When I was younger I used to get spanked. I never understood why I would get them but they came and left leaving me with scars and a new understanding emerged that was who I was would not be accepted in this society. So I grasped at anything that could give me an identity since I couldn t be who i wanted to be I couldn t do what I wanted to do. I still believe that to this day. Just the other day my dad walked into my room to remind me that I haven t really done anything. He made me say it because the changes I have made are not visible to a observer. Which underminded my changes I made. When there is an argument in the house I would leave the situation yet even when it had nothing to do with me my dad would say : "Why are you running away?" or You should stay. This would happen when I had an argument with my dad...I cannot think around him. My mind comes to a blank.... then he would say in a round about way of: "But then that means I am telling the truth". Like he is always right and I am always wrong. If I talked back and said something that made him wrong he would just say "Your talking back" like saying : "in this household my word is law; you have no power here". I cannot speak my mind of know what actually happened. I want to know what did I do wrong how can we work this out as equals but it seems to never work out this way... It s like he is god and i am a peon... How do I deal with this or should I just leave the house?

I'm 14, and my sister is 8. She often wants me to scratch her back while I'm sitting down and watching TV. She'll sit in front of me on the recliner chair and have me scratch her back and play with her hair. I remember when I was 9 and she was 3, I used to pick her up, cuddle her, and tickle her back all the time because she was so cute. But now, 5 years later, she's wanting me to do all that again.

My grandfather died yesterday, which was the time time anyone in my family, that i knew, died. (I'm 15) I didn't cry much since he was suffering & in pain, it was his time. But today my family went to arrange the funeral at the graveyard where my grandpa's parents were buried, so he could be buried with them. When we were there, they opened up the huge grave where his parents caskets were, but they weren't intact. There were skeletons in there, dusty skeletons still dressed in clothes and it was the first time I've ever seen something like that. It really shook me. And tomorrow is supposed to be an open casket for my grandfather but all of this is making me so terrified and uncomfortable. It's just so much death to see all at once. I'm so scared and i don't want to go back there to the graveyard. I just want to stay at home and get as far away as possible from all the death.

im 18, my gf is 17. She lives with her dad, who is an alcoholic and piece of sh*t. she found out shes pregnant last week. She told her dad and she told me he didnt take it well, she got thrown out and she slept round my house, but now she wants to go back. I told her, forget about him and she can live with me. I live with just my older bro anyway, and there is room for her here.. but for some reason she wants to go back to her dad even when he treats her like ****, and i bet he also hits her (even though she denies in)... a baby isnt a bad thing anyway, i know im gonna spend the rest of my life with her anyway because i love her loads. My bro is partime drug dealer, i know thats bad but he gets a lot of money to support us, especially cause im at college to, so my gf can live with me and we have money to raise a baby. It breaks my heart when i see my gf becuase she puts on a happy face but i can see the pain in her eyes. why cant she just live with me, f*ck her dad let him drink himself to death. Shes so beautiful and amazing she doesnt deserve to spend a second longer living with him. I want her to see what im seeing, that its for the best. What can i do to convince her, whenever i talk to her about it she gets super emotionally, and i hate seeing her sad. any advice plz..

She also constantly tells me my tone is bratty. I honestly just think it's the way I talk, I don't see what she means. I don't talk very often and I'm very quiet, she's extremely loud and annoying and extroverted, but I still love her and try not to get annoyed with her. She is CONSTANTLY annoyed by me and I literally do nothing. I end up just sitting in my room all day/am out of the house and don't even go near her/want to talk to her because of the way she treats me. What should I say to her?

I'm grown and live on my own. I'm on disability because I have an illness. It's getting better. But I get part-time jobs and don't stay on them and my family gets really mad at me. The jobs I was getting wasn't enough for me to live on my own. So I'm going after higher paying jobs now. Everyone gets really angry with me when I leave a job. I'm tired of hearing it. I was thinking that I should only work if I make enough to live on my own so I won't have to answer to anyone. And keep it a secret from every one that I work. My parents expect to see me every day when I am not working. How can I break away?

ago that she has gone through alot and I shouldn't complain even though I have gone through the same as what happened to her, which is abuse how do I get over this, it won't stop any time soon ?

