Ok. So my husband (24) and me (25) are having our first baby. Though wasn't planned (BC pill and migraine med-doc upped dose, did not mix well) so now I'm six months pregnant. Anyway, before getting pregnant I have been looking for jobs that fit my major in college and I (just now luckily finally landed a decent job) so it's a step in the right direction. However, I am worried my husband is not ready for this baby. He still sleeps in til like 1-2 in the afternoon cuz he stays up late and I urged him to see a doctor or something but he won't. He does work (but pay is only 9.10/he) & has half-heartedly looked for better paying jobs (he applied to a few places but has not followed up with any & claims he needs my help to apply. And, he still finds the time to play v-games with his buddies (headset) every night after work even tho I want to spend time with him, and we hadn't made love in a while bc 'it's geting awkward' but I just want to feel wanted. He always wants 'his alone time' every night and forces me out of the room after a certain time. He has don notching to show me he is getting prepared for his baby. I'm concerned, frustrated, and worried. Stuff should have been done 3 months ago on his part has not happened. I'm considering leaving him bc if he can't get it together now he won't ever, I can't raise 2 children, I don't expect perfection just effort...something. Am I wrong in this? He says he will be ready when the baby gets here but I don't see that happening

I haven't slept in two days, I put all the kids in a room we all sleep together. I'm terrified when he gets drunk he hits me. I'm not sure what to do I've tried leaving and he never leaves the house He keeps track of my every move Please give me some advice on how to leave It's been 20 years of pure abuse

Some guy I met online, had began to talk I me for over three months. He mentioned he wanted to get married. I accepted providing all would go right. I developed feelings. Everything seemed to go fine. He met my parents through Skype too. From one day to the next, I asked him for a reference on his side (Japan). He wanted to get married on the first trip. So, that was way too fast, considering we just wrote each other and saw on the can and not person. So, with that in mind, I asked a reference to ask some questions. He kept making excuses. Then after writing my mom. His last message to me was "I'm very sorry our plan B won't work. My mom and sister cannot see your parents. I'm gonna cry for a while." I took that as the wedding wouldn't happen all together. Worst part of this, is he kept pushing for the wedding preparation. My mom had bought decorations, & other things. She booked a ticket for me too to go with him. (he said he would pay) He just dissapeard. There has been no sign of him on his other accounts. No new postings :"( It's been at least a month since he is not responding. I don't know what & why someone would do that? Do you think he will ever write back?

When i became ill (with an autoimmune disorder), the 3 year relationship with my live-in fiancé ended. He actually would accuse me of "faking" some of my symptoms which is not true. He just became more distant, and seemed to be annoyed with me during times i was in pain. I actually just had a surgery to improve one of my symptoms caused by my disorder, and he left me 1 week later. He didn't even seem to care about me anymore. I get that he obviously didn't love me, but how can someone be so mean and hurtful in my absolute darkest hour? I could never do that to someone, so i just want to know if anyone else ever experienced a person like this and why they can be like this?

So I sent a favorite singer of mine a message complimenting her on her newest performance on dvd. She replied and said thanks so much and I asked my sister what is the best way to respond to it and my sis told me to say your welcome and so I did. I am now wondering if this was the best way to respond to her. Was it ok to respond to her message with this reply ? Did I sound ok saying that ? I am just worried that I either sound stupid or came off as rude.

My son is 31 and has his private room with private entrance in the back with a private bathroom . ever since he started dating this 26 year old they've had an abortion and now she trying to get my son to move out with her ! Before you think I'm upset it's not that I am is that this young lady had an abortion after I told her not to. Her reason was that she was just starting school and that she only worked weekends for minimum wage . I told her my doors were open for her since her Mom wasn't supportive but in the end she went and got the abortion . Makes me think she was trying to hide something ? Like it wasn't my Sons. When she was pregnant I did mention to her that I'll know if it's my Sons just by taking a look at its face. Now she's eating my Sons head up and trying to get him to move out . I really resent this woman and I feel like she wants to take my son away from our household . I haven't kicked her out yet but she knows I don't want her here that much so she rented out an apartment and is trying to convince my son to go live with her ??

