Family: Question: Do I have to tell my wife about this?

Question: Do I have to tell my wife about this?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 01:40 PM PDT

My wife's mother Billie is staying with us for a few weeks while her house is being remodeled. She is a wonderful person that we both adore. She has a great personality and is just a joy to be around. I was brushing my teeth in the bathroom and Billie walks in, takes off her robe and gets in the shower. WOW. What a beautiful body. I had to get out of there fast so I would NOT get a b0ner. Guys, can you imagine how I could explain to my wife if I had got a b0ner for her mother. I think I would be in BIG TROUBLE (gals would I). Luckily it did NOT happen. This happened a few days ago and it apparently is no big deal for Billie. She never said a word about it. Should I tell my wife what happened and/or just lock the bathroom door every time I an in it and forget this ever happened? I am afraid if I tell my wife, she will be mad at me or mad at her mother or mad at both of us. Since nothing happened wouldn't it be better to just forget about the whole thing and not cause a family fight?

Question: Am I in the wrong here?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 01:37 PM PDT

Basically, my dad went on a business trip and brought back 2 cans of some really good soda from Asia. My parents didn't like it so my brother and I both got one each. I drank mine the first day, but my brother just left it in the refrigerator. He didn't even seem to be interested in it; meanwhile, its pretty much my favorite soda I've ever tasted. A week passes, its still untouched. I ask him if he still wants it, because it was expiring in another week. He said yeah. I reminded him about the expiration, and he heard me and said okay. Well, today was 1 day AFTER it already expired. I decided **** it, and drank it. He got really mad, but I don't think its really my fault. Am I in the wrong? EDIT: I forgot to mention a pretty important point: We also had other drinks, like Sprite, Coke, etc. I know for FACT he drank a couple of Sprites in the last 2 weeks. So he purposefully ignored the Asian soda.

Question: How to convince my parents to let me have a lock on my door?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 01:32 PM PDT

I'm 13 years old and I am in need of a lock on my door. I've asked my parents but they always say no without an explanation. I've already explained to them why I need one but they won't listen. Please help 😭

Question: Should I go against my parents wishes?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 01:04 PM PDT

I am 19 years old and I was in an arranged marriage that I did not approve of for about 9 days. Things got messy and I decided to leave but I am a college student with no way to support myself so I came back home. At home tensions escalated because they want me to go back to my husband and I want an annulment. I am so emotionally drained from all the fighting and my parents constantly undermining my wishes and pressuring me into doing what they think is best for me regardless of my wishes. I am thinking of moving in with a friend my parents don t approve of because he is Sikh and they are Muslim ( I m an Atheist so I don t care about religion). They said that if I were to this they would disown me as their daughter for the sake of their reputation in the community. They also said that they would not support me to finish college. Should I stay with my parents and have the guarantee that I will be able to finish college. Or should I go on my own and have the freedom to make my own desisions PS my parents won t be paying for my college they will just be cosigning a loan for me but I think I will be able to find a cosigner on my own.

Question: I found out that my 18 year old brother is on drugs, please as many suggestions as possible, what do I do?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 12:49 PM PDT

My brother went to have a shower and my mother finished ironing his clothes, his phone was on the bed and 1 of his friends sent a picture of him and my brother doing drugs but my mother saw it. Her heart was racing so quickly I thought she was going to faint. As she put his clothes in his wardrobe she found a packet of cigarettes and it also came to a shock because she didn't know he smoked. He was a good student but had to repeat the year and she thinks this is why. She suddenly got up and told me to help her put his clothes in a suitcase, once she did that he left the bathroom (he was dressed as he got dressed there) and told him to take his bag and leave. She took his phone off of him and basically she kicked him out of the house. They argued and he began lying to her about it but eventually told her the truth but said it was a one time thing. When he left she saw the messages on his phone and realised he lied to her again and that he has been doing heavy drugs all year long. The thing is I'm 16 years old and I think this is horrible, I'm literally on the verge of throwing up right now. I can't believe this amd I feel im so much shock. My mother is in tears but she said he can't stay, as she doesn't want a drug addict in her house which I completely understand. My dad is out of town and my mum is going to tell him tomorrow when he comes back. I can't tell my friends or other family members since it isn't my place to tell, I just don't know what to do or who to talk to.

Question: Is this wrong?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 12:29 PM PDT

When I was a child my mom would walk around in nightgowns with no underwear and bend down with no care in from of all her kids. She would be cleaning and we all could see her vagina is that wrong.

Question: Do think this is wrong?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 12:25 PM PDT

Question: Do I need to tell my parents what I saw?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 12:24 PM PDT

So I'm 14 and male and I never look at porn or anything like that 2 years ago I was researching how to be a doctor and I was looking on wikapedia on human anatomy and I wanted to study the vagina. When I clicked on the article I saw a picture of a vagina which I wasn't intentionally looking for. After that I closed the article and never told anyone. I dont feel guilty at all but sometimes my parents ask if I have seen anything bad on the interent and I say no even though I saw what I saw because I haven't seen anything else that's bad. I just feel like what they dont know wont hurt them. Im also just positive they will become skeptical of me and I doubt they will beleive that I was researching human anatomy Do I need to tell them?