My beautiful an loving grandmother passed away last week and her funeral is next week, but I'm in the US and she lives in Turkey (about 30 hour flight away). I'm currently in the middle of my junior year of high school. My mother will definately go, and I really want to, but if I do, I'll be gone for 3 weeks from school. Being my junior year in all AP classes, I don't know if I can manage to go or not. I will be missing 21 days, and as I've asked my teachers of what homework I'll miss it's basically a absolutely unfathomable flurry of tests, quizzes, and assignments and lessons. I want to go to my hrandmother's funeral and pay my respects, but the amount of school I'll miss in my most important year of high school makes me very torn to go. What should I do, Please no mean comments, it's a really sensitive and serious topic for me

I'll never be as good as my older brother who is 2 years older than me. He gets impeccable grades from school, he reads ahead, he never gets into trouble, he never swears, he never does anything bad. I'm always trouble, I'm always being lectured by my parents for something I did wrong. I can't help it, I keep screwing up. Should I just save everyone the pain and leave?

I m over at my relatives house and I live very far away. (3 hrs minimum) My relative just went through a nasty divorce and their partner used to smoke a lot and in front of everybody. I believe that from stress my relative has started to smoke in secret, especially due to the passing of some family members. They go outside for a "walk" and say work is calling, (which is funny cause they work at a retail store in the mall) and they come back smelling like smoke and try to cover up the smell really quickly by taking a shower or something. I am sure they are smoking even though I have never found a cigarette or lighter. I want to figure out a way to catch them on one of these walks, but I can figure out how to do that myself. What I m really asking is, how should I do it? I m not going by myself, probably gonna bring my sister with me. Do you guys think this is ethical?

In 20 years, my parents will want to stay with me, because they'll be too old to provide for themselves. They made me go to a boarding school, and a summer camp so they didn't have to see me. Should I return the favor?

I need to write 300 lines for ignoring curfew and getting drunk and not wearing a coat. I need to get all of those lines done before dinner or else I'll be receiving more punishment. I don't think I should have to write lines when I'm sick. Someone please say something that will convince my super strict, mean older brother because I'll be shoving this page into his face. Just because he's 7 years older than me doesn't mean he get to act like he's dad or something.

me &my sister were trying to convince my dad to drive us into the city to hunt pokemon & get some food like a pizza resturant. but he was being a whiny baby. sayin hes tired from work, said we'll have to go to nearby park for pokemon &eat pizza from the freezer instead. hes acting like hes been working 24 hours straight. he wasnt. he went to work yesterday at like midnight. he came back 2day at 11am. then he slept right through til about 5. thats only like 11 hours work. anyways we was annoyed so my sister called him a d!ck. he got all outraged cuz apparantly we're spoiled and rude.said some kids dont even have pokemon or pizzas. that some kids & adults have nothing. this spiel of his is nothing new to me but it was 2 my sister. then he forced us to watch a documentary about ukranian disabled kids who get dumped at orphanges by parents who dont want them. and some had no legs and hands and stuff and my sister cried. and he was so cruel to my sister. said ''look that boy cant even hold a iphone to play pokemon go. i wish i was joking about him making us watch this documnetary but im not. he threatened us with violence if we moved to go do something fun. even yelled at me for going on my phone to catch a haunter pokemon. then he saw a doc on youtube suggestions about poor kids in the uk and made us watch that too. this was like 2 hours of my evening wasted on these tales of woe. and hes full of crap cuz hes got a good life too i want him arrested for emotional abuse hes made me watch stuff like this before and i learn something and feel bad but then dont care like 20 minutes later so whats the point? i mean im sad for them but i fortunately have a dad who works and pays for my stuff. so i should enjoy it and not feel bad. like in that uk documentary. it was all poverty of their own making. like a woman who had 3 kids with diff dads and no job and couldnt get a job for herself with young kids to take care of. then she was spending her government money unwisely. like on fake nails and fast food and cigarettes. if u think about it, poor people in western countries live like kings compared to the past. free houses and money and schools and medical treatment in uk for the poor. also they have electricty, running water. theyre just whiners

Since the time I was very young like 5 or 6 my mom had a habit of wearing short shorts alot, basically any day when the weather wasn't particularly cold, or when she was just staying at home that day she would sometimes wear just a t-shirt over her underwear. i dont know if this is normal but as a kid i enjoyed looking at her legs. i found that in the mornings i would look forward to seeing what she wore that day, and would be happy when she wore shorts (or no pants at all) and dissapointed when she chose to wear long pants. Seeing her legs on display had such a powerful effect on me that I would look for excuses to stay home on those days instead of hanging with my friends. Anyway, all this was a long time ago. Around the time I was in my mid-teens she started dressing more modestly but it has always bugged me. Is it normal that when I was young, I felt feelings of attraction toward a family member? Tim: I never asked if you think it was creepy you weirdo. And of course it exists among humans.I'm proof of that. What do you know about humans anyway? Never submit: Thanks, also I think it has to do with the fact that she was getting older, and older people tend to dress more modestly in most cases

I'm 29 years old and last night I heard my parents arguing and I heard him say that my mom isn't good in bed. My mom is sick and has arthritis and he knows this. Now I really don't want to be bothered with my father too much anymore.

