So my husband and I got married two weeks ago. My last name is supposed to be Bell-Fitzgerald. On the marriage license it's Fitzgerald-Bell. That was our mistake for not catching that error. I'm not sure how to change it on my marriage license or how to change it at all. I called the county clerks office but they said I have to go to supreme court to change it. But looking it up I can't find where to change it because the name changing petition talks about changing your name on a birth certificate or changing your name AND gender. Do anyone have any idea on what I should do? Also, if I have to change it with the supreme court, what is the price? I live in CA.

So he was abused as a child emotionally and physically by his father and I don't know how to help him. He has nervous shakes, night terrors, and he barely ever has time to work on his job. His boss is a good friend from church and he is trying to work with him but I fear that he will lose his job soon. I was forced to explain to his boss when he fell and hit his head and got a severe concussion. He then had to go to the hospital because he was mixing pain pills with alcohol and its just been a roller coaster. He is 23 and I am 21 we've been married for two years but I just don't know what to do. I love him but he has really pushed me I've already talked to the Bishop at our ward as well as his family about it but I just can't come up with what to say to the man I married for all the pain he has caused me... He just drinks and drinks and I need to know what to tell him so that I can have the man I fell in love with back. On an off note my husband's family and my family are both wealthy so a good rehab center could be afforded .So I packed up my bags and told him I was going to my parents for a week to reevaluate things.... As I was walking out the door he started to cry and said don't leave I don't want to be alone....he then said that he'd get help but he doesn't want to go to a rehab facility for his drug and alcoholism. While I held him I couldn't help but think how overwhelmed I am... Should he go to a group or does he need to go to a clinic?

Or are you selfish and immature when it comes to being in relationships? Are you promiscuous and want to try out every flavor, creed, and kind just for sexual kicks? I gues me personally I want my cake and eat it too in a manner of speaking. I want to fall in love with a special woman and spend the rest of my life with her. However, I also sometimes want a black chick, then a Spanish woman, one thats chubby, then one who is thin, then an Asian woman, maybe a milf or three, and let's not forget those Italian women, and so on and so fourth. Sometimes I want monogamy, and other times I just want to bang hos, but I feel like the draw towards that one true love, is stronger that the desire to be a selfish jerk. How about you?

He wants a divorce immediately to be with her. He wants our daughter and I out of his house. Ive been a stay at home mom for 4 years. Plus my credit is bad. I have no family. I have no idea what to do. Obviously I am looking for a job. I am so hurt and depressed. I feel like I am not handling this well. I need help.

https://www.legalzoom.com/personal/marriage-and-divorce/name-change-overview.html From there on after I make the purchase and gain approval, will I need to pay anything else? Or will it be successfully changed and I can update all of my information with no additional cost after the process has been taken care of?

So....My husband and I have been married for 6 years. And while we have a nice marriage, we've had our ups and downs. Several of our downs have had to do with his procrastination. And I don't mean just any procrastination (like putting his clothes away), I mean things like holding me back from going to school to get my art degree, or stopping me from getting a job. He keeps telling me to "wait for the right time" or "We'll get around to that, let me just take care of what I want to do first." He had recently went to school himself, and I was very supportive. I've always let him chase whatever dream he has. But it's almost as if he can't let me do the same. He seems to get upset when I talk about my own future plans. Not that I mind being a housewife....but I'm incapable of conceiving children, so nothing is stopping me from trying to better our future for the day when we adopt a child. None of my plans interfere with his, and we spend quite a lot of time together. I just feel trapped.....constantly having to wait for him to achieve whatever goal he has planned. Half the time, he never sees anything through to the end. My friends and family support my choices to better myself, and he hates them for it. I've tried to find ways to compromise and be fair. But it's like I'm talking to a brick wall. Any advice will do.

My fiancé and I got into a ridiculous argument and I just wanted to watch tv in bed and ignore him. I don't normally result to that method of addressing issues but he was shutting down and I he no other choice. He then informed me that I was "sleeping on his side of the bed" and I should move. I told him I was already laying down and that and I m not moving. He insisted that I move and of course I didn t agree to it. He then took the pillow, put it on my head and applied his weight and it really hurt my cheek. He then climbed on top of me and I pushed him off. He insists he was "placing the pillow on his side of the bed and was climbing over me to get to the other side." I started crying and he said he would never hurt me but come on! He told me he was just putting the pillow on his spot, which happen to be my face? I m supposed to get married in December, what the hell should I do?!