Question: I suspect my dad is cheating on my mother?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 12:20 PM PDT

All my life my dad was never there for me or my sister. I have a sense of anger towards my dad every-time I see him usually when something is wrong im right about it. He hordes all this money and thinks my mom is stupid when really she is smarter then him she just wont say anything. Recently my mom went on a trip with my dad and it was about stone this guy talked a lot about his daughter as like hinting something to my father as my mom explained it. My mom was pissed and she has a right. I hate my dad cuz he hurt her too many times I have a feeling he is cheating. He comes home late and his wads of money are always for himself which is ridiculous. I remember him talking to Uncle Rob saying he gave 100 dollars to someone my uncle said that's not right he has the money. My dad sounds so stupid when he talks.I have so much anger built up inside me that I have a sensation to just kill my father, I know it's not right to think this but I feel he doesn't deserve to live he is a monger among society.

Question: Estranged from parents. How do I cope?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 12:19 PM PDT

I had some type of mental disorder that I ended up in a nursing home for. I got better while I was in the nursing home and returned to my home. I got really upset with my dad and now we don't talk. I signed legal documents so he could manage, my finances, but later found the documents were also to close out me estate. After I came home, he still wanted to be involved with my finances, talk to my doctors and tried to tell me what to do, put me down and blamed me for being ill. They took everything of value from my home and after I returned home, my family didn't want to help me get my property back and when I did get the majority of it back, all of my things are destroyed. I sent them a letter telling them how sorry I was for getting upset. I don't think that I'll ever talk to them again and it really hurts me everyday. I regret getting upset with them because I really do care about them, but feel at this point there's nothing that I can do. I guess that's what happens when someone goes into a nursing home or dies. The family just comes in and takes what they want and sell the persons house.

Question: What's your opinion on this?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 12:18 PM PDT

Let's say a mother and son are consenting adults, and they want to have a sexual relationship. Let's also say the mom can no longer have kids. Would you be against it?

Question: Can I get custody of my 10-year-old sister.?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 12:12 PM PDT

I m trying to get custody of my 10-year-old sister as of right now I have one year of temporary guardianship that my mother has given me I m in Albuquerque New Mexico and our mother is in Garden City Kansas am I still able to file for sole custody

Question: Whats going on with my parents?! Should I stop? I dont get whats wrong..?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 12:09 PM PDT

Me and my brother are really close, but my parents say I pick on him too much, they say Im a bad sister. They say this because he and I call each other nicknames. I call him shortstack, like a shortstack of pancakes because hes my little brother and theres a huge height difference right now, im 5 7 and hes 4 1. My dad screamed at me to stop belittling my brother, when I saw him and said "whats going on shortstack?"..He thinks Im hurting my brothers feeling, but my brother thinks its funny. But now since my parents are telling my brother that these names should hurt and that they are mean words, my brother started getting bothered. Its annoying because he will call me ace and I will call Sam the Man or Uncle Sam, but my parents keep yelling at me to stop "bullying him". They compared me and him, to the time my cousins rammed my head into a table, or slammed a door on my fingers. WTF? My mom yelled at me in the doctors yesterday when I said to my brother, "Hey shortstack can you grab me a magazine?"...my bro will even call me tallstack sometimes. I dont know why they are reaching for mud in clear water. Because they are yell at me because of this, my brother is getting abnormally sensitive to everything I say, he will cry over small things now, right when we are getting along. My parents are convincing him, my words are trying to hurt him. WTF is going on.

Question: Being a Stay-at-Home mom and how to cope with the way people view me?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 12:04 PM PDT

It's simple, we have 3 boys very close in age. A 3 year old, 2 year old, and 2 month old. I made the decision to stay home with the kids while hubs works and brings home our income. Just about everyone we know, friends and even family, all see it as I need him so even if I wanted to I CAN'T leave him when in actuality I DON'T even WANT t to leave him. The other moms I know and my own family think I can't handle the kids because I end up yelling at them or even screaming every once in a while but doesn't almost everyone? And I just think they don't really understand because I am the one looking after them all day while my family doesn't really help and the moms I know have someone else look after their kids while at and getting back from work so they get help. And yah he's the one that brings home the income but that doesn't necessarily mean I can't right? And his friends all see it as he has done so much for me that I CAN'T leave him. Also since everyone knows we get into arguments but doesn't everyone? And again, I just DON'T WANT to leave him. Hubs says I shouldn't being worrying about what they think because I know the truth. But I can't help knowing that no one thinks I can do it on my own. Can anyone give me an answer on what I should do? How I can cope or how I can prove people wrong? Any advice at all?

