I feel my wife and son don't have that respect to me. Not asking to be treated like a long. They don't bad mouth me. Is the the aspect of when things need to be done or when I comment is like i didn't say anything etc.

So he was abused as a child emotionally and physically by his father and I don't know how to help him. He has nervous shakes, night terrors, and he barely ever has time to work on his job. His boss is a good friend from church and he is trying to work with him but I fear that he will lose his job soon. I was forced to explain to his boss when he fell and hit his head and got a severe concussion. He then had to go to the hospital because he was mixing pain pills with alcohol and its just been a roller coaster. He is 23 and I am 21 we've been married for two years but I just don't know what to do. I love him but he has really pushed me I've already talked to the Bishop at our ward as well as his family about it but I just can't come up with what to say to the man I married for all the pain he has caused me... He just drinks and drinks and I need to know what to tell him so that I can have the man I fell in love with back. So I packed up my bags and told him I was going to my parents for a week to reevaluate things.... As I was walking out the door he started to cry and said don't leave I don't want to be alone....he then said that he'd get help but he doesn't want to go to a rehab facility for his drug and alcoholism. While I held him I couldn't help but think how overwhelmed I am... Should he go to a group or does he need to go to a clinic?

Hello, my husband currently pays child support for his son. He pays 430 a month and he is currently behind 4 months. Due to the income calculation. Originally, he was going into the military and the payment calculation is based on the military pay and the cost of his sons day care. His son is now in Pre school. Turns out the Airforce screwed him and a week before his ship date, they told him there was a mistake and they weren't taking him. What kind of **** is that! Anywho, he is stuck paying that and isn't making that. He recently had a second child (with me) and money is TIGHT, If I decide to go back to work her day care is going to cost me $900 a month itself, than I have my car loan 300 car insurance 200 and student loan 400 , approx 130 a month on for formula, and $80 a month for diapers. Leaving me with 200 to save. My biggest worry is if we go back to court to get the child support resettled - they will try to take it out of my paycheck which is NOT okay because that means I have to take away from MY BLOOD , MY DAUGHTER. At this point I'm considering divorcing my husband for my daughters sake. I need advice desperately. ALSO, please don't tell me it's my fault for having a child with a loser. We did not know the Military was not going to work out for whatever reason. Advice please

We have been together for almost 3 years. He had to move last year because of his job, and after that he changed a lot. He would rarely have time for me and all he would say is ''im busy''. He was just working 8 hours at a store, nothing else. It got to a point we would talk once a month and text once a week. He lost his job eventually, but he still continued not contacting me much, i would text him and he would read it after days and no calls. Even though he literally does nothing all day now besides going out with friends(we have common friends). He was also supposed to visit me in July and he never did that. I am going through a lot and my life is not as easy as his. I talked to him many times about us, he would always say he misses me and wants us to fix this and be together. Yet, no change. I told him last week that we need to do something about this or i will walk away. He agreed. And as usual, he was nowhere to be found. So i texted him that I am done. He read it 24 hours later(!) and never replied. It has been 4 days now. I deleted him from fb and skype today as i got mad with him not even saying anything. Was i wrong for breaking up? Could there be another explanation for his attitude? His lack of reply hurts, it makes me feel like i was nothing to him and that he lied when he said he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Sorry for my english, its not my native language He would always ask me to visit him and ask me to go live with him there, even though he knows i have financial issues(he may have been fired but his parents have money and they help him, i have no one) and i have some serious health issues as of recently that i need to resolve and sick family i need to take care of. I cant just run off to another country like that

What would you do? I grew up in the same neighborhood as my husband and my mother was violently abusivee to me (hitting me, slapping me, choking me) and called me names all the time growing up. To the neighbors, she always put on this very charming personality though. I think he thinks she's the person she pretends to be, and it really, really pisses me off. He tells me I am lying about what I experienced growing up with her.

I don't know what you call it, but when an acquientence invites you to their marriage ceremony thing, do you HAVE TO GO? It's not my best friend or my family. It is someone I knew though.. I feel like I'm gonna do nothing there if I go... nor will i know anybody. I've never been to one before, so I don't know what it's like. I'm 22 years old.

only 5 months after the engagement?

