Family: Question: Parents taking "overprotective" to a whole new level - please help?

Question: Parents taking "overprotective" to a whole new level - please help?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 02:11 PM PDT

I know every parent will be protective and will spy on their kid to some degree, but mine have honestly always been ridiculous. They've always loved shoving their noses into everything I do, and make crazy assumptions if they don't know the whole story. I was very clumsy when I was younger, and when my mum saw bruises on me she instantly thought I was being bullied, ignoring when I told her I'd fell. In Nursery (our version of kindergarten, I guess) mum found a large bruise on my leg around the same time she found out I hung out with a boy (parents are Asian btw). At the time I didn't know but looking back I now see that my parents thought the boy raped me. They'd taken me to a doctor who told me to take my trousers down and poked and prodded between my legs... I hated hanging out with girls though so I stuck to guys, which started rumours. I told my parents about the rumours, but they totally disregarded the "rumours" part and went batshit crazy. Now I'm in an all-girls secondary school. I tell my parents as little as possible about stuff there, but the craziness hasn't stopped. When I got my phone my dad set up this stalker app thing (Microsoft Family) which lets him see exactly what I do at exactly when. I am not allowed on any social media at all, so when I found out about Microsoft Family I had to delete most of my apps, and I have to be very careful when I use Google. I have little privacy (but it's better than nothing, I guess...?), but if I tell my parents I'd like them to give me a little more and respect my personal space, they might blow up and go "WHY, WHAT ARE YOU HIDING?!" When she's angry with me my mum likes to brings up everything she hates about me, especially how she thinks I'm going to grow up to be a stripper who cuts herself (she thinks this of all alternative people, though I tell her it's not true) so they already think I'm hiding things... I have no idea what to do about them. Please, can anyone help me or give some advice?

Question: I hate my sister, Should I be feeling this way or am I just over reacting?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 01:49 PM PDT

I'm 14(male) and she's 12. My sister has constantly been a pain in the *** for YEARS! I always try to hang out with my friends and when I do she just tags along and I tell my mom she needs to get her own friends but she says this lame excuse all the time "you know she's shy" If she was shy she wouldnt want to be around my friends. Not only that but she is a snitch around my friends. she always gets on my computer when I'm not looking and look at my private stuff(not porn) but then goes and tells everyone my secrets. She has made my friends stop coming over to my house because they practically hate her as well! She always breaks my things and can never get her own because she isnt responsible. Whenever she gets chores or gets grounded she just doesnt do them and plays on my computer and ps4. When I tell her to get off of them she yells at me and says im selfish. Whenever it's summer and I get a job and she doesnt she just steals my money because the very next day buys something when she doesnt even get an allowance. There's more sh*t that she does but I dont want to make this any longer. Wtf do I do about her because sh just recently made my mom remove my youtube channel that I have been working on for 2 years (237,964 subs so yah I am PISSED) because she wanted to be in it and I said no. What do I do about her behavior. Our dad left us when she was in my mom and when I was 2. It hasnt been easy living with her obviously so pleaese help.

Question: What should i do if i am a 13 year old and my parents dont give me a room?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 01:29 PM PDT

I am a 13 year old boy and my 8 year old sister has a room with a study table yet i dont even have a room. My mother is too lazy to clean it up. What should I do?

Question: Strict parents?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 01:25 PM PDT

Basically I'm 19 years old and in March of this year me and my ex boyfriend broke up after 4 years, about 2 months after I started going out to nightclubs and having a few drinks which my parents were happy about because when I was with my ex we never went out and neither of us had drank any alcohol So basically about a month ago I told a slight lie to my mum, I went to my friends house and my mum had asked if we were going out and I said no but later on that night we decided that we would go out, but I didn't tell my mum, about 3 weeks ago she then found out that all this had happened and she basically grounded me and said I wasn't allowed out, 3 weeks on and I'm still not allowed to leave the house, if I go out with friends I have to be home for 9pm and just tonight I asked if I could go out with a boy that I've been meeting for 3 months and she said no but we could sit in the house all night. My mum has met him and he's 25 so the last thing he wants to do is sit in! Is it just me or is my mum taking everything a little too far? I'm not allowed to see my friends, my friends aren't even allowed to stay over at my house and I'm not allowed to leave the house unless it's with my mum or dad.

Question: Trouble with adult daughter?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 01:21 PM PDT

I desperately need advice. I have a 25 year old daughter and 2 children starting middle school. My daughter was an only child for 14 years. She just recently moved out and yes I am helping pay her way. Our relationship has been pretty bad for the past several years. She does not understand that I honestly don't have time to do things with her like I used to. I work more than 40 hours a week and have two smaller children with busy lives. She constantly starts arguments with one of her siblings and if I defend him, she loses her mind, starts crying, and tells me I don't love her and I don't act like her mom. We had another big blow out at her house last night. She wanted us to come and stay over (which I typically don't have time to do) but I did. She started arguing with her brother and when I jumped in she got very angry. I let her know that I am tired of this and she treats me like a girlfriend that she can create drama with, and I am her mom. She is now telling me that she is never going to speak to me again or visit. What do I do?

