Yesterday a psychologist went to the company I work for. She was giving a lecture about quitting smoking. She talked about the consequences of smoking and all that shït that everybody is tired of hearing. So far so good, but then she started to insist a lot, and that was really annoying. The discussion was like this: Her: Are you interested in quitting smoking? Me: No, thanks. Her: But our tratment is free and it'll provide you more quality of life. Me: Thanks again, but I won't quit. Her: I know it's hard to quit, but smoking is an addiction and causes serious diseases and with this treatment... Me: Ma'am, I love smoking, and I have no interest in quitting, I'm not afraid of any disease, and I want to keep smoking by my own free will. With all respect, go convince anybody else. Her: When you're dying of breathlessness, you'll cry on our shoulders. Me: LOOK HERE YOU ANNOYING THING, first of all, compare my age to yours. Get over yourself! I fücking doubt I'll die before you. Her: What is this? Isn't polluting the air with that toxic smoke good enough? You have to pollute my ears with all those insults too? Me: Give me a break! I'm going outside to smoke a cigarette. Get lost! She just got stale and everybody gawked at that scene. When I got home, I told my dad (who has smoked for 39 years) what had happened, he laughed out loud and said he would act even worse!

For years my mom makes excuses for everything. Why I can't hang out with people and do anything outside of the house. I'm the person who never gets invited to things because everyone knows I won't be able to go. 2 years ago my dad left my life almost completely and got married. I see him maybe every few months. I don't know where he lives but I know its close. My dad never yelled at me unless there was a reason. He used to go meet all my friends' parents and be super friendly while my mom hides away. I keep thinking over and over that things would be better there. But I would lose my mom. She would never talk to me again if I called my dad and left. I don't know what to do I'm crying every day I'm so depressed do I stay loyal to my mom because she's been there for me or do I leave to live with my dad? I feel she cares way too much and he cares too little.

I absolutely hate it. I m 16 in a month, junior I m highschool, 5 7, I m more than capable to keep myself safe. I play basketball and I love it, but how am I ever supposed to get better if I m not even allowed to walk to the park to shoot around or go to the gym to get in shape, or even go for a run? I live in a very safe neighborhood, but apparently that s not good enough. The only way they ll let me go anywhere to exercise is if I bring my little brother with me. He is 12, shorter than me, and a complete jerk and wimp. He gets scared if a car drives too slow around us. I wouldn t have a problem with this if he ACTUALLY WALKED WITH ME. He is so lazy and play mine craft all day, he does play Basketball too but doesn t have the same dedication. Just a couple days ago I went running with cross country after school and my mom and dad were so mad at me. My mom called all my friends to see where I was , my friends parents even called to see where I was, she called the school too. I had told them I was going running with cross country but I guess since I didn t call every 5 minutes to tell them where I was it was my fault. I don t know what to do anymore. I have an anxiety disorder and I m never going to overcome it if I m always trapped inside all day and when I do go out I have to be with someone. It also makes me depressed being stuck inside all day, only getting out when I need to go to school. They treat me like I m a 5 year old and if im not capable to take care of myself.

And minimize sibling favoritism. My brother doesn't do any work/no job/doesn't help dad. He just exercises a lot with weights and he goes running to places+plays dark souls[videogam] for 4hr+ My dad often times tells me I should do exercise, but then he elaborates on how i'm a female and I can't go anywhere alone. My dad doesn't let me leave the yard by myself, although my brother can go where he wants. For many years my parents have been giving my older brother more money then me. [My 2yr younger brother Brandon also gets $60]

Ive been suffering from depression for a long time. I was bullied by my best friend in fifth grade through sixth grade and Im still trying to heal from the scars. I honestly cant find any happiness in my life anymore, I don't have a lot of friends, and if I do I cant really do anything with them since my family's income is pretty low. My parents have these super high expectations for me that I always fail to reach even though I try my best but they dont think that's good enough. And I am convinced that my parents are child abusers. Dont get me wrong, theyre decent parents sometimes but when theyre mad Im always tempted to call 911. My dad: He used to threaten my mom with the knives in our kitchen, I remmeber when I was like five and my brother and I hid under the kitchen table because my parents were fighting and it was so scary. My dad hits/punches us, but mostly my brother when he is mad and it always leaves bruises/ My mom: I think she has mental scars from my dad but I hate her more than him. She tells me on a daily basis on how Im dumb compared to my other friends ( by friends she means the daughters of her annoying af Korean friends), and I constantly study and have a 3.9 gpa she says that I'm a ******* idiot, she cusses at me daily and I yell back to defend myself and she starts yelling at me, screaming why I started yelling first. -She threatens to crash the car when we fight in the car. -She once almost suffocated me with her hands i dont know what to do. pls help my family's religious, but I dont understand why since they're always so violent but my parents scream at me to go to church and today. my brother accidentally bumped into me and I had a cup of hot coffee so I burned my leg pretty badly, (its red and swollen) but my mom started (rudely)commenting about how my shirt keeps riding up like tf maybe its because Im trying to tend my leg. And she started screaming at me in the car for talking back to her. She cussed at me so much and tried to hit me.

