All but one member of my immediate family have passed away in the last 9 years (I'm in my 30's, they died young). My spouse emotionally abandoned me throughout all those losses. Literally, ignoring me, not checking on me. Just going on as if my parents/siblings never existed. Never offering condolences. So, I decided to give my dad (I have his cremains) a proper burial at the National cemetery, he's a veteran. And I don't really want my spouse there for those reasons. During all my planning and getting forms filed and phone call after phone call, he hasn't showed one bit of interest or concern. It's been tough, kind of reliving the death all over. He never knew my dad, but he can still show compassion. So, I don't think I want him there. He will just make me uncomfortable, like baggage, and it is not like he will be moral support. Should I just tell him, that for personal reasons, I would like to go alone? I feel like he would just be going to spectate or to watch me grieve. He will be really rude to me and angry if I tell him the blunt truth. Please be kind in response. I'm really stressed out, it's hard to do this alone.

my aunt is being a pain to deal with. I love her but she is taking advantage. my cousins and i recently moved in together and she has been here every single day sleeping over. it makes me feel awkward and stressed. i can't relax or enjoy myself. i am trying to talk to my cousin but I never am able to see him alone. Can I text him saying something. and I don't want to ruin any relationship. I feel that if I don't do something now, it is going to ruin my life. I am not focused on important stuff. what do i do

See the thing is, we did not have a normal childhood. Long story short, there was s period in our lives where he was the only solid person in my life. Now I worry about him every second, wondering if he's safe. Im always frightened by the mere thought of something terrible happening to him. I will do anything for him without even thinking about it. I have half siblings but I don't care about them nearly as much. It's very unhealthy because I know for certain I can't live in a world without him. Advice?

i would like to think that I love my sister, but it's so hard for me to act friendly towards her. For instance, I'm never interested in what she says no matter how much I try. How can I show her that I love her?

(LONG STORY) So I was looking for an old gameboy in my sister's room since mine is lost. In a drawer I found a small portable vibrator. I was really surprised to see it there and was debating to tell my parents so I took it away from her. I know it was none of my business so I was going to put it back but I left it out on my desk for a little. My mom came home conveniently on her lunch hour while I was napping. She did not go into my room but she was in the door which you can see the desk from. She didn't say anything but now I'm really worried that they think I'm gay or they'll get mad. Help?!

My dad had a child before he met my mom and he went to see him all the time until a few years ago. It really hurt my dad to stop seeing him but my brother wanted to move on with college and stuff. I friended his girlfriend on Facebook and my mom went mental. I don't blame her, to be honest, but I have been talking for ages about meeting him. It's really awkward between me and my mom now. What do I do ??

So why does my aunt not like me. She's a t-shirts and jeans type of girl. Wears a lot of oversized sweatshirts. She doesn't wear makeup. She doesn't care about fashion. She is obese and lives in a small farming community. I on the other hand, am in perfect shape. I am the definition of fitness. I take pride in that. I care about fashion. I wear designer clothing that is properly fitted and GQ looking. I have modeled in the past. I date girls that are thin and attractive. I am a social butterfly and my aunt is not. She works and then goes home. Maybe catches a movie by herself. Doesn't have many friends. Why doesn't she like me?

My fiance and I have to move out of the apartment for financial reasons. He suggested we move in with his dad, but I am so awkward with him! I'd rather move back with my mom, who is just 10 minutes away from my soon-to-be-father-in-law... I would still be able to visit him and see him everyday. My fiance is upset at this and wants me to live under the same roof as him. Because of health issues, he probably would need to stay with his dad, as my mother does not know how to handle them. Should I suck it up and just move in with my future father-in-law, despite being uncomfortable and awkward? Is it wrong that I feel this way?

i got my period yesterday and I told my mom and THEN SHE TOLD MY BROTHER. Now my brother is always saying, "EEWWWWWWWWWW yours disgusting! Don't touch me your nasty! Get away from me I don't want your blood on me!" And he's older than me. I was crying from the pain and what he said to me and now he's saying stuff like, "stop overreacting you disgusting kid! I bet it doesn't even hurt. You just want us to feel bad for you. Well I don't. Being kicked in the nuts hurts way more than that likes feel like your gonna die. Stop faking sh*t and acting like a baby. Cramps are just a myth. I wanna cry and die at the same time. Why did my mom tell him? I HATE HIM. Even my dad is with him and calls me nasty. Hellpppp in gonna die

it's about an inch flat and the person didn't want me to see what is inside. He beat me up in order not to see what it was that was inside. Any of you have some ideas as to what it might be? Then the guy ( a relative of mine) told me not to look into his stuff. Is he on drugs?! or what can it be??? I don't think it's drugs