Question: I don't know if I want to do what I'm going to school for.?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 01:19 PM PDT

I went away to a university for political science and journalism and I honestly was doing it because I thought it would be a career that my family would be proud of. Once I realized that it wasn't something I wanted to do forever I let my parents know and they were really supportive. I have been diagnosed with severe depression and they told me they just want me to be happy. So I decided to go to culinary school, its close to home and it is something that I enjoy doing but again I can't actually see myself in this field. I've been saying that maybe I'll go into nutrition or dietetics but I'm really just saying that so that my parents will stop asking me what my plans are after school. I don't know how to tell them that I may not want to do this either. Honestly right now what I WANT to do is to be a part time yoga instructor and to work part time at a place like skyzone or a rock climbing gym, move out into my own place even if it's a tiny little studio, have a dog and be happy but I'm nervous because what if that's not what I want either once I have it. And I feel bad for having my parents pay for my classes when I don't even think it's what I want to do and now I'm just confused and I really need some good advice because I don't know what is going to actually make me happy.

Question: Is it rude to ask my parents for money?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 01:08 PM PDT

I'm 13 and my parents borrowed 650 dollars, would it be rude to ask for them to pay it back faster?

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Posted: 03 Aug 2016 12:59 PM PDT

Question: 4 YEAR OLD NEEDS DISCIPLINE!?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 12:56 PM PDT

I am a 16 year old sister to a 4 year old boy. My father and step mother aren t good at disciplining a child. They spoil him and he ends up taking advantage of their leniency. He is extremely selfish. He yells at my step mother and at certain poins he even hits or kicks her, but she does not seem to do anything in return to discipline him. Neither does my father. Today my sister sat and painted in her room with my brother. They were having fun and nothing was wrong, or so she thought. Suddenly, out of the blue, he screams like a mad person. So loud, I could hear it from my room whilst my door was shut. He threw a fit, and also a glass of water on my sister s bed. He demanded to have the paint for himself. He went to my step mother, screaming and crying. He told her that my sister kept the paint for herself, not letting him paint with her. My sister ended up taking the punch for it (not literally). He needs discipline. Sometimes I forget who s taking control between my parents, and my brother. He is posessive and loves to argue. When I said he screamed into my ister s face today, I don t mean he screamed like a regular toddler would when throwing a temper tantrum. I mean this child yelled like he was being attacked. I was told, by my sister, that it was silent and peaceful in the room when suddenly he just bursted out screaming. Literally screaming. Later he cried for attention. It s not the first time something like this happened. PLEASE, CAN SOMEONE GIVE ME ADVICE?

Question: Am I over reacting?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 12:30 PM PDT

My guinea pig died today. He died from electrocution or suffocating in wires. I've been crying on and off for almost right hours. This is the first pet I'd had that has died. My other guinea pig keeps calling out for him. Am I over reacting or is this normal?

Question: Is it wrong I am tired of helping my mother?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 12:23 PM PDT

My mother moved early this summer temporarily with my aunt because she had to move out of her house. She harassed the entire family for over a month in preparation for her move. We all pitched in (myself her sisters and all of our husbands) to help her move with our mouths pinched but all pissed. She just came back from a cruise and now she is moving again out of my aunts house and she is expecting me and her sisters and our husbands to help her move again. Mind you this summer, I also moved. She took care of my nephews(my brother's kids from another state), drove there to pick them up and drove back with my aunt because she HAD to help him(because he recently got dumped by his wife). She asked that we all pitch in to help her watch the boys. I watched them for 2-3 days my aunt watched them for 2-3 days she had them for about a week. She just got back from a cruise with her siblings this past weekend and now she wants us to help her move again. I'm really tired of helping her. I don't ask her for anything because she has rarely been help to us. I am in my 40's. She probably watched my kids a total of 10xs in a lifetime. She rushes me to pick up my kids. She really didn't do much for me not to mention she was a drug addict as a kid. Married to an abusive alcoholic and she often used me when she didn't have a man. Personally, I'm just tired of her. I hate to say it. I don't disrespect her but she is forever feeling that because she is single everyone has to help her. #tired How can I get out of helping her or how do I respectfully tell her no? Or should I just help her again?