My Dad has always insisted I be in the military and even says he would be proud if I died for the country like a relative of his did in Vietnam (his uncle). Ever since I was a little kid he has talked about how I will be in the military (he was in the military as was my grandfather). I am only in high school right now but the last thing I want to to after high school is join the military. My father is like obsessed on it. Since my parents are divorced I don't have to as my mother says she will protect me from it but what do I do so my Dad isn't forever mad at me? He has long talked about how I will not get anything from him when he dies if I don't join the military (I am the only son). He is like Military obsessed with me as early as 5 learning details about war and my great-uncle's death and going to his grave in Washington, DC's Arlington section and hearing I would be in the army. I am 15 so the whole 9/11 war thing has seemed scary and war is always going on. The last thing I want to do is go to war. I even have a 2nd cousin who went to Iraq and is now a heroin addict. So what do I do? Lastly can a parent really withhold money from their kid when they die? My father has a son and daughter and now a step-daughter. He is in a family of many military members and my great-grandfather died in World War II. One last thing, my Dad was in the military but not combat (Vietnam was over) but he did go to Grenada. Also I live with my mother so I see my Dad every other weekend but am not in the same house (parents divorced).

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a couple years now and she's my everything. By the way I'm 18 and she's 17. I have this problem where I cannot stand her parents. I mean they're great people and they care about her and I, but they never let us do anything, as in go on dates and such. Im lucky if I get to see her once a month. The "best" part is that we can plan something literally 2 months in advance with her parents knowing and approving, but then when that time comes they almost always say no. I get that they are being protective and doing what parents do, but I have tried to show that I am trustworthy and only want the best for their daughter on countless occasions. I always acknowledge that they can come to whatever we're doing when we actually get to do things. However, they still don't trust us. I guess Im just looking for what I should do or some clarity because frankly, i don't know how much more I can take.

My mother expects me to get along with my siblings and I get along fine with my brother but my sister can be obnoxious especially now that she has puberty and this thing called a period (something girls get). So since my mother is always mad at her sister and sometimes her brother do I have the right to be pissed at my sister when I want? Both my mother and I are from families of 3 though my home is 2 boys and a girl whereas my mothers is two girls and a boy. My mother loves her brother for the most part but was mad he divorced his wife. She does not get along with her sister.

im going on to amsterdam with friends. we are all age 16-18. its not like this is some huge undertaking, cuz amsterdam is only a 1 hour flight from my country. but my dad is being annoying, getting all involved in it. for the past couple days hes been gathering amsterdam info, like where my hotel is, where the nearest tram/train/bus stops are to my hotel, which tram/train to take to the city centre, what number i need to call for police/ambulance (everyone knows most of europe is 112 for emergencies!!), walking routes for getting from one tourist attraction to another. hes even got me a map (there'll be loads of free ones at the hotel!!) and sent pictures to my phone of routes/tram stops hes outlined. hes a fkcing psycho. i mean it was helpful, but the whole point of this trip is for us to do things for ourselves. then today it got even worse. he said that if i get into any trouble he'll be staying at park plaza victoria hotel. what the actual fck. hes got no reason to be there when im there. i said that to him and he said he has cuz he has some work there. hes such a liar!! to prove it i said i wanted to see inside his suitcase and see if hes packed work clothes. and guess what? he wouldnt show me. said he dont have to prove anything to me. i bet he is even on my flight. he said hes on a later one but i dont belive him. he'll probly be sat next to me, wanting to hold my hand. can i get him arrested hes always been creepy and stalkery but this is the worst hes ever been. im so annoyed im crying. he needs to leave me ALONE. none of my friends parents are gonna be hanging around like a bad smell. i really do think hes gonna be following me around and ducking around corners and wearing disguises. hes so weird. he said hes not gonna be following me but i dont beliebe him. why else would he be there when im there? i asked my mom what work hes doing there and she said i dont knwo loads of kids go to other countries alone. most kids i know are going somewhere with their friend group. these guys i know are going ibiza my friends dad booked it and they know how old we are but my friends dad isnt coming. hes even worse than my dad but even he knows to leave us alone and my mom is useless. when i whined to her about this, she just said shes not thrilled about it either. well then why doesnt she stop him? i swear shes such a doormat. he does what he wants but she never does. my dad wouldnt let her just leave my sisters and go to amsterdam alone. but hes allowed to