I'm concerned about my kid sister. She's 14 and obviously going through being a teenager, but she releases stress in weird ways. I've seen herself punch herself, hard enough to leave bruises. She punches walls to make her knuckles bleed. She picks fights with bigger kids at school just to get beaten up. I can't tell our parents or else I don't get to be her confidante anymore. It's important that she has at least me to go to after she's done being destructive.

I'm 15 and I'm responsible for watching my 3 year old brother a couple days a week. He is seriously a holy terror for me and doesn't listen and uses bad words and it's just bad. My grandma told me she thinks it's because he doesn't get enough attention from my parents which make sense. They're always at work and when they get home they're on their phones and let his run free. How can I address the attention problem with them the correct way? Thanks!

I am a 16 year old guy and my aunt is 38 years old and mom of 3 kids.Her husband(my uncle) died 3 years ago in a road accident. She once told me that i look like her husband which i do. Not only look like him but also my way of walking, way of talking everything lookks lile him. Well she always kiss my hand when i meet to her. Now i am in love with her. And i wanna propkse her. I know it s bad but i wanna do it.-. How should i tell her that i love her without letting her tell my parents? One more thing am i good enough to fulfill her sexual requirements?

I'm sick right now. I caught a cold. Plus a huge headache. And I still have alcohol in my system and I'm aching all over. I know what I did last night was wrong, but my brother doesn't have to be so mean about it. He doesn't have to act like my dad. He's only 7 years older than me. He enjoys being the authority. I woke up around noon, he forced medicine into me. He gave me this huge lecture and left me in my room with lines to write. I will keep curfew x100, I will not consume alcohol x100, I will wear a coat at night x100. I ******* hate him. I'm sick and he's just wants to rub it in. Advice? I don't like YA. You're all so mean. You guys probably are on my brother's side. I'm 15, I'm not old enough to drink, I'm not old enough to get my own place although I'd like to. I just made a mistake last night. I don't need to suffer like this. But I'm sick. He could just do it after I get over this horrible day. I'm tired I'm not going to do the lines I'm getting some sleep and you guys give terrible advice. YES I KNOW IM BEING A HORRIBLE KID AND EVERYTHING AND I KNOW I DESERVE MORE THAN 300 LINES BUT I JUST DONT FEEL LIKE DOING THEM NOW. AND MY BROTHER TOLD ME THAT HE WOULD GIVE ME MORE PUNISHMENT IF I DIDNT GET THEM DONE BEFORE DINNER. HE DOESN'T LISTEN TO REASON. I DON'T LIKE LIFE. LIFE IS HORRIBLE.

Recently since my co worker I was really close to died, I've become really close with her sister. We have bonded over the loss and often tell each other stories of her, fun times we had and share old pictures. I'm just wondering but why does she randomly message me old stories of her? Or dreams she had of her sister (my co worker)? I don't have a problem with it at all, I'm just wondering because I never seemed to understand why she chooses to tell me

This sounds probably crazy questioning this. There is a reason. Can two blue eyed parents have a child with green eyes? I was told the odds are about none. That it means the father isn't biological. I have always wondered about my father and I have always wondered why I am treated like garbage in my family. I am like the black sheep. My father treats me so bad even in my adult years. There has been no relationship, no connection at all when I strived for it all my life. Keeps me from my own mother. He only gives me emotionaly abuse. When I was a child it was more than just verbal abuse. I was always asked as a child by other kids if I was adopted, but I disregarded it thinking they were just poking fun at me. Now that I am older I am starting to realize a lot of differences and mysteries to pieces of my life that just seem to not add up. Just holes to history that are blank. This is def. not a question I could ever come to them and ask if he is not my father would be a bad idea. So what is the best way to go about searching for answers?