My significant other and I plan to elope relatively soon (we are planning a small reveal-esque celebration on our 1st anniversary and we would like our reveal to be a surprise for our loved ones) but he and I are still covered under our parents' health insurance. We are aware that a change to US health care (an aspect of Obamacare) has made it possible for young adults to remain on their parents' insurance, regardless of marital status, until age 26. My main questions are 1. is it entirely true that we are legally able to remain on our parents' health insurance although we are married (we would NEVER put them at risk of insurance fraud, as would be the case prior to obamacare) and 2. will there be any complications due to discrepancies of paperwork? do insurance companies actually ask for dependent marital status at any point, whether it is during the application for insurance or annual renewal? and if so, will our parents be contacted if they check "single" on some form of paperwork, while he and I are actually married? I am well aware of the mixed feelings towards secret marriages, but SO and I don't plan on throwing an elaborate "second" wedding or wish to marry for what may be considered selfish reasoning. We simply fancy the romance of a secret wedding between us and would like to throw a celebration revealing it later on. We have very nontraditional families that would love the idea, so please don't be negative. I just wish to have answers to the ?'s I asked :)

What's a reasonable age to get married and why? I think 23-25 is good, because you're done with all your education (if you didn't go to grad school) and you're old enough to make serious decisions. The women in my family all got married very young, and they're still happily married.

lose a majority of their money etc

I'm 24 years old married with a 3 year old son and currently live with my mom. My husband got extremely intoxicated one night and made threats towards my mom and I and my mom called the police and is now persueing charges. Since then I have talked to my husband and he has agreed to check himself into a 30-90day alcohol treatment facility. Until then he's not allowed to see our son. But now even when I go see my husband my mom is threatening to take further action. She's trying to take my son if I go see my husband. My son has never been abused by myself or my husband. But I understamd my mom calling if I was taking my son to see him but I can't even have him walk me to work. She's threatening to take my son away. My husband wants yo get help and do what's best for his family finally but I can't be there yo.help support him if I'm scared of losing my child. I love.my son more than anything.

Me and my ex husband have been divorced for about 5-6 years and he brought his daughter from another country and brought her to my home to live here. She's been living here for almost 3 years. He says because he pays child support for our two daughters that he can have her live with us, keep in mind this child's mother is not in this country she stayed over there and my ex husband brought his daughter here. He doesn't live with us and does not give me money for her I have no responsibility with this child she's not my kid and my ex husband is forcing me to keep her here she's about to turn 18 too. He says he wants "all his daughters to be together," it's either his way or he gets furious. He brought his daughter to this country and doesn't even live with her and barely sees her, he says he can't bring her to his house because there's no space there since he lives with his girlfriend and two other kids how's that an excuse we don't even have space for ourselves at the moment?? What can be done?

I know that picking your surname after marriage is a very personal decision and there is nothing wrong with keeping your maiden name of hyphenating. I am in no rush to take my husband's name, I would only do it after we have kids to have a family with a unified name (I hate hyphenated family names) - but that is still a long time off. I like my maiden name and it seems a hassle to change it as first I need to do my IDs, then the bank, my credit cards, my various registrations, and then my school I go to. Professionally I want to keep my maiden name as I come from a small enough town and a google search actually shows a lot of my past accomplishments. I've been married for almost 2 years and this just started becoming an issue. The other day I had shown my parents my business cards and they got very offended when they seen my maiden name, they said I should've had it changed and it looks bad on me. Then I had to go to the emergency room, when updating my next of kin information the nurse reacted very poorly when I gave my husbands name and it was different from mine. She was a very young woman so I don't know why she'd be like that. I just don't get it! Is this not a normal thing to do? I've heard people commenting about others that if the last names aren't the same then they doubt if they are even married and consider the wedding some big sham.

HOW LONG AFTER A JUDGE SIGNS DIVORCE PAPERS DO YOU HAVE TO WAIT TO GET MARRIED IN vIRGINIA?

My coworker is married and gets a lot of attention at work. People compliment her wardrobe. Clients love her. Today one of the clients offered to buy her lunch and didn't ask me so I jokingly said it's always her you're asking, what about me? She makes mistakes at work and the boss won't even fire her. She's pretty with a nice figure, but I don't understand why she gets all this attention? She's also married and shouldn't be concerned with dressing up. I jokingly called her a ***** because she got complimented by a famous person. She's upset about it. Why do you think she acts this way?

myself and my husband have been together over 10 years now, we've had our ups and downs. I thought we were in a good place and then he go out all night drinking with a buddy and comes home to accuse me of talking with "Other people" (no specifics) I told him i wasn't and he doesn't take my word for it. He was informed by some "random" (person that is, and did not say who) that i was supposedly talking with those "other people" i mentioned earlier and he jumps right on it. like doesn't question this "random" nameless person...? i hate the whole "he said -she said" bit. I hate even more that my word means nothing over some random nameless person. i'm over here wondering where this is all coming from and he says he's "known for a while" and i'm all what do you mean? I'm lost because everything's been normal and everything around the house