My Birthday Is Tommorrow And I m Turning 13 , My Parents Asked What I Wanted For My Birthday And I Said A IPhone 6s Rose Gold. My Stepmom Looked The Price Up And Said "You See How Much This Cost ? It s More Than Our Phones" Then She Said She ll Talk To My Dad When He Gets Home This Evening. I m Nervous Because I Haven t Been On Top Of My Chores Lately And Me And My Stepmom Had Be Arguing Lately. . Do You Guys Think That I ll Get The Phone And My Dad Told Me That If I Had Good Grades When My Progress Report Came Out That He Would Get Me One Which Comes Out In 2-3 Weeks. What Do You Guys Think ? No Hate Comments Please .

My best friend (15, same as me) has one sister but no brothers. She lives with her mom and dad and sister. She and I were doing homework in her room and she was changing clothes (we were getting ready to leave) and I pointed out she had forgotten to shut the door. She did shut it but was like, not really a big deal, it isn't like Dad has never seen me naked. I was kind of shocked, and asked her thinking she meant like when she was little......but it turns out that he sees her nude from time to time. To use her words, no one in the family is really concerned about a quick second walking back from the shower, or changing clothes, or (an example she used) stripping down in the kitchen if you are soaked by the rain, etc I found this very odd. I'm nude around my mom and sister all the time, but I'd never THINK of being nude around my dad at this age. Is this as weird as it seems to me? In fairness, she made it clear they dont like hang out naked, or he wouldnt walk in while shes in the shower, or anything extreme like that. But still....

My dad has always been an angry person with my mom and me. But lately he's been having major problems with me. So a couple months ago I got caught sneaking out (I haven't done it since) and so he got so mad at me and our trust was broken and etc. and my mom was mad and all this. So I was punished for 8 weeks and I already talked to my dad about everything. But he keeps bringing it up and punishing me for no reason and treating me like **** everytime he's at our house. I want to have a relationship with him but at the same time I don't because he makes me mad and sad, and I don't feel loved. I know I'm not loved. And my mom thinks IM the one that needs to change when it's obviously him because he's treated my mom like **** too. I think I'm being emotionally abused because I get anxiety and I get all depressed thinking about my dad and I'm also extremely terrified of him. And he says its a good thing that I'm terrified of him. So I don't know what to do

I'm a going to be a senior in high school and an all-state girl swimmer. I have multiple D-1 athletic scholarships, including some to some great schools I couldn't otherwise get into (I'm a good student, but these schools are even better). One of those schools is my first choice. I like the academics, the location, the coach, and the atomosphere of the swim team there. It's a great fit for me. The best fit. But when I took my on-campus visit I realized that they all shower together before and after practice, and that the showers are completely wide open (poles in the middle of the room). I don't have any sisters, have never really been nude around anyone, and my high school team had shower stalls with curtains. I know this "shouldn't" be a big deal, but it is freaking me out and making me consider other schools I have offers from. Some of them I noticed had private showers, others had open ones but the team went to great lengths for privacy. But it also feels like a silly thing to make a decision on. If the team is comfortable, its all girls, why shouldn't I be comfortable too? But I'm not comfortable, I'm really nervous. What do I do? And if you do think I should go, what can I do ahead of time to get more comfortable with the idea?

My mother won't do anything about it since my sister is learning disabled she lets her do anything.

She says I can't see him very much because he wasn't a good husband and therefore failed as a father. He says she loves me but she says he only likes me. Like someone told me before "actions speak louder then words" so I think he does love me. So how can I get her to let me see him more? Right now I only see him once or twice a year and my mother bars me from spending any holidays with him. I hate Christmas and other holidays because of it. I also found out he called this year on my birthday (she didn't tell me he did).

I'm a 15 y.o. girl. I recently, at my request, moved to Mississippi to live with my dad and stepmom because my biological mom has drug problems and has been a very inconsistent mom (to say the least). I love her, but my dad and stepmom have always been there for me. and I needed stability. Before I made the decision to move here, my dad and stepmom warned me that they still believed in spanking as a last resort even at my age. I was kind of shocked, but really wanted to move in here, and (since I rarely get in any trouble) wasn't all that concerned. This morning I got in big trouble for something that I, in all fairness, deserved to be in trouble for. But I was still flabbergasted when dad had my stepmom take me out back and bust my behind. She didn't leave any bruises or "hurt" me or anything like that, but she did light me up something good and the pain was/is very intense. I'm just kind of shocked. I know that they love me, I'm NOT looking to turn them in or get them in any trouble (regardless of the answer to this question), but this is so far from my cultural norms that I have to ask, are they even legally allowed to do this? Is it fair at all? I just never really saw this happening at my age, and it all went down so suddenly.... Is this legal? Common? Fair? Typical? I lied about where I was going, and yes it is a 2nd offense (I got grounded the 1st time), and lying is their #1 rule (understandably). I'm usually very honest but I was really stupid this time. The lie was about where Id been. I said I went to a friends house but I really went to a different friend's house to swim alone. I had permission (from the friend) to use the pool, but I knew my stepmom wouldn't let me swim alone and couldn't go with me today, so I went by myself and made up a cover

