My girlfriend is attractive and always tells me how she gets hit on constantly (at work, at the store, when she's out with friends, etc). She also is divorced and has kids and her ex husband is always coming over to her house to spend time with his kids and she always tells me how much the kids love their dad and how he is such a great father (even though he didn't pay child support for a year and a half and never takes the kids to his place to do things with them on his own). It's driving me crazy. How do I deal with the jealous feelings I'm having and is it normal?

Me and my fiance are getting married. Changing my name on all bills, and mail, and filling for a name change just seems like work. I'll go by my husbands name, but can I legally not change it and still file taxes as a married couple?

I'm feeling super romantic. Lay it on me.

We don't have any kids. We found out that he cannot have any. Which destroyed him.Anyways we have been having a lot, I mean a lot of problems the last few years. I have always been in love with him.We separated a couple times,not for long just a month within the last couple years.I felt him pulling away and staying out over night at his "friends" house a lot.Would stay days. He would go on trips and to movies and out to dinner. Spent holidays with her, like Valentine's Day. Yea I found out real quick that it was a woman. Which was married and separated herself with 2 young kids. But he insisted that they were just "friends" and still til this day says that's all it is. Swears to god that they never slept together. I found this out a year ago. And I knew what was going on. I'm not stupid, but I loved him so much. I tried telling him he needs to stop seeing her. I gave him all the chances in the world to stop being "friends" with her and to choose me. But he just wouldn't and he kept me thinking he wanted to work things out. That he couldn't just stop the friendship that quick. Made me think that he was going to though. And be with me at the end and grow old together. String me along, I know. To see if she is what he wanted or not and if not I'd still be there. Well this went on for a year. I know I'm dum. But again I loved him so much. My first and only love I've ever had. Well I got fed up and I left. He told me it was over with her. THE REST OF MY QUESTION IS IN COMMENTS.

We met 20 yrs ago. She says I was her first love because she met me at 15. We went our separate ways and both got married and had children. She made contact after 15 years claiming she's been having dreams about me and thought she's reach out. Strangely enough the dreams she had about my life were accurate, don't know what that means? She recently left her husband because of domestic abuse. We hooked up a couple of times and made plans of having a future together. I admit I told her I love her, but afraid cause I'm separated too. I decided to just ignore her calls and texts and hope she'll go away. She says she going through so much pain due to her husband verbally abusing her on the phone and said if it wasn't for her daughter she would end her life. She apologized for any wrong she may have done to me (Which is none) and basically begged me to talk to her, but I refused. She says she wants to hear the truth from me, but I don't want to talk to her. Am I wrong? She's going through a terrible time right now and living with her parents. She shouldn't have put herself. She should have been wiser making decisions. What do you think?

I am American born and raised citizen. I married a Canadian in the United States and my son was born in the United States, but my Canadian spouse took my son to Canada while in immigration process and filed for divorce there. British Columbia courts are trying to subject me to their laws of divorce including child support accounting for exchange rate differences. What can I do?

We want 3 kids. But our income is obviously low. Over the years we will be make more obviously. He pays like 100 in insurance for him, me and we can add 4 kids and it'll still be 100. His insurance is awesome. But with out hourly pay can we have 3 kids and make it work without being miserable

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Ok my husband gets angry at very little things and wont stop complaining about how bad I behave, I was unemployed for a while he supported me financially and also used to tell me to leave him alone and get out of his house and will just argue unnecessary once he slapped me on the street, and never sincerely apologise instead i apologies first as he said I brought it to myself and only apologise day after and don't think it was sincere..I have now left and stay with family I can only find part time job to support myself.. Now he's is claiming how I used his money and left.. I was the one doing all house work and got tired of the argument and he countless times asked me to leave so I did.. He's just making me feel guilty and that karma will get me for treating him badly and that he is disappointed in me.. He still never acknowledged the way he treated, the only thing he says is how he was financially supporting me.. Another major issues before marriage he knows I want kids and agree after marriage he changed his mind and don't want kids..why do still feel guilty?

