My wife and I are newlyweds. We both love kids and I've been anxious to have kids even moreso than her. I'm 30 and she's 26 so we planned on waiting a few years. My wife is finishing up her last year of grad school and working full time. But there has been an immense amount of stress on her due to a lot going on with her immediate family -- her mother had brain surgery, her father attempted suicide, her sibling is going through an ugly divorce, and lots of other drama with the extended family. When we were about to have sex recently, my wife suggested we not use protection and try to conceive a baby. I was really taken aback because this was never anything that she wanted for at least the next 2-3 years. Like I said, I love kids and am ready but I want her to be ready too and not just use a baby as a distraction from her family. She seems really confused and sad, but I don't want to conceive a baby that she may get upset at me for later because it deters us from our original plan. I feel like she is in so much pain from her own family that I don't know how to bring this up without upsetting her further.

The other day my boyfriend and i were just having a casual conversation about his daily driver truck and the mini truck he is currently building. Thats when he said "When i get married I'm making her sign a prenup, no questions asked, she aint gettin my trucks" it didn't really bother me when he said it because he has a lot of his own hard earned money invested into both his trucks, but specifically his mini truck. but the more i think about it, should i be worried? is it a sign he may not completely trust me if we do decide to get married? Not to mention he has $50 Grand invested in his mini truck. So i don't really blame him wanting to protect that with a prenup.

I can cook a lot of different foods, like chicken wings, morrocan lamb, fish etc, ALOT of different dishes, but isn't that kind of feminine for a man to know how to cook? if I were to marry and I done the cooking, would that put my wife off?

This guy has been visiting with me for nearly 2 years at work. He's almost 10 years younger than me, but I really enjoy talking with him. I'm almost to the point of asking him out since he hasn't yet. The only thing is how much he talks about money, how he saves money, how much everything costs, how he finds ways to save money, how Mondays are half priced nights at a burrito place, etc. Even today, he said he was going to a family reunion, and to save money, he's going to share a hotel room with his parents. He's 30 y/o, and I think that's a bit much. What if his parents wanted to "hook up" while there? I'm all for a financially savvy man as I'm thrifty also, but it just comes off cheap when he talks about money and how he's trying to get discounts everywhere. I mean, I can only assume that he'll be taking me to Half Price Burrito Mondays if we started dating. Should I just move on?

My mother and father are planning to divorce after I graduate High School. It's been decided on that for a while and noting the events throughout my life I can see why they want to separate. I'm worried about my mother, she has always adamantly refused to learn English or Drive (two giant essentials to live in the US) thus leaving my father to be the only money-bringer. Her education was not finished, or if it was then it's not adequate. She plans to be deported back to India after demanding my father for a house and car. My father can afford that much for her but she won't be able to keep up with the expenses, she's really only thinking about short sighted future with impulse decisions. My mother basically has the mentality of a village teenager/auntie and the only thing that really concerns her is the past apparently (she yells at my father "Why did you come to marry me?!" [as most marriages in India;there's was arranged]) But she always cooks for us, takes care of the dogs,cleans the house, and domestic etc. Also, she hates me. Actually hates me, treats me more as an associate than a daughter. I am the offspring of a hated man. She must harbor some sort of affection for me though, it's visible in subtle ways like always asking me to eat I guess. I hope it is. I love both of my parents, but does this seem right to you? Is it wrong for an Indian MIT equivalent graduate to divorce his wife if she's like this? I have my own opinion but I want some answers from other people.

I still don't understand what happened, a month ago, this girl i was dating suddenly cancelled our date, went and had drinks with her male coworkers, turned her phone off and didn't even tell me where she was, i got in a fight with her that night, I had no idea what happened to her. Two days before everything was fine. She then said i'm controlling etc. I actually feel like i was the rebound. she works with her ex and she was in a four year relationship and he hurt her, but she kept going back to him, she broke up with him four months before dating me. So my question is: Did she leave me for him or another guy? I just don't understand. It's been a month, i haven't said a word to her, she just said happy b day to me by text and that's all. I don't know what happened and I just want an answer. I guess she wasn't the one but why so sudden? Was there a guy at that event she met? Why did she lie about it? Update: We dated for three months, but there were red flags, such as not introducing me to her friends, not committing, etc. Has anyone else experienced this? Was I a rebound? Or too controlling? I just told her what I want in life, not that she couldn't do anything she wanted, I just wanted someone who wants same things I do. She was always saying 'i'm afraid' and "i have mental problems" etc about herself, she kept saying she had mental problems....She was afraid. etc. Maybe the ex came back? I don't know, all I want is to find out what happened. I really don't understand.