Question: Help me convince my parents let my friend & I go on a road trip?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 12:21 PM PDT

I did a lot of bad things this year with this person that make my parents not like him. We dated for a little bit, but now things are completely platonic. My parents don t like him because they think he s disrespectful & irresponsible. I ve done a lot to convince them that I can handle myself and that they should trust me. At this point, they trust me, but not him. I m 18 and am heading off to college next month, and he s going to another country, so this is really the last time we ll be able to spend together. He is my best friend, regardless of my parents opinions. However, I don t want my decision to go on this trip to ruin my relationship with them. I m going to be using my money & his car, so I m not using any of their resources to make this trip. What should I do to help assure them that everything will be okay?

Question: My little brother eats all the food in the house! Please help?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 12:18 PM PDT

This has been going on for a very long time. He's 14 and he's always been overweight (not obese, just a bit overweight). Last week we bought a bag of frozen fries and he ate the entire thing by himself in one day! It was supposed to be for the family! I bought another bag of fries at the store (bc I didn't get to eat any last time), AND HE ATE THE NEW BAG OF FRIES. This is getting really annoying. It's like he only thinks of himself! Doesn't he realize there are other people in the family who would like to eat the food we get at the grocery store? My mom doesn't talk to him about this, but if she does, she doesn't really get her point across. Obviously she needs to be BLUNT and direct about it, but she doesn't do that. And we don't have a lot of money either, so he can't just waste all the food for himself! Please help! This is getting ridiculous. I tell him every time to save things for the rest of the family, but this issue keeps persisting. Obviously he needs his MOTHER to have a talk with him, not his older sister whom he just ignores. My mom is a good mom, but I feel like she just doesn't want to confront him about it.

Question: Does This Guy Have A Crush On Me?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 12:09 PM PDT

His grandma and I live in the same apt complex and her grandson comes there often, the thing is he's made excuses to text me like did my grandma make it up ok? When he could just call his grandma. He's asked randomly to send me exam prep material online he's studying for too. In the beginning I asked to go out and it didn't work out but we became friends again then he asked me to go eat, I've seen him glance in my apt direction when he goes to his grandmas. When I called him out from all the signs knowing he had a gf and I said a guy who has a gf can't be interested in me and he said he said he wasn't and that he had a gf he was happy with. One day he was giving me gym advice and said "don't you have a bf to teach you all this?" and i catch him glancing over and looking a lot? What's his deal? His parents also look and smile and fidget when they see me.People say friendly but why would he stare and look secretly?? Also, i don't think the gf relationship is serious cause no photos together on fb or ig and his relationship status is hidden and they've been together for 4 years already. He also doesn't go to his grandmas when my car isn't parked and i'm out of town(my roommate tells me) grandma isn't sick or anything. He comes 3x a week to the apts. Can it still happen between us? when we got into the fight I said don't message me again and i told him he's the one chasing me. After the fight a year has passed and he saw me outside and looked and smiled at me. We're both 26 btw When he waits for his grandma to open the door( in front of my kitchen window) he fidgets with his phone and tries hard to not look at me but comes out facing me and looking to see if I'm there. His grandma was also worried when I was gone for a month and went out of her way to find out where I was by sending our neighbor to ask my roommate where i was. Yesterday I received a call from my own number(spoof call) and he didn't show up yesterday. I'm assuming it was him and he hid it by not coming

Question: How to be a big sister?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 12:02 PM PDT

I grew up with my moms boyfriends daughter who I end up calling my sister but when I turned 7 we stopped talking so 9 years later I have no siblings except my brother who was in jail for all my life. I don't know how to be a big sister to a baby, my "sister was only a few months younger than me and we were kids I'm 16 now and I have made contact with a baby since...ever. My mom gave birth to my New born sister 4 days ago and I'm graduating in 2 years. I'm really scared I don't know how to care for babies.

Question: How to convince my parents to get me a hover board?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 12:00 PM PDT

Ok so they already like the idea of me having a hover board and I was gonna get one for my b day back in March but my mom found out they exploded and changed her mind and my rents said if they stopped exploding this summer they would get me one and all my friends have one so how do I convince my family to get me a hover board tips please and I m a good kid a get perfect grades and help around the house

Question: Good first names for last name Shepard?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 11:58 AM PDT

Or Sheppard, Shephard, or Shepherd

Question: My parents won't let me grow up?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 11:53 AM PDT

I'm 21, I'm grown, but my parents don't act like it. I'll be graduating college soon, and they act like I'm an idiot. They keep telling me that I don't need to buy my own car or move out and they'll help pay my student loans. It sounds like they're just really nice parents, but please trust me when I say it is because they think I am incapable of being independent. I'm not trying to be ungrateful, but I've explained to them that I WANT to be independent and they're still giving me NO support when I express my plans to move out once I get a job in my field. All they care about is impressing other people, our relatives and people at our church. They don't care about my life or what I want, they just want people to think I'm perfect. As a result, they can't let me do anything that I could fail at. Ugh! I just want their support.

