a year ago my husband and i fought everyday about the same thing, having a baby. i never wanted kids , always felt they would ruin my future. i got tired of all his nagging so i just stopped fighting and agreed to have a baby only to make him happy, to save our marriage. 2 months ago i gave birth to my son , i dont know if im really happy because this is not the life i wanted to live. my husband and i have been fight like animals lately and yesterday he packed up his things and left. i cried all day. i gave up everything for him my career , even had his child. i don't know what to do now , he said hes never coming back that i could die for all he cared. i dont know what to do. im 23 hes 25

We've been married for 3 months. He's always been annoying at times, but I know that I am too. We're always around each other and stuff. The only thing he does that really annoys me is when he rubs his intelligence in my face. I mean, he's not trying to be rude, but it's irritating how he tries to correct me. I know he's not doing it on purpose, it's just how he is. I've told him that it bothers me, but I really don't think he knows when he's doing it . He does it to his coworkers too...not just me . What should I do when he gets under my skin? I'm not getting a divorce. I do love him. But you know, some times the people you love can be annoying.

We have standard husband wife arguments, no physical abuse until today. My fault was turning on the windshield wipers which scared my son tremendously. I felt so bad but I couldn't see and I thought that was too dangerous. My wife screamed at me. When we got home I grabbed my son. I felt so guilty. I told my wife that it wasn't a big deal (in an effort to not feel so guilty). She asked for him to give him his bottle but I didn't want to let go until I felt that he (my son) forgave me. That's when the abuse began. She hit me in front of him in the arm and started yelling. I called her crazy and she started scratching me and hitting my ribs with my son in my arms. She told me to leave and not come back. I kissed my son and told him I really loved him but I couldn't allow him to grow up thinking it's ok to get hit. Obviously he is too young to understand my words but I felt I had to give him the reason. We had had arguments before where she told me to leave but I always stayed for my son. What should I say to her next time I talk to her? What should I do next?

I attended a wedding today and now I really want to get find the one and get married. It was very beautiful wedding and you could tell the couple were so in love with eachother. I want to find my true love and be as happy as the couple. What is wrong with me?

Is this crazy that I do not want a man at 27? I use to want marriage, but not any more, has anyone ever gotten to this place of wanting to be alone?

Do they enjoy it? Do they use protection? Do they take pills? Do they have brains? Do they lay eggs? Do they love each other? Do they get married? Are their adoptions? Do they abuse children? Do they depend on humans for food? Why do they jump instead of walk? Why do they dive in? Why don't they live in a warmer climate?

This year I began a relationship with a girl in my O'Chem class. We share the same major and will be in the same classes for the next few years. I asked her out because I wanted someone to work with long-term and I knew I could have her. Everything would have been fine, except I fell in love. It felt like she was my universe. I wanted a family with her, even though I KNEW these were dumb thoughts. I had always been about furthering my career and my education (Valedictorian, research, volunteering, early college, etc...) and never cared about anything else before this started. The term ended in May (I am in Oregon for the summer) and I've slowly come to my senses in our time apart. There are structural changes that occur in your brain when you fall in love and I am certain these were why I was having those thoughts. Anyways, I am not concerned that I might fall in love with her again (I was the happiest I had ever been), but I am concerned about my marriage/kids thoughts. I do care about her still, but I can do a lot better and I need to focus on my future first. If she brought up marriage/kids at the time, I would have jumped at the opportunity and I would have lowered my chances of future prosperity. For those of you who've been in and out of love: did you want a family/marriage during the times you were deeply in love? If necessary, I will take preventative measures to keep myself from falling in love again.

I love love love my husband. I ve never cheated. I did, however, come with baggage. My first husband came out of the closet after nearly ten years. He didn t do so gracefully. My best guy friend then became my FWB. He wanted more and I refused. Months later, I caved. Then one day he wanted more. I refused. Months later I caved. Then we had a beautiful son. We ve fought and I don t trust due to my father and ex, and finding out on our wedding day that he had lied about his ex in the beginning. I forgave a lot. Welll I kicked him out during a rain storm after I found he had been messing around with the same girl he "only hit on once the two hours we were over" days after our son was born. Fast forward, I believe maybe he wasn t cheating and he really did just look her up on FB because I made a comment in a previous fight about her. After a week I begged him to come home. I didn t want to die like this. I wanted our vows and son to mean more. Well he said he was staying gone til he could trust I wouldn t kick him out again but we were working on him coming home. I discoverer he was dating and filed for divorce. He won t sign the papers, give me an address, or talk to me. He hasn t even asked about our son. What is his issue? ! He got what HE wanted. I got destroyed.

