Family: Question: Why does my dad always beat my mom?

Question: Why does my dad always beat my mom?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 02:04 PM PDT

As long as i can remember my dad always beats my mom. Usually we all just try to laugh it off and now its like a family joke. like whens dad gonna beat mom next? ynow...but i can tell it bothers her even though she tries to laugh it off. i want to say something but i dont know if i should. its usually during game night. my dad is really good at uno and none of us have ever been able to beat him. maybe do any of you have advice on how we can beat him? i feel like hes way too good he must have a secret

Question: Can I do anything? My mom won t let me live with my dad. My dad can t do anything. Can I do anything to help myself from death?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 02:04 PM PDT

Hi, I m 14 and I just absolutely hate living with my mom. She starts arguments because she just wants to feel good about herself. She used to be a drug addict, (which I think she still is.) And she just never likes what I m doing. I always stay in my room, and avoid any type of contact with her. She always yells and screams at me and just takes everything I own away from me. Right now I m punished for 5 weeks for not giving respect apparently. I just have no attention in this house whatsoever, and I m always in such a bad mood anymore. I never have any chances to do anything. Just because of her. My dad actually tries to help, but can t this time. I just absolutely need a way to leave her, because all she does is physically, and emotionally abuses me. I am a guy, and just absolutely suicidal just because of her and her ways. I m sick of this all, and I need to find out a way to just ******* leave, anyway.

Question: I grew up hating my mom. What should I do to be good to her?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 01:55 PM PDT

My mom left for a job overseas when I was 2 years old. She would come home every year until my dad and I finally moved to where she lived. I was 9 years old that time. The first few months were fine; we caught up with each other and my longing for her was fulfilled. But then she would scold me in public or be irritated when I show affection for her through simple gestures (like resting my head on her shoulder) - as a kid and as a daughter who missed her mother, it hurt me. It went on for a long time; as a 10 year old, I was very immature. I decided to "stop loving her" or "being kind to her". I was surprised because I didn't think I would really hate her. She got sick a couple of years ago and I was worried - I didn't want to lose her. That's when I told myself I should be good to her and treat her well. She then recovered from her sickness. Everything seemed to be fine. But sometimes she would nag at me and, of course, I hated it. Then, I would try to get along with her and treat her well, but she would shout at me. Like last night, I joked about where would I sleep since clothes where on my bed (we were cleaning our house) - she shouted at me. So for the nth time, I gave up - I rolled my eyes and she saw me. I remained silent because talking back wasn't a good idea. Up to now, we aren't in good terms; I called her a few minutes ago and asked where she is, and again, the tone of her voice wasn't kind. So yeah, what should I do? I think this is all because I told myself I'd hate her and grew up with it... I forgot to mention that I'm 18 years old now.

Question: Can i call the cops on my dad for...?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 01:54 PM PDT

My dad treats me so unfairly, he yells and he emotionally abuses me. I am so tired of it. I cry about 2 or 3 times a day because of him and he doesn't even care. Also when i try to have any contact with my mom he threatens to break my phone. He treats my brother like a god simply because he is a boy. If i call the cops what would they do? Would they let me go live with my mom? Will they put me in a shelter somewhere? I am also scared to call the cops... Also i don't have any teachers i can talk to.. i do an online homeschool program

Question: HELP? My emotions are all over the place.?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 01:53 PM PDT

(I am 15 years old) I had this moment like three days ago where I just freaked out completly. Everything that has ever hurted me in the past just came rushing to my head and I was full of rage and jealousy and guilt. I cried like a normally do whenever I have a cry session. I mean everyone has them once in a while right? Well this one is different. It has lasted 3 days. And I cried so bad last night and almost all throughout today. Every little thing my mom says to me makes me cry. Like she yelled at me for burning myself by accident and I cried. Then after I did burn myself by accident I cried and she hugged me. I told her I hated myself and I cant do anything right ever. I am normally VERY funny, happy, and charasmatic. I dont know whats wrong with me. I have many hurts from the past. And I have just kept them inside and now im just angry at my brother, for doing what he did to me when I was younger. My family has always made him the favorite. even at a young age I had in my mind that i wasnt the funny one whenever my family was around, that my brother was and that he was the intelligent one, not me. I feel like I am just so insecure about myself when I'm around my brother. And I havent really exploded or cared SO much about it until now. I have always realized it. But I have exploded and I dont know what to do. I am unbelievably sad, and that is not normal for me... (-YES, i have talked to my brother about what he did to me when I was younger,)

Question: What is my Grandma s brother --> brother s son --> Son s cousin to me ?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 01:50 PM PDT

Question: Why is my 8 year old sister a selfish brat that needs anger management?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 01:46 PM PDT

Question: My sister is an rotten spoiled brat and I can't stand her, what do I do?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 01:44 PM PDT