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 11:52 AM PDT

My mom left my step dad for another man. She was strict and has become care free. She leaves us home to drink with her friends or go with him. I am 15 my sister is 17 my brothers are 18 and 11. When she is out with him we have to watch his 9 year old son. She ignores us when she is around him and is always sending me and my sister to go stay somewhere. We tried to talk to her and she just screamed. I have been thinking about going stay with my dad. He is stricter and not carefree and listens to us. Most people want care free parents but I don't. She was suppose to come pick me up from my grandmas but never came. She made us move schools. So I am about to go to a different school. I was on the soccer team key club treasurer and a freshmen mentor and had to give it all up. I tried telling her how I feel but she doesn't listen.

Question: My adult brother still lives at home?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 11:45 AM PDT

My brother is 25 and still lives at home. He has a full time job and a nice car. He spends a ton of money on tech stuff. I think he doesn't what to spend money on an apartment, so he is just taking advantage of my parents who are struggling to support us all. I'm graduating college next year and plan on getting out as soon as possible to take some pressure off my parents. My dad actually lived with his parents until he got married at 32, so I guess he doesn't really mind my brother still being there. I just think it is selfish because my dad is going to be retiring in a couple years, and my brother doesn't pay any bills. Why should my dad spend his retirement fund on my brother?? I want to talk to my family about this, but everyone gets so defensive when I try to. What do I do? My parents are too nice to kick us out, but I can see the stress they are going through financially. It is my business because my parents are literally too nice to say they need help. I bought them a gallon of milk the other day for their coffee and they freaked out that I spent money on them. They would never ever tell any of us that we need to help out, and that's the problem. He doesn't have a plan. My parents told me he doesnt. I actually pay for college by myself, and take out loans for what I can't. My parents have not spent a penny on my college education.

Question: Running from house where to find shelter in india?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 11:44 AM PDT

I live outside india but im indian my parents are torturing me a lot n I have decided to run away to india probably mumbai idk were to go wat to do if anyone can tell me a place or ashram for homeless it will be a great help thanks

Question: I'm 17 (girl) and my parents won't let me have a life.?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 11:44 AM PDT

Every time I ask to go out with my friends, it's turns into a big deal. Eventually they let me go but they call me every 5 minutes. (EXAMPLE: I was swimming at a friends house and left my phone inside. I checked my phone and it said I had 4 missed calls. I called my mom right back and explained why I didn't answer.) I never gave them a reason to not trust me. I do great in school and don't hangout with the wrong crowd. My parents just bought me a car so I have my own transportation. When I asked to go out another time, they said they didn't want me driving when there's heavy traffic even though the traffic is basically the same at any time of the day. I got to my friends house at 12:00pm and my parents forced me to leave at 3:30pm! (It gets dark at 8pm where I live) There wasn't even a point of me going! They say "I don't have enough experience to be driving late at night", but how am I supposed to gain experience when I can't drive? My family isnt fun. All they do is watch tv. All I do is stay in my house bored. My parents are saying I have more respect for my friends then I do for them because I don't want to be locked inside my house doing nothing. I try and talk to them but they just end up yelling at me. The point is I want to be a teenager and have fun memories when I look back on my life. They say they have to work and can't have fun but right now, I'm a teenager and I want to have fun.(it's summer) How can I gain just a little bit of freedom?

Question: How can i let all my anger out?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 11:42 AM PDT

How can let it out? Today and yesterday i went to boxing and hit the gym still angry. On Sunday my cousin made me sad he told i wouldn't be someone in life and he said i shouldnt even be alive. He said i am worthless. That made me sad and angry at the same time right now i cant even talk to my cousin he lose my trust and respect. I try to talk to family and someone and it doesnt seem to help at all. Please help me

Question: Parent Advice: How do I help my son, whose behavior tends to be explosive in rage?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 11:40 AM PDT

Question: I want a new iPhone so bad!!?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 11:24 AM PDT

I have a 5s now but I want the 6s plus so bad (in not old enough to have a job) how can I convince my parents

Question: I feel snubbed by my extended family over a graduation gift.?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 11:20 AM PDT

My parents and my aunt and uncle didn t have the best relationship, but they patched things up in the last couple of years. When I graduated from high school, I didn t receive anything from my aunt and uncle. I just graduated college and I didn t recieve anything again. However, when my brother graduated from high school, they gave him something (way more than just a card). It sounds awful, but I feel jealous and left out that I didn t get anything twice over, and my brother got a very expensive gift when he finished high school. I obviously haven t said anything to my parents or my aunt and uncle, but am I right to feel this way? Should I say something to my parents?

