My mom has been through so much and literally while im typing this she was getting yelled at by her husband. My mom is pretty tough doesnt really smile. Any ideas of making her truly happy...long term? Awesome gift ideas? Idk

So how does he get a divorce from her? She never showed up for her final decree judgement, and he was incarcerated at the time and papers were signed by him. So obviously she knew they weren't divorced and remarried 15 years ago. She owns a business and lives in another state. How can he get this settled?

My late wife and I had a number of families/couples that we spent time with - we met for dinner, etc. everything was fine when things were going well for us - when I had a good paying job and when my wife was healthy - but then she had 13 hospitalizations and she passed away. These people didn't even bother to visit her - she died and some of them paid their respects to her, but most did not. I have not said a word to these people for 9 years now. she died in 2006. I felt like people only wanted to be our friend while the money was rolling in and while things were going fine, but when things really weren't ok, they were nowhere to be found. But I don't want to hate these people forever. suggestions?

If so what are you :top or bottom or whatever are you white ?

I heard that if women are not fulfilled in their marriage, they'll start pursuing their exes, because they made them feel wanted. Is that true? I'm not married or anything. And I never want to be. I'm just wondering. Thanks!

If not Kuwaiti, then Arab-Muslim? I really wish to see if there are others out there who have made it, and how? and where you live? I REALLY could use support right now. Even though our cultures are very close....theres a lot more to it. HELP??? P.S i'm not married yet..just in a relationship.

I met him from dating app and its been a month for two of us..we are Muslims. He told me that he is going to Australia in the next month.and he has been kept on texting me and now he has stopped texting me and its been like nine days no message at all my last message was too cute and nice why did he stop messaging me..well I am not sending him text coz he might think that I am too clingy or needy..and he told me he really really like me and he has stopped his messages suddenly! I don't why what must i do..should I wait for his message..we chat on whatsapp.

they have been married for 13 years. I told her not to leave the house he is using emotional black mail on her telling her to leave and not fight it or she will end up on the streets with nothing. do she have rights? is it true that if she fight it she will loose< and if she leaves will he say she abandoned them ? what should she do?

Yes it is wrong, but I really don't think that makes someone a bad person. Everybody makes bad decisions, but does making a bad decision also make you a bad person? I don't think so. Maybe instead of judging that person, people should try to understand. And the other woman doesn't always expect the man to leave his wife. I have been the other woman and I actually tried to help him fix his marriage. Point- the other woman (or man) isn't always out to steal him or her.

I fart around my wife a lot. She never laughs a long with me when I fart. I fart in the car with the windows locked and the heater on, it is sooooo funny but she never laughs. I have enough respect not to fart on her but I would of she thought it was funny. I'm in my mid 30's and all my friends still laugh when we fart it up but not my wife. She has farted around me like 5 times in the past 8 years and thinks thought those farts were funny. Do any women think farts are funny?

I have a total of 26 cousins on the two sides of my family and all have married parents. As a result I feel different and less of a person that my parents divorced since they said they divorced to protect us kids from their fighting. How do I overcome this feeling of shame in myself as I was 8 years old when they divorced and said "okay" when they told us. I feel I should have tried to stop them. I am now 28.

Me & my husband got into a physical fight. I picked him up at around 12am and we went home. He had been drinking that night and obviously was having a good time. I'm pregnant & tired but I had something to do when we got home. I overhear him calling someone to come get him from home. I asked where he was going & he said to his dad's house ( for what idk) I asked him why he couldn't wait for me to take him & he said he had to be up earlier than usual in the am (this was just an excuse to get out). I know what time he has to be up. He goes outside to my truck & gets his things out. I follow him outside & just started hitting him. 1. For lying to me for no reason 2. He can stay out all night & get up early in the am but for whatever reason this night he didn't want to.. My mom came out and broke us up. He never hit me back just restrained me. He followed me in the house to see what was wrong with me & why I was fighting him but my mom made him just leave. I texted him later on & told him it was over and I meant it. All of this out of anger & frustration. I didn't mean any of it. But I was & still am upset. We just got on good terms. He left me 2 months ago to be back w/ his ex. Decided that's not what he wanted & tried to be back with me. I fought long and hard against it & still am not totally for it but he is my husband. Now he's ignoring me. I keep asking him if he is breaking up w/ me but he won't give me an answer. Problem after problem. Is it worth it?