I am 14 years old and I have two younger sisters. A 13 year old (let's call her Maria) and a 8 year old (let's call Tan). My mom works a lot of the time and my dad does the stay-at-home part. Me and tan get into arguments a lot and it's mostly her fault. (I know how it looks so bare with me) She is a complete brat and is extremely selfish. She raises her voice at everyone in the house and flips her top whenever she feels the slightest bit threatened. Tan has even kicked my dad. She stomps around the house, being lazy, and eating all the food then lying about it. She has a serious lying problem... And not just about food. She has cussed before and she litters all over the house and refuses to pick it up. School has started for us and my mom claims to have her on routine to get her to sleep in her room. Whenever Tan throws one of her fits she just ends up back in their room and my dad has no say. The big problem I have with her is when we get into arguments, and she caused it (usually by saying something really inappropriate or rude) mom always ends up yelling at me, and just tells her to stop. She rarely gets sent to her room and it's not even for a whole 30 mins. And she never gets any real punishment unlike me and Maria. In the end Soraya is sitting on moms lap being comforted while I can't even explain how I feel because I'm getting cut off and sent away. Mom claims to love us all equally but clearly she doesn't, so what do I do.

Question: Why do I forgive my mom so easily?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 01:44 PM PDT

My mother and I argue a lot but at the end of the day I forgive her.It's weird because I'm so angry when we have these heated arguments and I know it's gonna happen again.I mean,most people would hold a grudge,get away from their mom,but I stand by her side.The pain she puts me through should leave scars on me but I ignore it and I feel as if I'm bottling my feelings and I should get help to wound the "hidden"scars as I'm still young and I should get this **** out of the way before I get older.Is it normal to forgive like this?Why do I forgive her so easily?

Question: How do I make up to my brother for something mean I did when I was 12 (he is dead now), read below?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 01:35 PM PDT

So I was 12 and my brother had Bipolar. As a result he had emotional problems. I was scared of him. I said no to going somewhere with him once when he was 20 and I was 12 and he found out I was scared of him and it hurt his feelings. As I got older I got closer to my brother once I was about 15. When I was 27 my brother died (suicide). I feel guilty I was scared of him in my pre-teen years. So tomorrow I remember is the twentieth anniversary of the day I was scared to go somewhere with him and hurt his feelings. I remember because it was my parents' birthdays (they share birthdays). I want to make it up to him (spiritually of course since is is dead) and wondered what ways I could do that which would be unique. Any thoughts? Same question for other dates of significance like birthday or Christmas or death anniversary. Since I have anxiety disorders I understand emotional disabilities now and feel bad I was afraid of him as a kid even though his issues were different.

Question: My mother won't let me see my grandfather because he is an alcoholic but all my cousins get to, am I right this is unfair?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 01:30 PM PDT

I feel it is unfair my cousins get to but I don't. We miss Christmas every year because my grandfather is there and we can't go to the family get togethers in the summer because he is there. I fear people will think it is my fault and I feel bad about myself because of this. She gets mad at me when I question her about this. I am 14 and don't think my grandfather will live until I am out of high school and able to seek him out on my own. I only met him twice both times when I was real little. I feel really guilty and sad. Any thoughts and am I right that my mother is being unfair since my grandfather has never hurt any of my cousins (he only gets grouchy when drunk, nothing else). Also it is not like I'd be living with him or anything as I'd only see him like once a month if like my cousins. I am afraid when he dies I will be the foolish grandson who failed him. I especially feel bad because my cousins get to see him so he must not be dangerous or they also would be kept away.

Question: My mother won't forgive her uncles for an estate fight from the 1980;s, Is this wrong of my mother when it has been 30 years?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 01:29 PM PDT

Even my maternal grandfather who was the one hurt has been deceased since 1997 but my mother still has this grudge against his two brothers and his sister. One of the brothers is deceased but she wants nothing to do with his children and only attended the funeral grudgingly. I think the sister is really nice and the living brother seems nice and people note he has changed. The brother who died I didn't know. It was an estate fight my mother holds the grudge about and thus doesn't interact with any of her cousins who I hear are really nice people (I have only met them once).

Question: My Mom's cousin used some naughty words when we saw him last weekend. Does this mean he is a naughty person?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 01:27 PM PDT

He used the F word as a joke and he is the person who left his 1st wife for another person but that was like 20 years ago. He was younger then (like 30) and had married young since he;d knocked up his first wife before they were married and gotten her pregnant. He is now remarried and seems happy but he used this naughty word to his step-son who is an adult but not naughty. So is he naughty if he uses naughty words like the F word or could he still be a good guy? What he said was "you want to get F...ed up with some beer" when he offered some beer to the step-son who is about 30. The step-son lives in the woods with his Dad so is a redneck but a nice guy (the Dad is not this cousin but the cousin's wife's 1st husband). Is he naughty by this?