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my husband has been saying things to my 7 yr old to make him think that he doesnt want him. My son even said that "He hates us " and "Im leaving with you" My husband has told our son that he was going to kick him out and call the police. Gods sake, he's only 7. He also told my son that if he leaves he is going to get rid of all his toys. I think this is emotional abuse and it's time to leave..what do you think?

my friend is getting married, im her maid of honor, this is what shes planning to have at her wedding: Lasagna, ceasar salad and garden salad, brocolli and cheese, green beans, fruit salad, soda and juice, and instead of opening up a bar she would have beer, wine, wine coolers, and an alcoholic punch. also does she need her liquor license to serve alcoholic punch? and what about beer and wine? that is okay no matter where it is right?

When you get married in the military, Do most couples stay together even though you and your spouse decided to marry just for the benefits and to help each other out. I asked this because I recently just got married to my best friend, we've known each other since we were kids and he trusted me to do this. We've had intimacy numerous times, spent time together and etc. He said he wants us to stay married until I graduate which will be 3 1/2 years from now. We're both the same age and he also said I can keep his last name if I wanted to. We both said that we love each other and he's stationed in Texas and I live in California. He leaves for Korea in January. He's very proud of me and is very supportive. He's given some of his stuff to keep to remember him by, he treats me so good and we have a lot in common. Our families know each other and our moms are best friends. talked about kids and the future but I'm just curious to know, Do you think he'll want to stay married to me after I graduate? Thanks in advance.

I knew a few people who have gotten a divorce and remarried to people they've actually love longer then their previous spouse. Does a divorce and remarry commit a sin? And I know people who've spouse's has died and has found another one to love and then be married again but with a different spouse. Does remarrying after a spouse's death commit a sin?

This guy has been visiting with me for nearly 2 years at work. He's almost 10 years younger than me, but I really enjoy talking with him. I'm almost to the point of asking him out since he hasn't yet. The only thing is how much he talks about money, how he saves money, how much everything costs, how he finds ways to save money, how Mondays are half priced nights at a burrito place, etc. Even today, he said he was going to a family reunion, and to save money, he's going to share a hotel room with his parents. He's 30 y/o, and I think that's a bit much. What if his parents wanted to "hook up" while there? I'm all for a financially savvy man as I'm thrifty also, but it just comes off cheap when he talks about money and how he's trying to get discounts everywhere. I mean, I can only assume that he'll be taking me to Half Price Burrito Mondays if we started dating. Should I just move on?

IN addition to the fact that she had sex with them often. Also these 2 killers planned on murdering Joyce's husband http://www.cnn.com/2015/06/29/us/new-york-prison-break/index.html

Hello, Here's the problem. My wife has asked me to fund £25,000 and she will hopefully become a Dentist. However, I have saved that money so we can move out from my parent home. On the other hand, my mother does not consent that my wife should study because the duration of the course is 5 years. ( Also, my mother feels that once my wife becomes a Doctor, she will look down on me ). We do have a 5 months old son. Thank you. Thanks you for your replies. I live in the Uk, my wife she lives in Pakistan. In Pakistan, it's private so there is no support in place for students. Whereas, in the UK, we can get funding. Those may ask, why do we live in two different countries, the answer is, we have submitted her case to the embassy and waiting for them to get back to us which could take more than a year or so.

I'm asking because my best friend recently eloped with a guy who she's been dating less than a year, engaged to a month, and she's 19 years old. I want to be happy for her and I am, but at the same time I want whats best for her and I don't think this is it. She dropped out of school, works at Walmart, and she couldn't even afford a wedding ceremony and just decided to go down to city hall and get married this past week. I'm happy she found someone because she deserves happiness but I'm afraid it will end badly. Is this too young to be married or am I just a prude?

