I dated a married guy who said he would move out and leave his wife. I was just so caught up in the moment. The guy was so forceful, persistent, fast moving and manipulative. I hate him. I saw him for months and i gave him hell all the time. The situation was driving me crazy that i cursed him out every week. He never spent time with his wife. Finally its done. I just read up on what the Bible says about adultery & i think i am experiencing Karma. Ever since i met this man i have been going crazy trying to figure out of hes serious or not, going back and forth with my feelings, i lost my job and now i am having a hard time finding another one. I feel so insecure about myself now. I think he purposely was trying to make me feel insecure. I am a strong willed person but whenever i displayed any sort of strong will behavior he would try to make it seems that i shouldn't be acting that way. I wish i never met this guy. It's my fault just as much as it is his fault. I am so ashamed because i always told myself that i would never do something like this. I am fearful because i will never forget that i once slept and hoped for a relationship with someone who's married. I feel like the guilt will always be here for the rest of my life. I feel stupid, ashamed, and insecure. I think God's punishing me. I am not a bad person at all. So sad right now. I have never felt like this on my life. I can normality brush things off without a care in the world. But i keep dwelling on this.

Actually I don't even go looking for a relationship. If one started by coming on to me then I tend to attempt to at least hold on to it I am so alone feeling in life and ive been dealing with that for a long time. I don't doubt that guys can feel insecure but he's not been giving to me on a personal level. I don't believe I've ever felt completely secure in a relationship particularly when it comes to his "love" and "respect" for me. He seems to always believe his self is the biggest priority. I do not also care to make friends. I'd want a guy to take me seriously and truely love respect and understand me. I keep being alone and often more stressed out than I even realise. Worsely the guys who say they don't want to talk or get together after coming on to me come around again I appreciate theyd still think of me even a little, but even when I state my standards and desires I get ignored It seems like a waste of time completely. They keep blocking me out and trying to "call the shots " I'm 30 years old. Familiar with being feeling alone. I'm really done with the shItty nonsense I don't want to talk if they don't understand. How do I get them to take me Seriously? If I am so used to being alone you'd think I don't need or want a relationship...how do I communicate so they CARE about ME?

I allow my son to have a naked porn girl as his wallpaper on his phone and posters in his room I'm a mother who feels he should express him self would like a second opinion

They share custody over he kids, however my concern is he pays child support by means of cash. He gets them anything they need and always takes them out to the movies and all kinds of fun stuff to keep them entertained. So I just want to know if having no actual documents or proof of child support would affect his chances of keeping his ex wife from moving to another state. Thank you.

Back in 2011, I found a suspicious call to a man. It was like 2am and lasting over 30 mins, just believe it was once or twice. I confronted my wife and she said it was her friend using the phone to call the stud. A few years later, I confronted the friend (they shortly stopped being friends after I found about the call). The former friend said a different story, which involved my wife seeing the man, which my wife denies any wrong doing, as far as I know it was just a kiss and proactive dancing nothing more. But who to believe ? Why would her friend lie ? Nothing to lose

I have been married for 12 years recently separated about 7 months. I tried almost everything to make relationship work but obviously he wanted to try out the single life as he had no objections to me moving out. Hasn't really talked to me about our relationship and always avoided any text I sent regarding it. We have 1 kid and that is the main reason I wanted to try so hard. I do feel like there is no reason I can trust him again unless he puts in a ton of effort to regain my trust. Within the last few weeks I have met a guy who may have some potential to help me move on but at the same time afraid to pursue anything because now my husband is saying we should take a family trip together and try to start over. He doesn't know about this guy so it's not because he's seeing me with someone else. My delimina is that the new guy seems too good to be true but I don't want to not see what it can be. My husband knows I'm not willing to make our marriage work anymore unless he proves to me that he is all in and knows we need counseling I also don't want to hurt a potentially great guy if I decide to go to make it work with my family. For about 5 months he paid no interest and right at the moment I meet someone I'm stuck in this. I feel bad because I'm still legally married but I also don't want to continue to put my life on hold while my husband decides what he wants to do. I haven't slept with the new guy yet but I have been on some great dates. He's someone interested in me

