My husband passed away about a year ago. He is a surgeon, and was helping these girls who got into an accident, and when he left the scene he also got hit by a car. Derek, (my husband), and I were going through a rough patch, but I still don't know how to go on! I actually ran away with my children, Bailey and Zola, for nearly a year. (Zola is only 5 years old, Bailey is 2). I recently came home, and all my friends are giving me support. Although I still think I'm a bit crazy? All I ever think about is this stupid carousel from my childhood! God I hate that carousel!!

I am a 24 year old female who is the product of an affair while my mother was married. Neither my biological father, nor my mother's former husband- who signed my birth certificate, have never been in my life. My mom and her husband divorced months after my birth. I found court papers on when my mom pursued child support from a man she claimed to be my biological father; I was 7 at the time. A blood paternity test proved our relationship. The court determined my mom would receive support and that custody/a relationship was to be established with my father. This never happened. I am curious about finding my him. I have both his and his wife's names from the court papers. Unfortunately, neither seem to have facebook; which would be my preferred method of finding information (creeping would satisfy my curiosity for a while). Through my own searches, I have a current address and phone number. The most important thing I want from him is medical information. However, I also really want the truth. My mom is a pathological liar and refuses to accept her affair, let alone my being the product of it, so discussion with her is fruitless. I'm most curious with what he looks like, but I obviously have a few other questions for him. How should I contact him? The idea of meeting him in person is kind of daunting, and so is talking on the phone. I definitely won't show up out of the blue. I'm not sure how to approach this situation.

Mother in law stresses me out!! I'm only 23 years old and I am losing my mind and patience with my husband's family!!! Mother in law hates me. She's manipulative and plays the victim to everyone including some of my own family and is ruining my life! I wanted a divorce a few months ago when she screamed at me and cussed me for actually telling her no for once. She grabbed and clawed my arm out of anger and pushed my face. That was it for me! Husband and I are buying our first home and she is NOT welcome there whether I'm home or not! How do we break this news to her without her causing more stress on our marriage?? I also don't want her around my kids. We are wanting to start our family soon. She is in denial of everything over the years and thinks she's the victim of my "drama" and that I'm "the problem". Help!!!!!

My husband is awaiting his visa in honduras for the past 2 yrs I m a US citizen so I live in Texas. I know he hasn t been faithful but what I want to know can he marry someone else while he is still over there?

We haven't even been married a year. I need a job, but my husband won't move with me. I made sacrifices for him already.

say you married someone you don't really know in person but know over Skype.. you went abroad and married the person so they can come to the states...then you had to wait another 8 months in order for them to finally get to the states...will it be hard and very unusual to have a relationship...can anything happen over the course of 8 months such as changed feelings

Let me give you some background first. I'm 16 and male. My dad had an affair when I was 6. It spit the family apart. We moved to the US from India to get away from it. My mom, sister and I have become our own unit within the family and take care of each other. Dad is like a tangent, and causes problems every once in a while. He recently told my mom that he actually didn't want to marry her (even though he proposed) and that he only went through with it because his relatives said it was too late to back off. My sister and I have had to fill his role. If my mom's crying about something, it's us that has to go and cry with her and comfort her. And I'm like a father figure for my sister. As a result of what's happened, I don't believe in marriage or kids. The men in my family are not reliable, and I don't want to continue the cycle. And besides, my future wife will cheat on me even if I'm a great, loving person like my mom. Boredom sets in. Despite this, the idea of marriage has fascinated me. It says a lot about human psychology and I started paying attention to my parents' marriage (which seems peaceful on a superficial level). And what I realized after observing them and also reading about psychology and seduction is that marriage is like an antidote to people. People are riddled with their own vanities and insecurities. With my mom, it's spirituality, and with my dad, it's his past and his father. And if you play to these vanities, you can get on their good side. The person you marry is supposed to put all of this to rest, taking you to another world where you feel fine and everything's okay. I read about cheating, specifically cheating women (like http://goo.gl/yCz2uq ), and it struck me how selfish people are. The idea of love as this romantic, passionate experience doesn't seem real. When you're young, the world is at your feet, and people get married to feel young. They want the same passion and the same liveliness, and when when they aren't "fulfilled", they cheat. What strikes me is that some people actually have the audacity to believe that they even deserve to be fulfilled. There's no selflessness. I don't believe in the death penalty, but I think it's okay with adulterers. Keeping all this in mind, do you care more about your marriage or your spouse? Or in other worlds, is what your marriage offers you more or less important than what the person you're married to means to you? I'm just looking for some perspective, because my own cynicism is starting to bore me. Thanks for listening.