Im a decent, God fearing woman. I love my husband dearly and I would never do anything to ever disrespect or hurt him. Recently we changed city. Most of the people in our communal are not so friendly and have issues with one another.There is this guy that is always so nice and respectful. He is good looking about the same age as me.I have always just greeted him and never engaged in more than that, out of respect because Im married and also because I sensed he has this strong attraction to me when we make eye contact. I feel so awkward when ever we bump in to each other and I try so hard to stop my self from blushing. He chats some time with my husband and once told him that all of the women in the communal where we live are sluts because they sell their bodies and smoke marijuana(beside me). I noticed that he never greets or speaks to the other woman, just only me and he makes it so very obvious. I sometimes see him looking at my husband and I when we walk together, he always waves hands at both of us, but he cant stop staring at me and giving me this look like " I wish you was mine".I also feel this physical attraction to him and I see we have a lot in common for some things, but I love my husband and would never leave him or cheat on him.I canst stop thinking about this guy and hos interest in me has given me an ego boost as I was so depressed when we changed city. Im praying to God to help him find a decent woman in his life. I also prayed for strength for myself. Today I heard that he is leaving in two days and getting relocated to another city. I feel God has answered my prayers, but I don't know why I teared a little today. I realized that I will not see him again and it feels really horrible. Today I heard that he is leaving in two days and getting relocated to another city. I feel God has answered my prayers, but I don't know why I teared a little today. I realized that I will not see him again and it feels really horrible.

I've been married 12 years. Im 33 he's 42. We have 2 beautiful girls 7 and 11. After a long military career my husband retired last year... he was gone a lot on deployments and different assignments around the world and around the country, so out of the 12 yrs that we've been married, but all together we have actually lived in the same home about 6yrs. I love him very much and he's a great person, he's great friend and a wonderful father to his girls. But in the last few years he became less active because of different injuries due to his type of work he gain tons of weight which in turn made his injuries worst. I have become a bit resentful because I feel like we should be able to do more things together and he has become uninterested because of his weight gain, things like helping with the girls, helping around the home and of course sex. I feel like this is his prime he should be more involved more active. we are now having sex once every 4-6 weeks like its chore. he admitted that his appearance bothered him which in turn made him a bit uninterested in sex. I can't fix that for him as much as I want to. Its a conglomerate of issues that have made me just not attracted to him anymore... I feel bad for feeling this way but I don't know what to do. I've tried to work out with him, diet with him we tried all types of things and he goes back to what he's used to which involve poor diet, smoking and chewing tobacco. P.S - I have always been faithful until now

for example lets say a girl before her 18th bday has already slept with 5 or more people all older than her. would her sexual past affect her marriage would it affect her sex life with her husband would she ever flashback to those experiences she has had with other men or even worse think of the other men while shes with you?

WTF? Is wrong with me I like to buy my wife flowers even if its not her birthday or Valentines Days I will skip watching the football game to spend time with my wife even though I like to watch football I go to things or partys with my wife even though I am a introvert and more of a homebody. I respect my wife treat her like a princess and do my best to make her happy. If I want to buy something for myself or do something for myself I would rather do something nice for my wife. I write romantic letters or leave message around the house saying how much she means to me and that I love her. I get up early every morning to make coffee not because I like to drink it but because she drinks it. I always remember her birthday, the first day we meet even though she doesn't remember me that was the day that changed my life forever, even our anniversary and even how many years we were married. I will go see all the chick flicks with her if she asked me to. I would be heartbroken if anything were to happen to her and would not want to go on I would die for her. These and so many other things, so I gotta ask WTF is wrong with me?

We been thru alot lately we been thru money situations. He has two kids with his first marriage and the ex and him fighting for custody. We have a son that's four months. He has two jobs and just come home to sleep. I'm always alone. He's only off weekend. We don't even talk sometimes when he gets home and haven't seen each other. I feel like I should just leave him. I don't even know if he's cheating on me while he's gone for work all day long. It's just all in my mind I feel like I'm no one in the relationship. It's so hard when you have a baby between all this I really don't know what to do. I have tried and talk to him many times and I always end up crying and upset. Idk what to do any advice?

