Marriage & Divorce: Question: Why did she do this to me? |
- Question: Why did she do this to me?
- Question: My husband's 17 yr old son wants to move out?
- Question: Proper way to write a letter to the warden on serving divorce documents to my husband in jail?
- Question: My parents look like they don't love each other anymore? Will they divorce?
- Question: If you kill your wife will the message still come to you?
- Question: Wife is searching the address of a man who her mother used to work with & a strip mine a few blocks from the address. is she cheating?
- Question: What does it mean if someone says... He is made of gelatin?
- Question: Am I ever going to get married?
- Question: How do i do to not let sisters gossip and talk about me affect me?
- Question: LoSt writ of summons in uncontested divorce?
- Question: Is there hope?
- Question: How many sexual partners makes a girl unwifeable?
- Question: Is my husband honest?
- Question: Do you trust other women around your boyfriend/husband?
- Question: Wife is searching the address of a man who her mother used to work with & a strip mine a few blocks from address. is she cheating?
- Question: I am pregnant with my best friends husband's baby?
- Question: Is it time for a divorce?
- Question: Mother In Law to be IS accusing me of everything shy of murder (I cant even breath right to her) HELP!?
- Question: Am I making a mistake by staying with my husband?
- Question: I'm married for 11 yrs, but I'm bored because he's boring. I have been hanging out with a friend and find myself Attracted to him. Plz help?
- Question: Collecting death benifits from my Ex husband....?
- Question: Threesome in a marriage? I say no but would like some point of views on it.?
- Question: Husband works out of town...I need advice?
- Question: Should every couple be required to sign a detailed contract before marrying spelling out the exact terms of their marriage?
- Question: I feel sort of stunted in my marriage . . .?
- Question: Troubled child divorced parents?
- Question: Army wife? help please?
- Question: If both people have psychiatric history, can you change a divorce into an annulment after final decree issued?
- Question: Have you ever cheated on your partner? If so did you get caught or fess up? Either way do you regret it? If not at all would you ever? Why?
- Question: Is it worth to stay in this marriage?
- Question: Does a married man need his wife's signature to get snipped?
- Question: My wife thinks that i am a weak man and not strong enough to protect her?
- Question: I married a woman in the Philippines after knowing her for a month, I am living in Canada and she is in PH. It's been 4 months we been married and want annulment. What can I do?
- Question: Should I travel alone?
- Question: Husband slept with another woman during our separation?
- Question: I am a gay man married my husband and i share the same toothbrush because its a sign of afdfection love and clossness do you agree?
- Question: Fiance and contribution?
- Question: Manipulator/Abuser turned a new leaf?
- Question: I been married to my husband for 10 years. He been working for general motors for 16 years. We are now going through a divorce. On a guess what should I expect on his pension?
- Question: How long should i ignore him?
- Question: True default divorce california?
- Question: Why my wife has lost all interest in sex?
- Question: My husband wont let me work and abuses me HELP!?
- Question: My ex and I have a court ordered visitation but he constantly harasses me outside of that is there anything I can do?
- Question: My mom doesn't let me be affectionate towards my husband?
- Question: How many married couples feel like technology is ruining the relationship?
- Question: If ur partner doesn't have sex with you & told you he possibility may never have sex with you again would u stay?.?
- Question: If a guy says he in an 'open marriage' does that mean he'd consider a second wife?
- Question: An open relationship?
- Question: Met a Gujarati man, got engaged... Planned a wedding! Got pregnant in between, forced into marriage marry him in a temple no marriage certificate, left him due to alcoholism... Now have a 7 year old with him and want him back what do I do?
- Question: If your wife is unhappy will she be more likely to cheat ?
- Question: Pre-marital conflict. Opinions needed?
- Question: Is this cheating?
- Question: Monster in-law?
- Question: Colorado: In a common law marriage; could the wife be court ordered to help pay child support?
- Question: What Love and marriage Means To My Future Husband. How would you feel?
- Question: Is this a secret I should keep from my wife?
- Question: My wife was sexually abused... by her brother.. What should I do?
- Question: Should I stay in my marriage or get out?