I don't wanna get her a gift card. I want to get her something that is meaningful. She likes high end makeup but I'm only willing to spend $50 max. Shes the girly girl type too. I don't want to get her clothes either because shes hard to fit into things and she would have to try them on.

I am 15 year old guy, she is 14, and she always makes fun of me for being a virgin and always makes fun of my shyness and awkwardness. I'm sorry, but I can't help it. What do I do? I think it was cuz my guy friends always make fun of me for this, so my sister heard, now she always makes fun of me for it too. She is also a lot more confident, life of the party, and outspoken than me. People often think she is my older sister, even though she really is not. I have always been a shy person and it sucks. I have tried to get over it a million times, but then I start getting shy again and get nervous around people, especially pretty girls. I am only not as shy around people I have known for a long time, like a 2 of my close friends. So talking to new strangers is always very hard for me, especially if it's a pretty girl. What do I do? My sister still makes fun of me for being a virgin all the time. It's very embarrassing, especially when it's in front of a girl I am trying to impress. What do I do? How do I get her to stop? I already asked her nicely to stop, but she does not care.

I've been a tomboy my whole life i've never liked girly stuff and my mom accepted that when i was a KID but now as a teenager she wants me to be all girly like my sister. isn't it suppose to be the other way around?i really hate this my mom wants me to be like her because when my mom was a teen she was one of those mean popular girls but i'm DIFFERENT! i'm shy,nice and GOOD. this isn't me i'm not being myself! i want to be ME! HELP! plus i'm not even allowed to be friends with good people i have to be friends with mean people... and my mom always brings up stuff like "you're gay then" like what the f*ck?

Ok so I'm 16 and a guy and I never have the time to you know play around. Monday-Fri I have school and soon as I get home I have to babysit my niece. Monday-Thurs and they don't usually go home until Friday night because they spend the night all week. my mom is usually home by the time they leave so still won't have any privacy. My room is right in the middle of the other 2 so with my mom right next door and my other sister coming home from school on the weekends now it's really to risky to try to do anything. They walk back in forth all weekend long.... With me I don't just like to ejaculate in 5 min I like to watch porn or watch someone live (I know it's weird but) so it takes time. the bathroom it's not an option because I'll be in their for too long. And in the shower it's too hot and I have a iPhone so it's not waterproof. When everyone is sleep it's like 12am and I have to wake up for school @5:07am... I just want me time I'm sure my family doesn't think I please myself because I'm always so goodie tosho but in reality it's the best feeling. Especially in my bed not somewhere else. Btw I'm gay so it would be awful getting caughtt with gay pornography.. Please give suggestions on how to have my space.

It began when i was around 13 and now im in my early twenties. We argue whether im at home or at college She gets along with my younger brother more but he knows how to ignore her (an hes her favorite) Shes always gong off at me for something making me feel like crap about myself a she constantly says shes not criticizing me but trying to he but even though i've told her it still makes me feel bad she doesn't listen. We disagree on several things such as religion , mental health (mine mostly), my antisocial behaviour which leads to more problems I feel like she always looks at the bad in me first before anything. She doesnt support me on certain things (eg if i wanted to get a tattoo) she only supports me if she wants it for me not just to see me happy When im around her we argue all the time if i try to stay away from her she will somehow fin a way or a reason to make me mad I dont hate her and i want to be cool with her but when she upsets me i hate her very being an this is happening more and more often. I just dont know what to do