I have to deal with a male friend of my husband on occasion. The friend has mental issues. He is constantly trying to use putdowns towards me and other women. He does misquote people and then say he never said the misquote instead of saying he is sorry or wrong. Then he blames the person he said the misquote to. He starts calling the person a liar and doesn't want to drop the drama in public. The friend calls my husband wanting to be friendly about 2-4 weeks after an episode. I also found out this same friend of my husband was telling people about a month ago that I am an extreme mentally ill person with his version of a diagnosis and he has never been to higher learning institution. He told people I beat my husband up and that my husband was suicidal from the abuse. My husband is only slightly sad from the car breaking down and not being able to keep that job. He is looking for a new job. We try to avoid seeing him and leave the place when he gets out of control. I am just tired of the character attacks. I was thinking I should try an anti-harrassment order if he continues this behavior. I am also trying to talk to my husband about leaving this friend of his out of our life.

Where the parents are not divorced and still live under the same roof, but each has their own bf/gf. The parents only communicate about money and kids issues. So is this a broken family or its only when parents are divorced and living apart ?

I do not feel close to my husband like I used to before the problems, we have went through a lot these late months, and we are married less than a year, and I was no angel, he did talk about my weight gain almost daily when we visits his family and when we are alone, which his mother was super happy to be able to do the same thing to me, and go even further basically that's the only big thing that I'm still feeling weird about and makes me feel different, that's, the only thing that changed me since that night, cause it happened over and over for months, like it comes in a health talk after it turns about my weight, my husband heats up and tell things to his family i weight more than him, isn't it spouse to i weight lesser? and i eat more than him, and once he looked at me while having dinner with his family, said keep eating ull just keep getting big. now even that happened months ago, and I have lost all the weight, but even when we are happy, like in my heart there is something that feels I'm with a stranger,even when we have sex I do not feel us as one, and somehow i feel hurt in my heart, I never feel the same with him,I want to move forward with my marriage, and be happy wife,somehow he admits some parts that it was wrong,but he said to me he did that cause he though it was the only way I can stop gaining weight, like for me that is not a real sorry, I know none wants to be with a fat wife, but I want to move on, any advices?by the way he thinks he never fat shamed me. I do not hold any grudges cause my husband thinks I do, and I enjoy thinking about those hurtful moments and they were not bad, and I'm just super sensitive, my husband says couples needs honesty and he was being honest, I do agree to be honest with me, and i promised him i would lose it whenwe were alone many times, even it was hard i was working on it, but him sharing with him mom and family in front of me and making me feel I don't even know what to say, is just not normal. and once we were alone at the car, he said to me, if I was your weight I would never go out of the house and let people see me, I'm 5`6 and back then I was in my highest 198lbs. but he insist he never fat shamed me or called me big or none of that. I'm sorry for posting a lot, I have no friends or family i can talk to, cause I moved to come live here with him, so your answers means a lot to me. thank you.

While it is still common for a woman change her last name in the event of a marriage, many couples today are keeping their last names separate. If you were to have to change your first name, how would that change your identity? Would it be difficult to decide a new first name?

Where the parents are not divorced and still live under the same roof, but each has their own bf/gf. The parents only communicate about money and kids issues. So is this a broken family or its only when parents are divorced and living apart ?

I hurt my husband's feelings and have lost his trust. In a drunken stuper, during sex, I told him I wanted to bring someone else into our sexual relationship. I do not remember saying it, I have never wanted that at any time. Now he thinks I've been lying to him for the past 7 years of our relationship. What do I do? Please help!

I ended my marriage after I caught my husband cheating. His response was to vanish. I never saw him again nor could I contact him in any way. After a year, by hacking his credit scores, I found a work address and that was enough to finally proceed with a divorce. He didn't show and it was granted by default. It's been one year, two months, two weeks, and two days since he acknowledged our son's existence. We have moved on and we are happy, but I still have those haunting questions: how could he do this and will he ever return to his son? I am hoping for some insight from parents who have walked out on their child and the parents that were walked out on regarding the children. He was a stay at home father for all 8 months of his life...how the hell did he simply write him off?! A planned child?!