- Question: How long have you been married?
| Question: Why did she do this to me? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 09:37 PM PDT Me and my wife have been married for 15 years now.We have a daughter who's 10.Before she was born we had an amazing sex life but now a couple of years later we have kinda lost the desire to have it.It's like we've become distant and all we talk about is family stuff.It is safe to say we are in a rut.We have talked about it and have agreed that it's normal and all families go through this.My wife has never been one to yell or get upset easily but I can tell when she's not happy.The day we discussed our relationship she was a bit distracted and didn't quite seem like she was focused on our conversation which made me feel suspicious towards her.I thought she had an affair.When she drifted off to sleep one night I took her phone and went through he emails and Facebook messages.She was indeed having an affair.I read her messages and it was obvious she was cheating on me.The things that I read were disgusting.The following day I just thought I'd come back from work early.That's what I did.It was a typical affair-there was another person's car parked outside the house.I stealthily entered and the first thing I saw was my wife In an unbuttoned shirt with her tie untied around her neck giving a ******* to her coworker who was fully naked.They saw me immediately.The guy took his clothes and ran away and my wife busted in tears and started apologizing.I left the house and haven't spoken to her in about 2 weeks.I don't think I can get over this but we have a child.What should I do? |
| Question: My husband's 17 yr old son wants to move out? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 09:25 PM PDT My husband and I have been married 3 yrs and have a little girl together he has 3 kids from a previous marriage long story short only one lives with us. He is 17 and still has 3 yrs of high school left. He wants to move out for many reasons one him not being allowed to do illegal drugs in our home. We have caught him many times today being one of them my husband is so fed up he is kicking him out. Is there a way to go about this legally so if he gets in trouble with the law it won't come back to us? I know I sound like a cold person but for a lack of a better word he is a monster. Has done many things to me and my daughter. I think it's best of he leaves I don't want my daughter or anyone else in danger. We have tried church bribing him nothing works. He is disrespectful a liar and a violent person. What can we do? |
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| Question: My parents look like they don't love each other anymore? Will they divorce? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 07:54 PM PDT Hello. So, recently it just seems like my parents are like loving to each other anymore. Today, we were watching a movie and it was about this husband leaving his wife and taking one of the kids and just yeah...I was joking saying that "if you guys ever divorce, i'm running away. so you better not divorce." Usually, they would laugh or say something witty in reply, like BOTH of them. But they were both silent and just like stared at the screen. Last week my mom got a haircut and cause my dad didn't notice, she started to cry. My mom also always talks about divorce a lot and saying how "oh, if i did this instead of that I would have met another man..." and etc. Ah, i just don't know. I probably sound stupid. I just worry that they may divorce and that scares me. Honestly if they do, I really then just want to leave. But I really pray they don't. I just don't what to do. I've cried and worried but ah idk. Please help? Oops. I meant "aren't" like loving each other anymore..** |
| Question: If you kill your wife will the message still come to you? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 07:52 PM PDT |
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| Question: What does it mean if someone says... He is made of gelatin? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 07:15 PM PDT i was talking to an older woman today who just left her husband and when she was explaining how he isn't the person she married.. She said... He's made of gelatin. I have never heard someone refer to a personality as gelatin before. what's it mean? |
| Question: Am I ever going to get married? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 06:57 PM PDT I'm so worried that I will never get married:( because I'm almost 20 and I dont even have a boyfriend and I think about this everyday:( I dont want to be one of those single women who are in their 30's already and still single and hang out with their (girlfriends) every weekend and have nothing else to do but work,eat and get fat and watch netflix. I just cant let that happen!!! what should I do?? |
| Question: How do i do to not let sisters gossip and talk about me affect me? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 06:37 PM PDT So these are my sisters both are older then me and constantly put me down , found out they gossip about me and my husband too. These two always do stuff together and never invite me . But thats not what really bothers me what bothers me so Much is how they are family and gossip so much about me and my husband to The point where it affects my marriage . Please someone help me on what to do |
| Question: LoSt writ of summons in uncontested divorce? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 06:32 PM PDT can I get another from the court |
| Posted: 20 Jun 2015 06:31 PM PDT My wife and I have been married for 8 years. My Job has me moving to another state and my wife decided to stay behind to work until Sept and is staying with one of her female coworkers. She says she needs a break from me. I don't know what to do now. Should I mentally prepare to lose her? She is my rock. Especially now that I am in a new area with no friends or anything. This is what she wrote to me: "I have no idea what I'm doing. I know I wasn't happy. That's obvious. And I haven't been. I don't know what would fix it. So I'm giving myself what I want, which is space to be me and see if I can be happy just me. I don't want to be in TX, back with what was before..I don't want to have to just pretend like everything is good and fun and happy when it's not. I want space to be whatever I want to be and feel and do and not feel like I'm making your life miserable in the process. I just need me right now. I'm so tired of not being me. And there is this massive wall around me. And anyone trying to get inside just pisses me off. And I don't want help or advice or love or anything. I just want to be alone.. And I'm sorry it affects you. I'm sorry I can't be and do what you want. And I'm sorry I can't answer your questions. And I just don't want to talk about it. And I don't want to just get so angry that I make stupid decisions... Cause if I do things rashly like usual...I would just walk away and not even try to figure it out. I'm just trying to figure out a way to be happy." |