I can not even begin to explain how PISSED I am about this. my brother is such a ******* pig. lemme give some details tho, he s 19, I m 13, and he has a job (probably quit by now) at a fast food place, doesn t go to college. I live with my parents but they don t do ****. my dad is pissed at him as well but never really does anything. I feel like my mom goes too easy on him. she ll yell at him every now & then but my brother always says stupid things like "I need a snack". I swear, last night my mom & I went grocery shopping and she bought my some Doritos but I warned her he d eat it all but she bought them anyways. today I walked downstairs to get some lunch AND HE HAD THE EMPTY BAG OF DORITOS NEXT TO HIM. my mom also bought cream soda SPECIFICALLY FOR MY SCHOOL LUNCHES but there s already half of the box gone WE BOUGHT THAT BOX LAST NIGHT TOO. he eats all the food & im sick of it. he won t listen to anyone & it s so damn annoying. I don t think he has an intention of moving out anytime soon. he also leaves a mess literally EVERYWHERE in the house. what do I do? if I yell at him he won t listen cause I m his younger sister. he also acts like he s my parent. PLEASS HELPPP

I was wondering if my brother is retarded..... He acts like a complete and total idiot all of the time. The other day my dad didn't take him to town at 6am in the morning because my brother had a dental appointment at 9am and my dad didn't expect to be back by then. Anyway my brother woke up at 6 and waited until my dad left and then he started screaming to the top of his lungs and he kept saying that he was going to Ruin my life and make me regret that I ever lived! And j had nothing to do with it at all!!!! He woke everyone in the house up! He then continued to whine and cry until 9am!!!!!!!!!!!!!! After that he went to the dentist office and told everyone that he had a witch and an idiot for a sister!!! He was talking about me!!! And today he decided that since he hates me that he is going to back his butt up to my face and poor in it he keeps doing it and won't stop!!! He is 11 and I am 16!!! Is he retarded???

so my mom swam her entire life so she naturally signed me up and I'm 14 and have been swimming my whole life. I also started horseback riding about 2 years ago and I'm going to be jumping in about 2 weeks and I really want to lease and be able to show because that's what I truly have a passion for. I still love swimming but my mom won't even let me cut down my hours and i swim on a club team and high school team but that only leaves me riding time on the weekends. I've tried talking to my mom about it but she just shuts me down and I've told her I want to ride instead but she doesn't even listen. I don't know what to do because every time I try to talk to her about it she grounds me for annoying her. please help!!!

Hey guys, so i really wish to enter a nightclub and my father told me he can go with me once, will i be able to to enter any clubs with parental permission

My mother is a very kind and loving person, and I may say that I love and hug hug her, smile and laugh with her but it's all pretend and fake I honestly do not care about her and every time I tell someone that I don't care about her they always hit me for no reason, now she's in the hospital and I of course don't visit her, am I cruel?

So when I was 12 I got a diary because I wanted one and I would hide it between my matress and bed frame (good place ik). And everything I wrote in it, they would repeat. I thought it was just obouvious (im not great with spelling) things, but now they are bringing up things I've never mentioned to ANYONE, to me. I even saw my mom looking through it. Do they have a right to do that? I want an outside opinion that isn't mine. Thanks.

My mom gets very mad easily sometimes. Like today i have to go to this strength and endurance class and i told i don t want to go but i ll go because i love you. she got super mad and locked herself in a room to get away from. i later saw her in the kitchen and decided to apologize and said i m sorry for taking my anger out on you and i ll try not to do it again. i was going to go out for lunch and then to that class but she said i don t have to do it anymore. so i told her that i would go and she said then if you want to go there you have to walk there. she has been really getting mad with ever since we got our new dog 3 weeks ago. i also started a new school 2 weeks ago. and my dad is on a 2 week business trip. I think she has too much on her mind and i know that. one time this week i was finishing up something and was about to finish and my mom comes in and says start your homework. i told her that this thing only has 1 minute left and then id start homework right after. she started telling me that i always 1 minute her to death and i have to start staying on top of my responsibility s. i am a 12 year boy and i don t know what to do. if any of you have suggestions please give them to me. im desperate to make her stop getting mad. she tells me not to do stuff like cut people off in conversations but if she is not interested in what i have to say she cuts me off and tells me her story and i have to wait till it s over because i dont want to be rude. please send suggestions

After my parents divorced, they live on their own. Whenever I come to visit my dad, I find the appartment incredibly unattended for months. There's a lot of dirt on the floor, the kitchen's full of grease, every counter has not been wiped at all, there's a lot of mouldy leftovers in the fridge, every dish in the cupboard hasn't been washed properly. The bathroom smells a lot, it's full of urine and the floor hasn't been cleaned at all. Clothes are scattered everywhere and haven't been properly folded, it's full of moths. The list goes on and on. But that's not the worst. The worst is that he blames me for not cleaning up whenever I come. We've argued many times about this. Whenever I point out the bathroom or the kitchen, he just lashes back at me that this is not a hotel and I have to do this. He doesn't have the clearest idea how to do chores, I reckon he hasn't been taught in his family about it. He always points out any irregularity in my room even if I'm only visiting for a few days. Any tips how to deal with this issue? I'm already an adult and live a life of my own.