Recently, I was on maternity leave when I was going through my phones Google history and discovered that my husband has been lying to me about watching porn for the whole three and a half years we ve been together. He knew when we first got together that porn was a deal breaker for me. I got extremely upset, we almost broke up, and he swore he wouldn t look at it again. Well, yesterday i was going through his YouTube search history (not to be confused with viewing history) and saw that he had been looking up more pornographic videos as recently as a week ago. He swore up and down it wasn t him and I just cannot believe him. He has lied before, and he knows I will leave him over porn because I look at it as cheating especially because he lies about it. No one has access to his account but him. Is he lying, or could YouTube have mixed the dates up? All the other search history is accurate, but he says he looked that stuff up like six months ago. So why is it popping up now?

So I'm getting married in a couple of months and I was wondering if it would be weird if I envited my ex boyfriend. He was my first love and we were together for all of high school. Before leaving for college we ended it but have remained friends ever since. It's been 8 years since we split, but we still talk occasionally and last spring when my father got sick he came up and stayed for a couple of weeks. I know it might seem wierd but I do love him, but I am not in love with him. He has a wife and child, and I am very happy with my future husband. I asked my fiancé and he said its fine, I just don't want anything to be Akward though. Should I invite him?

so my husband was arrested for dealing meth, but i cant be mad at him just because he did not tell me, bcause i also went to jail a 17 ago for doing the exact same thing. i swor off it, infact we both did, or so i thought, and i felt really bad for dealing meth, i just have no idea how to deal with this feeling, like he betrayed my trust but i did that like 17 years ago when we first got married. should i be mad? he is not getting out for 8-10 years, we had 4 kids 12 years ago, they are heart broken...

I married my husband 2.5 years ago. I really loved him & thought he will be my best friend, partner and we share a life together. Soon I found out he is a drug addict. We went through a lot. I even got into drugs with him so we can be closer and maybe I can walk him out of it. Unfortunately not. Now every time I go to see my family in another state, my husband goes to Las vegas with him friend to do drugs and he hides his trip from me. It is the 2nd time he is doing this. He changed cell phone & lap top password too. The other day he told me that I can do whatever I want, he won't mind. After i found out about his plan to go to Vegas with his friends, I texted him and told him ok then you go cheat & I cheat, lets **** the marriage. When he came from work, he does not even seem bothered by my text message. Didn't say anythings. I feel like really is that what marriage is? Wouldn't my text bother him if he loved me a bit? Why hide his trip to vegas from me? Why change passwords. Honestly I feel like there is no love. Are there better marriage out there? Or is this all there is? What a world. Is it that I have just started to experience the real world? Maybe I was a kid and used to believe in love & marriage while there is none. Honestly I am so discouraged that I feel like even if I get out of marriage, there is nothing better out there. Is there?

My husband s family has a gathering every year. Well since we are going on year 4 of marriage I am once again subject to this gathering. His mom and I have a wonderful relationship, but his dad s family hardly speak to me. His sister is ok, but every now and then she let s me know exactly my place. She can rude and then nice and polite. But I am certain, she did not want her brother marrying me. I was married for 20 years and went through this whole in law BS with the ex. I could care less if I make friends this go round. When I visit with his family, I usually take my phone so I can be busy doing facebook or something. No one talks to me anyways.

My husband and I got married very quickly after meeting online and have been married for almost a year. I m quickly finding that we are a lot more different than I thought. Especially in the emotional/romantic/sexual ways. He s practically the opposite of me, really. I don t feel that we re not right for each other- I love him very much and would do anything for him. Unfortunately, he doesn t do very much to make me feel loved or even wanted. He s not an emotional person at all and he can t keep up with my sex drive, and when we do have sex, it s very unsatisfying and honestly...boring. It makes me feeI unwanted and unnattractive though I know I m not boring. I don t know what to do. Am I being selfish for wanting more? Is there anyone in a similar situation as I am? Please, any advice is welcomed.