| Question: How many sexual partners makes a girl unwifeable? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 06:22 PM PDT |
| Question: Is my husband honest? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 06:21 PM PDT My husband is ex-smoker Yesterday i smelled a cigarette smell in his mouth but he said he was hanging with smokers but he didnt smoke . Is that possible to get the smell in his mouth ? How could i know if hes lying or not |
| Question: Do you trust other women around your boyfriend/husband? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 06:20 PM PDT Including your friends or family members? |
| Posted: 20 Jun 2015 06:19 PM PDT Wife is searching the address of another man while she is out of town on vacation at her mother's house. Is she cheating? How do I find out? Also, I keep catching her masturbating. She forgot and left the skype camera on while I was out of town. I watched the whole thing. |
| Question: I am pregnant with my best friends husband's baby? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 06:04 PM PDT And I want him to leave her for me. Backstory: I've been bestfriends with my friend since childhood, I literally consider her like a sister to me and we've been through hell and back. 2 years ago she started dating this tall, chocolate, smart, funny, sexy guy and I was always jealous of her for finding a good guy while I always ran into the bottom of the barrell men. A year later he came up to me asking for my help with helping him find an engagement ring for my friend and of course my jealousy went into over drive but I kept calm and helped him pick out the engagement ring. After they got engaged he came by to thank me for helping him pick out the ring and I was slightly drunk and high so I started to come on to him. Make a long story short we ended up having sex. Ever since then we've been having an affair. We also had sex 2 hours before their wedding which I was the braidsmaid. I always told him that she didn't deserve a man like him because in all honesty she doesn't. 2 weeks ago I found out that I was pregnant by him and I feel bad because she's been trying to have a baby for awhile now. I haven't told him yet but I'm planning on telling him tonight. |
| Question: Is it time for a divorce? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 05:25 PM PDT I have been with my husband since 1992. Married since 1999. We have two children ages 19 and 17. Our relationship has been shaky since the very beginning, but I have hung in there always hoping and praying for the best. I assume he has as well. I decided to leave him in 2011 and are still separated to this very day. Although we speak on a daily basis (for a few minutes) and we tell each other we love each other and he still provides for me financially it just doesn't feel the same. I ultimately left all those years ago because he drank too much - daily. He never chose to spend time with me or our children. We argued constantly. He ALWAYS hid things from me. "Friendships" with women, money spent towards his race car. Selling of properties and vehicles. Meanwhile I had to work two jobs for years just to have enough to buy food. It began to feel like we were roommates instead of husband and wife. When I left he clearly knew the reasons. He said he would follow me. We put our home and land up for sale but when I left, he took it off the market. I've asked to go back but his only response is "why?" He has never asked me to go back and it's clear that it doesn't matter if I do or not. There is soooo much I could add, but limited space won't permit it. I'm just tired of wondering what I should do with my life. I'm about to be 41. Life is short and I haven't hardly done anything with it. I'm not living, just existing. What are your opinions? Please share. Thank you!!!! |
| Posted: 20 Jun 2015 05:23 PM PDT When we started dating he was living in a trailer with no plumbing water or electricity and so sad and lost. He was low due to a previous relationship with a women who never let him see his kids constantly being put down by his family. I've known him my whole life he fed and took care of me when I was homeless and my mother was try to "sell me" for her drugs. He at only 16 already on his own, protected and helped me when I let him. Never more than a friend. To see this amazing person this low broke my heart. I say this to explains how happy and amazing our lives have become In 15 months we are now buying a house he has finally started a career he is happy at. We have had a miracle baby. My two call him dad and I have worked with his ex up lifting her changing her outlook on "kids as weapons" made friend helped her get a job and gotten her to work with us as a unit for the kids. We get to have them weekly! We truly are happy! So you understand it blew me away when his mother started saying I was a thief, a liar among a thousand other things that she is pulling out of no where. Saying its wrong for me to be so close with his ex. Constantly attaching him and trying to turn his family against me. I am none of the things she says. I LOVE my fiance with everything. I will never give him an a ultimatum. I am civil because I respect him. But family gatherings are hard. I try to ignore her and his SILs. Idk how much longer I can keep quiet. Her "problems" and accusations are INSANE |