She's been living with us for the past couple of weeks. Right now she's supposed to be living with us until she finds a place to live here since she recently relocated here, and I have to admit I liked it better when she was 12 hours away and not in my hair. But anyway she's always telling me what to do and complaining when I do something. Like a few days ago when I was making breakfast for my husband she made some comment about how microwaving frozen pancakes wasn't cooking breakfast. And she also tells me how I'm not cleaning the house enough, I don't clean as much as I should but he's never had a problem with it though. Then she started a fight with me for letting my stepdaugther who is 14 go out with her friends the other night. I mean she started really laying into me like do I know her friends or where they are going and did I clear it with my husband, the answer to all of that was no but I don't see what the problem is and all she did was shake her head and say "you're impossible." She also tries to tell me how to discipline my own 7 year old daughter, that's not her granddaughter so she has no say so in the matter. When I try to tell him about it all he says is "But she's my mother" and tells me to try to be nice for him but I'm at my wits end though and I want to get rid of her. It doesn't even seem like she's trying to find a place. How do I tell my husband nicely that I want her out?

Hello.... I really need some help I am 22 years old and my hubby is 33 we been married for 2 years and we have a 1 year old.....He is a wonderful father and loves her to death.....seeing them makes me jealous b/c I never had a REAL realationship with my father...He was very abusive and at age 14 he told me he wanted to have sex with me and my sister and on 2 occasions he masterbated in front of me...long story short I kicked him out of my life at age 19! I been through sexual abuse,sexual assault and going from man to man and I m finally happy so why am I jealous??? He is the best thing ever that happened to me. And I deff wanna protect our child and he does that! Help?

i just moved here in the state because my husband is working here and he has a good job. he actually just got promoted and had an increase of $30k a year. but eventho, he's paying all the bills and mortgage of $2k a month. i havent finished school because he told me that i'll just continue my studies here which i dont think will happen. and he also told me before that i can work if i want to. but now he's saying that it will not make any difference if i work.. he said he's calculating it and it will not make any difference because i will pay for my bus pass for $60 a month. i dont know what he's thinking. i got an offer many times which i will earn $2k a month the lowest and $3k a month the highest. and i always turn it down because of him. he's always saying not to get it or just get a job nextime.. but when?? he's not giving me any money. he's just giving me money when i need to go to town and he's just giving me $5!! for the fair. i dont know how to talk to him about this. please help me. oh and one more thing, he gets mad at me even in small things. he's calling me names ang saying bad words on me even if we're in public. he said im worthless and stupid.

often but not about sex. My wife doesn't know we're texting she's kept that between us also. What's going on? Is she actually into me?

Hi all, I just got married and now I always thinking about how much more I can stand him. I feel like I am trapped. I am Asian and I married a British after more than two years dating (fly here and there all the time). I really wanted to settle down, therefore we married. However, after marriage, some charaters i did not like about my husband and hope he could change for the sake of the new family, he still has not change. He is lazy and negative. Some examples, because of the visa I cannot get a job in the UK before and now I have changed to a spouse visa but I am waiting to go back to my country for my side of wedding ceremony and then return back to work. I stay at home almost all day, of course, logically speaking. I do the housework, cooking, washing clothes, learning, etc. He almost never help. Not mention that, he smokes weed when he has it and smoke quite a lot every night. After smoking, he laughs a lot for no reason and his face change to no blood colour, I feel like I am talking to a stupid, liturally everything could make him laugh. He works as a software developer earns £25k+ wage however, I was hoping after work he could try harder to make more money so that we could buy a house rather than renting. The reality is he plays computer game until late mid night every night. I feel he is so passionless. To be continue...

my wife thinks i had an affair? I'm not totally innocent but i never followed through with it. last night she woke me up and started watching a video of a guy masturbating then has sex with me and then kicks me back out of the room.I'm confused would anyone have explanation as to what this is.

I no longer feel in love with my husband. He has put me through a lot over the years, but I always stood by him. Now I am just no longer in love. I don't feel anything when we kiss, I no longer have sex with him, and I sleep on the couch most nights to avoid being held. It's not right for me to do this to him. He deserves much more. He knows that I feel very distance form him, I've told him in the many talks we've had. He still loves me very much, I just think this is unfair for me to string him along. He is under the impression that I will go back to the clingy, super affectionate girl I used to be, but I'm not that person anymore. What are your suggestions?

My ex and I were divorced over 5 years ago. He is suppose to pay child support but he hasnt paid in over a year. He hardly ever calls her and tries to keep in contact with her. I am since remarried and moved out out state( with the courts permission ) and yes my ex knows. He never tried to come see her or visit before we moved before anyway. The AG is going after my ex for back child support and told me that he could be arrested if he doesn't pay the $5300 he owes. My husband wants to adopt my daughter now. They get along great together and he supports and takes care of her like his own daughter. Should I wait on this or should I go ahead and start with the adaption? I am currently working with the AG in the new state that I'm living in.