My husband works out of town a lot. During the time he is out of town, he watches porn; almost on a daily basis. I've told him this doesn't bother me, especially since he doesn't (that I know of) watch it when he is home with me. However, recently it has started to bother me. Especially since he admitted that he fantasizes about these women. He thinks it's weird and doesn't believe that I never fantasize about other men. Do most people fantasize about other people than their partner? Does that mean they aren't satisfied with what they have?

Hi, I would like to share some of my real think which I like to share, I had love my wife before marriage ie 1999, we were affair of love from 1990 to 1995, but when I was gone to outside of my state for higher educational purposes she had loved with her cousin brother, which I came to know vary late, and she did sex with him like her husband, but when I came to my home on vacation she didn't told me that fact, so at that time she ignored me, but as I love her deep of my heart I aloway ignored her miss behave, but when after my completion of higher education n got job at reputed Co I asked her for our marriage, then she told me the all facts which I can't share all to urs, any way after knowing all the facts I told her I will marry her if she do sex with other man infront of me,though fist she hagetatte bud did sex with her another relative, which I saw behind the hidden screen, which excited lot n fill okay, so I asked her to the same with at list 3 more man then only I will marry her other wise I will not,so according to my wishes she did sex with 5 man, n accordingly we got married, after marriage I allow her to sex with any one she like sometimes she did sex according to my wishes, still I fill thrill when she do sex with other young man, is it affect my day to day life as we have now 2 kids, plus advise the

I have to go anon due to being a recognizable user in here... I need advice badly. My husband has a history of drinking too much at his softball tournaments. He does not drink heavily day to day, just when in the company of his friends. Long story short, he was arrested for drunk driving on Saturday night and while I was absolutely livid, I was also thrilled... thinking this was the wakeup call he needed to change his ways. We have discussed my displeasure with him coming home drunk before, don't even get me started on the buzzed/drunk driving part... but it's always the same old "I'm sorry honey I'll be more mindful next time" which never happens. So I get the phone call that he is being held at the police station. I decide I'm not going to go get him. Why? Tough love. He needed the wakeup call. His friend ended up picking him up a few hours later, he went to bed (still drunk and reeking of booze) and passed out. The next morning his memory was foggy (telling me he way overdid it) and only after me walking him through last nights events again did he suddenly get mad at me for not running to his rescue. We got into a big argument over how he needs to go to AA (he refuses, saying he's "not that bad"), he needs to change, he doesn't respect me by ignoring my pleas, how terrible I feel wondering if he's going to kill himself or someone else when he drives home drunk, etc. And all along, he kept shifting the blame on me and saying I am going against our vows of for better or for worse by not picking him up from jail. Any advice? For dealing with someone who denies the problem and shifts blame? I love him and want to work through it with him, not looking to divorce over this... but I know our marriage could fall apart if this happens again

it doesn't seem to bother her

I mean.. my husband was on business for a few nights last week.. he sent a text message prior to boarding his plane home asking me if I would wait up for him.. so I did.. But as soon as he came home he didn't want to tell me about his trip or chat or anything, he just climbed into bed and began kissing me.. And afterwards he immediately fell asleep.. How can a wife not feel like a sex doll?

My parents have a lovely marriage, married for 31 years. I don't have any friends or people close to me that have went though bad experiences with marriage. I've been uncontrollably anxious and emotional lately as my relationship gets more serious. I can get small panic attacks and crying spurts. I've been researching, and there is a fear of marriage, but how did I get it? Why is this happening to me? Why am I so terrified of marriage? I don't believe in living together, I'm a spiritual person. I don't believe in living together, I'm a spiritual person. Why did it post an update twice? Yahoo is glitchy today. Sorry about that. "As for being a "spiritual person", that's fine, but that has nothing to do with choosing to live together (outside of marriage) or not. Cohabiting is certainly the best way to determine if a couple is compatible day-to-day" Actually, yes it does. "55 percent of cohabitating couples get married within five years of moving in together. Forty percent of couples who live together break up within that same time period. " Annual Review of Sociology" It's not just who I'm dating, I've had this fear in my past relationships as well. It's just more prominent because this is the most serious relationship I have been in. PLEASE READ: The level 7 users are being a jack*ss and changing my category all the time to category this question does not belong in! If you are one of the ignorant level 7 a**holes, I will find you and I will report you. I'm sick of this s*it! I've already emailed yahoo about this f*cked up decision! If this question is in any other category besides "Marriage & Divorce," than it was changed again. IF YOU DON'T STOP CHANGING MY CATEGORY I WILL FIND YOUR IP ADDRESS AND REPORT YOU FOR HARASSMENT!!! FORGET IT!!! I'M NEVER USING YAHOO AGAIN!!! WORST DECISION EVER YAHOO!!!!!