| Question: Am I making a mistake by staying with my husband? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 05:18 PM PDT Hi all, I feel as though I have no one to talk to because I am afraid of being judged. I lived life so that it turned out perfect. I waited until marriage to have sex, and only been with one guy. He made me feel so special. It's been a year since we got married. Overall we are happy, and he takes care of me financially, and he is very affectionate. We don't argue a lot, but when we do it's scary. Recently we got into it over him promising me that he would drive me to my job interview. I am new to his town and he knows where everything is in town, I don't. So he promised he would show me the location of my interview. When I held him to it I was let down. So I shared my feelings and told him he should not make promises he couldn't keep. I am always supportive of all he does, but that support is not reciprocated. When I told him this he called me a *****, and I insulted him back. I guess my insult hit home because he got mad, flipped the bed while I was standing on it. I ended up falling and hitting my head on the wall. He was still upset though I was hurt and picked up a glass cup and threatened to throw it at my head. He told me that he hoped me and his unborn child dies. I was numb. It was nothing I ever seen him do before. I had a job interview, and I missed it because of the emotional and physical pain. Consequently I lost that job opportunity. I just graduated with my bachelors degree, and I don't have a job or savings to leave him is I wanted to, and I'm pregnant Update: I feel so alone, I feel so stupid. The very next day I tried to breakup with him and he cried and apologized.He said he blacked out and couldn't control himself. We went and took a walk in the park and that day felt so perfect. All I could think about was how safe he made me feel when we first met. It seemed perfect again. I told him I would stay if he got counseling. He set up an appointment that day. Am I crazy for staying and trying to keep my marriage? |
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| Question: Collecting death benifits from my Ex husband....? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 02:47 PM PDT |
| Question: Threesome in a marriage? I say no but would like some point of views on it.? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 02:44 PM PDT My husband has told me he fantasized having a threesome with me and another woman. He asked me about if I ever wanted to do one and I said not really. He also said we can do one but I was very adamant on not doing one. He was very understanding but I couldn't help but sense a sadness or something when I said that. I am still getting used to new things most due to me living under a rock all my life. I just want some point of views or experiences. If you could that would be awesome. I am also afraid I might lose him if we involved another woman. I mean, will she be skinnier than me or prettier...?More Beautiful...? |
| Question: Husband works out of town...I need advice? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 02:14 PM PDT My husband works out of town and he's gone for 6-8weeks at a time and is only able to come home for 2 weeks...I am thankful for those 2 weeks but believe me you it gets hard and lonesome. When he first started working there it was just me and him and I would deal with the sadness and loneliness the best way I could, but now it isn't just us we have a 18month old daughter and another 3 months away from being born.. I dnt know how to deal with him being away for so long it'll be like I'm raising our kids on my own and they'll never really get to see there father or really get to know him:( , I guess what I'm asking is there any other jobs he can work that will pay 1500 and up every two weeks without having a degree?, I know he works this job to take care of all our bills but isn't there anything else he could do that's not so time consuming ? |
| Posted: 20 Jun 2015 02:05 PM PDT e.g. whether the wife works or stays home, how to divide the household chores, where they intend to live, sleeping arrangements and bedroom duties, how many kids they want, what faith to raise the kids, etc.? and, most importantly, how to split their assets when they divorce, and who gets custody? |
| Question: I feel sort of stunted in my marriage . . .? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 01:12 PM PDT My husband can't seem to wrap his mind around the idea that I'm not a frail flower. I lived by myself for 10 yrs, carried the groceries, did my own landscaping, painted my apartments, refinished furniture & even made a living at one point setting tile. For some reason he will not let me do anything at all in our house! He thinks he's better at everything even though he's never seen me do anything because he insists that it's his job. If I try to do anything at all, he takes the tool from me & tells me to go relax & he'll handle it. I've tried to explain that I miss the creativity & want to do stuff. He says I can do the small stuff, just let him handle the "real" work because I could end up hurting myself, etc. Is this some sort of weird man issue that I just don't get? |
| Question: Troubled child divorced parents? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 01:10 PM PDT Please dont respond if you just wanna say get over it. My daughter dad disowned her 2 years ago. She was ten. He just stopped talking to her and and told her since his wife didnt like her he couldnt have anything to do with her. My husband has been in her life for ten years. The past two he went and is goin above and beyond. Shes going thru the phase of mourning where she is putting his and her pictures up, a card her bought her years ago. Honestly you know it hurts. He ignored n disowned her has not contacted her at all. My husband has treated her like gold. Ive never disowned her. As humans we feel hurt and lil bit resentful. It hurts my husband worse i am sure. I dont know whether to take them down and tell her she can keep them if she wants. Ask her in a kind way stop romanticizing and have her call him because shes putting herself thru hell? I dont know what to do or handle this. Shes making believe her dad is what he really isnt. Its painful to see that stuff hanging up. |