My husband recently found out he has a 4 year old child who was taken from his mother and the current goal is for my husband to get custody of him....but he works and I stay home with our 3, which is already overwhelming enough At times....just got my tubes tied because I want NO MORE KIDS! I'm expected to help raise this child that isn't mine and quite frankly I think that's unfair for me to not even have a choice. I didn't get this person pregnant and I have my own that I take care of and that's enough. I don't want to help with this child at all and I don't even feel like he belongs with us! Sick of being looked at like a monster but I was in an abusive relationship prior to my marriage and was forced to raise a child who wasn't mine and after that I realized that I couldn't and wouldn't do it again!!

I just found out that someone who I love and respect is cheating on her partner with her friends husband. Her oldest son is best friends with the kids of the guy she is cheating with also. She says that they love each other but she will end it to be all noble but I feel like she is just not acknowledging the consequences but she is sure they won t get caught even though they have just gone away together. Can anyone tell me how you were ever found out or how you found out someone was cheating and what were the aftermaths? I mean my person lives in a very small tight knit community. Maybe it won t end in tears but part of me feels like they have it coming.

I left my thirteen year relationship we were not legally married back in may. We have two children ages 9 and 2. My 9 year old chose to stay mostly with his dad. It's summer break so I have more time with him. My 2 year old stays with me and sees her dad every other weekend. We have not made anything legal as far as custody and visitation. My family has a lawyer ready on stand by and really want me to get to doing things legally. I was told that my ex and his mom have seen a lawyer. He apparently told a family member about it and went into detail on what the lawyer said. Then I was told by the family member. I was the sole provider, shopper, bill payer, and responsible for all finances while we were together. We've been civil off and on through all of this. What do I do?? If I get papers first from him am I in trouble for custody and so on?? Help.

Husband secretly watches porn. Im right there. He can come to me. We have been married almost 9 years and have 3 kids. Sometimes he will watch it in front of me. But wont pay attention to me. Just stares at the phone. We will have sex then he will wait for me to go to asleep and go to the bathroom. Just recently it has been like everyday/night. He will come home from work give me a kiss while im cooking dinner and yelling at kids then grab my phone and sit on the couch and watch it. He will delete the histoy or make it private. I have a Iphone and you can make the internet private so it wont save the hisory. He will watch it then its like hes so horny then he comes to me. Or we have sex then he has to watch it. Also i hate to say to it but he has a neice who is the same age as i am. He flirts with her she flirts with him. It always bother me. He knew it. And he looks up Uncle Neice stuff or step-mom step-son stuff.. that really bothers me. HE KNOWS IT... I have to get up early for work so i go to bed about 9 or after and he knows if he wants sex just come to bed with me get sex then he can go finish his xbox. but he would rather (so i feel like) watch it first. Im not ok with his. Like last night he woke me up that was fine. We had sex. I get home today and find the exstention cord in the bathroom and the laptop in the bedroom with charger plug in to the computer not the wall... Did really for one second think that i wouldnt out the 2 together? Look in comments

Many poor people can't really afford to maintain the marriage relationship because it involves a fair amount of expense. Rich people don't need to get married because it adds nothing to them except tradition and ceremony (i.e. they don't need the tax benefits if they're wealthy enough). So, maybe marriage is primarily for the middle-classes of people, economically-speaking. No? (My opinion is that any couple with children should be married throughout raising their children - no matter how rich or poor.)

I have a friend here in the US that has a father that lives in England and claims that people married in England are have their marriage certificate signed by the queen herself. Is this a pile of crap? Her dad falsified his document on how many previous marriages he had and she claims he is going to be prosecuted for lying to he queen lol....