I ask cause I wonder if this woman is revealing to much to me. She tells me about her mom's overseas trip, how her husband is freaking out that they are not conceiving and blaming her, how her mum got postnatal depression and she is worried she will get it, that her sister in law got a miscarriage. These are ppl that I don't really know so should she be talking to me about them? She seems to tell me everything that is going on in her life. Do you girls do that sort of things with straight guys?

There is some speculation that when the U.S. Supreme Court soon decides this case that it might choose to render a compromise decision, for example, allowing states that have banned same-sex marriage to continue to disallow issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples, but instead force those states to recognize the validity of same-sex marriages obtained in other states where the marriages are allowed. Do you believe that would be an effective compromise or would it just continue to muddy the legal waters (so to speak)? Why or why not?

I have 3 kids 17, 14 and 10 and I found out my 14 year old loves the actress Selena Gomez so much that he has 3 full size posters over his bed of Selena Gomez wearing a short dress and tight jeans. In every posters she's teasing the camera with her bare feet his older sister saw the poster and started teasing him about it, but my son loves Selena Gomez. Later he was watching one of his DVD of Selena Gomez Spring Breakers I think she making-out with some guy on the beach warring almost nothing and than it was outtakes and she was getting tickled on her bare feet for almost a minute from some guy on the film you could hear here high pitch laugh kinda cute. One of first TV shows I saw of Selena Gomez on Disney when she was a teenager it was a family show where in one scene she was teasing her little brother like big sisters do making him believe that he was adopted freaking the little brother out. It was a great funny show but now she's all grown up! I feel like she's teasing my son in his room looking down on him with that sexy smile and he plays her videos non stop. I was wondering is Selena Gomez good role model for my 14 year old son? Is Selena Gomez just air-head?

I confessed to her that I made out with some one 7 yrs ago and she had no reaction. She hasn't mentioned it, please females respond only, just worried

My ex is getting married this winter and he's trying to get me to go to his wedding, but there are a bunch of problems; they don't have the money, I don't like the woman he's marrying, her money and his money ran out, and a lot of people including their friends and family don't like the other. Their families don't get along and all his friends hate her due to her loudness and obnoxious behavior. I gotta admit I'm looking to break up the wedding because of that! She's completely mean-spirited and she's evil! They're both irresponsible and don't have jobs. Her parents are gonna wanna stop the wedding also. What can we all do to break them apart? We can't have them married! My ex is making the biggest of his life! She's hurting me by being engaged to him and she's the reason why he's losing friends!

We are lost with this, my wife's mother lives with us in our house. We can't handle it anymore she just sits in a chair in the living room all day and watches tv. She refuses to get a job and contribute in any meaningful way even thou she is plenty capable of doing so. But if we kick her out she has nowhere to go. Neither me or my wife know what to do.