My family was dirt poor. We didn't starve but the money wasn't abundant. I was raised by my single mother, and I'm the only man in the family and I have a younger sister. After graduating high school I was expected to work through school, have cash for myself and help my family a bit. I ended up barely attending school part time at a local community college, worked mostly full time, if not two jobs from time to time, working 50+ hours to even 60, 70+ hours. I've made financial contributions to my family until I was about 24 25 on consistent basis. I didn't party, didn't smoke, drink, didn't go out much and didn't date much. Now I'm 28 I've moved out after saving 15,000 dollars of my own money after I didn't have to make financial contributions to my family, and went back to school since last summer. After I didn't have to make contributions to my family, I was able to have a bit more amount of cash I was able to dispense but I didn't spend all, saved, moved out. Now I'm trying to transfer to a 4 year university in pursuit of my degree But I'm still tight on money, I've not been working for the past 6 to 7 months living off my own savings while sharing a rent with a roommate. But I just don't have the mental caliber to go out to have fun. I always still feel insecure, I did score 4.0 GPA this past semester, worked my *** off to earn my grades. I'm focused, I'm determined, I'm hungry but I'm still human. So I do feel very very lonely and left out sometimes I attended my friend's doctoral graduation at an elite 4 year university yesterday, I've met his mom and after he was encountered by his colleagues being congratulated, the conversation his mom started after meeting with his colleagues is that she was actually worried about his colleagues who were researchers at elite universities that a lot of degrees these guys have are not marketable. Speaking of degrees that are not marketable, those guys are able to spend time and money on degrees not even marketable is because they're from middle class family, they have family and a home to go back to, they have someone that can back them up financially as a last resort, and I don't have that. So I have to be on my toes all the time, and insecure because life is tough and nothing is a guarantee even with a degree and I feel like it's difficult for me to have fun in life. I feel like I'm underachieved, first half of my 20s feels like I was living a life of filling up holes just to be at an even starting point with everyone else. Am I the only one that feels that way? I feel like my time is running out, my youth slipping away through my hands like when you try to hold sand on the palm of your hands at the beach. Sorry I'm a math/finance person so I'm not so articulate with my writing. I thought I did what I could've done to do what was the best for me and my family, make the money first because I don't have any financial support and got back into school, trying to have life but it's never enough, so it makes me feel as if I didn't work hard enough, I wouldn't say I had the most efficient life and I certainly don't think I was lazy but I have no results so it makes me feel terrible. I never traveled, the only time I took off time was in between jobs which would've been a month or two maximum. I just feel so insecure, underachieved, feels as if I'm not worthy, no confidence whatsoever. But I try to be the best student in my classes and that's about it but yet a degree isn't a guarantee. I probably contributed about 25,000 to 35,000 on cash alone and made an additional 15k contribution for something else from 18 to 24, 25ish The reason I'm unveiling this information is to see how much I've done, not that I'm complaining about my poor mother. I don't expect anything from her. I just want to do more on my own but I feel I'm not good enough.

My mother's 3rd husband was terribly abusive, not just toward me (as a child) but toward everyone in general. He'd pick fights with family members, start feuds with people, old grudges for years against family members and force people to "take sides". He was mean, rude, had no problem insulting kids and being cruel toward them. He'd name call, ridicule and basically act like a complete jerk. Anyway-- everyone in my family (aunts, uncles, etc) knew how he was and many had been the target of his behavior. When I said *I* as a child had been verbally and emotionally and somewhat physically abused by him, my entire family shunned me and now no one will speak to me. It's like they all think I'm making it up. Ok whatever. Am I wrong to resent the fact that surely my fmaily knew how he was yet did nothing to protect me? (mother included)?

I know I am underage but I have been doing research and nothing is health wise wrong with it, I am trying to convince both my parents to agree to get me one, any things I can tell them in order to convince them? Helpful facts? Reasons I am responsible? Anything it great thanks.

I am a 29 year old Male. Throughout the course of my life she has said these things to me: "You are useless!" "You are fat!" "Suck it up buttercup!" (During my depression) "Your brother is better than you!" "You gonna cry?" Also she has embarrassed me in front of my friends lots of times by yelling at me in front of them, arguing. And She told two of them I cry. (I am sensitive) She made my friends do chores, but when my brothers friends were over, they had the time of their life! She hates one of my friends because he can stand up to her. But he was nice to her first. She was acting like a child She lies to me, but I cant lie to her. She has always treated my brother better than me. She has never said any of those things to my brother. It was always what she and my brother wanted, not me, or my sister, even my father She likes to preach, when she isn't innocent herself (*****!) The way she talks to me sometimes sounds like shes getting mad just talking to me and makes rude subliminal comments. When I do favors and she owes me, I don't care she owes me. She does favors to me, I gotta pay at this time or I get yelled at. She tries to buy my love buying me stuff. I don't accept all the time. And last but not least, when I am at gatherings, or just trying to talk to her, she acts interested, but I can sense a major fakeness behind the smile. Also I she ignores at times. Is she a horrible mother? Also I used to cut myself. How she treated it? She yelled at me and got mad. She didn't even talk to me. Just yelled. Stupid ****