Technically he's not a "father" yet.. I'm expecting our first baby in July and I was hoping to spend the day together. I was thinking of taking him to lunch and then going to the lake. But he just told me he is golfing with his dad and for me to just enjoy the day myself... can't help but feel a little down about that. Any advice?

I am stay at home mom of 4 and been having marriage problems for awhile now. My trust for him is gone. He moved out 7 months ago. I found out he was forging my name on taxes for last several years,owes a lot in back taxes for his buisness, and has not paid anything. I found emails from exes talking about meeting up even when I was 8 months pregnant. He has anger problems and has punched doors and thrown things across room in front of kids to a point where my oldest was ready to call the police she was so scared. Couple days ago she came to me and told me daddy got mad at her and threw her down to ground and against the wall, when I asked him about it he said she was lying and if i told anyone he would take the kids and house. Well then he was trying to get our 4 year old in bath and he wouldn't get in so he got really forceful with him and threw him inn. He has a bruise on his back and arm from him hurting him. I told him he had to leave right then. I am so scared this will get worse.He has called me names and told me I'm a piece of crap and he has never loved me and tells me to go jump off a bridge and then later email me and say he wants to go to counseling. I have tried last several months for the kids especially but I'm at a breaking point. He tells me I don't have anyone left and its my fault, I lost my dad and grandma 2 years ago and he was never there for me, no hug, not even with me when they passed. What would you do?

We recently had a baby girl! My mother stayed with us for the first week offering to help, since I had a cesarean. She totally spoiled us with helping. Now it's just my husband and I, and he has been helpful in all areas but one and it's more so the logic that bothers me. He said he will have zero part in diapering or bathing because she's a girl and he sees him having to change her as inappropriate. At first I just laughed at him and then he went on some mini rant about how he was serious. Should I pick my battles here? I can't help but think this is not just him being lazy and looking for an excuse, and if he really feels this way I cannot believe I married him!

My husband had an affair with someone at work. I told him to stop but he always made a way to talk or see her. He said she was just a friend. We tried working things out and he has said to me he will stop contacting her but because she works with him he can't entirely stop talking to her only work related. I get a call from one of his co workers that she is always in his office, keep in mind he is her supervisor, and that they he gives her rides. I went to see for myself and there I saw her in his car with him driving off. He denies everything and that he was just giving her a ride because the vanpool was packed. I was furious. Since then , we have been trying to work things out again but I still have trust issues. I just can't sweep everything under the rug and forget about it so fast. I asked him to promise me to stop seeing her or talking to her and again he fed me the same line from the first time "I can't stop talking to her at work, it's not my choice. It's only work relatable." I said that's the same thing you said the first time and you lied. He became angry and very defensive saying I'm never going to believe him and he starts to flip things on me as to why our marriage isn't going to work. please help me think im not the crazy one!

My husband earns 110k. I'm a housewife. He had a lot of health problems so I quit my job when we got married, took care of him an enrolled myself in school for higher education. He works very hard all the time but hardly got a raise in the last 5 years or promotion. The only thing he's getting is increased workload. He spends a lot on other people but when it comes to spending money on ourselves he tells me to control. He does let me spend but always tells me to be careful. I'm growing sick of the housewife lifestyle and starting to grow unhappy with his earnings. We had an argument over finances and I told him there's a difference between working hard and making enough. I know some of you might think I'm ungrateful or greedy but I always wanted a lavish lifestyle and he's not providing it. I have a baby coming soon. Planning to get a job myself after I graduate but I don't know why I feel so unhappy with my husband.

She's never had an orgasm. We ordered a vibrator the other day, but she wants to view it's use as a experience for both of us (she wouldn't feel comfortable doing it alone). She is nervous about it, but I am excited. I just want to make her feel as comfortable as can be. What can I do while she's using it? Should I attempt any oral? Or will I just be getting in the way?

I am divorced father of a little girl. Recently me and her mother have been trying to give it another shot and shes been staying with me. We've been having problems lately and she threatened to leave which is fine. However here is the problem. Her (ex wife) parents have always been drug addicts and alcoholics. Since shes been staying with me shes told me her father and mother are using crack. She cries to me worried about her parents. Her brother is an alcoholic veteran with ptsd. If she leaves she will stay with her brother and being that she has no one to watch our daughter she will leave her with them to babysit while she is at work and school. I mentioned this to the judge during divorce and she wasn't concerned. What can i do? Now i have no proof and this is stuff that she has told me. Im just worried about my daughter.