Question: My mother is tacky but she complains about her sister and neices who are tacky, how do I point this out to her?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 12:38 PM PDT

Question: My mother gets mad when I see people she is mad at in her family. Am I wrong to see people she is mad at in family or is she wrong?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 12:27 PM PDT

Or is she wrong to restrict me? I am college aged and my whole life my mother has had someone she is at odds with along with her father and step-mother who she is always at odds with. Currently she is mad at her sister and mad that I saw her sister last weekend and also mad that I saw her father and step-mother 3 times over the summer (though one time was a funeral so my mother was okay with that). So am I wrong or is my mother wrong? Should I avoid whoever my mother is mad at or should I be nice to whoever I want? As a kid was I wrong to break free of my mother's grudges when I was about 15 like I did? My mother sees me as being unloyal to her by doing this whereas my sister is loyal to my mother and boycotts whoever my mother is boycotting. I am a boy so I guess it is different for boys. My Dad is usually loyal to my mother's grudges also.

Question: Why isn't it OK to swear at my parents? they swear at me?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 12:25 PM PDT

My parents have called me ************ and son of a ***** all the time so I don't get it why people think I'm being so bad when I swear at them.

Question: HELP, I am with my mother and sister on vacation and my sister is having her period and my mother is menopausal, how can I survive?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 12:19 PM PDT

I am not trolling, it is unbearable. My mother has been like this for 2 years now, it is hell. My sister is having her period so she has gone from being 24 to being only six. I want to go in the closet and hide. We are here until Sunday. How do I survive? It is just me, my aunt, and the two women. My aunt is normal and safe (Mom's sister). She was the one to tip me off that it is a period my sister is having (not demonic possession), So serious question, how can I survive now until Saturday or Sunday with these two women? My aunt leaves tomorrow and I can't go with her because she travelling elsewhere. My sister is the worse of the two of them @Kay----But my sister is torturing me psychologically. My mother I am used to (she is moping about her exes who she has been divorced from 12 and 23 years) and her sister who wouldn't come but my sister is literally torturing me.

Question: I just found out my sister is pregnant, should I spread the news over facebook?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 12:11 PM PDT

NEO----I am not the father, I gave you best answer for creativity. Anyway after my testicular cancer I don't think I could even make a baby (though with IVF who knows what they can do these days). Good job on the humor though. Oh and I forgot to add, I AM A TROLL

Question: Why do you believe families gather for picnics only annually?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 12:01 PM PDT

Question: Why does my aunt makes me take care of her kids?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 11:50 AM PDT

I'm a 20 year old male college student on vacation till my fall semester starts, and my vacation is more like a prison. My aunt and her family moved in with us (me and my parents) in order to start a "new life," and it's been driving me crazy. I'm basically like my little cousin's dad to them. I take care of them and everything. However, I'm tired of it. Today I even drove all the way up to one of my little cousin's elementary school because she had an "accident" in her class. I can't handle it anymore. Yes, I love them, but I'm not their dad. My sister even makes fun of me and says, "So then why did you have kids then. You should've thought about that before you had kids." So how do I fix this?

Question: My mom doesn't discipline my sister but always shouts at me?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 11:39 AM PDT

My little sister is 5 and I'm 15. She's so disobedient and never does what I ask; she completely ignores me. She ignores my parents too. Anyway, she was really bad behaved at dinnertime today and whilst I was helping with the dishes (as usual because otherwise I'd get yelled at for being lazy) my mom put her favourite TV show on. I confronted her and asked why she's rewarding her if she was bad, and my mom snapped at me saying that it was to keep her quiet. TV is a REWARD. And oh yeah - I had a friend round today and she kept coming in my room and refusing to leave, and my mum just kept warning her that there would be no dessert. Not acting on her warnings, but repeating them over and over. She never grounds my sister, and never sends her to her room like she did with me when I was little. It's so unfair. My mom also gets really stressed by my sister and takes it our on me. Like I brought the phone to her when it was ringing today and the person hung up, so I got a massive shouting at and sent to my room. I found that unnecessary as I did nothing wrong. I was trying to be useful. I'm so done with this family constantly rewarding my little sis. I try to be happy but I can't. My parents expect so much from me. How can I get my mom to discipline my sister rather than letting her off everything but constantly yelling at me fot tje smallest things. I am so done.