My parents are always going to their shore condo on the weekends, I don't like to go with them all the time because things are always going on at home and it's the only time of the week my friends can hang out. They also don't really do anything at the shore condo, they just lay around and don't go out anywhere, and it can be pretty boring sitting in a tiny shore condo with nothing much to do. However I hate being left here with my older brother. I'm 19 and he's 23, he's always being rude towards me and disrespecting me, I don't trust him. He seems a little mentally unstable, and I don't feel safe being left alone in my house with him. Also my house is isolated in the woods and I get paranoid at night when I hear noises going on outside, it freaks me out. I find it difficult to sleep at night, because our family has some enemies, and when I hear odd noises outside I just get so damn scared and I can't even sleep at night. So yeah. It's a dilemma. What should I do about this

I'm 14 and I can't stand living with my mother and my step father. I don't want to live with my father either. Can I say I want to live with my aunt? Will the courts of Virginia allow it??

My little sister is 7 years old. You might think this is silly but she won't stop being rude to me. I know your thinking she's only 7 she doesn't know. Every time we are in public she acts all nice and shy so people can think good of her. Does she act like this because she's a Gemini. My parents always blame me because of the bad things she does to me. She always ignores me for no reason and be mean to me out of nowhere and btw I'm not 8 or 9 or something like that I'm 13. My sister does know manners and does know how to really treat me. She does scratch, slap, hit, and threaten to kill me. I tell my parents about this but they don't do anything about but say she's not doing anything. They do know that she is doing this stuff to me and I don't know what to do

My dad is the type of person that has to be always right. If anyone in our house including myself yell at him, he claims that he can yell back. Even if we have a different opinion then him, he says that we are wrong and he is right. He also tries to manipulate and twist and use my words against me. When I confronted him about why he didn't do anything to stop my mom from abusing me for many years, he starts denying it and says that I am trying to victimize myself and trying to have people protect me. I sometimes wonder if he is a narcissist because he acted like my mom abusing me is no big deal and claims that there should be bruising in order to say that it is abuse. He also denies abusing me(but he actually verbally abuses me.) and has called me names as well. I am 20 right now and have been thinking of moving out but I don't know where to go. Thankfully I am going to see a psychologist in two weeks. I highly doubt that he would want to come because according to him, he didn't do anything. This is my biological dad that I am talking about for anyone who is curious. Please have good answers. I have been having this issue with my dad for many years now.

I love my father but he is just so cheap. He gave me $5 to go buy dinner somewhere and feed my mother, brother, and me with that money? We couldn't buy anything. I am a college student who goes to school full time and and take 6+ classes and he complained about giving me $10 a week for lunch. He is also too cheap that he doesn't want to pay for car insurance and I had to get my permit renewed twice because he won't let me drive in the streets because he's too cheap to buy me car insurance. He complains that I only work in the summer but I do that so I could focus on all the classes I have to take in the school year. I'm down using my own money to buy a car and what not but I really need that insurance so I can drive to school since my school is on the otherside of my city. He won't even let my mother have money. Why is he so cheap? I know my grandpa was like this too but this is just wrong

I'm 20 and severely mentally ill which causes me to not be able to leave the house or get a job. My parents have always neglected me attention-wise, going so far as to dump me in an afterschool care group so they could spend more time on my brother. I get into fights with my mom a lot because she expects things of me I honestly can not do. Normally these fights blow over but this time it didn't. My mom won't allow me to join them for dinner anymore. They are hiding food from me so I can't even eat any breakfast/lunch. Literally all I can find to eat right now is a pack of crackers and some yogurt. This has been going on for over a week. I haven't eaten anything other than a couple crackers a day for over a WEEK. What I just really wanted to know, is this considered abuse, since I'm 20 and legally an adult (in my country anyways)? Is there anything I can do besides apologizing (this doesn't work)? Note: I don't have any money (not eligible for income supplement), so I can't move out. Note: I am not from the US, things work differently in my country.

I hate stupid people, i dont talk to them, i try to ignore them as more as i can.but they are like hey..hello and all this crap.i want to punch their f**king face.my family members suck like my grandma my aunts and anyone comes to our home.and start talking to me...