The first thing that worried me, was that she took pictures of her private parts with an old phone and also videos touching her part. The second thing I caught her doing was, asking her 4 year old brother to touch her buttocks. I don t know what to do. She lives with grandma and grandpa since she was born because I used to live there too and when I moved out she didn t want to come live with my other 2 children her her step dad and me because she says she doesn t want to leave her grandparents lonely and she loves them a lot. They re the ones that have always been taking care of her whenever I went to school and worked. Please help!! How is this possible?

I want to move. I hate it where I am so much. It gives me stress, and makes me depressed. I moved here a yr ago and bought a house ( cheap) own it free and clear but now I want to leave but I dont know if u should risk it until I have more Money saved. It's freezing here and 7 mos winter no work in winter. It's depressing. Im from a very warm climate and I hate it! I'm an outdoor person and forget about that for half the yr! So I have 2 choices. 1. Spend the winter somewhere else like Mexico or someplace cheap and come back in spring and work till end of summer till u get more money 2.. Rent my house now before winter and take a chance on moving somewhere good with very little money AND no for sure job. The rent for my house will almost cover rent someplace decent. I'm just nervous to make wrong choice. My house is paid off. I'm also getting ready to do a partnership with someone and that should start to bring in a couple thousand but it's not going yet and if I rent my house and I get into a bind I could get in a bad way with not enough to survive. If i lock up the house for winter until Im sure the business brings in enuf and I have more saved I will lose a lot of money from it sitting empty and can't rent until next summer. What would u do???? Please tell me Ur approx age when u answer I'm curious how age changes things. Please no kids answer.

The mom and dad are divorcing. Until everything is finalized, the dad refuses to help with anything such as clothes, preschool fees, etc. Now there is a 4th birthday party being planned by the mom. Her family is small. The dad's family is big. His family likes big celebrations for everything. The Dad won't help with purchase of a cake or venue unless he sees receipts of what the mom paid. (Half of the venue cost are refunded. He'd only be out of $50). In the past he has criticized her. In other words, if she buys a $30 cake, she should have bought a $20 cake instead. Then he tries to get out of helping by saying he doesn't agree with of her choices. When she asks him to help or suggest things he won't. If she has him plan the party instead of her to avoid the drama and criticism, he will just make paternal grandma do it. If paternal grandma plans party, there will end up being 3 birthday parties since the child's parents and paternal grandparents are divorced. So mom has decided to pay for everything herself. Moving forward, should she continue with throwing, on her own, one bday celebration per child? Should she eat the cost herself every year? And should they do this until their 2 children are 18 or what age do divorced parents stop having joint bday celebrations for children?

my uncle is the kind of person who speaks before he thinks, and I never used to always feel so on edge around him this has just been recently. He always only ever wants to talk about school or work and it drives me crazy! I have told him over and over again I'm going to College in the spring (We get into Arguments over this) and I have applied to so many places for Jobs so it's not like I'm not getting out there and Applying for jobs they just haven't called me! I don't feel this way around my friends or my mom....only him... I also will notice that if I'm out and about the closer I get home the more anxious I get because I never know if he's going to be home or not. and I almost never come out of my room because I just don't want to interact with him anymore because he puts me on edge and makes me really anxious

My mom has recently started to be so rude to all of us(meaning me, my sister and dad). She comes into my room, and right away my heart sinks because I know she's about to get mad for no reason. She'll start asking me questions I couldn't possibly know the answer to, like "how does your sisters phone dock work"(my sister is in the next room, couldn't you ask her?) and when I say I don't know she gets angry. She's always grouching, always grumpy, even when we got an amazing opportunity to tour the backstage of a huge theater she found a reason to be mad at us or something negative to grump about. And did I mention she always manages to blame her own made up problems on us?

My mother approached me and told me that I was a bully today. My dad is always disappointed with me and yelling. My sister doesn't care about me whatsoever. Heck, my dog growls when I approach him. I can acknowledge when I do something wrong, but I genuinely am not doing anything wrong. I don't know what to do. My parents always pity my sister when she cries, but they don't know that I have to cry myself to sleep every single night. I am five years away from being able to leave my family, getting married, or getting a job legally.