Okay, so here is a little background information. My boyfriend (25) and I (21) have been together for just over two years but have been living together for about a year and a half. We have three dogs together, a house/farm, a husband/wife type of relationship (without a ring), etc. I am still in college and I work part time. My boyfriend works full time and makes decent money. A few months ago, he was talking about buying me a ring and wanting to be engaged. He talked to my mom and his whole family about it, but he hadn't asked my dads permission yet. He was ready to go buy me a ring and was going to propose to me in the end of this past month, July. But, his truck broke down and he had to fix it, which I understand completely. But what I don't understand is what he recently told me. "I just don't know if I am ready to be married." "I was going to ask you to marry me back in July, but now marriage just scares me and I don't even like to think about it." "There are some days I think I can spend forever with you, but some days I don't know." "I just don't know, I thought I was ready to propose but now I just don't know." I just don't know if I am wasting my time waiting for a ring/commitment that may never come. What do you guys think? I definitely want to wait until he is ready to get engaged/married, so I know I don't want to try pressuring him into it if he's not ready. I don't know how he went from ready to get engaged to just not knowing at all.

There are plenty of reasons I can think of for why I feel this way ranging from my having quite socialist ideology to the cold marriage my parents saw through "for the stability of the kids" - but basically while i do love my partner and I want to make him happy - he wants to get married and I don't. I consider ourselves committed, and I definitely want commitment. That's not what I'm afraid of. But, not to insult anyone else's marriage - I basically view marriage as a bad thing I don't want to happen to our relationship. He's got a much more romantic idea of it. Sometimes I consider caving to make him happy, but in my view, I want to *protect* our relationship from marriage. I feel on one hand we should both be on the same page, and on the other love to me is about willingness to make compromises. Just wondering what other people's opinions are on this.

When i was 16 i began a sexual relationship with my mom. We had this relationship off and on for years, well now im married and i dont find my wife erika as attractive as my mom kathy who is considerably a big woman. Why do i enjoy sleeping with my mom? Why cant i just have a normal relationship with kathy?

Yes we are happy with swinging. No we don't need your advice on our lifestyle.

I get envious when I see in movies and such that they go on, with awesome sex for a half hour longer or more; with all of the different positions, and steaminess. Is mine just real life and the rest a fantasy? Explain please.

So I'm seeing this guy, we've been on one day about to go on the second this weekend. Last night he called me drunk telling me all these very personal and very embarrassing things lol I thought it was super cute... But the thing is when he's sober he hardly text personal stuff he usually talk about anime and video games... Surprisingly he didn't ask for anything sexual. He was at a wedding before he called me he called me as soon as he left the wedding. Trying to figure out what does that mean... I thought he didn't like me because he hardly mentioned ANYTHING personal about himself. Now I know what his biggest fear is and all these other personal stuff I will never share with anyone. (He has mentioned he's really shy)

My spouse and I recently filed jointly for divorce in Minnesota. We have one child who's 2. We've filed our papers stating that I will have sole legal and sole physical custody - not sure if that makes a difference in how long it will take to finalize our divorce. Has anyone with a similar agreement been through a divorce in Minnesota, and if so, how long did it take? Thanks for all your answers. We also don't own any property together either. I should've put that in my question initially.

I'm 24 years old married with a 3 year old son and currently live with my mom. My husband got extremely intoxicated one night and made threats towards my mom and I and my mom called the police and is now persueing charges. Since then I have talked to my husband and he has agreed to check himself into a 30-90day alcohol treatment facility. Until then he's not allowed to see our son. But now even when I go see my husband my mom is threatening to take further action. She's trying to take my son if I go see my husband. My son has never been abused by myself or my husband. But I understamd my mom calling if I was taking my son to see him but I can't even have him walk me to work. She's threatening to take my son away. My husband wants yo get help and do what's best for his family finally but I can't be there yo.help support him if I'm scared of losing my child. I love.my son more than anything. Were actually think about calling department of children and ask for someone to do a supervised visit that way my mom couldn't say anything. What I'm worried about most is that if we do that my mom kicking me out knowing I have no where to go with my son. Is that even legal or could i call the police? Before any assholes say something bad I'm working trying to do better for my family. We've hit a serious rutt. And were trying

