Traditionally, the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal dinner. Lets say that the grooms parents cannot afford to pay for the rehearsal dinner and the groom has everyone pay for their own meal. Would this be considered rude? Thank you for all the answers. My wife flew up to New York on Thursday for her brothers wedding. Yesterday was the rehearsal dinner. When she told me that she had to pay for her own meal, I was rather shocked. I asked her why she had to pay for her own meal. She said that her parents couldn't afford to pay for the dinner. Her brother actually paid for the parents meals, but everyone else had to pay for their own meal.

So I RSVP'd yes, but have been awfully sick these past few days (flu, deep cough, periods, drs appointments, blood tests for anaemia). Im feeling a bit better today & really want to go but am still not feeling the best, & im sure I'm still contagious. She's having it during the day as it's a Sunday, she lives far, and we all have work tomorrow... I just woke up (9am) and it starts at 12pm...i was hoping to get better by now so I can go, but I'm not feeling it. Should I go anyway? Is it more rude not to attend, or to attend while sick? If I shouldn't attend, how to I tell her I can't make it? I attended her engagement party & I'm still going to her wedding in 2 weeks, but I still hold each invite as important. Its at her house (she has a massive and gorgeous house), but I'm sure she's spent money to get things ready for her guests... I feel so rude.

My sister just got engaged!! I want to get her and her fiance an engagement gift, but I have no idea what to get. I want it to be really special!! Any ideas? I can probably spend no more than about $500, but any ideas appreciated!

So I m kind of seeing this guy and I want him to come to my cousins wedding with me. I know it would be rude to just bring a guy but recently my grandma became sick and won t be able to go so he could come in her place to the reception. Plus he would come later after the dinner and just be there for the party part. Is this okay or super rude?

I planned a bachelorette party a week before my sister's wedding & didn't realize both my sister & fiance didn't plan to have those, so it surprised her when a bunch of our friends came together & celebrated it forcing her basically. Her fiance didn't know & one of our friend took the phone away before shutting it. I really didn't plan for it to get out of hand & it came to the point where weed, booze and male strippers were involved. My sister didn't like the strippers grinding on her so after a few shots & puking on her attire, she borrowed my long tshirt and just crashed on my bed after using my phone to call her fiance to come pick her up. I was a little high after that time and most of us has crashed around the house when my sister's fiance came to pick her up looking worried,he found her sleeping on the bed with one of the male stripper. His yell was enough to stir the entire house & it woke my sister up who was horrified to see herself sleeping next to the stripper, she tried to explain that it wasn't what it look like but her fiance just stormed out of the house leaving my sister crying and cursing at me for doing this. He called off the wedding & broke it off with her, even when I tried my best to explain to him that my sister never did anything, he has packed his things and moved to his brother's house& my sister is now getting depressed after what happened and she has refused to talk to me or any of our friends and keeps trying to reach her man.How do I fix this?

My boyfriend wants to get me a promise ring for christmas and I do NOT want it. I know I sound petty but we will be together for almost 2 years and I am expecting a little more.. he leaves shortly after for the Navy and we have talked about getting married for awhile now.. we both want the same things in the end. However he plans to propse after bootcamp so I feel like it is pointless to get me a promise ring 10 weeks before he proposes. Not to mention before he enlisted he said promise rings were stupid. Now he says they arent because he didnt understand the meaning of them until he joined? How doni kindly decline the ring without being rude or is that just something you dont decline.

I plan on getting my girlfriend a promise ring, Probably something in the 100$ range...is that to low? Also we went and got her Finger sized, and she was an 8 1/2 and the man told us, that no matter where we went they would have to special order? So I m not sure what that meant...does any one recommend stores that they purchased a promise ring at?

We decided to do a Jack and Jill instead of a wedding shower, this has been planned for months, one of them told me a week ago they can't make it because work wouldn't give them the day off, but other one didn't tell me until I asked all of them together. When I questioned them on why they didn't request off the one girl responded that she did but got denied.. Now I am not mad at the one girl, she tried, she told me in advanced and she answered my question. But the other girl just ignored me and never responds. It hurts me because I only asked for 3 days: Jack and Jill Bachlorette and wedding.. And I'm getting blown off right off the bat. What should I do? I don't even care if they don't want to buy a certain type of shoe, or want to get thier hair or nails done, I don't care if they don't want to come over and help me make center pieces. I didn't even ask for help planning this thing/ get offered any help. I didn't care, all I wanted is support. And didn't even get that.. Instead I get ignored. To be clear I AM NOT THROWING THIS FOR MYSELF my mom and finances mom planned it with my maid of honor and bridesmaids. Jack and Jill parties are big in Canada, its not a traditional shower. no gifts are involved. you just bring yourself and play what you want to play. I told them i absolutely did not want a shower, so they planned this.