I've been married for 7 years in July. Since day one we have been struggling financialy but our love always came out on top. The past 3-4 years I have been working a lot and going to school trying to support her and our 3 kids. I recently got fired from work and now she is saying she dosent know if she loves me and feels like we have been apart since I started school and work so much. She thinks that I am depressed which I do to because I work a lot with no financial gain, and it took a toll on me and her. She dosent know if she wants to work on our marriage but I do. Is there any hope left?

Hello. I'm 15 years old (well technically I'm turning 15 this week) and I can't live with my mother anymore. My mom lives in New Jersey and my dad lives in Georgia. My step mom kind of doesn't like kids but I can be very mature. I have two younger sisters and I fully intend on leaving them at my mom's. I can't stand the 10 year old, once she threw scissors at me and she got put on the couch for ten minutes while I bled into the kitchen floor and got yelled at for teaching her to be violent. My 13 year old sister used to be very cool but lately I can not stand her presence. She makes me very depressed, she recently went to a hospital for depression. Mostly what I hear from my mom is how much meanness I've taught the ten year old and how I always ruin "the fun day we're having". She never tells me I'm worthless or anything. I know that if I told my dad about this that he'd take me. What worries me is that he'd take my sisters, too. My parents openly despise each other. I only see my dad once a year. I'm going down to see him in about a month. My mom says that they never sorted out the custody, and I'm not going to talk to her about it because I will be grounded for a long time and she'll take my phone and make me give her my password so she can look through it. Another thing, I'm out as pansexual to my mom but she insists that I think it's cool and that I'm not really. I can't come out to my dad because he's homophobic. Should I wait it out up here or should I try and move?

where do I go to register my marriage license?

Let me give you some background first. I'm 16 and male. My dad had an affair when I was 6. It spit the family apart. We moved to the US from India to get away from it. My mom, sister and I have become our own unit within the family and take care of each other. Dad is like a tangent, and causes problems every once in a while. He recently told my mom that he actually didn't want to marry her (even though he proposed) and that he only went through with it because his relatives said it was too late to back off. My sister and I have had to fill his role. If my mom's crying about something, it's us that has to go and cry with her and comfort her. And I'm like a father figure for my sister. As a result of what's happened, I don't believe in marriage or kids. The men in my family are not reliable, and I don't want to continue the cycle. And besides, my future wife will cheat on me even if I'm a great, loving person like my mom. Boredom sets in. Despite this, the idea of marriage has fascinated me. It says a lot about human psychology and I started paying attention to my parents' marriage (which seems peaceful on a superficial level). And what I realized after observing them and also reading about psychology and seduction is that marriage is like an antidote to people. People are riddled with their own vanities and insecurities. With my mom, it's spirituality, and with my dad, it's his past and his father. And if you play to these vanities, you can get on their good side. The person you marry is supposed to put all of this to rest, taking you to another world where you feel fine and everything's okay. I read about cheating, specifically cheating women (like http://goo.gl/yCz2uq ), and it struck me how selfish people are. The idea of love as this romantic, passionate experience doesn't seem real. When you're young, the world is at your feet, and people get married to feel young. They want the same passion and the same liveliness, and when when they aren't "fulfilled", they cheat. What strikes me is that some people actually have the audacity to believe that they even deserve to be fulfilled. There's no selflessness. I don't believe in the death penalty, but I think it's okay with adulterers. Keeping all this in mind, do you care more about your marriage or your spouse? Or in other worlds, is what your marriage offers you more or less important than what the person you're married to means to you? I'm just looking for some perspective, because my own cynicism is starting to bore me. Thanks for listening.

them to talk ? I try with my brother and sister in law but they never say hi when they see me or try to talk to me , I'll be sitting at the same table and they won't hardly look at me :(

Me and my boyfriend Just got engaged. We were talking about wedding plans and he decided to change his last name to mine. He doesn t want his last name anymore. Is that possible to do when we get married?