My brother is 11 and I am 15. My dad is 52 and gets very angry at us: It is the first day of summer and it kicks off with my dad yelling at my brother because he said **** when he got hurt. When my dad gets mad he builds up and just brings things from the past to get mad about. He starts going off about my brothers behavior. My brother is a little out of control yes, but my dad makes things up like telling my brother (Sean) that Sean told him **** you go die, even though he never said go die, big change. And whenever we say he didn t say that he says don t correct me smart ***. Not a good role model, screaming at my little 11 year brother swearing at him, because he swore. My dad pretends people called him or emailed him when we all know nobody did, but nope, no correcting! It s just a mental trap my dad puts us in. Don t know how to get out. My brother and I got in a fight and he left the house and said we can go kill each other for all he cares. I don t know what to do, he ll be home soon to yell at us. Help

I have made someone very mad at me. The worst part is this is the second time I have done so. It was not toward them, it was toward their son who is my age, but his mother takes it personally every time which I ultimately understand. But, I'm tired of living and feeling like she hates. We used to be very close. She was like a second mother to me. I'm normally good with my words, but I do not know what to write to her (literally in a letter) to effectively say what I need to say. This situation is even harder because she is bipolar. If anyone has any help please answer.

My family is very controlling so I never learned to stand up for myself. I dated a bunch of abusive guys in my past. I just wished I had stood up to them.They don't realize how much they hurt me. One ended up raping me and I ended up with a miscarriage. I broke up with him before I knew I was pregnant but never reported it to the police. Another guy literally had sex with me then right after broke it off, just came to my apartment to get his rocks off pretty much didn't even have the decency to end it in person, he did it over facebook. I'm not the type of person that would have been angry if he had done it the right way. I just wanted respect at least. Then of course there's the abusive ex husband, who turns out only married me and refused to support me because he thought my family had money and I would support him even though he's in the military. What I really want is to stand up for myself. Is it too late to message these guys over facebook then block them? I know this happened years ago, but I feel like letting these guys know what they did to hurt me will help me move on. I have a lot of anger that I didn't know I even had a right to have. I haven't really talked to anyone about this bc I don't have anyone I can really trust and talk to about these issues. I've told my current bf so he can understand why I have anxiety attacks. He understands but I still feel like I need a friend to talk to.

My mother would tell me things when I was little like she was going to put me on the side of the road and I would have to walk home and a homeless man was going to rape me. That was for me having to run to the bathroom and wasting five minutes of her time that she could be at a drug store. I keep thinking about the things both my parents did and keep trying to continue a relationship with them. My mother has a codeine addiction and has had it for 20 years. She will get others to go to the drug store and pay them for it bc there's a limit per customer. My dad is very controlling. I found out that my mother also may be in the occult. She puts hexes on people and then made the comment she was clawed in the middle of the night and there was nothing there. I also saw a dark figure in my room one time. I prayed for God to protect me. I moved away a month ago and things seemed to get worse. I moved down to Florida with my boyfriend and it seems like ever since I have left these terrible thoughts keep seeping into my mind. My father tried to disown me on my birthday because I hung up on him when he tried to argue with me, it really hurt. And my mother tried to guilt me before I left by saying what if I die while you're gone? You don't care about me. She then says to me "I hope you enjoy Florida" very sarcastically.They have been trying to make sure I'm not happy while I'm down here so I changed my phone number. I just needed a break. How can I be positive? I still want a relationship no hate please

I asked my cousin to spend the night and she told me i had to do something if she did. So i did it because i was wanted someone over. Well after she got her stuff her parents stayed over for a while. When her parents left she left with them and tricked me!!!!!!

My cousin's nephew wants to run off to L.A. to be a prostitute. My cousin is for the idea and wants to be her pimp. My grandmother is willing to fund her trip, while my cousin's nephew's brother plans on opening a restaurant in New York so that my father can connect with his uncle, who smokes a lot of crack. My mom, on the other hand, wants to connect with my brother-in-law's nephew, who wants to join my cousin's nephew in L.A. to become a prostitute as well, and my mom would like to be one, too. Is my family a mess?