My parents has been seperated for over 3months and during these pass weeks, I've notice that they forgave each other. Then I heard them kiss a couple of times and sometimes, my dad would just leave the house for several hours at my mom's place (I see his car leaving and going towards where her apartment is and sometimes I'd go check and yup, his car is there). I know that it's probably not bad if they "still love each other". Today, I saw him go in the direction of my mom's apartment, and I biked to her place and his car was there. About 3 hours later, he came back and I asked him where he went and he said to his brother's place. I just don't understand how they could "go back together". Like, they've been fighting intensly and constantly from March till July, almost daily. And now, here they are, kissing in secret (they think I don't hear them) and seeing each other for hours. Something that bothers me is that after my mom moved out, I heard her say to my aunt that my dad would still ask for sex to her. So now, I just don't know what to think. I also lost almost all trust I had for my parents.

1. My parents let my aunt move in 2. She took my room 3. I don't have anything because she took everything I had. 4. I am basically living in the living room with my clothes in the laundry room. 5. I try to have something to do with everyone so everyone feels respected, yet they treat me like crap. 6. I have been getting cussed out everyday when my aunt does anything wrong 7I have to clean up after her 8 she has been here for 3 months and will not get a job 9 my little cousin even said she needed to get a life because she does not have anything to do with him 10 all she worries about is men 11 my dad is not even kin to her, yet is acting as if he cares more about her than me and my brother 12 my dad has to pay for everything she gets 13 she goes with every guy she sees 14 I am starting to think she is trying to take my dad from my mom 15 I am sick of my life 16 I ain't even allowed to have drink

My Dad is well known within the family as being a bit of a lay-about. He treated my Mum terribly - even up until her recent death from cancer. He was lazy and selfish (hasn t worked for 20+ years). Before my Mum died, I always promised her I wouldn t simply walk away from my Dad (my kids are 5 and 8 so they have a grandad). After Mum s death, I fell out with Dad and other members of my family (primarily due to how I felt they used my Mum) and I haven t spoken / seen them for over a year. At first, I felt bad as I took the decision to prevent my children seeing their granddad. However, recently it s been playing on my mind and Dad has tried getting in touch. In my mind, he adds nothing beneficial to my or my kids lifes. However, should I be the "big man" and at least talk to him or shall I just let it go and forget about him.

I am terrible with greeting elders. I don't know if you hug or shake. I don't know what to say if I should speak louder. What do I do if they don't respond to me. Please help this family I am meeting is very well educated and I have problems greeting older people. I don't know why it's always so akward for me by the way I'm a 13 yr old girl

I have a child who is catered to (think helicopter parent) by her father. We were never married and he fixes every problem in her life. I have a more realistic approach of life lessons, manners, and chores. Yesterday, my daughter and I went out to a very far away expensive restaurant for my dads birthday. My mother also just had surgery and is ill so I told my child this is special and to be on her best behavior. We sat down and they didn't have her favorite drink so she got another kind but didn't like it. So she got water but it tasted "funny" so my mom got her bottled water. She got silent and angry. When my dad asked what was wrong, she shook her head and pouted. She forgot to ask for ranch for her fries, so my dad got up and got her some. He ended up giving her all his fries because she dropped one and so on... Since she is completely babied by my parents, we clash. He ended up buying her something from the gift store on HIS birthday. I was angry but had to hold it back. I don't think she should be rewarded for bad behavior. When we got home she actually had the nerve to say she hated the restaurant but didn't want to ruin the dinner. Should I have punished her? How can I get along better with my parents?

I just turned 22 in August I have a steady well paying job with full benefits paid vacations and 401k. I have a good bit of cash set aside too my plan was to go back to college and get a degree in something. I know if I move out this will be much harder to achieve especially since I work a lot.. I feel weird about this because I don't really like the job I have now besides the fact that they pay me very well and I have to work nightshift. But then at the same time I am really tired of living at home with my parents I have always felt like there were too many restrictions that come with living with mom and dad. Like not being able to bring a friend over past a certain time and having to tell them everywhere I go. I have no privacy is one of the biggest problems for me since I have to share a room with my brother it's so annoying having to wake up and see his mess everyday on his side of the room. I would really like my own space I know going to school and living alone plus working is gonna be hell has anyone else done this ?

My gf and I both had pre-started family I with a son and her with a daughter. My son carries my last night and soon so will she and we agree we don t want our one year old daughter to grow up with that kind of confusion so we are looking for a way to give her my last name as well. The complex part is her biological father signed the birth certificate so we can t do anything without his permission. But we have no idea where he could possibly be. We can t get in contact with him or his family for the life of us. Is there a way we can go about this without his permission.

So I just started college a week ago, and I'm absolutely devastated. I can't stand being away from my family. I came home this weekend and it already feels different. I'm not ready to be an adult, I'm not ready to be off on my own. Just 5 months ago I was still in highschool. I miss coming home everyday and seeing them. I think my relationship with my parents is slightly unique from what might be the norm. My parents are my best friends and then some. And every time I'm in my dorm at night I start to think about the good times in high school when I had nothing to worry about. I feel like I'm going to come home during the breaks and my relationship with my parents is going to be different and I don't want it to be. I still want to be their son. How do I cope with all of this?