I'm asking this on here because I'm hoping to get some unbiased responses. I'm so stressed out and embroiled in our situation that I can't make heads or tails of it anymore. He says he's not and that I'm overreacting. My husband got pulled over and arrested for drinking and driving for the second time 2 years ago and has not had a license since. For the first year he continued to drive against my wishes and eventually got arrested for that too. This has been extremely expensive and has limited the shifts that I'm able to work since I'm the only driver in the house and we don't have anyone nearby who can help drive our kids places. He did the required AA but then stopped after his probation ended. Because he got caught driving with no license its another year before he can try to get it back. He continues to drink a case of beer a week on top of wine. I think slmeone from work must take him to the store because I'm not buying it for him. On vacation a couple weeks ago he spent close to $200 on beer but then didn't have money to pay for our daughter's gymnastics or our electric bill. I'm frustrated beyond belief but I have heard I'm overreacting so much that I'm starting to wonder if maybe I am.

I feel like I'm no one. I work, cook, do everything a wife should but feel worthless. I'm in a lot of stress. I just feel let down by my husband, he pressures me to do much, I do a lot, very tired, financially we could even hold without me working. I pay for myself for everything except food, I buy it too sometimes. I just feel like he does not see that it's not easy for me. He doesn't even want to speak with me whenever I try to talk about it. I feel like he never appreciates all I do for him and that makes me feel worthless. He likes to compare me to other wives. I feel terrible:(

I was visiting my wife at work for a few minutes the other day. We were talking and joking. In walks this guy. My wife was already busy so a co-worker helped him but my wife made it a point to speak to him and even joke with him. There company is selling cakes to help with a fund raiser so the co-worker asked the guy if he wants to buy one my wife chimes in and says " ooo yeah come buy this one over here by me so I can have a piece" by this time I was kind of aggrevated so I told my wife I had to go she said bye and I left. I haven't brought it up to her. Was she flirting or am I being insecure? Coincidently I was taking dirty clothes from the bathroom that evening there were my wife's panties from the day with a dried white spot in the crotch! Is this a sign of her being aroused? Should I be worried?

I just started seeing this girl a little less then a month ago. She's a nice girl. Cute, funny, sweet, etc. We recently discussed sex and she has let me know she needs to get her birth control figured out first prior to us sleeping together because she's been having a few problems with her birth control. I really admire her honesty with me. We are both in our late 20's so this isn't either of our first rodeos. Do you think 3 weeks of being together is too soon to be discussing this type of thing?

After being separated a few months, I started to live again. I started to date etc. .. well long story short, we tried to work it out. We started counseling. The problem is that after dealing with everything, I find that I don't feel the same anymore. I actually feel like I might have preferred to continue with one of the gentleman I dated during the separation. I am lost after being married for a decade. I married young. I don't trust my husband anymore and honestly think 8nk I may be in love elsewhere. What should I do? How do I handle this? We have school aged children..

So I've Googled and searched online extensively regarding this topic. My husband does not meeting of the red flags that I've read. I've been introduced to his friends and family. Although I've never actually met his family, we video chat quite often. Over our years together, he has been very sweet and attentive. This has crossed my mind before, but only if he has done something to piss me off. This time he REALLY pissed me off. We attended an event where he got drunk. While driving back, he complained that I was driving too slow. He was just very rude and aggressive. He's never been that way before. While at the party, no disregard for my concerns or feelings whatsoever. Our friend was taking care of me like I was his sister or even a second spouse. A strange description, but he took over where my own husband was failing, since I was tending to our baby. Ever since I can't let go of the feeling that I AM being used just for a green card. But how can a person know beforehand if that's the case? I mean, there were no signs AT ALL. A colleague I spoke with briefly mentioned he originally thought about that when we got together, but never said anything as it was none of his business. This just may be paranoia, but his alcohol usage has increased significantly over the last few years. He stopped drinking AND smoking when I was pregnant with our daughter. He started drinking again mid-way through my pregnancy with our son (the BC my OB put me on was ineffective, didn't go well with my epilepsy meds). Over the last 6 months or so, I've noticed some changes in his attitude (for the worse) when he's been drinking. I've been thinking that the increase in his drinking can be attributed to the frustrations we've been experiencing with his immigration case. We had an attorney who closed our case without giving any notification or reason, then retired. Only AFTER I contacted him for an update, did he inform me and send back the family photos we submitted. It's been 3 years since we started the case. I'm frustrated about it myself. @Bunny: I wasn't driving too slow. I was doing 65 on an interstate in the rain, at night, half asleep in an area I'm not familiar with, that was also under construction. But yes, he acted like a jerk, and still believes he did NOTHING wrong. And this is not a one-time occurrence. It's the first time he's ever been such an a$$, but as I said, things have been escalating.