my dad was sent to rehab so I got mad and his girlfriend called me (I'm at my moms) and says that they didn't even drug test him it's all lies and then my moms getting calls saying his car was impounded and they think he's doing drugs so basically my dads girlfriend calls and I yell saying "I heard everything I'm not coming over this weekend" and she yells at me saying it's all lies she did nothing she don't no where the facts came from she said my dad has been talking mopey and confused because he is depressed because his mom (my grandma) is dying and is refusing to speak with him because she got mad (which is true) and my sister hates him because he didn't show up for her graduation bc he jad no money to come so she posted things on facebook (which is true) and supposibly he was balling his eyes out while reading it which made me sad. sHe said he's even sadder bc I only come over in the weekends and he misses me so much and I'm his only family left that speaks to him besides friends. She said he's taking more of his meds then he should and then tells me how her mom was in the same situation and killed herself and how she found her decaying body in a closet in her basement 3 days later. I'm afraid he will let go and kill himself. My mom is telling me not to beleive her and that she just wants me to side with her. I'm not side with anyone period because ive learned to do that since my parents divorce. She tells me how he will sit at the table4 hoursAndSayHowHeMissesUsHelp

my name is max and i want to change it to joseph.how do i do this? fawk yoll

My grandmother had 3 children - my mother and my two uncles. One of those uncles - the youngest - my grandmother has always preferred him and excused him no matter what he did. He grew up and went to prison for years. While in there, he told my mother that, "When he got out, he was going to use every woman that he could." He has always been a freeloader drifting from woman to woman trying to get them to pay for stuff for him. He went to school for years and became a firefighter/EMT. He got a job as a fireman and was making good money. He managed to mess that up. At one point, he screwed over his then-wife and also my mother. They tried to help him get a vehicle at different times (neither knew about the other's issue with him and it was a big mistake...both learned the first time and never helped him again). They got repo'ed because he didn't want to make payments to them to pay the bill like he was supposed to. My mother was giving my grandmother (her mother) a place to live and my grandmother was stealing her daughter's threatening lawyer notices in the mail to try to cover up for the said younger son. He ended up going back to jail for something else later on. After all of the years of giving him money and helping him, my wrote my grandmother a crazy letter putting her down, cursing at her and all sorts of stuff saying that she never helped him. He disappeared for a long time and supposedly was working for the national guard in another state. He called up his mother again the other day and told her that "they put all of his stuff out by the street and he lost his ID". He has wanted more and more money from her and he has started a con game of acting like he never got it and such. If she tells him that she can't keep giving him money, he goes into a crazy thing of, "Well, I'll just kill myself then!" and such. What causes 1 out of 3 children to be this crazy? He was even the pampered one growing up and had better treatment. He has just proven himself to be so worthless that the family has basically disowned him. Anyone who helps him, he kicks them in the teeth and then turns around and wants them to help him again later on. When his poor actions come back to get him later on, he turns to the same people that he has betrayed and acts like they're being mean to him when they don't want to help him.

I started wearing hijab at 5 years old. There really was no point because my body wasn't developed anyways. I wasn't forced, I was basically copying my mom and my sister. Now I'm 14 and I sorta regret starting so early and now I feel like I'm stuck. If I take it off, my family will shame me. Cousins will talk and my mom said she would feel like she was a bad mother if I ever took it off. But she said she would never force me to do anything. And my father would probably be a bit mad. At school, it's a different story. I am politely asked questions saying "if you don't have to, then why are you wearing it?" And I really can't answer it. I'm in 8th grade so I tell them I MIGHT take it off over the summer and not wear it 9th year of highschool. I told them I might, and it makes them so happy. I don't know what to do. I can't go in the past and stop myself from this trap. I wish I never wore it at such a young age. I wish I was a normal teenager and then at the age of like 21 or 22 I would start. I already miss so many parts of a typical teenagers experience because i am Muslim, but it's even tougher being a hijabi. For example today was the pool party and I didn't go because I would look weird covering all my skin in the pool while everybody else was wearing 2 peice bathing suits. I'm not saying I want to wear bikinis and all, but I do want to be more normal.

I don't mean to sound bad but I don't really have a lot of time for him and he kind of drags my day down. He would just hang out with me for no reason and then I have to hear his extremely mundane sports analogies or put up with his quite frankly erratic moods and he disagrees with every fun activity/place I try and suggest.

so one of my friends peer pressured me into doing some bad things. (He isn't aware that he peer pressured me because I played it off cool. He would deny he did even if I told him that.) I think he has pictures of me doing the bad things too, but he denies it. I'll ask and the only word he'll say is "no". But I'm pretty sure he does, and he knows how to hide pictures on his phone, so I couldn't just delete it if I wanted to. I feel so guilty, and I want to tell my parents really bad, I'm only 15 by the way. He said if I tell my parents her would be REALLY mad. What should I do about the picture, and what should I do about my parents?

Hi. I'm 14 years old and I have been making android applications for 2 years. I'm studying at one of these schools for gifted students, which is hard to get A(s) in it. My parents said me that if I get any of these subjects lower than 19.5 (from 20) I will be grounded from using any sorts of electronic devices(like laptops, mobiles, etc) . It's extremly hard and nobody at the class gets a mark higher than 17 in most cases. Now that I have finished all my tests I know some of them are down to 17. It's really bothering me because summer without electronic devices could be boring. And when I say them your expectations are super high they say no. You could do better, etc. I must say that in most cases I'm in top 3 in the school. any thoughts?