| Question: Army wife? help please? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 12:30 PM PDT Here are the details: I am in a relationship with the person who I can definitely call my soul mate.. He is currently in basic training and will be graduating in three weeks. I am 19 & he is 24. I'd say we're both mature individual. However, we want to get married. Now, we only met about four months ago. It was truly love at first sight. I know that the statistics are not very good for people my age getting married, especially after this little time of knowing one another. But through our faith in God I know we can make it work. Sure, it won't be easy. But I need to consider everything. He will be an E3 when he graduates. A huge goal of mine is to continue with college. How possible will it be to get married & continuing education? What other things do I need to consider if I haven't already I want to make the best decisions I can. I need to weigh out every possibility, good and bad. |
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| Question: Is it worth to stay in this marriage? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 11:00 AM PDT I have been married for 2.5 years to a drug addict. He never told me he was on drugs so i was cheated big time. He is very immature and also controlling. His parents a wealthy and supporting us but they control everything in my life. My husband is very close to his family and they have his back really good. He does not know how to be a husband. I dnt feel like am married. We have no intimacy. My opinion does not count. He expects me to love him like his family does. I feel so used by them. I did my husband visa work also. I dnt love him anymore. Finantially i have an ok life but nothing especial. They are millionaires but am living in an empty apartment. Everything is in their hands. His parents control kids with money and they also expect me and my husband to take care of them when they get old. There are a lot of things i hate about my husband. He always compares me to his sister. How his sister is nice ans quiet and i should be like him. Honestly i have started to hate his guts. At the same time if i leave i get nothing And need to start building my career. I simply hate my husband and his family presense. My husband is such a kid. Any good advice? |
| Question: Does a married man need his wife's signature to get snipped? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 09:37 AM PDT Can he still get one regardless to whether his wife agrees to it or not? Or is he legally required to get his wife's permission? |
| Question: My wife thinks that i am a weak man and not strong enough to protect her? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 08:58 AM PDT I was bragging to my wife that i would die protecting her even if there were 4 guys in front of me.She replied that she don't think i could even punch a guy.My man ego got hurt and i couldn't help but give her a fake smile.....Now i wanna prove that to her that i am not as weak as she thinks.I have seen in movies that thugs attack the actress and the hero comes,beats all thugs and saves the girl.I want to try something like that.I would tell my friends to harass her while i am with her.I would stand up and beat those guys(obviously it would be fake but i will make it look real)and finally my friends would run away.Then she would start respecting me afterwards.What do you think |
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| Question: Should I travel alone? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 08:31 AM PDT I've been planning a trip for about a month now. Well not quite that long or planning however I've been planning to TAKE a trip. SOLO. My wife although not necessarily enthused about my choice was okay with it because she takes plenty of trips. If I'm not taking her out to celebrate an occasion its to go see relatives or a trip with her friends or a ladies retreat or just some event she's involved with. I often watch our kids when she takes these. However I've been extremely exhausted and planned a small breather for myself however feel almost as if I should take my wife and two kids and center this trip around their needs rather than mine. Its just I work my wife doesn't, for good reason, and I am worn out so I'm hoping to rest and relax not party. If I bring the kiddos we're left to party. My wife is also traveling this time with the kids next weekend to visit family. What should I do? |
| Question: Husband slept with another woman during our separation? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 08:17 AM PDT My husband and I have been together since we were in high school and we are now in our late 30s with 4 (soon to be 5) kids. We had been separated because he was accusing me of cheating and becoming more and more possessive of me and we were constantly fighting and it was just horrible. But now we are trying to work things out. He came home on Wednesday night and I asked him if he was with anyone else while we were separated. He said yes. I didn't even ask who because I really don't want to know. But now I feel like he can't be trusted. I feel cheated. I didn't express my feelings about it when he told me, but I am holding it inside and I know I will end up using it against him in the future. I don't know what to do. I don't want to get a divorce because we've been together for so long and I know there's going to be hard times. We just have to work through them. Plus, I'm going to have another baby in November. But this is so difficult for me to cope with. I can't believe he'd go out and cheat on me. Not only me, but our family too. What should I do? |
| Posted: 20 Jun 2015 07:25 AM PDT besides its the same thing as kissing your partner on lips by passing everything you have on your moth to his's so its not less hygienic sharing a toothbrush from kissing each other do you agree and are you gay or unfortunatelyn straught my husband proposed this to me i never heard of sharing a toothbrush before should i tell him to start using our own |
| Question: Fiance and contribution? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 07:23 AM PDT I'm engaged. 46 and my fiance is 44. I have 3 children who live with me from prior marriage he has one from prior relAtionship who he sees one day a week. He practically lives at my house although he has his own place. His own place is his fathers house who is retired and moved away. He pays no rent, taxes. Just his personal expenses and minimal child support. He showers at my house 2 times a day uses my soap. Does his laundry there, eats my food, watches my cable. He makes a lot of money. I work full time and barely get support from their father. Over the last 3.5 years we have been together he has offered me 60.00 four times towards groceries. If I ever had to borrow money from him I always pay him back and he puts it in his pocket. I'm tired of it. I struggle week to week and he is walking around with $18000 in a bank account. I want to ask h to start contributing but I don't know how. Please, any advice. He takes me out to dinner once a week and spends 50.00. I guess that's supposed to be him helping me. |