My sister and I don't get along because we are polar opposites. Where as im real and tell it like it is, she is fake and "tells it like it is" but more so she makes people feel crappy about themselves. She also doesn't like me being me. I wear band shirts and flannels most of the time and she constantly knocks it down. Im just confused and need any kind of advice with dealing with this

My daughter is going to start college in 2 weeks. The college is 100 miles away. She will be sharing an apartment with 3 other girls. She ask me how I thought she should get around and go the grocery store and other places as there is no public transportation where she is staying. I ask her if any of the other girls at the apartment had a car and she checked and none did. They told her they will use a bike to get around. She wanted me to buy her a bike. I told her with the high cost of tuition, books, and her apartment, it might be a used bike. She visited my dad and mom last weekend and she talked to them about the problem she would have getting around at college and that I planned to buy her a bike. My dad told her that he used to be an ambulance drive and he had picked up MANY people that had be hit on their bike by a car. He said the bike driver ALWAYS got the worst injuries in a car bike accident. He was going to get her something safer than a bike to use a college. He then took her to a car dealer and bought her a new Kia Soul so she would be safe. She thinks she has the greatest grandpa in the world now. I am not sure how I feel about this. Dad did not buy me a new car when I went to college. Is dad trying to make me look bad to my daughter because I could not afford to buy her any car let alone a new one or his he concerned about her safety on a bike. How should I feel about what my dad did?

Recently, I've noticed that my sister's fiance is very rough with my teenage nephew, he slaps him around, pushes him, shouts cruel things and him, and I've seen him grab him by the neck a couple times. I am a huge advocate for parent rights in raising their children to a certain degree. I also am strongly against leaving a mark on your child, teenager or not. I know discipline is a shaky area but I find that although he does "discipline him" when my sister is around, it's not as rough and violent as when she isn't there. Or when he's not expecting me to be there. I don't want to over-step and "make" a problem with accusations and, but I feel like the way things are is already a problem. What should I do? and how should I address it?

I am the second of six children, and I am married in a stable relationship.

I, my husband, and baby live with my father. It is mutually beneficial. I am trying to finish school, my husband works, however, my father does not have a job and hasn t in nearly a year. I do all of the cooking, cleaning, and childcare while my husband pays the bills. The only thing we wish is to get my dad to smoke outside. The house reeks and we dislike going inside. It s like a heavy cloud. I m also afraid of how it affects my child. What is a good way to bring it up? I know he won t quit and I m sure he will try to bring up that it s his house (which it is however, he s not taking care of it or paying anything for it family is) I don t want him to get defensive but it s frustrating for all of us. I appreciate any help with this.

I stayed back for a party on the other side of the family with my cousin's. My mother was bugged but not enraged like I though she'd be.

My son just finished his first year of college and he got a summer job near the school. He's staying with his girlfriend in her apartment (she's 2 years older than he is). He never calls me or his dad. Every time I try to call him, it goes to voicemail. I sent a text threatening to stop paying his phone bill and he told me he doesn't care if I do because he has a job. The few times my phone calls have been answered, it's his girlfriend who's answering and he never wants to come to the phone. I sent a text yesterday asking him why he never answers and he said because he doesn't want to talk to me and he's busy. What do I do?

My wife attended a seminar on child abuse, and has been in somewhat of a mood ever since. She finally explained to me why. Her mother used to fondle her cleavage area when she started developing. For some reason I still don't quite understand, she had to share a bed with her mom for years. Her dad refused to share a bed with her, so he slept in what was my wife's room. She explained that she grew up poor and moved around from apartment to apartment every year. We have two children together. She is a great mother. Very overprotective and a bit naggy at times. Her mother passed away shortly before Thanksgiving 2015. I'd never met her, but we found out about it through social media. My wife's aunt had posted about it. Apparently, she had been very ill. My wife has been having a hard time dealing with it. She has gotten some help, but I feel like this seminar stirred the pot again, so to speak. I know my wife went to see our Priest. She didn't say what they spoke about--nor is it any of my business really. Although she hasn't show any signs of anything (other than a case of mild depression), I don't know whether this is something to be concerned about or not, nor do I know much about abuse either. Our children are still very young yet. Do child abuse victims go on to have the same tendencies? What about if their abuser was a parent? Before anyone asks, no I didn't know about it beforehand. A good friend of ours, who is also a Psychologist, says is a repressed memory that had resurfaced sometime around learning about the passing of her mother.

It hurts my feelings because it makes me wonder if she is right. He sees me once a month (lives 3 hours away) but my mother tells people "he has no relationship with his father".

The police think he's part of a local gang, but it's not true! He got in trouble with them a long time ago, but he was never part of their gang and he has nothing to do with what happened recently. Please help, no one believes me and I don't want him to go to jail again! What do I do?!