Question: How to deal with snobby Moms?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 11:20 AM PDT

Question: Is it normal for family members to keep a grudge years later after an offense if only a small apology has been given or none at all?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 11:09 AM PDT

My mother and her sister only forgive if a very sincere apology is granted or someone they really-really liked did the wrong. So for example my mother's closest cousin did a wrong and she forgave the woman though no apology was issued (though the wrong was not against my mother). However, her uncles did a wrong against her mother in my great-grandfather's estate and my mother has never forgiven them 30-40 years later nor has she had anything to do with their descendants (her cousins from that part of her family). She also has an aunt that was tacky at her father's funeral in 1985 and my mother has not forgiven that aunt 30 years+ later though she is polite when she sees the woman since she likes that ones daughter. So my question is if holding onto grudges in the family is common years and years after an offense. I made an offense at age 17 against someone during a manic spell (I am Bipolar) and apologized at age 23. I am now 36 and worry this person still has a grudge against me. Do I need to worry? The offence was I raged at the person when I heard she was getting divorced as I liked her step-son and husband (mainly the step-son). I recognize now I was dead wrong to do what I did. I've been advises since I apologized once not to bring it up again. My apology was just "sorry about all the trouble I caused during the divorce" the person said not to worry and it was never discussed again. It was my mother's step-sister I did it to. So do I need to be worried and same question for any other offenses that could come up or if someone offends me. Or do people usually forgive if the behavior has changed (as mine has).

Question: Would you be mad?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 11:02 AM PDT

ok so I'm mad at my mom because after her and my father got divorced, he had to pay her alimony even though she was remarried and she just kept it a secret from him...( so she really didn't need the money because my father was the one i was living with) Now i don't have any money for college because the money he paid her was supposed to be for my college fund... She doesn't understand why im mad and she's making me feel bad for my feelings.. what do i say to her to get her to understand? When i'm mad i can't really get out what im trying to say so i need help lmao He payed the alimony every month with money that was supposed to be for my college fund. I know what alimony is lol

Question: What do I need to do to leave my parents house? What are the steps? 11 points for best answer!!?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 10:58 AM PDT

I'm 16 and male. And me and my parents don't have a good relationship and I don't like them. So I decide once I turn 18 to leave my parents house and so I can never be with them. But how can I get started? What do I need to do 1st? Do I just get a job? And I still don't have a car.

Question: It has been 11 years since my parents divorce and all my mother does is trash my father still. How do I get her to stop?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 10:49 AM PDT

She gives me grief when I do things with him and says it is unfair to her that I would be good to him after what he did to her. She claims he left her but actually she left him because he was bad with money and they had personality conflicts. She also tells me that my Dad and step-mother don't love me or they would try to see me more (I see my Dad weekly but when younger it was monthly). She says they might like me but it isn't love. So how can I get her to stop? I know I am asking strangers but sometimes an anonymous question to strangers helps. I have seen similar questions before so I thought it might be worth asking one myself. I am 16 and a guy. I believed my mother that my Dad didn't love me until I was 14 and then started seeing through to her anger and asking my Dad when I learned my mother was the one to leave and not my father.

Question: PLEASE HELP With this Family situation?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 10:41 AM PDT

Edit So my mother and her sister are at war over my aunt's son (my cousin). He is her only son from her first marriage (she has two kids from her 2nd marriage) and he was hard in high school but is fine now. He is 23 or 24 and works hard. In high school he was unmotivated and had an attitude towards the mother (somewhat normal). His father is totally out of the picture but he has a step-father. So at about age 20 he was fired from a job and the aunt let him have it as did the step-father. My mother thought her sister went overboard. He was banned from the family xmas that year. In the years since the son has felt rejected by the mother the way he was by his bio-father. So the extended family has reached out including the grandfather and step-grandmother housing him for a time. He is now fully employed, works hard, and no longer has any attitude except still feels hurt by his mother's rejection coming in the wake of the bio Dad's abandonment when he was 4. Long story short mother (my aunt) is still very bitter towards him. As a result son says little about her. The aunt is insisting on an apology for the high school years I believe. Extended family is all involved with my mother and the uncle livid that aunt has somewhat abandoned her son. Aunt has refused to participate in family activities in past 3 or 4 years and told son last week it was because of him (they had argument over a facebook post). So am I wise to just stay neutral and be nice to all involved? I am in one of those families on my mother's side where everyone is supposed to take a side. My grandmother is on aunt's side and my uncle and mother on nephew's side with grandfather and wife on grandson's side Personally I think the nephew (my cousin) had some serious issues in high school but has completely overcome them and the aunt is holding a grudge. However, I want to be nice to the aunt and cousin even if the two of them don't get along. Aunt lives out of town and avoids family events so I see cousin more but aunt comes to visit her parents from time to time and I try to see her. My mother gets mad I visit her when in she is in town. WHAT SHOULD I DO? Sorry for long post, I asked earlier by got no answers

Question: I hit my little brother, do I have anger issues?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 10:35 AM PDT

Ok, so my brother was being irritating all day and I was slowly loosing my cool and when I was talking to parents about something and he butted in, i just lost it, and dug my nails into his arm, just put of nowhere. I hurt him and I feel bad. Just to clarify, i never do this with anyone. My brother is the only one who makes me loose my cool.