When you get married is it bad/offensive to ask your wife to; wear something for you, strip down to her bra and panties, let you give her a wedgie or let you touch her boobs? Also if your a girl would you let your husband do these things or do these things for your husband

I'm 18 and my younger sister is 13. Her best friend's dad is over at our house a lot, since he is good friends with my parents. He's always been flirty with me since I first met him. He told me that I have beautiful teeth and eyes and recently, we've started having sex. He comes over when my parents and sister are away and we've only done it three times so far. I feel kind of guilty because his wife is so nice to me. But it just kind of happened and I really really like him. He wants to come over tomorrow and I am conflicted about what I should do. Should I let him? Or tell him no? I never thought I'd have to deal with this..

My dad hasn't worked for about 8 years he is an alcoholic he abuses me and my mom and my family is in debt

People at school always ask me either if my parents are divorced or if I'm an only child. Neither of those things are true, my parents have been married for 23 years and I have a little brother. Do people who seem "broken" put out a certain vibe? I'm normally pretty quiet and mind my own buisness at school and around people I don't know well. Also, I don't think many people know of me either so I'm not very popular. So, why do people assume something like that?

True or False?

I mean hideously, purple and lime drapes with tans and orange furniture? I did, lol, not a battle I have the will to fight.

Hot weather is coming, I begged him to buy an air-conditioner but he says they are too expensive. But he will buy other stuff no asking me or telling me, we are not poor! I know it runs up the electric bill, but when its 90+ degrees in the house it's so hot! I usually ask and if he says no do not nag, but I really want air-conditioning. What should I do?

me and my friends really like groping girls. We like to play a game where we see how many girls butts we can slap. Who else likes groping girls?

The family had taken a vacation to somewhere can't remember where so that the husband and wife could rebuild their relationship. Anyways, also along on the trip was their dog, daughter and her friend. While vacationing the husband ***** the daughter's friend who is around the age of 14 or 15. Later, aliens invade killing the dog and the husband.

I am a chinese american girl and I am an junior in high school and people are always irritating me. They think that I wear a cheongsam everyday and eat food you see in chinese restaurants in america. I wear normal clothing like jeans and t shirts and sneakers for everyday wear and I would only wear a cheongsam if I am attending a wedding or if it's chinese new year. Most of the food you see in chinese restaurants aren't really chinese food. Why do people stereotype us like this ?

I am 37 my husband is 38. We have been married for 18 years. About 7 months ago he was still wanting sex 2-3 times a day, daily. Then he slowed down to 5 times a week. Recently a woman has been texting me (about 2 months) she is very attracted to me and wanting sex from me. I am not attracted to women and wanted my husband to see the texts so he knew it was a woman not a man texting me. This of course got him extremely excited. Which I will not lie I was very turned on also. But not wanting to do anything with her, sexually. He actually talked me into doing something with her, I was going to do it for him. He wanted to watch. Then she wanted sex from him and me ( a three some) oh he went nuts. He was all for it. I really didn't want to, I told him this. But he was really excited to do it. I love him and would for him. Everything was going well and we even set up a date to do it. We'll then her husband wanted to join. He wanted to do me while my husband did his wife. We'll that turned my husband off. He got mad at me and accused me of being a whore and wanting this other man. We talked and decided that this is way too much for us as a couple and it would ruin our marriage. So for the last 4 days he just can't stay hard and sometimes will try for an hour just to ***. He says it's not me. That I feel great. I just don't know what to think or do, I really like sex. I haven't for a long time, but this texting thing got me all worked up. What do I do to make him want me?

How do people feel about interracial marriages ? Specifically white men & black women ? I tend to see more black men with white women. Ive talked to some people to get their opinions , and one of the responses that stuck out to me was that you wont really see a white man with a black women because money stays with money, and his family would probably look down on him for that. I mean there are black women that are educated and get money so I dont know about the first part , but the second part idk. Is that true ? How do yall feel about a white man & black woman together ? How do you feel about interaccial marriage period ? just curious . Thanks in advance for everyones answer : )

From a certain observation, the female people tends to seek men who are taken or married. They tend to think married men are more mature than single men. Why are the female people attracted to married men, and why do wives pursue single men?