And are there any tourist traps for video gamers?

He lost his wife two days ago and he is the head coach of our 12 and under travel team. Today one of my favorite girls on the team (not bc of the way she plays but bc her attitude) spoke up and told her team to play not for the championship but for Chris' (aka Coach Bubba) wife. There playing a heck of a tournament and were on a game break about to go to championship in about an hour. I can tell Chris is trying to keep his emotions together but a few mins ago I went to the parking lot and he was crying in his truck. What should I do? I'm still around him but he doesn't know.

I have an imaginary husband. We've been together for 23 years, he was my first, last and everything. He's a god, body and face-wise. He's focused on making me happy- nothing is ever too much. We're a hot couple, with passion and emotion. This is a complete comparison to my bf, who is pretty much the opposite of my perfect imaginary husband. Anyway, I cant focus on anything but this fantasy I've created. It's unreal, unattainable, and impossible. The guy just doesn't exist, so its not a matter of "finding him", which makes me depressed and agitated, because I wish he was real. I wished my fantasy was real.

I found nude pics of my sister on my tablet . Downloaded from HIS email. He claims he cant stand her but i heard hom say once he would rage F**k her.... what does that ever mean???? I asked about the photos he claims he didnt knowhow they got onthere and yelled at me for snooping its MY Ztablet

I always had a feeling my dad has cheated on my mom. First of all, he used to live in another city because of work. Then, when he moved back with us, he was always working until like 1 or 2 in the morning. A couple of months ago, my phone broke and I used his old one as a temporary one. It still had all of his information on it, like text messages, pictures, and stuff like that. One day I was curious and I decided to scroll through is text messages. I saw a few suspicious ones. They were from different girls. One of the conversations seemed like they've done this before. They were talking about "AM." I didn't know what that was but they talked about "winks," "notes," and "profiles," so I googled it and found out it was ashleymadison.com. That is a website for married people to have affairs. I went on his laptop and found that this was in his search history. I know he cheated on my mom. Me and him are not the type to share our feelings with each other, and me and my mom are so close that I don't want to hurt her. I don't know what to do. This is becoming too overwhelming.

how are narcissist created, do they every change. where does the life of a narcissist eventually lead to. How do you stop having empathy towards a narcissist? Is it possible to recover from being with a narcissist to not let it affect the rest of your life? Why do narcissist work so hard to shield who they are rather than working hard at changing to be better people so they can know how to love, give sincere love, and be loved the right way. You love a narcissist based upon deception and its truly hard to break free. Help me understand please so I can move on

When I was younger I always dreamed about the man I would marry. Of course he would be handsome and outgoing and he'd love animals & traveling... etc. I imagined we'd get married and travel together and then we'd settle down, buy a house, & make a family together and live extremely happily ever after. I love my boyfriend. He's all the things I ever dreamed of in a man. However, he has a 5 year old son with another woman. He's already been married, he built a home for his ex & their son and they lived in that home and raised their son together for a full 2 years. So my boyfriend has already experienced having a first child & all the funny mistakes a first time parent makes. He shared those things with someone else & this hurts me. When we first started dating he was very honest about his past with me. He told me everything on our first date so I could run at any time. However at that point in time none of it bothered me. I didn't think of a future with him on our first date 2 years ago. Part of me wants to say no. I can't marry him because I want to experience those first-times with someone who's experiencing them for the first time too. I'm only 26. I don't want to be tied down because of a child yet (especially one that I didn't help create). & yet another part of me wants to tell myself to stop being so childish... because I really do love this man. What do I do?