Question: My brother keeps beating me up?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 10:22 AM PDT

My brother (who is 16,3 years older than me) keeps beating me up he has punched me in the face several times gave me a nose bleed and even kicked me i always tell my mother about what he has done to me but they don t do anything about it my life is pretty much going to hell and i want to kill myself. Please any thing will help Thanks

Question: I'm 15, and my mom won't let me see my dad when he comes out of jail?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 10:04 AM PDT

My dad is a real G, when i was growing up he was always in and out of jail but he always showed up unexpected even when my mom said hes not allowed to see me. On my 10th birthday he gave me 5k all cash in a shoe box, and he said enjoy yourself and make sure mom doesn't take it. now that im 15 i feel like my mom cant stop me seeing my dad cause im not a kid anymore. she says hes just a worthless criminal and dangerous guy, but he always found a way to see me on my bday, gave me the best presents, always took care off me even when he was in and out of prison. I know my dad is a criminal and so on, but his lifestyle is so amazing, he has an audi r8 and he even let me drive it once, when my dad comes out of jail next month im going to stay with him for a few weeks. Legally can my mom stop me? My dad is not a bad guy he loves me a lot but why is my mom so worried about me seeing him? hes never done anything bad to me once, and i love spending time with him? i just wish my mom would let me see him :((((((

Question: My Dad won t talk to me, and he does this a lot?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 09:34 AM PDT

A week ago, I bought a book online that I figured my parents wouldn t have a problem with me reading (it s a sociology based book on the harmful effects of the porn industry). They found it, got upset, and while I tried to explain to them why I m reading it, they didn t buy it. The next day, I re-explained it to my mom, who finally understood and got over it. My Dad, however, hasn t been talking to me for the past two days, avoids eye contact, etc. and I haven t even done anything "wrong" - I defended myself and we disagreed, that s it. I would be willing to break this silence with him, but for the past year, he s been handling arguments like this - giving me the silent treatment, and sometimes broadcasting his rants about me when I m around. The past few times, I ve been the one to break the silence (even though he s the one who stops talking). This time, I m tired of this childish behavior, and I feel it s not my responsibility this time to break it. So, how do I move forward from here? If it helps your advice, I m 19, by the way. Thank you.

Question: How do I sneak out of my house? Any tips?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 09:20 AM PDT

I'm going to a party tomorrow and I need to sneak out. I have an older brother and two younger brothers and we all share a room.My youngest sibling has a baby monitor.My room is on the second floor,and I do have a window leading outside.Directly over the hallway is my parents room,so I can't make lots of noise. Should I have my siblings in on this too?

Question: Why are trust fund babies made to feel like ****?!?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 09:14 AM PDT

Ok first of all. They are always getting insulted. With phrases like "what did mommy and daddy buy that for you" it seems as if everyone despises them, event the ones who are not flashy and do not show off. Also they cannot help that their parents chose to give them that life. They did not get to pick who their parents are. So why are people so mean to them?!?

Question: Why does my dad beat me?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 09:01 AM PDT

My dad has always been very mean man but recently he has crossed the line. Every time I get b or lower on test he gets his 9 iron and beats my noggin many times. I tell him i try my best but he neber stops. I am thinking about telling police but then he find out and beat me more pls help

Question: Called my GF spoiled?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 08:38 AM PDT

It just slipped out. We live together, 3 years in and yesterday I was just mad at her because she outright refused to help with any " chores" in the apartment. I tried coaxing and giving her easy tasks, but, painting her nails was more important. I asked if she could take the laundry to the laundry room, she whined and my response was, " stop being a f**king spoiled brat and take the GD laundry." she cried, locked herself in our room. I slept on the couch, still not speaking to me. What do I do?

Question: Is my attitude bad because of my parents ?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 08:30 AM PDT

me and my parents both have bad attitudes however i have a good attitude to everyone else. me and my parents have a mutual love and hate relationship

Question: I feel trapped at my sisters house?! :(?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 08:28 AM PDT

I've lived with my sister for 4 years now and ive lived here rent free!! For the first 2 years her and her husband worked full time so i watched their kids for 12 hours a day mon-fri. Then my sister was able to stop her job and i was able to get a job!! :) Now she wants another job and wants to go to school at the same time and it's pretty frustrating for me because i have to change my work hours to fit her schedule. Now I'm going to make less money because im going to get less hours but I've been trying to save for college. im 22 btw. But thanks to her letting me live here rent free i was able to buy a car. i now have the means to leave but im not sure if i should because she wont have a live in baby sitter anymore but i really want my own place...what should i doooo?!!

Question: Guys, I really need help. Should I do it or no? (running away)?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 07:43 AM PDT

I am pondering on thoughts of running away from home. I am 17 years old and I live in Florida. I need to run away because I am in college and my mom is restricting me from going to school because I "trouble" her too much. She says, "You trouble me, and I'll trouble you more". She has me locked up in the house and she won't let me go anywhere. She also took my bookbag, wallet, cellphone, and everything that is essential for me to leave. She has no idea I'm thinking this though. My dad works out of state so he's not able to help me out in any way. I am thinking of grabbing my things when I find them and just leave really quickly and apply for a dorm room at my school or get an apartment. Unfortunately, I do not drive yet but I applied for a part time job. I know it will be difficult for me, but what do you guys think I should do? Any advice? Thank You so much and God bless.