Question: My grandfather died about two hours ago, what are some good ways to deal with grief.?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 11:59 AM PDT

Question: Did I do something wrong with my husband?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 11:58 AM PDT

I needed to do a computer upgrade for my home based business so I got bids for moving all the programs and data to a new larger computer system. The bids were all about $4000. It is a very complicated job. My husband ask me to talk to my friends and see if there was any way we could find someone to do the job done for less. I found the XYZ company that would do it for $1700. My husband was delighted that I saved $2300. I asked my husband if he wanted to know how I saved $2300 on the upgrade. He said (jokingly I hope), he did not care if I screwed the guy who did the upgrade as long as we saved $2300. He did not know how close to the truth he was. The owner of the XYZ company was my former husband who did the upgrade for me because he said he did not charge friends for help and he considered me his friend. Yes, I know having your ex as a friend is unusual but it is true. I think I am covered for not telling him any more details, don't you? I would have told him if he asked for the details. My husband is happy, I am happy so did I do something wrong?

Question: Is ignoring your child as punishment a bad idea?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 11:57 AM PDT

I have a four year old son and whenever he throws a tantrum I'll just leave the room and let him cry and eventually he'll stop crying and then I'll talk to him about whatever happened. I've heard some people say this is a bad idea. Is it? And why?

Question: Immature younger brother?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 11:53 AM PDT

My brother is very immature. Sure he is a child, but its to the point where its just crossing the line. Like today i was trying to call my school because i wanted to get school materials so I can be prepared for this year, but my little brother scrramed out "A$$hole" the phone picked up the message and I quickly hung up. Now Im worried what ll happen if I go back to school and they pull aside to speak with me. His immaturity is beyond a level I ve never seen before. What should I do?

Question: My dad offered me money and I refused? Was that right?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 11:51 AM PDT

So I m a 14 year old and am currently saving up for a new computer. Mine is 6 years old and very slow. (Takes 2 minutes to launch word, what?!) My dad offered me a 1000$. I told him to keep it because I knew A) He was kidding (he did this to my mom as a joke, then got her an actual present) and it didn t feel right taking money from him. He got mad saying it s rude to say no to a birthday gift. (3 months till my birthday. Too early for a gift) I don t know what to do now. He s been in his room for the past hour or so and I don t know if I messed up. I don t like taking money from people, it doesn t feel right. But now he got mad because I didn t take it. We had a fight a couple months back because I was complaining that I didn t get my allowance for the past 3 months (50$). He got really pissed even though I was being nice (not shouting etc) he stopped talking to me for a week. I refused this time because I didn t want that incident to happen again but now I feel like I caused it to happen again! I don t know what to do.

Question: HOW TO CONVINCE SOMEONE YOU'RE NOT LYING?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 11:35 AM PDT

I sent my mother's boyfriend an email on some scriptures on the Bible I wanted him to read. He says to me "Don't send me any emails because every time I send you emails you never read them". Usually when he asks me If I read the things or watched videos he's sent me about the world or other things I sometimes haven't read them at that moment but I always read it eventually( within a few days). So I tell him just now "I do read and watch the things you've sent me" He says "No you don't. You're lying" I have no idea why he would think I'm lying about that. Maybe it's because when he speaks to me about the things he sent I haven't read them at that particular moment in time. So he thinks I'm lying and says to me "You don't have to send me emails anymore". For some reason this really got under my skin when he said that I'm lying and I'm absolutely not. He says "I don't believe you" and it's ridiculous. How to respond to people who think you're lying when you're telling the absolute truth???

Question: My mom scares me Please help.?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 11:33 AM PDT

She might ve given birth to me but I wish she wasn t my mom. She had me at an old age (40). I think that s part of the reason she is so mean to me. She ll always yell At me for every little thing. Like today she yelled at me cause I didn t help her make breakfast. She yells at me and says stuff like " do u not have a heart" . She s single and always complains that nobody helps her. Even though when she s not yelling and angry she says how I m a wonderful daughter. through the whole house the neighbors think she s crazy. There isn t a day that passes by that she doesn t yell at me or get angry. I seriously don t feel loved by anybody I want to kill myself sometimes. one time. She even grabbed my arm super tight and I tried to push it away. P.S. I m only 12. Am I doing something wrong please answer. I'm always crying and wish I was never born. I don't love my mom and I'm pretty sure she doesn't love me. All this started when my dad died even then she would yell at my dad and never wanna play or do anything with me.

Question: Why do they set up a GoFundMe for people that have money when a love ones dies in an accident?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 11:09 AM PDT

Question: Need a public vote. Should i go to my dad and step-moms wedding this coming saturday? Or should i go to my moms side family reunion?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 11:01 AM PDT

me and my brother did not know the date of the wedding until three weeks ago. we knew they were getting married... but werent told the date. we have been planning the family reunion for 5 months now and my aunt, who is 93 and always in the hospital, is going to be there "come hell or high water" as she put it. but none of us think she is going to be alive much longer. both the wedding and the reunion are half an hour apart and the reunion is 4 hours away - so there is no way we can make both.

Question: Was I wrong for doing this?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 10:57 AM PDT

First off, this situation was extremely petty, so please do not judge. My mom and I ordered take out and I asked her if she wanted some of my food and drink, and she told me no. Literally when I was down to my last bite, she asked me for some. So I told her no, because I asked her in the beginning of she wanted some, and she said no. So she got mad at me and put the blame on me. Also, she always does this: if I have something to eat, I'll ask her if she wants some, she says no, then at the last minute, she asks me if she can have some.