We're 22 years old, and have been together 6 years, but have only been married and living together 2 years this fall. This whole issue started approx 6 months ago. About an hour after falling asleep I'd wake up to him fondling my breasts and his hand underneath my underwear. My reactions vary depending on the night. Sometimes I'm into it and it's no big deal. Other times I can't figure out if I'm actually awake or not and by the time I do I end up freaking out because I don't remember where I'm at or what's happening. When I was a child my step father sexually abused me for 7 years. The last encounter he raped me. I was 12. So unfortunately I struggle with PTSD. The thing my husband doesn't seem to understand is that the sexual abuse started by my step father waking me up out of my sleep sexually assaulting me, so during the times my husband does it and I don't remember where I'm at I go into a panic thinking I'm being abused all over again. It's absolutely horrible. And yes, I HAVE told my husband this, MANY times. The first few times it happened I guess I wasn't as firm about it not happening again because he kept doing it a few times a month. Finally I freaked out so bad one night I screamed at him and made him sleep on the couch, he woke me up a few hours later crying hysterically and apologizing. I thought he would never do it again because I told him not to, and that it made me feel violated. And he hasn't for like two months, but this week he's done it twice. Monday night I told him no and that we'd had this fight before. It wasn't a big deal, but when I woke up last night to it I thought I was back in my childhood bedroom and felt terrified. When I woke up enough and realized I wasn't, I was enraged. I'll admit I flew off the handle. He knows all about my experiences from my step dad, I've told him NUMEROUS times it scares me and not to do it anymore. I don't know what else to do at this point. It makes me feel violated and sick to my stomach. My husband has a HUGE sexual appetite, he always has. And I used to as well until I got put on birth control. It pretty much killed it, but still my husband never did this in the past, not even when we napped together. The last three months since I got off birth control we've been having sex many times a week but this month we didn't because my brother graduated high school and left for boot camp so I was emotional. I don't care if he watches porn and gets off when I don't want to. But I can't I know that my stress and emotional state this month caused us not to have much sex, but I don't want this to be the default position we go back to. I know a healthy sex life is important, which is why I still do it even though my sex drive hasn't really came back yet. Thank you guys for your answers. Divorce is NOT an option for us. I just want to work through this.

https://youtu.be/6BCaV8U8ybE my husband loves chanel like me but we already have the latest chanel everything so what are other ideas we Live in parios if this helps how to arrange a perfect evening

She's been going on about this nuka cola crap for like a day and ahalf now. Is nuka cola a drug?

I found my wife's stash of bottle caps, monster tabs, and dollar coins. My wife has at least a half gallon of bottle caps. Over 800 monster tabs on a chain. Who needs $200 in dollar coins?! She pays for things in dollar coins! should i make her get rid it? why does she collect trash?

I have a partner and we have been together for almost two years. He has a very involved relationship with his ex wife. They broke up 6 years ago after she had an affair with his best friend. They have two kids together and share 50/50 care. They have almost all the same friends, so every social occasion she is always there. His brother and sil regularly go to her house for dinner and socialise with her. His mother lives in another state and visits about twice a year. Recently she was up and told me excitedly that the next night they were having a "family dinner" at the ex wives house that of course I was not invited to! Why is HIS family having family dinner at HER house? When she arrived in town she went straight to the ex wives house and they hid her and asked my partner to come over and hunt for the "surprise". I find all of this so disrespectful to us and our relationship. My partner doesn't seem to see too much of an issue with it, but it's making feel excluded and less than. Is this normal and I'm Being unreasonable?

My brother's ex-wife died this weekend and they have been divorced for 23 years and I haven't seen her except once since the divorce and when I saw her it was a long time ago (in 2002). They had no children and were only married 6 years. She left my brother so we were mad at her (she couldn't get pregnant and so she left the marriage) but I liked her during those six years and recall her brother was very religious and delightful. Also, I see in the newspaper notice her mother is still alive. So do I go for the family or would me going be seen as weird after all these years? In my family my brother died in 2010 so he is not here to object. His widow said she is fine with it. I should ad the newspaper notice does say survived by her husband of 12 years so she is remarried but if he is the guy she was with the one time I did run into her (name matches from what I recall) then she did introduce me as her ex-husband's brother so he knows.

I still see the ex-wife occasionally (like every 2 or 3 years) and it has been 18 years since the divorce from my relative. She left the husband for this other guy who I feel was evil to take a married woman. However, if she liked him (she married him 4 years later) and I think she is good in all areas other then divorcing my relative then should I send condolences? She has three kids and the two daughters like the guy and they would be my 2nd cousins (the son was closer to the Dad). The man was older as he left his wife for her at the same time and so she took care of him as he was ill I hear the last 5 years. I only met him 2 or 3 times.