Come on guys, you people aren't being honest 😮😮😮

I was with someone for 4 years lived together life wasn t always good. One day I got fed up and left him after he stayed out all night drunk and never came home. We split for a few months then moved back in together. Got engaged a few months later and had a baby. I find out when my daughter is a little over a year that he cheated on me before our first split and a few weeks prior, basically never stopped. We just got back together after a year and half split, he got back with the girl he cheated on me with for all those years, and had a baby. Now they split we are back together and I just want our relationship to be OK. He has don t everything I could ever need to prove he will be faithful. But now i have their baby half the time that I raise as my own and have a really hard time letting it all go. How do I just put it past me? I just want to be happy with him, which I am most of the time. I seem to have issues on and off with feeling like he will just leave me for her one day. It s going to ruin our relationship and I don t want that.

I forgave my husband for cheating on me years ago, but it has recently occurred to me that I am just not attractive to him. I know for a fact that he's still cheating; otherwise, he wouldn't be lying about his overtime work hours and having a private Facebook account for "business purposes". And before you guys even dare to ask why I'm still with him, it's only because of our child, as raising her in a single parent household would yield adverse effects on her. Am I just not pretty enough for him? I feel ugly every time I think about the possibility of him still cheating on me. To add more, out sex life is nearly nonexistent. He has pulled away during our kisses on a few occasions. He rarely ever wants sex, which is rare for a man. Aren't these obvious signs of cheating? Why doesn't he think I'm pretty? He hasn't complimented me in years.

I had my last baby 2 years ago. My husband thought it was weird to have sex while I was pregnant. Which is what ever. Well after I had her, it's like he lost his sex drive. I'm not over weight I work out and I always try to make him want me. Well it's been a month since having sex and still nothing. I went and got a full wax down there and he didn't even care. I'll wear pretty much nothing to bed I'll try and touch him then he said he's tired. Wtf is going on. I know he's not cheating on me. We've been together for 8 years and married 4. I'm to the point I'm scared to even ask for sex...I don't think I deserve this. It's making me think about be with someone else.

I can't understand why women get so offended when you tell them you want a prenup. I guess it doesn't register in their minds that they have to give up most of their assets so they don't really care. Really who wants to lose almost everything they own? Why can't women understand that if they really care about their man that they would sign a prenup so most of his stuff doesn't get taken away?

Is it true have to pay child support forever if the baby is not mine.am divorcing my wife and the baby us not mine.my name isn't on birth certificate but during tax season since we were married we filed jointly and we put the baby as dependendent.my wife says she is gonna sue for child support and because we used him on our taxes

... so we can get married & have a family? but many people do this nowadays, how dare you insult people for their choices in life, no one is perfect. are you perfect yourself? let's say he can make her really happy, provide upper middle-class life for her.

My understanding of the law says that both parents have 50/50 Joint Custody of the child to maximize the time that the child spends with each parents. But another article says that is not what the new law says

This question is mostly aimed at men because marriage has more impact on them than females.

Why does he never leave hes wife? I know im a home wrecker, you dont have to comment about that.

Whenever I vacuum or do dishes, I feel angry at my husband and in a way, feel degraded. We share chores around the house, and we both also work. So I feel that things are pretty fair. However, whenever I start rinsing dishes and put them in the dishwasher, or even remove the dishes from the dishwasher and place them on the shelves, I feel like I might as well be June Cleaver and can feel a wave of anger course through me.

My wife has a younger cousin and OMG, she is SOOOOOOOO hot. I can't stop thinking about her. She is about 5'7", but wears high heels that make her look 6 feet tall, long black hair, wears lots of makeup, beautiful face - I mean, in all pictures she always looks so pretty. She also has a banging body. She is real flirty with me and I have lots of money. Would it be possible to have a realtionship with her and not get caught? I'd even throw a few hundred dollar bills her way!

I still want to romance my wife but I can count on 1 hand how many dates we went on last year. Do not have much family and she does not like leaving the kids. We struggle with romance and we have been married for 5 years. I need some advice. Thanks!

He doesn t know i have the receipt. He thinks someone may have seen him. I am familiar with the area. There are at least 5 machines in less than a half a mile radius and the hotel is located off the road in secluded area. Do you think he is cheating?

It's been over a decade since our divorce was finalized. We have two amazing kids, and that's all I can really say about our marriage. She's been remarried since 2009, and they even have a child together. You think that would have been enough to fixate her efforts elsewhere. Well, nope she lives in a place now where drama is her only entertainment. Plus, my ex-MIL is looney tunes. Well, last year, my son moved in with me after a huge court battle. Listen young newlyweds. Go spend 4 hours in a family court, and I'm pretty sure the countries divorce rate would drop out of pure fear. :) So, this event made her realize that she should be even more bitter, because the kids are consciously choosing to leave now. In June, the kids, my girlfriend, and her son went to the Disney World on our first vacation together. I proposed and so you'd think why would my ex care? It's been a decade now. Nope, now she's constantly making comments and is upset I've built my own small business, have my son, happily engaged, and moving far ahead of what she could possibly conceive. Even years ago she was so grossly overpaid for child support she bought a house with the money before the Attorney General caught the mistakes. What if anything could possibly just get an ex to let it go!? I mean we have had judges, mediators, and attorneys make it clear to her that the courts and my life is not hers to control. It's just insane to me she has a need to care so much!