So my younger sister is turning 12 in a few weeks and I have no idea what to get her. She really wants a pair of DC's but I can't afford them right now. She isn't really very athletic, but isn't what you would consider a girly girl either. What is something I can buy for her for around $30. Btw I am 15 so it would be easiest for me to get her something I could order online.

For seven years, my husband's mother has called him on the phone almost everyday. At first, I thought it was endearing that they got along so well, but it quickly became annoying. She calls everyday just to say hi and ask what we're doing that day. These calls often interrupt our time together. If he doesn't answer and doesn't call back that day, she gets upset and puts him on a guilt trip. Not only does she want to talk to him everyday, but she visits him at the restaurant where he works at least twice a week. I've told him that I think it's too much, but he doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with the way she acts. Her calls are excessive now, so I can't imagine how bad it will get when we have children together. How can I get her to back off?

I am trying to get away from my mom. My mom is virtually keeping me hostage. I'm 16 years old. My mom is a manipulative pathological liar, but she's a bad liar. At least, everyone in my family knows that. She tries to make outsiders believe that she's not the problem, but that someone else is. People in my family can see right through it. She has been doing this her whole life. It has gotten progressively worse. She lives in some fairy tale land. She feeds off your emotions and tells lies to turn others, who might be willing to help against you. She always seems to think she has justification for everything she does and that she can never be wrong. She owes multitudes of people money, but is constantly wondering why no one wants to help her financially. She TRIES to use creepy, older men for support.

Hypothetical question(question is not about me I'm just curious). How come some parents are emotionally unavailable? Can you give some examples of emotionally unavailable parents?

I'm 20 years old I know how to do things responsibly but my parents won't let me do anything I have a license but i can't drive even if i pay gas i can't spend any of my disability money he says it's his i feel like i'm trapped at home any advice

Ok, hi. I'm a 15 yr old girl and I honestly don't know what to do anymore. There's a lot to say but I don't know how to explain it all. Let's start off with my family. I've never felt connected or had a special 'bond' with any members of my family, and it's always been this way. I've always disliked them or wished I was born into a different family or never even born at all since I was a little girl. I've been to a therapist and I've told him this and he gives me and my family advice on how to grow closer but whenever I bring it up to my family they just ignore me or change the subject. There's a lot going on and I've thought about suicide everyday since I was 10 years old. I've just given up on them but I don't really want to give up on life. I want to go out and experience life I hate it here. I used to live in the city but now we've recently moved to the middle of no where and I've never been more miserable. I've been forced to homeschool since I moved in the middle of the year and all I do or can do is sit in my room all day. I can't drive and I can't wait another year to wait to drive I can't stand being alone too much longer. My parents do not want to drive me anywhere Bc all my friends live an hour away or just anywhere in general I want to go is too far away or they are too busy. I'm sick of being treated like my problems are minor because they really aren't. I can't stand it here anymore. I want to go out and live my life and be successful and make my parents proud.

I'm a 19 year old girl and I've gotten into some trouble into the past. It was a one time thing and I promised my mom it would never happen again. I shoplifted and I don't know what cams into me. I've also went to see people she won't not approve of (older guy friends) and lied to her; saying I was going to see my girls. This was in the past though and I'm trying hard to gain her trust again; however, she will not get rid of the past and I feel like she's always hardcore judging me. Every time we fight, she brings up the past. She also says I've changed because I don't own up to things I've done. I always fight back. When I was little, I used to say sorry for everything. Now that I'm older, and I don't feel like something is my fault, I'll just tell her "it's not my fault". She gets really mad. She's really strict and I feel like I can't make my own decisions. I'm working, going to school, doing my homework, getting good grades. I just feel so independent and want to make my own decisions. The only thing holding me back is finances. I don't have the money to afford school or my own place. So, if there's one day I want to hangout with my friend, instead of getting one of my responsibilities done (eg

The other day my family and I looked at a house. We removed our shoes (as often required at open houses). I was barefoot as I had worn sandals (not uncommon) and everyone else wore socks. When the realtor showed us the different rooms and asked us questions about what we thought, she often asked me "Oksana, how does that carpet feel?" Or "Oksana, how does that floor feel?" I later asked her why she kept asking me that, and she said that it was because I had bare feet, thus it was easier to feel the carpets/floors than those wearing socks, and said that my opinion on the carpets/floors was especially important. Does anyone else find this odd?