Question: Why do cousins want to do their cousins? Incest is bad.?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 11:16 AM PDT

Question: Can I change my identity before I graduate high school?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 11:10 AM PDT

I want to change my identity for personal reasons. I am 18 years old and I was suppose to graduate high school on May but didn't due to personal reasons. The reasons why I want to change my identity is because I am tired of my parents fighting all the time, and I'm also tired my uncles, aunts, and cousins. I don't want to communicate with them in the future. They are always asking questions about me and checking to see what I'm doing, so I'm pretty tired of that. Anyways, I may sound like a bad person, but I don't love my aunts, uncles, and cousins. I never did actually. They have caused me so many problems. The only people that I love and care for are parents and grandparents. So this is why I choose to change my identify. I want to live in peace.

Question: What should I do if my sister is jealous and thinks I will steal her boyfriend?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 10:20 AM PDT

We used to be close but in the last few months she has been quite rude to me. When I go to my dads house where she also lives she is not very friendly. She has depression and anxiety, though I know she exaggerates her issues for attention. She tries to copy me and gets upset that I go to Oxford, though she is talented in other ways. She is now paranoid that I am going to steal her boyfriend who I have barely had a conversation with. She won't leave us in the same room. She won't go to the toilet because she's too scared to leave us. I know because she told my dad who told me. It is silly because I have a boyfriend, and I would just never do that! What should I do? I am sad because we used to be close but I don't like this immature side she has. She has always been spoilt unfortunately but she is still my sister.

Question: When I grow up and get a family how do I stop my children from being shy amd introverted?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 10:14 AM PDT

Question: My grandparenrs wont let me stay in the house alone and its annoying. Bkth of them wont they dint trust me im 13 going on 14.?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 10:08 AM PDT

They trust my 12 yesr old boy cousin to take care of my other twin cousins both 3 years old. I want them to trust me to how do i shiw them im old enoughf to stay in the house or watch the twins? I even try taking to them they still refuse.

Question: What should I get my father for his 46th birthday?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 10:04 AM PDT

My dad is a teacher at a highschool he teaches English, History, Religion and Civics and careers. He's not very religious despite the fact he teaches it. He likes the LA Rams, The Toronto Blue Jays and the New York Islanders. He likes rock like Metallica, Ozzy Osborne and Kiss you get the point. He likes football and Baseball a lot. We have a dog. He likes The Wolverines. He likes Marvel Superheroes. I have no idea what to get him. I have a fifty dollar limit I know that's not much but it's all I have. This is in Canadian dollars as well. I hope you can help. Thank you.

Question: Unable to be alone with boyfriend?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 10:01 AM PDT

I m 18, 19 in like 6 months. I ve been dating my boyfriend for a year now and my parents won t allow him to be over the house without them being there. I m on birth control and we re not sexually active and don t plan on being until I m personally comfortable with it. She s aware of that but still doesn t trust us. Any advice? I just want to be alone with him for once.

Question: Is your adult nephew trying to take over and telling you what to do?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 09:53 AM PDT

And always using the "senior citizen" card? He doesn't have a home, 54 years old, is divorced TWICE, has a child to support. Opinionated. Doesn't pick up after himself. Always has these little insulting digs

Question: My mom is really slow learner and lacks logic when it comes to driving and technology. I need help?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 09:51 AM PDT

When my mom drives, she doesn't think fast enough, lacks observing and learning by observing others do things. When she parks her car, she sometimes doesn't know which way to turn the weel although she's been driving for less than a year but should be a pretty good driver by now. She lacks the ability to take chances, to learn how to do stuff when it comes to technology(ex: when she's using her phone or laptop she comes to me when the problem she's trying to solve is so obvious and sometimes just a click away). I'm sometimes a little rough on her just because I want her to quicker and more logical you know but I love my mother, she's the best mom that could ever exist. She's only 51 and looks really young for her age. Is there any thing I should do? I need help with this.

Question: My abusive dad won't leave?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 09:46 AM PDT

My mom and dad are constantly fighting. He's even hit her before and he acts like a child, throwing dishes and cups on the ground and screaming at her. My mom is the only one with a job in the house so she pays the rent while my dad wastes our money on stuff we don't need. They got in a really bad fight today and my mom kicked him out after threatening to call the police and told me not to let him in again. He came back and keeps knocking and kicking on the door, screaming at me to let him in. He won't go away! Should I call the police?