Let me clarify, over the last few years we've had some building issues.... A) For about 5 years my husband would not go down on me, so about a year ago I stopped giving him BJs, & because I wouldn't give him Bjs he would not make love to me etc etc. B) We argue a lot, we have a big age difference and I feel I have "grown up" a bit (he's 50 I'm 30), in the last few years. I'm less willing to take crap then I used to be. I have been put off having sex for a while mainly because we have sex, then a few hours later we have a great big argument and then I feel upset that we just did something intimate and then tore each other to pieces in a fight. C) There are other issues :) So recently it turned out that I urgently had to pay a bill off that was my responsibilty (£700). I didn't have the money so he said to me that he would give me the money if I gave him BJs. This has made me feel really grossed out by him. I think it's slimy and nasty, and I was already not feeling in to him but being propositioned by your own husband is nasty. Am I taking things too seriously? Is this normal?

I recently returned from a long deployment... Many changes have taken place. For example my wife smokes weed with my son's friends on a daily basis and usually is away from 1-2hrs, she has assured it's just smoking and to get away from doing in front of the children and me. I really trust her but it seems totally not her... Please provide advice on how to overcome this issue, she is 33 and the boys range from 18-21 in age. I don't think nothing sexual is going on but it's difficult at times. I am here for the children and our family, she has been thru a lot lately this passed year.

I want to be more interested in my husband sexually. It's just weird. It's not that I don't think he's attractive. He's in really good shape and I think he's the best husband ever. He puts a lot of effort into our marriage and I do feel lucky to have married him. It's just that I don't feel a need to have sex. I do have sex, but it's mostly just to satisfy his needs. He recently told me it really hurts his feelings that I'm not that interested in him sexually. I hear about women who loose interest because their husband is emotionally unavailable, but I don't feel that way. I can think of a couple of things. I have had a ton of stress at work lately. Because of the stress I have gained a bit of weight. It hasn't been a ton, but I have gained a bit. I do feel a little self conscious about being naked. I feel like I shouldn't be self conscious because I'm a grown woman, he's my husband, and he's still very interested in me sexually. I want to want my husband sexually again. Are there any other reasons why I wouldn't be as interested? How can I get to be interested again? I'm 42 and he's 47. We've been married 23 years.

She just filed for divorce 3 weeks ago.

Can you refuse child visitation? No, can you legally refuse child visitation? Is this allowed... Meaning a man doesn't want to see her children. After a divorce we both part ways. The man will legally pay for child support, nothing else. The father is non custodial parent and is paying for child support., the mother is custodial parent. The father does not want to see the children or be involved in their lives in any way. Have fun with the verbal degradation, insults...feel free to satisfy your ego. It really doesn't hurt feelings in any way. BY the way...the wife cheated.

should i get seprate from my husband? i have been married for 3 years now...i m pregnant(almost 9 month). initially me n my husband had so much fight....we still have so much fight...my husband is caring but he does not respect my parents...my parents do not have anyone else to take care for them.. they live seprate then us.. they r old...i love them so much..n i care about them so much.....i think my husband is greedy...sometimes he talks abt my parents property....which makes me more angry...should i stay with husband or leave him...we had love marriage...my parents or nobody will support me...but i m strong enough to deal with this...only thing my parents will get shattered if i get divorce...i do not even have any support from my husband..we divide everthing half/half.

I have caught my husband masturbating twice in the last couple months. We have an active sex life. Why would he do it? I told him the first time I caught him that it makes me feel inadequate. We have sex at least 4 times a week, why would he even feel the need? He's almost 40 so I know it's not his age, and he's not on any type of medication for ED.

My wife has recently told me she has sexual fantasies of being dominated sexually. When I say dominated I mean she really wants me to dominate her. She says she wants me to take off all her clothes, pull her hair, spank her, bite her, etc. I'm almost disturbed she fantasies that I do these things with her. What worries me is I'm a lot bigger than her. She's a really small woman and I'm a pretty big guy. If I'm rough I could hurt her. She tells me if I am just careful I'll be OK. Is it OK if I do this? If it's OK how can I make sure I don't hurt her?