| Question: Manipulator/Abuser turned a new leaf? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 06:39 AM PDT I've been married for 23 years to my husband who has emotionally, verbally and mentally abused me; he's only tried to hit me once but I fought back and he never did it again. He's done so many bad things and may have had a girlfriend. I have proof of suggestions that their was a affair but I have not actually caught him. I tried leaving twice after 22 years. The last straw was when he did not get home until the early morning. He's die that off and on through out the years. We went through counseling and the counselor took his side, he's a charmer. Just recently I told him all the emotion is gone and our marriage will never be the same. He says he's willing to live that way. Now he says he's done with the partying and wants to be the husband and grandfather he's supposed to be... After 23 years! I'm just restless, not happy and I don't trust him. Do I risk staying and not knowing if he will go back to what he was? I don't want to waste another year of my life. Life is too short. I'm also afraid that when he gets old, he'll be verbally abusive and I'll probably have to place him in a home. His mother was verbally abused by his dad and I don't want to be her 20 years from now. She's old and has gone through hell with that man. Every day I think of leaving, it haunts me all day long. How do I know if leaving is selfish or necessary?? I'm extremely taunted and I don't know if God is moving me or if I just want to be free from this man |
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| Question: How long should i ignore him? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 05:57 AM PDT Ok so i have been with my ex on and of for 11 years, since ghe begging of time when he was mad he'd ignore me for as long as he wanted. We broke up for a few years and got back together in our mid 20's ( hes 28 im 26 now) we also share two small kids so whenever hes upset or mad he leaves and goes to another state and sometimes will stay for months with no contact, not even to check on the kids.....and im always the one blowing up his phone, emails, fb etc. So about a few months ago another girl became pregnant by him, she lives in the other state he frequently travels too. He told me he wanted to make things work with her for their daughters sake but he still needed me to he his friend, i was hurt and felt betrayed. I tried to adjust and couldnt hes always been emotionally, mentally and even physically abusive so i out weighed the pros and cons and decided to keep my distnace. So fast forward to now. I found out i was 2 mo ths pregnant by him, when i told him he instanlly started to ignore me, didnt even see the kids, than for about 3 weeks i heard nothing. I assumed he left and went to the other state with the other pregnant woman, no hes texting me, ive ignored him but my question is how long? He wants my number so he can call his kids but i dont want to give him my number. What should i do? |
| Question: True default divorce california? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 05:55 AM PDT I have a question my divorce went into a true default. My spouse did not reply to my petition and it has been past 30 days. I'm a bit worried because we have a child and people are saying that it could take 12 months instead of the 6 months to divorce. Is this true? I have not put anything bad in my petition all I did was put 50-50 child custody since I already have my child for that much I agreed on paying child support no alimony for me gave my spouse one car and split half of everything agreed to pay all debts. Can this really take 12 months? I'm not asking for much in fact it seems like I am being fair and reasonable with no means to destroy my spouse life. I just want to be divorced and start our new life's separate. |
| Question: Why my wife has lost all interest in sex? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 05:55 AM PDT |
| Question: My husband wont let me work and abuses me HELP!? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 05:43 AM PDT I am 28 and have 3 kids with my husband I don't work he won't let me he makes 200k a year . He hits me if I do anything wrong like spilling some wine or not making a great meal up to his standards. We have a love in maid so I just cook and go to the mall ect. But he says that if I work it will make him lol weak like he can't porvide for his family. But I'm so bored and I have bruises all over my and a black eye I use concealer to cover up but it's hard to hide. I want to leave him but I don't have any money and he said that if I divorce him he will beat me worse than before and he heads a law office so I'm worried. |
| Posted: 20 Jun 2015 05:05 AM PDT Prior to having visitation court ordered we tried to make things civil so we could arrange visitation without the court needing to order it but since we had a messy break up a he has a prior history of being verbally and physically abusive with me anytime we talk he thinks it gives him right to continue to verbally abuse me. When we went to court he chose to be the every other weekend father, he used to tell me that he had his own life and better things to do than "babysit" & watch our son for "slave hours" while I worked. Pretty awful things to say about spending time with his child. He is not abusive to our son, but has always enjoyed getting me upset. He will now ask me to see our son on days that are not court ordered to him, if we are free I let him come get our son (I have never wanted to be the mom to deny their relationship despite how awful ours is) but if we're busy and I can't make him seeing him possible for that day he eimmdiately starts to verbally attack me via text messages & occasional voicemails. He will say the most awful things he can think of, and is now threatening me to go back to court to file for 50/50 custody, when he is only expected to pick our son up 2x a month for their weekend overnights and he has never once been on time and has also not showed on different occasions. Is there anything I can do to prevent the awful messages I get when things don't go his way? There are also times he'll text me out of nowhere just to fight with me. |