When I was younger I always dreamed about the man I would marry. Of course he would be handsome and outgoing and he'd love animals & traveling... etc. I imagined we'd get married and travel together and then we'd settle down, buy a house, & make a family together and live extremely happily ever after. I love my boyfriend. He's all the things I ever dreamed of in a man. However, he has a 5 year old son with another woman. He's already been married, he built a home for his ex & their son and they lived in that home and raised their son together for a full 2 years. So my boyfriend has already experienced having a first child & all the funny mistakes a first time parent makes. He shared those things with someone else & this hurts me. When we first started dating he was very honest about his past with me. He told me everything on our first date so I could run at any time. However at that point in time none of it bothered me. I didn't think of a future with him on our first date 2 years ago. Part of me wants to say no. I can't marry him because I want to experience those first-times with someone who's experiencing them for the first time too. I'm only 26. I don't want to be tied down because of a child yet (especially one that I didn't help create). & yet another part of me wants to tell myself to stop being so childish... because I really do love this man. What do I do?

After ten years of knowing a person, I discovered that he is indeed a narcissist. Sometimes I am angry at myself for being involved with this person and then I am angry at the childhood that created the adult narcissist he is today. He has everyone fooled of what he is capable of especially. He has perfected it so well that he will eventually get away with physically beating me and causing injury that required surgery. How can I just undo the damage myself because clearly he won't acknowledge his wrongs and will not be held accountable for striking me repeatedly, choking me repeatedly and everything else there is. Is it possible to recover from being with a narcissist.

I told a friend that I'm gonna harm myself and also when I mentioned about I'm gonna hangout with gang members and bad people all he says is "ok" calmly. What should I do? I'm pissed off. All he says is ok then in a bit he got off the phone. He used to get mad and worry about me when I said those things but not anymore even I said I swear

Am I the only one who goes crazy over the way your husband is so closed-minded? I'm talking about its his way or the highway. He doesn't like change and won't come out of his comfort zone. It drives me crazy because I can't get him to change his mind about anything in any situation.

My ex wife has went to the child support office. She has chose to leave her 2nd husband for reasons unknown. She only works part time at minimum wage. She currently has a gym membership, she has recently bought a new TV, new refrigerator, and added on an addition to her house all recently. She is now claiming I need to pay more because she can't pay her own bills and is close to losing her house. I pay for everything for our daughter including their trips out to eat and entertainment for both of them. She doesn't pay a dime for her and she is constantly asking me for money. Since she is not able to provide a stable life for our daughter is there a way I can go for full custody since I can provide a roof over her head, all of her financial needs and more?

Currently she has left her second husband for reasons unknown. She works only part time at minimum wage, her choice. She has bought new TVs, refrigerators, added on an addition to her house all recently. Now since she left her second husband she is trying to get more money from me yo pay her own bills. Once she has used child support money for her own education. She uses my own money outside of child support to pay for her and our daughter both to go to places like chuck e cheese and such. I don t mind paying for our daughter however I am paying for her as well. Since she claims that she is needing more for our daughter and is not financially responsible for her (she is about to lose her house) can I go for full custody since I can offer out daughter a stable and financial life?

Is there any specific way to help me know if marriage is right for me? Like some personality quiz or something? Ok that's enough anonymous! My name is Jasmine Green, my twin is Emily Jacobs. She got married last year. Look us up idiot! My best friend is Justin, who called you out for being a troll. I don't know anyone named Sunny, but I do want to thank her for standing up for me. I agree, if you aren't a troll, why are you anonymous? Reveal yourself a**hole! By the way ignorant b*tch, I'm a college student. Go f*ck yourself troll! REVEAL YOURSELF ANONYMOUS! You are the one looking like a troll! You are making a fool of yourself!

I was just wondering what would happen if a (lets say woman) leaves her husband for a year if not more. I've heard of the term "abandonment" divorce before, but i was wondering if it would qualify in this case. If the woman left her husband, they have no children, she wants no property or money, she just wants to leave him. And the husband has a job and is financially stable, would the divorce hold up? Even if she thinks that they are no longer a good match for each other and wants to move on?