I only know her online, so there is a chance she is lying, but I don't think so. Her dad beats her and her mom yells at her constantly. Her siblings constantly tell her she is worthless. I don't want her to feel worthless, when she is depressed enough as it is. How can I help her?

Recently since my co worker I was really close to died, I've become really close with her sister. We have bonded over the loss and often tell each other stories of her, fun times we had and share old pictures. I'm just wondering but why does she randomly message me old stories of her? Or dreams she had of her sister (my co worker)? I don't have a problem with it at all, I'm just wondering because I never seemed to understand why

I'm male, single, and 26. Never had a girlfriend, not very social, no friends since I was 12! However I am happily content with who I am. I have a decent job and am going to school. Though like my younger siblings who are married and have kids my folks want me to settle down, start a family of my own, but they mostly just want grandchildren. But you see I really don't want to be hampered by such responsibilities as children or a commitment to anyone. For me I really want to travel more and learn more and experience the world. Sure that means being alone, but I've been alone for years. I'm used to it. Problem is my parents and every I know say I'm being selfish, arrogant for wanting to follow my aspirations. Right now I have an opportunity to see the world and I don't want to skimp on it. Are they right about me?

My mom will fuss for no reason like some times she will tell me things that are directed to make me feel stupid and dumb and then I respond with superior intelligence and my voice is always soft and respectful and then she will just explode and if the argument is in the car she will nearly reck it and then she starts calling me dissrespectful and will compare me to her other kids and say I was the worst one even tho I always do good in school and after I ask her "mom why are u screaming at me I m speaking very nicely" she just explodes and starts telling me to shut up at the top of her lungs. By then I m just trying to find out why she s mad so I ask mom can u tell me what I did wrong and then she just says drop it so I do because I don t want to get her mad . The. She will hop back on the subjects second later and start screaming again so I respond will supior intlegence and she freaks out again this dosent bother me and I don t cry over I just want to know why thanks

Im 20 and my mom constantly bugs me with questions like who i go out with, where i was going and ask why am i doing this and that. For example, yesterday, i went out with a guy friend of mine and she was like tormenting me with her never-ending questions. I mean like, duh im 20, i know what I was doing? Like she never went out with guys when she was young. And I make plans to travel with my girlfriends and she again seems like she isnt really fond of the idea of me travelling. But, hey im going with my friends and i wanna go explore the world? I dont wanna get stuck in the house forever. I just started my online business and she found out and again she is being skeptical about it. Like she doesnt trust me for doing a business. I am very upset about it. For me, she should have encouraged me. I got it, she is my mom and she has the right to know what i am doing. But sometimes, i feel like i am being suffocated and restricted to do things that are vital for me to grow and learn about life. Am i a bad child?

I spent some time with my father after my step mother passed away, I was hoping that I would be able to reconnect with him. I asked my father to let me know the exact date of my stepmother's funeral but he did not call me. My sister passed on the details to me. After the funeral I visited with my father a couple more times. Since my last visit it has been a year and a half since I last talked to him. Prior to my stepmother's passing away I almost always had to make contact with my father. He only came to my home one time in 10 years and would never called to ask to go out for lunch or to visit. My grandparents are the same way but at least they send me Christmas cards and birthday cards in the mail. Even when I was a child I would have to call them to see if I can stay with them on the weekends. When I visit them things go fine but I find I have to make the initial call. My wife moved here from overseas and still in four years my family has not seen my wife and we live in the same city. However on my mothers side of the family, they have been in contact with me and my wife. We have visited them a couple times on the other side of the country. It still bothers me though that I don't have a normal family like so many others. I feel like my fathers side of the family has given up on me.

She is a VERY competitive person. When I announced I was pregnant with my daughter over a year ago, I told her my due date. Two months later she announced her wedding ON MY DUE DATE. She then suggested that to my husband that I be induced to make it to her wedding or that my husband miss the birth of our child to go. My husband stayed but it was hard for him seeing the pictures of his little brother get married while in a hospital room with his child in the NICU. I had a really hard time with this and cut off all contact. Months later she lied to our In-Laws saying my husband didn't want tickets to an event so she could give them to her friend. I tired to get past this she is family and I thought by inviting her over and being nice it would help change things. Well, it didn't. She came over and talked about these grand plans to buy a big house, new furniture and a brand new Mazda 6. I questioned her about this while at my In-Laws because I thought I had seen her in a Mazda 6 and she said, "I NEVER said that!" She lied. It is super ackward when I see her at my in-laws because she is cold and distant but she'll always give me a gift which I never want to take. Like that will somehow make things better? She is also reading my FB and telling my In-Laws everything which is fine because I don't have anything to hide but why would she do this? What should I do? I just found out that she is having fertility issues so that is making things even worst... She is jealous I can have kids. I want so bad to delete her from FB. Should I?