Question: I m a 16 year old girl and once in a while find comfort in sleeping by my moms side in her bed?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 10:43 AM PDT

Is this wrong? She doesn t mind it at all, she told me she likes that I d be willing to hug and sleep next to her sometimes. We recently lost someone and I couldn t sleep last night and neither could she. I got up and went to sleep with her and amazingly fell right asleep. Is this some kind of mother daughter bond? Like a maternal bond with a mom and her baby?

Question: My brother keeps trying to discipline/control me!?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 10:35 AM PDT

My brother is three years older than me, and ever since our mom died earlier this year, he's been trying to step in and control me. Like, he's constantly trying to enforce my 10:00 curfew, even though our dad is never even home by that time. And he's constantly checking up on me if I bring a boy home, constantly opening up my bedroom door, and even yelling at and kicking one of my boyfriends out one time. And now that school has started back up, he's become even more insufferable. He's a senior and I'm a freshman, and he's made it his duty to make sure I go to school, do my homework. I skipped school one day, and he literally went to all my teachers, told them I was sick, and picked up all the homework I missed...then, when he got home he yelled at me and made me actually do the work. Then the next day, he followed me to my first class to make sure I was going. I keep telling him to mind his own business, that he's not my parent, but then he goes on about how our dad is not doing anything, and someone has to? And I'm just thinking, no, if my dad isn't doing anything, it means that nobody has to do anything, right? How do I get my brother off my back?

Question: Do you think that people can be cursed?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 10:15 AM PDT

My dad just passed away and he wanted to be turned into ash. He said that if we dont he will curse my mom and his sister. They decided not to turn him into ash because my mom said that shes scared that he will haunt her (they didnt have a good relationship, he was a big asshole). They also talked to a priest and decided not to turn him into ash but im kinda scared about the cursing thing.

Question: How to deal with my parents? (Particularly my mother) I am an 18 year old still living in their house.?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 10:01 AM PDT

Lately, I ve really been reaching the end of my line with them. My mother is generally a very negative person to be around. She is one of those people who will never admit to being wrong about anything, so if she is incorrect, she will go as far as to lie and be manipulative so that she can turn around and blame someone else for it. Even worse, she has always told me that I need to acknowledge my mistakes whenever I make any, which makes her a hypocrite. Because she never takes fault for anything, she of course never apologizes for her mistakes. Additionally, if she is in a bad mood, she will always take her anger out on either me or my sister. She is also a generally unsupportive person; even though she claims she cares about my success, she almost never makes an effort to help me on things that I need to get done, whether it s school related or not, and of course gets mad at me if something goes wrong. Meanwhile, my dad lets her behave this way. He always justifies her behavior with excuses such as "She s stressed" or "She had a bad day." As you can guess, he always takes her side in arguements, even if she s wrong. I will still never forget the time that my mother told me that she loved my dad more than she loved me after a huge blowout that we had. It s been over five years since she said that, but it still hurts. I respect them since they re my parents, but it s getting to the point where I hate being at home since I have to deal with this negativity on a daily basis.

Question: How can we make this work?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 09:53 AM PDT

So before I go into detail, there are a few key things to clear up So this makes sense. -My kids live in Oregon, I live in Tennessee due to joint custody with their dad. -My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years and found out in June we are expecting a baby. -We moved to Tennessee to take care of his grandparents, who are getting close to passing on due to health issues. The issue is this. I am missing my family in Oregon a lot, and after having my kids all summer I hate the idea of not living with them. I want to move to Oregon so the kids can have everyone they love around them. However, due to the situation with his grandparents, my bf doesn't want to leave Tennessee yet. He says when they move on, we can go, but he doesn't want to move away and have something happen while he's gone. I respect that, but at the same time it is an issue because I do not want to be stuck living in this town I have grown to hate, away from my entire family and my kids, just to wait for his grandparents to move on. He has given me the option to move home, but I am uncomfortable with that simply because I want him to be there for the big things with the baby, and if I go into labor early, he won't be here. I am really confused right now and just don't know what to do. Please no rude comments, I need serious advice from people that have been through similar situations.

Question: I just got of prison after year and a half i burned a bridge my stepfather and he cut me off from his family what do I do. I'm adopted to?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 09:45 AM PDT

I remember later in life in his house he became violent and pushed me into a wall. because my adopted mom was crying and making a scene venting about her mom dying. I'm 22 years old now fresh out of prison, my mom is helping me but my step dad tells her not to what do you think? I feel like even though my step- dad cut me off from his family its a chance for me to finally start anew and work on my life and have my own family? I don't know what to do anymore, my mom keeps annoying me.

Question: Parents unconcerned about sex?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 09:42 AM PDT

Me and my friend Lexi have tried testing my parents to see how they would react to us engaging in sex when both of us are only 15. We lock ourselves in my bedroom and moan and make blatant fake orgasm noises so my folks will hear. However they never reacted. Another tactic involved leaving the door unlocked while Lexi laid on the bed and pulled down her pants and unbuttoned her shirt. I threw her legs over my shoulders, getting into the "position". We began making noises again as I pretended to begin going inside Lexi. My mom finally comes in, but she hardly looked surprised and just reminded us to use a condom. My dad said to have fun. I don't get it! Aren't my parents concerned about this kind of stuff? And I know they aren't putting up and act because they actually said they don't mind me and Lexi having sex (we would never, just friends). Plus because they think we're cute together. What is wrong with my folks? They are so nonchalant!