Question: Where can a teenage daughter go for help with an alcoholic single mother?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 07:14 AM PDT

Question: Should my 15 year old son be expected to baby sit his new step-sister (7 years old with Down Syndrome) so his step father can go to the gym?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 07:08 AM PDT

Should my 15 year old son be expected to baby sit his new step-sister (7 years old with Down Syndrome) so his step father can go to the gym while I take the other step sister to a pre-planned activity.

Question: How do I keep my dad from stealing my things?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 07:08 AM PDT

Question: When your daughter has two dads which one should she take to her daddy daughter dance. The step dad or real dad.?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 06:39 AM PDT

My daughter is 5, her stepdad been in her life since she was 2, hes very active in Her school life and home life since she lives with us. hes just like a father to her. Now her real father hes a weekend dad so he doesnt see her alot. Even when he wasnt a weekend dad HE WAS A WEEKEND DAD. he not really active as the stepdad is as far as going to her school plays and performance and things as such. Parent teach conferences and etc. ( she been in preschool 2 years on her way to kindegarden. ) when she was really sick step dad was there not real dad. She spent a whole month out of school. Real dad had other kids so she couldnt come over. But she loves them both equally, she 5 so she sees no mistakes as of yet. Should i leave it up to her to chose who she wants to take to her dance. Should they both go.? I know that stepdad will fill a little hurt if she choses dad and vise versa but he is respectful and will let her make that choice. What should i do.?

Question: Unwed father getting 50/50 custody?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 06:28 AM PDT

We have been broken up for almost 3 years and we've never been to court. I don't get along wit my child's mother but I've been trying to be as civil as possible. I only get our child on the weekends because that's what she chose for us. I work hard and i am paying child support while I'm also providing for my sons care when he is with me (rent, food, clothes, etc). But she has it in her mind that this arrangement was all a compromise when its just that I got tired of fighting. I asked a year ago if we could to alternate weeks, where our child spends a week with me and then a week with her etc and she blew up with "you left us, you're lucky I even let you see our kid" type of argument and nothing got discussed. Now I'm asking for it again and she is denying me because she doesn't want to lose getting benefits from welfare. I don't want to take my child from their mom, that's not my intentions, I just simply want my rights and what's best for my child. I grew up with divorced parents and I know what its like to be kept from my mom or my dad. And we agreed to not go through the system but now I'm at the point where I have no right to know what's best. I don't know what to do. How hard would it be to get 50/50 joint and legal custody in California?

Question: Im moving out, and I don t know how to settle it with my mom. Help please!?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 06:04 AM PDT

I got a job about an hour from where I live. I m going to college about an hour and half away. Me and my boyfriend got an apartment together just a few days ago. My living situation at home isn t the greatest. Me and my mom fight a lot but not on regular bases, she treats me like a child still and I m 20 years old. I like the feeling of being able to do stuff on myself. I have always been like that. I just told my mom I m moving out on sept 6. She got mad and threatened to kick me out right now. Do I talk to her again, explain I ll always see her, and I m only moving out to be closer to school and work?? And if I was going to talk to her again what should I say??

Question: How should a mother respond to this?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 05:51 AM PDT

Hey mom is upset that her son is not picking up after himself. The teenage son snaps back and says " I have to go to school for 6 hours and do homework. Your a stay at home mom all you have to do is upkeep the house. So yes I think it is fair that you clean up after me."

Question: PLEASE HELP With this Family situation?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 05:24 AM PDT

So my mother and her sister are at war over my aunt's son (my cousin). He is her only son from her first marriage (she has two kids from her 2nd marriage) and he was hard in high school but is fine now. He is 23 or 24 and works hard. In high school he was unmotivated and had an attitude towards the mother (somewhat normal). His father is totally out of the picture but he has a step-father. So at about age 20 he was fired from a job and the aunt let him have it as did the step-father. My mother thought her sister went overboard. He was banned from the family xmas that year. In the years since the son has felt rejected by the mother the way he was by his bio-father. So the extended family has reached out including the grandfather and step-grandmother housing him for a time. He is now fully employed, works hard, and no longer has any attitude except still feels hurt by his mother's rejection coming in the wake of the bio Dad's abandonment when he was 4. Long story short mother (my aunt) is still very bitter towards him. As a result son says little about her. The aunt is insisting on an apology for the high school years I believe. Extended family is all involved with my mother and the uncle livid that aunt has somewhat abandoned her son. Aunt has refused to participate in family activities in past 3 or 4 years and told son last week it was because of him (they had argument over a facebook post). So am I wise to just stay neutral and be nice to all involved? I am in one of those families on my mother's side where everyone is supposed to take a side. My grandmother is on aunt's side and my uncle and mother on nephew's side with grandfather and wife on grandson's side Personally I think the nephew (my cousin) had some serious issues in high school but has completely overcome them and the aunt is holding a grudge. However, I want to be nice to the aunt and cousin even if the two of them don't get along. Aunt lives out of town and avoids family events so I see cousin more but aunt comes to visit her parents from time to time and I try to see her. My mother gets mad I visit her when in she is in town. WHAT SHOULD I DO? Sorry for long post