Hey i'm 15, my mom never bought me underwear and never talked about my puberty whem i'm in the store i can't say it idk why i wanna say it i can't, how can i talk to mom that i need underwears? . P.s Don't laugh or make jokes.

My mother may have issues anger wise..... If me or my siblings do anything wrong she goes into a fit of rage and screams and call us many names and hits us....for etc one time I was chatting to a boy and when she found out she was absolutely furious and demanded my phone password and I was too scared to give it so she cut a piece off a garden hose and whipped my thighs until they were embalmed with purple and blue contusions...... She's completely destroyed my confidence

So my dad has basically become absolutely nuts, him and my mom are divorced and live in different cities, me and my mom are estranged, and he is the only shelter I have, which is the only reason I stay obviously. But you can't even leave a rag in the wrong place, accidentally take out a fresh sponge when there's a used one already out, change the temperature because it's too cold, or any literally TINY mistake or annoyance, without him absolutely going ballistic, freaking out, taking said object and throwing it in my face, threatening my life, coming at me with a knife and threatening me with it ... These are the things he does, and when I try to reason with him and tell him it's abornal he freaks out even more and threatens to toss me on the street, which is obviously worse ... What do I do?

When I was in kindergarten through 2nd grade my female cousin, my older brother, and I engaged in gross, early sexual touching, play, and exploration. I knew it was wrong, and I m sure they did, too. Finally after 2 years of lying about it, I confessed what we were doing and that ended that. Except now I m the "weirdo" of the family. My older brother mocks me, makes other people think I m weird, invalidates my thoughts and feelings, shuts me down, makes me think and feel I m stupid, etc. My cousin doesn t really hang out with me. Also, I think she began coping by "glowing up" and putting on an outgoing persona. I used to be painfully shy and still am not good at talking to new people or people I haven t seen in awhile. My brother makes me seem weird, regardless of if I m shy or trying to be outgoing. My friend and I went to the mall, and this guy who worked at a shoe store was joking around with us in order to get us to buy something. Apparently he thought I was extremely weird and gave me a nickname because I kept hiding my face behind my hands and laughing. Again, I get nervous when I m with new people.. Well, my friend and my brother work together, and he now makes fun of me even more, saying even strangers know how weird I am. We re both in our early 20s. I m tired of him treating me like this, and if I say anything, , then, "I'm picking fights and arguments." I feel singled out, manipulated, discredited, and more..What should I do? I get I can't change his opinion of me, but I'm sick of his manipulating others' perceptions of me. If they knew the whole story, they might actually understand why we're all the way we are. But for now, I look like the psycho. What can I do??? My parents are of no help... :(

I already asked this question twice and apparently my grammar skills were not good enough for people to understand so let me re do this. I was dead asleep last night about 8am my dad opens my door to my room and says to me "wow you have no life son" he says this because I spend all day locked in my room. He knows and I have told him before I have no friends. He's also aware that I can't drive because of a suspension. Anyways so yea I sit in my room all day not doing **** except watch YouTube videos and play Xbox. Yet he can just say that like nothing anyways I didn't care about that but he then asked me if I wanted to go get some tires for my car which are worn out we talked about doing it before (I really didn't wanna get out of my bed cuz I was sick and tired). Right when I was about to say something he goes "**** the car right" like he's making it seem like I don't care which is not true. The thread on my tires could last me the rest of the year and I don't even drive that thing. I just don't understand how acting like an *** towards me is going to make me wanna get up and do things like now I just feel like sitting in my room again and meditating

Less than 1 month ago I moved back home with my parents after being in the Marine Corps for two years... My mom and dad just wanted me to go to college and get a job if I was living with them... (Makes perfect sense and there is no argument there) I am currently going to school full time and found 1 job where I worked for a couple weeks but they never called me back... Now I m unemployed, trying to pay for college, and getting kicked out of my house because apparently I don t have my life together... Will kicking me out of my house help me or hurt me? Will I ever be able to survive with the 4,000 dollar debt I still own on my car? I don t have anywhere to go and sooner or later I m going to have to sell my car to pay for things like food and water... Anyways all I m wondering is what I should do here? Where do I go? How do I work?

Im 22 and my youngest brother is 20. He said I'm ugly and can't keep a man.Everytime he comes in my room when I'm watching tv and says I watch stupid tv shows.He even thinks he knows it all and thinks he smarter then me.I think his very selfish and to grow up. What should I do about this situation?