| Question: My mom doesn't let me be affectionate towards my husband? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 05:00 AM PDT My parents are staying over for 3 months at our place, wich I have absolutly no problems with but my mother doesn't let me and my husband be affectionate? This has been going on for 2 weeks already and its driving me crazy! I've tried to talk to her about it and she said it wasn't her intention. Whenever my husband and I are cuddling on the couch, holding hands, hugging, making eachother laugh or kissing,she always tries to interupt the moment by dragging me away or sitting inbetween us. I don't know why she's doing this. This happened before when she stayed over. I don't think she has something against my husband because she has known him since we were teens and we're 32 now! We have 3 kids and one of them even asked my husband and I if we we're fighting because we don't act the same anymore. I don't know what's going on with my mom but I do know that we can't do this for another 2 months! Does anyone know why she could be acting this way? @ ♠ Merlin ♠: Its like Britney said; I'm trying to act properly, thats why I first need to find out why she could be acting this way. @planner yes, we would act that way if it were my husband's boss staying with us. We're not all over each other the whole time but when we get home on a friday night, we just like to sit down on the couch and watch a good movie. And what's wrong with him having his arm around me then? When we go out, we like to hold hands while walking. And its not like wer'e sharing french kisses in front of her, just short good morning-, welcome home-, I'm going to bed-kisses. |
| Question: How many married couples feel like technology is ruining the relationship? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 04:38 AM PDT My husband is literally on his phone for at least 8 hours a day. He says it's his hobby to look at and answer questions on gun forums and whatever else he does. I try to pick my battles but it's become an annoyance to the entire family as he gets so wrapped up he doesn't speak to us. I spoke to him about putting it down when the kids and I are trying to have a conversation with him and then yesterday he did exactly the same thing. He was on his phone from 6am til 2pm, worked on his truck til dinner was ready then back on it from 6pm til after 11. |
| Posted: 20 Jun 2015 04:38 AM PDT My husband said he may never sleep with me again because he came home & I was in the shower talking outloud about all of mine & my husbands problems to God. I always talk to God when I'm in the shower I tell God everything, I ask him to help me & to give me the strength to face whatever it is that I must go through in my life. Now after a month of me wanting sex he tells me he didn't like what I was saying about him while I was in the shower. (The Truth Why Would I Lie To God) so I asked him how long will it take for him to get over it & he said maybe never....... He looks at porn at work & all the way home from work but then he tells me to go pleasure myself! The more I'm around him the more stressed I get which is affecting my nerves in the worst possible way & then my nerves come out in the form of attacking my body putting me in extreme pain. I've had problems with this in the past from the way he's treated me & him having 2 affairs. After doing months & months of research I have come to realize that he is the classic case for having narcissistic personality tendencies he has shown many many traits for being a narcissist in the true form..... We've been together for 16 years he has always in the past kept it over my head that financially I couldn't make it on my own but now with my homeowner giving me the house 5 yrs before its paid off I am able to make it on my own. . Am I right for making him move out! Would u stay in a sexless marraige with a husband that perfers to just pleasure himself by himself....... He is just using what I said to God as an excuse not to have sex with me.......... I have said those things to his face & that didn't stop him before..... Besides any truth that I have spoken to him or about him to god he has said worse things (lies) to me..... He uses things to control me............. I have no friends because of him........ Please honest answers only. |
| Question: If a guy says he in an 'open marriage' does that mean he'd consider a second wife? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 04:15 AM PDT Is that the concept of it? |
| Question: An open relationship? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 04:12 AM PDT How can people have an open relationship without getting hurt? I talked to my husband about this and he told me that he'd never want to share me with someone else. I feel the same way. Don't people get jealous when they know their spouse is with someone else? Doesn't this lead to fights? I'm just curious about how this all works. |
| Posted: 20 Jun 2015 02:20 AM PDT Help? |
| Question: If your wife is unhappy will she be more likely to cheat ? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 02:05 AM PDT |
| Question: Pre-marital conflict. Opinions needed? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 01:39 AM PDT My fiancé and I are getting married soon. We both want children; but, we would like to wait a year before we start a family. The problem is that he wants me to stay at home and be a stay-at-home mother once we start a family. The only problem I have with that is that I recently earned my Masters degree to be a therapist. I feel like being a stay-at-home mother would mean that all the years of hard work getting my Masters will be a waste. Plus, I accumulated a lot of debt in school. My fiancé is pretty well-off. He makes about $100,000 a year. He said he wants to take care of me and allow me to be there for out future children as much as possible. He said he s going to pay off all of my debt so I don t have to worry about anything. I don t mean to imply that being a stay-at-home mother is a waste. I think being there for your children is awesome, but I don t want to feel like I ve done all this hard work for nothing. A lot of my identity is tied up in my work. I ve worked since I was a teenager. My fiancé on the other hand likes to be the hero and provider. I like this about him, but I don t want to become depressed being at home all the time. Opinions? I'm not sure why my apostrophes aren't showing up Not to mention, God forbid my fiancé loses his job, we'll be without an income |