Question: Where did my my friend go when his dad said something into his ear at night?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 04:51 AM PDT

I sleeping over at my friends house about a week ago and we were doing something and his dad comes and says something in his ear and he goes and do that thing and doesn't come back for like 30 minutes then we went to bed because it was right before bed so what did he do he also was not in the bathroom and his sister didn't go so what did he do?

Question: My dad found my pictionary minute glass in my room(the sand is white) And he thinks its pot?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 04:44 AM PDT

Question: Sister and brother in law refuse to use lyft and uber and insist on me giving them rides..?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 04:39 AM PDT

Ok so my brother in law had is licence suspended for being stupid, and he was on probation until the courts see he is capable of getting his B licence back. I didn t realize I would have to pay for it by giving him rides to work and sacrificing a couple of hours out of my day though.. Its 2016, can t you take a lyft or Uber to work I ask? I drive part time for them. " No" he says, he had a bad experience when I believe he screwed up requesting a ride and now I gotta sacrifice my time driving him to and from work.. My sister on the other hand wanted me to drive her to the airport on a few occasions as well, saying she doesn t trust the app. I on the other hand have never ask either to drive me anywhere, whether its the airport or from a bar etc cause I know peoples time is important.. How do I convince them to jump on the ride-sharing bandwagon???

Question: I am 18 now and I am having problems with my parents not respecting my privacy. What should I do?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 04:36 AM PDT

Hello everyone. Recently I hit the age of 18 and I was glad to finally be an adult. Unfortunately for me, being 18 did not change much. Ever since I got my own room, my parents would come in without asking and see what I was doing. Even when my door is closed, they would not even ask or knock and come in. I get really mad when this happens and I tell them to at least ask before coming in. Not only that, whenever I am away from home they would look through my drawers and see if I have anything that I shouldn't have. They even say they "clean" my room, which to me does not sound like it because I see things misplaced in my room. This has been continuing for many years and on some nights I cannot sleep but instead just lay on my bed thinking about it. For several years I have, like all other guys, have been masturbating. However, I never really feel comfortable doing it because my parents would walk in any time. Sometimes they would catch me doing it. And when they do, they would get mad and tell me to wash my hands. Thank you for reading. If anyone has similar experiences or advice to give me, I would love to hear. Also, if I could contact you and talk about this topic that would be awesome as well.

Question: I feel trapped in my sister's home??!! :(((?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 04:31 AM PDT

I've lived with my sister for 4 years now and ive lived here rent free!! For the first 2 years her and her husband worked full time so i watched their kids for 12 hours a day mon-fri. Then my sister was able to stop her job and i was able to get a job!! :) Now she wants another job and wants to go to school at the same time and it's pretty frustrating for me because i have to change my work hours to fit her schedule. Now I'm going to make less money because im going to get less hours but I've been trying to save for college. im 22 btw. But thanks to her letting me live here rent free i was able to buy a car. i now have the means to leave but im not sure if i should because she wont have a live in baby sitter anymore but i really want my own place...what should i doooo?!!

Question: What do you think.. inappropriate?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 04:30 AM PDT

My friends daughter is 15 and when she was with her dad at work and he had to work through the night so he got one of his colleagues (who's a single, good looking guy in his 30s) to drive her home. It was like 11pm and everything was closed and she had to use the toilet, it was gonna take like an hour to get home in the traffic and the colleagues apartment was more close so he took her to his apartment alone and let her use his bathroom (which was through the bedroom), then they got back in the car and he drove her home. Was that inappropriate? Hes a nice guy and anything but a creep but anything could have happened. What should he have done?