Question: Should I have to be around my mothers boyfriend?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 09:38 AM PDT

My mother is moving in with her new boyfriend and they are getting married. He is 12 years younger than her and 14 years older than me. (I am 17). He smokes pot everyday and drinks a lot and has a temper and is a jerk, always mocking me and critical of others. My mother would disappear for weeks at a time while dating him and she would never be home while I was in high school. Im about to graduate and leave the house. Should I move out? BTW my father died a few years ago and his family does not live here. What should I do?

Question: I think I'm seriously going to kill myself?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 09:32 AM PDT

I've really lost my will to live almost 9 months ago. Long story, but, I just gave up on life. All I've been thinking about for that time is if I should or not. Thinking a lot about life, death. Reading whole a whole bunch of books about philosophy. I've decided to kill myself twice so far. In the middle of the night I left a note behind, and went to jump off a bridge into a river (I can't swim). When I was standing there I thought about my parents, my brother, my friends. And all the emotional pain I'd be leaving behind, so I came back both times, threw away the note and didn't say a word at all. I haven't had a full time job since, only part time. I've been living with my parents. I could pay for my food, drink and everything... But today my dad made it clear he doesn't give a damn about me. He said I was a stupid kid, a moron who doesn't think about the future. Truth is, I really don't care. I don't see anything that I'd want from this world. I have no motivation, no dreams, no desire to live or anything. I just want to die, but I've been postponing that by part time jobs and spending my time playing video games... So if he doesn't give a **** about me, not enough so that I could tell me that I feel like ****, then I guess I'm free to go, am i?

Question: My brother steals from me!?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 09:31 AM PDT

My brother steals leftovers, gifts, and even money from me. He literally ate 2 tacos, a double crunchrap and an entire soda. the next day he ate my leftover burrito. I WAS SAVING IT FOR LUNCH. I get that i should be grateful for these things but he just takes them! IT'S ANNOYING!!!!!!!!!

Question: Why are so many bad things happening to me?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 09:28 AM PDT

I just don't get it.I'm a 15 year old guy and ever since my mom and dad separated 4 years ago.My whole life has gotten worse.I got bullied in school from 6th-8th grade and I got friend zoned by a girl I really liked.My mom and dad always have issues still to this day even though sometimes they are fine with each other.My uncle and my grandmother tried to take me and my brother away from my mom but I don't want to get into those stories.My parents also have gone to court 2 times and I feel like the third one is coming soon and I have gone to 3 therapists with none of them helping out and also 2 law guardians when they were in court.Now I go to a private school and I finished freshmen year and although I have had good times in these years.There is more bad than good.Now recently I had a crush on another girl who I liked but I think yesterday I found out that her and one of my friends may have started dating which completely makes me want to blow up.Also I have a family member having health issues and he will probably not make it.Anyway the reason I wrote this is to ask why do these things happen to me.I am a good Catholic and I love God but I feel like things keep getting worse as the days go by. Please no dumb answers.

Question: My mother and my sister don't get along and they might not go on a trip my family planned together?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 09:27 AM PDT

Our trip is this weekend. We already have everything all planned out, but my sister really has no reason to come, because it's college visits for me. She really shouldn't stay home alone for 3 days and my mom doesn't want her to. We don't have family she could stay with so she'll have to be at our house. My dad suggested her staying home, because she'd be bored out of her mind, to my mother, and my mom said no she has to come. My mom thinks my sister wants to stay home to be away from her and because my sister isn't very social. My mom is now saying no I'm staying home too, and she keeps saying I want to go on this trip but I can't. My sister is saying she'll go, but my mom keeps saying the both of them can't. My sister is saying she'll go now, so I told my mom she can go too, and it's like talking to a brick wall. She isn't thinking rationally and my dad doesn't want to argue with her and my sister. I want to convince her to go on the trip with me and my father, and my sister. I really need advice. Thank you. I understand that my mother will be worried sick if my sister stays home, so I want to take my sister with us. I'm just scared that it won't be a nice trip like we all thought. My sister is too stubborn and thinks she does nothing wrong and my mother way overreacts to her and they really don't like each other. They can't get along until my sister makes a change. And I understand that probably won't happen.

Question: How do I tell my mother that I like to cross dress?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 09:17 AM PDT

I'm not gay i want to tell my mother because I think that she could help me with dressing in bras and dresses and wearing makeup I just need an easy way to tell her without provoking her Please Help

Question: How to deal with strict parent?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 09:12 AM PDT

Ok so my mom has these mood swings (from happy to extremely angry) and recently, they have gotten much worse. When she is angry, she yells at me (tells what a piece of sh*t I am, says that I am the reason that she is dying early, tells me how I will never get anywhere in life because of how stupid I am, etc..), she screams, and even throws shoes/other small objects at me. I believe that she is bipolar, but she has never been tested. How do I deal with this? I went to a counselor who wasn't much help, and my dad generally avoids any conflict between me and my mom, so he isn't much help either.