Question: Do some people and woman like being treated bad my dad calls my mother hurtful names and he use to be her I don't understand why she stay?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 09:28 AM PDT

Question: Why do some people like being treated bad my dad always calling my mother bitches and hoes and eat use to beat her she should had been left?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 09:24 AM PDT

Question: Sister wants to be our sons mommy?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 09:20 AM PDT

m so ticked right now I'm crying. Ever get that way? Son is 5. Hubby n I 38. Living w/my mom n sister n stepdad due fire in our home in Oct. Son has slept in our room since birth cuz his room just never got done, unfortunately. We've decided to start training him on a blow up bed in the floor here to start. She "oh that's not fair, he's just a little boy!" But she's like this with EVERYTHING. Undermines EVERY disciplinary measure we take. Boo hoos and coddles him. He doesn't want to listen to us anymore. Has the nerve on on occasions to say I'm not a good mother. I don't care how she raises her kids. And need to listen to MOMMY AND DADDY FIRST. I made the mistake, after she called me a bad mom, of just blowing my top on her, and my son happened to be there. He of course stuck up for the coddler. True, my mistake. But I say you need to be quiet when mommy and dana are talking (he tends to need correcting a lot on interrupting adults). And there she goes with something like "there you go with your mothering skills. He didn't do anything wrong." And of course I was the bad one. I know she loves him. But she needs to stop trying to be mommy. There's a difference. She even said "we all raise him." No. You dont. Any advice on dealing with this from anyone would be appreciated. Am I right? Wrong? Be honest. I'd not havery given my sister up for anything. I know these things will pass. I just don't know how to get it through her thick skull that's he's ours, not hers.

Question: Be honest, do you have a favorite child?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 09:18 AM PDT

Question: I hate my mom?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 09:17 AM PDT

My parents provided food, clothe and shelter, but not emotional needs. Me and my siblings were raised by my grandma and other family members, I've never felt a bond/connection with her. Growing up I've always felt suffocated in the house, being unable to express myself. There is a lot anger/problems just bubbling under the surface of this family. Whenever I tried talking to my mom, she's change the subject. Then start talking or bragging about something to make herself look better and is very critical of me and others. Also lies about everything and expects respect when she's not willing to give any.. I love her, but I am fed up of her controlling and narc behavior. She asked for my opinion then puts me down and just do what she wanted or says I am a bad daughter and threatens to beat me up because I don't immediately do what she wanted...

Question: I need some polite ideas on how to address my MIL s bossy/controlling behavior towards my kids?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 09:17 AM PDT

She tells them what to do, as in straight up bosses them right in front of me...sometimes sitting right next to me at the table. FYI we *are* staying at her house right now...husband changed careers. But still, we help out where we can and I don t think that gives her a right to parent my children. I need help phrasing things because I have straight up gotten (a little) annoyed and said "No...it is okay, I don t mind if he (son) does ___" or "I m right here.." She backs off momentarily but then chirps in again later. She is a very sweet person but I m also seeing this obnoxious control-freak side of her. (For example, she was getting realllllllly flustered and pushy over giving me & little ones a ride to the Dr, because she thought we needed to leave extremely early- as in 40-45 mins- even after I assured her it was a 15 min drive that I used to take to work!) She means well and is very kind to me and the kids otherwise, but I m not good with this higher level of confrontation, so to speak. I need to know how to address this better. My husband has told her to shutup and backoff, but I feel that I need to tell her myself in a real conversation...I get the vibe she doesn t think I have boundaries/a spine and needs to help me parent or something. How can I make her back off with the bossiness to my preschoolers and let me be mommy...and solely enjoy being Grandma? It s difficult since it s been going on for a few years. I m trying to teach myself to be more assertive!

Question: Why can't I stand my mother?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 08:51 AM PDT

My mom is such an emotional burden...Every conversation is about her...Her illnesses, her rough life, her sacrifices, her lonliness, her nasty neighbors...the list is endless. She moved out of state 10 years ago...by choice...i have a brother close to her, but he works full time, and tries his best to visit...I have a severely disabled son who is difficult to leave for me to visit her...I do arrange it once a year...Since we were kids, we had to be HER emotional rocks...she left my dad for her own reasons, and all she does is bring up how hard it was to raise us alone..making us feel guilty about it. I call her several times a week, and every conversation revolves around her...she doesn't even ask about my son...but instead, compares her hardships as a single mother, to my hardships as a mother of a disabled child...she always wants the trophy for who has it worse, or harder....She's also draining financially....I send her over 200 a month, and she still wants more...I can't send more..I have to save for my son's future when I'm no longer here... I don't know how to deal with her...she literally depresses me..I'm confused, because I want to have a good relationship, but she makes it really hard...I do love her, but I don't enjoy her... she also has no friends who she can vent to..every friendship turns sour...she cannot maintain relationships. She never comes to visit me, or help me with my son,but I am expected to fly down, send her money, listen to her all the time...if she calls and my non verbal son makes noises, she says, "does he ever shut up"? She also advised me to "put him away" more than once...I'm just tired of this one way, draining relationship