I m 15 and my cousin is 12. Im a girl and I talk to a few lads, but I can t talk to any of them without getting teased from her. I think it s fine to tease someone about something like that but she takes it a step too far. She follows them on Instagram, adds them on snapchat and puts pics of me on her story with captions like "thinking of (name of lad)" She tags me in their photos on Instagram and comments on them when there s no need. Ive told her to take stuff off her story and things but she never does. Recently I started talking to one of my old guy friends and she knew that. So she added him on snapchat and snaps him a few times a day trying to start conversation. I can t talk to any lad now without her getting involved and it s starting to annoy me. And she only does it to lads I talk to! I talk to a load more girls but shes never once added any of them or anything. A couple of years ago she was trying to be like me and I completely understand that. When I was little I wanted to be like my older cousin too, but now I m finding it hard to talk to people without her interfering. Shes gone boy crazy and I can t have a conversation with her thats not about boys. I want to say something to her but I don t want to sound like a b****. Like is it mean if I tell her to stop talking to them? What do I do?

i have a 14 y/o brother also. my mother is an alcoholic AND has even driven drunk with me in the car (I was forced to go with her) so she could get more vodka. she s completely disregarded the fact that i have severe depression and am supposed to be on medication for it. she attempts to manipulate others, and has even told my step dad that i was sexually active when i haven t even talked to her about any of that. she makes up lies about everyone so she can cause drama. when she s drunk she says that she should just kill herself. i was wondering if there s a quick way to alter the custody so that i would permanently be staying with my dad? i have two weeks left with my dad and I d like to not have to go back to my moms due to the danger i feel about that situation.

My step daughter is 19 and lives with her mother in another state. She graduated from high school 2 years ago and has been farting around ever since. She did go to cosmetology school and got a certificate or something, but has not been able to find a job. Now she wants to go to community college, which I think is great, but I have some reservations. 1) She was supposed to call us and discuss all details months ago, but she is just now trying to get in for fall semester which starts in a few weeks, leaving us to scramble for money for her and her scrambling to get enrolled. 2) she has changed her mind 3 times since talking about going to college about her major. First it was culinary, then it was psychology, now she wants to get a degree in Spanish and be a teacher. 3) Her sister has told me that she parties a lot and her mom lets her and doesn't hold her accountable for anything. So, with all this is mind, you can see why I have reservations about paying for her school. And just so you know, we are paying for it and not her mom, because her mom paid for her sister's schooling. We invited her to come move out here with us and go to school, but she doesn't want to move away from her friends, and her mother who lets her do whatever she wants. My husband doesn't want to force her to move, so making that a stipulation for us paying for her college is out. My husband already told her that he olny pays for As and Bs, so mybe that'll be enough to ensure her success?

Hi, I'm 15 and I have a huge passion for science and technology. I spend my time reading and studying. From a young age I've been coming up with scientific theories and making plans for inventions. Yesterday I experienced lucid dreaming and sleep paralysis at the same time so I was open to talk about it with my parents. My dad said it was cool and supported the idea while my mom said it was stupid and that it's too early for someone like me to even talk about science. We had an argument because I felt she had no right to critique my passion for science. She said that it's stupid and that I haven't even finished school yet to actually even come up with these theories. I told her I wasn't an ordinary kid because I've spent my whole life reading books and studying but she just called be stupid and kept insulting me... am I in the wrong here? should I apologize to her for having an argument?

My son just turned 18 a couple weeks ago, and now he thinks he can do what he wants. He won't go to Church with the rest of the family anymore, he smokes weed, and doesn't care about the true morals of family. He spreads this liberal nonsense about freedom and equality. According to him, I'm a dictator for forcing him into a certain lifestyle. I'm not a dictator, I'm the parent telling the child what to do. Another thing that made me extremely embarrassed and mad was he refused to join in on the manual family fishing trip. He says it's a danger to the "innocence of aquatic life", and we should have no control on what they do. What he forgets is that nature should learn to accommodate mankind. I'm throwing my pothead son out unless someone helps me out here. Please?