Question: Girlfriend beat by her father while I'm away?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 09:07 AM PDT

Hello. I've been with my girlfriend almost a year, we are extremely close and will probably marry one day. We are 23 years old and are still financially dependent of our parents. In the course of my girlfriend's childhood and adolescence, her father used to drink and beat her from time to time. He never beat her since we became a couple. A few days ago I took a flight to a distant country to visit my family, staying here for a month. The day after my departure she calls me and says her father beat her, and that she must get away. I'm drowning in frustration knowing he beat her right after I left, and there is nothing I can do to help her, I know of nobody who could help. Calling the police would probably be a wrong move, I don't want to destroy that family. From my distant location I can only wait for my return there to deal with him, but deal with him how ? Plus, my girlfriend is emotionally unstable, she keeps talking about suiciding, like her big sister has already try to do, without success. Her father is a violent and strong man, physically confronting him is a last resort, I'm no street fighter.

Question: Why does my mom jump to my cousin & not me?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 08:54 AM PDT

My cousin yes has special needs kids. But on top of it: none of them eat healthy, her house is a mess. Like gross a mess! Everyone week she has to run 1 of them to the ER or Doctor. (Family has some suspicions of her doing it for attention) I understand her not wanting to take other kids to the dr or ER. But she won't even drive there herself. It's to far and to "scary." It's honestly 20miles. Yes ok 8-10 are on a highway. But she's 45yrs old. Be an adult drive yourself. My mom drops everything to drive her. Keep her other kids. Calls off work to help her last minute. I suffer from migraines. Symptoms of: passing out, numbness in my face, tongue, hands, arms. Also can not speak or get out a full sentence to tell someone what is wrong. Throw up. I wouldn't be able to call 911, if I could I couldn't tell them my address or own name. I have 2 small kids & a husband who works swing shifts. My husband is gone 60-100+ hours a week. It's either work it or your fired. No there isn't other jobs in our area. I am on meds I text my mom last night 6pm I was having one. She said I was under to much stress. Next text feel better good night. My husband called at 9pm to see if she could come over till about midnight so he could go to work some switch shifts & get home. She didn't answer. She texted me at 11am today. Asked if I was going to a party next week. & could I RSVP for her. Why does her "emergency" rank higher then mine?

Question: Names for Aunty?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 08:54 AM PDT

So I already have the best ever 1 year old nephew and my sis is having another boy in October. "Aunty" is fine but I wouldn't mind something a little more unique. I'm 17 and like a 2nd mother so it doesn't need to be formal or generic. and I don't want them to call me TT or Tia Tati or anything like that. (no offense to anyone) It doesn't have to be related to the word "Aunt" at all. Even a candy name or something would work. I really appreciate all your help!!

Question: Is it wrong that I consider the day my father beat slapped my abusive mother in the face to be one of the best days of my life?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 08:48 AM PDT

My father disciples me but only when I do something wrong I have no problem with that but my mother tears into my skin with her nails every time I stand up for myself when my little sister bullies me (she doesn t attack her unless she does something really bad). So is it wrong that when my father had enough of watching her beat me that he finally slapped her in the face (first time he has ever hit a woman) and I wish he would do it again even though he regretted it and blamed me

Question: Mom's, Do you think 12 is a good age to explain rape to my daughter?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 08:40 AM PDT

My daughter came home yesterday from school and asked me what rape is. She said she heard these boys at school joking around about raping each other. I don't want her hearing anymore things at school about this and giving her the wrong idea. But is 12 a good age for this? I gave her the sex talk already when she was 10 because of this same issue. She had people at school talking about it so I told her so she knew the truth. I'm thinking yes since she's already hearing things but I'd like some advice from other moms out there. How should I talk to her about it? I don't want to scare her because she does tend to worry about certain things when I tell her. I talked to her about stranger danger when she was 4 and still to this day she clings to me in public. Any advice?

Question: How is your family getting in the spirit for Christmas?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 08:33 AM PDT

Question: Why is it hard for me and my father to see eye to eye?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 08:28 AM PDT

I love my dad and I don't hate him but sometimes it's hard for me and my dad to get a long. An example is that my father believes that once I become an adult I shouldn't go to college but I should just get a job in a factory and work the rest of my days in a factory and that's not what I want to do with my life. Now I am not gay but my father is old school and he believes that gay marriage is wrong where as I really don't care if someone is gay or not. Also my father believes that my generation is lazy which is not true, I am a hard worker, it's just my father doesn't see all the hard work I put into my community.

Question: My dad seen me naked (17 yr old male)?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 08:17 AM PDT

So the other day I went for a shower downstairs as I thought I was home alone. I came out of the bathroom completely nude and as I was throwing my towel into the washing machine my dad walked in the back door. He looked my up and down and obviously saw my dick. I said sorry and ran to my room. He hasn t mentioned it but I feel like I need to apologize, what do I do?