I'm beginning to change my mind about children as well... Men are so... Not a lot of them are reliable, even the good one's something could go wrong, and you end up splitting up with a child... It's one of my biggest fears to A. Be a single parent and B. Raise a child in a household with split parents. I'm not having sex before marriage, of coarse, so I won't have to worry about babies out of wedlock, but as I'm looking at these other women with children, who had these perfect marriages, then split from their husbands. I'm coming to the realization that men are not very reliable, even if he seems perfect, a lot of men, when things get tough, don't like to work to fix the relationship, it's usually the women working hard to make it work, before the woman finally gives up and throws in the towel... This was mentioned on www.marriagebuilders.com, that women are the ones reading marriage books, putting in research on how to make the marriage work, ect. ect. and usually end up divorcing their men over emotional neglect(check out that website)... The majority of divorces are women divorcing men because their men are not meeting needs, pulling through or making them happy. It's all discouraging me from getting married and becoming a mother. In the relationship I'm in now, I feel like I'm putting in most of the work to make it work out, and I DO feel that my man is not affectionate enough, and this seems to be a problem with a lot of men, that leave them single after a woman gives up on them. I always wanted to be a mother :).... But :( Seeing how a lot of men are when it comes to relationships, I don't think I want that anymore. I was engaged once, canceled it I may decide to stay un married, and forget about my desire to mother children one day, because I'm not doing it without a man at my side, and I'm giving up on the idea of marriage for that reason(A split family)... I would REALLY hate to get married, have children, then something goes wrong down the line and the family is split apart. That is one of my worst nightmares... So, to avoid that all together, let's just avoid this all together by keeping my legs shut, and not getting married. Women are a lot more mature and serious than men when it comes to serious relationships, hence why we put so much research into how to make it work. Also, hence why we are ready to settle down sooner than men, who play games while young, then decide to settle after they've had their fun... Majority of divorces are women leaving men...

My husband donest give me oral sex. In if he do it lick it two or three times with the tip of his tounge then stop. I give me head all the the. I asked him all the time, why he don't he never give me a answer. I shave I shower everyday I don't smell. He use to he just stopped please help.

After 8 years of marriage, the abuse only stated during pregnancy he felt distant, and started to isolate me , made fun of my weight and moved me into the spare room , then one day I confronted his behaviour he stopped coming home and he then slapped me and tore my clothes and had sex with me . Few nights again he slapped me and banged my head on the wardrobe I called the police as I was 6 months pregnant but I retracted my statement as soon as they arrived I couldn't see the man I love in handcuffs . I left him and had the baby he came back with no apology I know he was stressed about the pregnancy I forgave him now I want him back so much am I crazy

My husband is really horrible to me. He hits me and yells at me.... Calls me a bitxh and a cxnt. I'm not a mean person. I'm very sweet and quiet I don't know what I did to make him hate me so much. I want to leave but don't have anywhere to go. My car just broke down. I don't have ANY family. I'm very timid and don't have friends. I work as a waitress. I can't afford my own place. And if I could afford an apt they wouldn't allow my dog. He is too big. 150 pounds... Is there anything I can do? I can't abandon my dog... He is hurt and needs me... Maybe my boss would help me... I'd break down crying if I told him...

And by us I really mean me. This way you can have some lawyer draw up a side action amendment to my marriage contract. This sound feasible?

My husband had to file for chapter 7 bankruptcy when we weren't cohabitating(thats the only thing that saved me from having to file with him) and he spends on anything he thinks looks good, and he doesnt even know what bills he has to pay and when. I just bought a car because I have excellent credit as long as he makes the payments its his to drive around. We live together now and whenever I try to help him get his finances together he gets mad at me saying he doesnt need help, and he keeps over drafting his bank account. The only reason we're not homeless right now is because I know how to budget, save and find deals. A good weight of the bills falls on me and he makes twice as much as I do but it's out the door before it even makes it to his account. Im constantly stressed about money and I have high anxiety and he always tries to placate me by patting me like you would a child and he tells me everything is fine. The only reason I do much better than he does money wise and he makes more than I do is because I know when things are not "fine" but wherever I bring up the state of our finances he gets mad and goes into another room. He grew up spoiled rotten because his parents don't know how to spend because they grew up spoiled, and then they both blew it. Now his dad marries wealthy women, and his mom was homeless and now she lives in government housing because she doesn't know how to spend either and shes always asking us for money, how am I supposed to deal with all this?

It's kind of a complex question, because age works both for and against a successful marriage. Sometimes age brings better clarity , reduces the number of years it must "work" , but too it can also convince one NOT to get married in the first place. What do you think?