I am a mother of 4 and about to go thru divorce and daughter who is 9 came to me about a week ago and told me daddy got mad at me and threw me down to the ground and against the wall he said she deserved it~ what?!?! This is not the first time he has lost his temper with kids or with me. Couple days ago my 4 year old wasn't getting in the tub so he forcefully threw him in and now he has bruises on his back and arm. Yes I took pics!! He threatened me several times and told me if I tell anyone he would take the kids and house away and I would have nothing. Yes I am so scared of what else he could do, he did move out, I have no idea where he is but yet he still emails me wanting to see kids, my daughter cries so hard saying she is so scared of him and doesn't want him to come. Is it too late to tell someone all he has done, cause yes there is more and afraid it will get even worse. He even tells me to he wish I would go jump off a bridge or die What to do?

Hi, I live in india and my husband lives in america.he says he won't come to india. I also don't know where he lives in america. I am completely unaware of his whereabouts. how can I get divorce in india? It is very urgent...

It looks fun to me, how has your experience been, do you always get butterflies when you see you significant other? Can't you help but smile whenever you see them, knowing they will always be there for you, must be nice

My wife and I have a great marriage but......she never comes to my gigs- I am a solo musician and perform aabout twice a month - or my races- I am a runner. She say's- "That't your stuff" not mine and she thinks I into this stuff for my ego- not true!!!!!! Why do you think she avoids my extra activities- but the way- I hold a full time job, don't drink or snow.

I have come to realize finding a Good Woman is like hitting the lottery very unlikely. So does that mean dating is a tax on stupid people like the lottery is??? I mean there are a lot of good looking women but Many are arrogant, stuck up, entitled and crazy. Also there are probably quite a few unattractive fat/ugly women who are probably nice but attraction is a big thing. Its like being stuck between a rock and hard place. How come there arent more women who are really good looking down to earth honest, loyal, and trustworthy??? Its like I dont want a really good looking wife who is untrustworthy, entitled, fickle and disloyal, but also dont want a woman who is ugly/fat and who I wouldnt be attracted to. Where are the good hot women who have values like a lot of uglier women?

We all know how a man should treat a woman and I treat my wife like a queen. She is my queen. I would do anything she asks (as long as it s not against God) but she disagrees a lot with me. I am really good to her. She is good to me and we love each other very much. She don t mean to her mother was/is very hateful. And she automatically disagrees. But no matter the situation. The question is how should a wife treat her husband? I don t want any specific to my situation. Just in general according to the Bible

My sister keeps reminding me of the things she bought for me and what she did so that I could go to school. I'm thankful but I was like 8-14 years old? She bought me stuff which is wonderful but everytime we have a fight, she keep bringing them up. I wish I could pay her back so that she'll shut up but that will just add more insult to injury. What would you say?

I know my sister has an illness but I just felt it wasn't right to ask my daughter to do even the smallest thing for her- i.e. make her a sandwich, carry her backpack around during our hiking trip, borrow my daughter's sandals while camping (daughter had to walk barefoot on the ground)out, make her sleep late to record her voice, etc). I found it so annoying that I spoke out. My sister and I had a big fight about it. I said sorry to her but she gave me the guilt trip of not knowing what's like to be in her shoe because of her illness (eye problem). I'm only visiting my mom and my sisters for two weeks but my daughter and my son will be staying with them for 2 more weeks. I just hated how my sister would scold her severely for not doing things the way she would- entrusting my daughter with her stuff and my daughter not keeping them the way my sister wanted. How would you react if a family member treats your child this way? My daughter is 10- sister is 47.

