theft on your record. Go back to school get your education.. Once you get your GED get a high paying job, I told him everything in the book. What are the consequences if he stays. Hell be 18 next month.

Question: Did me and my sister deserve to be kicked out of this restaurant?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 07:13 AM PDT

Me, my 26-year-old sister and her 4-month-old son were at a restaurant during lunchtime today. While we were waiting for our food, she started breastfeeding her son. About 4 or 5 people were staring at her. I heard a few of them say things like "Is she breastfeeding her son?" "She is disgusting. What does she think she is doing?" A couple of minutes later, the manager asked us to leave because a couple of customers complained about her breastfeeding. My sister then said what she was doing wasn't wrong, it's natural to breastfeed in public. But the manager says that managers have to listen to all complaints and take action. I then defended her and asked him to let these complaints slide. He then said he had enough of this and said he wants us out. We then went out to eat lunch somewhere else. Did we deserve to be kicked out of the restaurant?

Question: Please help :(?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 07:05 AM PDT

Hi guys. this is a personal problem. And it fu*king sucks :/. I would really appreciate any opinions you guys may have or how I can fix this or at least make it better. Okay so I am 16 years old and I feel like I am being depressed every single day. I don't have a lot of energy,  I don't laugh as much any more. I wake up super late every day. I have no motivation to do anything. And my problem is the older people surrounding me. For example my mum and dad. Everyone likes their parents right? I don't. Mine are very close minded people. They don't listen and they get pissed off with the most stupidest things. For example, if I swear or tell them they are stupid as a joke. Or if I know someone with a different culture. They make life difficult than it needs to be. It seems like everyday there is some kind of shouting In the house. There is always negative atmosphere. There is never a day without peace. Either my parents are arguing or they are arguing with me. They don't understand that this isn't healthy for the mind if it's constantly done. And because of this I am not too close to my parents. I can't talk about things I would like to because they are like this. I talk to my friends more deeply than I do with my parents. It's literally causing me to almost cry sometimes. I get jealous of other people who have such good relationship with their mum and dad. All my parents ever talk about is my grades, behavior, my future. Nothing else.

Question: Why did the boy talk to the principal like that?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 06:53 AM PDT

So I was in the principals office and she was talking to another student and the student told her that he said he ran this school and the principal asked him "Who?" and the boy said really loud "HIM" and the principal said no,um I run this school" and she kept talking to him and the boy interrupted her and said "Well, then you need to talk to him" and the principal said "right I do need to talk him" and she was laughing

Question: HELP! My Brother Makes Me Feel Uncomfortable?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 06:36 AM PDT

When my parents aren't looking he pinches me, and hits me, slaps me, or he'll hug me, and kiss my cheek (it's so gross) and I told him to stop but my brother thinks i'm joking? It's making me feel really uncomfortable and I even yelled at him and told him not to touch me but he just won't listen! My parents caught him one time but they said it was my fault cuz I was letting it happen? but i'm soooo against all of this. Someone help! I think this fighting is encouraging rape culture in a way and I don't like it. :((( My brother is younger than me (which is why he gets away with things) about 2 years younger than me. He's been told by my dad not to touch me before, but my dad works all the time and is never home. I can't lock my door, the lock on my door is broken (plus he never comes into my room).

Question: My aunt always yells and makes my dad, my sister and I feel like crap??

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 06:35 AM PDT

Okay so I'm not really in a place to say much being that I'm not the elder here. I'm only 19 and although my sister is a few years older than me, it would still be considered "wrong" for us to say anything. I know you should respect your elders, I'm not sure how to handle the situation, I don't want to look like I'm "talking back." I'm also not the confrontational type, scared that something I say will start an argument. Some info: my dad and aunt work at the same place, me and my older sister take turns helping out in the office as sort of a summer job. My aunt is quite an angry person. What happens is when we're at work For example if she cannot find something like a piece of paper, she immediately starts yelling. She'll scream at my dad, then blame me, then blame my sister (whom isn't there since we take turns) and basically just yells at my dad and us and makes us feel like crap. She doesn't yell and scream at any of her other siblings, only my dad. I feel so bad because he goes way out of his way to do so many things for her that she could easily do herself or have someone else do. Yet she does this. I'm so frustrated because the way she screams at us and talks to/about us and constantly accuses us is so wrong and disrespectful. My dad is way too nice to say anything and he usually has to deal with it the worst/most out of the three of us. I can't help but feel like I'm witnessing verbal abuse. Nobody deserves to be talked to this way. What can I do to help this? :(

Question: Is my extended family's exclusion of my immediate family out of line?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 05:59 AM PDT

My mother's side of the family has a lot more money than we do, and this summer I guess they all decided to rent a fancy cabin together and didn't invite us (my mom, stepdad, sister, and myself). In past years they have rented cabins too and we were always invited and contributed food, but I guess this year they decided to get extra fancy and everyone chipped in $500 each to rent a bigger cabin upstate. (I heard the details from my aunt, who is kind of in the middle financially but managed to scrape together the money.) My family isn't in the position to fork over $500, and clearly the rest of the family knew that because we didn't get an invite. In fact, we didn't even know they were going at all until after the fact when we saw all the pictures on facebook. The whole family was there but us. Of course we were kind of peeved and a little hurt that we weren't invited, but after finding out what everyone else had to chip in to get the cabin I understand why we couldn't go whether we got the invite or not. I guess my question is, should we expect our extended family to limit themselves to vacations that we can afford and be included in, or was it not out of line for them to take a vacation without us? Thanks for the feedback.

Question: What to do about my idiot brothers?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 04:53 AM PDT

They own cats and don't take care of them. They don't clean after them and don't feed them right. The carpet at our house is literally covered in cat hair. I get so depressed living here but unfortunately have not saved up enough to move out. In the mean time I'm sick of fighting with them they're too idiotic. The older one is lazy and the younger one has anger issues. I'm the only girl and I'm done dealing with them and babysitting them and they're cats. One other thing the one that has anger problems fights about everything and he's stubborn

Question: Do i tell my step sister that i have a crsh on her or no?

Posted: 17 Aug 2016 04:41 AM PDT