Question: My dad keeps masterbating and leaving stuff on the computer mouse?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 08:11 AM PDT

For months now I've come to use the computer to do my summer homework and everytime I touch the mouse it would be sticky. So I'd clean it off but then one morning when I forgot to do my homework I came down and there was grease next to the mouse. When I touched the mouse it was sticky again and when I looked I had green stuff on my hand. So I put 2 and 2 together and now I'm really grossed out. I'm 14 and I know it's normal but it I've had to clean up after him for months. How can I bring it up? It's getting really annoying and disgusting to go to use the computer and have stuff on the mouse. What can I say to him without making it even more awkward?

Question: I don't know what to do?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 08:11 AM PDT

I am a teen. I live in a large house with a big family. Two rooms in my house are so clutterd that you can't even take a step in these rooms. I am a perfectionist and sometimes just looking at these rooms I cry (it sounds so stupid). I ask my mom when she has time to work on these bedroom and she end up yelling at me saying how controlling and disrespectful I am. I can't clean these rooms be myself because it is mostly paperwork and thing that I don't know if I should throw away, give away, or keep things. Today, I tried to clean two paper bags full of paperwork and my mom ended up screaming at me. I was trying to help. She keeps the house clean where company sees, but everything else is a huge mess. She is never happy and acts so different when she is around people. My dad works very hard and he has given up on trying to get things done in the house because of this. My mom takes 2-3hour naps a day, and she has a healthy amount of sleep. When she is awake, she causes so much stress on me and my household. She is on Facebook a lot. People don't see what really happens in my household and I'm embarassed to go to anyone for help.

Question: My aunt kicked her daughter out of the house at age 20 and my other aunt took the girl in. Should the non-mother have interfered?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 08:10 AM PDT

Aunt A, the girl's mother who kicked her out and didn't even let her come home for Christmas last year said it was tough love for the girl's unmotivated ways and lies. Aunt B, the non-mother aunt of the girl and mine took the girl in and so the girl's mother is angry with Aunt B and sees her as an enabler. So is it enabling for this aunt to take this girl in? The girl is not threatening or anything but she is unmotivated. She also misleads the adults about what she is doing in life though I do not think she is a huge liar or anything but rather just lies a little more then average.

Question: HELP!!!!!My brother is in his early twenties.He is locked all day in his bedroom playing video games.He has no friends or girlfriend.?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 08:06 AM PDT

He only goes to the gym.He gets angry easily.How to help him??Its an emergency.

Question: Constantly thinking about how much I hate my mother, brother and his wife?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 07:59 AM PDT

They are really hateful and horrible people. Jealous and immature. In my mid twenties I lived with them a little while ago. My brothers fat, short, jealous ugly wife literally opened her mouth saying I barely have family, while she's living with my mother! And has two kids (with my brother, whom never left home and always talked bad about me behind my back). I cringe at the lies and hate they tell themselves to feel better about their miserable lives. I've lived on another continent for 6 months, and I'm the first (and only) to attend college. This lousy bxtch Called me miserable. Saying I need to get laid, not realizing that's only a problem for ugly bxtches like herself. Mother and brother both put their hands on me, embarrassing me, and showing out for this bxtch. I think the part o hate the most is that they did this little sh!i show in front of my 12 yr old sister and I'm afraid both her and my 11 year old brother will turn out like them. Foolish, hateful, ignorant, no life goals. I've since moved out but can't stop thinking of all the hateful things I wish I said BACK to them. I just wish for my brother (who's a year younger) to get his *** kicked by a real man, in front of his kids. I want that bxtch to regret her life, and my mother can rot in hell for being a bxtch jealous of her own daughter from day 1. Help? Most of you are a$$holes so far, Thanks. These are my private thoughts I struggle with, I want help deleting the negativity, I have walked away (buts its more than putting physical distance, how can I mentally erase, its' not who I am.

Question: How do I get my parents to listen to me?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 07:59 AM PDT

Recently, I ve quit a sport I no longer enjoyed. With the new time on my hands, I wanted to take up fencing. I ve wanted to fence for years, but I never talked to my parents about it seriously. Now that I have, they don t seem to care. I asked respectfully, and they simply said, "we are not it the financial situation for you to start it, you ll have to pick something else." I was frustrated, but I understood. Then, the next day, my mother signed up for voice recording lessons and my father spent more on guitar lessons. It seems we have the means to do all sorts of things except for what I would like to do. I ve always been cut short because of other people wants. I stopped dance to afford my sisters college, and soccer so my parents didn t have to travel. how can I get them to understand what I m asking and respect me?