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I have been married for 14 years, and overall we have been very happy and do well together. We have a beautiful 14 year old son. I have searched for advice, and everything screams to leave - but our situation is different, after so long, I don t see the point in leaving. We both have anger issues, and I have issues with depression and alcohol. He has anger issues (occasionally - when pushed). Recently, we got into a fight one night when I was slurring a bit (though not doing anything inappropriate - he was just angry bc Alcohol has made me act dumb before. He was sitting down on our back porch, and I was on my knees in front of him in this argument. He upset me verbally, so I grabbed his sides and tried to talk directly. He got furious, and brought down his head into my nose. I erupted in blood and he immediately tried to help. I swelled, had black eyes, was in pain. He was sorry. Nearly 2 weeks later, I am sure it is broken. I am trying to find a doctor to realign it as I type. My question is - are there times when there s nothing wrong with forgiving and staying, or am I still stupid for staying.

Through volunteering, I have gotten to know this stunner of a man who is unfortunately married. From what I have been told, he is staying legally married due to financial reasons (No children thank god because she never wanted any, but he became successful after marrying her 9 years ago and doesn't want to get rung out). They live in separate residences, and she is aware of his dating other woman while they are legally married. She is ok with it, but wants to be his wife on paper. So would it be entirely stupid of me to begin a relationship with him? Is it unlawful to have sex with someone who is legally married but hates their spouse who they don't have anything to do with? What kind of future could we build together while she is still around? We both want children. I live in New York, USA if that helps.

My husband is constantly going out to business dinners. At least two nights a week. On those nights I am home alone by myself for dinner. Come weekends, I hope to go out on a date just the two of us. But because he dines out during the week, he has come to hate going out to dinner and suggests we stay home. Or if we go out, it's to do an activity, not to go eat out. I probably sound silly saying so but I love eating at restaurants and wish he would participate! Can anyone relate to my problem? Can anyone offer a suggestion of how to "beg" him to dine out with me?

With today's divorce rates, one would think they'd promote happier marriages! Unless Hollywood's leading this world, in which case I completely understand that drama sells..

My husband and i met 6 years ago.We spent the entire summer together and he asked me to marry him before i left for my country. A year later I came back and we got married.we recently had our 1st baby(we went to my country for that). After we came back to the US, we were looking for a place. He asked me to print our credit reports. I noticed an unknown (to me) address on his. I asked him about it and He said he didn't know where it came from. Later he said that after he had time to think about it, he remembered that his ex lived there, but that was not the first thing that came to his mind because it was 10 years ago and he doesn't think about it. "Somebody must have applied for something and it got reported to the credit company".throughout the years he told me that he was going to buy a house when he was young, but it didn't work out, he started his own business.it feels like he lied to me the whole time we`ve been together. He did have some serious relationship with a girl, apparently even wanted to buy a house with her. they broke up 2 years before we met.I wanted to marry a man and share all these things you do together for the first time (buying cars, houses). But he might have done all that with someone else already?Its almost like he was married before. I don't have any memories in the Us unless its with him and his entire life is here: memories, places he`s been to.i can`t stop thinking about it.Should I just get over it? how?

I am a mother of 4 and about to go thru divorce and daughter who is 9 came to me about a week ago and told me daddy got mad at me and threw me down to the ground and against the wall he said she deserved it~ what?!?! This is not the first time he has lost his temper with kids or with me. Couple days ago my 4 year old wasn't getting in the tub so he forcefully threw him in and now he has bruises on his back and arm. Yes I took pics!! He threatened me several times and told me if I tell anyone he would take the kids and house away and I would have nothing. Yes I am so scared of what else he could do, he did move out, I have no idea where he is but yet he still emails me wanting to see kids, my daughter cries so hard saying she is so scared of him and doesn't want him to come. Is it too late to tell someone all he has done, cause yes there is more and afraid it will get even worse. He even tells me to he wish I would go jump off a bridge or die

I love my husband. However, I'm not as sexually interested as I used to be. It's not that I find him unattractive. I just don't feel the same sex drive that I did when we first got married. In fact I don't often feel a desire for sex at all. It might be because of stress. We have two young kids and work is stressful. I do have sex with him, but it's mostly for him and not so much because I want it. He's told me it hurts him that I'm not sexually interested in him anymore. I feel bad, but I just don't have that same desire for sex. How can I increase my libido?

Where did you go on your honeymoon, or have you and your spouse ever taken a trip somewhere absolutely incredible? My husband and I are coming up on our 10th anniversary and due to circumstances at the time we wed, never went "away" on a honeymoon. We agreed to set aside the funds to take a special trip for this anniversary and I would LOVE to hear suggestions! Quite a few great ideas so far, thanks (most of you)!