My wife gets annoyed with me because i become arroused when ever we make out or when i see her naked (god, i love to watch that woman undress). She sleeps in the nude so i always become " excited" and she notices when i try to cuddle with her and she becomes annoyed. Should i not be attracted to my wife?

My husband told me today that it's not possible that I love him more than he loves me. I asked him why and he said "If you loved me more than I love you, it would be idolatry. Because thats how much I love you." So he's saying he almost idolizes me because he loves me so much. Does that mean he's obsessed?

After all it is. I even been called a woman hater because of it too. So strange.

I'm 23, Spanish, and just finished college in the states. While in college I got engaged to an American. I'm in the process of moving back to Europe for a year to finish my MA, and then I'll come back to the US to get married. After an idle question, my fiance realized I typically go topless on the beach back home. Essentially, because it is culturally normal there. I've changed my top on the beach since early teens, gone topless since I was an adult, and don't even own tops for some of my swimsuits. It isn't sexual. I'm actually a virgin fwiw (waiting for marriage). & meanwhile men stare less in europe at topless women than they do bikini women in the USA. It's just a cultural norm/difference. He's freaking out. More or less forbidding me to do it. Obsessed w/ other guys seeing me. On one hand it isn't a big deal I guess. On the other its like he's refusing to respect cultural differences, won't try to understand it isn't like he imagines, and trying to control me from acting "normal" at home. I'm really upset. I don't know if I should honor his wishes, refuse to, or somewhere in between. I don't even know what to say to him about it at this point because he refuses to imagine it as "normal" there (even though it is totally typical, even with older ladies! it isn't sexual at all!). Thornburg---part of me is worried about the same thing. another part of me says its not like this is a "big part of who i am". It isn't like going topless is a BIG deal to me. I do like the comfort, I do like the no tan lines, but its hardly essential to my identity. But at the same time his unwillingness to understand why its natural for me does show a cultural insensitivity at the same time, and part of me thinks even if it isnt a "big" deal to me, I still shouldnt budge. Thoughts? Jay and Caroline----fwiw he is coming with me for the first month (and its still summer), so he'll know one way or the other. I agree this might mean more, and that I should put my foot down. But then i worry maybe it doesnt. I mean its typical for american men to not want their wives seen, right? So is it maybe not culturally insensitve for me to go topless? (just playing devils advocate). Meanwhile, in his mind im showing strangers things he doesnt see (im a virgin remember). Still, im mad If I do insist not to give in, do I try to keep explaining even though he wont listen, or just take my top off at the beach when we go in a day or two and let him react then?

My wife wants some really rough sex tonight she wants me to punish her big time. How do I punish her ?

so one person is sleeping the other wants to chat it up with cats or self or the other person who is sleeping. how rude is that. and what would you do if you were the one trying to sleep?

My fiance and I have been together for 9 years and he proposed 4 years ago. We put off marriage because I wanted to get through school and because I wanted to make certain it was right this time (yes we have been engaged before). We started planning our wedding since the spring of this year and our date is set in october of 2016. He seemed excited and happy about it. Just now he is questioning the point of marriage, he thinks that it will ruin our relationship because of his previous marriage, and says that he only agreed to the wedding because that makes me happy. I am so confused! Is this just wedding jitters, cold feet, what? Also he is asking me what are we doing? Like, He isn t saying I m calling it off or we aren t doing it at all. I ve told him I want this next step in our relationship and said that we can t base ours on those that have failed. Help! I don t know what to think or say anymore

My wife shares children with her ex husband. I understand he has to see his kids I am NOT arguing this and am fine with it. I just don't want to be around the guy. It is because of the way he treated her while they were married (he was abusive towards her) and also because Ive caught him trying to flirt with her and passively mock me via text and I think the guy is a scumbag. She wants me to hang out with him at her kids birthdays and school events and stuff and I don't want to be around the guy because I think he's a POS and I don't trust him. Is this ok?

For example you marry someone who has kids and an ex. This person wants you to not only get along with their ex but also hang out with them during holidays, school events, sports events for the kids, certain lunches and dinners involving the kids etc. Would you want this to become your life and your future always having to be around the ex for everything or would you be happier starting fresh with a family with less baggage and obligations to be around someone whom your current spouse sued to sleep with?