I'm 20, so it's not to say I can't change my mind in the future. Right now I don't see that likely, but that's how I feel right now. I have no clue how I will feel in the future. I'd like to think I wouldn't change my mind on my current desires, but the reality is I don't know. I feel stuck, like I have to decide what to do. I can break up with him now, but I might change my mind about marriage in the future. Or I could stay with him, but I might still not want marriage and we'd have to break up anyways. I personally feel like I'd regret not knowing by breaking it off now more than I would breaking up a few years down the road, knowing? What would you regret less? Staying with someone for a few years and making happy memories, to find out I don't want marriage.... or breaking up with someone and having the posiblity of changing my mind about marriage.... the realtionship could have been beautiful. I think I'd regret the latter of the two more, what about you? I never said that he even brought up marriage... we were best friends prior to dating. That's the only reason why I know his lifes desires. We haven't even talked about marriage, I agree it's WAY too soon!

I don't know if my husband is very depressed or just don't care about being with us. He works nights and he claims working nights is so hard and that is why but he has worked nights for 6 months now and that has never been the case...In fact he has only got 4 hours of sleep before to hang out with friends....My husband slept 17 hours on two of the 3 days we had off together....and when I get off work and wanna hangout with him today he is with a friend hanging out with him and didnt get home until 9 pm....his daughter went to bed shortly after...he doesnt see this friend much so I do not mind them hanging out but I don't understand why they hang out all day and half the night ....I feel like I never see my husband and when I tell him how I feel he says well....you see me an hour a day at least....:(

I'm an indoor type of person, and most young guys my age in their 20's like to hang out at bars, going clubbing, hunting with male friends, gym. That doesn't leave any place for me to find a guy and date long term leading to marriage. I don't want to do online dating personally, just feels off and unnatural to meet someone that way. I do go to gym, but I can't go up to guys there, they wear headphones and are trying to workout and leave, not chat. I did really like this one guy, he was about 40 ? Which is older, but he was hot and in shape, but then, I saw his wedding ring :( all the good ones are taken.

I love my husband and we love our privacy and try to keep to ourselves. Here's the problem: If we miss an event and someone ask, "Where were you?" I'll easily say, "We had to be somewhere." Unfortunately, if my husband is asked, he caves in and tells everything. I'm pissed about it because most people he talks to are busybodies. Why can't my husband stand up and not cave in when it's really nobody's business?

I am a newlywed of 4 months. I was recently injured and the doctor told me that I will never be able to have sex again. It is physically impossible. My wife has a high sex drive and I am afraid she will grow bored of me after a while. What should I do?

I'm not sure if I don't want marriage, or if I'm just terrified of it. I can't distinguish my anxiety from my desires. Advice?

At least that's the impression I get with most men I talk to I'm not married nor in a serious relationship so I don't understand

So one early morning around 7am, my husband came home drunk, and I was curious to see his phone internet history. I then realized he was looking at naked pictures of women, that was really disrespectful towards me because i truly respect him. And when i first asked him about it he lied saying that it wasn't him but then he said that the reason he looked at those pictures was because he wanted to see how they looked because i dont look like them in anyway....that broke my heart into pieces. He then promise not to do it again but where ever i look into his history i see naked girls in there and i ask him all the time about it but he lies everytime...i just dont know what to do? Any suggestions?

I think I might have either serious anxiety about marriage, or an actual fear of it. I'm not afraid of commitment, though. I can maintain stable committed relationships (serious ones lasting a year or more,) but I shutter at the thought of tying the knot. Can you be afraid of marriage specifically, without being afraid of commitment? My longest realtionship was 5 years, my shortest was 1. So yeah, it does say a lot.

-He swears he is not gay and its just a massage but he makes good money out of it? -has pictures of men naked or almost naked on his phone or computer, says its for business. -we dont have children and he rarely wanted to have sex with me.

My mother divorced her brother when I was a kid (they haven't spoken in 11 years) so can I divorce my sister?