I'm not sure when exactly it began but it doesn't feel like it's getting any better. My wife and I are are a little over our third year of marriage and it's not how I envisioned it being. We met our freshman year of college, moved in after our sophomore year, and eloped our senior year. After graduation we had agreed originally to move back to our home state but she got a job straight out of college and we ended up moving 1200 miles away from our hometown. I was okay with that but things have just kept changing. We live well but it's nothing to how I'm used to or wanted. My wife works a lot and is devoting herself to her to her job more than me. Our sex life is great but I don't spend any personal time with her anymore. She by all means is happy so I'm not sure if it's just my own issue or what. Is this the end of the honeymoon phase? Could this just be a natural drift or more? I don't want to come right out about all this and make an issue when she seems happy but I really hate how things used to be.....

i have stared to go to church and im trying hard for my husband to go but he just wants to drink with his friends. and all he says is that he doesn't want to go but i feel very conftable going to church what can i do to change that i don't t nothing bad to happen to him because of the alcohol

I live in Texas. He they are still married and he does not provide any financial support.

After several years of struggling in my marriage we finally have decided to separate. He left on June 15, took off for the Pacific Northwest, a place he has always dreamed of. We have amicably agreed on how things will be divided. After 24 years together, it's very surreal. But it's happening. He's been gone 2 weeks, I feel pretty good so far. I hope this is not a mistake, but I am tired of disagreeing on everything. Things just aren't like they used to be. Do I go ahead and the divorce going? I'm ready to date and I sorta want a clean slate. I dont want people to judge that I'm seeing people and still married, etc. Am I rushing it? I am also afraid that if too much time passes our amicable agreement of dividing our assets could become un-amicable...thoughts?

I've been married 3 years, and we never really set ground rules about housework. We were both raise in households where our mothers did all the cooking and cleaning, but I've always seen that as extremely unfair. It makes me extremely angry and upset to think about. Currently I do all the cooking and most of the cleaning. Sometimes he might do a load of laundry (put it in the washer, wait a few hours, get it into the dryer, maybe empty it after a few days or a week or whenever I end up doing it). He'll get around to stuff if I nag him about it, but he tends to forget, or he's on his own time schedule. The thing is if I do a chore, I try to make sure it gets done, and if he does a chore he wants to do it together, or he wants me to help. I feel like if I can do it myself, so should he. It doesn't help me to do it with him. If I wanted to do it, I would do it myself. It's like he doesn't understand that meal planning, cooking, tidying up, doing laundry, vacuuming, dusting, paying bills, etc, takes not only time but mental energy. I can't relax when I have to worry about what's gotten done and what hasn't. But if he were in charge of say, cleaning the bathroom, I wouldn't have to think to myself, "Okay, the bathtub is starting to look bad, I better get to that this weekend, and I'm going to ...." I would just know he was going to take care of it. But when I ask that he be in charge of some chore, he think I just don't want to be responsible. We married when we got out of grad school, so sometimes I think he's used to not having to clean or cook and then going home to have his mom do his laundry. I'm not pregnant, but we've talked about having kids in the future. I'm not of the "omg I can't wait to be a mother" mindset, but I'd like kids someday, but I sometimes really worry that he will help with kids as much as he does with housework. He's a great emotional support, but there's still a lot to do so far as feeding, cleaning, etc. We both work part time, but he works from 10-2, and I work from 8-4. Basically, the household wouldn't run without me, and I don't feel appreciated, but I don't know how to share the responsibility and trust that it will get done. I feel like his mother sometimes. Thanks for reading this rant, any support is welcome, though I'm sure I'll get a lot of mean comments.

I'm not sure when exactly it began but it doesn't feel like it's getting any better. My wife and I are are a little over our third year of marriage and it's not how I envisioned it being. We met our freshman year of college, moved in after our sophomore year, and eloped our senior year. After graduation we had agreed originally to move back to our home state but she got a job straight out of college and we ended up moving 1200 miles away from our hometown. I was okay with that but things have just kept changing. We live well but it's nothing to how I'm used to or wanted. My wife works a lot and is devoting herself to her to her job more than me. Our sex life is great but I don't spend any personal time with her anymore. She by all means is happy so I'm not sure if it's just my own issue or what. Is this the end of the honeymoon phase? Could this just be a natural drift or more? I don't want to come right out about all this and make an issue when she seems happy but I really hate how things used to be.....