My dad is saying that my mom doesn't love him and my mom isn't doing anything to prove him wrong. He buys her candy and flowers and stuff and she doesn't even acknowledge them. She only says that she didn't ask for them. My dad loves my mom very much and she is just being heartless. He is so down and hurt by her cold shoulder. She says that she doesn't hate him but I don't know. and I just want to know how to help them.

Well I have never gotten along with my mom or dad. They're both separated. I left the house at 18 because i couldnt take **** from my mom anymore. She kept calling me names and kept on pressuring me to leave her house . Now im 20, I have a full time job and going to college. My uncle (dad's brother) called and told me my mom lost her apartment and that theyre looking for a place to stay. He also told me its my choice whether I let her stay or not but it will be the nice thing to do. Should I let her stay or not? I have so much anger towards her and I dont want more stress than ever. Should I let her stay or tell her to why bother? I was thinking about my siblings that live with her but I don't know...

I have the oppertunity to live in a city and make good money but the thing is I have family in the place I live now. Not much family. Just my grandmother my dad and sister pretty much. Mom passed away about a year ago my life is tough. But the place I want to work is Orkin in the city and its about 2 hours away. And they are offering me a good paying job. There is another orkin much closer but they are not offering me anything. So the main problem is I don't want to leave my family 2 hours away and the job they want me to do is 60 hours a week and I'm scared i won't have a life outside of work. Can someone please talk to me and help me

She complains so much my whole family is tired of her. Yes, everybody's hair do shed here and there. Whenever I walk into the kitchen ( I've pulled ALL of my loose strands out ) and my sister's hair is scattered all around the house. My feet happen to catch some strands and the hair is now on the kitchen floor. She kept telling me "Why won't you chop your hair off so that I wouldn't have to pick it up?" "It's ALL your hair because whenever you step in here, a strand is in my sight!" I know, it's unhygienic for hair to be in the kitchen but she never fails to claim that its mine. Also, whenever my sister goes out my mom never complains or say anything. She kept quiet till she leaves the house and she starts b*tching at me. "She's always going out and never stays home to help with the chores!" Okay, first of all, my sisters does help around the house. Obviously we can't make the house spick and span.. well we're not robots. I do most of the house chores and yet she says that I sits around lazily, never contributing to this house, yada yada. And no she doesn't work. She a stay-at-home-mom. She orders me to do stuff, and is a smoker and a alcoholic. And oh no, the fun doesn't end there. She drinks and smokes a lot which causes me to inhale some. Whenever I tell her to stop, she yells at me to 'quit whining'. I've tried to talk it out with her but she doesn't seem to budge, instead she says "Don't talk so much."

I'm 15 years old, and my sister, cousin, and I are vacationing near the beach with our grandparents. They are also 15 years old (rising sophomores) .One day we went to an amusement park, and instead of staying at the amusement park, we walked up and down the nearby streets to talk to and flirt with older guys. They were all at least seniors, and they assumed we were too.I didn't want to, but I didn't want to be alone at the park either. The next day, they planned to go to the beach with the same guys they met a day earlier. They lied to our grandparents and said that they were just going to the beach, and didn't mention that they were going to be with older guys.I didn't want to hang out with older guys who were nearly strangers, so I stayed home and told my grandparents that I was feeling "sick". Before we even met the older guys near the amusement park, my cousin, sister and I planned to go shopping. When that day came up, they again wanted to hang out with the seniors and not shop. Before they left to go, I asked my sister if she would be okay if I told my parents that she was hanging out with older guys. She said "NO WHY WOULD YOU EVEN THINK OF TELLING THEM" , which we affirmed my thought that what they were doing was wrong. Rather then do something I felt wasn't right, I again stayed home and told my grandparents that I was "sick". This secret affects me too because I had to stay home instead of going shopping or to the beach. Should I tell my parents what happened?

My niece has a huge crush on me she said she wants to date me. I told her I guess we can but we have to keep it a secret from my husband and kids and our family. She's only had one boyfriend he wasn't nice to her at all now she said she's a lesbian. She's not she just think she is. She said I'm the only girl she ever liked. All her friends are married or have kids and boyfriends she thinks she's the only one who's not now she's saying she's gay just because she can't find a boyfriend. Is it ok to date her ? She's 22 I'm 32.

It seems just like yesterday my family and I moved into a new town together and nervously went to school for the first time together. I remember very vividly graduating middle school, it really seems like it could have happened a few months ago. All of a sudden, my siblings are getting married and moving away. I just can't believe just how fast time goes by. Have you ever experienced a feeling like this?