Question: How do I avoid being blackmailed by the cousin of my mother's boyfriend (long time significant other)?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 07:53 AM PDT

So 13 years ago in 2003 I was in high school and made a fool of myself. My mother's cousin was leaving her husband of almost 20 years for this guy she'd met at the beach and was having an affair with (at least an emotional affair). My mother was furious as her cousin was her best friend and my mother probably got too involved in the situation and I followed suit. I called the boyfriend up rather then my mother's cousin and dug into the guy with sexual profanity (I was a high school freshman). When the guy accused me of thinking I am holier then though I said "I am not a saint either, I have ......" and shared stuff I would be embarrassed for people in the extended family to know. I also shared something an older sibling did that my mother NEVER should have told me. So 13 years later my mother's cousin (now divorced) is still with this guy though they never have married. I apologized 7 years ago to this guy for the scene I made during a manic spell (I am Bipolar). What do I do if this guy starts sharing with people things I shared? What do I do if my brother finds out I shared his secret? After 13 years how do I get over this fear he will do this as my father says not a chance (but my father can't stand this guy)? I am mainly worried people will no longer like me if this guy shares things I said. I have only seen this man 3 times in the years since so I don't know him well as this cousin is not as close as she once was (though I still like her). Also do I keep apologizing or was the one apology enough? My Dad says the one is fine. The man is older so when he dies I plan to issue a 2nd apology to the cousin in my condolence note. NOTE---This man never threatened to black mail accept the day after my beligerent phone message he said he recorded it and would mail it to my parents and grandparents (I assume he meant the ones he had met) and my school principal. But that was 13 years ago. Man has been polite as have I the 3 times we have met since.

Question: My fiancé asked me for gas money I put $15 in his tank and asked to borrow $11 for a car part. M family flipped out and said he is a mooch.?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 07:51 AM PDT

My fiance doesn't mind spending money on me and if anything he just got a good job and he is buying me a $300 plane ticket to fly to Georgia. He has never asked me for a lot of money if anything when he had an issue finding a job after getting out of the military he would ask me to order him pizza but would feel ashamed. He always said if you don't want to then don't. He would go days without eating and I would bring him food and he would get so upset with me until I assured him that it's not an issue. I don't feel like I'm being used at all. He is a great guy and always treats me well. This is the first time he asked me for money. My family thinks it's an issue but I think should mind their own business. I never told him he did. Do you think it's an issue? I grew up in an old fashion household in which my dad paid for everything.

Question: Skool starts on Monday, my dad says if I fail this year I will be kicked out of the house! That's not fair!?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 07:51 AM PDT

OK, hear is how it is. I am 17 an going into my sophmoar year for the third year in a row cause I failed the last two times. I herd my dad say that since I can only stay in skool until I am 21, if I fail again I will not be able to graduate cause I can't stay in skool long enough! Then to make the camels back broke worst, he said if I fail my skool again he is going to kick me out of the house! I said he could not that is child abuse an he said that if I fail this year I will be 18 an he can kick me out legal if he wants to an I ran bawling to mom an she locked herself in the bath room an was in their barfing. I hate my life, all my friends are not my friends anymore cause there all out of school now an I feel like a idiot. People at school is always making fun of me an calling me retard. I'm not even in special ed! Mom an dad won't buy me nothin no more they buy me $7 shoes at Wall Mart an the cheapest clothes an stuff an no video games or nothin so I get no respect at skool I am the laughing stalk of the school! I have now been in high school for 3 years an have 3 years to go an have NEVAR had a girl friend, they make fun of me cause I have curly red hair an I stink some times cause I have gas or forget to ware deorderent. They say I'm fat an ugly an gross. Stupid whore sluts! I hate my life!

Question: She ask alot of questions?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 07:47 AM PDT

She knows I'm seeing someone else and constantly wants details about when I see this other woman. They only live a few blocks from each other and she claims that she always knows when I'm with the other woman. I told her I was spending the night at my moms house last night. I even talked to her until 11 pm last night. When she called this morning my phone was off. The alarm went off and I told her that I turned the phone off at the same time that I turned off he alarm. She didn't believe me and started asking if I decided to drive back over east, which is where her and this young lady live. She was asking me about the traffic and where I was. I got annoyed and told her to have a nice day at work and that I will talk to her later. She text me telling me to have a good day and said that I already know that she knows. I don't understand why she spends so much time worrying about what I'm doing with this other woman. She wants me to tell her every time I spend the night with her but why does she want to know? Almost everyday she threatens to break up with over this but I'm not letting her go. Why does she keep asking me so many questions?

Question: My dad never makes me anything to eat and my mom is at work all the time, my granny is also never at home and I haven't eaten for 5 hours.?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 07:44 AM PDT

Question: My brother is in drug rehab for the 3rd time, should I expect he will fail and relapse again?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 07:43 AM PDT

He is moving to a different area afterward this time rather then coming back to the same old people. However, he is still a drifter with women based on his social media posts.

Question: My mother and maternal grandmother are in disagreement over whether I should marry, do I need to listen to them since I am 31?

Posted: 09 Aug 2016 07:42 AM PDT

My family on my mother's side has this weird control thing. I don't want to marry. Too many divorces and I have anxiety problems. My mother says I need to, my grandmother says I should be a nun (Nuns can't marry). I just want to be single and not a nun. In my family the older generation decides on my mother's side. My brother broke up with his girlfriend he was about to purpose to because while my mother approved my mother's father did not. My Mom filed for divorce from our Dad because her parents asked her to since he drank too much. I am 31 and my grandparents must give my mother permission for my mother to grant me permission to go see my father, step-mother, and his family at holidays like Christmas or Thanksgiving so that the timing does not interfere with their celebration (often I am denied permission). I am tired of this weird cult like rule. So is this normal? Should I listen or since I am 31 is it okay for me to decide? Same with things like visiting my father on holidays or how I dress?