She sold something on ebay, buyer complained not as described and sent her something else in return not what she sent. She was pissed off, searching for his name try to report him and realized his daughter just died not long ago. She then said "He's a scammer no wonder the daughter died for his own sins. I don't feel pitiful for this scammer" She's not religious lol. Friend is not religious at all. Just want her to realize what she said was mean while she's pissed off. She told me "You defend a scammer? They scammed me $240 and you feel pitiful for him losing his family? Hell no." Do you feel pitiful for the scammer or not? I don't agree but I want to be friend with her because other than that she's cool. We're best friends. I won't trade her for any friend.

I live with my wife and son and my parents live next door to us. At first I thought that it would be ideal, but nowadays it is just the kind of situation where my parents only want to see my son until he becomes hard to handle (he's only 18 months old). Anyway, about 5 days ago an old family friend of theirs (married) called my parents up, out of the blue, and asked if she could stay with them. She said no more than two weeks!!!!??? WTF!!!??? My parents are too darn generous. They said yes!!?? Everyday, when I leave my house or enter with my son or alone I have to see this lady. This lady that is freeloading off of my parents' generosity. She just pushes herself into every conversation. She won't stop touching my son and trying to hold him. She is truly overstaying her welcome. My father has health problems (kidney patient) and high blood pressure. His blood pressure is going up thanks to him not even being able to use his only bathroom while she is commandeering their entire upstairs. I am alienated to go visit my parents although they want to see my son. I can't take this lady anymore. I feel trapped because I am in my own house but I have the shades drawn and the door closed just to keep this unwanted houseguest from barging into my own house. What do I do? Please, what can I do?

My boyfriend always refuses to call me when he's around his baby mamas. We've been together for a year and a half now. He has two children by two different women in two different states, born the same year. When he goes out of town to see the kids (he stays at their house when visiting), he never calls when the moms are in the area. When it's just him and the kids, he blows my phone up and calls everytime. He even blows my phone up when he's right down the street from me. But when the moms are nearby, he pushes me aside. It is really irritating and hurtful. I've brought this up to him before and he got really mad. They're no secret to me but I feel I should never be a secret in a man's life no matter what the circumstance is. He says it's just co-parenting but he seems secretive when it comes to them and it makes me feel its NOT just about the kids. I expect the kids to be first in his life and me at least second, but it feels like I'm 4th or 5th. Any suggestions on dealing with this another way?

I'm a teen and I know this is completely normal, but I don't know how to deal with it. She always asks me to do things for her that would require the smallest amount of energy on her part, and it frustrates me to no end. In certain things, her understanding of "No, I don't want to" are sorely lacking. She'll do things I specifically asked her not to and think its funny. She's overly sensitive and gets offended easily, often at nothing but a joke. She wants to baby me, but I just want to be left alone. I feel like my privacy is constantly abused, with barging in and commanding me to do my next chore. I know I get upset easily for what would seem like no reason to her, but is just in fact her own prodding. I don't know how to deal with my anger. It's not healthy and I'm in a bad mood all the time. Help.

QHhhhh I hate my life when I'm with him! Mum has been having problems and infact they have been separated or 4 years but **** he's still living with us! He Hits me, shouts with me for nothing and he hates me! See this example: We went out and my aunt bought a small packet of gummy bears for everyone. I took 1 and before I even had a chance to put the 1 i took in my mouth he grabbed a handfull (the packet was just a handful) and ate them all! Then mu began shouting there's no left for me and my young cousins and he said- Its not my fault she took everything! I was just shoked and disgusted by what he said and started shouting like hell. Mum completely understood me and told him, she saw I took only 1 and he took a handful. The sad part is not that I only took one cos I'm not a baby, I'm 14 and I just Hate it when he does things to show me he doesn't love me! He hits me and I get red marks and He finds reasons to get storms. I easily get irritated so he does it on purpose. Example: Tell me I stink after using my deodorant and comes put his deodorant on me! I remember that day I got so disgusted by him I just stormed upstairs. We where going somewhere and I said I'm not going now what he done. Again, mum totally said I was right! She even said She's better without him I don't get why she haven't told him to go out of the house. Its her house anyways! She had bought it from the start! Well he had come upstairs and hit me cos I was not coming. Big Hit I mean. I Started crying and When my sister said I was right, cos he had started all this and done a wrong thing he hit me, she called his parents my grandma and grandpa. They where actually agreeing with him and not giving him the blame and ecusing us that we always fight with him!?!?! I just hate his family! I wanted to have a normal life, with a normal family and a normal dad! They fight everyday, every second, every chance they have together! Cos mum keeps saying its over and that she already decided but he doesn't wanna except and says- No No its not We Went to the beach and they started arguing with this same thing and I hated it! I was like- Mum, lets go home! And He told me- WE ARE TALKING! and I was like irritated so much! I don't give a **** him saying ******* nonsense plus while I am supposed to have fun! My mum too said she hated this time at the beach with him and better without him but qhhhh when will she divorce then??