This woman I used to see many years ago came back in my life a year ago. She wasn t chasing me, she was just concerned about how I was doing. Anyway I started flirting with her and told her I loved her so much and wanted to be in her life and she said she felt the same way. We re both separated. She left her husband because he beat her. I told her I would make her happy, but I ve really hurt her because I ve been giving her the silent treatment. She s been texting me recently telling me she loves me and misses me. She s been acting really sweet, but I ve just been ignoring her texts and calls because I was loving the attention. I just saw now that she deleted her social media account without even telling me. Her phone is also switched off. The last thing she said to me was she was sorry if she hurt me in any way and will always love me then she deleted her account. What do you think is going on? Was I wrong for the way I acted? Isn t she being too sensitive?

We're tired, we have 4 kids (they're all twins so we didn't have 4 pregnancies) we have a dog that sleeps on the bed, we never have date nights, alone time.... We're just really different schedules and once we see bed all we want to do is sleep before we have to start all over again the next day. Is this bad for a marriage?

Hi! My boyfriend plays poker. He is studying and playin all day, focusing only on poker and aint got time or interest for basicly anything else (except meditation and mathematics). He have been playing and studying for almost 4,5 years. He quit drinking, smoking, weed and dont hang out with friends to focus on the poker. The thing is that he have won some money from the poker, but not enough and he gets money for rent, food etc. from unenployment support. He have won 26.000 dollars over the last 3,5 years alltogether, normal income in our country for a random fulltime job is ca. 120.000 dollar for 3,5 years. He dont want a normal job, only wants to play. I told him that I wish he could find a job so we together got enough money for a nicer place to live, and maybe cound focus on us, like travel to places, go to the cinema, go out on dates, start thinking about famely etc. (cous we got no time or focus on it now, much coused by the poker and the "no intersest for anythings else"). He is really sad about me not supporting the poker cous its really a dream for him. He allso is sad cous he feels that I wanna change him. Poker is what he choses to do. Personally I dont really know if its healthy focusing so much on poker. I`m i really wrong not supporting the poker anylonger and should I kepp him? Should I support him?

I haven't had a relationship in 5 years. don't want to be married or have kids. I like being single and having total freedom. My family is upset that I'll never have babies or a husband, but I just want to do my own thing. I'm not depressed or anything. We almost get into fights about it because they just need to back off. What can I say?

I am going through seperation right now with my husband, he doesn't love me no more. He kicked me out of the house and has our son stay there and me staying with my mom. He lets me see our son often but not what l want. Our son is happier with me though. I miss him.

I'm happily married to a wonderful man for 12+ years now. We have a healthy relationship and a great sex life. I became acquainted with this older man at my local sports club. I've known him for about a year now and we always have a pleasant conversation. It seems I opened up a connection with him the past week. I sonetimes wait for him so that I could talk to him even just for few minutes. I also tend to be excited when I see him walk in. Will this little pass? He's a really nice person but I sure don't want to develop anything further with him. He also has a girlfriend. What do you think? Should I change my workout hours?

he finds any opportunity he can to call me a hypocrite and falsely remembers irrelevant details of our past or things I've said and uses it to try to call me out. We'll be having a great day, I say something (could be positive or negative) and he tries to use it so he can lecture me. I feel like I'm on trial with him and anything I say can and will be held against me. Everything always has to be perfect for him it seems and I'm never supposed to say anything that has even a 1% chance of conflicting with something I've said before. I don't get the point of trying to call me out. What does it achieve? Nothing. I'm just pissed off at him for the rest of the day.

For some time now, I have been unhappy in our marriage. I think its been years now since I've actually wanted to have sex with my husband. I feel like I am raising a child and I want my own space for a while to figure out what I want in life. He has no idea I feel this way. Has anyone else gone through anything like this? If so please do tell. Thank you

I am on day 29 of the Fireproof love dare, a religious journey between a person and God, with ultimate benefits to your life and relationships. My significant other was not interested in doing this when I had asked on Day 1 but today I am to show my unconditional love to him. I prayed about how to do this since we don't see each other and I thought I might buy him a copy and have it shipped to him. Is that selfish on my part? I figure he will at least open it if I send it but I want to be doing it for the right reasons. He seems to be deeply struggling lately and I feel that a stronger relationship with God would help him. He already believes in God and is actually the reason that I have become closer with God but I feel he has drifted from religion in the past year.