The reason for him not wanting to go with us was because he didn't like one of my friends husband. They met once at a dinner party.at that party my husband semed didn't enjoy at all. I was with my girlfriends.so I didn't see what was going among the husbands.I only heard from my husband afterwards that the other husband is too annoying non stop talking and jyst don't shut the f up. According to my husband the other husband is a duche because he talked about everything looked like he knows about everything. So I really don't know about the other guy.but I hoped my husband could be more easy going and being supportive for my social life too.im not asking him to hangout with us frequently and I don't hang with them that often at all.just once in a while. Also my friends were expecting him to be there.because they are all couples.but my husband just didn't go.instead he grilled himself a 20$ steak at home that night.honestly even I have no idea whay kind of a guy is that other guy.but i don't think he is some terrible one.he has more friends sure more than my husband has.my husband actually don't like most of the ppl around. I was so disappointed because I had to hangout with him and his so called friends whom I didn't care to know.its was boring for me to hangout with pl I don't like or not wanting to build a friendship with. But I still did because he wanted simply. But its his turn to make a little sacrifice there's no way for him to try. Isn't he selfish?

I feel so unwanted, depressed and helpless. My husband and I have been married for a year. But, we have only had sex 5-6 times. He says it's not me but I don't know what else it could be. He doesn't seem interested in me physically at all. I might get the occasional peck in the cheek. But, to be honest, I feel like his isn't attracted to me at all. And, he won't talk about it. Please help me understand. Is this normal?

This is my project assignment and i dont even know how to answer. i know marriage can built a loving family and a successful child but what does marriage do to society?

Hello, we got married 3 months ago after dating 1.5 years. each time we have big fight husband says we should get a divorce. he says he is not happy, he cant breathe, he feels like there is no peace at home. He even said I dont want to be with you anymore, I cant stand you,your demands, you dont give me peace. I almost begged him, reminding our love, good memories etc. he insist we should divorce and I kept talking to him trying to convince him that I will be better. I am not working,no friends to talk besides my family,I want to spend all time with my husband as soon as he gets home, I want to have a nice dinner(I cook), have coffee, watch tv together kissing hugging.When he doesnt watch the show I want or doesnt want to kiss while watching his thing, I feel rejected and pissed off and you can understand from my face and attitute then he gets angry to me. He says things like here we go again, sometimes worse like God please take my soul I cant stand. Its weird because we still love each other I dont understand how could he says all these, divorce? He says it cant be worse than now.These fights happened 2-3 times each time he brings the divorce.and I try to convince him, then we are good until next fight which is not so far. I need your help what do you see on your side? Is it my neediness? Maybe not giving him space? Do you think a man who is sick of wife's neediness may feel love and calm down again? Respect wife again? If yes please help me. Thank you, appreciate help

We all know how a man should treat a woman and I treat my wife like a queen. She is my queen. I would do anything she asks (as long as it s not against God) but she disagrees a lot with me. I am really good to her. She is good to me and we love each other very much. She don t mean to her mother was/is very hateful. And she automatically disagrees. But no matter the situation. The question is how should a wife treat her husband? I don t want any specific to my situation. Just in general according to the Bible

Been with my husband for 19 years. We've had good and bad times like everyone else. I sick of dealing with the same issues and him promising to be more loving and cuddle more. We have a 10 year old child that would be heart broken if we split up. But I can't take the one sidedness of our relationship!! How do I do I tell him I'm done and not have it start a world war???

I am a stay at home mom who recently got a Part Time job as a banquet server. I work 1-2 shifts on the weekend, and since most of the events I work are for weddings - they can tend to run over, which means I can't leave until everybody's job is done... My husband refuses for me to drive our car to work, so he drops me off and picks me up. He gets extremely angry with me when I don't come out on time. I try to explain why things get backed up - but he doesn't seem to care. Tonight I was 30 mins late before getting to leave, and when I got into the car - he wouldn't talk to me. I just busted my butt all night waiting tables and he couldn't have the least bit compassion or even ask me how my night went.. All that matter was that HE had to sit in the car and wait for me. The most frustrating part of this whole thing was that he was the one who wanted me to get a part time job in the first place. And now I think he wants me to quit it, but I really love it... And it's so great to be around people after doing the mom thing all week. What do you think? Does my husband have a right to be mad with me?