I want to be more interested in my husband sexually. It's just weird. It's not that I don't think he's attractive. He's in really good shape and I think he's the best husband ever. He puts a lot of effort into our marriage and I do feel lucky to have married him. It's just that I don't feel a need to have sex. I do have sex, but it's mostly just to satisfy his needs. He recently told me it really hurts his feelings that I'm not that interested in him sexually. I hear about women who loose interest because their husband is emotionally unavailable, but I don't feel that way. I can think of a couple of things. I have had a ton of stress at work lately. Because of the stress I have gained a bit of weight. It hasn't been a ton, but I have gained a bit. I do feel a little self conscious about being naked. I feel like I shouldn't be self conscious because I'm a grown woman, he's my husband, and he's still very interested in me sexually. I want to want my husband sexually again. Are there any other reasons why I wouldn't be as interested? How can I get to be interested again? I'm 42 and he's 47. We've been married 23 years. Oh and we do have three kids. Only one is still home (he's 17)

Any wife's who smoke want to give me advice on how I can get my wife to smoke while we are screwing

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I have been married for 12 years and recently found out my wife has been cheating on me. We have not gotten along for 5 years and don't even sleep together. We also have a 10 year old son in 5th grade. My efforts to keep the family together are not enough, her spending is out of control, and I am stuck because I can't afford the house and an apartment. My wife refuses to go to work and volunteers all her time at school. We spent a lot of money on divorce lawyers and know it needs to happen, but she is stalling as best she can. I am still young and want to have someone to come home to, make new memories with, and have a happy life with. I love my son and spend as much time as I can with him, but he is brainwashed by her to hate me too. Help... I don't want to cheat in return because two wrongs don't make a right, but I do want to date other women and see if I can build a relationship again. The problem is most women want you to be divorced already and have your own place. I can't afford to leave and if I do, it will be twisted to look like I left my son. Do I deserve happiness too? I think so. Why not, when she is and my son isn't old enough to understand what is happening.

My son say at the beginning he did not like my boyfriend at the time. But my son love me to be happy. About 4years later we got marry. My husband and my 16 son get in a lot of arguments. My 16 is not a angel he did a lot of things from lying stealing fighting and disrespectful. I went through same with my oldest son. 4 years my husband kept on saying at 18 he got to move out. My son do say he is sorry but my husband will not believed him. This time I say to my husband if my son goes I go too. My husband asked me I would throw away my marriage for my son and Isay yes. I will leave a man for my children doesn't matter what age 16 or 5 still my child I promise the God I will do my best to raise my kids. So was I wrong for saying to him.

Is it all about producing lots of babies and looking after husband and children? My family think it's time for me to get marry. I just completed my grade 12 and i'm 18 years old.My dreams are not going to be true anymore. I'm engaged recently and next month it's my wedding! I can't do anything because my family is conservative!

we are married for 3 yrs with a baby of 9 months. before marriage we dated for 7 yrs. so today we really don't have anything left to tell each other. Now my husband seems somehow disinterested in me. he doesn't talk to me on his own. moreover if i ask him anything he replies in yes or no. he is also not interested in doing sex with me. we haven't done it for months. i gained a lot of weight due to pregnancy and i look ugly. i am 30 yrs old n i am ageing. i dont kno what to do in this situation. i asked him directly but he remained silent not even denying my acquisitions. i tried to make sexual advances towards him but he coolly refused. his disrespect disinterest hurts me a lot. but still i want him to do whatever he really wants. i dont want him to stay with us for our daughter or any other responsibilities. if he want he can go. i am a working lady i can take good care of my baby. i just want him to open up to me. kindly help me with this.

Whenever my wife has a complaint about something she will call me things like love or honey, she'll never use those terms in a positive way only when nagging Maybe examples help. "Honey you were late" "the lawn needs to be mowed love" "hey love stop leaving messes on the counters"

till death of one of the spouses or would a judge legally divorce them?