am 32 soon and my wife is 29. She is Chinese and we have been married for 4 years. We have no kids. We are renting and struggle financially. Her job will pay well. We have booked two apartments off the plan. We have a credit card debt and a car loan. I work 50 hours a week and study full time. She works even more hours for her real estate job. Now I will be receiving my certification to work as an assistant nurse soon. Which will free up lots more time and allow me to earn more than my current job. Here is the problem: we don't do anything together. We hardly talk and she has spent the last 4 years eith clients and colleagues much more than with me. We don't even share a meal. It is not uncommon for her to leave me sexually frustrated. We have sex about once every 6 to 8 weeks. We have never travelled either. Tonight I told her I am frustrated and have been dreaming sex dreams the past two nights. She ignored that and said she had no mood. To try in the morning. Rejection is tough. The intimacy is not there. The fun together doesn't exist. I think she is regularly emotionally connecting to her wealthy young Chinese colleagues. Because our relationship is so stale. It's boring and lacks energy like there is nothing there. I get slapped in the face with rejection of sex. She said after we pay off the loan. I got angry and she said I don't know how to take a joke and go away. Red flag to me suggesting some other guy is making her laugh and letting her feel comfortable around him. So she is emotionally empty to me. Which is not fair considering I haven't done anything to warrant that!! My suspicion might be wrong but I have had these vibes from her before. After our last major fight, I discovered messages to her cousin saying there was sex but no love... I asked her about this and she denied it and got angry about me seeing her phone. What can I do? It has dragged on like this for the last four years and I am fed up with the excuses. I'll just add that she was yelling at me the other morning and I slipped on the wet bathroom floor rushing around. I hurt my back badly and she called me useless and left me to get up and catch a taxi to work in agony :( I think I am a slave to being manipulated. I can't understand why she just brushed me off and said she didn't have the mood. I will give it a try in the morning but I expect to get her angry side because it will be waking her up... I will have to satisfy myself to get rid of the urges. That's what I do almost every day. Sometimes I use pictures etc. I have no other way to release otherwise. I am going to straight up put it out there...can I find a nice woman who will be more into sex and not reject me like that? I wish I could be like my colleagues and friends. Their partners/wives cook and are so aupportive. I cannot imagine they turn down their husbands for sex like that. I am envious because the guys have a good social life and friends and hobbies. They also spend quality time with their wife enjoying life like travelling. After 7 years I'm thinking about what is better for me. I want good sex and feeling satisfied and happy afterwards. I let her feel loved and appreciated every day. But when she gets home she remains attached to her phone and she works such long hours and when she is working doesn't want me to contact her. So that leaves the door open for her colleagues to take advantage bevause she isn't hearing me!!

My husband has been under a lot of stress at work lately (he's a cop), and he seems to be taking it out on me in the bedroom. He gets really rough with me and grabs me hard and thrusts really hard too. I don't really mind it I guess, but I kind of hurt the day after and I feel bad he's under a lot of stress. It's like he's a different person during and after sex. Because afterwards he holds me and asks if I'm ok and stuff. How can I relieve his stress and make him feel better? I feel terrible that he's so stressed out but I don't what to do other than let him have his way with me in the bedroom. How can I get him to relax?

Do you confess to your lover s spouse? Do you deny? Do you tell your spouse?

How do you deal with the day to day?

because I was £5 short a week of supporting him, I have been visiting him but now because of health reasons it is a little harder, we have proven to immigration courts that our relationship is genuine, is there anywhere I can get good advice and help with this, we are so desperate to be together, we talk everyday over Skype

Hi, my child's father is so verbally abusive towards me , we have a 10 month old son together and it's really getting me down. We split up while I was pregnant it ended really badly but this hasn't stopped he calls me a stupid girl , dirty , slut , **** and a ******* retard all in front of our son . He always apologises the next day saying he's sorry . I've told him to stop which he has promised but I don't know what to do about the situation. It's making me really upset . I thought it will get better now he's in a new relationship but they have got worse as he keeps saying she's prettier than me , I've got fat and he can't wait to get her pregnant so she can be a new mum and that I'm a dirty slut. Advice please :(