I got engaged when I was 16, married at 18. Before the marriage everything was as wonderful as a childhood relationship can be. We started fighting about sex on our honeymoon. He said it was boring since it was allowed. Fast forward 2 kids, a lot of hardships, and 20 years. My husband is an alcoholic and by alcoholic I mean 20ish drinks a night. I don't know how it's even possible to consume that much. I told him years ago I wanted out, they we were like ghosts passing each other. There's no talking, no communication, rarely any touching. Almost 3 years ago he told me he only sleeps with my to shut me the f*** up not because he wants me. There has been some mental abuse but he's not a monster. I've been telling my family even my kids for 2 years that I would one day get a divorce. Almost a year ago I fell completely in love with someone else. I met him through our kids. He's a beautiful soul.5 months in I told my husband, he lost it. Threatened my life many times, even thought he killed me once. My daughter started threaten suicide because her dad talked about what a whore I am and she wanted her family together. So, for my daughter I stayed. My husband got his way a turned into some fake prince charming I don't buy. I don't talk to the other guy much, he's hurt, I'm hurt. I saw him for the first time in 4 months the other day, no feelings have changed. I've cried myself to sleep every night for months. I'm trapped on a hell of my own making. I have no idea where to go.

I never thought that she would cheat so it was all such a shock to me. She actually got pregnant by this guy but had an abortion because she said that she knew I would not accept this. Regardless of all of that, I have actually been supportive of her and just wanted to move forward and rebuild our marriage. So now she says that I am smothering her and she wants us to separate for a few weeks to get our heads together. What is this all about. Why would she not want to work toward getting closer instead of living apart for a little while? I am lost right now and would love some words of wisdom. Feeling desperate to get my marriage back!

Now, we all know that it's common for couples to hit the dull drums. But what happens when it goes on for along time where there's not much progression in intimacy (not meaning physical intimacy). Now in no way am I discontent in being comfortable, but say there's this inclination that your spouse decided in their mind long ago that they were never going to let you past knowing them to a certain point. Know what I mean? I'd never push or force the subject, but it's hard to not desire deep level communication when that's what my heart seeks fulfillment in. I almost kind of hate that part of me because it brings forth imaginations that are inappropriate and the very, very, very last thing I want are disastrous consequences in my relationship. I'm not perfect, I'm a human being.....anyone else have some advice. I'm pretty sure I just need to button in up and just be content. Good grief, I hate sharing my heart...it seems so trivial and silly, I know, but I'm really bothered by myself just now. Stupid

Am I a terrible person if I don't want to take my fiancés last name when we get married for the reason that I think it sounds silly? I'm asking anon so I'll go ahead and share it. It's Youngblood. I love this man dearly and always thought I would go e traditional route and take my future husband's name, but I just can't see myself introducing myself as Mrs. Youngblood. Also we haven't really talked about names yet, so do you think I need to concoct some sort of reason why I want to keep my own? So I don't offend him? I have no strong attachment to my maiden, it's not as if my career is one where I am established under a certain name... ugh I don't know and would love some input!

Me and my husband have had some bad times and I have battled depression in the house we currently live in.. We are moving next month and we want to start new and fresh.. Including furniture and everything, what would be your best advise in a situation like this?

For initial few years we had wonderful sex life. Blessed with two daughters. But now he has lost interest in me. I m totally confused how to deal with this situation as he is not accepting there's a problem nd insist no need to consult a doctor.

My wife and I were celebrating our 4 year wedding anniversary last week. We were enjoying dinner and out of the blue my wife askes if it was okay if she met up with her ex. My reaction was to ask why. She responded that she feels she needs closure and also wanted to know more details. Her break up with her ex was pretty bad and I know this guy is up to no good. I trust my wife but I don't know what would happen if the ex says he has feelings for her still. It has been over 10 years since she broke up with her ex. A piece of me wants to let her, but another piece of me says thats the past and our family is all that matters now. I just can't believe that she brings this up on our anniversary. Another thing is a couple days later she tells me she had a dream and it involved her being with her ex.