I have really strong anxiety about marriage, even when it doesn't pertain to me. If I see or hear anything about marriage, I instantly feel anxious. I don't know why exactly. I have never seen or had a bad experience with marriage. I've never married. My parents have a great marriage. I have people tell me I could have a fear of marriage. How is the fear of marriage different than just anxiety? How can I tell if I just have normal anxiety or if I actually have a fear of marriage? I'm not afraid of commitment. I can maintain a stable committed realtionship, I just can't tie the knot.

I live in MD, currently however I rent a house for 700$ a month, I have been offered a house in WV by my father as a rent-to-own for $300 a month. I want to relocate for a fresh start and to be closer to him, I can also transfer my job so a job there is no problem. I have sole physical and legal custody of my son. My question is, do I NEED to tell his father before I move? Is there a certain amount of notice the state requires? We dont have court ordered anything we made a plan through mediation however our plan basically says he can see our son whenever he wants BUT i say when he can, how long he can, who can be around our son during visitation, where they can visit at, and who is allowed to drive him around during said visit

So i posted earlier. But I just need some more thoughts on this. Im 25, Im in the military and i get out in 90 days. About a week ago I found my wife is having my baby. We've been happily married for the past 4 years. I joined the military to support us and give us a better life. I care for this woman and would die for her. So anyways. We had a fight one night she told me that she doesnt feel the same for me and that ive changed and Im more like a friend. Well later that night she said Im sorry and and she didnt mean those hurtful words. So I forgave her. Then for about a day I was thinking how much she hasnt been with me anymore. I go to movies by myself eat by mself. And go to some stores as well by myself. She never wants to leave or do anything with me. She even quit helping with dinner most nights. I thought to myself that she could be somone else. So I just ended up brushing it off. Well 4 days ago she was in the shower while I was just sitting on the bed. She got a call and I tried answering it, and I missed the call. Then she got a text it was from another guy. So I scrolled through the text going back to the begging of Augs. Talking about where he lives and how there **** buddies. Then on top of all this she had text from another guy as well. Saying how much she misses his face. I really just dont know what to do l mean if this is my baby I cant leave that child without a father I dont what to do how to tell her that I know everything. Dont no what to do with my life

Long story, basically we're both 24 and we've known each other for about 12 years. Started dating at 14, broke up a few times in between but always maintained a very close relationship. The reasons we broke up were pretty serious, we've both had issues with addiction, his being much worse, and he's had mental health issues. So basically, we've been through a LOT despite being young. We've finally officially gotten our crap together, we're clean, he's gotten the medication he needs. Things are good. He asked me to marry him and initially I said yes, but upon thinking about it said, why? Here's my reasoning: We're both bisexual, and I want to essentially go the "pre-marriage equality" gay couple route even though we're an opposite sex couple. Not because of our orientation, but for similar kind of defiant reasons. I don't feel like we're any less valid of a couple for having not married. We've obviously been through a hell of a lot and made it through, which is more than a lot of married couples. I feel like personally, it'd be hard to not put a label on marriage like "OK, now it's time to get serious", which I feel is insulting to our relationship history. We've always taken this seriously. Its just to me getting married, specifically in our case, feels like an insult. We don't need anyone else's approval. He says he understands this, respects my opinion and even agrees with it. I'm pretty sure he's a bit disappointed though. Is this really bad of me and should I give in?

I have really strong anxiety about marriage, even when it doesn't pertain to me. If I see or hear anything about marriage, I instantly feel anxious. I don't know why exactly. I have people tell me I could have a fear of marriage. How is the fear of marriage different than just anxiety? How can I tell if I just have normal anxiety or if I actually have a fear of marriage? That's the thing. I don't know why I'm anxious. My parents have a great marriage, I've never witnessed anyone get a divorce, and I've never had a negative experience myself. I have never been married. Anxiety and fear are not the same thing, I just don't know how to tell the difference between the two.