My father passed two months ago. He was my last surviving parent. I was their only child. He was suffering from congestive heart failure and a few other issues at the time of his death.. He was in assisted living. He was in his 90's. He had been given a few months to live, so his death was not unexpected. Maybe I had been preparing myself for his death while he was alive. For example, I remember about a month before he died, I was at his house doing something. I was in the basement and I found my very first desk/chalkboard that my parents bought me. I saw the desk and I just lost it. I bawled hard for a few minutes. I was alone, which was a good thing. Fast forward to two days before my Dad died, I was in a car accident. It wasn't my fault and I wasn't hurt. Then my Dad passed away- I was with him at the time- and I had to deal with police and insurance companies about the accident and plan a funeral. I also had to deal with an issue regarding my Dad's death certificate. As a result of all that I had to deal with, I feel like I somehow messed up the grieving process. I feel like I missed a step. It feels like suddenly, I am on step 25 and missed steps 1-24 and I missed out on something that I should have been doing and may have done myself some harm or not properly honored my Dad's memory. Or, because I knew in advance, maybe I somehow started the process and don't even know it. Have I done something wrong?

At the risk of sounding like a generic emo kid, I feel broken. Like I ve been spread thin. Like butter spread over too much bread. I ve always been a really smart kid, but I ve screwed myself over throughout my highschool years. As of now I am a junior on summer vaca. Next year is my Last year and I ve failed 4 classes. I don t know why I let it happen. I guess I live for the now and chooses to **** myself in the future. But anyway, this is my last summer I have to make up credits. For each half credit I have to pay 100$ of summer school. So 400$ My parents found out about my predicament and weren t very happy, which I would expect and I agree they should be. Honestly it gets to the point where I just want to die. I hate myself in a sense. Even the school counselor doesn t believe I can pull all this off. They want to send me to alternative. I lied to my dad about my grades so he would take me to a concert. And, since he figured out about my grade history he says I owe him the money. I get that. He s selling my car that my aunt gave to me and will not let any of the money it makes go toward my summer school. I guess he can do that if it pleases him. Honestly, I have no emotion towards this ordeal and I want to die. I know I did this to myself and its no one else s fault but mine. Sorry this isn t a question. I m a pos I think I just needed to "vent" Have a nice day.

My mom has always been talking about abandoning me and my sister and taking my brother with her. I don't understand why my mom has always hated me. I don't know what I did. It's not like I asked to be born. If she didn't want me, she could have just aborted me. I would have been better off not being born in this bad world. Why do some parents abandon their kids? If parents don't want to be parents, why have kids? Why not get an abortion or give them up for adoption instead of just leaving them? Not like us kids asked to be here in the first place. Not our fault.

help me please? he yells at me without reason, he's so agressive, when i say i need money for something important , he just makes bad situation, he fights with me without a reason for not giving money..he's so stingy..i've never seen such a bad person like him...what can i do ? i can't deal with him anymore..but i cant leave home cuz i have no where to go

When I was 8 years old I was eating dinner. My mom was watching ET at the time and a celeberatly I cannot name was wearing a seductive outfit. I had a iPod touch and it made me curious. I was attracted to it... But I didn't know what that was... By the time I turned 9 I had a full on porn addiction and I didn't even have the talk yet. My parents CHECKED my iPod but I was smart enough to clear and replace my search history. I have 2 little brothers who were 4 and 3. We eventually moved into a new home where me and my little brothers shared a room. That's when I became a monster. It happened MAYBE 4 times. I never hurt them or penetrated them analy, it was all oral. When I turned 10 the truth came out... And thank GOD it did, my dad beat me up and I'm again glad he did. I slept in there room for a long time and eventually was aloud to sleep with my brothers again. And I of course had the talk and NEVER touched them again. I was about to go into therapy too, but then my dad died and we had to move again from NY to Idaho. The memory's came back about a week ago and I've been beating myself up. I started mentaly beating myself up but then I got to cutting, and now I'm here with pills. The thought that my dad died knowing his eldest son is a pedophile and monster is pushing me even farther over the edge. I'm suppost to be the father figure... But I'm just a monster.... My biggest fear staying alive is getting married, having kids and then it comes out. And I lose it all, my family.

my mother passed and left her house to my sister and I. I have paid everything so far(taxes, lawyer) now I m broke and she just lives there for free. I want out but with my share of the money. how do I do this when she refuses to cooperate?

i did something that I think is really bad, but some people would never think is bad. I think my friend has a picture of me doing it :(. I regret it, and really want to snitch on myself to my parents so I don't feel guilty, but my parents, and my friend would be mad. I don't know if I should tell, because I feel like everyone regrets something, and I haven't done anything else. So my question is, does everybody regret something, and should I tell my parents, even though my friend would be REALLY mad at me?