I recently discovered my husband using porn. I try to overlook it but I came down with a possible STD. It hurts really bad but I haven t gotten it diagnosed yet. Well just yesterday, I was going through my husbands cell phone and he has been emailing no this other woman who I don t know. He says he has had a crush on her since he was really young and that him and her talk so much and huh so much, that other people have questioned their relationship. They say my husband is sleeping with this woman but on the email the woman says to him, "if only people knew, we are just really really good friends" she was stressing the really part it almost sounded flirtatious. Anyway, I kicked him out of the house for the night but he swears up and down he didn t have a sexual relationship with her. Do you think I m over reactinmg? Thank u

I am ashamed to asked anyone I know this question because all of my friends have very skilled wives. My wife of six months is a nightmare when it comes to managing her household responsibilities. I like to eat my breakfast at the same time daily, mainly because I get headaches when I do not, and she has been late making it. Twice last week she was late making dinner and burnt my steak. Yesterday she left work early and was still unable to get all the laundry done. I had to use a week old towel this morning. Also, this morning the coffee tasted like sh!t and when she brought me my plate she dropped the fork. I shouldn't have to eat out because she is incompetent or yell her daily for her to be better. There has to be another way. One more thing she has not clean the main bathroom in two weeks. I have been waiting to see how long she is going to go. #miserable

My husband has a history of lying, projecting blame onto others, being irresponsible with money, making excuses, and not having my back in general. I have talked with him several times and he says he knows he needs to change and will change, but never does. I'm starting to feel like he's just trying to drag me down. I'm at the point where it feels like I'm beating a dead horse. Nothing has worked and I am unhappy and it's only getting worse. If anyone has experience with this, is it worth sticking it out and keep trying to make him see the light or should I just cut my losses?

so my husband up and left almost a month ago go, he stated he was going somewhere and would be back in a couple hours. days later he s found in Texas and had taken a large amount of money with him, leaving me with very little and all the bills. after suffering a week later he s committed to a hospital. I love him dearly and want my marriage to move forward, just don t know if I could completely ever trust him again.

We have been married for 9 years, however we split ( for 8 of those years). Neither of us filed for a divorce, so I guess you can say that we were living separate lives during that time frame however we were still LEGALLY together. We recently started communicating and I decided that it would be best for us to try to mend our marriage. However the past few days have been tough for me. I couldn t help but bring up hurt from the past. I stated how I felt then and how I feel now. True enough, we both dated other people during our LONG split. The aspect that truly sickens me is the fact that he didn t reach out to our children. Regardless to what we were going through, parenthood was our primary focus. When I left him, he abandoned the children. I thought about maybe discussing a time frame with him, regarding us fixing this situation or merely going our separate ways and filing for a divorce. I am at wit s end, I truly don t know where to start regarding fixing this marriage. Or even if it is worth fixing in the first place. I hate to sound spiteful or bitter but I am beyond overwhelmed. Any advice/ tips would be appreciated. I contacted him multiple times regarding him visiting the children, seeing them. I emailed him, sent messages on Facebook and Yahoo as well. I called numbers, however he never kept the same #. I did all that I could do regarding him being in their life.

has anyone ever married an escort before and lived for a good amount of years with them? i know some escorts are nice enough to get to know their customers but has anyone ever personally married them?

I've been separated from my soon to be ex husband for almost a year. He cheated on me and was abusive I planned my escape and moved away. I found a place for my kids .So 9 months passed by I was a single mother working two jobs and felt lonely. Then a man came into my life he ask for my #. We talked and after a few dates he told me that a woman he's known for years lives with him. Mr. ******* Playa... I kept an open mind. I didnt expect my friend to just throw her out or for him to move out so suddenly. I just decided to not make our friendship more than what it was. It just felt good to feel admired. Mr. Playa gives me money and takes me out he is 15 yrs older than me and Im glad we are friends. Our relationship isn't ideal believe me I know the game. I tried to stop seeing him 3 months ago but he told me that he couldNOT handle breaking up with me. OH ****!! Why Mr. Playa is catching feelings he seems attached? He calls me a lot more and we go out more. I don't know if he is lying about the other woman living with him (my cuz said he doesn't live with a woman) but why lie? he hasn't invited me over to his place yet & in turn I never invited him over to mine. I made a wall up and refuse to let him in until she's out the picture. He doesn't know this but my divorce is final in a few days and I want to date other people. Do you think his feelings will be crushed?

What are the sweetest things you wish your husband told you I know after a while of being with the same person **** gets old and I'm talking to this girl who's been with a guy for years but she's lacking the affection she needs.