I don't want my ex wife back, i just think about her sometimes, i even miss her!

I got married within the year and was laughing with a friend recently over how sometimes I wonder if my husband even knows my real first name ;)

hi weve been married for five years and he slept with two other women last week i dont really care but i dont know if it counts as cheating or not apparetly your meant to divorce them if they cheat on me thanks wait were not married nevermind

This weekend /i was filling my husband in on some juicy gossip I had heard. A guy my husband used to work with has been seen cheating on his fiancee by 2 different friends of ours. My husband replied "well, I heard she has put on a lot of weight recently. Not that that's an excuse, but if you don't want your man cheating on you, you've got to at least attempt to stay attractive for him." To which I said, "No... if you are not attracted to your significant other and want to sleep with other people, then you should break up with them. Not cheat on them." He didn't really have a reply to that.

My husband who is unemployed and married for the past 2 years, stole my entire bank balance of $35000 which was my entire savings after getting married to him minus our house expenses. As soon as he stole the amount, he got a good job in another state and moved there, while I continued in our old state. After a month, I saw the bank transactions and saw that he transferred to his new account. When asked about it, he is not ready to give it back and doesn t want to live with me either. He is now in a good job and could have earned this stolen amount in 3-4 months. He now has assets to give back my money and all the money I spend for his education and Visa processing...How do I handle him?

My husband is addicted to sex and is always so h*rny but I am not! For example, the kids had just left for school and I was doing the dishes (I'm a housewife). My husband was supposed to go to work (he was already late) but instead he seduced me and we had sex for thirty minutes. There's a lot of traffic where I live, so he got to work an hour late! This happens often and it's beginning to worry me. Help! This is worrying me, because it seems like all he wants is sex. I feel like this marriage's foundation is sex and that's not what I want.

I've been married for three years and have a 2 yr old baby girl. She got fed up of my workaholism and asked me for a divorce. I cried and pleaded her not to as I love her and our daughter very much. But it turned out that she has been sleeping with another man who gave her a lot of attention. I have no choice but to agree for the divorce. She says that she will be marrying this guy and plans to leave this country with him. She threatens me not to see my daughter again. What do I do? I love my baby very much and want to be with her as her daddy hero. Can she leave my country and go to the U.S along with my daughter?

My husband was unfaithful during our engagement. We got through this and had a wonderful wedding day. He was loving and attentive for the first month but now he is very distant. He leaves the room or turns away when I dress/undress. Won't come to bed until I am asleep and freezes if I try to cuddle him on the sofa. When I tried to discuss this he said it was my fault for being too needy. The other day I found that he walked up the road from the house in order to phone another women in secret. I believe in fighting for marriage but he refuses to engage until I threaten to leave at which point he is full-on. However after a couple of weeks he reverts to the same behaviour. Its the worse possible Groundhog Day.

But, was unsucceful She has told me many times they did have sex only to take it back every time would you believe her? .