Edit The thing that people do when they are without a significant other is what I call it? Whenever they have the overpowering urge to do it. I believe that it should not follow them into a relationship with another IF! Encounters with your loved one remain steady and intimate, and that remains unanimous! Also before getting married It's continuance was verbally rejected by me and understandably agreed by the other to discontinue the practice. Later to be caught several times throughout our first 13 years of marriage by me thus causing unrepairable trust issues. What the hell should I do? Each time they have yelled at me over my accusations only to clearly catch them in days to come. The continue to lie about it prior to the act, then silence themselves after my proven conclusion that clearly countered it. They insist I trust them more and relax yet offer nothing but dishonorable acts when the feel the coast is clear. Please help me. I have children with this person , and need advice! I have been the stay at home for 10 years! Gave up my Employment History, and Credit Cards. Seems like I no longer have options. I am still watching the kids during illnesses,Holidays, and Summer vacations. I fear that strangers would have access to them if I were not here being their protector from the others possible secret future ambitions. This hole I have dug is deep. No funds no freedom of choice only commitment to the hope for change ,and my kids needing me here is all I have. If I had money to buy me time I would turn this around but no such luck for me. I am imprisoned by my conscious thought. I cannot protect my kids or raise them if I try to leave

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When you are just miserable in a marriage should you consider the financial and emotional implications of limited time with your kids when contemplating a divorce? I'm a man and basically foresee that I would be financially ruined in a divorce. I have tossed this issue around so much but always come back to the point that I am miserable in the marriage. I even accept things that I wouldn't have to keep the marriage together and avoid a divorce, although this only makes me more miserable. I don't see any way out. Is there any advice? How have other men handled it? Do you find yourself happier after a divorce despite the obvious financial and emotional difficulties?

I'm wondering what to expect in terms of child support. I went through all the calculators and such but there are always exceptions. What if there is joint custody (I know the law states the non custodial pays) but have also heard the judge can make exceptions. I'd like to hear from men that went through this and if they thought it was equitable.

Or do I need to change it immediately once I signed the marriage license and certificate?

Please no rude comments. My husband and i have been married for 2 years. When we were dating we had lots of sex. After we got married i got pregnant within 2 weeks. it was not easy for me to have sex but still we were about once a week. midway through my pregnancy my husband was diagnosed with ulceritive colitis which makes him extremely anemic. He lost 30 lbs in 3 months. After my son was born i gained weight while i am still under 200 lbs im heavy. He refuses to have sex with me. If we do its only once a month & because i beg. I dont know if its because i gained weight or if hes sick but he will flat out tell me no Then 2 weeks ago he stopped sleeping in our bed & only sleeps on couch i have cried begging him to come to bed. he will start a fight & go straight to the couch. he also started going to the gym 4 hours a day. I get home from work and he leaves & doesnt get back until after ive put my son to bed and im in bed. Ive asked him not to go & to stay home & spend time with me & he literally said i helped you unload the groceries what else do you possibly want to do together. I asked him then to come home from the gym earlier and he said oh im sorry i want to go to the gym we pay for i dont want to waiste money and he took off. Weve tried marraige counseling but he kept saying that the military trained emotion out of him and he cannot show me affection. I just dont even know what to do. I love my husband. But lately i dont even feel married?

I adopeted my wifes daughter 10 years ago. She is going to college in 4 years. I have managed to save $12,000 for her. This is probably only a third of what she'll need. My wife hasn't contributed anything to the savings. I already pay a majority of bills. We make equal amounts of money. My wife always spends it on herself. Now she wants to get extensive liposuction for $6000 (mind you she is not overweight at all and there is no health reason for the liposuction). I'm against it and wont support it particularly considering she hasn't contribute to the college account and doesn't pay her half of the bills. My wife says I'm just being cheap and un-caring. How to resolve without a divorce.