My husband and I have been married for a year and a half now. We've been having problems for the better half of the year and started going to marriage counseling. I recently got a feeling that he liked a female coworker. He denied it for awhile but did admit it eventually. The next morning we had a couples session and he said he wants a divorce right now and that he can't take the constant fighting. After more talking he agreed to stay as long as things change immediately. I agree with the changes he wants to see and I've begun doing them. I need change from him too but I've been terrified for days. My stomach has been twisting without end and I am horrified at the thought of losing him. But I can't get my mind off this other girl he likes. I have no other information from him besides that. I was praying it was just a crush and it still might be. I want to focus on repairing the marriage but I'm scared he's going to leave without even trying. He's told me that he was prepared to leave but decided to stay because he saw a legitimate willing to change in me. He said he still loves me and wants things to work. I know that eventually I'll be ok if he does leave but I still love him and I want to work through this. Anyone got advice on how to deal with this anxiety and pain? How to deal with the not knowing what's going on between him and this other girl until he's ready to talk about it?

My wife gives short, five words answers that do not really give any information to every open-ended questions that I ask. We had started having marriage problems a few years ago. They have progressively gotten worse, so it is hard to say when they started exactly. I only started noticing it two years ago, but it may have started up to six years ago. I ask things like "What can we do to help our relationship?" "When do you feel that our relationship started going bad?" "What do feel that I could have done better so that wouldn t have had these problems?" We are of a religious faith that doesn t allow for divorce, so it makes no sense to me for her not to try to fix this up. I only mention the subject of divorce because a lot of people seem to believe that it is the answer. I do not believe that way and believe that it causes more problems than it solves, if it solves any at all. We are together for the rest of our lives, so why not make it so we both enjoy it as much as possible? She often avoids questions and changes the subject. I cannot give enough information due to how few characters are allowed here, but I am trying to resolve this problem. What do think that I can do to get her to really open up to me? I have really poured my heart out to her, mentioning how much our time together in the past has meant to me. The best that she can reply to me is basically "Yeah, I feel whatever it is that you are feeling- whatever that is." Her words seems to have no sincerity in them.

He says he doesn't like fake boobs & butts because they feel hard and look fake. He has a thing for sag in the chest area, which was confirmed by a quick look in his porn search history. But he recently told me he likes Nicki Minaj because (she has the biggest a$$ in the rap game). He tells me I have a big a$$, but I have cellulite and it doesn't stick out as much as Nicki's huge implants. He is always looking at big a$$ porn. The porn stars he looks at have fake a$$es and boobs too. A lot has happened in the past few months that has made me insecure of my body image and my relationship in general, such as him lying about his porn use for the past 3 years of our relationship when i specifically told him it was a deal breaker for me because to me its virtually cheating and lusting after other women and imagining yourself f*cling them, and before you ask NO i dont think about other men ever, and recently (when we were fighting) he comoared me to his ex and said she was better in bed than me. but thats a story for another time. I kind of want implants, but mostly I want HIM to not want me to get implants. But it's so hard to believe him when he is constantly looking at all these fake women. I just get to the point where I don't think we are meant to be together anymore.

I'm 20 years old, I've been married for two months. I do love my husband very much, he is also my best friend. However, he has been unemployed for the last year. He spends all day sleeping or playing video games. He keeps saying he is going to get a job but he never even applies for anything. My father, my brother and some friends have tried to help him get a job. All he had to do was apply, he didn't. I work full time, I'm tired after work, he always expects me to make him food when I get off work. He is always complaining about everything. About my parents, my brother (who is an alcoholic), My sister who I haven't spoken to in three months. He is always upset about something. When I get off work I occasionally have a couple of drinks, I don't get drunk at all. Two-three drinks max. He is angry with me if I have a drink. I feel like he isn't happy with me unless I do everything he wants. He thinks he knows best about everything. I manage and make all the money, he tries to give ME advice on money. Whenever he has money he refuses to spend it unless it's on something he wants. I don't know what to do about this situation, any advice?

My husband of 8 years and myself recently divorced (after being separated for over 2 years). My ex and myself are both currently in other relationships and I am engaged. My fiance is considering a move for his work however my ex is saying he doesn't approve. Since he doesn't even live even remotely nearby due to him being in the military does he have any right to stop me and my fiance from moving with my children? I don't know what to do..... it seems that it's ok for him to move on but cannot accept the fact that I am moving on with my life. He says I need to focus on myself without relationships but he himself has jumped from relationship to relationship. If anyone can give me any answers they will be very much appreciated.