My fiance and I are both going to be 21 at our wedding. Al though we would like one, we don't have enough money for an open bar. Open bars are just EXTREMELY expensive. We want to do something like "open soda" where the guests have complimentary soda, juice, and water but pay for their own alcohol. (Another point to add is that neither I or my fiance drink). I'm just worried that people are going to think we're rude, when in reality we just cannot afford the open bar. We plan to let the guests know on the invitation that there will be complimentary soda but a cash bar available (so they have a heads up to bring money)

My fiancé is a great man and I love him and he treats me greatly. My wedding is in two months. Now the problem comes to the people invited. On my engagement day, my fiancé's niece which is 4 year years old was sitting on my lab for almost the whole party. I felt like I did not have my moment, she kept talking to me, asking me to get up and feed her, she made it hard to take photos cause she is almost in them all. And her mother which is my fiancé's sister did not bother to take her away on that time knowing that everyone was taking pictures of us until the end almost. My dad did his best to make my wedding party the best. I confronted my fiancé, and he knew that I did not want that kid to come cause I'm scared she might ruin the night. I told him the my own niece is coming but I do have power over my niece to control where she sits and I don't have power over other people's kids. I don't know if what I did was right or wrong. But I'm afraid for my night to be all kids! he said he will talk to his sister but I know his sister won't make much effort. And I don't want my wedding night to have a kid on my lab the whole time. I can't guarantee what happens and it makes me so nervous. I couldn't control but show him that I did not want her to come. But I'm only scared! I'm not good with kids either it will make me look bad as a bride. When the conversation took long he then said, I want her to come and I will tell my sister to take care of it, I told him I'm not sure I trust her. He then said, you know what, I will just tell them not to bring her. I did not say a word afterwards, and I don't know should I tell him honey just bring her if you want to, or should I just shut up and not let him bring her? and would her hold it against me in his heart since I brought my own niece? What do you think I should do?

If this is a rule or something then In my own wedding when the priest begins say that, I'll cut him off and be like "No, that's too mainstream, say You may kiss the groom instead" Anyone with me!?! But seriously, Who wrote the wedding idea anyway?

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My dad and uncle are walking me down the aisle. My mom is single, but her brother will walk her down. What about my stepmother? Does she walk down the aisle? If so, who should walk her? She has been my stepmom since i was 10.

My dad passed away when I was young and I don't have any grandfather to walk me. I have two brothers and I would love to have them both walk me because I can't pick between them. I am very close to both of them.... Would it be ok if both walked me down? one of each side or is that too much??

I have a limited budget and my fiance and I both have relatives with large numbers of children. Many of our closer relatives and immediate family will have to travel from out-of-state. Most of them won t be able to attend if they have to leave their kids at home, so is it improper to ask all guests to only bring their kids if they are traveling from out-of-state to the wedding?

can not wear white . I am a widow and purple is my favorite color

I recently got engaged and my family and I are planning the engagement party. What is a reasonable budget for the engagement party? The list has 80 people on it.

I'm 43 years old, and I'm getting married for the 2nd time in my life, to the love of my life. I didn't have a bachelorette party the first time around, but my adult daughters want to throw me one for my 2nd wedding. I'm not into partying, drinking, going to bars, let alone look at a bunch disgusting strippers. I would like to have a slumber party with all of the important women in my life. I thought about buying a whole bunch of junk food, soda, ice cream, chips, and watch really sappy chick flicks. Maybe doing some manicures and pedicures, since one of my girls is a very talented cosmetologist. What do you think?

I am newly engaged. Both my fiance and I are Pagan. Neither one of our families are . We need to come out of the proverbial Pagan closet before our Handfasting b/c we are having a non traditional non christian ceremony. any suggestions? What would be the best way?

I, along with some friends were asked in fall 2015 to be in a wedding that isn t happening until summer 2017. She has yet to solidify a date or venue. All we know is that the nuptials will happen in her home state, which none of us including the bride, lives in so its like a "mini destination wedding". We WERE planning a bachelorette party for her but the MOH threw us under the bus & told the bride that the rest of the bridesmaids couldn t afford a destination bachelorette party overseas like the MOH had suggested. We told the MOH that a cruise in the Carribbean may be more affordable since we pay for the bride. When the bride found out she pulled the plug on the cruise and informed us that her party will be in Europe like she wants it. I felt completely blindsided by both the bride and MOH because the party is both a surprise and a gift! She has already chosen people to replace the bridesmaids who can t afford to go to Europe and when we asked the MOH about why the bride even knew about ANY details about party she explained that she wasn t even go to tell us ( the bridesmaids) because we said it was too much money. She left it for the bride to inform us the plans had changed! Questions: 1. Is it selfish of the bride to basically reject our plans for her surprise party/gift (especially since we d be footing the bill)? 2. Was the MOH out of line for "snitching" on us to the bride in regards to not wanting to spend OVER a thousand dollars on an European bachelorette party? I agree that we shouldn't be planning a thing until the bride solidifies a date for her own wedding but we've been asking and she still doesn't have any solid dates. Plus, we informed the MOH it was too early to start planning the party since we don't have a date and its so far away but she wants us to plan since it's expensive but spending over 1k for a party is insane and she won't listen to us!

I want to propose to my girlfriend of 6 years where we had our first date. I asked to hold her hand after dinner. My idea was to do an exact repeat of that night and ask to hold her hand again I have the ring in a small pouch that says marry me on it that she will feel when she grabs my hand. So here comes the issue. She was previously married and the ex asked her in a restaurant also. Her family nor her friends thinks this is a good idea... I need some unbiased opinions. Thank you!