Recently a friend of mine was getting payback on me so he decided to text my husband by using a fake number and he was acting as if it was a girl and in that text he sends a naked picture of some hot model showing her breast ! & during all these messges my husband was texting (" wrong number don't text back") over and over he kept texting for her to stop texting and then when my friend texted " sorry I did have the wrong number delete the oucture pls" so my husband texted back " your very pretty be careful next time please don't text back" okay so as you guys know in reality my husband never was texting a girl it was my friend doing a prank on me that at the moment I thought was real cause I was there next to my husband in the living room ! Now when I asked my husband that I could've swore I saw him receive a picture he denied it and then that's when my friends calls and says ha it was all a prank jerk etc.. and we laugh and get mad over it with my friend anyways because he did tell that "fake girl " she was pretty and denied to me he got messages from someone does this mean he can do this in reality ? Like Idk it got me thinking we've been together 7 years no problems it's just curiosity

My wife's office recently moved out of town. Rather than ask her to relocate they would rather she telecommute to work. I am concerened that her staying home all day will be bad for our marriage. She is a social person and im. . . Not. I fear that after spending the whole day at home she will have so much energy that i wont ever get time to rest because shell want to run out to do things as soon as i get home (currently we spend most evenings in but she gets antsy if she spends too much time at the house). I fear she will want to go out and i wont which will build resentment on both sides. Amy adice is appreciated.

Ok so I'm not ready I don't have enough education wanted to lose weight first get a better job etc what do i do she is upset what do i do I just enrolled for school even though I'm 25

I feel like when this happens the governments, society or something targets the black male and child and people frown on the white woman for dating outside their race.

Or would that be the end of your relationship?

What to help me?

Back story: About 9 years ago my wife (gf then) went out and purchased a car and didn't ask for my help or opinion on it. That car turned out to be a money trap for her in the past few years. She was so insistent to get out from under that car until she decided she wanted a new car. She asked me, this time, to go along with her. She began chatting with a used car lot and told me they are offering her a nice deal on a used SUV, something she's always wanted since me, my brothers and sisters, and quite a few people we know have SUVs. She wants to ride up high. The car she had was a 2004 Kia Optima. The car the dealership was offering her was a 2003 Mazda Tribute. When she first told me I told her unless it's a classic car you never go backwards in time. But she was determined to get this car. The guy as the car lot was texting her everything that was wrong with the car and from what she was telling me I told her to stop texting him and just keep looking. No, she wanted that car. When I asked when she wanted to go to the lot to look at the car she said they only work by appointments. What used car place only deals in appointments? Most people are just riding around going from one lot to the next. It's not like she's buying a brand new Lamborghini. Ok, we go to the dealership Thurs, only 3 days after she had begun texting the guy. The car was a P.O.S. but she wanted it. It had a big rust spot on the rear quarter panel they said they'd fix but all they did was looks like they took some silver spray paint and painted it themselves. One fog light was busted out and the other one didn't work. Sunroof would hardly open and when you did get it open it would hardly close. It was missing a headrest in the back seat. The back glass was only being held in with one bolt. The arm rest is tearing apart. The rear passenger window wouldn't roll up. And to top it off the car had trouble cranking. You have to keep turning the key to get it to turn over. The interior was filthy and the engine was covered in dust and dirt. While out test driving it we almost got stranded several miles from the car lot because we couldn't get it started again. I told my wife not to buy this car. We finally get back to the dealership and we point out those things that need to be fixed before we'd consider this car. All the while my wife began signing papers. I told her not to sign another piece of paper unless they agreed to fix those things that needed to be fixed. They promised to fix certain things and asked us when we can pick up the car. I said Saturday and they said they don't work on Saturdays. What car lot isn't open on Sat? That's one of your busiest days of the week. We agreed to come by Fri afternoon and they agreed to fix those things. We go to the dealership Fri and some things were fixed whereas other major things weren't. The car still had the rust spot and it was still having trouble cranking. The agreed to fix those things and my wife went ahead and signed the papers and signed over her old car to them. I go on home while she's at the lot (not a dealership but an old Meinike muffler shop that had closed down) still signing papers. When she came home an hour or so later she tells me a light was blinking on her dashboard. It was the battery light. She said that they just put in a new battery and I told that that if the alternator isn't working right a new battery isn't going to mean a thing. Ok, since it was still having trouble cranking they sent a guy to our house saying the keys needed to be programmed to the car. I guess like mine she has the transponder chip in the key and it was somehow interfering with the passive alarm system which was preventing it from cranking. The guy came about 9 or so and he worked on the keys for a while but still couldn't get them to work so he had pulled some wires from under the steering column trying to bypass it. That still didn't help. Ok, Sat morning she tells me that they are going to come to the house and get the car because they were going to send it out to a body shop to fix the rust spot. she said that would only take a couple of house. I told her there's no way that rust spot could be fixed in 2 hours. It's gotta be sanded, bondo applied, dried, sanded again, primed, painted, and clear coated. I told her that's at least a 2 - 3 day job. Long story short, they called her later in the day to say that they car wouldn't be ready to Sunday. Sunday, she gets a call to say that it's still not ready. My wife finally gave me a pat on the back to say, "you were right about the body work taking longer than 2 hours." Today is Monday and she still doesn't have her car back. She just won't listen to me when I'm trying to give her advice. I've enclosed pics of the car and I told her to walk away from it but she didn't listen. Exterior: http://i1250.photobucket.com/albums/hh526/Pwebster/20160819_170441_1471701624705_zpswwitvmug.jpg http://i1250.photobucket.com/albums/hh526/Pwebster/20160819_170505_1471701596283_zpsyuzfxdpn.jpg Rust over rear quarter panel: http://i1250.photobucket.com/albums/hh526/Pwebster/20160819_170456_1471701624445_zpsu9fp5ezu.jpg Interior (they did throw in a cheap after market radio) http://i1250.photobucket.com/albums/hh526/Pwebster/20160819_170520_1471701596039_zpsnnau2yma.jpg Missing headrest in back seat: http://i1250.photobucket.com/albums/hh526/Pwebster/20160819_170524_1471701595866_zps3uqxi1le.jpg Busted fog light (Other one doesn't even work either): http://i1250.photobucket.com/albums/hh526/Pwebster/20160819_170619_1471701560643_zpszfqbxujz.jpg Torn up arm rest: http://i1250.photobucket.com/albums/hh526/Pwebster/20160819_170716_1471701560504_zpsi2bmnyc9.jpg Chrome piece missing from hood: http://i1250.photobucket.com/albums/hh526/Pwebster/20160819_170611_1471701560748_zpsk6g6wcu5.jpg Dirty engine: http://i1250.photobucket.com/albums/hh526/Pwebster/20160819_170749_1471701560258_zps54rw22ra.jpg Again, these are just a few of the things wrong with this vehicle. They did fix a few items but the major things still need work on. She won't listen to me but I know her. She's going to expect me to help her out with the maintenance on this car even I told her to walk away from it. I do not feel I should. Why does she ask for my help and advice when she rarely ever takes it? Sorry for the length but some things can't be explained in one paragraph.