| Posted: 20 Jun 2015 01:12 AM PDT Hi. i have been with my husband 11 years he's treats me bad hits me somtimes, we don't have sex much anymore. so i went online and started chatting with this guy we met tonight he drove to a secluded area intending to make love, he undressed we did not kiss, have oral sex or anything he took off my pants and undies i covered my private with my hands also he had No condoms we didn't even have sex i told him i couldn't do it. my husband may be an asshole but he bustes his butt everyday to get us everything. the guy was very kind and understanding i apologized for wasting his time No physical or sexual contacted no dry humping ect he brought me by where i lived and i came home just now. my husband doesn't know a thing and neither does the guy's girlfriend i feel guilty. is this cheating? Thanks i started crying feeling bad and back out of it. |
| Posted: 20 Jun 2015 01:05 AM PDT My husband and I are 24, and we just got married in march. His mom is absolutely crazy, she is jealous and wants my husband all for herself. When she found out we were moving in together, and becoming a real family like all normal couples do, she completely freaked out at my husband Zhan for weeks before we found a place. She calls him like 5 times a day, or sends her teenager daughter to come fetch me during the week without calling, so she can see him after he picks me up. She complains that I boss him and control him, because she doesn't see him everyday. Also that I starve him and don't take care of him, because no one can cook, or do things like her. Why can't she just be happy for us, I have done nothing but show kindness to them, its so far and its starting to become too much! |
| Posted: 20 Jun 2015 12:16 AM PDT |
| Question: What Love and marriage Means To My Future Husband. How would you feel? Posted: 20 Jun 2015 12:03 AM PDT I just got engaged to my boyfriend of a year. He said he wants me to know what he is getting involved in when he marries me. Years ago before he ever meet me he started keeping a diary that he would write in hoping that he would meet the one he wrote all those years for. He included what love and marriage meant to him, wrote how he would except someone for all their faults and love them for it, he even included poems, things he wanted to do with me, movies he wanted to watch with me, included articles on tips for a successful marriage. He made a promise to himself that he would write or include something in it once a day until he meet me. He told me that when he first meet me he knew I was the one that he wrote all those years for. He discovered it served several purposes first it showed how dedicated he was to me and two he figures if there was ever a rough patch in the marriage he would go back reread what he wrote to me years earlier among many other things. I just wanted to see if anyones husband ever did this for you? Or if he didn't would you like something like this and how would it make you feel? |
| Question: Is this a secret I should keep from my wife? Posted: 19 Jun 2015 11:46 PM PDT Here's the thing I love war reenactments, larping(live action role play), I'm also a serious gamer, and my wife is not into it. I love online gaming as well. My wife is more into beauty pageants (I personally don't like them I find them dumb and demeaning to children) my wife has been trying to get our daughter into pageants but our daughter seems to take after me. My daughter also doesn't like the stress and drama of beauty pageants so I stopped signing my daughter up for them. My wife can't accept our daughter isn't into the same things as her. Really our daughter is a tomboy and I've been signing her up for sports when she and I aren't larping. Is it best if I keep it a secret from my wife? |
| Question: My wife was sexually abused... by her brother.. What should I do? Posted: 19 Jun 2015 11:35 PM PDT This consisted of him 'peeping' on her and rubbing up against her. Not sure what else as he didn't share openly everything... |
| Question: Should I stay in my marriage or get out? Posted: 19 Jun 2015 11:35 PM PDT When he comes home from work he never spends time with me or the kids. He works 3rd shift and sleeps all day until an hour before work. He talks bad about me at work. He calls me ugly when we fight. He does not give me any money. He has been lying to me and keeping stuff from me. He sleeps in the bed and me on a recliner. He never spends time with me and the children. We beg him for time but he always has new excuses. I feel robbed of true love and a real relationship. He does not even eat dinner with us he has his food in his room. If I go in there he yells at me to get out. He extremely hates me and he has lost all love for me. I also do not love him anymore. My children dislike him other than the youngest as she does not know any better. But, my son hated the situation so he moved out. I often feel sick and I expect him to reach out to me and massage my back or rub my tummy but he just lets me lay there in pain. I feel like I am all alone. He told me he works overtime just to get away from me and the kids. He won't even take the garbage out regularly. He thinks since he works 3rd shift only he is entitled to sleep and that I must stay awake and take care of the kids 24/7. He is Pakistani and I am an American. I realize there are cultural differences but still we share the same religion. I am at wit's end here there is more but I can not mention it all over here. Should I leave or should I stay? Already cook appealing foods. Tried the intimacy thing it lasted three days. I have no money to get myself "appealing". I have been begging to go get my own job and was actually hired. He would not allow me to work. Yet, my mom has to help pay my bills as he only pays the house bills and his own personal bills. |
| Question: How long have you been married? Posted: 19 Jun 2015 11:17 PM PDT |
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