I think my husband may be cheating on me again and I need to know if there is a way to get concrete proof by tracking his phone, and if so, how? I'm not trying to be dishonest or snoop, but he's cheated before and I know if I try to talk to him and ask for honest answers, he will just lie again. Any suggestions on apps please? I am desperate, and the apps i've found on Google play don't help because i'd need to gain access to his phone, but he keeps it locked. Short of following him when he leaves home, I am uncertain of what else to do. Thanks in advance.

My husband is 25 & I'm 23. He's financially irresponsible & NEVER listens to me. He buys a lot of expensive crap. He's spent over $2000 on multiple beats earphones. Recently, he panicked bc his job was letting people go. They weren't even considering firing him & I told him to relax until he knew something for sure & then look for a new job. He didn't listen & w/o telling me he ended our lease in a nice condo & crammed us into an ugly tiny apartment. He left ALL of our furniture in the condo bc he couldn't fit them thru the door. I was out of town & found out days later :(. He leased his first car against my wishes. We're not rich & I told him to buy a used car but he insisted he needed a new one. He just ended his lease & bought a brand new car! We cannot afford another new car. I'm pulling my hair out. I'm still buying new furniture bc of him. He earns about $84,000/yr & I earn 65,000/yr. He literally lives paycheck to paycheck & hes always borrowing money from me. He has more than 5 credit cards that he's paying off. Most of his money goes toward his own bills (electronics, credit, car)I love him but this is really causing a problem & idk what to do. We haven't slept together in months bc we always argue. We're practically roomates. He wasn't like this when we were broke college students. 😔

I have a lot of family issues with my dad and work. My wife is very loyal and cares for me. I think I just maybe stressed as everything else in my life has crashed. I don't want to bring this up to her and make me look weak. I think we kids we are unable to spend time with each other and that's what I miss. Anyone else feel this way?

I woke up this morning it was still dark and my husband told me he would help me get in shape. He wanted to wake up our 2 boys and run in the dark. I tried to hold my opinion in then I told him it was a bad idea. Then he told me I was just making excuses so I don't have to work up. We actually have a treadmill so I can run at home and keep the boys safe. He belittled me and made me feel like I wasn't motivated because I didn't want to workout in the dark with 2 little boys. So he skipped working out with me all together treated me like I was wrong. Lately I don't like him at all.

My Husband Found Out He Has 1 yr old Twins in may he didn't tell me til july because I told him I would not marry him so he hid the truth. I soon after found out his kids mother Disrespected both us about 14 times on social media. So I told my husband the kids are no longer welcome to my house and I want nothing to do with it. Overall I would not have married him if I known the truth. Never dated a guy with kids. WHAT Should I Do. I Want Him To See Them Just Not In My Home Ever. I Asked For a divorce and told him to live else where for his kids he said no I delivered our son in July he revealed the twins while I was in labor

We are married for 20 years. I found him chatting with other women few months ago. I asked him to stop, and he promised me he will stop. But I felt he didn't stop and still chatting with them. Till last month he told me we have to move to other country because of his job. I was curious why he said this and last week I found one woman's photos in his phone and she was inviting him to meet her in the country that my husband told me we have to move there for work. I showed him the photos and he started swearing these women don't leave him alone. I know he is lying. I want to know what should I do now? Please tell me your opinions and suggestions.

I been with my wife for 20 years.We both been though a lot, I was only 18 when we met I was young and dumb.She was young also 21.She abused me mentally and physically in the past I abused her going out with my friends all the time.But know I m 38 and she is 41 she is a Christen and I m studying to be one. I love her unconditionally but she said she loves me but not like that.She never had my last name she was the bread winner for 18 years.Know she is disabled and in a wheelchair she has congested heart failer. I m now a humble man and now serving God but not a Christen yet.She is a good mother but her anger can get out of control.I try to be the best man possible buy cleaning her from time to time.Changer her when needed.My biggest thing that she keeps things from me I just read "Why did my wife leave" a history I guess she searched it.Today she said tomorrow not promised to us,she said that she wanted a devoice twice.I pay everyday to my Heavenly Father to Streathen me,give me guidance,give me integrity,put she said she loving the man I ve be come.She wants to move right now to a different state I don t have the money right now I know it gets to her but I m trying,I fear that she will leave me she said she want but she said she does this that s best for our family.I have 3 Kids they all live with me 23,19,7.She tells them things before she tells me.What should I do?