Question: Any Strange Coincidences after someone has past?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 04:24 AM PDT

When My Uncle died his wife came with her son to eat at our house. Me and my cousin were young but we don't remember when the doorbell rang, no one was there (my mum checked) later it rang again and my mum went out and said come in, but no one was there ( I don't know why she said that) but I know it was my uncle. And once when my great grandma I think died, my grandma (who was youngish) heard stuff up stairs drop. So she ran upstairs to find that the candles where all on the ground. And some unlit. Later they found out that she died on that day, my great grandma. I have loads xD. When my sister was young, my Grandad Came over and my sister randomly asked about how his brother was, we didn't stay in contact much with him. Again later there was a call saying that he died. Now this might sound like lies but honestly it's true. Now finally when I was a little toddler my ball dropped and stopped down my drive/lawn, I went to run onto the road to grab it when a car came. But my mom said that I stopped and something kept me back from going onto the road.Then later we found out that another one of my great grandma's died. Finnaly when my Uncle died, my mum, grandparents and auntie went to a clervaunt and she said that she saw a women shouting (my greatgrandma and she mentioned that they were looking after the baby, my Auntie had a miscarage. I know some of you will criticise but it really did happened. What's happened to you guys? It doesn't really make sense but yh

Question: My mom took my things away?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 04:23 AM PDT

I'm 17 and my parents made a "deal" with me, that they would take my things away if I didn't clean the house everyday. Yesterday, my mom saw that my room was all messed up and then she scolded me and told me that she stayed home to clean the house because it was so dirty (which i think is TOTAL BS) she said she was tired of seeing my room messed up, I talked to her nicely and told her why I didn't clean my room, then she then took my macbook and my iphone while I was doing my homework, after that she kept yelling and throwing stuff around the house and complaining about cleaning everyday and seeing mess around the house. I can't talk to my mom about it because I have a terrible relationship with my parents and whenever I apologize to my mom she always tells me that she's tired of my apologies and tells me that my apologies are useless because I'm going to do them anyway, I almost never talk to my mom about anything, I never talk to her about my problems or how I feel or if I'm okay, I usually keep things to myself but I talked to them only once when I thought about killing myself though.. right now I feel depressed not because my parents took my things away but how bad my relationship with my mom, I don't even want to be considered her child anymore, she's done so many bad things to me I could write a whole freaking book about it.. Anyways, I really want my things back from my parents, I feel so freaking empty without my phone, ipad and my macbook..

Question: I haven't seen or talked to my dad for 2 years and I'm not sure how to approach him and go back to normal?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 04:22 AM PDT

My dad has been diagnosed with depression far before i was born. 2 years ago (i was 13 then) i was told i shouldn't meet him for a short while because the depression wasn't so great. Ever since i have been meaning to see him but i find it awkward and worry because i don't want to seem like an awful daughter. He's a very caring father i know that but because of his illness he hasn't been able to do much for me at all. My mum does everything for me and my father does not support my mother and I in anyway. On my birthday i got a message from him saying he has got skin cancer. I don't think it is anything too awful right now but what should i do? I am not very good at expressing my emotions or showing affection so i am anxious because i feel it might be awkward. I know in this situation being awkward shouldn't be a major factor but it does make me anxious. I worry everyday.

Question: Am I Doing the Right Thing?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 04:16 AM PDT

Ok here is my issue. I was planning on going to a certain college this upcoming September. Earlier this year, my mom lost her job and haven't been able to find work so I have been paying the bills. Well I'm suppose to leave in a couple of weeks but she hasn't been able to get a job yet. I spoke to her briefly about me not going to that college in September and go to the college closer to home in Jan. (I am already accepted into that college for the spring term). She told me not to do that and started crying (which I understand why, I mean she is a parent). However, I can't just leave for university and my family is here without finances. With that said, I'm really considering going to the university in January. Any thoughts anyone?

Question: My dad is such a hypocrite?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 03:04 AM PDT

My dad is the biggest hypocrite I know with the biggest anger issues. I m 15 (guy). Whenever I do something he doesn t like he yells at me, just before he did the EXACT same thing that he yells at me for and I called him out on it and he full on started to yell and punch me hard. I m sick of it, he never admits that he is wrong and he does it all the time to my mom and sister. He always thinks he s right and you can never get him to admit that he is wrong or to say sorry, in fact it would be rare for him to ever apologise for him doing something wrong. Please help what can I do, please don t give me that bullshit like he s an adult bla bla.

Question: Should I quit my summer au pair job?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 02:47 AM PDT

I have been in Spain for 17 days now (yes, I count each day). I am not connected to my host family, they disappear every once in a while, without saying where they are going, the children are rude to me.. I am stuck in a resort with a swimming pool, but there is nothing else. I am bored to hell, have no one to talk to, the family doesn t share anything with me... I also clean all the time.. Should I just go home? I have another job at home. Or will I be sorry for not doing it until the end?

Question: Why does Clyde continue to have carnal knowledge of his mother?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 02:35 AM PDT

Question: Is this still slander even though she only told my sister no one else and my sister didn't believe it anyway?

Posted: 23 Aug 2016 02:27 AM PDT

This one girl told my sister And only my sister a cruel lie about me saying I did something cruel to her. Which I never did though she was lying. My sister didn't believe them anyway and still doesn't she believes I didn't do anything wrong.Is this still slander even though she only told my sister no one else and my sister didn't believe it anyway?