Question: Hating my 5 year old brother with a flaming passion? Everytime I see him I want to hit him.?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 08:49 AM PDT

He comes in my room and hits my and on multiple occasions I've imagined myself picking him up throwing him down and beating him. I've never done it but sometimes my anger gets the best of me and I'll slap him or push him over and drag him but he always laughs and it makes me angrier to the point where I can't think straight. I was baby sitting him the other night because my parents had some business to take care of. While they were gone he came in my room and picked up my Guinea pig and squeezed her and she squeaked in pain. I took her from him set her back on the floor and slung him out of my room and he hit his head on the wall. He started laughing and said "haha hazel (my Guinea pig) almost died" and I grabbed his arm and twisted the skin so that it would burn. He only laughed so I pinched his thigh incredibly hard and he started laughing more so I called my mom and told her what he was doing and she said send him to his room. He kept coming out so I called her back and she laughed and said I'm overreacting. And then I started crying and telling her that he was frustrating me and making me angry and she laughed at me. It was driving me nuts. She always thinks he's perfect and barely spanks him ever that's why he acts like that. It's annoying and she always blames me when he acts up.

Question: My father chooses favorites?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 08:49 AM PDT

So I have two brothers and I'm my parents' only daughter(I'm 16 and my brothers are 12 and 19). My parents split up a few years ago. Last year, I was having issues with my mother and I asked my dad if he could try to get custody of me so I could get away from the issues with my mom. He told me he would try. But he lied. He never even tried. I waited for a year for him to at least try to get custody of me. I think he chooses favorites because my older brother asked him ONCE if he could pick him up from moms and take him to live with him. My father did it right away. My father doesn't even bother to talk to my little brother and now he doesn't talk to me. Is my older brother his favorite child? The issues with my mom were resolved 9 months ago

Question: My mom won t forgive me no matter what!! Plz help!?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 08:49 AM PDT

My sister and I don t have the best relationship and we re always fighting, and of course, my mom is always on her best daughter s side (my sister s) and she s always defending her whenever we fight, and about a week ago my sister and I fought again. But the problem is that my mother is, once again, with my sister. She won t talk to me no matter how many times I apologize, she told me she hated me and then said please don t make me hate you which doesn t make sense. I ve been apologizing for a week and she won t even give me a second glance plz tell me what to do. For a week now she didn t even look my way or said anything. I apologized about 15 times and told her that I won t do it ever again and I will act better towards my sister, and everytime she says the same thing I don t think I ll ever forgive you . Is it just me or is she being so immature for a 35 year old?!

Question: Should I move?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 08:32 AM PDT

My aunt and uncle that I am really close with are moving 1 hr away. I am 24 and live with 2 roommates and have never been out of the town my mom lives in. I have an associates degree and a full time job that I hate. I have been think about going back to school for elem. education and enrolled in school an hour the opposite direction they are moving. Should I go to school where they are moving and live with them? They said I could but am I imposing? I was already accepted. I'm so confused. Help!

Question: My family is two faced and hates me!?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 08:17 AM PDT

Im 13, male and the only family member that truly loves me is my mother. Her sister acts like im a pile of ****, and everyone else talks behind my back. My auntie spills her drink, and its my fault..? The sky starts pouring rain, guess whos fault it is?! They promise me things that they never do. Im deppressed enough already and i come here for summer and i get all the ****! Her stupid sister steals all my pocket money because that ******* 17 year old needs to buy a beer!? Im starting to drop out on every activity they do, they go swimming,have fun , barbeque etc, i know they dont want me there anyways. My mum tells me everything and last time i was swimming in the sea with them no one came in and everyone just acted like lazy and this time without me, they had "SOO MUCH FUN" im done with this family. I cant do it anymore.. Im getting secretly suicidal and im that close to jumping off my three story house. HELP

Question: How do I talk to my dad if I don't like him?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 07:56 AM PDT

I'm not very fond of my dad, but I don't have the same problem with my mom. He's practically nocturnal so I rarely talk to him, and when he tries to talk to me I have nothing to relate with so most of my answers are yes, no, and i dont know. Ive been trying to lose weight and eat healthier, but the other day he said what was basically a fat joke to me and it hurt my feelings. I talk to him even less and now he's mad because he says i only ever talk to him when i need something. He offers to do things with me that he likes, but why would I want to spend time with someone I have nothing in common with and insults me? My siblings also beat up on me all the time because i wont fight them back, and the only person who will actually help me with this is my mom. He basically encourages me to fight with my siblings, which is not something I want to waste my time doing. I have a feeling he wouldnt be satisfied if i barricaded myself in my room and only told him pleasantries. He's threatening to punish me if I don't get my **** together. How am I supposed to talk to someone that makes me nauseous to just be around? We had a heart to heart a few years ago when we had the same problem because he'd been drinking, but he obviously still doesnt get the message that i just don't like him and a lot of the things he likes. What should I do?