Let me give you some background first. I'm 16 and male. My dad had an affair when I was 6. It spit the family apart. We moved to the US from India to get away from it. My mom, sister and I have become our own unit within the family and take care of each other. Dad is like a tangent, and causes problems every once in a while. He recently told my mom that he actually didn't want to marry her (even though he proposed) and that he only went through with it because his relatives said it was too late to back off. My sister and I have had to fill his role. If my mom's crying about something, it's us that has to go and cry with her and comfort her. And I'm like a father figure for my sister. As a result of what's happened, I don't believe in marriage or kids. The men in my family are not reliable, and I don't want to continue the cycle. And besides, my future wife will cheat on me even if I'm a great, loving person like my mom. Boredom sets in. Despite this, the idea of marriage has fascinated me. It says a lot about human psychology and I started paying attention to my parents' marriage (which seems peaceful on a superficial level). And what I realized after observing them and also reading about psychology and seduction is that marriage is like an antidote to people. People are riddled with their own vanities and insecurities. With my mom, it's spirituality, and with my dad, it's his past and his father. And if you play to these vanities, you can get on their good side. The person you marry is supposed to put all of this to rest, taking you to another world where you feel fine and everything's okay. I read about cheating, specifically cheating women (like http://goo.gl/yCz2uq ), and it struck me how selfish people are. The idea of love as this romantic, passionate experience doesn't seem real. When you're young, the world is at your feet, and people get married to feel young. They want the same passion and the same liveliness, and when when they aren't "fulfilled", they cheat. What strikes me is that some people actually have the audacity to believe that they even deserve to be fulfilled. There's no selflessness. I don't believe in the death penalty, but I think it's okay with adulterers. Keeping all this in mind, do you care more about your marriage or your spouse? Or in other worlds, is what your marriage offers you more or less important than what the person you're married to means to you? I'm just looking for some perspective, because my own cynicism is starting to bore me. Thanks for listening.

About a month ago I was caught "cheating" - talking to another man. There wasn't sexual conversation, Some emotional cheating I suppose nothing physical. My husband accused me of cheating since we got together due to his insecurities and troubled past. I've never done anything like this before!! I actually can't believe I did.......We are having a lot of issues but trying to work through it. The thing is I can't get this other guy out of my head. It's not like I met him. We only talked for maybe 2 and 1/2 weeks. My husband is controlling and insecure and he's not working on our relationship if feels like I'm working my *** off and he's reaping the benefits........ We've been together 18 years and have a 10year old that would be crushed if we split!! How do I stop thinking about the "other" guy and move on. Either with my husband or on my own.........I guess I'm getting to the point in my life where my happiness and feeling truly loved and supported is very important to me!! Any advise is welcome.......

The story starts in 2012. I stumbled upon a conversation wif her colleague has things like "I miss u" (he said to her), and "I wish to have sex with you" (he to her) and "yours is not big" (her to him). I did not confront her. Then, 1 day, a common friend told me that she had on October 2012, during her company trip, had cheated on me where her colleague (same guy) had touched her breast and kissed her leg. To which I confronted her, and she admits, but she promised nothing happened more than that. He only touched her bra. She promised to stay away from him, and I forgave her. In 2014, I found out that she was still talking to him and one day I checked her phone (yes, im a jerk) and discovered that she told a female friend of hers that he had always tried to touch her breast and hand. And I also discovered he had been getting dinner or having dinner with her if she work late. I confronted her, and eventually forgave her. In May 2015, upon returning home i saw she quickly off her phone. I asked her who it was, and after a long argument, she confessed it was the same guy. After deliberation, I forgive her and tell her that it is the LAST chance I am giving her. Few days later, I found she had talked to an online friend, where he told her to masturbate, and telling her how to do it etc. I confronted her, and she said it was all for her to learn better skills etc on bed with me. Eventually forgive her as it happened BEFORE I gave her the LAST chance. Cont. I guess I had to say my weakness now, where I am a busy man, and had not given her enough bed pleasures and yea, I admit, I am not as lovey-dovey as I was. It changed after I know she cheated on me the first incident in 2012 (company trip). Though I am treating her not as good, but still I love her a lot… I am sooo confused… what am I supposed to do? Am I wrong to forgive her? Will she do it again? Oh yea, we have a daughter back in 2012. That's what's keeping me not to divorce her.

Our sex has always been amazing in every single aspect. We have been tohether for going on 12 yrs. He knows just how to please me,all my likes and dislikes. He asked me to be honest about the affair,I was. I've told my husband I wouldn't change anything bout our sex life or size. He said now that I know you've had better,I can't compete. Which I never said it was better cuz it wasn't. Coming close to my partner yes. PLEASE NO JUDGEMENTAL ANSWERS OR COMMENTS. WEVE BOTH MADE MISTAKES IN OUR MARRIAGE.

My husband was having an affair after our engagement and I came to know after our marriage , He still talks to that Woman and Fights with me ... I m very hurt , I want him to realize somethings ...

My husband and i got married 9 months ago, our marriage isn't working out and we are currently separated. I want to get a divorce but i don't know what will happen with the petition. Help!