I have twins and I also suffer with MS!:( I don't feel I can look after them properly!! I also don't think they know who their mother is (ME!) I really just Dnt know what to do because I can't pick them properly due to my ms! What can I do exactly?? I will be getting a maid soon but they have to know that I'm their mother! Please any advice will be helpful!! (I cry often btw!)

I m 17 and my foster parent kicked me out numerous of times since I turned 13 but this time I have no where to go cause nobody else wants anything to do with it anymore cause she has literally lost her mind from all the drug and alcohol abuse, I ve tried to talk my case worker once about getting me a new home but she didn t act like she cared about the situation and just did nothing give me the choice of going to the RYDC or either going back to stay with her I honestly think it was because they knew one other through marriage please help me

She makes me do everything in the house. And she keeps saying that I don't do anything. I have a younger brother (12) and a father who don't do anything around the house ffs. My mum had a rough childhood and every time I complain about something she would try to up me by telling some sad childhood story instead. Idk and she keeps telling me how privileged I am and how I am so ungrateful. At the same time, she's been making me handwash my clothes even though we have a functioning washing machine. And she keeps saying that I'm possessed bc I'm not very emotional in nature compared to my brother and my father who are huggers and who tell each other a lot of "I love yous". My mother doesn't even let me buy my own clothes, she buys them for me and (they're ugly) she says that I'm ungrateful for not wearing the clothes she buys me. My exams are near and today I refused to dry the clothes bc my brother was free, and she said that I'm selfish for not being able to spare a few minutes for my own mother. And I swear she's unhappy whenever my dad buys me stuff. She shouts at me and calls me useless a lot. She isn't like this with anyone else. She thinks I'm dumb and wasting time bc i read a lot of articles online instead of studying (even though my grades are fine). I feel like she thinks I'm trying to hurt her bc I'm not very affectionate. Is this possible?

Sorry folks but this is serious question.

Nobody's ever loved me. The boys at school tell me to hang myself. My dad thinks I'm a gang member and annorexic. The boys call me fat. I'm 6'2 & weight 142LBS I'm not annorexic idk why my body is the way it is. I'm about to eat a bag of Doritos I guess as a punishment. I fell in love with my cousin. She's the only person that was kind to me. She'd gush over me saying I was handsome cute sexy. Granted a group of girls at school asked for my number but they could never love me. I told her she was amazing and she was like you're amazing too and smart and I don't even believe that. Her mom is my dads sister. My dads family disowned me & don't believe I'm related to them. IDGAF if she's been in a toxic relationship for 6 years I wanna save her I need to. My moms family never invites me. I grew up with them & once I hit puberty they basically threw me out into the garbage. I'm beautiful but idk. My dad claims my mom & I ruin his life. I'm scared. I don't wanna die alone but I haven't left the hous since May. She's in a another country. Nobody visits calls or texts. I baked my moms fam cookies nobody said anything but they are all of it. I'm 17 she's 21. I think I deserve to go to prison cause I just ruin errything. I'm not good @ explaining but I astonish with my actions. I love her but I hate myself. I miss her, she's the closest thing I have to God. Nobodies ever asked how I was before her. My label wants me to send heat, what if I suck. My mgmt is on vacation. I'm lonely

I worry about this a lot. My mother is not a narcissist at all other then this one trait. If she is mad at someone she expects her grown kids to be also. She did this when we were little and alienated us from people she was mad at. Now I am an adult living on my own and she still gets agitated I see her siblings whom she is at odds with, this my Dad who always backs my mother gets agitated to. It makes me very nervous. I end up being driven away from my Mom who otherwise is very good. So how do I get over this and let this anxiety go? I worry the most about this when it is a big occasion like Christmas where lots of families are visiting and my mother gets mad I go see everyone instead of just her and the few relatives she has over Christmas Eve. She holds grudges so is at odds with some but maintains she has the right to be hurt (I disagree). @Ricky----It was school she was hurt at as her parents were good to her but classmates were not.