Question: What do I do when my brother leaves?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 07:35 AM PDT

So my brother graduated, and he's planning on going into the Marines next year. He's always been there for me even when others weren't. In our childhoods, we both were always kind of loners or always getting stabbed in the back. Long story short, he's my best friend. I'm a full 4 years younger then him. What am I going to do? Who knows where or how long he'll be shipped out to. I'm the only other child in the family, and I don't have many other friends. And we both were always homeschooled. So I'm used to seeing him all the time and doing homework together. I'm a pretty independent girl. But I'm scared for both of us, and I'm not sure what I'll do. I fell like I need a really close guy friend. Is it because I'm afraid of losing my brother? Or would that really be healthy for me? I just don't want to fall in even more depression then I already am.

Question: I feel guilty and sad for my mom?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 07:32 AM PDT

When I was younger, my mom's most prized possession was her china cabinet that she collected all over Chile. One day, my dumbass dad broke it all while he was drunk. Now they're divorced, (not because of that, he was an awful person) and my mom and I live in a small apartment. She hoards things all the time and I think it's because of that moment. I remember her saying to me, "don't touch that glass. I am going to get together all of my china". She says this now, 11 years after that incident. Where are we going to fit in a china cabinet? We barely have any space for it now. But I just feel sorry for her that my dad's stupidness caused her grief and a huge emotional attachment to material things. Whenever I think about it, I feel so much sadness. What should I do? Thank you :)

Question: My mother in law gets mad when I don't take her unsolicited advice, how do I handle that?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 06:47 AM PDT

For instance I told her that for our honeymoon we were deciding between Lake Tahoe and Seattle, notice how that's a statement and not a question, she said that both are not good choices for various reasons, no one she knows liked either one, etc... I politely listened and nodded, and reiterated that those were the two front runners right now. She repeated her disapproval and for the third time I firmly but politely stated "it will definitely be one of those two, we just have to decide which one." She raised her eyebrows in surprise, laughed menacingly and said "Even though no one likes either one??!?!" My husband intervened and said basically those are opinions from a very small demographic and it's what we want so it's what we are doing, case closed. She then claimed to not care what we do she just thinks it's a waste of money. I don't want to declare war on her but I can't stand her. She make negative comments constantly and then gets offended that I don't take her advice.

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Posted: 03 Aug 2016 06:39 AM PDT

Question: Will i get cerebral ataxia?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 06:23 AM PDT

we are a family of 5. my dad, my mum, me and my two elder sisters. my mum has this disease called 'cerebral ataxia' which my grandad also had. am i gonna get it too? cause my aunt(mums sister) said that it was passed down as in my grand grand parents also had it.

Question: Does my female cousin likes me back?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 06:06 AM PDT

Ok so things straight... She's my third cousin and in our culture Its usually ok to like a cousin Well story goes like this Some annoying kid kept on stealing my hat so my little cousin tried getting it back. He got it back and he asked for a thank you. So I just said something in our language (intended to be funny). It turned out the cousin I like was just there and smiled at me. She also said to me later that my brother is absolutely crazy or something like that in a kinda weird way. What do you think?

Question: My mother still helps me get dressed but I am 19, how do I get her to stop?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 06:01 AM PDT

She worries I won't dress right.

Question: One of my guinea pig just died...and I don't want the other one too die too from being sad..what do I do please help.?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 06:00 AM PDT

Question: Accidentally made sibling late for work?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 05:31 AM PDT

He had to go for 5 am. I had did a bad thing to make him oversleep by mistake. I woke him up two hours later because I then realized he had to go to work. He's so mad and confused, she I even say I was apart of it?

Question: How to babysit horrible kids?

Posted: 03 Aug 2016 05:02 AM PDT

My mom sister asked me to babysit her five kids for 6 days. It's been three days so far and I'm way to fed up. The youngest is 9 and he has a gutter mouth. I told him to go up stairs to his room and he told me to go suck a raw d**k, he has literally called me every bad name in the book. Her kids isn't what you would call normal. The sad part about it is that the oldest is 18 and he got a mind of a 5 year old and can't be home alone. She believes her kids can't do wrong. The middle child cut his face and his legs and called her and told her that I cut him with a knife. All five of them are teaming up against me and lying to their mom about things I never did or say. She text my phone and said "I'm sending you home and my friend is coming to pick up my kids in the morning, I'm tired of your ***" seriously I drove 2 hours to watch her kid just to be tortured and not get paid.