I had a one night stand during a business trip 15 years ago. We were still newlyweds and I was still adjusting to being married. It happened a few more times before I settled into married life and being a mom to three children. Yesterday was our anniversary, and during some teasing pillow talk, my husband asked if I ever "got a little on the side" since we've been married. He didn't seem serious, but it confused me anyway. I turned the question around on him and he said he had not. I said me either and that was the end of it. Now I feel worse about lying about the one night stands than actually doing them. Should I come clean about my "little on the side" and the cover-up lie last night? So confused. I've definitely outgrown that behavior. Precautions and testing were taken.

I ve been married for a year and my husband controls all of the money. We ve been together for 5 years and this has always been the case. He won t share the bills, he won t even let me look at the bank account it really bothers me. In the past year I now have an allowance that I control every two weeks. Will this get better? How can I get him to share it more or should I just forget it. I do have a degree in accounting, so I know how to handle money and I don t overspend. Is this a form of control? Any advice would be helpful.

long story short, past has been filled with drug abuse on his part. he has been financially emotionally abusive most of the relationship. Now this past year he has a change of heart. No longer abuses me and is making a real effort to get off of drugs. He wants to make things up to me for all the years of bull crap. I love him, but I am so over it and scared that its really not over. Leaving seems to make so much sense, but I can't. He is doing better currently

Of what it happens to him.. He is took into marriage by being manipulated..without being able to discover the ..organized lies..as is not fbi at his home,let s say ..etc